WINE SPILL w/

[@ashleybchoi]

Hi guys, sorry for the re-upload! There was a little glitch in the beginning so I wanted to re-edit it! :) Hope you guys enjoy this episode as well!!! ❤️go grab a glass of wine, or a cup of tea, or coffee.. or milk... or good ol' water.. 😌 also, I'm so sorry the audio is bad!!! :x I will make sure to make it more pleasant to listen to next time!

[@da_cynthian]

I thought it's just a filter 😅😅 I didn't noticed that it's a kind of a glitch😁, but the content is more awesome 😍😍😍

[@fatine_03]

Love u

[@cheyguevara8106]

You can call the series w(h)ine nights

[@erniealmelia8536]

It's okay Ashley You don't need to apologise we understand it.

[@FATMA-SF]

We absolutely appreciate your great efforts 💘💘💘💘💘💘

[@ilniey]

Quote of the day: “Ladies, don’t fall for those freaking talkers, all they do is talk I swear!” - Ashley, 2021

[@cherylfayetm]

It's true!!!!

[@cosmosintheair5692]

Noted.

[@hohorai6319]

OMG YESSSSS😂😂😂 i want to take off my ears

[@nicolet1824]

"wow this tastes good!" "it was 5000 won" "I have such cheap taste" LOLL

[@joanday]

Hehe I love our wine talks!!

[@docanj812]

Oooh that's actually a good name! Wine Talks?

[@ashleybchoi]

❤️SAME ❤️

[@kaylanguyen47]

YALL ARE THE COOLEST ❤️

[@tua9668]

I love your friendship with Ashley no cap

[@hang1320]

Joan, please share ur saving tips next time 🌸🌸😍 love u

[@rebeccadodd1394]

Ashley go easy on yourself, we have fun with you every single day. Sincerely! We don't need you to be doing something new every night or even high energy, you're always at your best when you're just enjoying yourself and going with the flow. Even from the first show I was impressed by how well you fit into the radio format and carried your own show, and that feeling is just as strong three years later!!! We're so lucky to have you 😭🥰💞

[@ashleybchoi]

T___T thank youuu so much for those words. You're right!! I just need to enjoy it :')

[@rebeccadodd1394]

@@ashleybchoi Happy to remind you anytime you need :)

[@shellyann1817]

Ngl Joan looks like that one rich aunt that travels around the world as her hobby, but pops up in family gatherings once a year.

[@anjopang]

totally can relate to joan, sometimes we are too independent till the point guys may not feel attracted to us or some girls will find us intimidating.. but deep down we are just softies😭🥺

[@wennessa94]

And I thought I’m the only one🤯 Didn’t know there’s so many of us independent young ladies out there! At this stage we should totally normalized that hitting 30s doesn’t mean that we should have get married and stuffs and instead we can focus and love ourselves more!

[@anjopang]

@@wennessa94 omg yes!! so so true!!

[@mureuni]

i feel the same 🥺✊

[@adyfern]

omg fr

[@shaylanguyen965]

Girls now repeat after me “Know your value and talk to your loved ones”. Ahahha learning from Joan and Ash. Ashley, please do many more of these wine sessions. It feels like I’m in company of good friends❤️

[@felicitasa.a8366]

this world literally needs Ashley's & Joan's Podcast

[@navi3430]

Yes! The world is a much better place with it in it!

[@MRNOSENSE]

The adulting series is great. I think it's not always about living an interesting life but finding comfort in our mundane, that is interesting too :) we long to see that as well.

[@cassandrawong3175]

Tbh I'm really glad that Rosé has friends like Ashley and Joan. Mature girls who are good at listening to one another and went through a lot to make wise decisions. She's really blessed.

[@wafetteb8734]

Yeah 😭🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@adyfern]

fRRRRRR

[@whenraindropsfall]

yes. you can really tell what kind of person they are from their friends

[@deekshasharma8859]

Joan: "oh maybe there is a celebrity inside" LITERALLY ME.

[@GRAZYTV]

You GOT THIS ASHLEY!!!

[@t.ris_]

GRACEEEE HIIII ILY AND YOUR VIDS!!!!!

