Christian girl, STOP chasing after the wind

Matthew 5:2-12
2 And he opened his mouth and taught them, saying:
3 “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
4 “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.
5 “Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth.
6 “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied.
7 “Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy.
8 “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.
9 “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons[a] of God.
10 “Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness' sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
11 “Blessed are you when others revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. 12 Rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven, for so they persecuted the prophets who were before you.
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[@lornah9267]

This is no different when people put pressure on us to be a Proverbs 31 woman. I’ve heard this so many times, yet not one person mentions that she had servants - not singular, but plural. I too could be so much more of a Proverbs 31 woman if I had servants. God gave us individual fingerprints, even identical twins, which tells me just how unique we all are. We are fearfully and wonderfully made. I am in my 60’s, and I have learned a lot from you and Taylor over the last couple of years. I have ADHD, and spend a lot of time down rabbit holes (especially when it comes to studying the Bible), and things like your prayer journaling has given me a framework to organise my chaotic mind. So thank you for being uniquely you, and we account to God, not trends.

[@thepreciousomah]

We account to God, not trends!

[@sacharymateo1710]

I think this video is so important because so many have fallen in the trap of trying to be what others says you should be instead of follow what God has already said we should be and how we should act! Thank you so much for always being on point and letting God use you

[@coffeeandbibletime]

❤❤❤ thank you friend. Glory to God.

[@sacharymateo1710]

@@coffeeandbibletime btw congrats on you married 💚

[@melindagallegan5093]

Follow what God has already said? I have this unbearable need to write and tell stories despite my physical health preventing me at times. Is this something the lord has directed me to do?

[@okeroghenemonday7849]

@@melindagallegan5093, yes it could be just pray about it and seek God for confirmation. Step out in faith, who knows your story can be a source of strength to others going through the same thing. Depend on the Holy Spirit for wisdom and you're good to go.

[@sacharymateo1710]

@@melindagallegan5093 yes, if God has put that desire in you heart, once you start He will give you the strength to keep going, just trust in Him:) I wish your health will be restore in Jesus name

[@abbygarcia9102]

The Lord told me strongly one time, "BREAK the mold!" We stand out because we belong to Jesus, not of this world. We all struggle in some area, but always stand on the Word of God, never be ashamed of who God created you to be! Love y'all and needed this! God bless you Ash, your marriage and those watching this in Jesus name ❤ 💙

[@coffeeandbibletime]

We are called to be the salt of the earth and light of the world :)

[@katn3536]

I literally just watched a 'that Christian girl" video right before this and was trying to figure out how I could even live up to it. Then I clicked on this video right after and it really helped me... More than I would have thought. The Lord knows what He is doing and I thank you for posting this video

[@ChristineSmileyFace]

"That Christian Girl" is nothing but an Idol. God Bless you Ashley for sharing this video - Sending you so much love and prayers ❤️💐

[@anjalisartistry870]

Actually it is the good habits making thing. It is important but we need to understand that some ups and downs come.

[@ruthie28]

I'm crying by hearing your words... I have been feeling guilty for not being able to live up to a certain Christian standard. At the moment I am fighting PTSD, dark thoughts and a lot of pain. I am not able to live in a way I thought I would be by coming to faith. Christ's coming back is the hope I hold on to for now.

[@isabela4522]

Amen 🙏🏻 Thank you for this message sister. A year ago I meet Jesus again and I removed my presence from social media, I noticed how much pride and envy that was growing on me. And recently I told God that I missed to be “seen”. And then within minutes I was listening to a worship song that said “I don’t need to be recognized by anyone, my glory is to make you known, I will decrease you so you can increase Lord.” 😭❤️🙏🏻 I got my answer. That’s why we are here. He is the reason.

[@adcoriginal]

I am just an older girl - at 50 - who loves Jesus. Your words are true and what a great message. Thank you. All/Most the “That Christian Girl” gals I’ve known over my life - through youth group, Christian high school and college (and even those early Christian 2000’s Christian influences like Jen Hatmaker and Glennon Doyle, for example) who were loud and proud in their Christian walk have gotten divorced, had affairs, left the church, caused others to stray, etc. I’d rather just be me, love Jesus and grow in my walk with Him, than ever try to meet the standards of something that can so easily become an idol.

[@gabriellablack5284]

I am a whole 28 years old and I needed to hear this! Thank you so much for your wisdom, honesty and transparency! It is so refreshing! ❤🤗

[@coffeeandbibletime]

Thank you friend!!

