Elaine Aron - A Talk on High Sensitivity Part 2 of 3: Life

[@faaiiirryy]

i’m 19 and studying psychology. i came to realize that i am a HSP and have never been aware that this term existed. i am now doing research on it and i couldn’t be more thankful that this wonderful woman has studied this for us and can bring light to it. I am more than grateful to carry this on even in my practice years from now. I’m so happy to come across this video. my research has just begun.

[@davidjmackey8637]

Wow. Maybe I am not nuts. I am sorry that it took me over seven decades to find out about me.

[@Shari225]

But you have! Feel good!

[@beitawot]

me too. I am now 61, just only now I know that I am "ok". yeah.... lets live

[@mariamkinen8036]

David J Mackey no, you are not. Let your instincts show you the way. Trust your gut. Seven decades?

[@anneruthbarrett1930]

I knew how I was different, but didn't know it was documented.

[@ttsea8050]

That's how I felt discovering this at 40. 😳

[@JanetUSA]

If I would have known about this year ago, I would not have burned out my adrenal gland trying to be like the 80% of the rest of the world.

[@Shari225]

JanetUSA Please support the documentary if you can. Share it for sure. The more funding, the better the movie. Thank you! www.kickstarter.com/projects/1795131939/sensitive-the-untold-story

[@utubemarky]

Highly sensitive person

[@Cymricus]

💛

[@monharris28]

I burned mines out as well. Found this book in the process of healing,

[@julietteSoul]

I was given a formula to detox the Adrenals . 4 oz. orange juice-fresh preferably- 1/4 tsp. Cream of tarter- 1/4 tsp.pink Himalayan salt- mix together and do this 3 times a day. I have to get the ingredients. I am sure this is not for everyone so go by your own feelings ✌🏽💕

[@BoDrag]

I've spent my life feeling different unable to explain or understand it. This 3 part talk on HSP, and that there is a name for my trait, has just changed my whole world. There are 20% like me?? What a life raft...a blessing beyond words that is priceless. Tears of gratitude. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

[@connectropy]

yay!

[@nickmeale1957]

When you said go back and think about your life with the knowlegde that you are highly sensitive person I was just like yep, that explains soooo much about my personality. Lord oh lord what a great discovery

[@vickyd7541]

What really hurts me is that non-HSP people don't understand us. They label us with demeaning labels implying that we can't cope with normal life challenges which isn't true (at least for me). Just because I have a deeper emotional life doesn't mean I can't regulate my responses - it's a skill of balancing negative emotions with positive ones and self-knowledge to choose what soothes and recharges us. But many people are scared of emotions in others and the idea of high sensitivity is viewed as pathology. I've experienced discrimination on the job market for this very reason - just pure prejudice without any clear relevance for what the job involved.

[@majapop9824]

I agree absolutely. It hurts me too. These non - HSP people expect that we - HSP people are as hard- working and strong as they are. I have a friend who has 2 children and she has got two jobs : 1. Night shifts in a hospital and 2. maid that cleans flats and houses. Plus she has to take care of her family , cook each day, send her children to the school and pick them again after their classes. On the other hand she smokes a lot and drinks a lot of coffee each day and she has never had something like anxiety, on the edge and so on. What to say about this story ???!!! Speechless!!!!

[@josephzsoka874]

@@majapop9824 yup, overstimulation, the caffeine addiction and cigarettes seems to aid in taking numerous small breaks... but its never enough. Still dealing with mine.

[@guharup]

now that you know we are superior, just ignore the fks and infact give some of it back

[@zozyb1]

Best stay away from the workplace!

[@vickyd7541]

@@zozyb1 just what I'm doing!

[@geshtu1760]

When I watched this I really felt deeply connected with everything Elaine said. This level of authenticity is so refreshing.

[@speckledstarling3343]

I have been so lucky to have my dad and brother be HSPs like me. I think this has helped me feel understood throughout my life. Sometimes I feel like if I were surrounded only by non-HSPs, like my mum (and I still love her to bits, but there are certain things she just cannot understand or feel with the same intensity as I do) I would just be broken and lonely.

[@believeinlove3724]

The older I get the more I can master being HSP, I sit ALONE outside for awhile to shake all the energy from the work day. When I am in traffic I don’t make eye contact with drivers anymore because I pick up their emotions. This has helped my energy level in a HUGE way. I don’t get sick like I used too. I had to change my career to one that I work outside alone most of the time and I’m happier now too. I limit my time hearing the news because I know I cannot make this world rainbows 🌈 and butterflies 🦋 but I can help one person at a time and I’m happy with that today.

[@GamingPIPI]

What kind of work do you do now? :) Sounds nice to work outside and alone

[@believeinlove3724]

@@GamingPIPI I work at Fed Ex Express, I read my comment from a year ago and noticed I slipped up and watching and hearing the news more from around the world 🌎 it has caused my blood pressure to be insane, two days ago I ended up in the emergency room. My spirit wants all the cruel ness of the world 🌎 to stop, unfortunately it’s out of my control.

