Are you a trustworthy person? Ask a Psychopath

We all know someone with psychopathy.
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But few know the truth about it. We’re helping change that… by helping you know the signs. Know about treatment options and resources. And know you’re not alone.
James Fallon is a professor of neuroscience at University of California at Irvine, and the author of the book The Psychopath Inside. He considers himself a "prosocial psychopath."
He joins us today on zoom to discuss what it is like to be psychopathic.

[@lizjane1349]

I think he's basically saying he has no "moral compass" but is able to adhere to certain behaviours that he knows are socially representative of trust (eg: punctuality). I know a psychopath who is undiagnosed, if he was I suspect he would not be a borderline case. He is obsessively punctual, and obsessively adheres to certain behaviours that "represent" trustworthiness to others - but clearly the internal moral compass is completely absent

[@internetcancer1672]

> moral compass How would you define that?

[@asdfghyter]

@@internetcancer1672 an innate sense of morality and an innate desire to follow said morality

[@ohmynoche]

well said

[@leafster1337]

i know someone the same, and reddit is his moral compass...

[@lizjane1349]

@@leafster1337 Social media.. a blessing and a curse perhaps

[@plunderersparadise]

-are you trustworthy? -10 mins later *Always* there and stuff

[@jazmin6031]

Would be cool to interview his family

[@caziis13]

He did it already, I think you can find it in here (yt)

[@sirkermitthefirstoffrogeth9622]

​@@caziis13where?

[@MimiMadness94]

So basically you can trust him to be on time and be where he says he is and mostly tell the truth. He plays by “the rules” so in a way that most people follow these rules most of the time so does he. What you cant trust is that he wont do anything to cause you harm in a situation where it would be a grey area in the rules or he will gain something he wants because he doesnt have the ability to consider your feelings. Sounds like most people honestly.

[@QuiK075]

This is an actual scientist Md in brain, he has psychopath traits and is married. His name is Jim Fallon look him up before judging someone because of what you see or don’t know. If it wasn’t for psychopaths there wouldn’t be smart people out there doing great things for other humans not killing.

[@professionalcommenter]

He's never had a close relationship with someone, so him being trustworthy doesn't apply in this context for him. But, in terms of like what he is describing like being on time to work or an appointment, then yes, he is trustworthy. But, telling your inner darkest secrets to him and then expecting him to be trusted with them, then no. Because a psychopath will think of ways to exploit weakness. Even if they don't act on that thought, it's still there.

[@spicyjoeflaminfajitas]

Yeah pretty much everyone. Except this guy is being honest about everything instead of just doing and saying what you’re “supposed to”

[@qbb01]

The difference is most neurotypicals will consider whether the gain is worth causing the harm. They will stop and think about it, and you will be surprised to find that people will reject gains if it causes significant harm to someone else. Aka we rationalise it based on current and future emotions and empathy. The psychopath won't blink before they decide to accept the gain, irrespective of the person who will be harmed. They will be more likely to think 'will I receive negative consequences FOR MYSELF that outweigh the gain?' e.g. go to jail for something not worth it. Definitely lacking in empathy and definitely not the same as NT's.

[@isaiahromero9861]

@@qbb01 woah, kinda weird for you to imply people who aren't neurotypical don't have empathy. A lot of autistic people and people with ADHD are the most empathetic people on earth, what is your idea of neurodivergent?

[@farmer4785]

I appreciate him explaining the gray area and concepts of it. You really would have to dictate what you feel is trustworthy; is it just being reliable and competent, is it being able to tell someone something in confidence, or is it feeling like you can believe the info you're given without feeling like it's a lie and your being tricked. Many of these things can be opinion based and a relatively healthy adult can decipher them, a child not so much. And trust is a spectrum. We all to various degrees are trustworthy and I love how he points it out and explains it.

[@coalblooded]

Exactly, it's not just one little thing, cut-and-dry.

[@christopherhorn1161]

I'm pretty upfront, don't trust me, and im only dealing with you because you are useful. Hopefully you benefit, because i will.

