Are you a Highly Sensitive Person?

[@setphaser]

How amazing is the internet that we can listen to the original researcher discuss their topic ethic affects so many millions of people around the world! Thank you so much!

[@MensagemdeVidaePazOficial]

It is a balm to understand that my high sensitivity, empathy, need for daily silence, passion for the arts and nature, anxiety, overstimulation, tiredness, etc., has an explanation. My eternal gratitude Dr Aron, God bless you immensely. Ps: I met a highly sensitive person and clearly saw our similarities, but he didn't.🥺 But everyone has their moment of self-knowledge and it's ok. Eternal gratitude!!! Kátia Storch - Brazil 🙏🇧🇷 ❤

[@chrissame]

What you are describing are Autistic traits...That's what High sensitivity is, It's another way to describe Autistic traits. You most likely fall on the Autism spectrum. It also presents differently in females.

[@susane4078]

I am definitely a HSP. Retired RN. Have walked out of places which are too noisy or too crowded. Prefer talking 1:1 and not as part of a group. I have always believed that I am a deep thinker and very empathetic. I am a writer, too. So relieved to have found out that I am not the only HSP and that there is a name for these traits.

[@chantalcrowder1414]

HSP here too. Also a nurse. Your description resonates with me.

[@mooshway2000]

I'm also an HSP and nurse! I work in mental health so lots of 1:1 work in the community. In the last 3 years I've been moved (long story) into a management position and as a HSP I find this really exhausting.. in November I'm reducing my hours to 3 days a week so hoping this will help and maybe give me the headspzce to think of something new.

[@susane4078]

@@mooshway2000 I have been a manager twice during my career. Was offered another Mgmt position in my very last job, but declined. Worked with a great group of 4 other nurses. Didn’t want to leave the group! Being a manager is exhausting. I was proud of being a nurse and felt that nursing was a good fit for me.

[@mooshway2000]

@@susane4078 I get this. In my last job there was just 3 of us, same grade, working independently. It was lovely.

[@digidali999]

Your work has brought me a great deal of relief. Thank you for explaining me 🙂

[@brettweary8491]

Me to Zachary

[@Happiness379]

Me, too, Zachary.

[@rafarodrigues5343]

Thank you so much for this information. The worst is when you spend half of your life suffering because not even you or people around you knew you are a HSP. So we are the “ weirdos “ judging ourselves

[@susie5254]

I would like to honor Dr. Aron by thanking her for lessening the pain I felt on a daily basis in my youth before she changed the world by discovering and presenting awareness of HSP. It's painful for me to think how much my mother suffered in her lifetime because she was born too early for Dr. Aron's discovery. Torn from her family and orphaned as a child, she suffered malnutrition during her developmental years causing extreme and constant physical pain in adulthood, and to add insult to injury her sensitivities were never understood or even acknowledged.

[@nicolegallagher3537]

Same

[@Steve-XTC67]

After reading Elaine Aron's book which was kindly given to me by my lovely partner, who realised and helped me to find out why I was, the way I was. I was so relieved and happy to be Named, Tagged, Compartmentalised as an HSP. Thank you Elaine, it's nice to be able to reference your book to give credence to our GIFT!

[@danagricken4197]

Elaine, your book was a god send! I finally understand myself better and why I behave the way I do. I’m highly sensitive and proud now. Thank you!!

[@GeniVee777]

Dr. Aron's work is invaluable. Personally, it gave me my identity as an HSP.

[@M155ABYSS]

The Highly Sensitive Person changed my life ten years ago when I read it. So grateful for it.

[@janparish8055]

Oh me too! The first thing I do when I buy a new sweater is cut out the label, I can't stand how they irritate my skin! I'm definitely an HSP from your definition. Good to know there's a reason for my sensitivity to crowds, loud noises etc.

[@terrancekayton007]

Answered my entire life’s worth of question, All in her life’s work, which she elegantly summarized in 4 Minutes. She’s amazing 🤩

[@ivaketiv]

Overstimulation is a big thing for me. I feel very strongly what others feel, and my mind is always on, it's like there's no off switch. I think my husband, who's very sensitive to textures in our home furnishings and needs plenty of space and downtime, is a HSP too. His sensitivities are different to mine though.