[@GamingPIPI]

@@believeinlove3724 I would do delivery as well but it's always cold in my country unfortunately, I can't bear the cold 😅. I've done all sorts of jobs and it all ended up with me having a lot of stress. Working alone outside sounds nice. I very much understand, we live in such a horrible period of time 😟. Wow you ended up in the emergency room? I hope you're feeling a little better now. I have also experienced the effects of consuming too much news. Some days I can't stop myself from watching... And then I can't let go of all the troubles. It's never too late to start over with all the good habits that helped you one year ago 🙂. I have a burnout and a mild winter/Corona depression.... I slip alllll the time, that's part of the process... I try to accept it and tomorrow I get another chance to get better. Keep it up please, it's so important to feel healthy ☺️. You can only help others if you first help yourself :) This is what I often tell myself maybe it helps you too ☺️. Sorry I'm not good at writing short texts. Thank you for your comment by the way :).

[@arianebennion]

Thank you! I've fought throughout life trying to understand why everything was so difficult. 😊 I'm reading that the world now is 10% greener than before. And the there's always been climate change every 100 years.

[@jacquelinekellam8059]

Elaine Aron's book, The Highly Sensitive Child, was our go-to book when our son was young. He is now 21 and understands himself and his needs as a highly sensitive person. Thank you Elaine Aron, for the work you have done bringing this personality trait to light. We highly sensitive folk need an advocate like you!

[@Cymricus]

what a blessing of a mother and father. what i wouldn’t do; what i haven’t tried to get her to talk to me about it. she just doesn’t understand. most don’t understand

[@agentcovfefe6983]

Jacqueline Kellam - How wonderful you recognized that in your son. That will make the world of difference in his life.

[@vkberthiaume]

Thank you, thank you, thank you for being a parent who understands and empathizes with this ❤️🙏❤️

[@DoofenSpyroDragon16]

My dad bought that book for himself one time but he never got around to reading it. Recently, though, he bought me the original book because he saw the quiz at the beginning and said it sounded like me, and I gotta say: Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive when the World overwhelms you is probably the most relatable thing I’ve ever read. 👍

[@gianniclaud]

Your son is going to lead us out of this dark era we're headed into. Thanks for being good parents!

[@wintrywinter]

Have discovered this trait due to a burnout situation. So much now makes complete sense, the positive and negative stuff. In my job, i am extremely good at relating to people in need/distress, but rubbish at routine management tasks. However. I take on too much, and forget myself. Now paying the price with this burnout. But very glad to know that i am not nuts or stupid, just a bit different. Fascinating topic. Thank you!!!

[@caseyregan9690]

I struggle to find the words to express how much I relate to this. I'm replaying my 36 years and suddenly everything makes sense. Thank you.

[@deren2001]

I'm 44 and just recently found out that I'm an HSP. The more I learn about it, the more the puzzle of my troubled life falls in to place. Why I suffer depression sometimes, Why I dont like parties and going out, Why I get exhausted when being around most people for more than an hour, Why I am suffering along with the pain and injustice in this world, Why I can feel sudden waves of discomfort and anxiety just being in the same room with people with any kind of negative emotions. I used to believe it was all me that was feeling this way, sudden and without any reason It was crazy making. It feels liberating that it is because of me being a HSP, but on the other hand; I cant say it is a blessing or some kind of power. For me it feels like curse

[@Shari225]

Oh, my friend. There is only one aspect that is a pain in the behind - overstimulation. The other three, depth of processing, empathy & emotional responsiveness, and sensitivity to subtleties are major benefits. It's just that we have to live in ways the that work for us, and let go of the thinking that we have to live the way the other 80% live. Take good care of yourself first. Then you will be strong enough to reach out in support of others. Sending you love.

[@deren2001]

Thank you for your kind response. I believe I reach out to support people, a little too much when these are close loved ones. My "curse" is that I can not close off the negative energies of others around me, even total strangers. Especially when they pretend everything is ok. Leaving the room and taking physical distance is all that works, but it takes hours until I feel ok again and it makes me feel antisocial, something that I am absolutely not. I am desperately looking for a different way that can work for me. Do you have any suggestions? I would appreciate it very much

[@sharidyer4332]

Elaine has some excellent suggestions in Part 2: Life. Meditating is a life-saver, and a true gift to yourself. Because I was raised in a dysfunctional family, I also at the age of 40, attended a 12-Step program (not AA). This was life-changing. I didn’t know that I was an HSP until many years later. So please, at the very least, consider meditating for ten minutes each day.

[@realitywinner7582]

@@deren2001 thanks Deren ..t'is like we become the people we meet and their thoughts etc..finding it a mind-blowing realisation..God Bless !

