Are You Tired Of Supporting Her Family? Don't Be A Walking ATM!

#filipinoculture #philippines #thephilippines
Are you tired of supporting her family and all their expenses? Does it seem like the demands for money never end, and you wonder what you got yourself into? Welcome to a nasty fact of Filipino culture: unless you chose a Filipina from a self-sufficient family, chances are you'll be asked to pay ... and pay. If you are tired of supporting her family, you're not alone!
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[@nahteo]

Wow, I shared this video with my Filipina, made her bust out in tears. She's the eldest child and said that you speak the truth and that the financial burden and pressure from her parents is rather oppressive.

[@lovemyFilipina]

Sounds like you're in line to be the next atm 😂 good luck

[@nahteo]

@@lovemyFilipina lol, she makes her own money and gives much of it to her family. I'm a generous guy but she doesn't need it so if I give, it just goes to her family. She's open about it, and I don't care. She doesn't ask for money so when I give it, it's a gift and I know where most of it goes. Her and I are a team, but we make our own money.

[@lovemyFilipina]

@@nahteo how long have you been with this Filipina?

[@supercat380]

90% of them consider lying a honest habit

[@patricklever6106]

You explained this situation eloquently and simply. Fantastic work Miss Pea. (Next Philly PM?)

[@davidhughes869]

You have to have money to be a walking ATM, right? Whew. I'm safe.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Hahahahaha But any loose change will do, too (for today) 🤣

[@markmongan]

Negative. Lass' don't just chase money. They will require you to be a bank, nothing more. Culture changes over lands. Love never changes. Love is what matters.

[@balsafarmers10]

😂😂

[@markd8369]

😂

[@nahteo]

Hahahahahahah

[@davidplatter7671]

Speaking from personal experience, whatever you give will never be enough to satisfy the requests. If you decide to help her family, be prepared to set limits and boundaries, because they won't.

[@ludwigkovacs6811]

You are soooooo right about it! My wife dedicates her whole life for supporting her mother not realising that all her other siblings benefit from this in the most unbelievable ways. This cannot be right!

[@happierabroad]

True. Just say no the first time and they won't usually try again.

[@michaelcausby5762]

That is the realest thing you have ever said ...100% true. My ex filipina did that and her siblings. All she did was send every peso home and constantly buy school supplies on sale after school started and shopping for clothes and many many things to send home to her family in balibayan boxes! Her father and siblings ruined our marriage. She had family from other islands she never met track her down on Facebook and beg for money. Always a problem or an emergency. Every week. If she didn't help then she was belittled and shunned. I will never marry a filipina again. They believe....my bank account and savings should be shared with them and they would shed a tear if I died and if you help them start a business like a piggery they will sell the pigs and say they died and argue over who did the most work and deserves the most profit. It's a losing battle....thanks for sharing Sweet Pea!

[@ludwigkovacs6811]

And this behaviour is in the name of God? They are all catholic Christians and dare milk even their own family? Is this right?

[@kennethiman2691]

As a retired mental health professional; you continue to amaze me. Your insights into both cultures are spot on. The conversation about money should be held early. I have seen friends drained from one "emergency" after another.

[@behindthen0thing525]

As a cunning linguist and an amateur gynecologist I'm also impressed

[@ludwigkovacs6811]

Exactly, this so-called "milking" culture is a shame, how dare they! Are they not all Christians?

[@billsilva4574]

I don't want to get into a long dissertation, because I've been through this. But my biggest problem is that nobody ever says thank you from her family😢 and I have helped a lot

[@TheFilipinaPea]

‘Please and Thank You’ are often not said here, I know 😢

[@davidupton5252]

Please and thank you is a sign of respect all my elders and family members would tell me off if I did not use those words, Today I still say these words as it's being respectful as do my children it's kept going.

[@ludwigkovacs6811]

How right you are! They take this for granted as the fact the sun starts over every day! How can they dare! All Christians!

[@reneurzua1492]

I showed this video to my wife and the truth was too much. She couldn’t handle it.

[@dillardroyster1319]

Ms. Pea, My family and I just returned from the Philippines last month. It was truly expensive with all of the extra people and people who just showed up at the vacation resorts with no notice. One family showed up and asked to be taken to Sky Ranch. You are also expected to feed all of the extra people also. The bonding with cousins and grandparents for my children was invaluable. The best advice that I received was from my wife's sister. She told me, " Brother in law you don't have to give them everything that they ask for. " It is truly liberating to just say, " No."

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Wow, you got the whole crowd digging into your pocket! 🥺

[@TrashedRedPanda]

But the sister in law is definitely a breath of fresh air in that situation​@@TheFilipinaPea

[@QuinnPrice]

Been there, although in the USA and Ecuador. It starts with small "asks." Then it grows. Then the family has a need, but you're only asked to contribute with others. Then, the family's needs grow. Here's the truth: her priorities are her children, next is her family, and you are a means to give her honor in her family by milking you for all they can. Best to stay single, guys.

