Why are Young Men So Lost?

[@mufmager]

I encouraged an old friend to quit watching the sites and try to challenge himself to stay away from them for 3 days or even a week... And he literally stopped texting me. In your journey of self improvement, you may end up alone, but that's part of it.

[@ocskopf]

im sorry but that person was no friend. Whenever my boys challenge me something interesting or a bit crazy im like Oh yeah? and do it because fuck, we live once

[@ChevyCorvetteZ]

DAMN, he’s way too far gone.

[@JW-wc6ol]

#1 stop identifying with thoughts 04:34 (mindfulness meditation) #2 widen your lense 05:47 (student mindset) #3 don't copy - take inspiration 06:41 (constantly challenge your own believes) #4 find a purpose, find the goal 07:16 (imagine your life if you don't find your calling) #5 implement your desires 09:12 (use your urges for motivation)

[@JuliusRandleFitnessOfficial]

4:31 Caught him in 4k

[@JesusChristlovesyouverymuch]

Brother, God loves you so very much that He sent His Son Jesus Christ, who bled and died on a cross for you, so that you may have a chance to believe in Him, and have by believing in His name you may have eternal life, full of His peace. Without Jesus as your Lord and master, you will always feel an empty void inside of you. And what's more, He has risen back to life so that you may be justified. Jesus loves you, God cares for you! Therefore repent from your ways, and believe the good news.

[@Perez12_]

Just lost my father and Kenny you have been such an inspiration from helping me to be more productive to showing me how to be a better man so thank you❤💪🏻

[@kenny.bender]

I'm so sorry for your loss brother. I'm proud of you for the improvements you're making. ❤️

[@porknoodle7886]

Sorry for your loss. I hope you're doing okay bro 🙏 ❤️

[@Perez12_]

@@porknoodle7886 Slowly finding myself but im doing much better❤️

[@MyNamis-NWA]

So sorry for your loss man hope your doing great

[@Dharmannfunnymoments]

Sorry for your Lose man 🙁, hope your doing good🙌

[@GianniMenassa]

I fully agree with this Kenny. Love the real deep videos like this from you. The idea of being an empty shell chasing the next dope session is just so common these days and its not getting any better...

[@thegoat1261]

Society is gynocentric. Everything is made to be about women at mens expense.

[@Fortnite87463]

Facts don’t support that

[@Weezyfan0306]

@@Fortnite87463😂😂 you sure about that buddy

[@JT_16]

Bros got fortnite in his name he don't know shi...@@Fortnite87463 open ur eyes a little most of society is like this. took me awhile to realize tho.

[@williamroberts6485]

Hey I'm 14 and your videos have helped a lot to realize what I'm doing wrong. I'm on day 1 of living a more structured life with a better routine and I've stopped watching obscene things. Your videos help a lot

[@SoundsLegit71]

Ha ha the proflie pic already 😂 when i was 14 my friends couldnt care less who the prez was.

[@villain6634]

​@@SoundsLegit71as a 13 year old in a mostly conservative area EVERYONE does

[@devilsoffspring5519]

@@SoundsLegit71 I'm 47 and have a rough time remembering who the Prez (or Prime Minister up here) are. I guess they're supposed to be fucking important. Hell, they make more money that I do so let THEM worry about that shit :)

[@Running_from_the_Dog]

Glad i found your channel. been struggling with this addiction for 10+ years now. was going through the days just existing, but you helped me remember to be me. Staying strong, so you should too 💪

[@Adultswim-A-Plus]

"Negotiating With The Shadow" Really got to me

[@CHEMICAL-t7o]

Thank you so much Kenny I really needed your videos being a hormonal teen I needed this thank you so much. :)😄

[@YourGenericBrownGuy]

yo i found you channel when you had about 11k subs and dam your videos have gotten so much better since then, your editing seems like its been done by a professional editor

[@BEEGTHEBEEG]

"Implement your shadow" Oh, you implement, that's nice bud, I co-operate. When my shadow gets too rowdy, I keep it quiet. When I get too stressed, my shadow keeps me calm. It is important too become friends... with yourself.

