The Catholic Single Person’s Guide To Surviving Dating (feat. Lillian Fallon)

[@sally.g.]

Honestly, seeing such a beatiful, good hearted woman still struggeling to find a partner brings me comfort. Being single it's so tempting to blame it all on your looks or personality... I think It's healthy to know that there are things one can do to increase chances of meeting someone but it's never under your absolute control. Thank you for the tips, I'll use them. And thank you for making this video specifically for us, single, as I feel that we often get overlooked :')

[@deneim1108]

​@@Call_Upon_YAH Your reply doesn't fit well to the subject... it's about single women who are also Catholic Christians looking for sound healthy tips in regards to respectful dating. I have some advice for you though... your research would be better served when talking Christian apologetics. But even with that, one must protect themselves from being fooled that knowledge is more important than Truth. You see, Satan sees the Truth and possesses more knowledge than we do... but that doesn't assure him a seat in Heaven. Beware of being misled by seemingly 'good knowledge'.

[@Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheese]

Us men are struggling to find someone more than you think even though I am active and well groomed and have been told I am attractive. Im 26 and still havent had a girlfriend yet. I want to have a lot of kids one day

[@lukebrown5395]

I’m praying for all of you fellow single Christians.

[@edgara.4902]

Same here brothers and sisters

[@chaser595]

I met my wife on catholic match. We lived 500 miles apart and the rocky mountains between us. I talked with her for about 1.5 months before we went on our first date in whuch we met in a city in the middle, went to lunch, then cathedral, followed that with hike, a short walk through the historic district, and to dinner. I found an airbnb which was run by a old christian lady. I did make a move and stargazed with my now wife outside wrapping a blanket and arm around her. There was no kissing. What followed that was talking everyday and a month later we were officially dating after a 500 mile drive to see her. I primarily would drive once a month to see her. She came tp see me a couple times as well. I was engaged half a year after we started dating and went 8 months before we of were married.

[@ThatGirlMoi]

Beautiful story. Thanks for sharing. Wishing you both the best and a blessed marriage!

[@TheMgarvey]

It is a beautiful story - follow your heart. I wish you all the best.

[@johntaylor4810]

I wish you all the best. May God bless you

[@Milkchocolate99]

​@johntaylor4810 what's your insta???

[@mauriciogeldres8614]

You have truly inspired me to pursue something similar 🤪

[@Susan_K]

I need the Catholic introvert’s guide to surviving dating 😅

[@phoebea]

My advice: plan your rest/recharge times around your social event. Ex. You are going to go to a social event on a Saturday. So, plan to rest and stay in on the Friday and Sunday (apart from Mass, of course.) If you have planned times to recharge, social events are less draining.

[@wilhufftarkin8543]

My advice is to stop identifying as an introvert. It puts you a priori into this mindset that hinders you from being open to new interpersonal experiences. I thought for a long time that I'm an introvert, but it turns out that I just prefer quality groups of people as opposed to simply any groups of people.

[@isa.velvet]

🙋🏻‍♀️

[@phoebea]

@@wilhufftarkin8543 I don't think of introversion as an identity, but a thing I have to work around. I've tried to be a social butterfly--going out almost every day/night and getting out of my comfort zone--but got burnt out very quickly without the necessary periods of being alone. I love people, and I love my friends, but it doesn't change the fact that social events are draining for me. Ex., For a wedding I went to, I didn't go out for 2 days before the wedding (to have the energy for it), and, three days after the wedding (to recover from it.) Maybe you're more in the middle between introverted and extroverted (so am I), however, my more introverted friends need that rest and recharge time. And, that's okay. People have different windows of tolerances of how much people they can take. As I get older, I choose to spend my time and energy on the people I love while being intentional in making time to recharge so I can enjoy my time with others instead of wanting to go home.

[@herlocksholmes9369]

I'm an introvert too, but I don't think it affects my dating that much. There are ways to learn how to be more social, and as someone else said, you can plan periods of rest before or after a social event. Furthermore, if you don't feel like going to a social event, sometimes just try and go there anyway. In my experience, once you go, you'll be glad that you went, even though you initially didn't feel like it :)

[@KittyM-]

My tip: if he's not the one for you or vice versa, it's nobody's fault. It just wasn't meant to be! And when it's right, you'll know + he'll know ❤

[@ericfreshcorn3590]

Hello

[@margaritakleinman5701]

Agree with you completely!