[@ludwigkovacs6811]

You are sooooooooooooo right and it is a shame! And on Sundays they go to church praying and repenting their sins.....hypochrites!

[@rogandbingofbingalahtravel3680]

I've learned this lesson the hard way. Life is so difficult in the Philippines that loans become unanticipated gifts and gifts become an obligation. I feel empathy for Filipinos while feeling regretful that I have said yes too often.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I know that so many others have said yes too often, too 😳

[@eduardomaldonado1647]

You need learn say no and be firm about it. Stick her on a budget and make her aware she won’t get anymore. I have a girlfriend and keep her on a firm budget 4k pesos a months and it is not guaranteed. She misbehaves it gets cut. Yes there have been months her budget gets cut to zero. Her responsibility to me not her family since I am the one who supports her. I know what happens if I give her more her family will take it. Yes sometimes she cries but you need stay strong and firm.

[@rogandbingofbingalahtravel3680]

@eduardomaldonado1647 My situation is a little different in that, my wife is my age..about 68. She also has her own pension. But yes, a younger Filipina, I get where you're coming from. Thanks for the tips.

[@bengraham5699]

lol @"loan" to any kind of family member or other relatives. You won't get your money back ... even in western countries.

[@josephwolosz2522]

When I saw what the housing was like in the Phils.,I helped one family put a new roof because there was water coming into the house.

[@johnbush8254]

I hear you loud and clear. Many complaints here in Australia about men married to Filipino women constantly sending money back to support families etc. Some have cost them huge amounts. I did have a relationship with a Filipino she got aggressive over money so I ended it when i got home. No more relationship with Filipinos I've learnt my lesson besides I'm too old now to support them

[@CreasyEQ]

Yes it makes dollars and cents. To know who you are involved with❗

[@ludwigkovacs6811]

It is a pity, with this exaggerated attitude to sacrife themselves in order to finance their parents all lifelong they destroy themselves!

[@Theravadadann]

This is a great, important, and common part of Philippino culture. My wife and I have had several “ Scholars “ that we have helped through college from her extended family. We both have learned to say no to many requests but there are times that we remain generous from time to time. I feel like we have found the right balance. Good job with your content

[@nahteo]

Thank you for your well balanced opinion. I'm still just learning about Filipino culture.

[@Theravadadann]

@@nahteo you’re welcome. I love their culture and people. My wife and I have been married now for 33 years and I have been learning the culture since my first visit in 1985. Try and learn some Tagalog and maybe one of the many dialects. It is worth it.

[@timpnw944]

A repost is never a bad thing. Your content is excellent and sometimes it helps to be reminded of an old lesson more then learning a new one anyway! Thank you as always, Pea. 🙏

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Especially this one 👍😊

[@solascripturaPR1517]

Indeed, ​@@TheFilipinaPea

[@TheFilipinaPea]

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[@rickher4794]

Sounds like a form of slavery . Humans have that tendency it seems like. Freedom is hard to find these days.🕷️

[@lordjohnsadventures2085]

We see many Filipina women with foreigner men; have you seen or heard of Filipino men ever getting married to foreigners? I have not seen this.

[@MitchelltheBarbarian]

I could tell you some wild stories.

[@ChristianClark]

..... omg Ms Pea ......I am so offended HA HA HA HA HA ...........,,.Very Good video........ Always Grateful for your Knowledge and your Wisdom and your Application to help men who have Blind Faith.....including Myself. LOL

[@Itsmewhengay]

I'm crying 😭 while I'm watching this video. I'm a single mom and youngest member of the family, and also a breadwinner to the family, I'm the one who supports my father financial 😢 sending big hugs to all

[@mynameisstilljafo4063]

It's much the same in Thailand, Pea. You get married to a Thai woman or even get seriously involved with one, you are also establishing financial ties with her family. And the pressure on her to provide for the family can cause a lot of relationship problems. It seems to be especially true for women from Isan region (northeastern Thailand). Isan is hands down the poorest part of Thailand, and the pressure these gals from family back home to send money is enormous and unending. Some of these gals become absolutely ruthless as a result.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Exactly (and other places, too) 😢

[@davidyamaguchi2012]

Yep, I forced my ex-wife from Pampanga to get a job and she was sending 700 a month to her parents. I refused to hand over any money to them. I wasn’t really feeling it for her. I didn’t ask for any contribution for the mortgage. When divorcing she tried demanding half of the equity of the house. Involved the divorce lawyer from Law Offices of Matthew Hertz and if she forced a sale, she would have to pay half of the cost of selling the house due to the newness of the mortgage. Once the Law Office let her know that, she signed away everything. Housing is extremely unaffordable in the US and there is a housing supply shortage and a crisis of illegal migrants from Mexico.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’m glad you didn’t get ripped apart financially 😳 Always Get A Prenup 👍👍

[@jamesballard6564]

​@@TheFilipinaPeaunfortunately, the federal government (US) mandated that we are financially responsible for foreign spouses upto 10 years! This overrides any and all prenups. It is why I'm personally hesitant to bring a foreign wife here from a society with no financial literacy.

