Are You Only Honest When You Feel Like There Are No Consequences?

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Teal Swan

Teal Swan

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@heidi2166
@heidi2166 2 жыл бұрын
I've embraced honesty as diplomatically as I can as I've gotten older. I really try to practice the Golden Rule. I know I won't end up alone though the road may be hard. I'd rather be hated for who I truly am than loved for who I am not. I like most of myself and enjoy my own company. I'm comfortable in my own skin. I'm the only person who can never escape from me
@4coolclips
@4coolclips 2 жыл бұрын
Love your thoughts!! 🙏💗
@saml388
@saml388 2 жыл бұрын
I've been honest with everything and now I've got less people in my life but im alot happier. I don't have to pretend to be someone im not.
@kellyanng2215
@kellyanng2215 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, age has opened my ability to be honest in all situations. It is HARD. People don't like it. And I've always been open and filter-free but the absolute honesty requires more hard work. Like no more asking forgiveness rather than asking permission makes me have to be very convincing when I need buy-in to do stuff at work. But the consequence is that I have more clarity about others and where I want to be and who I want to be with.
@leahflower9924
@leahflower9924 2 жыл бұрын
Society doesn't want you to be honest, often your family doesn't either they just want you to conform and fall in line
@syodahoque463
@syodahoque463 2 жыл бұрын
This is a hard thing to do, especially when you are a people pleaser and have been taught to seek validation from others growing up. I, for one, am proud of you. And from the looks of it, it seems you are too. :)
@Raliviel
@Raliviel 2 жыл бұрын
How do you define honesty? I found many people think being honest means speaking their mind unreflected. Thus being hateful, aggressive, shaming and hurtful to others. For me honesty starts with myself. Being honest what I feel and why, finding out what I need and communicating that. Honesty is about nonviolent communication. Not about insulting and blaming others for my feelings.
@m2pozad
@m2pozad 2 жыл бұрын
A mixed concept. Feeling vs.Thinking as a method of processing is not an issue about honesty. You are values driven. The other half are truth driven. Relax and appreciate people's differences. Maybe loosen your boundaries as well. YW
@4coolclips
@4coolclips 2 жыл бұрын
@@m2pozad very interesting and helpful, thank you!!!
@YuchanLeo
@YuchanLeo 2 жыл бұрын
Beautiful ❤️
@nephthyz2990
@nephthyz2990 2 жыл бұрын
She has a video on this I think it's called "Authenticity vs being an asshole"
@AXharoth
@AXharoth 2 жыл бұрын
honesty needs to be expressed in the form of a confession , no in the form of claiming the truth or judging
@TheErika711
@TheErika711 2 жыл бұрын
I'm the person your talking about...... severely co-dependent. I started working on facing my truths when I came across you approx two years ago.....the struggling with bad relationships ending them horribly everything my GOD what I created to be safe - at age 57 it's the first time in my life I'm alone but it's the best thing to have happen because I'm learning who I am - it's still new to me but I rather live learning than the continual misery I created for myself. I spent 11 years with a man I "thought" I loved but I just proved to him the truths about his life (I actually needed for me.) The control I used in everything I did and with everyone I was involved with I've master manipulated to be safe & this is the hardest truth - I'm so grateful for you Teal.....I don't want to be lonely but that means I must be real with my truths and if my truths scare a friendship or relationship then so be it. I want to be healthy - living with anxiety is horrific. Thank you for being there and for doing more for me than my therapist has been able to do for me. You make us really face who we are.
@bionicbastard
@bionicbastard 2 жыл бұрын
In a 23+ year relationship that was founded on truth. A lot of work put in by both of us through the years, yes...but this video got me thinking that truthfulness is the reason we had something worth fighting for at all. 💖💕
@light-nl6fj
@light-nl6fj 2 жыл бұрын
Tough, but needed. I have been very conscious of my mirror lately and I don't like what I see. It's tough for a Passive-aggressive person like me to become honest knowing people will reject you for it and having been rejected for being myself in the past, but I am choosing to bite that bullet because it's not worth living "safely" in misery. One step at a time is all I can do to unravel my mess.
@Lifeofadognow
@Lifeofadognow 2 жыл бұрын
I had that too. Leave those ppl that don't can handle honesty or have resistance to it
@handelnuremberg8757
@handelnuremberg8757 2 жыл бұрын
Honesty is integrity. There is no other thing in the world more uncompromisable
@RisingPurpose9941
@RisingPurpose9941 2 жыл бұрын
LOVE. I love and appreciate you. Love truth and light
@madonnamanpower7204
@madonnamanpower7204 2 жыл бұрын
Lol move to new England and they will tell you you're being disgusting and abusive if you try to be honest.