[@RISERefuge]

@deren2001. I hope you may have found some things that help...? I've had similar experiences, where I've been more overwhelmed - emotionally or sensorarily/over-stimulated - and being made to feel bad about myself for feeling that way. Now I understand it's who I am and how important it is to honour and nurture the positive aspects and fully adapt for the tougher experiences of it! I found journalling helps me process/digest and make sense of experience to the deeper level my mind works at, as well as letting my mind noodle freely on things - more of a daydreaming type vibe. Music helps me resonate or vibe with the emotional tonality of experience and really feel that. Natural daylight, candlelight or dimmed lighting is preferable to artificial lighting (bright cool-toned artificial lights are the worst). Peace and quiet time if available, or plug in to some healing sounds. Reading books vs on screens. Essentially, just being really gentle with myself - giving myself time. It helps to explain it fully to other people; or may naturally interpret withdrawal as being moody, hostile, negative, selfish or anti-social. My eldest (also Empathic HSP) calls it recharging her social battery, which makes total sense. Kinda social fatigue? Or sensory overwhelm? Other keys I've found helpful in explaining to others are: taking Retreat time/quiet time/alone time/respite or a rest cure. These tend to be better understood and respected in Eastern cultures vs Western where the constantly busy/active/social go-getter may, in some circles, be reinforced as a societal or cultural ideal.

[@gregoryagogo]

I've Mastered saying NO, to the point of too much avoidance!

[@Cymricus]

Gregory May same. i think maybe there is a subset of us (extrovert tendencies?) that learns this skill and turns it on ourselves to protect us. i saw another lady say she burned out her adrenal gland trying to be like everybody else. both your comments are resonating with me right now...hoping to find healing and to keep believing because i am so attuned to what others believe around me that i want to just call bullshit on myself and say i’m just pathetic and melancholy and emo. i want so badly to fit in because of safety but i don’t because it feels empty and wrong.

[@showyouhow3801]

Thank you Dr. Aron and Shari Dyer for letting me know I'm not going insane. Finally after 50ish years... this changed my life.

[@tamaravicere9458]

Wow! "The wound with no name". Perfect title. It's been a very, very difficult life. Many good days but recently very difficult days.

[@mariamkinen8036]

Being an ISP/empath is a blessing and not a curse. Embrace your own values. Thank you.💕

[@syrenarainbow9310]

I love Elaine Aron's ability to be very aware of the struggle of life for many people out there...

[@yvsiggy8611]

Syrena Rainbow that's a deep and beautiful comment!

[@Shari225]

Please be respectful and civil with your comments. Any abuse to this request will result in my deleting your posts. Thank you.

[@alexandravelika6610]

Shari Dyer zoou your really highly sensitive

[@devika2024]

Thank you for posting this,🌸🌸

[@veronica222]

Thank you so much for sharing these videos. I can't believe it took me ten years to find them but wow, Dr. Aron's work is so important 😮🙏🏼 Such a gift to have these teachings. Thanks again.

[@MissMadeleine9]

This all makes so much sense to me. My (former) boss told me about HSP when she said I was one after I told her I could hear every conversation in the room. She said, "filter them out," and I explained that I cannot do that. My body visibly tenses when there's too much noise, too much movement, too many people around me. My friends have banned me from Walmart because I get over-stimulated and it makes me crabby, lol. On the plus side, I was followed/stalked once but was so aware of the man's presence behind and near me (he was trying to be discreet) that I went for help.

[@itisfinishednowtimetoclean2723]

OMGosh, me too (stalked)! I am quiet sure my HSP character traits saved me. We are so accommodating, sometimes to our own detriment. It’s utterly exhausting, self care can be a real challenge. Especially when others love your “energy/company…

[@DoofenSpyroDragon16]

Man, I’ve had countless people tell me to “tune stuff out” and it is not easy!! I remember one time I was at a restaurant with my family and it happened to have a TV playing some medical footage of someone getting a shot (which gets me anxious easily because of past hospital experiences I’m not getting into) and I remember my dad telling me to ignore it, but when you’re highly sensitive, it’s not easy. It’s just not easy. Not to mention I also somehow feel the pain through the screen, it’s hard to explain. I wish people would stop using syringe and medical footage for that reason, for people like us. Do HSPs a favor, news outlets!!

[@lindagerdner4311]

That is exactly what people say to me, just put your past behind you - forget about it. Also I pick up on things about people that others can not see in the beginning. It seems so obvious to me - others figure it out after it has all hit the fan.

[@makaylahollywood3677]

Thank you so much for this informative and valuable topic. I've been labeled gifted, sensitive, and emotional. My mother made it seem like I was over emotional, but, I'm highly independent and self reliant and responsible. I feel deeply, but very in control, empathic and good natured.

[@StefaniaCzech]

Thank you so much Elaine Aron, I now feel like I understand my unique brand of MEness!

[@Shari225]

***** Please support the documentary if you can. Share it for sure. The more funding, the better the movie. Thank you! www.kickstarter.com/projects/1795131939/sensitive-the-untold-story

[@shanecole741]

the opening and closing songs is soo soothing....

[@joys2218]

yes, very soothing....

