【Apple】My mama's boy fiancé still lets his mom manage his finances for him!! I've had enough!!

[@billycoley586]

As soon as he told her his mom was in charge of his finances; she should have dipped.

[@yettabelfon]

Dipped, run like the wind, have a nice day, I am out.

[@aprilmiller4413]

Wow, Chad is afraid she will quit her job to be a stay at home wife and mother. HIS mother WANTS her to quit her job and have kids immediately. I don't think those two have talked to each other about their ideas, AT ALL! LOL And this girl needs to run away from BOTH of them! smh

[@lorettataylor521]

Girl! Run, Run, Run! away from that Mama's boy!!

[@linexp274]

Huge red flags 🚩 Kathy is using her son’s money! The only reason she wants to manage his money forever! 🙄chad is such a loser mamas boy! Run 🏃🏻‍♀️40 years old and can’t handle his finances?? Him and his whole big 20k?? That’s nothing!! Peanuts 🥜 🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️

[@Gazing-09]

The flags are getting more and more numerous and red by the minute.

[@hopetirendi2386]

I think so too. In ten years that's the best she could do for him?? Bet she's been spending it all these years since he's too much of a tart to know better!

[@jameygroves8561]

So, mom was only putting away $166.67 a month for 10 years? No, mom's been stealing from him for a decade. Unless he's really a spending fiend, he should have a lot more put away.

[@Tracie.....]

Agreed. I've been unable to work for 6 years because I was hit by a car and left needing crutches to walk. Before that I had minimum wage jobs . I have several thousands of savings. I am also in uni finally after in my 30s I was diagnosed with severe dyslexia. So I am back in school at 45. If I can eke out benefits of a few hundred pounds a month and save he should have much much more saved.

[@Gazing-09]

Kathy must have been awarded the golden medal of projecting.

[@jameygroves8561]

More like platinum.

[@Gah2Kylie]

Mom is dipping into son's savings. Mark my words!😮

[@karenbrown1485]

I don't doubt that for a second!!

[@DoomPotato]

OP could do a simple test :-) Propose a prenup.

[@jameygroves8561]

Or just make certain that neither Chad nor his mother ever gained access to what you've already saved nor your future earnings.

[@ire1398]

Prenups where the men promised to do housework under penalty of financial punishment should be standard

[@jasonprivately1764]

Dump the mamas boi and toxic mommy

[@twiceshy9773]

Why is he even getting married if he's not even mature enough to move out of home, pay his own bills??! He's not grown up enough at all....lol girl dodged a YUUUUGE bullet😂🙄🙄

[@ediamondsounds]

listening- first I wouldn’t marry him. Second, if marrying, keep their accounts separate. i wouldn’t trust him with my accounts he’d spend it forget that!! he just spend how he overspends don’t trust someone like this

[@ask-128]

36 years old and mama still controls his finances...how is he going to ever be good with his money? O.P. should be very afraid and think twice, is he the right one?

[@Zatnicatel]

I'm sure I remember this story... am I wrong in thinking it's a repeat?

[@foodieyumiko5593]

Pretty sure I mean you're right. I read the comment wrong😅

[@instigatedeye5941]

Yep, it's a repeat

[@annettekohler1491]

Yap. Slightly modified

[@karenbrown1485]

I've not seen it before.

[@christopherburch1762]

I didn’t get married till I was 36

[@defender4004]

A married couple’s finances are intertwined and that means my MIL managing my husband’s money is my MIL managing MY money as well. I wouldn’t ever agree to that. I’m not even halfway through the story but I suspect Kathy to use her son‘s money for herself. And she doesn’t want to lose this source of income.

[@BecauseWhyNot660]

Respect your elders for being stupid? 😅 I don't respect anyone for being stupid, especially the elderly who should know better!

[@jameygroves8561]

I hate that "respect your elders" as a panacea. Respect is earned and easily lost due to actions.

[@Kryten428]

I was hoping that as a going away present she would have given Chad a forensic audit on Kathy's accounting of his money. Might have been interesting.

[@karenbrown1485]

Now *that* is an excellent idea!