@johnblais5549
@johnblais5549 2 жыл бұрын
Yes,,,, so rare a gem,,, one only needs to grasp it,, to hold it,,the depth of strength
@stacey_1111rh
@stacey_1111rh 2 жыл бұрын
Agreed. Well said 👍🏼✌🏼
@rozaSkroza
@rozaSkroza 2 жыл бұрын
*I feel so called out by this video, but I'm very thankful for it, Tealy* 💜
@4coolclips
@4coolclips 2 жыл бұрын
Yes!!! In my childhood, being Honest often meant taking a large helping of character assassination and consequential self-hatred. Did I learn to lie my ass off when necessary? Hell yes.
@bernardbujard9944
@bernardbujard9944 2 жыл бұрын
"Wednesday Addams: Pass the salt. Morticia Addams: And what do we say? Wednesday Addams: NOW!" Honesty is not always polite or what we want to hear.
@leahflower9924
@leahflower9924 2 жыл бұрын
My sisters got rewarded for always keeping things to themselves and I wore my heart on my sleeve and became a scapegoat
@4coolclips
@4coolclips 2 жыл бұрын
@@leahflower9924 😢.....you know what that means???!!!...... you're the one who will turn into the beautiful Swan! Being an open spirited person is a blessing to everyone. I think people who aren't, feel pressured or intimidated to be like you.....so they'll try to put out your fire in order to make themselves feel more comfortable. You can't control that because everyone matures at their own pace......but you can find your Tribe! Display your lovely feathers in front of people who aren't threatened by you, but instead Love the color and excitement you give their world. I feel you! ...have been a scapegoat more times than I can count, but Ultimately it's a huge compliment to you!!!! 🤗🤗🤗💗💗💗🙏🙏😘😘
@aminfarsar3646
@aminfarsar3646 2 жыл бұрын
Honesty, I love you.
@Ellendil12
@Ellendil12 8 ай бұрын
😢 I think I'm pretty much the person described here. Childhood bullying and lack of parental awareness prevented me from learning how to sustain good relationships. Instead I learned how to navigate unsafe waters through killing my authenticity and needs. Killed them to have relationships that were a little bit safer. But it never got 'safe'😮. People always left me. Or perhaps I left them, and felt left by them. Best people come and go. I struggle to sustain what relationships are left. It is tiring, exhausting. If I died, no one would know who I was. I murdered my truths with such unrelenting determination I hardly even know them myself. Thank you Teal, for sticking so long with us.
@miffedmicrobiologist6595
@miffedmicrobiologist6595 2 жыл бұрын
Honesty does take a lot of courage. I got fired from two jobs because of it. I can sleep at night in peace while those who remained must endure the stress of being slaves to those who are liars. Honesty can be a very lonely road but as the Buddha said it’s best to walk alone than have a fool for company.
@stacyevans4438
@stacyevans4438 Жыл бұрын
When you are honest with someone even though that honesty creates break up between the two individuals, the relationship (friendship/family dynamics)holds more truth and the feeling of getting something off of your chest after the breakup than before when you were in relationship with them. Being inauthentic and dishonest takes a hell lot of energy from you and drains you completely, authenticity and honesty brings geniune people into your life and that feeling of full sun energy within you when you are authentic and in alignment with your PERSONAL TRUTH.When you are speaking YOUR PERSONAL TRUTH then you will automatically end up with people who are compatible with you and where you feel belonged. Inorder to find YOUR KINDA PEOPLE always speak your PERSONAL TRUTH and open your exit door for incompatible people in your life.
@Rose8
@Rose8 2 жыл бұрын
You've done an "One Two (three) punch" in this video Teal! Wow! Completely knocked it out of the park. I consider myself to be honest but I'm actually lying to keep other people happy. Attempting to create a fantasy of who I am so as to avoid the negative consequences. Mind blown! So fabulously articulated. 👏 Bravo, Thank you ❤️
@4coolclips
@4coolclips 2 жыл бұрын
Same! Beautifully said!!