[@roxylivingstone1874]

i know awsome ashley

[@nusratpritu89]

Actually, SPILL THE WINE doesn't seem like a bad idea for naming the series 😌

[@jillianmaejuson1022]

omg i love this

[@victoriaperez5975]

omg YESS

[@carovp8219]

Yess

[@Joyful_Irina]

I like this name too.

[@navi3430]

YESSS

[@Jlep-nn7lz]

Ashley actually has 4 jobs: KZbin, get real podcast, and 2 radio shows. Hustling! 💪🏻👩🏻

[@nurrrr914]

"when people cry, I don't know what to do" same joan, same

[@liia6700]

why did I get so emotional when they were talking about Ashley and her juggling everything in 2020. Ash deserves so much love and just know every you give us we love it and we never find it boring. Your are doing so good, don't doubt yourself. You are working so hard and we are so proud. Wow I am gonna cry

[@thatgirlnextfloor]

i understand ashley being so cautious because she's an idol/was in an idol group and there's just too many horror stories involving idols and "fans"/stalkers

[@emerald442]

which timestamp?

[@soud689]

feels like i'm breaking the rules watching this as a guy 😭😭

[@ashleybchoi]

HAHA everyone is welcome!!!

[@ngeowngeow]

Consider it a free lesson, learn what u can its gonna play on ur favor. (And now that its turning into a series might as well call it a course YAY)

[@Larindarr]

no you are levelling up

[@amyprempeh2070]

Motto of the day: talk to your loved ones ✨✨

[@sidt1238]

Ghosting a friend who really cares about you and has done nothing to hurt you hurts.

[@buttermts]

I’m in my late 20’s and I can totally relate to your struggles esp with the loneliness and dating. I really appreciate you both for sharing your personal thoughts and experiences. It made me feel better. Can’t wait for the next episode. 💗

[@soobeanie]

Such a heart to heart❤️🥺

[@shaylanguyen965]

now we need you on it!

[@ivychristiane4461]

Hiiii can u join on the next episode?

[@naam6990]

We need you on the next ep💕

[@qstrjd]

Can't to see you spilling the wine 🍷❤

[@kasaaa_]

Your heart will be out next time in wine seriesss

[@claracogswell8033]

Ashley you deserve everything you have, you’ve worked so hard! It’s easy to let imposter syndrome or self doubt convince you you’re not worthy of the joys in your life, but you are so deserving! We are so quick to question our own worthiness in a way we would never question another human’s, you are more than enough

[@DannyKalifornia91]

What I do when I’m stressed or doubting myself is, I write down a “gratitude list” and write down all the things I am grateful for or have accomplished, then on the other side I write down goals I want to accomplish

[@dalee94]

At the end of this all “Talk to your love ones” like yes we all need that reminder 🥰

[@sophiayuna]

[@jennifertruong3037]

the saga continues: joan- "i don't recommend dating friends" pffttt imagine having friends...

[@ILoveSoonkyu]

Lmao ikr

[@congratulashuns]

awww 🤣🤗

[@astridprimayuda357]

like yeah ikr

[@sim2963]

Joan, teach us to manage finance, really !!!

[@arshpreetkaur9]

Really Joan. It's a good idea I guess .

[@tua9668]

Joan talking about being an all-rounder in high school then chilling in college is how I'd explain my student life too because everyone is too smart I can't be bothered to keep up. Maybe I should do a YT channel too haha it looks fun

[@airari24]

I had a similar experience, but the difference is that in college I realized I preferred to focus on what I was deeply interested in and what made me healthier & happier (in terms of academics/extracurriculars AND friends). So it wasn't that I gave up on keeping up with others because they were too smart, but it was that I could validate myself as smart and capable and worthy and I didn't have to keep up with others to prove that (to myself or others). This resulted in me "chilling out" LOL

[@glutinum]

I always come back to this video! this is apparently 2 years old and I've been watching this video for two years and still learn something new, Ashley and Joan thank you so much for this video! I would love to see GIRLS TALK 🩷

[@Rosecalledrosie]

i cried when ashley said she was self conscious.. theses days i feel like crap because of school. i failed all my exams... :(( honeyy we love your adulting series i want to do the same

