Are You Exhausted from Always Saying «Yes»? | You Matter Too 💙

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[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Hi beautiful souls! Thank you so much for being here and for your wonderful comments - I truly appreciate them ❤️ I try to read and answer as many as possible, and know that I’m just so thankful that you take from your valuable time to do so ❤️ Love & light!

[@elizabethconroy7665]

Thanks ,my friend You are A beautiful Soul 😊

[@Oceangirl1234]

So glad I found you.

[@shelbycorey6785]

I came across your videos and I watched because my daughter had a spinal cord injury as well . Unfortunately my daughter didn’t get to the point you are. She passed almost 10 years ago . Just out of curiosity of what her life would have been like had she lived I have been watching your videos . That may sound crazy . But I am a momma that would give anything to have her back. You are a true inspiration.

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Thank you for being here and for being you 💖✨

[@reneedanielsj9743]

Hi Erin you give such great advice I love listening to you praying you start feeling better .

[@pennyvoll1169]

Bless you dear heart❤️

[@luannm-crazycatlady6621]

Shelby, I am so sorry for your loss, but I am happy you have found Eirin. She is such a sweet soul, and we are blessed to have her share her experiences with us.

[@jamisongee1176]

My best friend became a quad when we were 19 in a very similar diving accident. We are Australians and are now 68. Over the years we have travelled extensively, when I married my Norwegian husband she came to stay in Breiviklia with us, she lives half her time in Sydney and half in the U.S. and has advised on the many aspects on living as a disabled woman. Covid meant her life was curtailed to a certain extent but travel is not as important to her as it once was. Like you my friend was an amazing water skiing and pianist before "the accident" as we have always referred to that dark day. Many, many light days followed and she always managed to get her bed sores healed. My love and admiration to you. In those early wheelchair days people used to stare and whispered and some would just bowl up and say "and what happened to you?" That no longer happens as times have changed thank God. All the best X.

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

You’re both in my heart ❤️

[@lisamoore8858]

That was me before my stroke. The first time I said no, I thought the heavens would open up. Lol

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

💖

[@58frascatti]

You remind me of my dearest friend who passed away very suddenly a while back. Although I am sorry I’ll never again enjoy the sheer joy of her company, I feel her presence in many delightful ways. She would have loved your posts as I do. Like you, she was a statuesque blonde who lit up everyone’s life with her wonky sense of humour and unawareness of how much she contributed to the happiness of those who were blessed to know her. I want you to know how pleased I am to know you.

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Thank you 🥰

[@glitterprincess5672]

Oh Erin I look forward to your videos! You are such a great inspiration to me! Stay strong my friend! Thank god you have such great supporters!! Your mother and husband are wonderful people!

[@dianathefiberfan]

I can't tell you enough how I love your video. They are so uplifting and motivating to me. You are a radiant bit of sunshine...

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Thank you so much! 🥰❤️

[@Kim-qt7yn]

Eirin - This should absolutely be a TED TALK! You should do a TED TALK. You are a critical thinker and a very insightful woman. We all are responsible for choices that effect our life. You are a strong woman and a very bright light in this universe and your talks are very encouraging. Your cheeks are rosy and your smile even comes through your eyes today!#strongwoman

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Thank you so much for your wonderful words - truly appreciate them! 🥰❤️😍

[@lindamele5005]

Erin, I so enjoy your sweet personality and kind words and am looking forward to many more of your videos. You are a very wise young lady.

[@jennjohnson-richards5829]

If we learn from our mistakes, they were worth it. If we can help someone avoid hurt from our own it was worth it.

[@patriciaegan7370]

Much needed advice as I am definitely a “yes” person. At 76 I still think of myself as a work in progress.

[@Cg-gu7kj]

You are such a beautiful person. You know you could be a psychologist. I think you help so many people and have such good insight. Omg-exactly re “eating”. I use food to punish myself. 32? Seriously? I thought you were about 22.

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

That means so much to me ❤️ We find coping strategies and mechanisms, and sadly they’re often ones that harms us further - you deserve so much more ✨💖

[@pam112061]

I also thought she was in her early 20s. She has so much wisdom and such a eloquent and beautiful soul. I am so blessed to have found her and by extension this little community.