@hollywilde6693
@hollywilde6693 2 жыл бұрын
Me too
@NatureReals
@NatureReals 2 жыл бұрын
This is a hard truth to swallow when it applies to yourself, especially after you’ve caused so much destruction as a result of inauthenticity
@rxhx
@rxhx 2 жыл бұрын
The main trick is to find the difference/balance between what is honesty and what is just aggressive/asshole-ish energy. There's a lot of ppl who use "honesty" only as a weapon to stay on a pedestal and not let anyone near them, not ever be vulnerable. Basically being "honest" to hide dishonesty. If honesty is used merely as an means to "I'll show them! Take this! Behold, my almighty opinion because your opinion sucks!" then.. probably not the best way to approach it. Will end up with more conflict than freedom/relief. Honesty should become a natural state of being(easier said than done), not a strategy. And perhaps even more important. If you go for the way of full honesty, you must also become aware and ready for facing whatever consequences. You must be ready to step off your fluffy cloud every now and then! Like Teal said, when one says "I was just being honest!" and imagines that strategy gives them all the free tickets. Being honest doesn't make you a god who doesn't have to face consequences.
@heidilee3290
@heidilee3290 2 жыл бұрын
I am dishonest and alone because I have so much fear and shame about revealing my truth to potential new friends and in new relationships. I am only honest about who I am with people that I feel completely safe with and who I know won’t reject me based off my mental health issues, which is so far only 3 or 4 people but I am committed to an authentic life and as such I am on a mission to expand this network of people. For me it’s about having the courage to reveal my vulnerability to people but I believe a level of trust must exist between people first before laying my most vulnerable parts on the table. I believe this is self loving and protecting those parts until they feel safe enough. I have severe anxiety and it limits me in many ways. I was rejected/abandoned by my family for it and the experience made me so frightened of being rejected by others that I avoid intimacy so know one can ever know just how vulnerable and afraid I am and just how much loving support that I need. Also I don’t call people out when they hurt or upset me. I present as this chill, easy going woman when in reality I am starving, lonely and in so much pain. ❤️
@berniv7375
@berniv7375 2 жыл бұрын
Honesty is speaking from your heart before your logical brain can analyse whether what you are saying is conducive or not to your self interest.🌱🧡🌱
@StephanieTips
@StephanieTips 2 жыл бұрын
actually honesty is always in your own best interest
@Samybrian
@Samybrian 2 жыл бұрын
This got to my core. Honest to myself but isolated because I'm afraid of the consequences of sharing my honesty openly with the world. It feels unsafe. I feel that I need to work on HOW I want to share it before I show myself. The thought tends to be "who cares about my truth, anyway, the world keeps moving without it".
@perryalexander1478
@perryalexander1478 2 жыл бұрын
Being honest requires discipline to not create situations that may cause us to feel the need to protect ourselves from negative consequences. By not choosing to behave in a less than tasteful moral or ethical way, there is no need to deflect the truth. And in situations that aren’t in our control, by lowering our pride and being upfront and open allows a great sense of freedom and empowerment. It’s a great self esteem booster to know you’re not hiding the truth, and giving the other party the exact understanding to whatever situation that has arose. It causes no bitterness, creates bonding and trust...being forthright in whatever situation and standing strong in the truth that you know.
@petramartinovic9866
@petramartinovic9866 2 жыл бұрын
And I dont really care about safety any more ,,if you dont tell the truth it will bite you later,even more..so as soon as better,live in truth as much as you can...❤❤❤
@rickycampos3215
@rickycampos3215 2 жыл бұрын
This video helped me realize how far I have come after the trauma I endured due to somebody else's lies. Not claiming victimhood, just stating facts. I was traumatized. I'm much better now. As a matter of fact I've never felt stronger.
@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
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@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
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@rickycampos3215
@rickycampos3215 2 жыл бұрын
@@user-dg1fj4jf1n Thank-you 🙂
@Jadechamberrr
@Jadechamberrr 2 жыл бұрын
That finger wag was everything
@oskarkamil8208
@oskarkamil8208 2 жыл бұрын
16:07 Damn. Those words are the strongest and smartest I have ever heard and hit you right with the truth!! Everyone should hear those words
@velikimilos
@velikimilos 2 жыл бұрын
Greetings from Serbia, Teal 🇷🇸🙏🏻✨
@sacchitsreenivasan3487
@sacchitsreenivasan3487 2 жыл бұрын
Man, this video hit home. Ive struggled with being honest my whole life, but the biggest challenge I've encountered has been my relationship with women, especially women who are sexually attractive. I found myself projecting aspects of myself that seemed masculine or positive or "good", completely unaware that I was trying to hide my darker side from women for fear of being seen as a monster unworthy of love.
