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[@ginakearney4146]

I'm going to miss Breanne whenever she leaves for good as the temporary host. Her being able to pretty much unequivocally roast you is why she is working so well as your co-host, Ashley. That type of best friend energy is awesome and bursts out of the screen/mic when we are watching or listening.

[@pyssa420]

Agreed, those two together are the best vibes

[@vonnbdy]

why is nobody commenting about having Katie Rosenthal? on the podcast.. man i would love that

[@eltech3370]

She sounds so sweet, Katie would probably love the wholesome vibe of this podcast !

[@ReginaDubin]

I second this!!

[@travel_adddictt]

Bring it on!

[@Gagoum17]

Haha great idea!

[@incantrix1337]

Weird coincidence. I knew a Katie Rosenthal at Harvard.

[@Zenene-ok5el]

My haiku submission: Katie Rosenthal Cherry blossom devotee Certified Good Girl

[@ashgavs]

FIRST.

[@-chenlanying5818]

@@ashgavs 34:44 what was the underlying thing

[@bronwynjames70]

the presence of the lovely cat just slowly blinking is so calming

[@anava3quez316]

25:02 I live for Bri and Mak bullying Ashley about the cherry blossoms.

[@chelister27]

I love that Bre broke Ashley with two words 🤣

[@travel_adddictt]

Good girl 😅

[@Blue-pb7kz]

About the "crazy" thing, I feel like we have to remember that not all mental illnessess face the same stigma - at least today, depression and anxiety are often openly talked about, but other diagnoses, especially those involving psychosis, are still heavily stigmatised! I like using 'chaotic'!

[@MossyBear]

It's so cool to me to see so many of the queer people that I've seen from different parts of the internet coming together on the gayest podcast known to humanity

[@penguinswithpencils2333]

one million percent agree

[@danielalizcano6648]

I feel the same

[@janinek5258]

I thought the cherry blossom drop off story was so sweet. I took it as her being selfless and wanting Ash to look at something beautiful

[@caitfleming3680]

When you said "Thanks Mak for coming" without a second thought my brain just went "Mak wishes she came" 🤣

[@mollyxmusic3348]

Ladies and gentlemen, the Ashley Gavin affect.

[@PARADOXsquared]

The cherry blossom story is so sweet ❤️ Listener writing in: Cherry Blossoms in DC are 10/10 even though the crowds are a pain in the ass, visitors cause unnecessary damage, and rising sea levels are killing some of them with salt

[@avball79]

Honestly, the cherry blossoms and a few certain friends are what I miss most about D.C. I can do without a lot of the rest ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[@emilyjames2795]

in love with you guys! so happy you have mak back and you're still dedicated to making such cool content for us with all the changes going on

[@antotheja251]

I think the word 'crazy' for women especially, can be particularly insensitive due to centuries of patriarchal indoctrination, where women were called crazy for holding men accountable. And also for - as you mentioned - being this insane trope of ex-girlfriend etc. And it's heavily rooted in misogyny. It truly depends on the context and who says it for me tho

[@spamgarbage6999]

Thatd be hysterical

[@emmajanenorman8842]

This episode had me screaming with laughter - the Breanne bit was HILARIOUS!

[@saleamen]

I never thought Ottawa would get a shout out on WHGS but here we are!

[@MossyBear]

Quick note on crazy, I worked as a mental health therapist in an inpatient setting where my clients either had schizophrenia or bipolar disorder to with psychotic features. They have been called crazy in the most horrible derogatory way, so for them it was an offensive word. And out of respect to them, and to anyone who might be watching and might have also had that word used against them in a negative way, I try to be mindful of not saying it.

[@houndgirl7365]

Honestly I agree. My now ex found out she has chemical depression. When I was with her she would call herself crazy, but I would always correct her and tell her she was expressing herself how she could. Emotionally she was somewhat stunted from how she was raised not being able to properly express herself. Sometimes she would raise her voice and I would do my very best to sit her down and ask her what was wrong. Overall I think what people need to understand is sometimes these people need patience, understanding, and yes some need chemical help. Crazy they are not it's just a chemical embalance, trauma, or both.I wish people understood that. Overall we are all human and no one is perfect thats why your commentary really hits those feelings, because all people deserve understanding and care.

[@MiKa_EDS]

I go with “toxic” for a similar reason

[@cruelaz]

I got told I am "crazy" for my meltdowns or panick attacks. 25 years into life I got the answer that I am autistic and these are all valid things and telling people they are "crazy" for not being neurotypical is not a vibe.

