Are we too cynical? Take the quiz with me!

[@emilydelgado4312]

Love to drive with you and see a peek into Canada! Lovely

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Glad you enjoyed!

[@codysmom6071]

After many years of therapy I still struggle with whether anybody cares about me. Without going into detail my childhood was shattered and it’s still difficult for me to trust.

[@Shan_noda]

Learning that it’s okay to say “no” took decades for me to truly put into practice. Love to you and Sophie, too!

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

❤️Good for you!!

[@anneslates6612]

I have one two sets of neighbours. One of each. My natural personality is to be helpful and do what I can for others. I have had to cut off one set of neighbours, while I have a great friendship with the other.

[@martykong3592]

: ) THANKS MUCH ! I had to say Yes to 1, but have worked HARD to be able to do so, life is sometimes not kind at all, and had to focus on all the GOOD things in life, family and friends. Much appreciated, and as you always say, the WORLD would benefit from BEING KIND : ) ALL the BEST and Cheers ! !

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Good for you for choosing to do that work ☺️. You are so welcome.

[@lauraautry3525]

I was 3 yes and 5 no but I knew I was cynical. I have always been distrustful of others basically from my past and the people I knew. Then I went to work at a church for 18 years and really met some wonderful people so my cynicism changed. So I think if people are cynical they should look at the people they hang around or work with. If you’re with good moral people then you won’t be so cynical. On another note, I love when you go on the road, whether it’s in town or traveling. I probably will never see Canada and it’s so fun seeing the beautiful countryside. Thanks

[@chasingthemoonrv]

I’m the same as you …answered no to all the questions. The word ‘most’ is what stood out for me and made my response easier. Happily I’m not a cynical person and in my opinion, neither are the majority of human kind! 😊❤️

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Hello my friend! Yes, it's the word 'most' that makes all the difference. Yes some people are those things but, like you, I think the majority of people are good.

[@brendawaggoner5188]

Great conversation!! I too answered No to them all but then I went back to #3 and thought maybe that's a Yes ..humm Overall I too believe Most people in general are not cynical and we have more in common then what we may think that devides us❤ Change your thinking...changes your future ❤

[@nancysantamaria3924]

Great conversation and topic Adelina! I answered 0 and knew you would too 😻. Interesting rating scale -I think I would have answered yes had the adverb been different such as sometimes, etc. I also would have answered differently at other times in my life. I care about you and this lovely community. Thanks for sharing!! Have an awesome week 🥰🙏❤️🍁

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

I agree Nancy. The word 'most' is what makes the difference 😊.

[@dinabertrand9113]

I'm kind of surprised that I didn't answer yes to more of these. I feel I've become more cynical, but when I really thought about the questions that asked if I thought MOST people are xyz...I don't truly think they are. Thanks for this, I found it interesting to see deep down how I really feel. Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks for sharing Dina. ❤️

[@bchost]

Cynicism invokes division increasing power and wealth to those who seek it... my opinion. less cynicism more unity would be great. Spread the word! Sending ❤to you super lady!

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Well said!

[@purrmageddon5749]

Thanks for the discussion, Adelina; interesting points to ponder. I answered yes to two (cool, I thought I was more cynical than that lol). But I was very torn on Q8. Some people clearly play nice with an agenda of some sort, but after having been pretty much bled dry by a few energy vampires, the signs are pretty obvious & perhaps I'm overly cautious now. But the folk who are genuinely just nice & very kind to me, I find confusing. It always surprises me when people like me & show that they do. For goodness sake, why??? Yes, I do need more therapy, obvs 🤣.

[@user-cs6jt6sz4g]

I answered NO to 7. I hesitated with #7. I’m not sure who cares about me, though in the big view of things, I think most people care about others. Thanks for an interesting and thought provoking session.

[@oldyellow8120]

Very interesting video. First of all, I really like your sweater very much! As to the quiz, I scored 1 1/2. That surprised me because I would definitely label myself as a cynical person. However, it is more likely due to depression and longstanding Generalized Anxiety Disorder rather than pure cynicism. The question that I said "yes" to is number 5: "It's safer to trust nobody". Unfortunately, I do believe this. I have been hurt several times by people that I thought I could trust and believe. I have learned at this point to live in fear of being "blindsided" - even by family or "friends" who actually weren't. This fear has extended itself to a fear of being "blindsided" by life in general. It's a stressful way to live. The 1/2 "yes" score was in response to question 8: "I wonder what hidden reason people may have for being nice to me". Probably this is connected to my yes response to number five. I have been used, multiple times, and in VERY significant ways. It hurts, and pushes me away from people. Oh well, I have a therapist and six cats that I trust implicitly, and I'm slowly working on it. I wish I was still as full of optimism and altruism as I was when I was 23.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate it ❤️. PS: kitty purrs are good for the soul aren't they?

[@CuzmicTarot]

5:24 ❤❤ 🎉😅😌 Also I just know that sweater is comfy!