@4coolclips
@4coolclips 2 жыл бұрын
....yes, also have known peeps who use self proclaimed 'Honesty' as an excuse for cruelty and verbal abuse.
@show_me_your_kitties
@show_me_your_kitties 10 ай бұрын
I love those people! ❤
@TealSwanOfficial
@TealSwanOfficial 2 жыл бұрын
Incase You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/safe-honest/
@kamilkarnale3585
@kamilkarnale3585 2 жыл бұрын
Just because u CAN do it , doesn't mean u SHOULD do it ! 👍👌👏
@Mr.Honest247
@Mr.Honest247 2 жыл бұрын
What an important and great message!!! I CONSTANTLY dedicate my life to bold honesty and I accept with open arms the consequences of honesty! Of course, there are little RARE lies here and there that are necessary but I’m ALWAYS measuring the level of quality of my honesty 24/7!!!
@JTT126
@JTT126 2 жыл бұрын
amazing, hats off to you. that's a quality i admire
@rxhx
@rxhx 2 жыл бұрын
It's a very similar deal with "free speech". There's countless people and groups who use the idea of free speech only as a ticket to "I can say whatever hurtful things and because of freedom of speech, nobody has the right to react negatively!"
@stellartoad
@stellartoad 2 жыл бұрын
Forgoing others respect of me is the best thing i ever did
@JTT126
@JTT126 2 жыл бұрын
Being completely honest had been a struggle for me for a while. I'm glad I watched this video. It's an eye opener
@art4Dppl
@art4Dppl 2 жыл бұрын
I was literally going to contact you, Teal, two days ago, to do a video on the energetic effects of lying. I’m awestruck, thank you
@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
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@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
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@art4Dppl
@art4Dppl 2 жыл бұрын
Haha, reported
@HannaLunaYT
@HannaLunaYT 2 жыл бұрын
Wow, the colors, the composition, quality and background of this video is amazing
@LuisRomero-bw1jp
@LuisRomero-bw1jp 2 жыл бұрын
Being (Honest) is like the mirror effect. It's about how much information you really want to give out.
@StephanieTips
@StephanieTips 2 жыл бұрын
what's the mirror effect?
@LuisRomero-bw1jp
@LuisRomero-bw1jp 2 жыл бұрын
@@StephanieTips self awareness (a self focus state)
@StephanieTips
@StephanieTips 2 жыл бұрын
@@LuisRomero-bw1jp exactly. Which poses the following question: how about when we don't want to be true to ourselves? What does it mean? Is that indicating our level of self awareness?
@LuisRomero-bw1jp
@LuisRomero-bw1jp 2 жыл бұрын
@@StephanieTips Are we really being true to ourselves. Because I feel we left the topic a bit. Ladys wear makeup men shave there heads when there bald. People don't know that only the mirror or into the eyes like a window to the soul
@newworldlove7031
@newworldlove7031 2 жыл бұрын
I was in a relationship where my ex boyfriend was too afraid to speak his truth each time I asked him if he was still OK being my boyfriend. I could feel he was lying to me. I could feel he preferred being with his sister and other sexual partners behind my back, so one day I spoke my truth. I told him I felt he would always put his sisters needs and wants ahead of mine and that I disliked the fact that he never told her not to visit him when I was at his home during the 3 days I stayed over. I told him let's just be friends and I ended our relationship there and then. I said to him he never expressed his real thoughts and feelings to me. Out of no where he confessed that 6 months ago he had started to loose interest in me!!! So I knew my instinct was right!!! What a relief I am out of this hell!! Just be honest as you can't trick an Empath!!
@user-dg1fj4jf1n
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@hannahlander1470
@hannahlander1470 2 жыл бұрын
The key to this is becoming acutely aware of the comforts we sell our truths for, and fixing that.
@darnellaford8141
@darnellaford8141 2 жыл бұрын
THE Best Teal video everrrrrrr!!! Teal!!! Yesssssssssss!!! Nailed it beautifully!!!!!
@ebonimajek9001
@ebonimajek9001 2 жыл бұрын
Video came at the perfect time, I will get my ass beat again but honesty will set me free, I will try to be in a safe place when I do ... love you all✨❤️✨
@teemuberg3339
@teemuberg3339 2 жыл бұрын
Wow I really needed to hear this! Thank you.