[@gregoryagogo]

My whole life feels like a failure... I've avoided doing everything because I feel over stimulated by everything... I'm having to face my anxiety and get a job out of necessity, and feels overwhelming...but I have to do it despite how I feel....don't know how that is going to go. But all my life, I set up my job/home/school... then it would fall apart because I couldn't do it all... over and over again... finally ended up on disability.

[@marycatherinelin]

+Gregory May many in the autism/aspergers community (including myself) are pretty pissed off at the way Dr. Aron has created this fake diagnosis for what's really the near end of the autism spectrum. My life has gotten infinitely better since I've learned about autism as a neurological type, not a disorder, and the ways in which I can optimize my life as an autistic person, in terms of creating the right living environemtn and especially food. The Intense World Syndrome explains all of this. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2518049/

[@gregoryagogo]

Every day is a struggle. My automatic coping mechanism is avoidance. That causes it's own set of problems. I don't know what do do about this.

[@gregoryagogo]

thanks for the link

[@vitov58]

+Gregory May I understand, I believe this trait has ruined a good part of my life. Trying to learn how to deal with it now and maybe salvage whats left.

[@gregoryagogo]

+Vito V Just gettin' through it! Discovering an avoidant and OCD traits now, fun! Actually, more exhausting!

[@yourenough3]

I do feel mentally drained alot. I have insomnia. I do take medication to help me sleep. These lectures are so helpful. Thank you! I have went no contact with my family of origin and that has helped. I am really focusing on my daughter and school issues and that really has me stressed out. ❤

[@beatajenice]

Extremely interesting, feels like she is talking about me!

[@joys2218]

i still keep reminding myself it's okay to be different....thank you

[@johnm1585]

Thank you so much for posting these videos. The book by Dr. Aron. Has helped me see my behavior differently, as well as my life experiences. The strategies help with my relationships even though I on my started with it this past June. Again thank you and thank you Dr. Aron.

[@Shari225]

I'm very pleased they help you, John. It makes is so worthwhile to do the work!

[@carlillingworth88]

Sensitivity is a problem solving tool. If you're not sensitive, you're more able to filter things out and so you can ignore a problem. Only by being more sensitive, can a problem bother you enough to motivate you to look for a solution.

[@gianniclaud]

God bless this woman. I cried through a lot of this and realize how much I need to change my habits of using AirPods to drown out noise is almost counter-intuitive when all I really need to do is find some natural quiet space and zone out for a bit (which is increasingly becoming a luxury where I am, so much noise/chaos in major metropolitan areas).

[@lindagerdner4311]

I have known known many of these things about myself, and I have figured out how to adapt. It is so helpful to listen to someone who understand and to know there are others out there who are like me.

[@Sorg22]

Thank you Dr. Aron. I discovered this diagnosis yesterday listening to an interview with rapper André 3000 from the group OutKast. I had also been paying attention to the personality of Kanye West that same day, and learning about hypersensitivity has helped me understand the ditch difficulties of my own life. Thank you for your caring and your thoughtful work.

[@andrewmcdonald6987]

I am so glad I found Elaine. I now know I am normal. I work 3 days only. Mediation, walk, swim outside, kayaking etc and live in the country now.

[@Awesome4108]

Thank you for posting... wow, things are making so much sense tonight.

[@Shari225]

Awesome4108 For some reason, the messages aren't recording the whole website. The beginning is www.kickstarter.com/projects/ than 1795131939/sensitive-the-untold-story Please support this documentary if you can. Share it for sure. The more funding, the better the movie. Thank you!

[@AL-cv3qt]

I am an anxious and sensitive person and one time I thought everything, all the symptoms I had, were related to Bipolar Disorder. That was really scary for me since Im hypochondriac. Of course I was wrong because I never had clinical depression or hypomania. It's just that Im more sensitive compare other people. It's not something my friends can notice as everything I feel is hidden, i don't show too much my emotions, it's a paradox i know, but they know Im more sensitive and anxious person. All the HSP symptoms i can relate to them ; i can't stand loud noises, bright lights, coffee, being around lot of people for too long. I can feel what people think or their emotion. It makes me nervous if someone is nervous. I absolutely need to be alone sometime to relax. i can stay alone at my appartment for 2/3 days and feel happy with it. I can cry of hapiness when seeing a beautiful landscape... It's not all that easy and I have the feeling Im very weak sometimes. So I get sad more often. To help, i have a very healthy life, good sleep, good food ( i take lot of omega 3 and magnesium) no alcohol or at least very little as I know my limits. Now I want to learn how to meditate... I suffer from anxiety and this so exhausting sometimes. Thank you for your videos. (sorry for my english im french)

[@marycatherinelin]

+Luna Donna All of the things you say are helpful to me as well, and I have all the characteristics you describe, but I recognize that I am on the autism spectrum, as a neurological type, not a disorder. Have you looked into the characteristics of women with autism? It's very helpful to understand your biology. I even got the 23andme.com test results showing that I have all of the known genes associated with autism. Women with aspergers are very different than men, and thus often misdiagnosed. It has been unbelievably helpful to me to understand my unique biology and how to adapt my diet to one that is more apporpriate for me. Thanks for sharing your story. taniaannmarshall.wordpress.com/2013/03/26/moving-towards-a-female-profile-the-unique-characteristics-abilities-and-talents-of-asperwomen-adult-women-with-asperger-syndrome/

[@angelareed6273]

i get told by my boss that i am a hypochondriac and that these things drs say i have is cause they want the insurance money so they dx me with things that i dont have, just grow a pair of balls and a backbone and dont be so lazy

[@marycatherinelin]

I'm sorry to hear your employer is so abusive.

