ARE YOU BEING USED? | 16 Ways to Recognize if Someone is Using You | STOICISM

Reveal the unmistakable markers of a harmful relationship: "__." In this video, we'll navigate through behaviors that uncover whether someone is leveraging your contributions without considering your feelings, drawing inspiration from Stoic tenets upheld by philosophical luminaries such as Epictetus.
Are you contemplating the equilibrium in your relationship? Develop the knack to discern behavior patterns signaling that the other person is solely interested in what you can provide. Guided by the sagacious teachings of philosophers like Epictetus, we'll explore pragmatic advice to sustain inner tranquility and set robust emotional boundaries.
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Don't overlook these revealing behaviors! Transform into a discerning observer of interpersonal intricacies and discover how to fortify yourself emotionally. Make Stoicism, championed by Epictetus, your companion in the pursuit of relationships that are not just authentic but also equitable!
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I gave monetary support and loyalty for several years, only to be betrayed and ghosted. I finally had enough and disappeared myself.

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Perfect description of a relationship with a narcissist

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"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking." - Marcus Aurelius

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Does this mean when others hurt you you can't be sad or angry?

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Calculated neglect and manipulation is exactly where I'm at. Please pray I can escape him. 😢

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You can and will find you way.❤

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You choose to harbour a grudge, but that only upsets you. No one else. Best let it go, you'll feel much lighter.

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Funny, but the final step this year was I skipped sending the usual Christmas card. After 6 years they came back last spring to apologize, and I had to bite my tongue to not apologize back, as was my habit. I value integrity and keeping one’s word. I wasn’t the person who abandoned me at my darkest hour. I think it’s that i don’t want to admit wasting decades of my time on this friend. Selective availability: ouch. That was brutal. Can’t believe I didn’t value myself that way.

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Im at 9 and Im surprised, you have described familial relationships.

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"You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength."

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I wish everybody in a relationship should be taught these discernible human behaviors. It could save many years of wasted time on people who operate fully from their low frequency shadow side of ego! Great video…. Very Educational and enlightening!! Thank you .

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It's not wasted time it's a valuable lesson sometimes things are not what they seem and sometimes we humans have to go through the hard situations to not only learn from them but to do better for ourselves in the future and know what to look for and the warning signs eather way positive or negative gain or loss it's a perspectives and opinions but I'm sure it is difficult stay positive wish u the best remember u can't have the good without the bad in life and some times we have to go through hell to get to heaven or vise versa once again it's all perspective and how you choose to see it or look at it good luck

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I am getting angrier and angrier with myself everytime you mention the next step or point. I have been stucked in a very toxic relationship for years now. And everytime I wanna quit, he uses words to manipulate me. I am tired and I need my freedom! 😢😢😢

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My prayer is that God pour the Holy Spirit over you for guidance and strength. He removed the scales from Paul's eyes to see the truth that needed to be followed.

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Cool Nathan...best to ya..

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"My mind is over this matter."

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My mind has become only madder.

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I wish that I knew this i formation years ago. I wasted value years that I can't get back. However, I did learn a value listen tne hard way. Lack of respect should never be ignored.

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It's only wasted if you learned nothing from it

[@lindalou4858]

In the end i did the right thing. Then continued to drop them like flies. One thing I i recognized is lack of empathy as reciprocation and yes constant self conversation. When i was I need totally disrespectful to me. Ended it with last birthday catd and kind words. It was nice getting to know you. One way street for sure. ❤😂🎉 Had a moment listening and called for help. ❤😂🎉

[@MrJovitas]

BRILLIANT. THANKS NOW I SEE THE TRUTH I NEED THIS VIDEO TO CONFIRM MY INVESTIGATION, THESE PEOPLE WILL DO THE SAME AGAIN AND AGAIN BETTER TO NOT BELIEVE THAT THEY WILL CHANGE, CUZ IF YOU HAVE A KIND HEART IT WILL USE IT CUZ THEY KNOW THAT YOU CAN FORGIVE AND WHEN YOU STARTING TO CARE ABOUT YOURSELF YOU CANT LET IT ANYMORE. DO NOT LET ANYONE RUN YOU ONLY IN THEIR FAVOR, THEY ARE VERY GOOD ILLUSIONISTS - THAT GOOD THAT YOU WILL START TO BELIEVE IN THEIR CREATED ILLUSIONS AND DOUBTS