[@Cymopoleia]

so the thing is, when i saw that you guys were drinking wine, i also took the leftover wine in my pantry, lit my scented candle, and nodded at everything you girls talked about as if we're in the same room. and when i wanted to share something, i paused the video and expressed my side as if y'all listening too. i know, it's weird, i'm weird for doing this, but i feel like you're my best friends now lol

[@devinazurenoona2851]

You are not at all weird for this. I watch my content in the same way based on what they are doing. 😌

[@omsthetics]

i would actually pay to get a lesson from joan on savings and money management 🖐🏻🖐🏻🖐🏻🖐🏻🖐🏻 or like business/hustling related talk. i admire both joan and ashley so much, even though i’m so much older than them, but i still learn so much from them. lastly, i loveeeee the girl talk episodes ... i watch the last one multiple times and i would definitely watch this one multiple times, too!! can’t wait for more ❤️😍👍🏻

[@storiesofblue]

I second that!

[@bellabella8677]

Ashley Don't be so hard on yourself❤whatever content u make on KZbin,or ur podcast,or radio fans loves ur personality. Whtever u do that is real that is pure...just keep up the work...i personally get inspired from u soo much 🌿🌿

[@AnaSofia-ky1hs]

I think the reason why people might find Joan or Ashley intimidating it's because scorpios always have this intense/intimidating vibe hahaha Loved this!! X

[@rebeccadodd1394]

Hearing about the guy that ghosted you made me so mad >:| You don't deserve that, but I'm glad you ignored him when he tried to come back. You're worth so much more than him

[@Dancerslife95]

It’s the “I was picked on for being the only Asian!” Relatable but for being the only Haitian/black girl in my classes.

[@Adrian-xe3po]

Please don't be too hard on yourself ashley! I enjoy listening to soundk everyday (or watch the recording) after discovering it last year and my only regret is not finding out about it sooner. We definitely see the work you pour into it and we appreciate you a lot ❤️

[@_lilinana.languages]

I personally think ghosting is horrible but some of my Korean friends girls and boys said they would rather ghosts a Person ( if they only went with them on some dates ) than telling the person the truth... which is so a different point of view for me ( German) . Also pls Joan do a finance video :)

[@simply_joyful]

I agree, ghosting is horrible. Its an “easy way” to not confront the person you’re talking to, and to just leave them in the dust which shows more about their own character (they aren’t worth the time at ALL) know your worth🤍

[@_lilinana.languages]

@@simply_joyful yeah I totally agree with !

[@reginegayorgor2895]

Seeing a black van Joan: “oh maybe there’s a celebrity inside” SAME SAME SAME 😂

[@nathanscore]

i can't believe i'm 9 years younger than ashley, with the way she talks and treats people i feel like she'd treat younger friends so kindly

[@rp6818]

Ashley believe me when i say: ppl who are questioning themselves and their abilities are the ones who are GREAT!! No dumb ass person will think: am i good enough for this ? it’s usually the great people always questioning & doubting themselves

[@Cutieeee_253]

So are you great or are you dumb?

[@TheOfficialTaz]

hi Ashley! please don't say your adulting series isn't interesting. Because I LOVE THEM!! they are what i look forward too..they are relaxing! and i feel like i cam relate as i also am finding my feet living alone. Please just be yourself, we love you endlessly! x

[@ayunggchemshy7728]

Yess❤️

[@moonlightdearest]

Omg when a guy ghost me I hit them back with “thank you for that 15 day trial speaking with you it was nice meeting you “ 😂😂😂 it works it’s funny to honestly.