[@Marsha-lou1986]

This was a wonderful video for all the young ladies. When I was younger I wanted to fit in with the crowd that was the "In" crowd. My family didn't have a lot of money but my clothes were stylish because I babysat a lot so I could get the nice clothes, I was never thin enough, I weighed 137 pounds when I graduated and that was never enough, I was constantly trying to lose weight. I took diet pills and hardly ate, I worked out every evening after school. Now that I am older I see how much time I wasted trying to be good enough. I met the man of my dreams when I was 22, he thought I was beautiful inside and out. We were together 35 1/2 years until he died of Lung Cancer in 2021. I loved him and still love him so much even though he is with Jesus. So all of you young ladies please be yourself, no one is perfect, love yourself, and most important of all things love the Lord with all your heart.

[@deborah5578]

sorry for your loss I was married 20 years when I lost my husband. someday we will see them again.i wish my granddaughters would watch this video. we were chosen for this journey so glad I have Christ in my journey. I couldn't do it with out Him.

[@tinanashavlogs]

I always felt like I had to even soften my tone in my voice to be more like other Christian girls but Jesus reminded me I don’t have too change my tone in my voice to be like those who have a soft voice thank you for this video so real for this !!! This video is definitely from God! God bless you sister I’m Christ ❤️

[@FaithwithTishelle]

This is so true and timely. I was lead to read Matthew 5 this morning during my quiet time. God is intentional and gracious. Hallelujah confirmation

[@coffeeandbibletime]

❤ God loves you, sees you and hears you!

[@veggieplanet2841]

Yesterday I was speaking with my friend how toxic “that christian girl” videos can be for us, christian girls… always feeling that we have to have this perfect life and if we skip a day of reading the bible or if we don’t work out then we don’t take care of our “temples” or we are not good enough… There’s no such thing of “that christian girl”… we are all different, we live in different countries and most of the time what applies for me does not apply for another girl… Man, this video is sooo good! Perfectly said that the standard is in the Word, not outside 🥰 Our worth is found in Christ!

[@ChloeV.]

This is so needed. That's my whole testimony, I tried to fit in that I went to the depths of despair and hurt and God pulled me out of that place. Praise God! But even as I am trying to make KZbin videos about the lord, I feel like even I'm not fitting in that "THAT Christian girl vibe". There are, not many black women around my age who are on KZbin professing Jesus ( that I know of ). So I felt like I needed to change my character to try to fit in to be "THAT Christian girl". I confess that at times I really try to fit into that mold, this was a good reminder that the "THAT Christian girl" mold is not my goal, Jesus is.

[@jamilawhite3044]

Ashley, I needed to hear this so much! I get insecure about my looks and wonder if I'm pretty enough. Thank you so much for reminded us that God cares about the character. You're right in that God uniquely created each of us. I feel left out at work because of my standards. Thank God for your beautiful character and sweet spirit! I have been watching your channel since you started the first video. To see you grow is so encouraging! Thank you Ashley!

[@coffeeandbibletime]

❤❤❤ I love u friend! Thanks for sticking around for so long! 😊

[@jamilawhite3044]

@@coffeeandbibletime love you so much Ashley! I've referred so many people to your channel, because you have been so consistent and humble. By far, my favorite KZbin channel and ministry. Also, your channel and ministry is set apart from the rest in an unique way.

[@miriambraxton6419]

This is for me!!!! Thank you!!! 🥰 Congrats on your wedding! You and Johnny are such an inspiration! 🤍

[@coffeeandbibletime]

So glad you were touched by this. Thank you friend :)

[@samanthajansen7139]

Thank you so much for sharing this Ashely!! I have definitely seen the "perfect" Christian side of social media lately, and hearing your encouragement along with the truthful videos of others has been so refreshing and a good reminder of who we are in Christ and that we don't have to strive to be productive, perfect, good-looking, athletic, etc. and all we have to do is surrender daily to Christ and abide in Him.

[@olivialindsey]

“the standard is living up to God’s Word and we should be living up to that” this COULD NOT HAVE BEEN BETTER SAID!! ashley thank you so much for always bringing TRUTH and LOVE to youtube. always share Scripture because it is the truth!! i think coffee and bible time has been the youtube channel i’ve been watching and i am so thankful for it. this video was just what i needed to hear and i didn’t even know it would be. please keep making honest and real videos like this!! it’s so encouraging to me to see God bless your channel as i am a very small Christian youtuber trying to be a light. keep shining for JESUS!! 💗💗💗

[@coffeeandbibletime]

Thank you so much Olivia. ❤That was so encouraging to read! You go girl! I am proud of you for being the light here on KZbin!