[@kathleen5237]

Thank you. I recognise I am in such a relationship. I'm building an emotional distance before the discard through my noncompliance from now

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I’m incredibly lonely and trying to build friendships but I’m amazed at the selfishness of women I meet especially for the first time talking over me taking over the conversation being rude too many like that

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Sorry that happened to you! Just as well to let those people go, they are not friends material! Don’t waste your precious time on low level vibrational souls! You will find likeminded people in time. Don’t give up. Blessings…

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I m beginning to learn that the only one that can truly love me is me, trust is me , and the only one always there for me is me. After realationships always pleasing and being used and never valued or loved , putting my life away i finaly see that me is the only tru and real love i have and need. The new realationships are not for needing to feel valued, loved or to be pleasing until i am drained again, but its sharing happines, dreams and support getting inputs and never give and expect returns other then equal respect.

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Mind over body. Yet I am empty at this moment. Ive reached rock bottom, and wont give up. These moments and decades have taken a toll tho. I will be compassionate with myself. ❤😂🎉

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It's tough Linda. Life is a hard struggle. The animals devour each other. We do the same with each other in a subtle way. Actual human beings want to serve. Parasitic humans demand to be served. May fate be kind to you.

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This is a SLAP through all our faces brothers & sisters. 👍🏻

[@kellykasten7009]

This is EXACTLY my current situation. My SOUL tells me the TRUTH, but my EGO wants to hang on. My EGO is disolving . I am finally accepting that although im empathetic, i see that im more worthy than the respect im receiving

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I play these podcasts every night, i play it with my 14yr old daughter. She enjoys it too because she has seen me in narcissistic relationships and she relizes im AWARE and want her to be aware as well ❤

[@wwebb5665]

Excellent guidelines and ideas on having meaningful relationships. I know I should have broken off many one-sided relationships years ago, but I stayed, hoping it would get better, or I accepted the abuse. One comment of the material--points 13 and 14 are about the same and point 15 needs to be titled.

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I watch their Action than their Emty Promises.. I have this person in my Life w/c very dear to me, but I have to distance to this person, because she is just USING ME. Thanks for sharing from Sydney Australia 😘

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It was never stated what number fifteen was, but I believe it is "superficial closeness".

[@kellykasten7009]

Ty for these wise words. I see many of these signs. as an empath, I try to understand why they do, what they do. It eventually just falls back on me as a setback. I get " ignored" if I speak out on my behalf. It's been one week since I've been ignored from a person I thought cared, after 4yrs. I'm usually the one to try to understand what I did wrong. I've finally decided to accept that I didn't do anything to deserve to be IGNORED. I CHOSE to stay stoic and tend to myself and my true loved ones❤ Thank you for these messages 💕

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I am constantly being disappointed in my relationship and now I understand why

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I am very thankful my eyes are opened wide now my❤is broken but now can heal 😢

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You just mirrored my 15 years agony. Being pious, hoping the person will change, probably after a blow in their life by God, to learn to RESPECT.

[@veranunesdecarvalho6561]

No princípio duma relação, a pessoa sabe logo se o outro é este tipo de carácter tóxico, interseiro, egoista, manipulador. Pode é não querer reconhecer. Quanto mais depressa a pessoa ganhar coragem para se libertar desse outro e seguir a sua vida sem ele, melhor

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I love the see saw analogy. It describes reciprocity so well. Also highlights what a balanced relationship looks like. Great stuff. Thanks.

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Mind over body … lots to mull over… I now see how I’ve been taken advantage of… emotionally

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My partner has been doing all 11 of these topics in a 8 yr relationship. He has NPD Narcissist Personal Disorder one of the hardest break ups of my life.

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to the TEE

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Thank you friend, thank you!