[@contactsuzi7096]

Eirin - I've always thought of the word "No" as a really positive tool, and one that can be used in so many ways - it's so versatile yet, culturally it carries a negative connotation that I believe it doesn't really deserve. We use it in so many helpful ways, sometimes without using the word at all. It keeps a child's hand away from a hot pot. It lets your friend know that perhaps it's the other dress that looks fantastic. It keeps a schedule reasonable. And yes, it can set boundries. It's a very little word with such a huge job. I'm so glad to see that you're feeling more comfortable with it. xoxo Suzi

[@pam112061]

Now that I have finished watching the entire video, I will post again. Loved the content and hate how we as humans have a hard time saying two letters, which can be a complete sentence! NO. In my case when I got sick with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue back in 2000/2001, that pretty much took care any social life I had. I lost most of my friends and my marriage - thankfully it was a sort lived second marriage, but it still hurt tremendously as I had sold my house and moved an hour away to live where he lived, leaving two of my children with their dad, they were at a point in school where it didn't make sense to disrupt them and I saw them on the weekends, I did take my son with me because he had started getting in trouble, hanging around the wrong crowd and I was more strict than their dad was. I did move back near my ex and kids when my marriage fell apart and I am glad I have my children and now 10 grandchildren all close by. I still have to say No to many things - sporting events for my grandchildren that involve sitting on hard bleachers, even with a padded cushion, I still can't do it, any parades they have been in, I can't stand for a long period of time nor sit in a beach chair or whatever they are called. I do attend all of their birthday parties even if they are at a local park. I just double up on my pain medicine and know I will likely be in the bed or on the couch for several days afterwards. It sucks. They range in age between turning 4 in March and the oldest just turned 19. I did babysit most of them when they were little so my kids could work but it was tough (only one child at a time usually and never more than 6 hours at a time if I was alone.) Saying No to my kids and grandkids is much harder for me than to anyone else. I really really have to love someone enough to say yes to something knowing it will result in me being bed or couch ridden because of that activity.

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

My heart goes out to you ❤️💖

[@psrwhite]

Eirin, God has given you a new purpose and platform to share your wisdom. I am so grateful God sent you to me. Your voice, the speed and volume of your speech is perfect for me. I can grasp your ideas without feeling an anxiety like I can't comprehend what you are saying. You are just what I need. Thank you so much!!

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Likewise, angel! 🤍✨🕊️🙏

[@pam112061]

Since i just found you last night I am catching up on your past videos. So glad to hear you are feeling better in this one...I have paused it just to say this and again to say how happy am am to have found you. Now back to the video because I know it will be the best thing I have come across since getting on KZbin this evening. You are an amazing you lady and your touch on subjects that are so important to my life and they always leave me feeling like we have been together and talking for hours and surrounded by an aura of peace and love and all things beautiful even though we know life isn't alway like that. I can't wait for you to write your book 💓

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Thank you ❤️

[@adoria5]

Setting healthy boundaries makes a better you for others. ❤️

[@suezm5357]

From someone who could never say no, I can say it's definitely worth practising this. It gets easier with time and is quite empowering, bringing a confidence, which is really nice.

[@Julie-si3hi]

I live with chronic pain and your right saying No is hard! Thank you for voicing what I feel,so I know I'm not alone x I always worry about saying no to friends coming over etc as I'm afraid of losing them....but, sometimes I need ro say No ,I need to rest,I need to lay flat and do what's right for me. It's a really tricky balance.

[@francesgibsongibson3517]

You are so wise and can feel not only your own problems but others . Your words are so exhilarating and helpful for many. I love hearing you talk about struggles you have and apply them to everyone . You are so strong. Thank you for feelings straight from your heart.❤❤❤❤

[@EmsLionheart]

And for those who identify as empathic, it’s harder because we can feel the “sadness and/or dejection the other experiences, when we say no- it can be a double whammy. I always focus on the other person’s emotions I often forget/forgo my own, stemming from childhood, wanting to please and be acknowledged by older siblings, narcissistic mom. And now, I’ve sadly taught my daughter the same behavior. 😔 🤗 Sending loving positive vibes from Pittsburgh 🕊

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

We teach what we know and you did it through your love ❤️

[@garybrunet6346]

I m so pleased that I found your channel. Your life challenges are insurmountable. You advice is so helpful. Thanks for sharing. Your ability to express yourself is profound and heartfelt!😊🇨🇦

[@sueswandove]

You have such insight and perspective into feelings and human behavior. The way you explain and analyze events, situations, and motivations is astounding.