[@kriskaymusic2]

Wow

[@luna-mt7sf]

I'm not a psychopath nor a sociopath and I have this same idea , this is the truth , even if u don't know about it u still use others for ur benefit ,it's in our blood you even make friends to not feel lonely , you adopt a pet to support you emotionally , your good to your co-workers/classmates to make a good reputation and good allies ,you help strangers down the street cuz u think it's a "good deed" that helps u get to heaven , you even get children and support them to pay you back when they grow up and get a job , or at least, to get compliments from strangers for being the parent of a successful child etc.... We all do this by nature , we pay back kindness with kindness cuz we wanna keep our allies by our side like an army to use later

[@ekay4495]

At least your honest, just don't harm others, as I'm sure you wouldnt like to be harmed either

[@ekay4495]

I don't think most people view everything in life as a transaction, I can help someone cause I can PUT MYSELF IN THEIR SITUATION (EMPATHY), a trait Psychopaths simply lack@@luna-mt7sf

[@-X-_]

​@@luna-mt7sf that sounds like something a psychopath would say :p

[@tombackhouse9121]

This guy is a renowned neuroanatomist with decades of experience, who pals around with psychologists professionally. It always amazes me how many armchair experts pop up beneath his videos and start trying to correct him; "Actually technically I think he means...", "Actually he's not a psychopath because...", "Actually according to the DSM-5..." I feel like whatever you're about to say, he probably already knows.

[@holdshiftt2run308]

People think a little info makes them an expert.

[@mashakalinkina7207]

If anything, its just observational. Folks arent ssying im an expert over this guy, theyre just reporting back their view from the info they have had access to. I know what you mean but would take it from a different point of view. Youre mad people are acting like experts wgen theyre just reporting what theyve observed from their experiences, real life, tv, reading etc. it makes sense.

[@bradleyboyer9979]

I disagree. While what you're saying is probably technically true (and in practice I would feel the same way), this type of thinking is what leads people to never question "experts" who are fallible just like the rest of us. There is already a person in the comments who talks about the "experts" on COVID without having any idea how most experts feel about COVID and while just accepting anything they were told on the news during COVID. I agree that in practice, you're probably correct, but philosophically, it is generally bad to say that no one can question an expert. Yeah, it will lead to us having to listen to some really dumb opinions, but that's better than the alternative.

[@BDub2024]

I don't think he has anything valuable to say at all, though it was interesting he couldn't even really define what trust is.

[@squirlmy]

@@BDub2024 What motive does he have for doing the interview? How does this evil scheme benefit him? Is it to collect insults from people on YT like you?

[@mishi144]

He reeeally danced around that one. The answer is no.

[@farmer4785]

It's a spectrum was his point. He can be trustworthy in a reliable sense and his family can go to him.

[@ChrisCanoeshoe]

He's a scientist. Absolutes are not a thing in science.

[@brycat8033]

He broke the question down in the different aspects of what trustworthy could mean so it was thorough

[@luftim]

I am 79% psychopathic acording to a test online.. But I feel remorse for animals and humans, specially if I think that I would hurt them, I could not be able to do so with out any cause

[@greatvid4648]

He doesn't know what trust is. Reliability is as close to a feeling as he understands

[@debee1471]

The fact that he equated trustworthiness to being on time should tell you everything 😅

[@invisiblemissx]

3:30 - There are no 'tells' because they don't feel guilt or remorse about anything. This makes psychopaths so believable!

[@ravenID429]

Or anxious

[@JuanPabloBerthoud]

Short answer: NO, Don't be fooled by his charming long talking and avoidance of responding, the sweet background music and his gaslighting on what the question really was.

[@kriskaymusic2]

Oh but after reading the comments sadly I see they’re getting fooled good 😂😂

[@nelsontorres7460]

I was like “where is the gaslighting?” But nope, found it1:52 I’m sure there is more but yep, deflecting responsibility and stuff it’s pretty funny

[@QWERTYUIOP-wu6ht]

He's a self-admitted psychopath so what the heck are you going to expect? of course there will be some gaslighting. Duh!

[@melodiefrances3898]

He has no idea what trust actually means ...

[@fofo_9860]

That’s exactly what I thought!!

[@jdm1066]

He takes over 4 minutes to evade the question in every possible way all while smiling. "You can Trust me" -Every Psychopath

[@mikeyerian2562]

Yeah it was 4 minutes of nothing substantial, relying on superficial charm.

[@Tedanson]

creepy dude

[@Beyond-Poker369]

Just your judgemwnt on that mirror my love 😘 ❤️

[@K1LLmatic]

Pyscopaths will always be manipulative and dishonest. They pick their words VERY carefully… don’t be duped. Respond with it’s a YES or NO answer. I could never have these kinds of people in my personal life pThey give me the creeps.

[@coalblooded]

But it's not a "yes or no" answer. There are many types of trust, with different meanings and levels of importance, all of which are subjective from person to person. If he had just said "yes" he would clearly be lying, as would anybody who answered it that way.