[@lizhyink5636]

Yeah, well said. I worked in an ER with people in mental health crisis, and had also been previously motivated to get educated on mental health advocacy after seeing how stigma effected loved ones who inherited different conditions and/or neurodivergent brains, and experiencing my own. Understanding emotional regulation while also practicing emotional validation might help build a more compassionate world.

[@liketaylor]

Can Bre stay forever? Lmao I love having her as co-host

[@virgilmcclendon5072]

This is the best episode you have ever done! Those are the best all-around vibes ever. Bre makes it magical.

[@delaneykeller1389]

I'd love for you guys to reach out to Rachel Ballenger. She didn't realize she was gay until she was almost 30, and I'd love to hear the conversations y'all would have.

[@ashgavs]

we have many times! tell her to respond to our dms!

[@delaneykeller1389]

I've commented on her last two podcasts and I will on the next one as well! I wanna see it!

[@watsonandbscuriousdays]

@@ashgavs yeees! more older baby gays ;) ‚cause it’s freakin‘ confusing and impossible to be one

[@caitlinwhisenhunt1341]

Yess this! I'm 26 and just realized i was gay this year. It would be cool to hear someone with a similar perspective as me!!

[@delaneykeller1389]

@@caitlinwhisenhunt1341 comment on Rachel Ballenger's podcast Rachel Uncensored! If more than one of us do it's more likely 😅

[@jamiekopmann8877]

I'm just starting to discover Ashley coming across my feed but I'm falling immediately in love with the content and hoping to see more 😂

[@thejennygirl727]

I laughed when I put Omaha Nebraska on the "where should I come" list thinking you would never come. You actually came and I loved your set! Thank you for coming!! I look forward to the next time I get to see you!

[@the_rest_is_confetti]

35:19 I actually spit out my tea at Brie’s take on birding 😂

[@MDWHEELS1]

My god Breanna!!! My heart goes out to you with your horrific experience but I have to admit I had to keep rewinding “this is humiliating” ( 1:00:42 )as it just made me cry laughing 😆😆😆😆 Next time come to the UK they do it all you 💗 (speaking from experience, you can just close your eyes and think of England or Canada what ever gets you through 🤣🤣🤣) Great episode! Xx

[@skyemarler4331]

Love this episode! First one I’ve listened to twice. Both Bre and Mak have been my favorite guests, now Bre is so great at temp co-host. Love love love 💛💛💛

[@JuMixBoox]

The question about gay Vs straight trivia was du funny to me and reminded me of that Grey's Anatomy thing where Richard, an old straight man, is coming along to lesbian bar trivia as Arizona's wingman after insisting because of his great trivia knowledge and it becomes their wholesome tradition.

[@robynweyeneth1531]

Yess hahah same

[@robynweyeneth1531]

Richard is the ally we all need lol

[@stephanieleon5970]

* Heading to find what episode this is! *

[@bryn8946]

Three of my favorite people all in one place. This was a really good episode. Your energy dynamic together is great 😊

[@PARADOXsquared]

There's also other mental illnesses that have symptoms that are both more likely to look like the "crazy" that you say is a separate thing, and more likely to be exacerbated by being invalidated by being called crazy. (Saying this as someone who's watched a loved one spiral because of this) Anyways it's about context of use, like you said. If no one is being invalidated or directly harmed then it shouldn't be a big deal.

[@nicolebacon2747]

Ottawa is the capital of Canada. Toronto is the capital of Ontario. Ottawa has some cool attractions like the Parliament buildings (which are currently under construction), the Rideau Canal, and lots of museums. However, it's a pain to get around (especially if you're relying on public transit), and everything is very spread out.

[@michellerider6805]

That literally was the hardest I've laughed in a while. Yall have me cracking up. I love how yall share such vulnerable moments💜😂

[@amburn-left]

So happy I found u all, this podcast always makes me laugh :) keep pushing those youtube reels, it's how I found u!

[@HereToProcrastinate.]

I know bre can't stay forever but like can she?.. 🥺 also yes to having katie on as guest! xD

[@TheNasteya]

THIS IS GOLD!!!! This is THE Golden Girls I need. I haven't laughed so hard in a while! Amazing... Phew

[@lizhyink5636]

Thank you for the thoughtful discussion regarding plenty of stuff, including lazy dismissal/ weaponizing mental illness stigma. This was a humorous and humanizing conversation. Abby McEnany and Mae Martin also shared their heart-warming, compassion-inspiring vulnerability. Hopefully when people do so, it invites everyone to maybe accept themselves, too.