[@nancyfaircloth3224]

God loves you. Thank you for your message.

[@hirokowoods4421]

Thank you Eirin🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 I am so blessed to find you!💖💖💖 I am so grateful that you are here on Earth!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

I feel blessed that you’re here! 💖✨

[@MrInsaint]

Thank you so much for another wonderful video you share with us. This time I didn't get more than a few minutes into the video before I shouted to my four children to come and see and hear something nice. Andreas(18), Sarah(16), Filip(13) and Leah(9) greet you Eirin Cecilie❤ 🤍 💙

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Aaw, thank you so much and sending my biggest hug to them! ❤️

[@aprilfox1057]

Eirin you are human, its ok to loosen your grip. You like cheese too! I use a coping mech which is simply tell yourself if you want cheese, as a comfort, is tell yourself you will have it tomorrow. When tomorrow comes you will likely feel a little more up beat in the morning and not want cheese after all. You are such a treasure. The sun will always come up in the morning. Saying ‘no’ is ok too. Just say its gently, the receiver will understand and move on. Only use an alternative if you want to. No, its not shutting down its just postponing or be clear about how you feel. It’s ok to say no.

[@sharontaylor2322]

Eirin you are a beautiful soul. Your calming, warm and soothing voice reaches out & touches so many of us I am sure. I suffered for years thinking of others first and never myself. As I have gotten older (almost twice your age) I have learned to think & love myself for who I am first and then others. For the longest time I felt this would be selfish on my part if I let this happen but have finally understood you have to love yourself to love others. I have had to end relationships with people who were toxic in my life, always being there when they needed me, to vent, to comfort but never getting that love or care back. It was quite painful to go thru, the guilt, the should I let my feelings go and hang on to what was. I can say as time has gone by it has gotten better. Thank you for being you.

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Thank you for sharing your story and light 💖✨ Likewise ❤️

[@ReBeckyFernandez]

I’ve been binge watching your videos. You have such an authentic, kind and graceful way of speaking. I just feel like I’m listening to my best friend after a long day. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. ❤

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Thank you for being here 🥰

[@gmckenna9108]

Good advice eirin

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Glad it was helpful 💖✨💛

[@judymoorehead3046]

Hi Eirin, so good to turn on you tube and see you. I spent my day having multiple doctors appointments and procedures. My best friend took me for what we thought would be an hour long process. I kept apologizing to her, and she reminded me that I would do the same for her. As people on the same planet, we need to realize that life can balance out. Yes and no are our strongest words. Thank you, Judy

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

❤️❤️

[@lornasmith2944]

Oh whoa 😮. Pretty much every word statement you made in this particular video could’ve come out of my mouth… Except for the fact that I’ve reached the point where getting to the bottom of the trench and being exhausted, and my mind not shutting off, well, I’m OK with it not resolving after 40 years as I’m 58 now. Having discussed my feelings and plan with family and getting things in order with my finances and lawyer, etc. and made the decision that I want to and I don’t have to say. NO IT’S MY DECISION. I KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE EVERY WORD THAT YOU SAID ABOUT HOW IT FEELS, AND AS YOUR VOICE TREMBLED WITH THE EMOTION, I FELT IT. It’s very ironic and educational. If that’s a good word to explain it, that you can sense that feeling starting to come over your thoughts and mind and body you know it’s coming, and there’s really nothing to stop it and you can’t explain it to someone else who’s not been in that situation or has that “illness “… you said it in a way that I’ve tried to explain to others. With therapy it literally took me years to say no… And by saying no, and feeling that guilt, and yet been exhausted, that particular time or day, even though I had nothing to do because the thought of the request was overwhelming 🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️‼️❤ MB Canada

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Thankyou for sharing your story and your light; my heart goes out to you 💖✨

[@Terelle365]

Beautiful wisdom. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. ❤

[@wendysenger212]

You are so amazingly wise. Not sure if you have a degree in mental health. But you really help me a lot. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me learn how to love myself❤

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Thank you so much for being here and for sharing your light 💖✨

[@thereseshine7506]

Your strength is amazing. You're right on with your advice. I pray for continued comfort & joy for you. Thank you for your very kind advice! XO

[@elizabethconroy7665]

Thanks,Erin Always had a problem saying No Will try to be more authentic and speak my Truth Hugs 🤗

[@cheryljohnson7838]

Your message was very thought-provoking to me. I'm looking within myself because of what you said. It's never too late. Thank you.