[@jamiecarr8570]

Kenny, I've commented before on James' videos and your own videos back when you were more focussed on just lifting but I just wanted to say I've suddenly found your videos recently and I wanted to say thanks because you've really helped me with meditation and consistency.

[@ThatOneTape]

Keep going with your videos Kenny you are the inspiration we need

[@voluminoeseProstituierte]

bro... I literally live in my mind

[@ocskopf]

Hamza was the very first man i found who opened my eyes. I mean it was kinda open, but listening to him made me realise that Im not the crazy one, rather the only sane person. Then i started climbing the mountain to the best of myself, and i have an extremely long journey ahead, so i better get ready.

[@gudrh4024]

I'd say hamza is better than this KZbin. Definitely not because of the robe XD

[@Fortnite87463]

Look idk about hamza he seems pretty fake and in-genuine

[@Bl4ze-YT]

The first person that opened my eyes was T8 then FFW then Hamza and now Kenny I'm trying to be better

[@Bl4ze-YT]

​@Fortnite87463 yet your name I fortnite You shouldn't know about all of this stuff especially porn kid Not saying that I didn't know about it at a young age

[@jordanrorke9460]

Channel growth has been insane lately bro keep killing it! 🤝

[@emeraldzhu]

when i watch kenny's videos, i see myself in him i'm leaving this comment here coz i've realized some of my bad habits - like the ones mentioned here, PMO, short-term gratifications - are taking a toll on my life, even my relationships. i've become really insecure and it's affecting my relationship with my girl (we're having a lot of arguments or issues and looking inwards, they're stemming from my insecurities) and even friends too, also family. i've tried these self-improvement things but it's been on and off - things like cold showers, no fap, working out, tried meditation - sometimes i feel them working but i really lack the consistency

[@inutofu]

Man, what a journey it's been up to now. I kinda want to post my development here to show how all this affected me, so here I go: I don't really wanna get into detail of who I was before, so I start with the beginning of my journey to my better self. NoFap: At first, I started to do NoFap. I lasted 4 days... Don't get me wrong, it's the longest I lasted in years, and yet there was this feeling of despair. "Maybe I simply can't do it" I said to myself. "Maybe thats just not who I am" I said. I couldn't have been more wrong. Before I started reading Psycho Cybernetics, I limited myself to fap only twice a week. After I read the first 2 chapters, I was now able to last a week and I don't plan on picking it up ever again. I don't have this desire anymore. I can't really explain how, but it just worked. It changed something within me. Meditating: I pretty much instantly adapted medtitating to my daily schedule and at first it was tricky to completely focus, relax and not let my thoughts run wild. But over time I got better and better. Now I am able to completely relax, focus needs a little bit more training, but it feels great. It helped me a lot staying more calm and gain control over my emotions. But I still have much to learn. Working out: I started picking up my own workout again, after I failed multiple times in the past to keep it consistent. After a while I noticed that I was not really getting any results out of it. So I started doing a workout from a professional fitness guy on KZbin. In the first 2 weeks that Workout showed more results than my own did. I now work out every second day and so far, I like the results. Cold showers: As with meditating, I instantly adapted that. Every time I shower, I do it cold. Before that I always showered warm, I looooved it. So it was crazy to see how fast I adapted to cold showers. And every time I get out of one, put on my fresh clothes and sit down in my chair, I feel sooo amazing. It feels so good and refreshing and as a results makes me more happy. Going for walks: I still think it's crazy how fast I was able to make changes. Personally I thought it would be harder for me. With going for walks I really got a new perspective of my surroundings. I live in a city, so it's kinda hard for me to go on different walks every time. I started doing 2 hour walks, which I got tired of because I only had 2 routes I could go. So I changed that to a half an hour walk through the near nature reserve. It's not much but it still helps me stay fit. And thats my journey so far. I am currently reading Psycho Cybernetics and I already fully read The Dopamin Nation. Both have helped me a lot in terms of becoming my best self so far. I feel so much happier and I feel like my current self is the best it's ever been. But still, all of this wouldn't have happened if it wasn't for you Kenny! Finding your channel was the foundation for all of this. And I couldn't be more grateful❤ Keep up the good work, looking foreward to the next video!✌