[@slow_nikto]

So in short the answer is no 😂

[@michaelfleming8490]

“I don’t know what trust is.” ...proceeds to back that up to-a-T. He thinks trust is having ppl rely on your punctuality.

[@ravenswood118]

Lmao, that's what I was thinking.

[@ekay4495]

I thought it was sooo strange when he started talking about punctuality, either he doesn't wanna say No outright or cant even comprehend what trust means

[@Mad_Madalyn]

Okay, this answer overwhelmingly confirmed that he is not trustworthy, lol. Which isn't to say that he is dangerous. But most definitely dishonest and manipulative. I find this interesting to think about. Trust in the context of relationships is about honesty and respecting boundaries. If you're manipulative, you aren't these things and people can sense this.

[@whitepouch0904]

You got the words in my mind. Lol. He has a lot of nonsense wordings just to hide that he isn't trustworthy.

[@ericguerra4792]

I legitimately don't understand why his answer seems untrustworthy to you. What specifically made you feel that way? I felt he was being honest & not pretending to be what society tells you people should be.

[@farmer4785]

He's not dancing around the answer, he feels it's a spectrum meaning he can be trustworthy depending on what the context is.

[@_kikizaman_]

@@ericguerra4792 but didn’t you just say that you think you’re a psychopath on another video? So of course you see yourself as trustworthy, you don’t see through the lens that most do and no offence to you but you’re probably a little bit in denial about your manipulative tactics IF you really are a psychopath. Psychopaths ARE manipulative, it’s a hallmark trait of psychopaths. You CANNOT be a trustworthy person and be manipulative. That’s an oxymoron within itself.

[@_kikizaman_]

@Wyqid then ur not trustworthy, newsflash.

[@mmmfun77]

This man is a well renowned scientist. He was the one that found there was a significant difference between a normal Human brain and a psychopathic brain . He found the difference is in the anterior lobe or lack of it. He discovered , breaking protocol, his brain was the most psychopathic brain in the study in regards to the anterior lobe difference. He also found out Liz’s Bourdin was a relative of his. The are mental predators but there, obviously, on a large spectrum. I chose not to be in the presence of a psychopath. I know better then that. They charm and can influence you in ways you aren’t even aware of till your world is over.

[@MishTheMash]

Interviewer: Are you a trustworthy person? Psychopath: .....Yes, I'm very trustworthy....trust me on that.

[@theinterfaithshepherd9075]

A person who is trustworthy will not take 5 minutes to answer a simple question.

[@FadingAway10]

RIGHT 😂 I mean dude breaking them stuff and over analyzing a simple question, a bit annoying

[@willek1335]

It's worse. A trustworthy person might, if they're very into the subject, take a long time to define it. They're explaining something complex, and that can take time. If it has occupied a lot of their time, but they would eventually come to some sort of conclusion or answered your question with brevity, instead of what he does. What he's doing is dilute the definition of words. Normal people will do that a little bit, but not to the point of every thing being carefully scripted to "I'm a good guy actually :D He he (laughs and smiles for no reason)" He even makes you the fault for falling for his manipulation. "You're the reason you can't trust me." More red flags than a communist parade.

[@HardTimeBluesCafe]

To be fair, this is some kind of “educational” interview where he’s supposed to explain his POV.,

[@tad5920]

Now the creepy clown portrait at the lower left of the screen in his room kinda makes more sense...

[@thisorthat7626]

@TA D, I had to go back and look. Interesting, but creepy as you say.

[@coalblooded]

1:40 where he says he interprets them saying, "I can't trust you" to really mean them saying, "I can't trust myself with you" is spot on.

[@oliviamartini9700]

"Every teacher is a conman" says it all regarding the justification of his actions.

[@wolfie1027]

@brownincel6018college grads DO get good jobs. Everyone I know w a degree has a good job. What’s your definition of a “con artist”. A teacher isn’t the definition of a con artist.

[@jakeb.6487]

i don't think you were listening to what he was saying lol. he was saying there's a positive and a negative way to frame everything: i.e. you could make "convincing" a negative thing by describing anyone who's convincing as a "conman". i.e. "every teacher is a conman/convincing"

[@ESumner]

As a psychopath he’s way nicer than my ex with NPD. He’s pure vengeful evil.

[@dylanpenaflor]

psychopaths are more calm than narcissists .