[@sofiajaneiro9121]

Luna Donna hi Luna, I understand you so well. Can you a have a job?

[@Shari225]

I'm sorry to hear all this. I do encourage you to learn how to meditate. It will help a lot.

[@genleong4248]

The link between HSPs and belief in global warming is mind-blowing to me (: I always thought it was weird I cared so much

[@gilliansernich9267]

Your comment about global warming hit me straight in the heart. Yes!

[@soulfulandallthat]

This talk felt like medicine to my mind

[@kimsherlock8969]

Kindness is a wonderful friend.

[@GettnBooted]

Getting Older helps too y'all since ive turned 50 I can tell unsensates to bugger off a lot easier and I can literally take thoughts that nag me or drag me down ( from internal or external sources ) and I take my hands and ball it up and physically toss it aside, often!

[@Korschtal]

I've noticed this too. At 40 I can now tell people to stop trying to make me do stuff on the basis I know I won't like it and at 40 I think I'm experienced enough to decide for myself thank you very much. Actually that's why I'm here at the moment because today was supposed to be a seminar where we played games together. Not going to happen...

[@rebekavitez8965]

Good for you, I just turned 36 and still cant say no, and constantly find myself in situations I dont want to be in, because I feel like I have to do everything they ask me tó, even the things they dont ask me to

[@dreamweaver2349]

I am highly sensitive, but learned how to adjust. Had a really rough childhood, but I'm sure many have. I think I have become more strong. I don't believe in the global warming so much because of the history and what we knew. We didn't have machines that could track the weather. This has happened before. I personally like to think of it as, The Global warming is a reference to: People are warming up to one another. The earth is very capable of taking care of herself, that is not to say we should do are part, but hey, the earth is vibes and weather is a reflection of our attitude. Get it? Tide, tude? When your angry how is the weather? Sunshine makes us happy, smile. As within, so without.. As above, so below. Thank you, good information.

[@Shalom_Mike]

Yeah, I was really enjoying the talk until the Global Warming topic came up. Or now "Climate Change"... After doing so much research I have found the so many of the true experts (Climatologist) are the ones that are least likely to believe in man-made global warming. They might agree that the temperature is changing, yet they are very hesitant to ascribe "blame" (like a good scientist should). :)

[@karenpalmer9104]

Thank you! I'm so glad to have ran across this. Helps me understand myself better and gave me ideas how to handle myself a little better. No one else does. Well my son does. And he's a very important part of my life. Thanks again.

[@mazey2fresh605]

I found out I was a HSP couple of days ago now I’m here for understanding because I feel people don’t understand me or treat me like I’m a weird person but this explains so much of my personality thank you 🙏🏾

[@AVADAMS1967]

Thank you so much for the side comment about sun in people's eyes. It helps me see I am not co-dependent as I had long feared, but as an HSP, I am tuned into what other people need.

[@swordwhale1]

OMG YOU JUST NAILED MY WHOLE LIFE, YES!!! Accurate talk is accurate!

[@musizze1596]

Thanks for the "HSP recipe" to living more freely ❤

[@LibertyCairde]

I don’t have time daily to spend in silence, but I get every other weekend and I use it to recharge in silence and with music. I just ordered “Highly Sensitive Parent”. I hope it will help me with overstimulation because I’m a single mom of 3 and get overwhelmed. Thank you for this research and information!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@RISERefuge]

This is such valuable and precious advice and things that I have naturally discovered and learnt over the years. I understand sensitivity as a continuum...from v low (de-sensitised) to v high (hyper- or extra- sensitive). I think we all have a natural/innate capacity but that this can be affected by experience, tone of experience and levels of external stimuli. It's definitely harder with all the informational and attention demands.

[@Cymricus]

the wound with no name made me ugly cry. i don’t get to ugly cry much anymore so i appreciate everything about this talk and especially that part. the ramifications of an unnamed demon wreak havoc in the stories just as they do in real life. how do you dispel a curse that is so elusive, even those who worked to reinforce it didn’t know they were doing so? even calling it by “no name” lessens its power though and is a naming of sorts. whew that’s heavy stuff. thanks so much

[@gashamurray2536]

I am so Grateful for this video. OMG this is me. It is like she knows me. My daughter is highly sensitive as well and i can change my parenting method to meet her needs. God bless you

[@mariamkinen8036]

Thank you dr. Elaine Aron

[@missylee3022]

I want to mention that as a sensory seeking hsp, headphones actually help me unwind, although I do need a break from them as well

[@katiem7688]

Thank you for talking about the effect of global warming on HSPs

[@gayleaustin9448]

I want to marry this woman!!!!!!!! She has made me feel so much joy in hearing my thoughts and” wacky beliefs validated.