[@grigorirasputin425]

FJB

[@MegusKhan]

You help good men find a life. In the USA, most men can only survive. Sure there are risks to finding a Filipina bride, but you tell good men where not to step. Thank you! Good and valuable information from a world class level beauty who is Filipina Pea!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks, and that’s exactly what I try to do - help good men not to step in the poo! 💩 🤣👍

[@samual3006]

Most men can only survive, now if that isn't the most ridiculous thing I've heard what is ?.

[@iBarber504]

Pea, so is it best to put them on an allowance to avoid any confusion and potential argue,ents?

[@ka-powUSA]

I am SO glad I started an LDR with a Filipina while she is working in Saudi Arabia and before I move to the Philippines. I learned a lot from this experience! She really is a great gal, but there are some individual quirks and some (possible) cultural issues that have made it clear she is not going to be a good long term partner for me. She has not asked me for a single cent after video conferencing for about 6 months (and i didn't send her any $ either), but she wants to know things like how much my house will sell for, how much my mortgage payment is...etc. I don't talk about my money to anyone, ever, and I made that clear to her (yet she still asks). I had to laugh when she said her parents would be angry with her if she didn't know if i could support her and her four kids 😂. When i don't give her any info about my income (it really ain't that much to speak of anyway), she types in all caps and demands answers. She's 40, but not an emotionally mature 40. I have mentally determined that i might keep chatting with her for a month or two -- because i do learn a little more about life in the Phils from her personal experiences, but i refuse to be anybody's ATM. Thanks for another good video!

[@vincen.4151]

I know this game quite well. Happened to me also, you have the power to say no and walk away from this. You have find the right woman for you. Don't settle for a bad relationship. Many women out there who are good.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Just tell her like it is 👍😊

[@franklopez2969]

4 kids, Run!!

[@user-zd9wv4hb7z]

so your just playing a game ? Do u even have a passport ?

[@wld-ph]

..."support her and her four kids..." run away, and be a little more fussy...

[@erniealonzo536]

I agree with your statement, the parents should take care of themselves and let their children go forth and secure their futures. Thank you.❤❤❤❤❤

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Agreed 👍👍👍

[@ludwigkovacs6811]

Yes, yes, yes. Otherwise the kids work themselves to death all her life just to enable the parents to benefit from their working energy. This cannot be right! As a parent I decide to become parent and I am responsible for my child, shelter, care, food, education etc., not vice versa!

[@vincen.4151]

Hi Pea, A good repeat like this is needed from time to time. Guys watch and pay attention closely. When meeting a Filipina make sure you meet the whole family and know what you are getting into. Don't be afraid to walk away and say no. There are lots of women who don't do these things. Keep looking and be careful.

[@kendallevans4079]

Sage advice!!

[@119jle]

My Filipinas never met me and her family didn’t approve including 6 siblings. But I’m wealthy and we will live together without them and don’t need them. I’m “hearing” they are coming around now but I don’t forget

[@ZxSpectrumplus]

I have also heard similar stories about those in Vietnam and Thailand. Their families are more important than you for sure. A lot of cases, the women took the kids and runs back to their villages , even if there is no obvious reasons, leaving the men wondering why.

[@kendallevans4079]

@@119jle Your post makes no sense

[@danr6617]

This is a very important topic for those of us who are in a relationship with a Filipina. I’ve been married to the same girl from QC for almost 30 years and have had to deal with this a few times. I still get a little upset when it starts looking like our kindness is expected rather than appreciated. Over the years my spouse has come to see it in the same way as I do. However, certain circumstances can swing her back to the traditional viewpoint. So, the only advice I can offer is to let go of the resentment, and just manage it to the best of your abilities. It is just part of the deal when marrying a Filipina.

[@MrMaBald]

Yes you’re right on target. My Filipina wife and I have paid for one neice to go through College, the usual money back to family and latest is we have sponsored a Nephew to come here to study at an Australian University. This equates to hundreds of thousands of dollars. What annoys me is how the family expect we do this and show absolutely no appreciation for our generosity. We are both professionals so we can afford it but I have had enough of the ungrateful family.

[@Surfbird11]

Also married 30+ years to a Filipina. We support her elderly mother and sometimes help siblings with VERIFIED emergencies but they never got money for the parade of requests. Eventually they learned not to bother asking.

[@ludwigkovacs6811]

@@MrMaBald Exactly, how can they dare expect all of our graciousness for granted!!!!

[@christopherturco197]

Pea, I hope you're able to overcome the technical challenges in short order. I appreciate that you always do whatever you can to get your content out on schedule. Sometimes it means posting it a little late, other times it means bringing back a favorite vlog on an important topic to help us guys avoid "stepping in it." No matter what, it's good to know that we can always count on you. Have a great week, and see you on Friday. Aloha! 😊🤙

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’ll never let you down unless I’m in the hospital! (and even then I probably won’t) 🤣

[@christopherturco197]

@@TheFilipinaPea Yeah, you'd probably be doing a vlog on the health care system in the PH, or on Filipino nurses, right from your hospital bed (and looking as beautiful as ever, too)!