[@mandysimmons2769]

I am pretty sure that your book kept me from going into darker and darker places. I got it and read it at just the right time. To learn that "it" was only a trait not a disability or a kind of mental illness was such a relief. Over time I came to see the up sides, the wonderful blessings, the EQ it gave me, the times it saved me from trouble or harm or even disaster and probably even death. I revel now in the warmth and the beauty of it and the resonance it gave my actual soul...the more I tuned into it, the more I was grateful for it. Age ( nearly 60 ) has made me naturally more ornery LOL and I no longer even ask the rest of the world for grace or understanding. I own my feelings and take my down time. I've learned to not absorb other's bad energies too. I agree with the young gal in the documentary too, it's a super power. Learning about my own trait has helped me accept my on the spectrum husband. I no longer expect others to treat me as well as I treat them but I've sure learned how to treat myself as well as I treated others. It helps too that I've now out lived most of the predatory spirits that delighted in testing my boundaries. In short that book saved me 20 plus years of heartache and misunderstanding this amazing trait. Thanks for Your work!

[@kimkeck6266]

Hi! I agree with you AND I cannot wait to outlive the evil people in my life! I have known since I was little that I will live until I am 100! 😬😳🤭 Not that I really want too! Both of my grandmothers lived until 98 and 93 and basically just got in bed tired and ready to go. I come from good genes HOWEVER emotional issues and addiction are on both sides....ANXIETY and Introverts are also on both sides! ☹️😢 It made me feel good to read what you said ESPECIALLY since I just divorced at age 58 my ex who is a malignant narcissist/Pyschopath. I had no idea who I was until 57....INFJ-T, HSP, empath PLUS Cancer sign! Nor did I know just what the hell was wrong with him. It has taken me five years to get totally educated on all the above! It has saved my life!! Blessings to you! 🌷🥰🙏❤️‍🩹💪🙌😆

[@mandysimmons2769]

@@kimkeck6266 I hope you can phase away from them or somehow escape their hold quicker than I did. I had to wait 'em out and live longer than them. Age and time helps and there are tons of resources now. Wishing you the best life soon/now.

[@Discovery_and_Change]

0:43 D.O.E.S. Depth of processing | Overstimulation | Emotional Responsiveness / Empathy | Sensitive to subtle stimuli

[@apricotcookie4850]

Dear Dr. Aron, your book The Highly Sensitive Person, and Dr. M. Scott Peck's The RoadLess Traveled, have illuminated my life and empowered me in so many ways. I'm endlessly grateful to you. Your work is brilliant, and you have lightened the suffering of HSPs in this noisy and often brutal world. Thank you and bless you.

[@mondaypositivitea]

Your book changed my life! So thankful to you! 🙏

[@lynnmarieanderson1744]

I’m definitely highly sensitive. But that’s not really a bad thing in a lot of ways. I just have to learn how to work with it.

[@normagrimstad8869]

Respectfully, I have suggestions to add to the quiz. These have been lifelong for me. 1. Difficulty falling asleep. 2. Great distress seeing animals injured or killed.

[@stephenjonwolden1519]

Good Doctor, please continue your excellent contributions, yes I am quietly shouting, many thanks

[@darold1966]

Thank you! You gave me a key to a door that has opened and changed my life. Thank you.

[@HansBezemer]

Check, sound and clothing sensitivity since my earliest days (I still can't wear anything but 100% cotton), never had much empathy to people (but animals, strangely enough, yes) and I think I do a lot of processing. I find the latter very handy though. I'm known for my "outside the box" solutions to problems - since I seem to be able to see patterns where other don't. I have mastered the skill of unconscious processing - which I call "backgrounding". I take in all the information I can get - and then forget about the whole thing. And at some moment - under the shower, while driving to work, while shopping in the mall - a clear cut solution will pop up. I designed a complete compiler once by simply taking notes on the margins of a newspaper while steadily waking up and getting back to sleep one night. It was quite a solid architecture, since those principles are still present in that compiler - even after 30 some years.

[@chrissame]

You're Autistic.

[@eugeneaniar7232]

Im so glad to have found your work through Alanis. Thank you for your research! I thought i there is already something wrong with me since then i dont like noise, large crowd and having hard time forgetting past ill deeds.

[@chauntrellwright6520]

Thank you, Dr Elaine Aron. I love you for laboring away and completing that amazing book. 🙏🏿❤️😘🤟🏿

[@christineh4782]

Thank you very much Dr. Aron and Diana for these wonderfully enlightening and confirming short clips. Hoping to watch the movie tomorrow.

[@idan2400]

Thank you so much! Just started to read the book 🙏 hope you bring more content like that, very helpful 😄

[@phzhai5463]

Your book really helps me pass through my inner problem.

[@juleshappy741]

Your research is such a gift 🎁 ~ thank you!

[@izzythere77]

Thank you for sharing your work with us 🙏🏽 I almost always keep your book with me.

[@elizabethmora5060]

God bless you for all your work to help us.

[@rosimarisolmoralesa.372]

Es una maravilla que cuente con sus títulos en español . iEstoy altamente agradecida !

