Anxiety Help - Dealing With Anticipatory Anxiety

[@lulialarsonds9525]

This seriously helped me, this is the first time I feel like someone else gets it, I haven’t heard or seen anyone or anything that goes into detail about not only what it is, but breaking it down and giving tips thank you so much for the video and I hope more people find this video.

[@TheAgromc]

I try so hard to defocus myself from thinking about the coming event, but it's just so hard because the fear that I'm gonna have another episode right there at the event kills me.

[@bookydani]

Great video thanks. Just wanted to add that a lot of anticipatory anxiety has to do with fearing things that might not actually happen like a created scenario in ones head, ie fearing your partner will leave you for some reason.

[@joshuagarrison2813]

I'm afraid of losing friends and relationships I don't think I can live without.

[@SrFlipsAlot]

I struggle the most with frustration and even outright anger at myself for feeling anxious about certain things. They are so trivial-like today I had a team lunch at work with people i don’t normally see, and the anticipation of it was just insane. When it actually happened, though, it wasn’t that bad. I find myself being embarrassed that I get so worked up about such seemingly tiny things.

[@tylerclark2383]

I feel the same as you. But instead of feeling embarrassed that you got so worked up, just try to laugh about it. Tell yourself "What a silly thing to get worked up about." And have a laugh. Also use it for future reference. When you feel anticipatory anxiety coming on go "Remember that lunch that I was so anxious about that turned out to not be so bad? This situation is going to turn out just like that and I'll be fine." It's a gradual process to get better and we all have bad days. Just use your good ones as reminders that you can make it through the bad ones.

[@mids187]

This is how I feel about a lot of things

[@randomgirlxoxoxo]

I get this with anything I have planned in the future. E.g, if my mum asks me to help her do something in the morning or to go with her somewhere, I can’t stop thinking about it until it happens… not necessarily anxious or scared of it, just feel like I can’t relax until I get it out the way with. So strange :/

[@mhassan204]

I am afraid of not sleeping at night. I think about sleep all the time 😞

[@rojobell1]

My phone just rang and it was a friend asking if I could give an elderly woman a ride to her appointment this coming Sunday ( it’s only Monday) but I immediately felt super anxious.. I realized that it’s the fear of feeling fear anxiety and worrying in advance about feeling like shit that day ugh 🤦‍♀️

[@TheAnxiousTruth]

That’s anticipatory anxiety for you. You don’t have to live that drive until its time to live that drive.

[@elainebautista599]

Hi..im listening to ur podcast.and it really helps me a lot..every episodes keeps me going..from not going to public place for almost 3 yrs..to actually trying and practicing it.

[@johnterry6541]

what he means is try to practice presence. Stay in the moment and pay attention to what you do in the here and now instead of losing yourself inside your head.

[@kathleenhawkes7543]

Thank you, Drew! 🙏♥️

[@TheAnxiousTruth]

You are so welcome :-)

[@georgemartinez1720]

This help I got a denist appointment tomorrow which new about 2 months before but I learn it only a cleaning and not what thought it would be I been to the same dentist a few times I getting use to it Doenot make it funner But now I have A plan for that Day

[@browngirl5905]

Great advice. Basically live in the moment not the future .👌🏽

[@TheDarkMEXiCaN2020]

Thanks for the tips! Really is a problem when the doctors try to get a good read when they test my blood pressure every doctor visits.

[@teresahelman1252]

My fear is of rejection , of being hurt if attacked , I'm fifty nine and was the family skape goat all of my life , put up boundaries for them to no longer treat me inhumanely and was ostricised from the entire family for doing so , so now I'm alone and fear going around people to the point of being afraid of even going for a walk , afraid of going fishing which I loved to do because my imagination imediately conjures up some stranger attacking me because as a woman I don't feel safe going by my self now, on and on , it is crippling , like my brain is firing out bad outcomes so I'll stay home and be safe except I'm no longer living , simply surviving. I agree that the only way to get beyond this is to face my fears , but they feel like I'm going into a den of hungry lions. And I have one hell of an imagination so the bad outcome senerioes are being rapidly produced by my thoughts. Small steps at working on this because this isn't living any more and I'm so fed up with the fear.

[@AndyWarholsWig]

Anyone else struggle with anticipatory anxiety of things we "should" look forward to? Every time I plan a vacation, I start dreading it. This can happen months in advance and only amps up the closer I get to the actual trip. This tip of breaking things down into small steps is very helpful for "day before" anxiety. Definitely going to try this! I've also found that writing down all my fears of what could go wrong on a sheet of paper and then burning it helps. It's kind of a "froo froo" thing to do - even I had doubt about doing it - but it helps me because I have a concrete event to go back to. I've had those fears, I acknowledged them, and then I released them so I (theoretically) don't have to revisit them and dwell on them.

[@TheAnxiousTruth]

Breaking things down into small bits is useful all the time really. Don't think of it as a day before tool. Think of it is an ongoing practice and use it when you can. When you're dreading a trip three months out, break down what you're doing right now, slow down, and return to today. Oh, and there's nothing crazy about "brain dumping" if that helps you return to the present and refocus. If its helping, then go for it! :-)

[@elainepeltier2015]

Yes so true.