[@lizhyink5636]

^ To be fair, people also deserve privacy to maintain whatever they're comfortable with. That's why it's such a gift when people share stories. ( Also, the two comedians mentioned above have each explained that they learned from past experiences, and included some aspects as lessons of what-not-to-do, as well as examples of choices that worked out better.)

[@lizhyink5636]

^"The Sit Down: Abby McEnany" from CBS Local News was a great interview with her. Claire Lim also had a similar conversation with Mae Martin for "NME".

[@neliavisagie]

This made me cry from laughing so hard 😄 Thank you so much for this

[@dgdhewhrkdn2089]

ASHLEY AND MAK?? just the video I needed right now, I love your collabs. If you haven’t already, have you thought about having Dylan mulvaney on the podcast??

[@Grounded_Gravity]

My "crazy" alternatives tend to be: ridiculous, absurd, batshit, weird mind-blowing. I also like wild and unhinged!

[@unouni2548]

I feel like there's no comments acknowledging the kitty making biscuits, so this is the one. Look at how he's looking at you!

[@jordandiaz2590]

He’s just making biscuits while listening to his mothers finger blast from the past lol!

[@jordandiaz2590]

He’s just making biscuits while listening to his mothers finger blast from the past lol!

[@iyana872]

Petition to move Bre to NY. She is absolutely killing this!!!

[@karartistry]

Just to comment on the "who f*ckin cares, Ash" part, something my partner says to me that sounds mean af but actually really helps when I'm overthinking/anxious-I'm-upsetting-people is "get over yourself"... Like I said, it sounds mean, but it really really helps me stop overthinking. It reminds me that I'm in my own head and then I feel better. So I resonated with that sense of relief(?)

[@HereToProcrastinate.]

Can you have Alayna on while bre is still here? 🥺 they used to do videos together all the time before lockdown hit and I miss my Canadian lesbian squad 😭 on that note maybe even willow faith?👀

[@GnomieTheHomie]

Yes, I'd love to see this as well!

[@penguinswithpencils2333]

yes :0

[@0rchid6lues]

the trifecta i didn’t know i needed

[@umbellicalchick5635]

I'll confirm I knew she was talking about DC when she said cherry blossoms. Like I was surprised that they were surprised by her naming the city when she already said cherry blossoms.

[@AVspectre]

I’m a Canadian and the only thing I thought of with cherry blossoms was in Japan! 🇯🇵 🌸

[@nyxie2877]

22:05 The way I heard cherry blossoms and immediately said “DC”

[@snowflakesinthesun1116]

Bre, thank you for sharing your gyno trauma lol I've had several of those internal sonograms, thankfully I never had to do it myself lol, but it's still an uncomfortable experience. Next time I need one I may start uncontrollably laughing thinking about your story tho haha

[@peanutlemon8354]

cherry blossoms are amazing. My first time seeing them was on a band trip (I'm from alaska to this trip was perty big) and it was towards the end of the season, but there was one still in bloom towards the entrance of Arlington cemetery. That moment was worth the 2 week torment of band kids alone.

[@Cassiexvogel]

Bruh I’m crying at Breannes story LMAO

[@Ashley--L]

OMG! I have not laughed this much in I don't know how long! Thank you Breanne! I have not, thankfully, done that horrific uterus photoshoot, but if they can get stuff on nano chips, how come that thing has to be that big!? There is something wrong there. Even a heterosexual friend told me she hates that exam so I consider that device misogynistic!

[@tonycrader8978]

The mini-vlogs are sUUUCH a good idea wow

[@shabbydame1221]

Bre’s story had me trying not to choke and die on my pizza from laughing. Y’all are so funny. 🖤 Love the podcast!

[@hey_im_shanae2294]

the editing the intro!!!! everything continues to get better and better!!