[@CuzmicTarot]

Omg!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤ Okay Let me get comfy! Will be back to comment! Hey Hey Adelina and Sophie ✅🥳🫶🏾🥹😅🤩

[@Teresa-o3i]

I answered yes to most of these, I think most people would do many of these things - it's why it's so very important to surround yourself with honest, kind people. The answers also depend on how the individual mind works. One example using this video, when talking about lying, Adalina said she didn't think most people lie but did think they may exaggerate. However, exaggerating is lying. All that being said, I do think we have more good than bad in the world.

[@3dchick]

I came for the tiny house but have stayed for these super interesting conversations! I definitely would have answered some of these differently 20 or 30 years ago. I didn't say Yes to any but there were a couple of strong "it depends" or "maybe" I might have chosen if that had been an option, like #3. (Yes, I wrote these down, lol) would people use unfair means to get an advantage? I said no. But to not LOSE something, was a "maybe" to me. Mostly just because fear is such a strong motivator. The other one was # 7, most people inwardly dislike putting themselves out for others. I really wanted to answer "it depends." But you brought it up in your discussion, with the idea if you're finding yourself resenting these things, you're saying yes, or volunteering yourself, too often. As a recovering pleaser, I really get that! I also thought it was interesting that the ones I would have said "yes" to years ago are ones that intersect with self-confidence, like the friends one. When I was young (high school age), I was so sure I had nothing to offer that I was often suspicious of people befriending me, at least at first, and especially if they were someone I thought of as "cooler" or more popular than I was. Those people ending up being good friends is part of what got me over that. And being a pleaser went with that lack of confidence too. I've changed and grown enough that friends now have a hard time seeing me as that insecure, and being the me I am now is one of my favorite parts of aging and growing. Such a cool topic!

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks so much for sharing your story. I agree that things change as we get older and have more perspective for sure.

[@kellflowers]

I guessed 0 for you, and I had 1. I really thought it would be 0 for you because you are the most positive person I have encountered. I thought mine would be higher, so I was pleasantly surprised.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

It has taken me years and it's a practice every day. Thank you 😊.

[@Shannonlp6152]

I live in NC but not in the mountains where the devastation is. Thank you for thinking of us 😊

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

You are so welcome!

[@janh8847]

I answered yes to 5. But we’ve suffered a major tragedy at the hands of another which has seriously raised my cynicism. Yes I probably need counselling

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

That's totally understandable. I hope you have someone you trust to talk to now ❤️.

[@janh8847]

@@myBIGtinyhouselife ❤️

[@12Gaile]

I answered maybe on 2 so I scored those as a yes...I thought you would say yes to 1 or 2 of them as well.... Over the years I have become cautious when interacting with new people in my life. I was very trusting but luckily I had & continue to have good instincts.. Take care & hope you have a great week. ❤🐱

[@annabel1792]

3- As I get older unfortunately my guard has increased. Too many times have been hurt I was a people pleaser probably this was a fault. Now I say No a lot and only have a handful of friends. Not cynical just careful.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

I can understand that 😊

[@esthermarcen7587]

I say yes 2 times, I think mainly because you should not really care about other people's thinking, and be worried only about yours. Also as a person who has English as a second language, I did understand "go ahead" as to look for success (like work, or money).

[@MaryFoster-m5i]

I answered no to all of them. I think for me the important word was MOST. I would still pray that there is some decency in this crazy world.

[@SparklingMyLife]

At first, I answered yes to most of them but, after you talked them through, I realised that, although I'm still a cynical person, not by nature but life happened, I still want to believe in people. And I think the same person can act differently depending on how they feel in a certain moment or/and depending on whom they're interacting with.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Good insight. Thanks for sharing 😊

[@juliea1234]

I answered no to all of these, which surprised me because I think of myself as somewhat jaded and cynical. I think it's because the wording is "most people". I think if it was worded as "many people" , I would have said yes to a few.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Absolutely! 😊

[@danandlesliebulger2775]

Thanks for sharing! Sophie!!!❤❤❤

[@michelleellis8201]

I answered NO to eatery question. I think that you answered NO to all questions as well.

[@jo-anne5123]

Very interesting quiz. Have you read Malcolm Gladwell’s book, Talking To Strangers? He says “Those occasions when our trusting nature gets violated are tragic. But the alternative - to abandon trust… is worse.”

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Interesting. I'll have to check it out. Thanks ☺️

[@colleen1872]

I think more people aren't, but some people are.

[@sarahoconnell7801]

Very interesting quiz. First, I think you would not answer yes to any of these. When I hear the phrase "Be kind," it reminds me of you. And I thought I was more cynical, but answered no immediately to all of them - it was the "most people" that made me answer that way. Funny memory, though, my sister-in-law, who I adored, was very religious but once said something along the lines of "If it wasn't for the 10 Commandments, I could do anything I want." I don't really believe that, I think she had a good internal moral compass, but I never forgot her saying that.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

That's an interesting thing for her to say 🤔

[@sarahoconnell7801]

@@myBIGtinyhouselife Lol. I think that's why I always remembered it...