[@Allan_aka_RocKITEman]

​@@TheFilipinaPea>>> If that happens, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST, DEAR LADY!!

[@LVGaryD1]

@@christopherturco197 Hey, Filipina nurses saved my life in the USA.

[@nonrepublicrat]

and stuff.

[@user-xr4bm5qh1l]

I'm so happy I was born in Oz. My parents left me a huge amount of money when they passed away, and I haven't worked a day since. When a Filipina asks me for something, I smile, change the topic, and pretend I didn't hear her. It's amazing how I keep getting away with it.

[@bengraham5699]

you were born in the land of Oz?? 😱 How is the yellow brick road doing? 🤗

[@Aaron-xc4je]

Mate good on you you are not a walking ATM I always say we all have problems

[@a-a-ron936]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@kendallevans4079]

Pea, this is one of my favorite videos of yours and your bravest! As a guy who's had many Filipino friends and ended up marrying into an Indonesian family (similar culture). You are 100% spot on in your comments and I agree with you 100% in your opinions! I could write pages of my experiences but you know them all. I guess my biggest surprise is how these traditions live on? All my younger friends were/are aware of these and consider them "old school" traditions but they live on! It just seems ingrained into the culture and no one seems to want to break the chain? I'm so glad you made this video because NO ONE else wants to discuss this. I wonder why? Embarrassment? Maybe they don't want to be challenged? In any case, Thank you! You are a brave woman!

[@rockon8174]

Very much ingrained in Eastern cultures. Even Eastern Europe. Agrarian societies operate like this.

[@robertlalor8090]

First time seeing this, Pea. You have highlighted a reason why the Philippines has not yet become a tiger economy. Hopefully your generation and the next will remove the obstacles which hinder the Philippines from becoming the wealthy country that it should be. Bless you

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Robert! It’s over 2 years old, so I figured most people hadn’t seen it 👍😊

[@scottandrews947]

Won't happen. Average IQ in the Philippines is about 81. That's part of the reason why parents can't figure out how to make money on their own (they're too stupid). Pea is the exception to the average, extremely stupid Filipino.

[@ScorpionSuerte]

These people are the lowest "eye cue" in the whole of SEA. One big reason they'll never ascend.

[@alfredopampanga9356]

Yes. Impossible to accumulate capital. The family takes it away. Cannot use the capital to start a business or get an education

[@Allan_aka_RocKITEman]

​@@TheFilipinaPea>>> _Change_ takes _time._

[@dimplypaprika7693]

This video is truly one of the most remarkable and profound insights into not only the psychy of the individual Philipina, but also the reasoning for the struggles of an entire country. The way you compare and contrast the Philippines vs western way of rearing children is intriguing. I never realized before that this could be a big reason (though perhaps not the only reason) that the Philippines is stuck in an endless cycle of poverty. This is truly some next level observation on your part that goes way beyond a single philippina or her family. Sometimes i feel like you are more American than you are Philippine, Pea!

[@marvindockery-lo9cw]

I have been the ATM machine For about four Filipina's and I am quiting. You are correct about changes that need to happen . Baby's from these family's would be blessed to have been raised in an orphan home

[@denishealey9899]

Hi Little Pea, who cares if it's a rerun as long as it's you? I'm watching . Keep up the good work.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

THANKS Denis! And hopefully you haven’t seen it - it’s over two years old 😊

[@kendallevans4079]

@@TheFilipinaPea I can honestly say this one is timeless, Pea!

[@johncawvey5342]

Wow!!! I set the standard from the start. I told my Filipina before we ever got married that I was marrying her and NOT THE WHOLE FAMILY and if she couldn’t handle this then we need to go our separate ways. I told her I didn’t work 47 years to give my pension and social security checks to her family. We have been together 3 years now and have not given any money to her family. Both her parents work and make their own money. Now I have had neighbors come to my house carrying electric bills, water bills expecting me to pay them, what’s funny is I and my wife don’t even know these people and have only seen them a few times from a distance. My Filipina tells EVERYONE that I handle the money, which is true! She tells them that she never has money lol 😂

[@ZxSpectrumplus]

You became the Village chief and is indebted to pay the electric bills for the whole village....lol.

[@johncawvey5342]

@@ZxSpectrumplus I kindly and respectfully decline the nomination 😂

[@royjenkins9681]

Thanks for posting this one again Pea. It's good to have a reminder.

[@jodopeg]

Thanks for expanding on my point of topic, you've explained it very well....!