[@ESumner]

@@dylanpenaflor what about sociopaths… mine seems more like ASPD at times too with his constant claim that he had no choice but to abuse, what was he SUPPOSED to do… and I know he really means it! He only ever has 1 solution, and it’s never the functional non demonic choice lol it’s always the vengeance related one.

[@ravenID429]

@@ESumnerThey can overlap

[@multitablez7825]

@@ESumner sociopaths are less fake and are more real to show who they are. psycopaths will do everything they can to hide who they are. sociopaths don't really care about their image unless it matters to what they want - career, money, etc. Both will hurt you if you let them get close.

[@Cendaya]

Psychopaths don’t want to see you fail and gain selfconfidence out of your faliures. Psychopaths let you win and don’t care if you are better than them, as long as they get what they want. Psychopaths don’t need applause, they just follow whatever they want in this Moment and what’s important for them. Narcissist need applause, because they are obssesed by being the good and better one. For example, a Psychopath at work will make everyone in his team shine in whatever work they do, because it also makes him look good. A Narcissist will make you fail just to feet his own ego and shine himself. That’s why i don’t like narcisstist. They Are worse to handle. A Psychopath is clear about his stuff. (Sorry for my english, i am from Germany) :)

[@DuckiesDad08]

A lot of these comments are truly negative and unhelpful. Imagine you get a window into a mysterious, taboo side of humanity and you go “Na naaa!”. Just appreciate the opportunity and stop trying to be “cool”.

[@nikkasatoru7102]

You've been manipulated. Good luck. 😉

[@farmer4785]

I agree John!

[@farmer4785]

@@nikkasatoru7102 You're proving John's point...

[@cmdjk1]

Unhelpful to who? What are you even talking about?

[@kayhaich]

Generally if someone sees a cute puppy and the title is cute puppy, they will say that is cute. If an untrustworthy psycho talks in an un trustworthy way, they say the guy is an untrustworthy psycho. It's not about popular consensus or being cool or even being negative. It's about calling the sky blue.

[@michaelfleming8490]

“Every teacher is a con-man...” These individuals can rattle on and on and on about delusional nonsense. If you think that because a teacher‘s job involves needing to convince students of certain things as part of the educational process makes them a “con-person,” you really are nuts.

[@farmer4785]

His point was a child trusts the information their teachers give them. A teacher can manipulate that and teach strong opinions instead of facts and ignore healthy concepts like research. That can mess with a child's way of thinking and even so called "brain wash" them if you will. He's not nuts he's simply explaining the spectrum of trust to state he can be in some contexts but struggles with others.

[@manueldeltoro9944]

Hes just explaining the complexities, trust isnt as black and white as people make it seem

[@Mo.1988]

Exactly he doesn’t directly answer questions

[@ravenswood118]

@@farmer4785 Yeah, that's not the same thing as a con man.

[@kriskaymusic2]

THANK YOUUU! Nothing but gaslighting , deflecting , lack of accountability and word salad the whole video finally someone with a brain 😂

[@Summer-ju4pj]

I think if you are a psychopath or a sociopath you need to have understanding of ethics or morals to follow, otherwise you just be really bad and evil and not have remorse .

[@plunderersparadise]

"technically, when you dont belive me you're borderline" 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I could listen to this the entire life

[@Tedanson]

If someone asked me if I'm a trustworthy person I'd say yes, not give some roundabout answer about what does that really mean. I trust this guy about as far as i can throw him and that ain't far!

[@YouAreNotCute]

Do people actually trust you though? Like, who puts their trust in you? Anyone?

[@Tedanson]

@@YouAreNotCute yes, friends, family, that shouldn't be hard for you to believe, unless you're projecting because people don't trust you.

[@YouAreNotCute]

​@@Tedanson When someone pops up and declares themselves trustworthy, it is not trustworthy behavior. When someone openly volunteers the areas in which they may not be perfect, that is pretty fucking trustworthy. Hope that helps you understand how a logical human being views people like you.

[@Tedanson]

@@YouAreNotCute Are you a trustworthy person is literally the title of the video, that's what we are discussing here. I can give a straight answer because I am not a psychopath so it's a simple yes. If this were a video about kittens and I was randomly bringing it up then it would be different.

[@YouAreNotCute]

@@Tedanson Alritey. You have wowed me with your tremendous intellect. Now I trust you. Jk.

[@S2375wattage]

Are you trustworthy? "I don't know what trust means" 😂 that is exactly the kind of thing I say when someone asks if I'm their girlfriend after we sleep together. "What do you mean by girlfriend? I mean what does that even mean these days?" Lol and I know that the answer is just no.