[@nicholasmargagliano1833]

Honestly at 25, I’m just on my own time. Scripture tells us being single is a great thing because it allows us to focus on God. If the lord wills me to have a woman, he will provide it. He will have to give it to me because I’m literally done pursuing it. If he does not will it, then he won’t provide it. This journey is between our souls alone, and God. So really, it’s a win win. If he doesn’t give me anybody, that’s fine. It’s more time to focus on him, work on me, and grow spiritually. People need to literally just walk with God and allow him to work. I’ve seen in life he works perfectly and precisely. Even in our turmoil, it all serves a purpose. So let go, take it easy, and pray. Work on relation with God rather than with the opposite gender.

[@JackieDaytona1776]

Good luck, God never seems to send me women lol

[@nicholasmargagliano1833]

@@JackieDaytona1776 and that’s alright brother 🙏🏼 this journey is more than that. Better to be right with him than with a woman.

[@ThatGirlMoi]

Thanks Nicholas! Singleness= growing with God. I really needed this reminder 🙏🏽❤️

[@ThatGirlMoi]

Can you please point out where in the Bible where it says single is a great thing because it allows us to focus on God? I’d love to learn more and read up on it. 😄 I feel as though I’ve been called to make God my spouse in this season of singleness as He fulfills His purpose for me in the season, prepares me for my future family, and prepares my spouse for our future as well. 😌

[@nicholasmargagliano1833]

@@ThatGirlMoi 1 Corinthians 7:8 1 Corinthians 7:32-35

[@ChildofGod98765]

I haven’t dated since my husband passed away. God please continue to give me strength because I’m losing hope. As Christians it’s important to trust God no matter what we are going through. God is our only strength in this world. Like many other single parents things are tough on me. Both of my sons are autistic. I’m constantly struggling to provide for them and now that I’m home schooling them things are especially hard. I’m having trouble getting their school supplies. I’m overwhelmed. Father God hear my prayers. My faith in you is strong! Even as I constantly struggle to pay my rent. And I constantly struggle to provide groceries for my children. I trust you Lord! I’m keeping faith. Walking with faith is the most important thing us christian’s must do. That’s why love compassion and prayers are all we truly need. Please keep me and my boys in your prayers.

[@chanteusesanders]

May you be blessed with strength and financial ease to help raise your sons. Praying for you!

[@annemoore5453]

I am laughing so hard... "Jesus always swipes right." Thanks for this!

[@icarus374]

I came to the comment section expecting this to be quoted haha, thanks :)

[@felixculpa0807]

Haha I wanted to say the same

[@AJKPenguin]

St. Rita. ; ) Have to confess though, about teared up when you talked about being lonely, when visiting married friends. That hits home, essentially every time. I do appreciate the reassurance to visit my single friends more often, even though that list, like yours, is shrinking little by little. 3:17-3:47

[@SheldonAdama17]

The advice on not over-spiritualizing can be summed up with a quote from Lost - “Don’t mistake coincidence for fate.”

[@margaritakleinman5701]

But sometimes it's the other way around. Some things are truly meant to be, some may just be coincidence. Time will tell.

[@brainfreeze91]

I'm 32 and been single all my life. But recently I have been trying to warm up to the concept of dating. But it's still an ongoing process for me. I took what you would call one of those "breaks", except my break lasted 8 or so years. I tried the CatholicMatch thing but never had much success with it. But that was on me. And since then, I have been very passive in my vocation. It has been easy to just languish in singleness and not do anything about it. But now, I am working on myself. I've entered therapy, and I am finally going to young adult events again. The concept of dating is still scary, but I am hopeful that I can get there someday. Lillian's advice that dating shouldn't be taken too seriously is helpful advice that I need to follow. My advice for shut-in introverted engineers like myself is to not underestimate therapy. You really need someone in your life that you can be 100% honest with. There's more to life than just your career and video games. Therapy can help you understand why you have this blocker on yourself regarding dating, and why you feel different from the other extroverted people out there. If you're jealous of how easy it is for other people to form friendships and strike up conversations, well maybe this is a calling to gain a better understanding of yourself.