[@jyotivyas9286]

Thank you Dr Adorable❤😊Love n Deeper Respect. 😊🎉❤💐Namaste। .ॐ श्री

[@jennifercowick9976]

Such a relief to me to learn this about myself ☺️🙌thank you 🙏🏽

[@DataMysterium]

I start crying in 9.53 min, and it's make me sad when people think of me as naive, not a HSP

[@ralphw7950]

"Lean on your friends that understand your sensitivity." I don't have those.

[@rachell4417]

Brilliant. I hear you. Thank you. I need to reframe my life!!

[@maxwellcooper2]

Thank you Dr. Aron and Thank you Shari Dyer for sharing this talk with us.

[@Shari225]

You are quite welcome. :-)

[@americafirst2060]

I hate it when I am actually getting things done in a day and then the temperature, sunlight, humidity changes, makes my body feel weird and ruins the level of energy and focus I had for a few hours. Eating also ruins my energy level and focus about 50% of the time. It would probably be best for me if I would just fast all day with water and lemon and then ate 1 meal in the evening.

[@sumayah8823]

Maybe you should look into fasting in Islam. Muslims fast for 30 days from sunrise to sunset ( eating meals between the two at night). It might be kind of what you're looking for :)

[@Cymricus]

lol i do these experiments and this is why i’m in a constant state of emotional flux. i can’t help myself but try, but i think she’s onto something when she suggests a lifestyle with some structure based around being sensitive

[@chrismedina3955]

That is actually a great idea. Research has shown that to be healthy and logical. In the wild, we’d need the most energy in SEARCH for food not AFTER we’ve eaten it. After a meal, most animals tend to relax or sleep.

[@viewsonic2040]

America First Mindfulness Emotional inteligence Intermitent fasting That’s what you need

[@htadelle]

Such insightful advice! Thank you for your work!

[@Wewillwin10]

Makes me finally understand ME. And why I love dim lit rooms. 😅 wish I knew 40 years ago, could have managed better

[@mercytowett1386]

Before I came to know I was HSP; sometimes I thought I was cursed, selfish, abnormal etc because of the comments I got from people around me.

[@guharup]

I have found that I perform much better in highly stimulating situations if my senses are dulled in some way - through pain, illness or even drink. Possibly that's the reason performing artists tune their senses down before appearing in front of large animated crowds in highly charged environments.

[@amellowman]

I’m curious now to find out the relationship between sensory processing sensitivity and addiction.

[@mariamkinen8036]

The HSP types are totally secured within n inside their own self. They are happy to be sociable when they feel like it. With a group of friends known to them.

[@johng9265]

The connection between HSPs and concern about climate change is very interesting. I've always struggled to understand why most people are acting like everything is fine

[@penelopelambson9128]

The decay of morality, education, the collapse of our national borders, the brutal murdering infants, the radical decline of individual accountability for life in general... these hit my high sensitivity/empathy very hard. One has to wonder whether to ignore it all to stay sane, or go down fighting.

[@Shari225]

I'm so with you on that!

[@sukule7640]

Thank you so much for mentioning the global warming. In fact there is nobody in my surrounding who takes it as serious as me and has it on his mind concerning every step in life.❤

[@Allen204]

Global warming is b.s. research it. We got bigger problems lol.

[@msafirimhehe]

This is great! Thank you..

[@Megaloryan]

I love this. We're not overly sensitive, or that we're responding to external stimuli the "wrong" way or that it is in fact just us deliberately being too sensitive in certain situations. I am reading one of Elaines books, I'm learning so much and it's great. The one thing I will say though, I'm not worried about Global warming. As a Geologist, I accept that although we can do things to reduce how much waste we put out, pollution etc. It would be unnatural to prevent Global warming, it's a normal part of the Earth cycle, earth cools and warms, halting it would be unnatural. Humans are intelligent creatures, we need to advance, part of the journey is exploiting the resources we have to better ourselves. It's not the best way, but humans don't work that way, climate activism seems as pointless as protesting that Earth orbits the Sun. Just wanted to clear that up. Love the talk though, so many insights.

[@sharidyer4332]

Worry then about the trash pollution of the oceans, the thousands of oil tankers that have been left stranded on the seas - an accident waiting to happen, the lack of habitat for the wildlife due to immense clear cutting, the dangerously poor air quality in cities (pre-Covid-19) and overpopulation. Don't call it global warming, call it a global man-made disaster.