[@nickcarroll8565]

Maybe you should consider charging money, that way things are clear hahaha

[@1776-r4j]

@@nickcarroll8565 Exactly!

[@Twinnzllc]

All he’s doing is reframing, which is a common manipulative tactic

[@yougeo]

Trust is the belief that the other person will follow through with what they promised even when it is somewhat against their own interest. No one does it forever obviously but trustworthy people know keeping their word allows others to risk more with them in the future because they have proven to do what they say. It's like the financial idea of credit worthiness. Banks are willing to risk more money to you if you have proven to pay it back in the past. So trustworthy people can build larger long term teams of friends.

[@TomikaKelly]

To me, that speaks more to reliability. Trust is a bit deeper and more emotional. You may not think your partner will be punctual, but when you sleep with your partner you trust that they aren't going to give you HIV.

[@coalblooded]

​@@TomikaKelly Yeah, those are all different things, they can't just all be wrapped up into one word of "trust".

[@false_fruits2999]

A lot of armchair psychologists in the comment section would really benefit from taking an ethics and morals class so they can differentiate between the two.

[@jimarlt8629]

No one needs to apologize to you for stating an opinion, and I trust all have dealt with both concepts just by having lived, so no need for the class.

[@goldenbubble1803]

He says it...it's a game to him.

[@Lyrielonwind]

So, he considered himself reliable and not like those borderline 😂

[@Fliedermutter]

So.. no.

[@IDuneaux]

That clown peeking out from behind his bookcase confirms, in my uneducated mind, that he is a complete psychopath. I mean, who would have that in their house? /shudder😨

[@fiendant]

This dude has no idea what trust is😂

[@venepskeuten9206]

This is fascinating to listen to. I dont feel it, but i think i get the logic.

[@ideologybot4592]

So, no. But he's actually right about what trust is. The complete, deep emotional unwillingness to cause willful harm to others is rare and people cause harm to each other all the time, it's just that after they realize it, or have others point it out, they make a bunch of excuses for it until they run out of rationalizations, then they feel guilt. This guy just doesn't. It's causing harm without justification that people have a problem with. Blame and justification are games to this guy. Sounds bad, but having your treatment of others predicated on a game, which is largely cultural, isn't much better. Evolution just has us taking those games really seriously when we're invested in them. This is why competitive sports get us so wrapped up, why having good guys and bad guys is important to the stories we read or watch, and why we see relationships as non-disposable despite them coming and going in our lives all the time. It's not a generalized principle, it's about who we get invested with. This guy is not invested in anyone. He's a consumer of relationships.

[@kriskaymusic2]

It’s amazing to see how many people so easily are being manipulated by him In these videos and can’t see what he’s doing. He literally deflects , gaslights, minimizes , avoids accountability, and uses word salad in every single video I watched of him so far. I see based on the comments of people thinking he’s being genuine and falling for his act and even believing he’s not a psychopath or believing some of the bullshit he’s saying at all shows me how these people are so successful in their evil ways. They literally manipulate people with ease it’s insane to see it.

[@raynebow5289]

Manipulation isn’t inherently evil. It’s a skill that can be constructive or destructive

[@IndividuationAcademy]

@@raynebow5289 that's bs. if you think you are manipulating people constructively you are out of your mind. if we could build a better world by lying it wouldn't be better because it would be built on a lie. good luck thinking you are an exception, a person who can control their manipulation and use it for good, there are no exceptions, you are the problem.

[@luna-mt7sf]

"avoid accountability" that's because he didn't do anything to be accountable for ? Sorry he didn't give you the answer you were looking for , but it doesn't make him an evil person either , he have a different mindset=different thoughts obviously , understanding his point of view doesn't mean supporting it We're all here to hear what a psychopath thoughts are like for simple knowledge , but you're here in a mission to drive people to shit on him based on his mental disorder ? I understand his point of view of "trust" annoyed u ,but do u necessary have to use his disorder to drive people to hate on him too ? I mean you're not really doing a god's work or anything by giving advice to people since we all know he's a psychopath either way , so what's ur point no offense

[@luna-mt7sf]

​@@raynebow5289100% agree , ironic how most of us do it and are not even aware of it

[@ekay4495]

Tho 9 times out of 10 it's used for destructive reasons@@raynebow5289

[@rejuvenator8966]

Well that was a bunch of word salad 😂

[@leilo41]

He's right, he is scientist, so he cannot simply forget rules to operate in the world, i think everyone must keep the mind open and see the things logicaly, not assuming he is always lying

[@chigoguego]

The puppy photos in the back are very disarming. It's all part of his sinister plan!!