[@olivialindsey]

@@coffeeandbibletime all glory to God!! so thankful i’ve been able to watch your channel for four years!!

[@ashleytunny]

I needed this today. I have been working out and trying to drop weight before the holidays knowing that family members who are smaller than me that will judge me by my size, what I’m wearing and what I eat. It can be so hard to gather for a holiday meal and feel overly aware of others judging your plate or portion size. This is so timely and is really showing how that thought pattern I have is unhealthy. I appreciate you sharing your heart.

[@coffeeandbibletime]

I totally can relate to feeling the pressure to be skinnier in front of family members at family gatherings. and the anxiety when they watch you eat your food / look at the portion sizes. I pray you would be able to cling onto truth of who God says you are no matter your size (something I am trying to work on daily!) I love you friend and we will overcome in Christ!

[@cds8249]

I can 100% relate to you. The majority of my female in laws are size 4's or 6's.(Even my husband's Mom and Grandma are that tiny.) Everytime we go visit my husband's family I feel so self conscious as I am a much bigger size. Right down to your feeling self conscious about what you eat around them. For instance, one of my husband's cousins looked at me then told another cousin, "Good job eating cauliflower and brocolli. I am so impressed." My stomach can be very sensitive to certain vegetables and so I wasn't eating those bc I didn't want to get sick. Anyway, at the time it just made me feel terrible bc it felt as though she was trying to say "you're overweight and you should be the one eating brocolli and cauliflower." Mind you my husband is a very Godly man and doesn't mind that I am heavier than his relatives or even him and loves me for who I am. He sees me workout, watch what I eat, and the weight just stays but he encourages me and loves me the same. It just feels like a spiritual battle everytime I go visit his family. And don't get me started on family picture time. Sadly in the area I live in I feel most Christian women in churches are like his cousin who made the hurtful comment. It feels like church has become a social club where women try to outdo each other in how they look. Which is not what church was meant to be. It breaks my heart. I find it kind of hilarious bc as a middle schooler and high schooler I was teeny tiny and at the time I hated it bc my feet were huge and didn't match my body. Lol My metabolism shutting down and still feeling awkward in my 30s feels like God has a sense of humor. I find myself realizing that my struggles with weight keeps me humble and focused on what is most important: loving God and loving others. When I was "the elusive perfect size 4" in high school I was secretly prideful. I feel like God has taken that away so I am not proud and only am grateful of the fact I am His daughter. I would encourage all of us (myself included) to set our minds on "the things above" and not on that which is fleeting.

[@anjalisartistry870]

@@coffeeandbibletime exercise is important

[@myrrhfortheroad]

@@anjalisartistry870 Of course it is! 👍 It’s just not what’s most important, is all.

[@anjalisartistry870]

@@myrrhfortheroad yes.

[@pnwreyes1018]

I love the concept of this video. Being a Christian girl who was sick to the point of being bed ridden for 2 years on and off there are some days where all you can do is lay in your perfectly imperfect everything and just literally cry out to the Lord . And he loved me just as much and he was there with me in that filth and despair, it was literally the most beautiful times in my walk as a Christian girl!

[@noleenrossouw2183]

Hey Ash, Corgats on getting married! I just want to say how amazing this video is. It really brings me so much comfort to know that there was somebody else who went through the same thing as I did. And even more so that Jesus can be the one I can come to when I feel this way. I have always tried to live my life through Christian youtubers and recently I've realized that the worldly standards are VERY FAR from God's standards. Thank you for reminding me about how God loves me for who I am...just because I listen to Christian music or read different books or have a bible that's not aesthetic doesn't separate me from God's love. I love you and thank you❤

[@coffeeandbibletime]

Noleen, YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL AND LOVED AND VALUED IN JESUS' EYES! Never forget that :)

[@BeckyCarey1]

Sweet Ashley, you are so wise and discerning beyond your years which points to Christ and the fact that he has filled you with His Spirit and his Word.. Keep doing what you're doing. Your gift of encouragement is shinning so brightly my little sister💕🙌

[@coffeeandbibletime]

Thank you so much friend! This was such an encouragement to me!!

[@BecomingIrresistible]

You are touching on a lot of things Christian women deal with regarding their self esteem and confidence, it really impacts their decision making in their selection of a mate and even their friends, etc. We have to really learn how Christ sees us to reprogram our minds so we can fully accept and love ourselves for how God made us to be.