[@johnlobley]

Afternoon Pea ...and always let the ads play

[@TheFilipinaPea]

ALWAYS! It’s the law 👮🤣

[@Dutch1954]

😅@@TheFilipinaPea

[@Greg-fx8jf]

Hi Pea, Sorry about your computer problems. Have a great week and see you Friday! Thanks for your hard work.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’ll be there, ready with an interesting one 👍😊

[@chipparmley]

Thank you Pea for adding a video today even when the one you planned was in a technical time out.

[@The_Drifter_13]

As always, very logical and clear. I always learn something new from your videos!

[@danelionheart5881]

I have no choice but to agree with everything you said in this video. But for the record it does happen here in the US as well. Just not as much. Now I don't mind helping a girl I am with or her family now and then. I would not make it a habit of doing it every week month or every other month. if I am dating a girl and she is upset I am not helping her family I have no problems telling her to go look for a guy more willing. I would also wish her luck as well as the guy she finds. I help others because I want to not because I have to. I have helped a lot of people most of the time they never even asked me. I have helped others more than one time but that again was my choice. If I am dating a girl and she feels my money was meant to help her family, then she was not with me for love she was with me for an open bank account. To use a person that has money just to help your family get by in life is not love.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Then make sure you discuss it right away 👍😊

[@batchboy999]

Incredible video Pea! You're totally right, I've been caught in this quagmire for 7 years, visited filipina wifey 5 times. The basic root of the problem is the exchange rate 50 times larger which MAKES us look rich when most of us foreigners aren't!

[@EDINTHEWIND]

Thx again for the caring insights into Filipino culture. Your balanced view assists us viewers in making informed decisions in our personal lives. You are invaluable “Little Bit”.

[@omega_supreme]

Fortunately, I lived in a community where I had neighbors, on both sides of me and directly across the street, who were married to Filipinas. They all got burned as I watched over a 13-year period. I never partook of that and was spared a lot of pain. They all had champagne and caviar taste with their husband's beer and peanuts money. Where as they all came from bread and water communities, it was amazing.

[@seasian-cr2wr]

This is a very insightful, thought-provoking, and truthfully honest video. Well-spoken and well done, Filipina Pea! The cycle of "utang na loob" is toxic and one part of our Filipino culture that I am not proud of, particularly the family over-dependence. Very good video: I hope you make more videos on related topics. 👏👏👏

[@kenm8376]

Many times, I'll go back through your videos and watch them. There are so many really great lessons and so much useful information that rePEAting the video is needed.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Ken! I hope this is one of them 👍😊

[@peterhuang1431]

this is a great video! Im glad you brought this old video up. I think I missed it and never saw it before. god bless this video

[@DeepHouseGuy83]

This is probably the realist channel on KZbin. Great content. I dealing with this topic today and have been.

[@MrZiggy1979]

God bless you thank you for bringing more clarity to my understanding. I've dated someone from Iloilo as well as someone from Manila but I never could understand how they had to take care of their parents and brothers

[@mermaidmuncher2708]

Pea is the best resource of the Philippines. The double agent has done it again. You always knock it out of the park Pea. You’re so well-versed, and know all our slang. You’re one of my favorite vloggers, and number 1 Filipina vlogger for sure. Love ya 😘Pea

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Muncher 😉🤣👍

[@Geoduck.]

Pea, we hope you are able to quickly and painlessly resolve the technical difficulty's. This is a great video well worth playing once more. My wife and I were blessed that her folks were successful middle class and not expecting anything from us. The few things or support we gave over the years was truly appreciated and used effectively.

[@martingray6383]

Thanks Pea, I really love your videos! Very informative and presented very well!! You are an original that"s for sure!!

[@Shacksies]

Your honesty and directness on this subject is very respectable. A lot of times people glorify the traditional culture of Philippines or other cultures, and are unwilling to discuss the negative aspects of it, which all cultures have both positive and negative. I will say that American relationships also have a very big expectation for the man to make a lot of money, but mainly so they can feed the materialism of their American girlfriend/wife. Although it is also a problem that Philippine families might expect a husband to be a provider for his wife and her parents, the man would be in a similar situation with an American woman who expects money out of pure greed for herself, because of the western woman's obsession with luxury. If a man in America is poor, he's viewed as far less attractive, and a man's money is a constant source of arguments and insults from American women in relationships. Whether dating a western woman, or an Asian woman, both situations usually have the expectation for the man to be spending tons of his hard-earned money on other people. This is a big reason why it can seem hopeless for men who are not lucky enough to get ahead of the terrible economy, because they feel they do not deserve love because all of these women, both foreign and domestic, expect us to be an ATM. At least the Filipino people have a somewhat more understandable reasoning for this, because they have a culture of providing for their family, which isn't good, but it's definitely not as evil as the American woman's expectation to just be given money for herself, and an American woman just expects this money because she wants it and she thinks she deserves men's money for nothing (just look at how divorces work here). I would still argue that the Filipino way is better than American women who just want your money because.... they like money, and spending it on frivolous nonsense. With an American woman, if the man struggles to make much money, then he's just going to be insulted, shamed, and eventually cheated on because of the self-centered, greedy nature of American women. With a Philippine woman, you may find yourself in the same situation, due to pressure from her family to find a way to provide for them. It's very sad because I would have liked to have a wife and a family, but either way, whether you stay in America or venture to other countries, the man seems to almost always get the bad end of the deal, and there's not enough reciprocation. This is why men across the world, both in the West and in Asia, are turning away from marriage and isolating themselves, or just having casual hook-ups without committing to a relationship where they have nothing to gain and everything to lose.