[@marcoespinosamx]

LOL

[@QuiK075]

This is an actual scientist Md in brain, he has psychopath traits and is married. His name is Jim Fallon look him up before judging someone because of what you see. If it wasn’t for psychopaths there wouldn’t be smart people out there doing great things not killing.

[@whitepouch0904]

Hahaha. I'm sorry I had to laugh just cuz he was trying to convince he is a trustworthy person and then your comment lol. Imagine if he read this.

[@Nanou200183]

The clown portrait on the left behind him...

[@naznow]

I find the background music incredibly distracting. I think the work/channel here is really interesting and educational but any background music really takes away from it(imo).

[@KayKeyPerk_KArmaUnicornDreams]

KEY WORDs , Try , reliable . If that’s not good enough for some ppl then that on them not being satisfied

[@ekay4495]

I mean tbh we shouldn't be surprised, he sounds and talk and dodges like a psychopath would, because HE IS ONE

[@zodlovesyou7146]

There is professional trustworthiness, and social trustworthiness. I have known several people who whose 'tell' is compulsive lying. Young men who would consistently lie about where they were, what a person said, what they did; even if it was obvious it was not true, or even to their advantage to lie. And then make a joke about it, convince friends he would not lie to THEM, just people we don't know. Always has a story ready, telling about his wild adventures. Then items start disappearing, and after a frantic search, that item is found in a place you thought you looked three times. Things suddenly break, and this guy would offer to help. Someone who poses as a friend, and then secretly screw with you for no apparent reason. But my point is, if someone has this lying trait, there is no doubt he is a psychopath, and to be avoided. It'll save you loads of grief.

[@anamuraro]

"A preteen would have" as if every preteen etc 😂

[@MattSofianosGuitar]

Hmmm… distraction, distancing and then deflecting. 2 minutes in and I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t trust this guy with anything, however likeable he seems.

[@budte]

I did not hear him answer the question. I heard him answer the question he wanted to answer. I am not sure he understands what trust is. Trust is, can I trust you with my small child, my cash, to not lie to or mislead me for your own benefit. I don't expect to trust the car salesman.

[@michaeliancohen]

I can’t stop looking at the picture of the scary clown at the bottom left.

[@birdlover6842]

He seems more like OCD and OCPD. Once a person says their a sub clinical psychopath people will find negative things.

[@asmaeelife]

Got it the answer is no 😂

[@aguy559]

I have a hard time buying this. OCD is an anxiety disorder and psychopaths have little, if any, anxiety. Most people with anxiety disorders are highly moral. Their conscience eats away at them. That is the OPPOSITE of a psychopath.

[@_kikizaman_]

Actually, I just looked it up but psychopaths are actually very likely to have anxiety and depression. I know, shocked me too and I don’t really understand it unfortunately. I suppose that they don’t feel anxious about what others say or do, aka social anxiety which I have a debilitating case of. But they still can feel anxious when situations are not prefaced to work out in their favour. For example, them being in debt and not knowing if they got the job that they interviewed for. Again, I don’t really know if this is what their anxieties are about, i’m just guessing. But yeah, apparently they’re quite likely to be depressed and anxious.

[@tristan4175]

there are psychopaths that have high levels of anxiety. and then there are those with none at all. mental health isn't just that easy. anxiety has no connection to morality.

[@SuperHappyNotMerry]

@Nature it really doesn't and saying it does could actually be found quite triggering for people who suffer with ocd. Yeah, ocd sufferers worry about hurting people (harm ocd) or scrupulosity which is very morality based, but at the end of it ocd is based more so on uncertainty. I say this as someone who has suffered with "highly moral" forms of ocd. It is possible he suffered from ocpd, who's to say, but really you can't just make generalizations like "people with ocd are very moral people and therefore he couldn't have ocd".

[@SLYKM]

@Nature being guilty of something due to OCD and being guilty of an action are seperate things. Anxiety caused by not partaking in OCD habits is caused by some sort of fear something is amiss or guilt that it isn't done correctly. Anxiety caused by doing a thing with consequences doesn't have to be because of feeling remorse, but because the consequences could be too large. Anxiety is just rambling, rattling doom posting one's mind, can be caused by caring about people, or simply caring about oneself.