[@Prinstar100]

Oh my goodness! I am in the same boat ie 32 and always been single. Praying that God leads you to your future spouse.

[@brainfreeze91]

@@Prinstar100 Thanks. I'll pray for you too

[@romasliv]

Im 30 years old guy and I'm kind of passive about dating, i don't feel necessity or desire for it, but maybe i will need force myself to it, i don't really mind doing a arranged marriage as long the person is a pious catholic. I suffer from mental illness so marriage would be kind of hard for me.

[@justinm7745]

Appreciate the advice of not functioning out of scarcity. It definitely drive me at points of low self esteem.

[@pearlescobar9449]

Lillian, thank you so much for making this video! I feel like I heard everything I needed to hear as a single girl and even though I love the idea of marriage and want to meet my future spouse so badly, I know that the time is not here yet. God bless you💗💗

[@rouxmain934]

To be honest, seeing dating as a game might be the best solution ever. Without getting any hopes up, getting to know people and then simply listen and share from where our minds are coming from, seeing the other react to difficulties in daily life to see if that person is right for us

[@brenda.pereira24]

Wish you could appear here more often Lillian! Always love to hear what you have to say. Really looking forward to read your book!

[@jacintaflorence2451]

I agree! When I was single I had lots of great single friends. It’s so important

[@YouAdam2]

You doing great. I'm a 29 year-old single also and most of your tips i happened to learn my way through prayer and meditation and regular consultation with my Lord. And boy what a journey it is becoming. For God's Glory

[@seans.131]

“God ultimately knows what's best for us.” 5:52 God bless, Lillian✝ (I purchased your new book, looking forward to it😊✝)

[@melaniemoore6323]

I didn't know she wrote a book about style until she mentioned it in the video. It definitely makes sense because when the video started, I was like, "I am OBSESSED with her outfit!"

[@nancyfernandez723]

you sound just like my son he is 34 and trying to find a sound minded women and also loves writing. i told him to hold on don't just date any body god knows the right time.and place. your video will help him get through the hurtle. thanks for speaking out on this subject.

[@birdman9860]

He should date her

[@oldegeezer]

These days, for me to "just go on the date" is tough. I view a date without the pressure of marriage looming down on it, but if I ask a girl who will ONLY go on a date with her future husband either the expectations are so high that only Mr. Right has a chance of going out with them so that I am rejected for something, or this date means everything to them because they are hoping they said yes to their future husband. It's alright to be rejected and to have standards. It's important not to forget that dating is on the road to marriage. It has just become this case of meeting some unknowable standard to measure up to one date that may just be one and done, maybe a few dates at best.

[@LiLisLounge]

These are some great tips! I wrote my first book for those singles who are still out there hoping to get married and had no idea this would be their life's path. May God bless all the singles and lead them to an amazing person!

[@JackFalltrades]

I have never bought into the idea that there's only one person out there for you. I think there are many compatible people out there with whom you can make a good marriage. It might even be someone in another country! I am a widower. I was married for 38 years to a woman I met when I was overseas with the Navy. 😊

[@IONov990]

Thank you for this. I guess you have to pick one person out of the many possible good ones

[@imalive4u169]

I told my sons to find a good, morally sound woman, and if she's not Catholic, would she be willing to become Catholic? If not, look for someone else. I also told them if she's pressuring you into having sex or moving in look for someone else because it's obvious that she has commitment issues. I explained to them that if a woman is of a different denomination or religion, she would have different beliefs than yourself, which would only increase the chance of divorce. And that women that pursue men for sex been around the block and will likely cheat on you in the future. When looking for a wife it's for the long term.

[@phoebea]

Though I agree with you on most of your points, I also think that it's okay to date someone not Catholic. Especially if the person is open to learning more about the faith and is willing to follow the Church's teachings. I agree that it is harder to be in a relationship with someone who is of a different faith or one who has no faith at all. However, what if God is bringing that woman to the faith through your son? I know of many marriages where someone was brought into the Catholic faith through their spouse.

[@dedalesigma6755]

@@phoebea Well dating is ok. And an interfaith marriage can certainly work. Though it's not prudent, when one starts a relationship one has to take the person as they are for the most part. Religious expectations therefore should be an upfront thing.

[@phoebea]

@@dedalesigma6755 I agree.