[@bumbumbumbum1000]

That place looks lovely.

[@TheAnxiousTruth]

I can't take credit for planting that garden, but thank you. :-)

[@fredworthmn]

To me (my body) every action is an opportunity for someone to attack me. I go into a panic attack if I want to watch a TV show / movie. My reaction to fear is the FREEZE response followed by the submission outcome meaning that I feel totally helpless and have great difficulty doing the simplest of tasks until the event is there. Any event which takes me out of my safety zone causes this shut down. Most of these events are pleasurable and I want to do them. But I feel so drugged prior to the event that it is like walking in a pool of water trying to win a foot race. I think this feeling is dissociative? I have had this all my life. My parents were extremely emotionally abusive and took every opportunity to release their rage on me. Didn't matter what I did, they just needed to release their rage on me instead of each other. To watch a TV show was to let my guard down and sure enough, they did their rage thing! I am not afraid of the event itself. I want to study, to learn, to do, to relax, but the terror gets in the way of everything I try to do! Too hard to fight through it.

[@janellegonzales8433]

Your the best.

[@seoul_mate]

I suffer from GAD, panic disorder and anticipatory anxiety. Basically I fear everything days or weeks in advance. I have just been requested to be an interpreter at a small meeting in a few days time. I am already dreading it. I am afraid of having a massive panic attack and fainting at the event. I wanted to turn down this request but ended up accepting it because I need to push myself and stop letting anxiety rule my life. 😪😪😪

[@TheAnxiousTruth]

Being afraid to panic is part of the disorder for sure. I think the fact that you were asked to act as translator speaks to the fact that others see you as you really are - capable and competent! Keep your expectations in line, know that if you do feel things you can move through them, and remember that thinking and feeling unsafe does not always equal being unsafe. Keep us posted!

[@StelmachsWorld]

Thanks for this man, for me its literally any job i get.

[@WhisperRunner]

thank you so much! your videos have brought me so much peace with these tools i can use

[@jimcox5151]

Do you do one on one sessions

[@PremiumFuelOnly]

For me I think Its being afraid of being in a social situation that you cant control, because you arent sure how your body will react. I hate that feeling.

[@TheAnxiousTruth]

But the point is that you don't have to be afraid of how your body reacts. You learn that be experiencing the reaction without going into meltdown mode over it because it's just discomfort and fear, not an actual threat.

[@daphnehopwood1672]

I have very bad health anxiety and have just been told I need a ct scan, there will be a waiting list here in UK. How can I not be afraid, I know it’s discomfort and my thoughts are causing the problem but how can I cope for maybe more than a month. I practice mindfulness daily etc., I don’t get any help from any one here. Help for Mental health sufferers in the UK is diabolical. Thank you.

[@PremiumFuelOnly]

@@daphnehopwood1672 I had to wait for a month for a CT scan, for me googling symptoms made matters worse, so try to stay away from that.

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[@nonstar8182]

I'd like to fly again.. but there is no *gradual* exposure option to that. In the end you have to get on the plane, let them shut the doors and do an entire flight. Not just taxi.. not just take off and turn and land again. European airlines have programs for fearful flyers but American airlines could care less. They just want money.

[@TheAnxiousTruth]

Podcast episode 221 that just came out this week talks about this topic. You may find it helpful.

[@Davide608]

3:30 mah mate I'm skeptic about it, because I push myself through my fears and I've discovered that in my moments of biggest fear I'm still more brave than the average "normal" person, but still, in the long run it erodes me from the inside, because A) society doesn't provide enough costructive experiences for positive feedbacks to then build on B) I control it better when I'm alone, but in some cases I just can't and I don't wanna push away from me those experiences. So there's has to be a way to heal from this.

[@brandeecastilleja1753]

Mine is fear of the ride there to the event fear for wellbeing an my family's well being fear something bad will happen to them or me I know its absurb .

[@mids187]

Great video thank you

[@karagregg]

Great video! Wondering if watching bridge driving videos will create an exposure event for me? I live in Michigan and we have a 5 mile suspension bridge that I had a panic driving over once and of course now I fear bridges. Doing this though is living ahead of the day.

[@pattyboucetta1897]

Stay present. Breathe. Don’t live in the future. Joe Dispenza says look to the unknown with excitement.

[@JOMAJAFILMS]

This is GOOD!!!

[@Welsh35]

I never avoid things, i do every thing, yet my anxiety and panick are still there every time.

[@TheAnxiousTruth]

Check out episode 192 of the podcast. The common misconception is that just doing things is enough, and many wind up doing things while also trying to do them without feeling anxiety and panic, which almost always guarantees that you will feel anxiety and panic. That episode might help. Also episodes 13 and 77 might be useful.

[@cooper5324]

what if the fear is the fear of being late? The clock is the problem not the event.

[@jenniferkelly4873]

Making up your Life with Tiny links In a Chain Rather Than 1huge Loop

[@FromPanictoParis]

🙏🙌💪🏽