[@anggimaria3406]

Me too 😂

[@ashleynicole9322]

I was tearing up so much when joan was giving you reassurance and praising you 😭😭 You girls are so lucky to have eachother ❤️

[@donyconjux1]

Imposter syndrome is okay to feel sometimes Ashley. You're well deserving of what you have and as long as you keep trying to improve that's all that matters :)

[@dearkimy]

Love you ladies! I’m an older, married with children, uneventful life viewer. You both keep me young and free at heart. Keep this beautiful life going ❤️

[@ayshaal6585]

Invite Jamie in this series it will be boom😭

[@antoniosamaniego4534]

Ashley!!! I really really really enjoy watching your adulting series! As a guy in his early 20s, it's really helpful and informational actually. And it comforts me a lot to see that someone like you also goes through the same problems and hardships that we normal people do. Makes you all idols look human and very relatable. Please post more and don't get discouraged! Love all the way from the Philippines

[@lele_britto]

something that I've also learned through some experiences was that dating friends never work out well

[@cheyguevara8106]

I feel like this is me and my best friends with the cheap wine and good company 🥺

[@solarprominence157]

Watching this aftera stressful day makes me feel a LOT better. Thank you, eonnie!

[@jox8996]

i dont really watch joanday because her vlogs arent quite my style but shes really such a genuinely supportive friend, I dont know if she couldve said her words to show how far youve come better. Best hype girl.

[@itsmahna]

Omg ash don’t be so hard on yourself 🤍 you are doing absolutely perfect, trust yourself & your path more

[@JennOnMars]

I enjoy the adulting series, especially in these quarantine times. Seeing other people do adulting things/daily things brings me the comfort of company.

[@tua9668]

I ain't ever seen two pretty best friends *Joan and Ashley exist

[@Joyful_Irina]

Oh my gosh stop underestimating yourself, Ashley, or I'll cry. You're the best dj I've ever seen. Please, don't be too harsh on yourself. I have fun all the time with you and I think the other listeners would say the same. You do such a great job each time making me proud of you! Listen to Joan because she speaks the truth about you.

[@sakurazukamorisubaru]

I'm sure, the way Joan worked hard as a kid paid off a lot at high school and even now. Because the younger you are, the easier it is to obtain new good habits. So I'm not gonna pity her for being insecure in elementary school, because it actually helped her to grow as a person :P Also, I feel like a lot of "smart asians" are actually "asians with a tiger mom", so Joan did a really good job training herself.

[@inahniwonwoo5999]

We need a friend like Joan to somehow reminds us not to be too harsh on ourselves and celebrate small successes and accomplishments. We get too frustrated to think something big that we forgot to tap our shoulders and say 'Girl, you have done something good/right today, Good job.'

[@IAMTHEGIRLWHOTRAVELS]

"When people cry I don't know what to do." HAHAHA! We all felt Joan's panic. Lol love you twoooo!! ❤️

[@carolpsj]

I just wanna say here to Ashley that she is AMAZING. She is one of my utt idols/artists ever. Thank you for being so strong and for giving your best and still being so kind and sweet! Much love from Brazil!

[@ecalashley11]

ashley's unintentionally funny like she's funny without even trying lol... anyway nawwww i need part 3 :)

[@ThePammyone]

Ashley you are great. Please do not put so much pressure on yourself. It's okay to want to strive for better but the moment you're getting anxious about your work step back, reanalyze, breath and try again. Love you

[@mochismochi820]

Imagine a Joan and Ashley podcast for girl talks😭

[@nediamrolf]

came from your podcast get real to here!! yeeey.

[@TokyoTones]

The part Ashley was talking about during the "ghosting" with an idol sounds a lot like "breadcrumbing". He leaves little bread crumbs (texts and calls) to keep you interested but honestly, he just loves the attention. He keeps you connected and excited that there's potential for a relationship or "something more". People do this because of deep insecurity, hence why after Ashley mentions she cuts contact with him and he runs back calling and messaging to keep the breadcrumbing going. Also the fact she mentions that he did it to multiple people simultaneously gave it away. It sucks being breadcrumbed and not even having the chance of meaningful relationship for the very start, only to be strung along for someone's else's comfort and insecurities. :( hopefully you can google it further and understand it a bit more and be conscious of it in the future. happy dating everyone :)

[@sakurazukamorisubaru]

I think "ghosting" means the person is just not that into you. That's all. And "breadcrumbs" is just a person being polite and avoiding any drama (or maybe being a coward and avoiding anything that makes them feel bad) I mean, whatever, there are tons of people on this planet. You don't have to like everyone and everyone doesn't have to love you instantly\prefer you to someone else they like more, so if you don't like that kind of behavior, you can just stop responding or become a distant friend without any romantic hopes.