[@clydedoris5002]

I like to think of Solomon in that regard

[@emilierabier1238]

Lil tip I was given that helped me so much : love people for them ! Don't only get to know people or spend time with them because you want something from them or because they make YOU feel good (even though that's still very important), but do it with the other person's best intrest in mind, like your freely giving and not draining the other, without looking out for your own interests. Maybe that person will turn out to be a good friend, your spouse, or maybe you'll end up going your seperate ways. Either way, it's ok !! Love them for them.

[@FaithfulMel]

I’m loving all Lillian Fallon content! Keep up the great work! ❤

[@a_catholic_artist]

44 year old man... spent 33 years away from the Church... just got confirmed this year. Would love to find a Catholic wife... God Willing! May God Bless Us All!

[@Hola19280]

Since we’re all here, Hi I’m Guillermo, and I’m available. Jesus is great too.

[@elissaannephoto]

Thank you for this, Lillian! Just the pep talk I needed. It’s always encouraging knowing I’m not alone. What a rough world out there.. I’m just over here wondering where the masculine men are at. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@mariedezine8966]

This video is very helpful! Thanks for sharing these tips. I needed this. Dating is hard but I trust that God will send my spouse when he sees fit. ❤🙏🏾

[@retrorenegade1967]

When it comes to not taking it so seriously, it actually is quite serious for women because they need to consider their fertility, which starts drastically decreasing at age 30. I like to study history and I have noticed that the attitudes around dating and marriage, even in Catholic circles, are very different than they were for most of human history. In previous generations, people generally didn't date someone for years at a time, things went rather quickly. If two marriage-minded people met, shared the same goals/values and enjoyed being in each other's prescence, they would get married. Physical/sexual attraction wasn't considered a top priority, and people would often grow in their attraction as years went on. The Disney-fication of marriage and romance changed people's attitudes, and marriage became much more centered on "finding my soul mate and other half." That's a very new concept. Another factor is generally people were married in their late teens/early 20s, so they hadn't started a whole "life" yet. It's much easier to make one life together with someone then to try to meld two separate lives together.

[@tvhead7074]

Nowadays marriage is viewed as the cherry on top of life and not something where two people get married early and grow together as you alluded to

[@juanmejiagomez5514]

Growing in attraction is not something that you can take for granted, and if it does not happen you basically have signed up for way more hardships in your personal life than necessary, whereas finding a compatible partner makes things way easier. On the other hand, if you’ve been dating someone for 1-2 years, have talked about your life-goals and expectations and you’re compatible, then there’s probably not much reason not to marry. The issue is though that people aren’t objective, rational beings, and will go any length to justify a decision they have already made in their hearts without consulting their brains.

[@alaric3056]

I didn't read this post because it's too long

[@CausaNostraLaetitiae]

So true

[@richard84738]

The "not take it so seriously" thing should apply to teens/20s types struggling to get off the ground in dating/relationships. Agreed that by the time you hit 30, you need your s*** together and start seriously considering what both of you want. One of the most painful things is to finally find "the one" and then discover that it took you so long to get here that fertility is now an issue. That can real quick lead to a breakdown in that relationship even. Navigate carefully and most important do NOT put off serious searching for a marriage partner. Don't go "find yourself" or "have fun" for 10 years first. Do all of that WITH your partner. Not before.

[@alittlepieceofearth]

While you may not want to put too much pressure on the first date, it's still a good idea to have your list of what must haves and deal breakers. There's nothing wrong with delving into those things in conversation. If someone is definitely not the one, it's better to figure that out sooner rather than later. So, yeah, have a good time figuring out weather or not it's worth a second date.

[@litzyrios3858]

Lillian, THANK YOU. I needed this. Thank you for making me feel a little less lonely. Love a 22yr old Catholic Single!

[@817Yankees]

Of course the timing of this video is impeccable! I resonate so much with what you said and I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way.

[@timopper5488]

That awkward pause at the end, and then… “Goodbye.” 🤣🤣🤣

[@renatojimenez9653]

When it said avoid spiritualizing things i really thought it meant on the conversation. So another tip is try to avoid talking about crusades, or that you are in a new templar knight order that is trying to rescue Jerusalem etc. For the guys out there, be like Saint Joseph, let her talk, say when it is necessary and don't brag about yourself, let her feel comfortable

[@Pearl-cc9kz]

Hold up, what? Men are talking about the Crusades on a date???