[@ellacash1980]

This was the Daily Reading!! Wow I relate to this so much. I want to be DONE chasing the wind. Lord have mercy on me and all of us ❤🙏❤️

[@ericar276]

Hi Ashley, I am Erica and I am watching from Thailand 🇹🇭, i am not a type of follower that text here much… but I’m following your channel for years, love you, Taylor and mama bear!! You guys inspired me and my walk with Jesus Christ so much, is such a blessing your videos! So I am excited to watch the video from the wedding off course, waiting patiently 😆 specially because I am sure Christ was in the center!!! Kisses from Thailand and May God bless you and Jonny with wisdom and grace!

[@angeltifa09]

I would just like to say that this video hit me hard. I was raised in the church and struggled with my faith for a long time partly because I felt like I didn’t fit the mold of what a Christian woman (or a woman in current society also) should be. Recently I’ve drawn closer to my faith, and have started reconnecting with God and your channel has been so helpful with that. Thank you for this video and this wonderful channel.

[@samueloluwatimileyin3767]

Great testimony. Your connection with God will glow. I pray God will continue drawing you closer to himself.

[@sophierayde2815]

I love that you quoted the Beatitude. There is a beautiful scene of those verses from The Chosen TV series

[@britniturner8109]

I agree dear sister. Let us chase after Jesus and be who he created us to be. We are each unique and made for a purpose. His ways are higher and he is brilliant and creative. Honor and praise to our King ❤️

[@coffeeandbibletime]

Amen!

[@ilyneventura]

Its very admiring to hear this from someone who has been an inspiration to us in terms of scripture reading/lifestyle. Thank you for taking us back to the heart of God. God bless your humble and sincere heart. Definitely would love to know how married life has been going for you. Blessings to you and Johnny!

[@coffeeandbibletime]

❤❤❤ Praise God. Hoping to make a video with Johnny soon!

[@kea508]

Made a prayer to GOD last night and HE answered it through you thr next morning ❤️❤️

[@coffeeandbibletime]

Praise God!!!

[@elvenaubade]

hallelujah!! God definitely spoke through you with this one, sis! I totally agree that there's nothing wrong with wanting to live a holistic life but we must remember that our weaknesses are where the Lord shines the brightest! may we do our best but ALWAYS depend and trust on God to fulfill and strengthen us.

[@coffeeandbibletime]

"our weaknesses are where the Lord shines the brightest" well said sister. Thank you so much!

[@livsrenewal3350]

Thank you so much this was so needed. I have an eating disorder and I have been praying for help. Jesus is so good and congratulations. You have really helped me grow closer to The Lord ❤🎉

[@coffeeandbibletime]

You are not alone. Taylor, Mentor Mama, and myself have all went through having an eating disorder. It is so hard, but with God there is hope. I am praying for you!

[@livsrenewal3350]

Thank you so much. Most of my family are atheists and so it’s so nice to get support from other Christians 🤍✨ (as much as I love them)

[@Miracx3]

@@livsrenewal3350 you will be fine, your faith is focused on God. 😊 Let's pray 🙏 for your unsaved family. Don't give up on them..

[@jessicasmith6938]

Thank you, Jesus brought me to your channel and I just felt to tell you that you’re doing a great job in helping others. And you are Worthy for the call 💗

[@stephd7275]

I NEEDED THIS! Thank you for sharing this! I needed a sis in Christ to speak about this so I could feel less alone. So I could be reminded that God sees me and really cares ❤️

[@samueloluwatimileyin3767]

God loves you. You're beautiful and gorgeously made by God.... Don't ever feel less of yourself. You're made for worship by God.

[@mmmmlllljohn]

Congratulations to you and Johnny on your marriage. You are making a strong team for Christ! This message is so important for women to really embrace. We need to memorize the Fruit of the Spirit and play it over and over again to override the tapes in our heads because this is what is important to God. Love you guys. ❤️🇨🇦

[@Katjkaa___]

Thank you so so much Ashley! This is more than true. It can be so hard not to believe the social media (World) lies… Sisters, we must pray for each other to resist the battle in our minds 😢 Greetings from Germany ❤

[@coffeeandbibletime]

amen. Yes. prayer is huge. thank you for that reminder!!!

[@BloomBiblically]

Wow ❤God gave me this same message for my channel a few months ago. God has been dealing with me with contentment too. I pray this message pierces the heart of any girl who felt less than . I’m praying for you 💜

[@littlemisscreative7510]

Thank you so much for this! I'm a people pleaser and I don't focus on myself and I should. I need confidence. Thank you Ashley, and yes I want to see the video of the wedding.