[@Megaloryan]

@@sharidyer4332 I worry about many things in my life, but I'm an individual, not a drone part of a collective and I will think for myself and not assume that, as I'm sensitive that I've got some kind of obligation to adhere to some sort of environmentalism based concern. I don't disagree with you on the idea that we've got to mitigate, reduce, reuse materials and resources and we are in many cases, but I won't subscribe to the idea that as a person with high sensitivity that I should have worry or concern about a specific issue. Let me tell you about something, mass extinction events. Firstly Humans live about 80 years on average right? The Earth has been floating about for about 4 and a half Billion years, our concept of time is very limited because our life time in Earth terms is nothing. About 260 million years ago, Geoscientists discovered that there was a Mass extinction event as a result of massive long lasting volcanic eruptions, it wiped out 90% of all Ocean life and over 70% of life on land. So far as we've been able to discern, no Human civilisation existed back then, no plastic, no vehicles, no industry. Earth did all that damage all on its own and guess what, it heals itself with time too. This isn't a fabrication. Time is on Earths side. Not ours. There are asteroids the size of cities racing about in space too, danger is everywhere. Can't worry about it all, I can see how you might, but I've got to live. I am with you in the context that we should cut back on pollution, dumping waste, etc got to cut back on a bunch of things, for certain China needs to step up to that more than any state. Their cities are in a woeful condition, the Yellow river dolphin is most likely extinct, because of their heavy pollution from industrialisation. Still, mankind needed and still needs to industrialise in order to develop, we can't just stop, that's not good for us. The real problem is that, ultimately, there are too many people on this planet, overpopulation. Sadly, there isn't a solution to that, that isn't irrational.

[@annyspb1]

You lovely lady. Bless you.

[@barbh1]

I found it easy to understand the difference between introverts, which I am, and extroverts, which is a good friend of mine. I heard our energy banks described this way: the introvert's battery is drained by having to be around people too much, and the extrovert's is drained by having to be alone too much.

[@ddq57sm64]

Thank You.

[@yourenough3]

Yes. I cannot let the past go. Its almost theres a video recorder going through my mind about things as far as 5 years of age and i am now 45 years old. I replay these " tapes" in my mind and it wont shut off. Its awful.

[@Shari225]

Please don't use this platform for posts that are unrelated to the subject of being an HSP. They don't belong here, and I will delete them. Thank you.

[@Amy-55]

Shari Dyer

[@xamilshahriar736]

Take love from bottom of my heart Elaine Aron❤

[@itisfinishednowtimetoclean2723]

Good intuition, make good choices. Love details, learning…. Amazing, how true this is. I wonder if HSP people are at a high risk for autoimmune illness. We are seers of the “Big Picture”. Which sometimes painful. I often feel like a battle weary ship limping back home! Bothered by mass extinctions, global warming…. I agree that being with other HSPs is like a religious experience very mutually beneficial.

[@PeacePlease.]

vERY INTERESTING IN4. THANKS 4 POSTING!!

[@peassuncao]

Is our default way of awareness focus a key? I went shopping today, and i was already tired before going. When i got to the shopping center, it was full of people. To protect myself i started looking down, keeping my eyes down. This protected my energy. I them started sometimes to look just at things that interested me. My eyes would jump from one place to the other and them down. This worked. Going back home, walking the street, my focus would go to some sound or to the wind on my skin or the eyes would keep jumping from one thing to another and sometimes down. This change of focus from one thing to another happened naturally. I realized i had changed my focus, my awareness, from an all around vision/perception to the thing that interested me most. This seems to work great. Have you tried something like this?

[@MollySato]

Thank you so much for this! So much has become clearer to me of who I am and why.. So much.. Much love and blessings ♥

[@Shari225]

Molly Sato Please support the documentary if you can. Share it for sure. The more funding, the better the movie. Thank you! @projects/1795131939/sensitive-the-untold-story

[@Shari225]

Shari Dyer The link starts www.kickstarter.com/projects/ than the numbers, etc.

[@HSP-TLA]

Many High Sensing men, sadly do not have friends. Largely because we have this negative sigma of men who are sensitive. Thus men have few if anyone to lean on, leading to greater depression in sensitive men.

[@angelareed6273]

cant lean on friends cause i don't have any , cause 1. i am scared to get to know people cause iknow they wont like me.2.the one i thought was a friend talks to me like grow a back bone, or balls.. don't take things so personally, so i don't have anyone to help me when i am over senstive about things, sometimes i will just sit there and cry or cry in the shower and not know why i am crying

[@louisedisguise8692]

You’re likeable Angela, I promise you. I don’t even know you, but I already kind of like you just because I can relate to what you wrote. It’s really tough when people don’t understand, especially friends. However, you are you, and therefore you’re likeable, lovable even. We ‘just’ have to find the people who can see that loveableness in our uniqueness. They’re out there, promise. I’ve had huge help from CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy), and I’m actually taking that up again this Thursday. I can really recommend it. If you find a good therapist that you connect with, and then just be brutally honest and a bit open minded, it’s the best thing.

[@Kristen_85]

Angela Reed If I had a dollar for everytime I heard "stop letting things get to you" "youre overly emotional" "pull yourself together" Id be rich as hell. Lets be friends!

[@angelareed6273]

Kristen Renfro Louise Disguise thanks for you both and the information, really helps thank you..