[@renatojimenez9653]

Well, not asking per se, but commenting or talking about. Mostly are young (under and mid 20s perhaps) and i don´t know if their trying to impress women that they know about the church and/or showing some virtues. But yeah haha

[@clydedoris5002]

Letting women do all the talking isn't good practice

[@moycha8333]

There is definitely a scarcity of Catholic women, who actually practice the religion. Especially in Las Vegas, where I’m from😢. But what is rare is valuable. She’ll come. Stay strong fellas.

[@jacoblebeuf6439]

Best dating tip I ever received from Sarah Swafford. Find your group of guys/girls (specific to your sex) and be with them. Build up the masculine brotherhood/feminine sisterhood. Run solely toward the Lord. And eventually you’ll look to your side and someone will be running with you

[@Pearl-cc9kz]

Except sometimes no one is running with you! lol. That is great advice when you are in college, but once you leave a nice cozy setting, it's simply not true that you are going to run into your person just by having fun with your friends.

[@jacoblebeuf6439]

@@Pearl-cc9kz friendships don’t end in college, you can get involved in your local parish community

[@NoName-zb1gm]

So do you mean be with the sex you want to marry or the same sex?

[@NoName-zb1gm]

@@Pearl-cc9kz I don't think it's necessarily having fun but doing things faith based or helping other people like charity work.

[@Pearl-cc9kz]

Yes-- well I can practically guarantee you that there will be many more women than men in those spaces@@NoName-zb1gm

[@fallenkingdom-zd8xh]

Thank you! There’s a girl in my youth group that I really like so this is very helpful.

[@Atothe7420]

The 4th, 5th video I seen Lillian. Honestly I can hear speak and share true downer to earth wisdom all day.

[@ThatGirlMoi]

8:50 Patron Saint of desperate causes!!! Girl, that’s a word!!😂😭

[@timopper5488]

“Out in these streets,” like Lillian is living in a war zone, but she ventures out under the cover of darkness to go on a date. 🤣

[@allamericanwiseass]

It can be a pretty hostile scene for us Catholics

[@timopper5488]

@@allamericanwiseass You aren’t wrong.

[@KiwiKiller88]

This actually helped me a lot and I like how it contrasts with some of the other videos Ascension puts out in a positive way. It's down to earth and realistic. The projecting part is definitely something I am guilty of.

[@angrypotato_fz]

Beautiful shirt! I think it's very important not to be desperate about finding the partner and focusing on improving my life, my person, my values, strive for holiness. It's better to stay single than with someone wrong. I like what you said about missing this "one chance" for meeting the future spouse - that God doesn't acts this way. It's easy to forget. I try to trust Him more and be less stress that I miss His signs or opportunities. Trust that He'll give me signs I can actually understand. I don't really have hope for my marriage anymore, but I hope You'll find a great husband, if it's your vocation, Lillian. So may help you God!

[@eoinMB3949]

One thing is true and that is, what you focus on grows. If you constantly think about relationships and your relationship status, if you constantly talk about it, blog about it, vlog about it............then this is gonna grow and as a consequence you'll bring suffering upon yourself.

[@nicoleyoshihara4011]

I needed this! More Catholic events in person to meet each other

[@FrozenEar533]

Nothing against Lillian (or really any dating advice) but advice in general should always be taken with a grain of salt. There are few things that will apply as a blanket statement that covers everyone in every situation. Of course it’s a wonderful thing to look for help and advice, but it can be harmful to blindly apply said advice without being honest with yourself about where you are mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, who/what you’re looking for in a relationship, and if that advice is actually something that will help you. There were a lot of things I agree with in this video and a lot that I don’t. And that’s okay. I can understand how those things apply to someone like her, but some definitely do not apply to a guy like me. Keep doing what you’re doing Lillian. Catholic dating is a difficult cross to bear in today’s world so I admire you reminding people they don’t have to bear it alone.

[@irfilipi7275]

Loreto Publications has 2 great books related to this topic: "The Wife Desired" and "The Man for Her." Both are excellent books for men and women striving to foster harmonious, God-centered relationships!