[@grandadan]

Too much information. First no woman of the West needs a man's money because they all work. If yours is not working, then you are not good at finding them. In that case it's you having a big problem. The difference is that lazy ones at the Philippines like to live scaming their kids or daughter husband. Much different.

[@Pleasurechest985]

It's amazing how a successful, educated man can turn into an air head.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Isn’t it though! 🥺👍👍

[@jamesballard6564]

Educated, no. Horny, yes.

[@user-bf5fi4ss2q]

Many men thinking with their small head.

[@ModernJoys]

Informative. Thank you. Understanding cultures are essential.

[@cjmarsh504]

Thank you for being honest about what's going on in the Philippines and other Asian countries.

[@generoush3823]

There is something really wrong with a system where parents send their daughters out to sell their bodies (weather in the bars or marriage to a "rich" guy ) to fund their retirement

[@stoicfreediver]

Excellent choice of reposts, Pea! This is now the 3rd time I’ve watched this episode. It’s inevitable that I will have to show this video to my future gf before we can have a deeper relationship. I’m happy to help a little bit, but … boundaries! She will need to have her own career too, same as me.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Just tell her to give me a call 🤣 NOT!

[@speedyb5847]

Thank you for this video helped me a lot to understand some things from past. Keep up with great work and once more thank you😊

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thank you for watching, Speedy! ❤️👍

[@johnsaia9739]

Thanks for reposting and being 100 accurate and shining the light of truth on the subject.

[@marcrichard7251]

Great topic Pea…. I love your honesty 😊

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Marc! I’m just tellin’ it like it is 👍😊

[@wolf30324]

Great video nailed all the points 👉....sometimes you just have to walk away from a situation like that and live stress free. This culture will most likely never change.

[@urldroidsuperbot2139]

In India, the culture has changed 180 degrees in the last 40 years as the nation got wealthier. Also, Indians are well travelled, largely speak English and are in tune with the modern Western ideas.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Not in our lifetimes, anyway 😢

[@wolf30324]

@@TheFilipinaPea question do you consider yourself as a match maker ?

[@fredhowsare5736]

Excellent. You explained Western and Philippine basic family cultural differences and their potential effect on mixed relationships with no holds barred. Very direct, concise and professional. Thank you; Great job.

[@Fire2Hot911]

Pea, this was one of your best videos. Thank you for revisting this video. You are spot on. I however and very pleased with my Filipina because she works on saving me money not spending it. And our 3 month old son will have a bright future. I just hope I am on earth long enough to see it. Thank you again for another great video

[@brianmaydotca]

Pea, this is my first time visiting your channel. Wow, you have an excellent understanding of the differences in cultures, and I appreciate your straight talk approach. Every western man contemplating a relationship with a filipina woman should watch this video as "food for thought" to prepare him. I have "liked", "subscribed", activated your "notifications" and have "followed" on your other social accounts. I promise I'll be watching your previous videos as well. Good job. Cheers.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks so much for finding me, Brian 👍 ❤️❤️

[@niallwildwoode7373]

Well said, Pea. You may have put a load of noses out of joint, but you've equally raised your integrity to even higher levels. Power to you 👍

[@harvemax1]

Foriegn husband here. Your videos strike me to the core. This one is so true. Thank you.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Hope it’s not too late? 😳👍

[@YoungFreshGlobalTravel-cy1zj]

I've watched a lot of your videos but this is my favorite one. I cannot even begin to tell you how much a video like this was needed. Thank you for trying to educate the filipinas on trying to teach their family to be more self sufficient rather than having a bunch of babies they cannot afford.

[@gibblespascack1418]

No worries, just keep moving forward. It is 3 more days until Friday, hopefully everything will be back to normal again. Good luck.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

There’s a bug in my software, but if I have to upload it directly from my phone, I will 👍

[@erriconeale6924]

Thank you for your videos Pea.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

And thank YOU for watching them 👍❤️

[@rickher4794]

Thanks for the update and insight into the customs if your homeland. I like your honesty and transparency.🤠🙏

[@happierabroad]

It's simple. If you say no to the first request for money, they won't ask again after that. But it's ok to treat the family once in a while to dinner.

[@lakelvp]

In the west we have devised an intricate system of utang that takes everything children have to finance a comfortable lifestyle their parents want. It's called the global finance system and sells the future every day so traders can enjoy their beer on the couch, in their split level ranch house, on their yacht, or on a flight to the Philippines.