@KH-ou4pr
@KH-ou4pr 2 жыл бұрын
Finally a video that sums up the difficulties I'm struggling with. I've been in a codependent friendship for 13 years and have known for a number of years that something is going terribly wrong. But I could never grasp what it was and sometimes I was so confused by my own thoughts that I knew neither forward nor backward. For about 2 years I have been feeling more and more my own inauthenticity. It's almost unbearable now, but I'm so terribly scared to be honest. Because I know the truth would hurt, and I think part of me thinks I'm a bad person and emotionally hurting another person would confirm that, even though I now know it's not the truth.
@SammyVideoPlex
@SammyVideoPlex 2 жыл бұрын
Love you Teal, and thank you for this Saturday morning video. Best way to start my weekend, honest is a problem. No one is honest today in your personal life, or place of employment. A little lie is suppose to be okay, honest you are the best host on a channel on youtube Happy Valentines Day 💋
@tsnevtbl
@tsnevtbl 2 жыл бұрын
I can handle your truth
@rebeccastevens4516
@rebeccastevens4516 2 жыл бұрын
I wish you raised me somehow somewhere you’ve built me into such a better me within no time atal ,ur very clever and helped me Map things out effortlessly u teach beautifuly I can’t thank you enough we’re very lucky to have you
@4coolclips
@4coolclips 2 жыл бұрын
geez....I just started listening and already feel sighs of relief and satisfaction for the insight you impart. I think your mind is powering the Whole planet!!! 🤪🤗. Thank you so much for this, it has been a lifelong source of contention...... especially peoples desire to make 'absolute honesty' a moral statute. What a load of crap! The older I get the more I realize that very few people are worth our complete honesty, and it's even dangerous to self to give it. As usual, you're covering Every example of the complexity within this. You're Wonderful and I'm greatful for you!!!
@niezelpaderes7930
@niezelpaderes7930 2 жыл бұрын
This is so timing, I'm evaluating myself this fast few days..I'm really not sticking to my truth..funny thing it's my first time here..what I did is scrolling up all the videos you have not looking then ended pointing my finger in this video.. 🙏 this is what I needed.. I found u on TikTok by a content creator who's discussing about u
@martinliu5221
@martinliu5221 2 жыл бұрын
Honesty can create the most dramatic experiences and also very beneficial lessons. I don't just love being honest, I actually enjoy it....mostly seeing how a lot of people can't deal with honesty...it's always beautiful to watch a scenario play out after being brutally honest 😀
@apdurn
@apdurn 2 жыл бұрын
I love your clarity and how concise/articulate you are! ❤️❤️
@MostHigh777
@MostHigh777 2 жыл бұрын
I'm extremely honest and extremely perceptive which is why I have so many problems with KZbin monitors.
@Fascistbeast
@Fascistbeast 2 жыл бұрын
“We are what we repeatedly do, Excellence therefore is not an act But a habit” Above honesty ^^^ The practicing of it daily-Integrity Personally and publicly 👍 Self Mastery
@TheMiniMisfit
@TheMiniMisfit 2 жыл бұрын
Wow........ WOWWWWWWW. Thank you Teal.. I feel so much towards this.. empowered is the dominant feeling that comes to mind. I found myself being dishonest for safety even though when I'm vibrating high I would be hellbent on the truth. Have a good day. Loving light
@tonywright8342
@tonywright8342 2 жыл бұрын
What a fantastic video. Thank you Teal💚🌈
@laurajabonska1947
@laurajabonska1947 2 жыл бұрын
I am truly grateful for Teal Swan in my life. Incredible woman
@YuchanLeo
@YuchanLeo 2 жыл бұрын
“Co dependency is a relationship strategy we learned in dysfunctional household“ 😳😭
@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
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@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
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@AkunahsDream
@AkunahsDream Жыл бұрын
The TRUTH will set you free 🕊️
@OCanaldoGuigo
@OCanaldoGuigo 2 жыл бұрын
There are some lies that can last for a lifetime, that is sad because for some people the hardest thing to do is to be honest with themselves in first place.
@HananBenNafa
@HananBenNafa 2 жыл бұрын
DEEP! Thank you, Teal x
@bohnjarker9225
@bohnjarker9225 2 жыл бұрын
Fear is square root of most fallacy and half truths. The consequences are that they conclude and splice into two perspectives in transient causing deviations in normal thoughts thus creating illusion of gnosis and truth on the fabric of society chronologically destroying itself over time.they stare into oppression without honest knowledge switching there desires/gravity with pain and fear and switch there perspectives… keep your work up i see it moving forward into the feedback loop of success and love. I love your soul for it has taken care of the other two. Thanks for being you ❤️ you don’t know what you are yet because your better days are ahead of you
@McMilesE
@McMilesE 2 жыл бұрын
Teal, how are you so well-versed in this. This is one of your greatest works. Thank you.