[@rolandreedii5939]

Aww, mum. You've gone golden. ❤

[@Herkimerdiamond]

Dear Elaine thank you so much for helping us 🙏

[@stephaniecrew5085]

Thank you, your wisdom is much appreciated ❤️

[@pameladavis9939]

EVERYTHING is MAGNIFIED!🙋😐

[@xaraelpida937]

Thank you!!! 🌹

[@spbg_4]

Thank you

[@JaiMandal-e8i]

❤ Thank you doctor

[@jennifercovey4906]

Thank You💖

[@shannonbrown560]

Hi Elaine! I'm an hsp. I have been an elementary teacher for about 10 years. I am learning that I am literally exhausted by the loudness of my students. I am having a hader time with the career as the years go by. Is this normal? Do many hsps struggle as school teachers with sensory overload?

[@lindac6919]

I was overly stimulated just by being among other students, when I was an elementary student.

[@openyourmind3763]

Yes, it's normal, classrooms are highly overstimulating environments for everyone. And school systems are very challenging places to work. I used to be a guidance counselor and have provided counseling for teachers. The HSPs tell me they try to set up their classroom to be less overstimulating and calmer, play calming music for the kids, teach breathing, etc., have to work at maintaining self care before and after school and maintining boundaries and healthy detachment. Not easy but worth it. Letting go of things you don't own or aren't responsible for.

[@bbruce995]

You might want to become a tutor instead, or join a private school where there will be less children in a class

[@VesaVuorinen]

HSP = DOES Depth of processing is the most important trait. Overstimulated easily. Emotional responsiveness. Sensitive to subtle stimuli. -> HSPs need more downtime.

[@bestymusic4845]

In general is there a connection between people with childhood trauma and sensitive nervous systems?

[@learnwhattrulymatters]

Elaine can you provide resources and books for HSP that were raised by narcissistic father's ? How to heal?

[@empoweredsensitivity1236]

This is a great video, thank you :)

[@CanadianMapleleaf]

It destroyed me as I fought it all my life as I was told I had to toughen up. I became someone I was not comfortable being. People they tax me....that stimulation gets out of control, finding all this out way to late in life .....well it sucks!

[@johnnyakermalm1776]

Very grateful for all your work Elaine! @01:25 where can I find out more about that research?

[@rivasoul6794]

hi, i would like to know how it would physically affect the human body if the triggers listed could not be escaped. when i was 2 i was abused by my mothers boyfriend on all levels. i believe my cptsd went unnoticed. when i was 24 i found myself trapped with a narcissist. i didnt understand what he was and i was pregnant with his twins. i had almost no sleep and my partner was not interested in helping me get any.also as a young mum i could not always help the crying that babies do since i had 2. when their dad walked out i couldnt stop one toddler hurting the other at all times and one twin also screamed 24/7 since his dad left. its now a decade after he took them at 5 years old and i get instantly drained around them and easily by other ppl even one on one. but heres where im interested if it can go further? can an hsp get sick like i dont mean a headache for a day or 2. i mean for 5 years everyday. and i get electric shocks in my nerves. huge zaps shoot up my glosso nerve trigimal occipital and even my vagus nerves. im diagnosed as migrainic but im not convinced (i do get auras under very high stress) these symptoms often hit the worst after the stress is gone. please help me as i cant take any pain killers i suffer from rebound headaches if i take them

[@dinahconnell6947]

Is there any way to make it less debilitating. I over think everything and blame myself for everything and constantly live in the past. It is exhausting! 😢

[@nicoleraheem1195]

How can s highly sensitive person focus in college? Asking for myself. I want to obtain my Master's in Linguistics but I keep taking a break from school every other semester because my experiences with people can become overwhelming and emotionally draining.

[@jorose8138]

I've not read the book yet or done any research (but I'm keen to). I'm just thinking it sounds a lot like autism traits to me, but can anybody tell me is it different to that? Or was HSP discovered before aspergers autism, back in the days when people thought being autistic meant the more severe non verbal type, rather than the invisible type where many highly sensitive autistic ppl end up masking.

[@sophierenaude2164]

Merci!

[@anticduck]

Can you pls tell me how can I contact Dr. Aron?

[@tageorder1354]

I know that I'm an hsp I'm just here for comfort and to be called out

[@glacey4906]

Im often told off for ruminating. After a busy day I cant shut down to sleep.

[@sanikatilak9735]

This is just beautiful. I respect this lady and earnestly feel like contacting her in some way. Is it possible?

[@riturajkalita4828]

Cam anyone answer if its good to be highly sensitive ?