[@myroncaptures]

Yo bro just wanted to say amazing work dude, you're killing it. Keep smashing it brah

[@as9499]

I resonated most with his explanation of 'shadow self'. So whenever I thought of getting better and doing the right thing, my first thought would be to close the damn app and start and doing the difficult stuff. Now, whenever I tried this, I was conflicted and froze because there was a part of me who was sad to let go of all the comfort that I was experiencing till then. But when I gave it a deep thought and questioned why things were like that and how could I remedy it, I came to an answer quite simple - ACKNOWLEDGEMENT. All of a sudden, all the resistance towards doing the hard stuff loosened a little bit and the fog cleared up just enough for me to look at my next course of action. Yes, it was temporary but just what I needed!

[@matthewnodar7298]

Excellent video. You hit the nail on the head with every point. One bit of critique I would give is to not show images or clips (even soft core) of sexual content when discussing it, since many who struggle with this addiction (including myself) can be triggered pretty easily even by the most soft core content. Other than that, I really like your advice and outlook on life!

[@josiahstewart539]

Bro I was mowing the lawn listening to old Kennysfit videos, and halfway through I was blessed with this video🗿

[@Knusperknechtinthehouse]

The ego is a great servant, just a 💩teacher. How nicely said

[@sidharthshankar5198]

8 : 55 I read about this exact thing in Atomic Habits by James Clear too

[@hackelsepphexagon4697]

i was in a clinic par years ago because of abuse, bullying and self deletion, my head had a fight with itself and the strange thing was that a part of my head forced me to meditate to fight the self deletion part, since then i hear my self thoughts only the positive and that rarely, the negative not anymore! my head is fully in autopilot when i am depressed or when i am a danger to myself. I hope that these bad experiences have not created a second personality that is trying to protect me.

[@Amir-fp6vk]

Bro please don't put a girl in ur thumbnail plz , seeing that girl in the thumbnail will get me lost again (btw keep those videos up)

[@TheGreatWasian_]

Facts

[@DjNaphthalin]

10 Tabs. This man has traveled far!

[@FatherSean]

Breaking free from identifying your thoughts is a very accurate way to put it. Shrooms actually helped me do this. I realized that one small failure or negative thought had no control over me, and I could just move on or try again without believing that the negative thought controlling me.

[@sifobkr]

watched 2 videos and i realized how fucked up i was and im trying to improve myself and my mindset

[@Fil_the_spil]

You're a very clear speaker and get ideas across easily

[@TheTaoistWay]

Thank you! Your videos poped up in the perfect time! Much love and keep it up!

[@AlexGorskov]

You are a wise man! Great video! I thank you.

[@godrikstanton9918]

Congratulations 🥳

[@crioaxion164]

This was an amazing video. I feel like i deep down knew these steps before even watching the video but the way you put them into words finally made me aknowledge and understand them. Thank you. You're an inspiration. Keep up the great work.

[@WilliamVoker]

1. Stop identifying with thoughts 2. Widen your lens 3. Don't copy, take intelligent inspiration 4. Find a purpose, find the goal 5. Implement your shadow

[@ezxdray-jq3mh]

Wtf does that mean😂

[@JonFox1945]

Gotta stay on top of it

[@mr.crimson5612]

Would it be possible maybe releasing a book list? Great video btw

[@kenny.bender]

For sure!

[@user-ik4kh9lt6d]

It's not just young men. Men in their mid 30's-mid 40's are lost too. This culture has been around for quite some time now.

[@PPSlider]

Yo Kenny I know your original subgoal for this year was 115,000. Fuck that bro. Go for 200,000! You got this dawg

[@bradylyde]

awesome video Kenny!

[@Aqqoz]

You really got my attention when you called out call of duty trickshotters

[@youshaalam-f7m]

thanks bro

[@PeterMaina-r6x]

Nice one bro

[@hacaify]

Appreciate the video bro.