[@mariobaratti2985]

I like the advice "take breaks in dating" for men as if we men don't unwillingly take 1 year breaks between failed dates

[@blessedandhopeful]

How to Not operate from scarcity/ miss red flags VS being realistic that nobody is perfect and some parts of future spouse will just have to be accepted or hopefully he growths . List of non negotiables probably .and a hug friend I’m in same boat 🤗🙌🏻 we just keep going 🙌🏻

[@cynthialambeth6894]

Refreshing perspective for single women in these times.

[@BenjaminAlmeida-mq1tm]

This is awesome great output! I recently consecrated my self to St Joseph and he is definitely my wing man :)

[@impresofia]

Everything changed for me when I learnt more about feminine/masculine nature/behaviors. I realized how masculine I was in my ways by being very goal oriented and problem solving and less nurturing and receptive. It was extremely tiring but I was taught by the current culture that that was the way to be. I recommend you Suzanne Venker show and book. It prepared me to form an enriching relationship. I actually found my man on Catholic Match - girls, it’s good to go through the profiles and like some. We need to relearn how to drop handkerchiefs ☺️

[@TheMgarvey]

Thank you so much for your talk, Lillian. It is inspiring. You come across so well. I'm going to buy your book.

[@Neptune466]

WHAT Catholic dating scene??

[@Theosis_and_prayer]

Pray for the conversion of Pagans, Muslims, Jews, Athiests and Protestants to Christianity. They need the Eucharist and Our Lady.

[@56Tyskie]

Amen

[@talesfromtheroad9530]

Need to see more dating videos on being single in your 30s! I have few single friends and find this comforting ❤

[@tamich1047]

Really love the tip on finding a saint mentor ❤❤❤ also a single 31 year woman 😊 but not dating at the moment as I'm in a season to really go after my gifts and talents, but do pray for my future husband occasionally.

[@margaritakleinman5701]

Really enjoyed the video, appreciate all the tips. St. Raphael the Archangel, the angel of "happy meetings" as well as of health and healing, is my "go to" saint. I loved your comments about "Catholic woowoo" btw. I can relate! 😊

[@marycastellano6728]

Great video! I also recommend figuring out what your attachment style is. Working on developing healthy, secure attachments has been very eye opening and healing for me - but also a lot of work. Perhaps a future video could be how to allow God into your healing process when coming out of unhealthy friendships & romantic relationships 🙏

[@ceciliacastelino1250]

O glorious THRONE of GRACE, IMMACULATE HEART of MARY Whose LOVE is stronger than death, TRIUMPH & REIGN in ALL hearts +

[@richard84738]

Advice for guys: For me the hardest thing was just to relax. Stop thinking on every date "Is she THE ONE"? The point of a date is to have fun with another person. Don't sit there thinking the point of this date is to size each other up. That should be a secondary, semi-subconscious thing. Think of a date as just inviting your friend out to hang out and do fun stuff. Chill with them. Yeah MAYBE you will end up lovers, maybe not. Guys just DREAD the idea of going on a date where it ends up not working out. Get out of that headspace. Most dates won't work out, won't end up marrying her. So what? Stay friends and realize that if it didn't work out then, it wouldn't work out later anyway. You didn't "F it up" or "ruin your chance" with her. Just be friends and if you find that both of you really like hanging out together, THEN start taking it to the next level of "hmm could this become something more..." But too many guys especially religious guys want are starting from that point. Nope. Too soon, bro. Chillax. I'm not saying wait until the 10th date or something, but this advice is for just getting date #1 or #2 because that seems to be where we struggle most.

[@ThatGirlMoi]

As a lady, I struggle with this too. Glad to hear that it happens on guys’ ends too. thanks for sharing! This is comforting

[@michaelanthony4750]

Yup! This is something I've come to. You will probably say something dumb. We all say dumb things no matter how cool you are. Just have a fun time whether it works out or not.

[@Life.of.Annabelle]

Great tips . It is so hard finding a Catholic faithful nowadays.Most people are bot really into the faith I was born a Catholic Raised a Catholic And i would love to date a Catholic too

[@mauriciogeldres8614]

Thank you very much for all the good tips! I’ll make sure to apply them in the future 🤩🥳

[@rosemaryrk1742]

hi lilian you looked great!!! thanks for the amazing tips on dating❤️ really needed this

[@ssarsi]

I'm Catholic too from Philippines. I don't have favorite Saints. I have Jesus. and mother Mary. ❤️🙏🏽

[@BrookeTherese]

lilly has me laughing and feeling less alone in this one lol BEST VIDEO YET!