[@crystalsanders4334]

What about overthinker is that a trait of Highly Sensitive people? I'm a HSP and have problem with overthinking. It really does not let me sleep sometimes.

[@mmcknight9338]

I've wondered the same about myself, but I think overthinking falls in with the depth of processing, "always processing" is how she put it..

[@medeaendor3706]

Depth of processing

[@marcusw.a.598]

How do I know if I am really hsp or just a neurotic?

[@elainearonph.d.4047]

you can take an HSP test on hsperson.com

[@AlbastrelAlbastrica]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@anitinakuhinja5747]

Yes I am. HSP

[@medeaendor3706]

Being an HSP is not the same as being an introvert

[@Umeshukitsune]

You're right. Most HSPs are introverts due to recharging but there's extroverted HSPs too.

[@FlyboyHelosim]

To me this all sounds like textbook Autism. What makes HSP different?

[@lindaj]

@@FlyboyHelosim Per Dr. Aron's movie which goes in more detail - Autism tends to lack the ability to read the emotions of others where as HSPs are highly attuned to the people and environment around them. I.E. Autistic people generally don't like to make eye contact, HSP often look closely into people's eyes and facial expressions and pay attention to verbal and non verbal cues carefully.

[@terrancekayton007]

I am glad she said that, cause I have just recently realized this notion.

[@hasselett]

@@FlyboyHelosim Then you dont know the first thing about autism. Go out and get a new textbook. I cant think of two things that are more incompatible than HSP and autism.

[@brn2sor]

3:14

[@scottchace780]

I'm not sure I agree with the concept of HSP's. I do, however, realize that the world is full of insensitive, low-vibratory, crass minded people. LSP's?

[@paulmiller6647]

Maybe.

[@colby7625]

Not any more. After mild abuse by people that really mean you no harm.

[@shanedouglas6971]

Seems to me you are describing many many people perhaps a big portion of the population….after all how do you decide you are that different than the majority or anymore sensitive than the majority?

[@hermanshankovitz2700]

Someone said that this book is all about narcissism? Idk what the fuck they are talking about but they said it.

[@1timeslime971]

Uh, no. No. And F--NO…that person who said that IS THE NARCISIST, it’s what they do, they gaslight

[@hermanshankovitz2700]

@@1timeslime971 You don't understand. She's convinced everyone around me that I'm just this absolute socially inept retard.

[@carlpanzram7081]

Well, narcissists can also be highly sensitive, and some narcissistic might pretend to be sensitive to appear like a innocent victim or blame you for things, in order to manipulate you. But it's not directly related to narcissism at all.

[@perceivingknowledge4231]

Let’s use our God-given imagination. Let’s imagine that the noble wise, Dr. Elaine Aron doesn’t exist. Let’s imagine that all of her published books about highly sensitivity doesn’t exist. Let’s imagine that all the clever doctors, who contributed with knowledge about highly sensitiveness, never existed. Knowledge that helped Dr. Elaine Aron to have a better perception and a better understanding about highly sensitiveness. In other words, let’s imagine, such vital/essential mighty knowledge about highly sensitiveness being part of one’s humanity currently known today doesn’t exist at all. To every highly sensitive person out there, how your current living reality would be? How frustrating would you feel not be able to know what’s going on with you? How painful your days would be that the whole world can’t perceive and understand what’s going on with you? But, the worst part, how deeply hurting would be that not even your love ones, specially your loving parents, can’t perceive and understand about that very special highly sensitive human part of you? Sadly, the terrifying ugly feeling of not being a human being would totally convince you that you are not a normal human being with a very special highly sensitive gift. Every day would be just an annoying nightmare for you, always being misperceived and misunderstood. In the movies, you watch avengers fight and kill monsters, like giant dragons, mighty witches, malevolent powerful villains, et cetera. However, what this human world truly needs the most is true noble wise heroes like Dr. Elaine Aron. Without fully realizing, Dr. Elaine Aron is courageously standing up, bravely fighting, and wisely beating the most powerful monster/villain of all, the mighty power of IGNORANCE. Unfortunately, because of IGNORANCE, throughout the history of the human race, so much life has been victim of merciless brutality, barbaric violence, painful torture, hostile hate, cruel murder, et cetera. For this reason, we admire Dr. Elaine Aron’s work, knowledge, and wisdom; she is a wonderful human being. Nonetheless, to every highly sensitive person out there, to you, what is knowledge?

[@seabreezeA1A]

its funny that a person who writes about highly sensitive people would speak in vocal fry. Wouldn't she understand that is extremely annoying to a HSP.

[@carlpanzram7081]

I don't mind that much. Eating sounds however can make me scream.