@stellartoad
@stellartoad 2 жыл бұрын
I felt this program bout a month ago, sometimes we just need to CAUSE chaos, for ourself and others, in order to free our soul.
@raymondstares2198
@raymondstares2198 2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes the pain if honesty is so bad it doesn't seem worth it
@Pelvicks
@Pelvicks 2 жыл бұрын
You are a wonderful human being, thank you for the light that you shed on all people.
@carlorizzo827
@carlorizzo827 6 ай бұрын
ThankU Gosh Teal, painfully brilliant. I found out about so much of this the hard way. I learned that I have fast karma. Consequences came lightning fast. (Saturn in Libra guffaw, I'm a novice) No joke, so much damage incurred. Never never again.
@cloudlove1
@cloudlove1 2 жыл бұрын
Teal, I have been struggling with this, since you're accountable video. There are certain people you can't be honest with. Like people who don't respect boundaries. So if you tell someone you are off for the day but you don't want to hang out with them, and they show up at your door anyways, what do you do? I can't be honest in that case. Love you.
@no0525
@no0525 2 жыл бұрын
She's saying that you can, and you should and add to that last video about incompatibility... and also... take responsibility for not being able to maintain boundaries as someone attempting to cross them is not justifying dishonesty... the entire video is about not depending honesty on consequences. I hope this perspective is useful for you.
@NhiTran-zd8um
@NhiTran-zd8um 2 жыл бұрын
I get that its very difficult but you just said what exactly you should do in that situation, its just very painful but I promise it is a big jump in your healing process ❤️❤️❤️ hang in there love
@bunnybdiamond8223
@bunnybdiamond8223 2 жыл бұрын
I had that problem with a friend and a family member. I ended the friendship and the next time the family member stood unannounced in front of my door, I didnt let them in. Yes they are upset about it to this day. They never did it again though. If this is your boundary, if you dont want to see them, it is your right to do so. If you dont want to hang out with them, and they are unwilling to accept your boundary, YOU need to be the one who honours your boundary. YOU need to be the one that slams the fricking door in front of their face. Your life is yours, your boundaries are valid and there for a reason. Much love❤
@fnowacki
@fnowacki 2 жыл бұрын
I've had a lot of similar problems in my life. One part of a strategy I've come up with is to understand what it is those people want to get out of our relationship. (If I'm not ever willing to give them that, it's a good reason to end or minimize the relationship, but if it's more a question of how, when and where I'm willing to hang out...) Then I'd start to alter the relationship in ways so that the person gets more of those things they want from me when they respect my boundaries, and not when they violate them. Also, I'm curious about the specific example you gave. Have you tried to simply say what it is you would like to do instead, like: "No, I'd rather be by myself today, I have some things I need to catch up on"? If so, how does the person typically react?
@4coolclips
@4coolclips 2 жыл бұрын
Maybe it would help if you told them the deeper truth within yourself......that you feel taken advantage of & walked on when you put up boundaries? Then the next time they violate them, it will be easier for you to be honest with your boundaries because you'll have the extra indignation to fuel your conviction 🤪🤗🥰. PS this is coming from someone who would hide under the bed & in closets to avoid determined visitors, heh heh 😂
@viktorijajaksic9341
@viktorijajaksic9341 2 жыл бұрын
Great video!! Thank you Teal 👏🏻❤️
@sandycheeks6106
@sandycheeks6106 2 жыл бұрын
I needed to see this a couple years ago when I made a bad decision that destroyed my relationship and hurt a lot of people. I ended up spending the years after completely alone and broken, as a direct consequence from dishonesty as people no longer respected me and the strategic part of my relationship had completely exhausted and drained me. Step one towards swallowing my fear of consequences today is to finally tell my mom I tore a hole in her blow up mattress.
@show_me_your_kitties
@show_me_your_kitties 10 ай бұрын
This ended relationships? A mattress? Ummk
@carolinalink7040
@carolinalink7040 7 ай бұрын
​@@show_me_your_kittiesno, he means he used to operate more on strategy and now he realizes he's got to operate more on honesty so he's gonna start with admitting he fucked up his mom's mattress.