[@gabriellacrystal3518]

I’m imagining her saying “good girl” in her Gilbert Godfrey voice during kinky time 😂😂😂 I’m dead 😵

[@ROCKONplaceboforever]

The best thing about working on a Monday is this podcast I love it thank u Ash sending a hug 🫂 ❤️ thank u for making me laugh when I'm stressed every Monday 😊 🔥

[@Elena-fn7jo]

Loved this podcast 💜 and your cat ( 11:46 ) 😂

[@lunar.eclipse]

As someone who has been called crazy in a derogatory way due to symptoms of my mental illnesses, I can see both sides of it. And I’m only speaking for myself here, but I think context is important. If someone is obviously in distress or causing harm to themselves or others I don’t think it is ever okay to call them crazy because there is clearly something going on there that needs to be addressed with care and compassion, not stigmatized and shamed. However, it is hard to come up with an adjective to describe crazy ENERGY- chaotic is pretty close, all over the place, wild, something you just can’t wrap your head around or understand. I think it is a really fine line that can easily be crossed into being offensive and contributing to mental health stigma at times, so I try not to use it, but I also understand why people use the word and only find it offensive based on context. I do know that there are lots of people who genuinely do find any use of it offensive though, and those feelings should be taken into account.

[@pneuma6202]

I kinda agree. Like if I had a friend that did some absolutely uh, crazy shit.... like stole my car, and crashed it in a few parked cars. Like, just because they could, or they were angry, or because they chose to drunk drive... I'm calling them crazy - they will be my crazy ex friend lmao. Now if someone had a psychotic episode and didn't know what they were doing, I'm going to be more compassionate about it. I'd say they were having an episode with their mental health and wrecked my car. Like I feel crazy is for people who are acting foolish by choice, and actual mental illness should be looked at with more compassion. And I'd also like to point out, as someone who does struggle with mental illness, that mental illness isn't a blanket that protects all criticism of bad behavior. Like people can still CHOOSE to do shitty things despite being mentally ill. Like if someone steals from me because of their substance abuse disorder, I will be more empathetic than someone who steals from me, was totally aware of what they were doing, but just happens to be bipolar... but it had nothing to do with stealing from me. So if they'd sneak into my room and steal a bunch of my clothing just because they liked them - That's being crazy. I use crazy for shitty behavior

[@KristanceGlam]

I'm crying from Bre's story about the gyno experience. Holy hell. Amazing

[@JuMixBoox]

Your birding comments actually cracked me up so much. In German, a commonly used euphemism for sex (think along the lines of screwing) is the same word as birds. To me, that story was just full of innuendoes in a very confusing way.

[@ulrikek359]

Haha ja genau das dachte ich auch😆

[@lizzydixxy411]

Unhinged is a great word

[@erinlyons902]

Ashley and others, there was actually a Queer Olympics at one point. My mom-a ragging gay-played soccer representing America and it was hosted in Vancouver!!

[@Samantha-td7bi]

bree's story has me in tears

[@biscuitanne6770]

I love love love this trio. I hope Bre never leaves 💜

[@spagetd1526]

“i’m going to fuckin omaha” me, a born and raised closeted bisexual omahan seeing this three weeks to late: “well fuck”

[@samsquire6573]

I identify as the chaotic friend to a "Katie Rosenthal"

[@VSandTaylorSwiftLove]

I'd love for you to get Ingrid Nilsen on the podcast!!! Shes NYC based too!

[@kiram.3619]

There are no words for how funny this episode was. Love you three!

[@cuteasapinkbutton17]

Sometimes it's nice to commiserate together. As nice as it is for you to feel like a stable comfort, it's lovely to connect over the stresses of life

[@shaliekk]

23:27 I love how violently she gestures on her cat 😂

[@diannaw3034]

YESSSSS ... to all of it! Bring on Katie as a guest... react to the tiktok... annnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnd re-create the date that never was!!!!!! lol You need to do that cherry blossom experience together.. not all on your lonesome Ashley!!!!! 😜 Yup... I'm down for ALL of it... and let's just see where this goes!!! ☺ Edit.... btw..... the only person missing in this star studded cast today was Alayna Joy!!! 🤩🤩🤩🤩

[@chrisrw8939]

Good girl 😉 Y’all three were hilarious today…much needed giggles during my run/walk. P.S. the cherry blossoms 🌸 are gorgeous. 🏳️‍🌈💕💐🤗Much love to everyone watching/commenting; I hope y’all have a super nice Monday. Namaste 🙏

[@TarnishedBuddha]

Cherry blossoms: 1 Seeing Mak and Bre roast Ash: 10+

[@circleofleaves_zigzag]

Ash, I thought you were going to end that sentence differently. I thought it was going to be "symbiotic relationship between what I do and who I do".