[@ch.ristopher.jackson]

I was about to beat it... Yall know what I mean... But now I don't want to anymore, thank you man.

[@TheBridge2]

Thank you Kenny, for making teaching me how to fix me and our brothers lives.

[@vladimirobreja8360]

I advise you to either make your screen behind you darker, or change it to a blue screen, or to put some tracking spots on it and mask them out. You clearly can see the green spill on the right side of your head.

[@selfimprovementstreak]

Kenny, your past resonates very well with how my current life is and now i think im finally trying to break free of the addiction. Just wanted to ask, will doing nofap increase your risk of prostate cancer, or all this is just rumors?

[@kenny.bender]

nah that study is super cherry picked

[@talon45100]

Great work Ken! Best of luck on the masterclass, get that bread, you're definitely proving its worth!

[@prepisode]

kenny i love all of your videos!

[@Mega-mo8en]

your videos are so good man

[@TheFiku]

good vid, and shoutout to dan koe

[@kingwolfgang]

You can't tell me I'll never know myself. Simple as, sure we have influences from outside forces. However a man doesn't find himself, he crafts himself like a fine tuned sword. You can't sit back and tell me I don't know who I am. I'm not finished crafting him yet.

[@sakjdh]

If everyone becomes successful, then no one will be successful. The point of all those self improvements videos is not to help people, but to gain popularity on the internet which leads to revenues for the creator.

[@Paco_Gaepedores]

Amazing ❤

[@DeviousCow32]

Appreciate your videos, Kenny

[@ogmofula]

This video was beyond insightful. 🧠

[@Kinghihiv3]

Btw can you change the thumbnail its so catchy that they just clicked it because of the you knowww

[@Yipper64]

0:54 I know who I am. I am a child of God. And I have specific skills, I feel called to make videogames to try to spread the gospel. 4:20 ah yes just five easty steps because its just that easy... For money and sex, because that's the best end goal to have. 5:00 I have a slightly different approach to this mindset. My thoughts arent me but the process in which I come to them essentially is. I feel like just saying "these thoughts are not me" just leaves more questions than answers, then what is "me?" I imagine it has to be the process. 5:55 ive heard it said, have an open mind, but close it down on something, else your brain will fall out. 7:16 purpose, do as God commanded. The goal, spread the gospel. To make it as non-specific as possible. The best way I personally at the moment think I can achieve that given my skillset is to make videogames that arent just you know, pure dopamine. But ive found that doesnt mean making games that are overly didactic. There needs to be a balance, and I cant just *push an agenda* here, that wont convince anyone of anything. Storytelling is displaying a situation, and letting the viewer take away what they will. The takeaway can be obvious, but the method does not involve telling people what to think, only showing people a situation. 7:40 If I ever made the decision to "deconstruct" leave the faith behind... what purpose is left? I cant see myself ever not trying to be creative in some way, but without a moral compass I see those creative endeavors going a very... coomer-centric, way, lets just put it that way. 8:00 the goal, as unrealistic as it may be, is to have a widely successful indie game that shares the message of the gospel AND makes its way into pop culture, bringing many to God. That is my ambition. My expectation is a small indie carrier with a small but dedicated fanbase, that is mostly fellow Christians but occasionally reaches someone. 9:40 see ive tried more or less. The main thing that "my shadow" purports is a lust issue. And ive thought it over and over in my head, why its appealing, what it takes from me, all of that. And yet the cycle continues.

[@michaelaufderheide6441]

That was not blurred enough 😳

[@ilcarabiniere797]

When I humbled myself and focused on finding God, I began to practice virtue; and since then I have given up entirely on those vices of porn and masterbation. I have also noticed a huge increase in confidence and everything else that Kenny mentioned in his video. And, women do take notice.

[@Adrian_888]

I love your videos but I would appreciate if you could include less triggering stuff even if it's censored.

[@martinelstner7822]

Very nice, thank you

[@Toyotubiez2x]

You're actually one of the only people who have grown up in the 00s and 10s and understand

[@praisetelesto]

Bro the thumbnail made have to meditate, urges.