[@nyny9598]

I had only gotten to the title of your video and it already made me think about the book of ecclesiastes and the specific section (ecclesiastes 4: 13-16). Once you read the title, it becomes self explanatory "popularity passes away". I love the book of ecclesiastes because it shows us just how invaluable/useless all of these worldly things become when we are trying to live according to the standard of God and not the world. What the world deems to be valuable is always changing and its never consistent. We will always be racking our brains if we are trying to live up to this standard. We will be like a mouse running on a wheel, we will always keep running around and around, only to find out there's never truly an end. I'd like to give this little gem to all who will read this. We DO NOT have to use the world's value system as our standard when God's word is our standard and guess what? That never changes. As much as we would like to be these "ideal beings", God never used ideal people, if you look at their lives in the bible. When we make our walk with Christ more about a "routine" or a fad, then we have taken God off the throne because of our need to conduct all of these rituals we feel we need to do, in order to be complete. God makes it clear in Isaiah 1: 11-15. He doesn't need routines or rituals for us to come to him, if anything he doesn't care about all of that. We don't have to do all of these things to look like "that Christian girl". We will never have it all together and I pray that we as women more specifically would give ourselves grace and freedom from this bondage to the world's way of thinking. Please cut yourselves some slack. You are doing the best that you can and that is absolutely more than enough 🌹💗. This life can be exhausting. You don't have to do it all, all the time. Remember that God's grace is sufficient. You don't have to work yourselves into the ground to prove anything to him because he has already given you his grace(which is something you cannot earn/WORK FOR in your own strength). Love you all. Have a better day 😊💓.

[@eviii99_]

Thank you for all those encouraging words! What a great reminder to me, and to all of us. We should focus on Christ alone and seek him only. He gives us true freedom. God bless you.

[@leahclarkmusic5762]

I'm so glad you said this! I had been watching videos like that and felt that they were unhealthy for me and making me focus on worldly things & my looks, but didn't know if I was overthinking. Thank you! :)

[@coffeeandbibletime]

❤ You are not alone! Seek first His Kingdom. Love you, friend!

[@adandamathikinca45]

Thank you so much for this message I really learnt a lot from it as I'm a Christian teen living for Christ.❤️🥺

[@TimothyRobloxGroup]

I'm very inspired of christian women following Christ❤️❤️❤️

[@cxsmic.st4rs]

this is really so important!! Thank you!!!

[@coffeeandbibletime]

❤❤❤

[@tassie32]

Thank you so much... Even as a grown woman I feel like I can not measure up to other Christian women what an Awesome reminder I don't have to you. I am perfect in the image of Christ and the way HE made me.

[@paulamullinax6589]

I use to feel the same way in high school that your felt as well. Thanks for the reminder we need to think about what God wants instead of other people.

[@biancacarson1174]

Thank you so much for sharing this video. I can see how this was truly on your heart. That is definitely the season I am in. Surrendering the image I have come up with and the world has come up with me to be like. I do not want that if that is not what my God calls me to look like. I love Him so much and want to be near to Him always. It is definitely difficult walking through the fire and letting Him convict me and show me those things that are not from Him but His disciple and love are more than worth it. God bless you girl! I know you said this for Him but thank you for speaking this encouragement and truth to us.

[@bryannanadiope]

Thank you so much for making this video! I’ve tried avoiding the “that Christian girl” videos, but even seeing the thumbnails has caused me to give into comparison. Definitely needed to watch this today, thank you❤️ congrats on your marriage! Praying blessing over this new life and season! 🥰

[@JourneyOfFaith72]

Every blessed word. Thank you, dear. This so resonates with me. My self esteem was so very low comparing myself to others. Things started to change when I read a book called, “Who I Am In Christ.” It was such an eye opener. I even took notes and made copies to share with others! I’m still discovering that my value lies in being a daughter of Almighty God through Christ Jesus. Keep it up, girl. Blessings!

[@franklinstephen3268]

Hello how are you doing?

[@lettingyourlightshine584]

Thank you so much for sharing this! Romans 5:3-5 is a great reminder of what it takes for Christ to get us there. It is a daily battle, but Jesus makes that burden light when we hand it to him and humble ourselves. I'm 32 years old and still have struggles now and again comparing my walk with someone else's. Even thinking, "I wish I could be as devoted or selfless as so and so." When the reality is, Christ works on me everyday and I am more aware of His love for me the more I spend time with him in His Word. It is possible!