[@jansweeney1333]

2 yes ‘s out of 8 🤷🏻‍♀️🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

[@Lalijeepgirl]

My 30 yr marriage disintegrated almost 2 yrs ago - my husband lied , manipulated and deceived me and I’m afraid that’ll change me - I feel alone and defeated and I pray God helps me see and understand what happened to me in front of my adult children. I’m a libra - I pray I don’t change my level headed ways. Anxiously awaiting my divorce finality so I can be free of the feeling of connection to the lies.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

I'm sorry you're going through this difficult time. It will get better, I promise ☺️🙏🏼.

[@gloriairizarry4576]

Hi Adelina, good chat. I answered yes to 5🥴. Thank you and take care🐈🌺

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

You’re welcome 😊

[@debbiejansen555]

I answered yes to 4 of them! Yikes! 😕

[@FureueTuhinuker]

Some instead of most would make them all apply, but generally people are well intended in some way. Influences play a big role in who we are and how we think. Would say I am more stoic now that I am older, but was probably more cynical when i wasn't drunk in my earlier years, but that's another story.

[@susanalario3836]

Yes to 3

[@doramedley1877]

I didn't think you'd say yes to any of the questions. I didn't either. We're both positive people. 😊

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

That's great!

[@alschneider6364]

Hi Adelina...Honestly didn't answer yes to any of them. This surprised me ,because I do get a little down with what state the world is in lately. Guess there is some hope for me...ha ha! (PS) If Sophie ever needs a cat sitter..please feel free to ask :)

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Good for you 😁. thanks!

[@sandrasenergy]

Good video. I said yes to a lot. I would hope you were more right but experience has said other. Yes I would love those questions to all be no. That's the goal. Blessings to all 🌻🍁🌻

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks for sharing!

[@janh8847]

Good talk. Can you do a video on how you deal with moisture in your tiny home? Is mold an issue living in a place with a lot of rain. Thanks Adelina.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Hello Jan, I have done that video. kzbin.info/www/bejne/op3IlGSsdrysa5Ysi=4ymkMtU4o9Rng56C

[@janh8847]

@@myBIGtinyhouselife thanks for the link! 🥰

[@kellimahaffey553]

I answered yes to one (#8) That has happened to me several times in the past 😞

[@ianbarr4716]

Bah hum bug! This is crap. The world is crap. My car is crap. I just want some of your loaf....which probably tastes like crap. jk.... :). Loved this video Adelina. Thank you. Wishing you joy, happiness and nothing but success. Cheers.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Hahahahahaha!!!! You are the best! 😂😂😂

[@anneslates6612]

4 gave me pause as I used to think it deeply. I no longer do.

[@anniecochrane3359]

I answered no to them all. I figured you would likewise answer no.

[@jemma50]

I answered no to all of them. So I guess I'm not a cynic. ♥

[@anneslates6612]

Hi Adelina! I’ve been lax in checking in lately. This is an interesting topic. I would say you have changed your thinking on a few things. Perhaps the same as me? 4 and 8? I’m working on them.

[@wendajones9040]

Basically 0 for me now but it hasn’t always been so.

[@brigittecrawley1872]

I answered yes to the last question only and I feel you probably said yes to none.

[@carmentorres2083]

My answers: 1-7 No; 8-,Yes.

[@jeanarchi1933]

I answered no to all. In the past i would have said yes to most. A good example of a cynical person is Donald Trump, he makes it seem that most people are out to get us. When i know this to be untrue.

[@BFreeInLife]

2

[@lscostello4995]

Hi Adelina! Great discussion! ❤ I answered No to all 7 questions. I have known people who do take advantage of others, can be cruel, are untrustworthy or are very manipulative. But, that is by no means “Most” people I have known! After 7 decades of living, I am happy I do not feel too cynical about my fellow man! I believe most people have good hearts! ❤

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Wonderful! Thanks for sharing!!

[@ginnyandersen8527]

I appreciate your views. Similar views to mine.

[@mavahuth5044]

I said no but you have to do this on a case by case bases. I have worked with nice people and some mean unpleasant people. The last lady I work with, wanted me out of there really bad. She would put me bad situations and then go tell on me. I think she wanted out so she could get a friend in my spot. She already had two friends there,in other spots. Well she got her way I quit but she had to work for it. As it turns out,she did me a favor. As it turned out I would have had to quit at some point. Kind of like that guy who kinda mad you move. To nicer spot. In the last couple of days two different people. Have done something really wonderful for me. One said just because she likes to do nice things for people. The other one maybe because I have said nice things to her or just because. It's nice to see people like that. I have a friend we don't agree on who should be president but we agree on other stuff and that is ok. Please forgive me for such a long comment. I was deprived of seeing you last week because of the hurricane. Things are getting bad to normal in my area.😊 Have a good week.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm glad things are getting better there and that you're safe 🙏🏼❤️

[@anneslates6612]

I have one two sets of neighbours. One of each. My natural personality is to be helpful and do what I can for others. I have had to cut off one set of neighbours, while I have a great friendship with the other.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Well said. Sometimes that's required for our own wellbeing.