[@TokyoTones]

@@sakurazukamorisubaru I feel what you mean, dating is such a mentally taxing journey (i'm on it as well). Obviously i don't know the whole situation of Ashley's experience, but it sounds like he did both a mix of breadcrumbing and ghosting - sounds like a halloween dish lol. Ghosting is cutting off communication without explaining why - avoid calls, texts etc. Honestly, it causes so much long term resentment - you get angry at them and question your personal worth. Short term it's best to be upfront about your feelings - sure it's painful as fuck and difficult but avoids so much mentally and emotionally pain long term. I could be misinterpreting the situation wrong on such little information. Plus i'm also projecting my situation on this experience lol

[@sakurazukamorisubaru]

@@TokyoTones I mean, if someone stopped talking to you, you can ask few times if something is wrong, but if they don't respond, than they just don't want to talk to you anymore. Doesn't matter why. Because they have a free will. You don't have to guess or beat yourself over it. If you just go on with doing stuff that is important to better your life (like working or even cleaning you room) it will save you a lot nerves. At leas that's my take on it. Good luck with your dating. :) PS Cleaning your room in a distress over relationships sounds like a joke, but it really works, even if you don't like it, seriously. Or doing exercises.

[@zer0everything]

when ashley cried, it struck me how similar my feelings are about my job and my performance. i feel like im being too hard on myself, but at the same time its just difficulf to not to. but yes, the reassurance from your colleagues, friends really help i guess ☀️

[@FATMA-SF]

Girl i'm ready with my full meal to watch this again and again thank you so much

[@JMAQ153]

I love their friendship soo much! When one person is talking the other looks at them with their full attention and never makes them feel bad for saying anything 💜

[@MariaSokolArt]

The ideal situation with the parents would be if they could come and live with you in Korea for several months, and then the rest in NY. This is how I am living now. My parents are retired and they visit me often. But my apartment is quite big, so they come and live with me for the whole summer and fall.

[@moonchild405]

The reason why I love the both of you because ya’ll are so real. I mean you know how some idols/influencers seem so surreal, both of you are sooo down to earth and we normies can relate so much. Plus these kinds of video is so comforting and I feel like I have older sisters giving me life advices while having a drink! I CANT EXPLAIN I JUST REALLY LOVE THE BOTH OF YOU ❤️

[@fullmoon]

When Joan said "I felt very lonely." She reminded me of Daniel from Schitt's Creek...plus the outfit lollll

[@thatsadanarang]

You guys are exactly the type of women I love to be friends with. I hope some day I can find someone I connect with the way you two connect.

[@javeriyahalee3030]

Joan " oh may be there is a celebrity inside" this is so me😂

[@nurrrr914]

18:10 i can very much relate to this part that it got me a bit emotional too. there are times that I'm thinking that I'm not suitable for my job, etc. BUT i read some positive affirmation on a tweet and I think we all need to read this too. "If you weren't capable, the opportunity would have never come your way. You belong" it helps me a LOT everytime i remind myself that affirmation. hope it will help u too. 💕💕

[@sowanderlost]

Can't wait for a "how to manage your money" video!

[@DeliaX]

Joan's answer to the last question is something I relate SO much to. I admire you both so much!

[@congratulashuns]

"The Wine Down." (like winding down/low down... but wine)

[@carmen-v2s8p]

thanks for being so honest, it's really comforting to know that the ppl I look up to go through similar periods of insecurity and stress. i'm just becoming an adult so hearing what it's like farther down the line helps keep my mentality in check. the older sisters I never had

[@erniealmelia8536]

I've never been in a relationship I never experienced being ghosting

[@ralu_ioana_]

NOOO! I love adulting series and I love you Ashley! Your videos are so relaxing and I m always looking forward to seeing them, but most importantly I love your personality, and same goes for joan. It s not always about the diversity in the content, sometimes less is more. Please don t forget that!