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

You are so welcome and I wish you all the best ❤️

[@Jay-nk6tu]

Just came across your video. I so related to this video. I have never been able to say no... I am in the middle of extreme trauma councilling and you have just backed up my last councilling session. You inspire me to keep taking small steps. Thank you 💕

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Thank you for being here 🥰 You have a beautiful light and my heart goes out to you ❤️ I wish you all the best 🤍✨

[@Jay-nk6tu]

@@eirinceciliegjedrem ❤

[@joycebaker3798]

I am really bad at saying 'no'. I do want to help people and I overextend myself fairly often. I never thought of eating as self-harm. I have a new perspective.

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Hi sweet soul ✨ I’m thankful you’re here and I believe you’re a blessing in this World 🤍 Stay safe and know that you’re incredibly valuable. Your loved ones will benefit from you practicing more self-care; it’s a true win-win 🥰💖

[@marjoriealexander3001]

You are a gift. You will be hearing more from me. ❤

[@jesshruzek-di5hb]

Your amazing this video helped me so much .

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

I'm so glad! 🥰

[@Lee-fb4oj]

Hello from Long Island, NY❣️

[@someonefromaschool1213]

♥️🫂 love this-thank you Eirin I hope your having a good day 🫂

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Thank you and likewise! ❤️

[@jennwhite3202]

💚💚

[@mylittlecoco345]

god bless you ❤

[@glitterprincess5672]

❤❤❤❤

[@donnamiley6778]

Good advice

[@marjaazevedo85]

❤

[@fridaytieday]

Really good vids my girl! Cant wait to get into your life once you're up and atom. However, this period where you're restricted by bedsores is actually a good opportunity for you to introduce yourself, your life, philosophies, etc. At a more relaxed rate...a getting to know you time and you get to know your subs too. I've just stared Lent so have given up True Crime AND sugar. ( I'm addicted to both real bad).....I must be mad!!!! But now I've found your channel. One question: What did you hit in the water when you broke your neck? If you'd done that dive a lot, what was there? One more question: While you are in bedsore boot camp can you still stand up in your bed each day?

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Thank you! ❤️

[@antoinettedoyle3185]

Hi young Lady. How are you today. Hope the weather is better over in your neck of the woods. It's bloody freezing & lashing rain here in the West of Ireland 😁. I've my cats sitting on me to keep me warm. Do you go swimming with Aids. Well enjoy your evening. 😁

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

I have done so, yes 🙂 Give your cats a pet from me 😻

[@antoinettedoyle3185]

@@eirinceciliegjedrem Hi. I've 3 cats. 2 boys Timmy & Liathrogí (his name is Irish for Balls) 🤣🤣🤣 The other one is Female Clara. I'm hanging out of the bed here as the boys are lying up beside me & Clara is down near my feet so in like boxed in. How are you doing. ❤️

[@antoinettedoyle3185]

@@eirinceciliegjedrem Good for you. Great to get out & about & mingle 😁

[@wendyhoward2699]

I have to say it again, “You’re amazing.” Blessings.

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

🤍✨

[@mariteremartin8691]

I understand….however is just a piece of cheese. Tomorrow and the days after you won’t eat it.

[@Caymans1313]

Hi Erin, writing to you from Michigan, let me start with the obvious…what happened to you sucks! There is no way for me to imagine it, and I am so sorry that it happened to you, on a different note, I have a couple questions while trying to fit together this timeline , how old were you when the accident happened? how long ago was this accident? Were you married at the time and already had children? I’m trying to go through the videos and put it together, just a curious soul who whilst listening to you wished we were closer geographically because i can tell by your personality we would be the troublesome duo..lol (humor) . 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

[@eirinceciliegjedrem]

Thank you! ❤️ It happened in 2001, when I was 14.5 ✨ I met my husband in 2004, and we’ve been together since as well as getting married in 2010 🤍