@vanuza222
@vanuza222 2 жыл бұрын
Oh my god Teal this message is very powerful! It spoke to my being and it is forcing me to be honest with myself and others despite of the consequences, especially the codependent pretence to be validated, approved and accepted…🙏🏼❤️
@rozaSkroza
@rozaSkroza 2 жыл бұрын
*this is straight up one of your best vids.*
@ZerO-G-YoGi
@ZerO-G-YoGi 2 жыл бұрын
Difficult indeed to speak the truth at ALL times. Homage to those brave enough.
@StephanieTips
@StephanieTips 2 жыл бұрын
difficult to find the courage and to possess the right communication skills to tell it with tact. But again, you can be super tactful and still cause negative consequences
@darthfiende1
@darthfiende1 2 жыл бұрын
This is how we end cancel culture. If more people were honest even with consequences, society would get less out of piling overblown consequences on honesty.
@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
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@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
Ŵ𝒉ạťʂ𝑨ƤƤ˂Ͳεϫϯ ±𝟏𝟼𝟏𝟎𝟐𝟑𝟐𝟗𝟗𝟒𝟏 Tell him I referred you.
@elinek5470
@elinek5470 Жыл бұрын
Very important video.. every person should watch this 😊 i needed to hear this. Since i am already 11 years done with highschool and still have to tell people that i dont know what i want to do... 😅
@Mahogui.
@Mahogui. 5 ай бұрын
Teal is explaining something complex ❤
@alex-ander-13
@alex-ander-13 6 ай бұрын
Thank you. Needed to hear this.
@myjohnsonnuranus8053
@myjohnsonnuranus8053 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah I never have no money & I always tell the truth
@bloodymary3008
@bloodymary3008 2 жыл бұрын
So wont you tell me?? where have all the good times gone 🤔
@abigailestherrobinson2204
@abigailestherrobinson2204 2 жыл бұрын
You are a genius not as an ego compliment it’s just fact I LOVE YOU
@yogaavecmoi
@yogaavecmoi 2 жыл бұрын
this is so timely that it is creepy, love you teal!
@bodhisattvaofthedharma7176
@bodhisattvaofthedharma7176 2 жыл бұрын
Teal you are the example of the divine feminine. I have been following you since I was around 22 I am 36 now
@shrutireddy6151
@shrutireddy6151 2 жыл бұрын
I always felt that I have some gaps when I am in any extreme situation or have negative feelings . I notice that I was not exactly a good person ( really imp to accept yourself) because of trying to be what others expected me to be . This video just filled that huge gap in my head and i am so happy that I finally got a direction to think and process these feeling !
@natlefebvre6624
@natlefebvre6624 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this hard truth was exactky what I needed. With realization of my fear of consequences I've been facing my truth and surrendering regardless of the consequences in result this explains a lot and help with my self-awareness ❤🙏
@artbyitalo1582
@artbyitalo1582 2 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I’ve been going through this week and suddenly a video is made about this
@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
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@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
Ŵ𝒉ạťʂ𝑨ƤƤ˂Ͳεϫϯ ±𝟏𝟼𝟏𝟎𝟐𝟑𝟐𝟗𝟗𝟒𝟏 Tell him I referred you
@ClairvoyantEntertainment
@ClairvoyantEntertainment Жыл бұрын
Truth over everything
@violetsky3067
@violetsky3067 2 жыл бұрын
I love this. My NPD ex once wailed at me (when i pointed this out to him) "why do i have to be responsible for everyone else!?" Fwiw, he is a self-proclaimed shaman who only keeps yes-people around him. Apparently his ilk are supposed to be beyond reproach
@freshfishism
@freshfishism 2 жыл бұрын
AARRRGGGG. You are right again. Dang it!! You know your audience/me so well 😭👍
@vidyasubramanian3421
@vidyasubramanian3421 Жыл бұрын
Just watched this video and I feel like my entire life has been built on dishonesty and strategy. I hold truths within me which I have never talked about because I fear the consequences but now, I feel I cant do this to myself anymore. I am deciding this very moment that I am going to go out with my truth no matter what.
@bodhisattvaofthedharma7176
@bodhisattvaofthedharma7176 2 жыл бұрын
So teacher basically what I’m getting from your message is everything, all existence requires all existence and all things are connected if you watch a negative video in the morning and it affects your mood and you go to work and you have a negative attitude at work that could affect someone in the work and cause an effect and cause a chain reaction for that person to go home talk nasty to their wife or husband and then that will cause a chain reaction
@tigersanchez98
@tigersanchez98 2 жыл бұрын
Teal has done it again and explained my entire life and why i am the way i am lol
@kaze_graal
@kaze_graal 2 жыл бұрын
I guess the biggest negative consequence of honesty with my relationship with myself is that if I do, I'm gonna end up being alone. Pretty sure most of us feel this way. I mean, you can't be honest with people if you're not honest with yourself right?