[@Serena-Vanderwoodsen]

4:49 you didn’t start school “late”. You started at the right time so to say. This is because if your birthday falls between anywhere from September-December, you start school at the same time as the kids who were born the year after you were born. And September is a new academic year, so technically school would class you as if you were born the next year so hence you finished school in ‘10 and not ‘09 as the rest of the ‘91 babies as their birthdays fell between September 1990- August 1991, and they finished school in ‘09.

[@eclisp9551]

So glad I found this video. I thought I was the only one having these thoughts about being lonely and not finding a person that will really match (I'm already 30 and a lesbians). I have actually given up about finding that someone and started focusing more to myself. and now I connect more to those people who truly care for me. but you know I still get that lonely feeling. It's not bad to be alone but it sucks to feel the loneliness.

[@madz8936]

whos that guy!? how dare him treat you like that. its his loss tho. you deserve much more ashley! 😘

[@someej6606]

Ashley don't be so hard on yourself. You are doing great. We love your videos and you are worth everything in this world. Sending you a lot of love and support.

[@Mmeganchan]

need rosie to feature !! wanna see her drink wine and talk candidly

[@leni5519]

I don’t think they’re allowed to show their faces on other peoples yt

[@parisg02]

I would love that so much. Imagine her being in one of these videos one day and spilling the tea

[@stephaniepenney1160]

I usually can't watch vlogs from lifestyle vloggers but ashely's adulting series is pretty much the only kind of lifestyle vlogging I genuinely enjoy watching :) and I love the girl talks with joan!

[@iriswellen]

Joan saying "girl if you challenge me like that" i laughed so hard 😂

[@piacloma1755]

Ashley pls remember there is absolutely no one in this entire world thats like you and we wouldn’t want anyone else much love for uuu ☹️❤️

[@CRhodesDesign]

Ghosting seems to be all my 'dating' life consists of these days. Having a great conversation then suddenly she stops talking. Oh well. One day something will properly click. Dating apps just don't seem to work for me, but then again trying to meet someone in the real world seems like some sort situation that only happens in KDramas 🤣

[@duddmsya]

Ashley, you are very suitable for KZbin, podcast, and radio! Please do not doubt yourself. You deserve all the love and attention

[@chi8293]

WE ALL NEED A JOAN IN OUR LIFE!!!! ASHLEY YOU ARE DOING A GOOD JOB INDEED, JOAN TOO!!!! WE LOVE WOMEN WHO WORK HARD 😭❤️❤️❤️

[@tinakhun88]

Yesss completely agree. It’s not worth your time if a guy ghosts you!!! He doesn’t deserve you. Joan, please share the Spotify podcasts for single ladies (how to deal with ghosting/relationships).

[@smoleart]

I'm team ashley of being super paranoid of anyone and everything esp in the night time LOL

[@2oe88]

ugh ashleyyyy i love all the content you make and I always listen to get real ! hope you learn to appreciate all the hard work you put into everything AND let me tell you that your adulting series does not seem boring at awllllll. i can rewatch them for hours. always appreciating something new, may it be your editing or the way you present yourself..the stories you talk about...the vinyls and home decor :)... you really inspire me and i hope you know how appreciated you are. just hope you rest your soul every once in a while teeheeee

[@jenniferpresticia9115]

I wish i have friendship like them

[@markl1536]

Around 18-19 minutes in: Ashley, you really are too tough on yourself. You don't have to be "interesting" for us to admire you! You're so down to earth and just regardless of your energy level or mood, you're still you! Monotony is part of many people's lives (basically those who work to live or study/work to have their needs covered). Don't feel pressured to change or only show certain parts of your life because of this! At the same time though, only do what's comfortable for you! No need to overshare if you don't want to and no need to push yourself unless you want to or feel/have the need to! Regardless of what you show, I think we all appreciate you and your class and chillness.

[@rainydays_98]

Would “Ladies Night” be a good name for the series?

[@chasecongleton3258]

I feel like I’m watching my friends talk about life. You two are so honest and transparent and it’s really refreshing!

[@ferbs54]

I'll say it again: What guy in his right mind would EVER ghost a fabulous catch like Joan or Ashley?!?! Just let the poor sap TRY to find someone better! Hah! Anyway, my suggestion for a title for your wine chat vids is "Seoul to Soul"....