[@reelfinsfishn3869]

This was amazing content! You guys killed it

[@gamerpickles6506]

I actually do now get offensive when people call me “crazy” but I usually brush it off. Mostly because when I was in elementary to middle school people would call me crazy for me just being a extrovert ADHD kid and I understand how bad it change my self-appreciation for myself,I could not stop hating myself for not being “normal” but crazy, and I would second guess every decision I did thinking is this a crazy thing, should I not do this, even though it was like a simple task.

[@sarabueno6982]

You bring so much joy to my life! Thank you ♡

[@eltech3370]

Getting katie on the podcast sounds so sweet ! :)

[@azxzn]

BRE, MAKE ASHLEY DO A SHOW IN VANCOUVER. I will gladly ferry over for the show.

[@maggiemiller454]

Oh my godddddd you’re coming to my city FINALLY! See you there🥰

[@antotheja251]

Love this combo of hosts. Great chemistry and great questions. Also, Ashley: why the rough petting of the cat? Now i wonder about your bedroom touches XD jk but also... -.- :P

[@ashgavs]

fulton loves really intense petting and scratching

[@fific37stream73]

Just found your channel last week and I'm hooked! Super funny stuff

[@tayto139]

One of my favorite episodes of this podcast-- I love Mak and I love when y'all collab together 😄shout out to the chosen family podcast!! 🎙

[@VyxenViolets]

The cherry blossoms in DC are a SUUUUPER famous thing! I went to the cherry blossom festival a few years back and it was gorgeous. I ended up leaving DC with a parasol, a bamboo fan, and a pin that had cherry blossoms on it. (The fan actually has information about the cherry blossoms on the other side! it's super cute)

[@petra_pan777]

Just wanted to re-listen to the episode with Mak😍🥳 Perfect timing 💪🏻

[@hunterr.villagawboy8098]

Gawd, i love the cat in this episode. And YES, Katie Rosenthal. Do it!!...

[@themorales6]

Yes! “There needs to be a better word for wild but not the fun kind.”

[@matthijsclaessen8152]

Ooooh, Breanne AND Mak? We’re in heaven!

[@bilong92]

Not sure if you or she’d be interested but I’d love to see Mattea Roach on the podcast. Canadian Lesbian and top female jeopardy winner from a few months ago and she was known for her humour and quips on the show. And she’ll be back on tv in the fall for the championships or whatever they’re called haha

[@AVspectre]

Interesting suggestion!

[@nisisnecros8516]

I need more mak

[@Hyperparody]

You should make a trip up to Toronto after the Detroit show :') pleaaaase

[@nyxie2877]

24:30 Said like someone who has never seen the cherry blossoms

[@187942]

I call Zoloft my “crazy meds” I think we’re good at making fun of ourselves

[@ok-es6vd]

Damn you really get the best people on this

[@wanderingphotomagician]

One thing I know in this life is that I would spontaneously combust if Ashley ever said “good girl” to me. 😂😍

[@watsonandbscuriousdays]

love this pood!! to the birding thing…you should go out into nature with someone who is really enthusiastic about showing you things. it’s so much fun to discover the planet..and it doesn’t need to be at 4am with fancy binoculars :) to the ‚crazy‘ thing..’toxic’ nails it most of the times, in my opiniion. love you guys°°

[@emjaysankofa]

Would love to see a collab with you and Jade Fox. Y’all are my faves!! Love your content!!! 🥰

[@MischaKavin]

Around 45:40, there was a great opportunity for a joke about Big O notation, if ever there was one.

[@bigsky-s6r]

I'm so sad. I was going to go see you in KC tomorrow, but I caught the VID. :(

[@heatherlee2047]

the BIGGEST sad :(

[@bigsky-s6r]

@@heatherlee2047 I know!!! 😥 I had booked an Airbnb and everything. I managed to get one of the last 2 tickets available. If anyone here is going, have a drink for me!

[@lisalove8532]

OMG this was amazing

[@ihatemickiegee]

katie rosenthal gave me a rose in the hall cherry blossoms called

[@maidmirabel2730]

THE VAG CAMERA I WASNT PREPARED FOR IT! It’s mad UNCOMFORTABLE my ultrasound lady pulled it out and I was TERRIFIED

[@sprout6311]

Just what I needed

[@simongarland5789]

I see that your cat was keeping an eye on you !! (what's your cats 🐈 name ?)

[@ashgavs]

That one is Fulton!

[@AVspectre]

@@ashgavs Good cat name!