[@Bloodsaber64]

I have studied this topic extensively. Life is not always a gift. Sometimes children die early, from not being taken care of, or abused. They never asked to be born, life is forced upon us all. It is thus the duty of parents to provide a good upbringing, and well led into a direction that will see them succeed in life. Those that do not deserve abandonment, and possibly worse. But, for those parents that DO make life into a gift that can be enjoyed, where the child has been brought up right and every chance to succeed, some return on investment is warranted. One day we will all get too old to work, and part of building a nest egg to handle your later years, is making sure younger people have an environment to provide for both. An environment to succeed can only be provided by the parents and adults while the child is growing. The environment includes governmental, economic and social. The failures of the older generation to provide a good environment for the younger generations will reflect on the older generations later in life, as leaving the younger generations without the tools to provide for both of them will see them without the tools to provide for either of them.

[@Misfit]

Pea, I really appreciate you being so candid and truthful in your videos 🙌😍!! God bless🙏.

[@hotflywheel01]

Very very good vid Pea. Im glad you are brave enough to speak out and explain the culture in the Philippines. God Bless ❤❤

[@Telcontar86]

Good morning Pea ❤ I remember this video! It's an important insight into the culture for anyone interested in a Filupina. Did I ever say that I think your language is really cool? I'm learning Spanish and i can definitely hear its influence, which makes sense considering the country's history. Hopefully you figure out your editing software. Also blue is definitely one of your colors 😍 007 Pea returns! Still one of my favorites, up there with Pirate Pea lol Till Friday miss!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

There are many similarities, yes 👍👍👍

[@jimventurini5724]

I remember when I was in the Marines the bar girls on Okinawa where filapinas. Apparently the parents rented them out to do a tour in Japan the same tour that we did for 6 months. I was only 19 years old but I could still tell that some of them were under age 😢

[@matthewfriedewald8551]

you did a fantastic job with this one !!! and that Bond closing... brilliant ! safe journey

[@sdavis-59]

Sweet Pea, ❤ how multifaceted you are, a real 💎 !!!! shhhh...I often go back and watch your videos as a refresher, even after going back and forth for +10 years! To watch you on camera so relaxed, understanding and truthful gives hope. 💥💥 You always make me smile! {Grin} 😁

[@Nordic_Sky]

I think the best way to manage these financial pressures is to give your spouse a fixed amount of money each month to spend on whatever she wants. If her family wants money, it has to come out of that. Then she decides. If she wants more, you can just play your broken record about that being all you can afford to give her. As soon as she is the decider, it takes the pressure off you.

[@ShadowVonChadwick]

Yes girl it's all about balance while maintaining respect & being mindful of circumstances. Our social structures always seem to go from one extreme to the other. We lost the garden of Eden.

[@lumpinilive9974]

Pea , many thanks for your concise informative channel. You have a fresh happy manner delivering on diverse topics. A delight to listen and learn , Many thanks from Down Under

[@YourSixStudios]

Hey Pea, your channel is doing great 1.5 million views in the last 28 days! Thanks for all the videos, I think I watched them all :D Going to Cebu tonight for the first time!

[@spincube5734]

Used to use every machine in the gym to stay fit for my Filipina gf & impress her family. Now I only need to use one since they installed that ATM in the lobby. Good content rewinds like yours are never a disappointment. Hope your tech difficulties iron out painlessly. Thanx Pea !!

[@119jle]

You’ve impressed no one trying to a he man and body build. Use the time instead to be with her and spoil her with gym funds

[@spincube5734]

That was sarcastic humor my friend, nothing more.😀@@119jle

[@Crazykid949]

Pea : I hope you get things sorted out with your editing software. This was a great choice to re-visit this video. This information is just as relevant now as it was when you first released it. One of the biggest informational take-aways of this video is that when two different cultures meet for any type of relationship, they should be opening themselves up to the other person's culture within themselves in order to completely understand the other person. This will make the hurtles, boundaries, and obstacles seem so much less of a shock to the system of understanding. If two people can't understand each other to an extent, it is hard not to see that their relationship is bent for disaster. When I first found your channel, I found your information, enlightening, entertaining, and very intellectual, so I went back to your first video and watched them all in order, something I wish so many other people would do! After enjoying all of your videos, I have a wealth of information about a country, culture, and history I was never exposed to in school. THANK YOU for that! It gave me the desire to visit the Philippines to see this beautiful land, culture, and happy people for myself one day. When that day will come, who knows? But at least I have something to hope for and a goal to achieve. Keep up the great work my friend, and I hope that your software issues get resolved soon!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks, and since it’s been over two years, it needed to be said again 👍😊

[@mbd2901]

Yes Miss Pea.. this is your best of the best video I’ve watched from your channel thus far. I really do appreciate your sincerity and authenticity in fully and clearly discussing the topics of “ Utang ng Loob” mind set in the Philippines and Foreigners being treated by their Filipinas as their walking ATMs. Thank you!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks for that 👍👍👍

[@skiphamblin2185]

Excellent report and info.Salamat PO!!!