@andipower8163
@andipower8163 2 жыл бұрын
The best thing I’ve ever done was attending a radical honesty workshop. Look it up, it will change your life!
@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
Ŵ𝒉ạťʂ𝑨ƤƤ˂Ͳεϫϯ ±𝟏𝟼𝟏𝟎𝟐𝟑𝟐𝟗𝟗𝟒𝟏 Tell him I referred you
@vanjaz6972
@vanjaz6972 2 жыл бұрын
Wonderful absolutely wonderful!!!! Yes life isn’t worth living in a world of pretense as there isn’t anything to be felt. Thank you so very much for your courage and Love of honesty🥰
@angorkornai-kwade1292
@angorkornai-kwade1292 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Tael. This message is dor me. Bless you
@niramiyoko5814
@niramiyoko5814 2 жыл бұрын
You are my favorite youtuber! Give merch to Beast Philantrophy ! He is giving it away to people in need and that is exactly those people who needs you!!!❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
@vdl3984
@vdl3984 2 жыл бұрын
It's great to listen to you at higher volume
@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
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@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
Ŵ𝒉ạťʂ𝑨ƤƤ˂Ͳεϫϯ ±𝟏𝟼𝟏𝟎𝟐𝟑𝟐𝟗𝟗𝟒𝟏 Tell him I referred you..
@One.Shruti
@One.Shruti 2 жыл бұрын
My absolute fav video of yours. I was raised by pathological liars and was married to one too. This video hits me deeply. Thank you for your in-depth knowledge on this topic.
@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
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@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
Ŵ𝒉ạťʂ𝑨ƤƤ˂Ͳεϫϯ ±𝟏𝟼𝟏𝟎𝟐𝟑𝟐𝟗𝟗𝟒𝟏 Tell him I referred you
@AdmiralPenguin
@AdmiralPenguin 2 жыл бұрын
I am honest when there are no consequences, or when I feel like there are no consequences. There will be times when there is an absence of fear when I talk and so I simply say what I need.
@mn5900
@mn5900 2 жыл бұрын
Teal, i love you. And this video was amazing. Not only in content but also in form - very natural speach easy to follow. In some of your videos i have a problem following the content because im distracted by the form which is a shame as the content is so precious)
@senembalabanflamenco4533
@senembalabanflamenco4533 2 жыл бұрын
Oh I love you so much Teal! Thank you🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
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@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
Ŵ𝒉ạťʂ𝑨ƤƤ˂Ͳεϫϯ ±𝟏𝟼𝟏𝟎𝟐𝟑𝟐𝟗𝟗𝟒𝟏 Tell him I referred you.
@lanirisamarie4860
@lanirisamarie4860 2 жыл бұрын
Wow. I needed to hear this exact message in this day and prayed for the right knowledge this afternoon…and here it is. Thank you Teal. Deserves a 2nd watch to digest, for me at least. Just packed with truths.
@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
Ŵ𝒉ạťʂ𝑨ƤƤ˂Ͳεϫϯ ±𝟏𝟼𝟏𝟎𝟐𝟑𝟐𝟗𝟗𝟒𝟏 Tell him I referred you
@isanillusion03
@isanillusion03 2 жыл бұрын
Amazing video Teal. ❤
@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
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@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
Ŵ𝒉ạťʂ𝑨ƤƤ˂Ͳεϫϯ ±𝟏𝟼𝟏𝟎𝟐𝟑𝟐𝟗𝟗𝟒𝟏 Tell him I referred you.
@severly4160
@severly4160 2 жыл бұрын
Another great video, Teal. Let's make honesty in it's truest form comfortable and safe so we can create a better world.
@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
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@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
Ŵ𝒉ạťʂ𝑨ƤƤ˂Ͳεϫϯ ±𝟏𝟼𝟏𝟎𝟐𝟑𝟐𝟗𝟗𝟒𝟏 Tell him I referred you.
@Snapsta123
@Snapsta123 2 жыл бұрын
People want honesty but literally cant handle the truth when it is handed to them
@user-dg1fj4jf1n
@user-dg1fj4jf1n 2 жыл бұрын
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