[@frankmarchesan]

Love the content, starting my own KZbin channel on similar topics, the editing is good and inspires me to use more unique ways to display my authenticity in my videos. Building a community and would be great to connect with more like-minded individuals such as yourself, have a great rest of your day🤝

[@Kinny-nq3ki]

hi Kenny I'm the guy who sent you a vid of my mate trying to play golf

[@epicsniperfal668]

338 times, those are rookie numbers compared to some during mw2 lobbies.

[@lolexplosions4214]

I can agree that young men are lost.

[@wrongthinker843]

Interestingly enough, some of these came to me naturally. If I were to try and identify a cause, I think it's because my mother always encouraged me to explore literature (fiction or otherwise) that most would consider significantly beyond my level at that age.

[@JT_16]

same

[@avgriffin]

great video, reminds me of like Gerbert Johnson, but your own style more akin to Patrick CC.

[@garypotato]

You are amazing ❤

[@kenny.bender]

❤️

[@KizzMyAbs]

Don’t be a follower, be a leader, stay off the next man’s nuts.

[@jurantechetty4766]

Amazing video!! Just one question, If the ego should be the Servant, then what should be the Master?

[@bojackhorseman3787]

It’s so strange how, even though I wanted to get better at guitar and loved music more than anything, I would spend so much time playing shitty videogames and listen to music in the background. Once I started building my stereo system and improving at guitar, I was finally feeling joy, instead of pleasure/cheap happiness (a major difference, which was first outlined in my 11th grade religion class). That passion leaked into all other parts of my life, I’m leaving high school with a 97 average, and have a flat 100 so far senior year. Carl Jung saved my life. Also, porn is the most damaging aspect of modern teen life besides alcohol and drugs: embrace straight edge!!

[@devilsoffspring5519]

Tons & tons of videos about this. Normal life is boring as hell and expensive as hell. Working hard while listening to the sound of your brain turning into styrofoam is gonna make you depressed because that's how humans work. Once you're done with shoo shit and it's time to work full-time, you're already pretty burnt out and the next ~50-60 years of your life are going to be GRINDING for money. So yeah, people have a hard time mustering up enough denial to pretend to give a fuck for much longer. People are lost because normal life is much too damned expensive and painfully tedious for what most of it really is after all the hype and BS. I felt that way at 8 years old and I feel that way at almost 47.

[@limboguy8999]

This guy is my therapist

[@Dawn56032]

Shiiiit were taking manifestation now

[@rugbo]

You played Rust? Nice lets go

[@gosonegr]

He put an actual image of Jordi el niño polla, Spanish hero.

[@SirGoofy44]

Great content

[@mrdummervilleean]

Anothee banger thumbnail

[@upcomings100]

you should write more unfiltered community posts. it lets people connect with you better, and its also just fun to write random shit for thousands of people to see lmao

[@ctrotaku_alt3330]

this very good video it like a good essay

[@USATIN90]

And the KZbin academy award for intro of the year goes to….

[@makarlutskyi5953]

i need that background on your TV

[@kenny.bender]

search "topographic map/texture" you should find it

[@pabloqcr]

Bro the TV with the clips that’s very cool how did you manage to do that ?

[@KizzMyAbs]

Bro with a little hard work even the simpiest of simps can become a strong attractive wealthy man. Hard work isn’t easy but it pays off.

[@TripleBProductionzz]

Question. Doesn't implementing your shadow cause you to identify with your thoughts? In order to accept your shadow you have to accept that some thoughts are apart of you? I really like the idea of not identifying with my thoughts because there are things about my thoughts that pull me to bad habits and lifestyles. But when you started talking about implementing your shadow that feels like I have to accept some of the things I like as fact versus telling myself that my brain just likes it for now and that I can change it. What is the thought process here?

[@DesjuDjizlas]

Identify,accept,overcome and control them just like addictions.Most peoples thoughts of themselves and what they want these days are given to them by tv,ads,mainstream culture and consumerism,they exploit Jungs personality archetypes for social engineering.Disconnect yourself from all that crap and you'll realize your true self.