[@professionalcommenter]

I think he's using the term OCD to describe his compulsive behavior. But, it doesn't fit in the definition of actual OCD as we know it. His compulsions are just that, it's not related to OCD. It's totally different. Keep in mind that he's unaware of the feelings that we have because he's never personally experienced them. So he may be attributing what he thinks is obsessive behavior but is really just compulsive behavior.

[@TomikaKelly]

So, basically...no. 🙄

[@JimS870]

He just died. RIP bud

[@inhabitantofearth]

This question is very vague. Can you trust him in terms of what? If you ask a psychopath this question, how do you know you're even getting the honest answer? How do you know they're not doing that thing where they try to tweak the answer into something they think you want to hear? Even non-psychopaths do this.

[@ryanmaxwelll2730]

Skillfully avoids answering the question. Tries to re-define "trust". Trust and reliability are not the same. To the the question, are you trustworthy, the way in which he answers, to me, indicates, no. He is not trustworthy or accountable. He can't even be trusted to answer a simple question truthfully. He couldn't even lie in the standard fashion and say "yes, I am trustworthy".

[@josephzicaro9913]

Sound like no but he doesn't want to admit it.

[@ekay4495]

That would make him lose face in others eyes, so he has to manipulate the situation/idea in his favour. He's a psychopath, not that any one of us wants to boldly claim a negative trait

[@MorganHorse]

Republican politician vibes are BIG here 😂

[@josephmbimbi]

I understand why he dances around the question, he doesn't want his life (perhaps his family's life too) to be negatively impacted. How can you give an answer different than the one socially expected and not suffer negative consequences ? While we play all sorts of games, and do all sorts of manipulation unconsciously, he has to do it consciously, remain within a range of acceptability, and still be "palatable" enough for people around him. That's just my 2 cents anyway, but how do you account for that lol ?

[@NaturalCureForWarts]

I've watched this guy many times but I still am not sure what exactly he did for people to not trust him. I'd like examples besides the basic "manipulation". Like what did he manipulate people into thinking or doing?

[@KayKeyPerk_KArmaUnicornDreams]

Some people take things to literally, and some people analyze too deeply derivative Words can be a variant of a meaning like one word in one language can have to different meaning . “Everyone “ loves Unicorns but they are described as naïve and wise. So no it’s not manipulating it simplifying the answer by taking the long way round it’s not dancing. it’s trying to express it in a way that will have no negative feedback to people who are prejudice

[@KrakenWind]

I would trust him if I was his business partner, I would never trust him otherwise. His idea of being trustworthy is to "Follow common sense" however, the one major issue with this is that common sense cannot cover everything. If he is blind to nuance and incapable of responding appropriately to unique situations that don't follow common sense, he will rely on his innate pyschopathy to handle everything, meaning he will resort to lying, cheating, manipulating, gaslighting, or sublty threatening to handle the situation.

[@jimarlt8629]

I don't know this guy or what he truly stands for, but it seems clear after listening to him for only a short time that he fancies himself as a non-conformist and revels in is perceived self-image of uniqueness. The word psychopath carries with it a dangerous connotation and needs to be taken seriously but just by hearing what he has to say, I think I would be bored to the point that I would move on prior to finding anything more about him or his motives.

[@joe-mama6451]

As with most things in life, “it depends”. Black and white is not the only option. Neither black nor white is a viable option and lots of gradients on the spectrum.

[@cupcake0480]

How do psychopaths feel about cheating on their long term partners? Cognitively they know it’s against societal rules, but how do they feel about cheating and the devastating effect it has on their partners?

[@lakkakka]

hmmmm I considered psychopathy as well, but apparantly I am autistic. Ever tried to compare your "shortcomings" with the autism checklist?

[@jchidi]

I wonder how many psychopaths i've met in my life without knowing it. Most of them just kinda blend in.

[@CCM8817]

Everything is an exchange

[@coffeepot3123]

He's not a "psychopath", dude is misdiagnosed. However he could be a sociopath.