[@sharkinator7819]

The 15 passenger van is hilariously accurate knowing some of my relatives

[@yaniris793]

a tip for evb I would say pray during the date that God will reveal something to you abt the person that you are on a date with that will either make or break continuing the talking, and after the date pray that if God dosent want them in your life or if he/she has the wrong motives of being with you!

[@CurledSun]

Ohhh this is gonna be interesting

[@Taiiena]

Agreed😌

[@shankboss132thegamer3]

When She said 15 passenger van I felt like she was talking to me lol.

[@solidhalon]

This is what I'm going to do on the first date. I'll go dressed as my Soulfinder cosplay and see what happens.

[@jamesspence1630]

My faith comes first. My life with Christ must be strengthened before a marriage.

[@alliasbright2083]

Only date people that are from a similar denomination. Otherwise one of you will have to be a bit lukewarm in his faith

[@MrDarshD]

Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom! God bless

[@amt3735]

There are so few Catholic women who practice the faith that I've given up hope of getting married. For almost every single woman I've ever met, if we're not having sex by the third date, she thinks I'm not attracted to her. I belong to a generation of broken men and women who place more value on sex and looks than following God's commandments.

[@Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheese]

Be happy you’re at least getting dates. Last one I went on was a mutually awkward tinder date. ​​⁠i feel pressured to become a priest or go to religious life because of the fact that I never had a girlfriend at 26 years old yet despite that I am very active, well groomed, and have been told I am attractive. I really do want a family of my own and I am starting to feel black pilled. Idk what a calling to the priesthood even feels like and I don’t want to be single the rest of my life. I fear I will never have a family and will die alone in a studio apartment

[@M.A.-kk8dx]

Single Catholic woman and I so agree. I wish people like us could find each other in real life

[@macarioanaya5364]

Great video!!!!! Can you make one about: How can a divorced man take the life? Specially when him feel love for another woman but he must respect law of God: sacrament of matrimony is forever. Thank you and God bless you!

[@francesbernard2445]

There is way more to what makes you a human being than only what your current marital status is. Remember that. It works for me and it will work for you better and better as time goes on for you too while you trust in the Lord.

[@macarioanaya5364]

@@francesbernard2445 thanks a lot dear Frances! God bless you.. I really feel like a semi-human being...but I will think in your words...

[@JackFalltrades]

Excellent video! 😊

[@CatholicEdward]

College is the best bet, worked for me! Met the girl I want to marry.

[@adacathy3018]

love your energy!!!

[@Mick_Aub]

Thanks for the helpful advice. 😊

[@michelleeliza6552]

So good! Thank you 🙏🏼

[@joshdavis6493]

Don't reject someone that doesn't line up EXACTLY with you or the churches beliefs. Have a discussion with the other person and possibly try to change their beliefs or if they are willing to. It will help develop yours and their faith. I thought abortion was ok in limited circumstances, I thought birth control was ok, I didn't believe in the presence of Christ in the Euchrist. I didn't have proper catachesis growing up and everything was born from ignorance. I was properly educated by my girlfriend at the time and after I was brought to speed on church teaching and was in compliance with everything, I eventually married her

[@NoName-zb1gm]

Catholic women are not "set apart" like we're supposed to be. They want the spark and the butterflies and the tingles. Not he's a nice guy and pretty attractive now let's see if he's a good Catholic man. Women are broken. Then women my age wonder why I'm open to dating someone in her 20's. At least she's not broken and delusional and maybe I can introduce her to the faith and we can use our faith as a foundation for a Godly relationship.

[@_TheKhanhArtist_]

My priest said it best... For me, "Don't be weird". For Women "Lower your standards". I look to St. Joseph as well to learn what it means to be the leader of a family and a man. I'm single as well, but my advice for my fellow male Catholic brothers is to be presentable. I know a lot of guys who are Bible gurus but lack the social skills to talk to women. Some things that will help you to be presentable is take up a physical activity like the gym or sports. Women like the idea of a man being a physical protector. Also for men, build hobbies around other social things like movies, music, or any form of art. This will help you build life experiences to tell stories about, and women love storytellers.