[@RobBillyBob]

He speaks of integrating your shadow. But he doesnt explain how to do that. To do such a thing, you first need to write a list of all the things that you feel are your best qualities. Then, whatever the opposite is, is probably what you want to pretend doesnt exist and would be your shadow. Example: I am an honest person. So the shadow aspect would be that you are NOT an honest person. Simply accepting that you have the potential to be a real POS and accepting that is a good start. And even if you WERE to be that POS, its ok. there is no wrong way to live. Yeah, I can be a real POS, but not today.

[@damiandoherty3303]

Kenny Would love to see some more content on more daily routines with diet and hygiene because todays “foods” and “care” products are so full of chemicals,hard to know what to go for these days Just a thought if you’d be interested

[@ANFRS]

Bruh my big big horrible shadow is that I unfortunately like femboys because I have also insecurities left by the girls I tried to date and an absence of father and a kind of reject of me to girls because I get mad at authority and my mom is my authority in my house so I dislike completely girls who are kinda strong character and that lead me to liking ultra femenine girls and femboys are like trying to be excessively feminine and that turns me on. I always fight against those thoughts, I see them as my enemy because I gotta become a strong masculine men, real men who is strong physical and mentally to archive my future goals, but lately my shadow is getting stronger and I hate myself so much and I'm thinking about getting strong and big and rich enough someday dso then I can do whatever I want without caring about others opinions, and sometimes I just hate me for that, I'm mentally fucked I can't be alone with my thoughts so I need to keep improving all the time.

[@SoundsLegit71]

Find a wingman, helps with rejection. My dad never spent time like take me to a bar when i turned 21 or be a friend. I was abused by my sis bf and that messed me up bad i liked fem b. The best i have goten over that is with a gf that took me seriously unfortunately one earlier gf was abused too and that a was double negative.

[@benskywalker7]

4:25 my favorite bit this video😂

[@j99044]

Solution: war. I said this a thousand times already

[@Mordorian_76]

@kenny bender it's so bad to play videogames or it's just to play so much videogames?

[@kenny.bender]

It all depends on your goals, if you are 20 and want to have millions of dollars and be jacked by 30 it makes zero sense to spend an hour a day playing video games when it could be spent sleeping, meditating, training, reading, working, talking to a coach, etc. If you have pretty chill goals like at 30 be making 100k a year, look average, go on one vacation a year, and have a kid or two, an hour of video games a day isn't going to destroy your goals.

[@Mordorian_76]

@@kenny.bender I'm 15 (:

[@Oni5224]

then chill until your 20@@Mordorian_76

[@Mordorian_76]

thx bro (:@@Oni5224

[@Weezyfan0306]

“Purpose” is just a cope

[@worscohli]

11:15 been losing my whole fkn life, whats another 10-20 yrs.

[@des0r]

no

[@marcosmaximum9719]

I have but one question how can you take control of your life when you have no control over your life. I'm 17. I live at home with my brother. We both work at a fast food joint together. All of our money goes to our parents But they're not using it for nothing nefarious we're in the process of building a house Because last year we sold our 4 bedroom 2 bath home in the city and bought 3 acres of raw mountain land on developed untamed. And here we are living in a 23' camper all 4 of us. Hardly no privacy So despite my dwindling sanity pretty much becoming shot I have managed to stumble across your Channel and you have a lot of good teams I am simply just trying to figure out how to Implement these while living through my current unique situation I personally do a lot of gaming and watch a lot Bad stuff on the Internet But it's because of what I'm allowed to do. I don't have my license, so I'm not allowed out of the house and when I am. We have to stay close to one another. My parents really don't want me dating because they're afraid me at my age. I'm going to throw my life away even though I deeply crave Companionship

[@hipoint40cal39]

I'm 52 and lost in life

[@Ottobon]

We're all going to disagree on certain thing but this video is good because it touches on a lot of the same important point JBP would but without any of the stupid drama, politics, or cult like nature that sadly became a problem if you tried to lean on him for advice, core of it likely being that the sources of knowledge from old landmarks in the world of psych are there, just without whatever the heck that (Kermit the meat eaters) scene became.