[@Korschtal]

@Angela Reed: May I respectfully suggest that you have a backbone, you show this by making it thus far in life with HSPS. I was told similar things when I had a breakdown during my carpentry training. I needed support and had to take the exam earlier so that I could get away from the toxic situation and there are still people who say this is evidence of 'weakness', instead of seeing the very fact I managed to graduate despite the breakdown s a sign of strength. They don't get it. You are stronger than you think.

[@Cymricus]

Angela Reed 💛

[@hamadah4]

These 2 videos are great! Thanks for uploading!

[@mohamedbaghdadi8162]

hamadah4 I think I am the last one who discovered your presentations which were very enlightening and helpful. I think I am hyper sensitive because I go into tears even if someone is praising me! I am relived when you cited the positive side of HSP, however, I do not want to cry in public whenever I am praised. By the way my childhood was very difficult, to say the least.

[@Shirden]

I stopped watching television, listening to the radio, and reading newspapers 30 years ago because it was too much for me. plus, I recognized how those things were manipulating people into codependency dynamics

[@yourenough3]

As far as global warming. They showed a commercial the other day of dieing polar bears and it was so sad. The polar bears in the commercial were so thin and they looked so distraught. Thats another image i cannot erase from my mind. 😭😢

[@jodirollins]

I am for sure an HSP, but global warming does not touch me the way she describes. While it’s a concern, I’m more concerned about homelessness and racism and mental health, concerns and healthcare for everyone. So not all HSP’s are affected by the same things but we definitely all are affected. Thanks for the work you do this has all changed my life.

[@gianniclaud]

You have to remember this was delivered in a very different era. Post-covid, MANY issues take precedent over climate change (global warming).

[@Luanapradines]

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS!

[@sharidyer4332]

You are quite welcome! I made this video for you and all of us. Do please share.

[@harriscountyaudits9639]

How do you find a way to fight against this personality? Because often we are "too much" for people.

[@Josh-pe5pl]

Enjoyed your talk, your demeanor, and all I'm learning from you. I am clearly an HSP with CFS. But you blew it by bringing up global warming with your wider You-Tube audience. It probably went over beautifully where you were speaking bc you could sense them and, more-so, because you live in one of the most liberal parts of the US. But bringing that hot political topic up went over like a lead balloon with me. I suppose you could tie the topic loosely to your intuition. There's merit in the research results of many experts who have no financial-gain-dog in the fight in the form of grants and public monies. More than that, though, you hit one of my HS nerves 😱 based on principle: a hot political issue injected into what I saw as credible work. Now I'm a bit skeptical. But keep ion with your laudable efforts...overall, you are helping us!

[@Shari225]

Elaine does not monitor the KZbin videos I make concerning her. Her comment was made to an audience totally in agreement with her views. For that audience, it wasn't/isn't politics, it was/is just a fact. I'm very happy you found some benefit with the rest of her comments.

[@mariamkinen8036]

💜💕💛. We are one. Love you.

[@CJ-eh3ng]

HSP have strong analytical understanding, knowing what others need on a nurturing level....first hsp need to realize it's best to do , soul searching and take care of your own nurturing needs. Look at yourself as being more in touch with special powers. Take care of you .... that way your not abused.

[@Shari225]

The DVD is finally out! Search for KeiganProductions and click on the HSP Video button on the right. Elaine Aron has told me that it will be on her website (click HSP Store and scroll down) on August 15.

[@Shirden]

@10:55 that's me! I've never been able to keep a job, I've never been in a healthy relationship(Intimate or otherwise). I'm 51 years old and things are becoming progressively worse for me. I was severely abused for the first 16 years of my life by my mom, brother, step-mom, and grandmother. My mother abuses me still.

[@dipankardas3469]

I m an HSP. I have been feeling sick from last 40 days,I don't have strength, little fever all the time, muscle pain. Does this happen to HSP body? Maybe, it's Fibromyalgia. Writing after 2 years: I used my body so much to survive with the world, I developed osteoarthritis at 32 years of age.The world is not to designed for us. It's very hard.

[@GettnBooted]

I can tell y'all this too cut off ur coffee by mid day or by three at latest and get as many refined sugars out of ur diet...I think the keto diet high fat moderate protein diet may be a good way to help level you out too...do research and ask ur doctor of course but I do sleep better when I eat that way and I feel better over all...when I over carb im wired!!

[@Methoduz1]

GettnBooted thanks for the advice! i already started cutting down on carbs but i have some way to go until i turn 50... now i'm excited about it tho, go figure. lol!

[@thewoundedhealer4950]

Thank you. I would love to be around other highly sensitive people. Unfortunately I don't know any.

[@Shari225]

You probably do, and don't know it. One out five people are Highly Sensitive. But they probably don't know it either. If you suspect that someone might be, show him or her the video, or send them to www.hsperson.com. There is also a Highly Sensitive Person group on FaceBook.

[@thewoundedhealer4950]

Shari Dyer, thank you for taking the time to respond. Yes, I'm sure you are right about that. I myself for the majority of my life did not know there actually is a term for my sensitive nature.