[@lettingyourlightshine584]

Proverbs 31:30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is worthy to be praised

[@RestfullyRenewed]

It's not trendy to live in a bubble of just you and God, communicating, praying, living in the light of Christ, dropping fruit of the Spirit as you go, but it is a very powerful, and liberating life. Thank you for you channel, and message, it is a word in season. Many blessings.

[@SapiySurprise]

Thank you so much for this video, because I too needed it😭 lately, I have been concerned about my weight loss. I've lost too much weight and I look way too skinny. Thoughts like, I am no longer as attractive like before, I don't look cute anymore, No one's ever gonna like me, have been running through my mind, and I'd get conscious all the time,and what other persons' think of me.... but to be reminded that I am loved and accepted in the Beloved by My Heavenly Father really encouraged and Cheered me up. I am not of this World thus, I live not according to the standards & opinions of this World nor anyone!!! God defines me! Thank you Ashley for this, and congratulations on your marriage!😘 love from South Africa 🇿🇦

[@meganboshears691]

THANK YOU for making this video! I was this girl, I was the girl that no one would invite to events or things because I was the "goody Christian girl" that would go and tattle on everyone. That really put me in a spot where I should get rid of this lifestyle because everyone saw me as a goody two shoes and that caused me to not fit into the mold. The more I look back the more I realize how grateful I am to be the girl I was and am because the people that I would have been around would have put me in a worse place in life if I did make the decision to give up on God and fold into people. What I tell the girls in my youth group all the time is that YOU are YOU! God created you for a purpose, and if people give you down the road for living for God, whenever they have that realization and go down a dark road, you will be the one that they come to for advice and prayer, I know because I have been in that situation! Thank you for your honesty and openness!!!

[@violingirl5570]

Ashley, thank you so much for this video. This blessed me more than I could ever explain. ❤ Literally put into words of how I’ve felt my whole life. And I’m 26 and still feel like I’ve been chasing the wind of these things. And I know it will never last but friend it’s SO hard. I’m thankful for this channel. Wow. 😭💓💓

[@coffeeandbibletime]

You are right. It is SO HARD. I am 24 and have to check myself DAILY to see if my heart is chasing the wind. most days it is naturally and I have to ask God for help and strength to follow Him. You are not alone. Praying for you! You willl overcome in Christ!

[@violingirl5570]

@@coffeeandbibletime thank you so much ❤️

[@jenniferjones1470]

I really appreciate this message. I think trying to be like someone else and trying to have someone else's life is a slip into a trap, worldliness and covetousness. Thanks for reminding us about what God's Word says ;)

[@maricruzlopezrdh]

Amen sister! 🙏🏽 I will continue to pray for you!❤️ May the Lord continue to use you and spread His gospel to every race, ethnicity, or culture. I love how humble you are and I can just imagine how the Lord sees you in His lovely eyes. ❤️ I can truly say that God’s love is in you. 🥹 His Spirit drew me to your channel. Always keep Him in the center of everything, blessings dear sister. 💕

[@coffeeandbibletime]

Thank you dear sister. this was such an encouragement to me!!! ❤❤❤

[@226justt3]

We needed this. Ooouuu. Takes a breath of relief*

[@bea5687_]

I was just talking to my best friend about this. I needed this word. Thanks Ashley ❤️

[@coffeeandbibletime]

❤❤❤❤

[@allwynabraham5697]

Yes you r right and I have always stood alone when people distance themselves from me but christs love made me strong 💕

[@agosnazer]

This message is SO important!!! Thank you for your vulnerability

[@kathleengill1273]

This is very encouraging today! I used to feel this way but I don't think about this kind of stuff anymore. The Lord led me away from "chasing after the wind" many years ago and I'm so thankful! I enjoyed hearing this so much today Ashley...thank you and I'm looking forward to the wedding pictures and video!

[@coffeeandbibletime]

Kathleen, I feel the Lord leading me away from "chasing after the wind" too. Now that I am done with high school and college. I pray I would be so content in Christ that this world would not be so enticing to me. Thank you Kathleen!

[@robinpounds6160]

GREAT VIDEO! You know what? Its not just for the "girl." Its also for us older folks too. AND not just with peers or society. Also within your family. I gave my hear to the Lord when I was 10 in 1976. I also have 2 sisters who had not. My mother preferred them. My mom was not serving God. My older sister was not serving God. Not even into mid life. My older sister was fun, jokes alot, people loved her and she had money. I was always poor(er) and not as preferred. Mom chose my sister allot over me into adulthood. It took years to understand why. God chose me. He changed me. Not as the world (sister). I was his and trying my best for HIm. Now as an older adult (57) I am very OK with that. Please dont waste so many years chasing the wind (per Ashley :)) even if it blows in your home. You were set apart for something bigger. Praise God.