[@brendaseidel9617]

Just noticed the Flying Saucer in the background...very cute

[@dlewis9760]

It's one thing to run ideas about your finances by your parents when you are an adult. Especially if they are good with money. It's another being given an allowance your own money.

[@chriskratzmeyer1207]

So many red flags I don't know where to start

[@thomascripe9905]

AI can forgive someone not wanting to manage his finances by himself, but to not want a hand in it at all is just lazy

[@ire1398]

Nobody owes their parents grandchildren

[@ediamondsounds]

the mom doesn’t know her total savings and if she knew this should not be an issue now but she hasn’t said it. the mom thinks her son has much more than her and he doesn’t have more so rude wow

[@hopetirendi2386]

Whos dumb enough to give all their financial records to someone??? Then tell them to verify it at the bank. Could this lady get any dumber? The only good thing she did was dump him.

[@fabricdragon]

wow, that psychic was SPOT ON "the woman in the relationship"- he was always in a weird relationship with his MOM, and she sure is a greedy materialistic so and so

[@karenbrown1485]

Good point!

[@jameygroves8561]

Yeah, he hit the nail on the head, he just didn't see that it was an Oedipal relationship.

[@yettabelfon]

He don't know how to make his own decisions

[@amberleeannalee1999]

This MIL is the queen of projecting ffs she’s stealing her sons money

[@ediamondsounds]

pessimistic thought: just do a pre-nup. or not marry this stress she has isn’t worth it. she isn’t trapped she can walk away if they didn’t sign anything walk away

[@TheHellsHobbit]

Run and fast.

[@ediamondsounds]

she could manage his, but hers separate worst case

[@giuseppinahilsinger6477]

Please tell me why she didn't run from jump the second she found out about his mom handling his money

[@whistlerwind7422]

I've seen bricks less dense than Chad.

[@Pixie_dust_projects]

Bailey, run like the wind! Go find a man!!!

[@nicolewolfcry7408]

just gonna be honest... i have 0 confidence in this Main character either. Willing to be with a man and not realizing hes that weak willed is.... sad. She needs to have a good set of friends with good eyes for peoples character to help her pick a match in the future. He was trash, but she needs to employ a trash detector.

[@qassandraable]

Lol, I sure can tell this isn't the US. Here we do not save.

[@ArthurRex131]

Speak for yourself.

[@qassandraable]

@@ArthurRex131 That's terse. Anyway, congrats on your implied savings. As a saver, what do you reckon, do most Americans think about saving?

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Imagine being so greedy that you demand DIL show her your money. Moms spending his money like water I bet if they investigated her you’d see how much she is spending

[@denisvolin7489]

I'm with Chad on that one: she sounds fishy. And Kathy is right too. This girl is hiding something. What actually stopped Bailey from showing bank app? This is just ridiculous on her end. And that gaslighting after was totally unnecessary. And I'm not buying the whole secret millionaire at 30 story. And commercial buildings are usually owned by entities and there's a reason of liability limit for that. Another thing is that her decision to postpone the registration after the ceremony and she quitted the engagement as soon as she learned there's no direct money access. She is a gold digger and all points to her scheming. And when Kathy came to her for a sincere apology, she brushed her off instantly. So much for love and marriage readiness. So, this is actually a story of a cheap gardening instrument and a guy avoiding a bullet.

[@Ronald-k6s]

She showed Chad how much savings she had and she wasn't the one who wanted to control his money, he is the one that wanted his future wife to handle his money. She is the one who dodged the bullet by not marrying the mamas boy.

[@denisvolin7489]

@@Ronald-k6s, well, Chad is a bit immature, it's OK for his age, most men got their brains only at 40, but he actually has some developed insights, the overall story tells me everything I need to know about the girl. She was a con artist.

[@rollothecat2010]

I think they both avoided a bullet. They were a mismatch all along.

[@gdangeldth]

What an interesting perspective! Hm.

[@jameygroves8561]

Did you actually listen to the story?

[@amberleeannalee1999]

“Learned helplessness “ is abuse and infantilization