[@blulikefriendlyhit1213]

I feel relatable to this man. One time in my life, I watched a friend of mine and understood through his behavior that responses get you other responses, and I like good responses from other people, so I started doing that, acting expressive. I was pretty good at reading the other's emotions and knew how to respond to them so that it matched the emotion that I was percieving in them. Because of that, I completely discarded the notion that I could be a psychopath... that is until I found out that psychopaths can have cognitive empathy. At this point, I am really wondering if I care about something, or just feel it because I expect myself to. When I kill a fly, I feel remorseful, but that is such an extreme that I wonder "Do I really feel it or am I just setting myself to think I feel remorse?" Sometimes I have to think to be sad in a situation where I should be sad. I've learnt to manipulate people into being happy just cause I like them to be. People are much better when they are in a good mood. I probably don't have psycopathy, but some symptoms just hit too close to home, so I'm trying to figure out myself what I truly am. I wrote this cause if anyone has this figured out and maybe had the same experience as me, be sure to tell me, would appreciate greately

[@Callum701]

I feel the same way. It's like emotion start as a concept in my head then transfers to my body. More often than not it feels a different brand of anxiety.

[@blulikefriendlyhit1213]

@@Callum701 Wouldn't have described it better, it starts in the head and then goes down to my heart

[@blulikefriendlyhit1213]

@@Callum701 I'm probably just autistic 😂

[@manueldeltoro9944]

I assume U can trust him when its abiut othwr things if it doesnt go against his self interest and the relationship matters enough for what ever reason

[@AlaaChan]

Psychopathd are fascinating! I hope I never ever meet or deal with any of them 🤲🏻🤲🏻🤲🏻 Amen

[@josephl6289]

says hes not a psychopath when title says ask a psychopath... always the grey area.

[@thejerk5656]

I'd like to hear more about the bad things he actually did. This is just an old guy waffling about his thoughts on lie in general.

[@Mo.1988]

He said a bunch of nothing

[@jimarlt8629]

Maybe missed his calling, should be running for public office.

[@matthewpitre8159]

Okay so he says he does things playfully but doesn't mention exactly what he does also it might be a game for him but it's not a game for others

[@LazyBastard69]

You can beat around the bush as much as you want. The answer is still no.

[@farmer4785]

Think of it like a spectrum. Then it might be yes within certain contexts.

[@Mo.1988]

Exactly

[@joelhall5124]

He's a charlatan. He's not a psychopath.

[@IsometricallySlone]

"I'm not a psycopath" thanks for the clickbait title. downvoted

[@philip_hofmaenner47]

The videos/interviews are very interesting but why the meaningless 90s sales music? 😂

[@R.Merkhet]

Interesting fact. Dr Fallon is a descendant of Lizzy Borden.

[@gilbertgrejp]

The answer is NO.

[@alexandramurphy7318]

I could have reeeeaaallly done without the background music

[@rulebreaker_xoii]

I actually think that I'm like that. Pro social, or whatever he called it. I have OCD as well.

[@girlypopgay]

Yeah the moral and ethics thing has been really confusing me lately like I ask what’s wrong w murder, genuinely asking, and no one will answer me So yeah honestly so confusing

[@ekay4495]

I think it means you may be a psychopath, that's why your having a hard time comprehending. I wouldn't want to killed, I wouldn't want people close to me to be killed, therefor I shouldn't kill others for the same reasons. Psychopaths lack empathy so to put themselves in other peoples shoes, so they don't see a problem is someone else goes away, others are just a thing, no emotion attached to it.

[@Poodle_Gun]

The clown in the background tells you everything

[@treefrog123a]

Sure u can be trusted to be there until it comes to you or them.....then its you

[@KpxUrz5745]

I like this guy, very interesting. But I found myself wanting him to give actual examples from his life, his actions and responses.

[@message2612]

He passed last year

[@kayhaich]

Just being in a video like this with this title is untrustworthy

[@EFTTappingwithHeatherAmbler]

The music. Make it stop. Please. Really detracts from what would otherwise be an excellent video.

[@machstem2536]

Say's he doesn't lie,his whole life has been deception

[@JohnDoe-ig8nd]

"Ask a borderline psychopath "

[@sj1684]

I have respect for this man, I know a psychopath like him but he would never admit he is one. He has displayed some traits but very hard to spot for those who don't know that psychopaths can be very normal looking people, but the red flags small and big are all there. His needing of sympathy and validation from his followers is a big huge flashing red flag.

[@QWERTYUIOP-wu6ht]

@@heavyhead2k139 "not an expert but that sounds more like a narcissist" well, you're not an expert so the rest of your point is invalid

[@GoosePack]

Wait... why are all teachers conmen?

[@michi3375]

Title: ask a psychopath Him: technically its BPD

[@ravenID429]

Why are so many people in the comments so snippy lol

[@martinranalli8572]

Is he really a psychopath? Come on really?