[@edgara.4902]

Catholic dating tips: Accept the idea of heartbreaks, embrace them and offer up your suffering to the lord let it be for his glory. Also ask for the intercession of our lady of sorrows. 2nd tip view everyone you are interested in dating as: a friend only. Do not paint them as "the one".

[@jamesryder9158]

I'm too fat and unattractive and stupid and poor to date, those that can date are truly blessed

[@DuckSeason12]

I really think I could be what Lillian is looking for.

[@fairtaxguy60]

I am a recently widowed 63 yo Catholic guy who lost my wife to cancer this year. I am just starting to maybe start thinking about dating for the first time since 1978. LOL. So I’m quite nervous about the thought. Despite you being half my age, your thoughts on the subject are quite informative and helpful!!!! Thank-you!!!

[@FaithfulMel]

Whoever marries Lillian is a lucky guy!

[@georgejones8727]

100% I’m cursed. Been single for more than 11 years.. had some dates but none sticked. I’m 31 too.

[@mosescarayol5316]

It's hard connecting with Catholic girls who are in a different country or continent.

[@johnrooney507]

Have you tried visiting a place and attending mass a few times? I noticed in Nicaragua those who actually attend mass, many in the community don’t.

[@mosescarayol5316]

@@johnrooney507 I attend Mass almost every Sunday. I even attend Mass in week days sometimes.

[@johnrooney507]

@@mosescarayol5316 But you mentioned another country. I wouldn’t try to line up anything online with someone without going to where they’re from and confirming they’re actually a practicing Catholic.

[@mosescarayol5316]

You have a point. But remember the world is a "global village" now. We first have to know each other before starting any form of relationship. Then I will get to know whether she is a practicing Catholic or not

[@johnrooney507]

@@mosescarayol5316 Yes of course. I’d imagine the subject would come up early on if important to both, then see if it’s a fact.

[@kitypossum]

What young adults groups, I only knew of one, now doubt they'll let me in. Can't even find someone to talk to about my situation and Catholic morals etc.

[@katherinecaine-pollock6339]

I get the frustration as a divorced & disabled woman with 3 teenagers. Either I have other moms at church, other divorced/ single women or other disabled parishioners. I find I can't relate

[@Scipheord]

I really do Not see anything wrong on what you're saying... I don't know why are some people mad about it. Many of those advises are not even "Catholic" exclusive... many of then are simple common sense to me Congratulations 👏👏

[@keenanbinkley8333]

Wicked good content! Every bit of this was helpful. My situation is comically complicated but God makes it simple, Gods will be done, not mine period. Avoid sin and the near occasion of sin and see what happens. I really hope it works out between her and I but Gods will be done:)

[@Clickybux]

Great video! Very encouraging 😊 What If there is scarcity though, as the number of practicing Catholics continues to decline?...i think is part of our cross 🙏

[@haydongonzalez-dyer2727]

Really good video

[@ThatGirlMoi]

#AskAscension Can you also discuss the importance/aspect of finding someone who is also of the Catholic Faith? (“Equally yoked?) I’ve also read about some saints who were married to non-believers (ex: St. Monica whose husband was pagan). I feel like even on Christian dating scene that Catholic young people tend to be a minority. So I would end up seeing a lot of men who are Christian but not *Catholic* I really want to marry someone who is Catholic too, so that we can raise our children in the Faith

[@AscensionPresents]

This is a great question! Thanks for sharing!

[@lumelostudios]

Not gonna lie - for me who is a "hopeless romantic" - I be crushing on EVERYONE - so honestly, dating is TERRIFYING for me. I can easily get attached and blinded to red flags - You mentioned "Catholic woo woo"? Just know I 10000% get yoo yoo" XD So I've been thinking - in light of all this giving me a huge headache - I'm just gonna throw up my hands and be like "God, I don't know - do you want me to get married? Okay - then I'll leave it to You - May Your Will be done - and it always is done. But so I don't do something idiotic, I will CLING to my singleness, and hold tight to being single. I will not let go unless you say so." That way, its more like "man makes their plans but God directs their footsteps" I don't end up dating till its REALLY time for me to do so? But for now, I'll just happily be on my own with me Jesus 😂

[@catholicfemininity2126]

I feel you. It's scary being a hopeless romantic.