[@lezaanuithaler]

Thank you so much for this. I have been getting alot of unsubscribing lately and that did not feel good. This video made me decide that I no longer care about the numbers but rather about the community I should create and a safe space. Thank you so much. I even deleted tubebuddy.

[@coffeeandbibletime]

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[@lezaanuithaler]

@Dakk Family Thank you for taking the time to be kind

[@izzabellemanuel8543]

This was the main reason why I unfollowed so many people on instagram cause I don't want to fall into the trap of lusting over someone else's "seem to be perfect lives" when the truth is they weren't as perfect as they are offline. Its better to fully surrender ourselves with the truth of God's word that we should live in accordance to His will , being set apart instead of fitting in and blending in this world. God created us for His purpose if there is any valid influence that we should follow; it is the word.

[@marialuizanunes1880]

Thanks for this message! I needed to hear this, here in Brasil 🇧🇷

[@coffeeandbibletime]

Thanks for watching, friend ❤

[@lena7684]

Hi Ashley! I always love your encouraging videos but I was never usually one who would comment. But this video, (woww) Ashley, was unbelievably timely and such a great blessing. Thank you for encouraging us/ and reminding us to live up to God's standards and not the world's. Jesus is ultimately who we should be striving to imitate and to be more like every single day. I've grown up constantly feeling the same way of feeling different and never able to be confident in myself. I always felt that the music we listened to, the clothing, our body, our activities, the things that define us in this world were never quite fitting. Im so encouraged to be reaffirmed in His truth! I want to live a life fully fixed on Him alone! He is everlasting and eternal and the world will fade away! Ashley thank you so so much for pointing me back to Christ! Bless you and Johnny! Keep us updated! Much love~

[@coffeeandbibletime]

Lena, thank you so much for commenting :) It was such an encouragement and blessing for me to read - to know that I was not alone in feeling different at times. Thank you Lena ❤❤❤

[@NyabyizaJudith]

I very much needed this message today. Thank you, sister Ashley!!💌

[@coffeeandbibletime]

❤❤❤ praise God!

[@rainsofhealing]

Excellent video and message. Would love to see an update video 👏🙌🙏

[@bullanguages]

This is so precious and so much needed! We oftentimes forget that we just need to follow Jesus's standards and recognize our infinity value in Him only ✨️ Thanks!

[@shakira1702]

Thank you for the encouragement! I needed this! I tend to fall into the trap of thinking I need to be "That Christian Girl" so I can attract the friends I think I want and/or even the husband I think I want. It is a unneccessary burden.

[@Urshi9]

I wish I had this message as a young girl, especially in my teenage years! Although I had a few friends, I never felt like I fit in… not even with my Christian peers. As long as I can remember I never felt good enough, no matter what I was told. It’s been a hard journey for me, but I thank you for sharing this message to our future generation of young women. God bless you 💜

[@stacietyson2436]

This was such a beautiful, encouraging video!! My husband always tells me that comparing myself to other women is like trying to nail Jello to a tree, lol. As you said, it's like chasing the wind! Thank you for this video

[@samueloluwatimileyin3767]

Good one. Comparing oneself is telling God, he didn't perfect you well. You're beautiful and gorgeously made. Don't ever feel less of yourself

[@sandradbecker4078]

😍 Hello,. "Mrs." Ashley! Such a wonderful moment for my afternoon. You look so serene! I really loved hearing your words. It is hard sometimes. Especially with the social media only showing beauty and perfect measurements. Only constant praying for God to take away the thoughts of doubt from my mind. All you said is so true! I just have to thank you! Always bringing your wonderful Christian wisdom to us. Huge hug!

[@hadassah5624]

Thank you sis! This has been bothering me for a while and didn’t know others felt this way about it too!

[@franciscocepeda8416]

I’m 1 of the few males who watched and comment about this video. Girls and women GOD didn’t call you to be trendy for the world, you’ll never make it, but to be holy for Him already accepted.

[@javieragacitua4364]

Thank you so much Ashley! I really need to hear that! Have a beautiful day. Greeting from Chile!

[@feriisabelle8043]

I needed this 😭 God spoke so clear to me through you. Thank you so much for being obedient and doing this video. You have no idea how much it helps me. God bless you beautiful ❤️

[@honeytea346]

I love this message, I really needed to hear this! Thank you Ashley!