[@Herv66]

Hi Pea. My prayers for your lost & your heart 😔🙏

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Herv! You patrons are the best for not being bored with my personal life ❤️

[@Herv66]

@@TheFilipinaPea No Bored @ All. Glad you share ! 🥰

[@humnpwr]

My girlfriend sends most of her pay to her family. She would like to move in with me but I told her no as long as she is supporting her family. She is the youngest sibling and said she is obligated to send money or her family will be furious with her if she stops. I tell her how evil they are to make her live in poverty but then we don’t talk for a few days.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

That’s a problem that won’t go away, I’m afraid 😢

[@humnpwr]

@@TheFilipinaPea Thanks Pea I’ve been following you since I started seeing my girlfriend 3 years ago.

[@jejunamja]

Hey thanks for reposting that particular video. I think it’s speaking to a lot of people hopefully freeing the new generation and maybe helping some marriages that are wondering why they’re always fighting.

[@raymahannah4336]

Good topic to revisit Pea! 👍 The proverbial catch 22. It's best to discuss and set limits when you are first getting involved. 🙂

[@Warf459]

Good Evening Pea. Watching one of your reruns is nothing new to me because I do it every now and again. Believe me when I tell you, I do have my favorites. LOL!! I pray you get a handle on your software. Have a great evening>>☺☺☺☺☺☺☺

[@TheFilipinaPea]

What are your favorites, Warf? 😊

[@RootTheCoop87]

I do like the beginning... for other reasons 😅🤫, but great video though 🙂..

[@DanielWolfe]

I just came across this video I think because of the thumbnail. I will definitely save this video for future ref. I'm planning to start my travel adventure in the future, and had the Philippines in mind as one of the destinations to go to. This is llike a road map prepared for what is to come, and I'm thankful that you provided us this information.

[@christopherhill7131]

Great info. I’ve often heard about this a lot over the years. Putting that type of responsibility on a child isn’t fair and it can be very stressful. The thing is that happens here too. On a smaller scale but it happens.

[@jigenprime6613]

Hello Pea.. Sorry for the technical difficulties..I loved this episode when it was first posted.. You really enlightened me because I did hear that saying about marrying the Filipina’s family entirely.. Take care Pea!..❤

[@TheFilipinaPea]

You saw this one? Then you ARE a fan 🤣👍

[@jigenprime6613]

@@TheFilipinaPeaYes Pea I am a fan!.. Every Tuesday and Friday I look forward to hearing what your advice is on Filipina life.. Keep the videos coming!.. All the best Pea!..❤️

[@FilipinaWife]

@jigenprime you didn’t only hear it, you experienced it! Why are you acting like you don’t know this???? 🤣

[@Nicholas-cn5vk]

Your leftovers are better than most peoples fresh content, Pea. 😉👍

[@TheFilipinaPea]

❤️❤️❤️ I’m so happy to hear you say that 👍👍

[@dragonrln]

Exactly right, Miss Pea... giving freely without being asked is a wonderful feeling. But giving because of someone else's feeling of entitlement makes us feel resentful. You are a responsible daughter with a big heart. So you want to share your resources with your family. And that is the way it should be. Hopefully the man you finally chose will support you in this and he will also have a big heart.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’m getting all my supporting out of the way now, so my future husband won’t have to 🤣 I’m passing the burden to my brothers (after putting them through college) 👍 And thanks for staying with me so long, my friend ❤️

[@frankkluz9787]

You can continue to be such a blessing to these people Pea ! -- The 1st step in problem solving 'is' to ''identify the problem''. --- Job well done young lady. --- Change is hard sometimes when it's so ingrained. Knowledge is power and you sure provided it here ! --- I'm a 74 year old American male and I find your wisdom quite unusual - especially given where you came from and your background ! The value of your content here will change lives for the better as more expats hook up with Filipinas and face these likely challenges. Eventually these ancient traditions can be changed over time. A TERRIFIC TOPIC and I'm sure one that is appreciated already. = Good job !!! 🙏

[@luisalejandro3100]

Once again i thank you for your insight and content. I have a pilipina girlfriend and have discussed this topic with her more than once and she always has the same answer "the money doesn't matter to my family, just that you treat me well" Will see what happens when i visit the Philippines 💋😂

[@terrylorrah6725]

Good evening, Pea!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Travelin’ Terry! Is it snowing where you are? 🥶🥶

[@terrylorrah6725]

​@@TheFilipinaPeawe might have some snow later today. We had a big snow storm last Saturday and Sunday.

[@terrylorrah6725]

​@@TheFilipinaPeaCorrection: Yes, it's snowing hard now.

[@Thunder90449]

Pea, you videos are incredible. Thank you for sharing this information because I definitely don't want to be walking ATM for her extended family when I start traveling to your country.

[@Mr.ramonegibbs1350]

Well said Filipina Pea. Keep up the good work 😊