[@coffeeandbibletime]

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[@Helzeng]

This message is literally for me 😢 thank you ao much Ash🙏❤️ God bless your soul and congratulations on your married life❤

[@melodylipford3142]

Ty so relatable and glad to see you address this topic and bring scripture in to show truth over seeking temporal worldly trends.

[@coffeeandbibletime]

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[@cosmogurl85]

Listening to your videos it showed me body slamming is hard, I’m taking down my mirror in my bedroom. I’m chasing after Jesus He’s my groom his acceptance is what matters to me.I am going to WW, trying to get healthy. Your videos are wonderful. Your mom is awesome. Mentor momma thank you for opening yourself up for us woman and moms🧡

[@alisonrodriguez7737]

I will share this with my 14 year old, thank you. ❤

[@elleh9381]

Brilliant, anointed and timely message. Amen! Thank you and God Bless You.

[@coffeeandbibletime]

Praise God. Thank you friend.

[@SamIndigo]

I'm so glad you've made a video about this. I very quickly found myself falling into the trap of "that Christian girl" and I didn't realise how harmful it was until I found myself feeling less-than and like I just couldn't meet the standard that was being set. It was then that I realised just how problematic and toxic this trend could be. Thank you for being exactly who you are and who God made you to be. It's one of the reasons that I love and value CBT so much. Keep doing what you girls are doing! It's making such a difference xxx

[@Vinny_chic]

Thank you for this video. I've always looked to social media influencers to determine who or what I'm supposed to be like in this life, and tbh I've never thought about who it is that God made me to actually be. I've always been following trends or what's cool and just imitating that and upon watching this, i really sat down and thought, who would I actually be if I wasn't always trying to copy these people I follow on IG. Very interesting and I feel very moved by this word. Thank you for sharing.

[@priscillalauret1257]

What can I say...Thank you! All my life I've been comparing myself and feeling ashamed and belittle because of molds before being christian and still now as a believer.Thank you so much Ashley🤍

[@dianna8853]

Thank you for this great topic. You hit hit it right on target. This passage help me after my youngest son was killed by his father.

[@ely-daughteroftheking77]

So many things that this morning I was thinking about, answered through this video. ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

[@maureenherweijer304]

Love that you made this video! I love the person that you are! Your right, you don't need to change♥︎ Ash, like you for you, not anything else!

[@sarahg3156]

Girl, same here. Didn't fit into the popular crowd, my looks were below the standard of some of my peers. My fashion and home decor sense was slightly below the standard. My sense of creativity or capacity for creativity was below my peers. The things I liked were weird or nerdy, i.e. video games, books, theology. I was uncomfortable with makeup, clothes, trends, etc. So relate with what you've said here. I eventually came to the same realization you did. God had to explicitly tell me he liked me the way I am. It was so freeing to realize that I can be myself. I know a few "that christian girl" types, and I have let go of the competition, praise Jesus 🙌

[@sharikabenny5998]

Hi, Ashley! I just want to say thank you for posting this video. It has been a huge blessing for me. Over the past one month, I transitioned into a whole new environment and everything has been so different…except Jesus. I’ve realised that all I need is him. Thank you for reminding me how loved and cherished I am by God 😊

[@mjb469]

Congratulations, sweetie! So happy for you! My husband and I are coming up on our 40th in March.

[@lenaoco]

It takes a long time to discover what really matters, a life time, really. x

[@AnnePachecoMercado]

Nice video sharing my friend... Value yourself nice tips

[@sarahie.k]

love this video a lot. Straightly speaking to my heart 💕 thankyou ashley.

[@emdvr7610]

I very much needed this message today 🥺 thank you for the reminders and encouragement 💕 God bless you and keep you ❤️

[@ritapatai955]

thank you for being so vulnerable. So much wisdom. It was good to be reminded of the truth.

[@I.am.His.007]

Thank you so much. I will take notes when i watch this again. And congratulations

[@coffeeandbibletime]

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[@prettzel09]

First of all, I want to congratulate you Ash and Johnny. I am so happy for you guys! I hope one day you'll get to share to us your best advice for newly wives and husbands or maybe the things you learned as newly weds. Looking forward to that😊 Btw it's good to see you again.

[@coffeeandbibletime]

Thank you so much friend! I hope to make newlywed advice videos one day! :) Great request!

[@Sreya_PS]

Wow! Thank you. Pls continue this good work. May the Lord God bless you abundantly. In Jesus's mighty name, Amen.

[@coffeeandbibletime]

Thank you friend!