Adult Films Get This Wrong About Trans Women | MTF Transgender

[@DerilVStubenrod]

I absolutely LOVE how blunt you are!! You are my HERO!! I absolutely love how you cut through the noise of the issue. You’re right about the presumption of some people too.

[@mamahope4509]

1:55-2:30 THANK YOU!!! I don’t feel alone anymore when dealing with this topic. I literally had to keep telling a client a few days ago that he can’t make me climax like that.

[@benlavoie4294]

Clearly you are the best communicator on these topics

[@AshleyxAdamson]

thanks Ben!

[@AshokTiwari-hz8ir]

​@@AshleyxAdamsonokthnkyou❤😂

[@djutmose]

I have a cis male friend who insists that trans porn actresses (and cis women porn actresses too) enjoy most of the scenes in porn they star in. "Because they wouldn't do it if they didn't love sex." I tried to explain that it is a performance, from what I've read there's a lot of discomfort and literally being treated as a prop, not to mention your actual pleasure is not a high priority... Trans women sometimes need the money due to high transition costs and lack of other options. Also those "money shots" from trans girls in porn apparently involve dangerous hormone cycling. I've not heard of any trans women on HRT outside of porn having fluids like that, something really funky is up with that. For me after a month on HRT all that changed for good.

[@AshleyxAdamson]

yeah its def not natural what they are doing and involves some kind of hrt hacking. I mean look at how they get touched, not very enojyable looking!

[@alirezamodares5797]

I'm corious : what do you mean with "hormone cycling"? . I often heard that pre-op trans women can't get an erection once they're on hormones. Has it to do something with that?

[@djutmose]

@@alirezamodares5797 I don't know what the girls in porn do most pre op trans women on HRT don't produce many sperm cells and less/no ejaculate then men. The fluid is usually clear. The girls in porn cum a lot more and theirs often looks like men's ejaculate so they are doing something most trans women don't do to achieve that. As well as the erection thing, that's also true, can be difficult or impossible to achieve on HRT depending on the person.

[@AshleyxAdamson]

@@alirezamodares5797 i means going off hormones to get a T boost and then going back on it later.

[@toletgo1436]

@@AshleyxAdamson how feeling at sex as a trans women? Do you feel better than a man or trans mtf orgasm is better? Plzzz ans

[@phoenix55755]

I have always actually needed more than just physical stimulation during intimacy. I just came out as trans recently, and I haven't taken hormones or anything, but that was something I always thought was odd about me. I had to have a mental and emotional stimulation as well as the physical. I have always wanted more touching, kissing, and caressing than most. I love foreplay and I always have.

[@KymGedinski-wp6iv]

Same!

[@leewitte4700]

Sounds very familiar. The need for mental and emotional connection is at the core of it all for me. Also a significant factor in why I identify as non-binary. I put it right in my dating profiles that I am sapiosexual and demi sexual.

[@sheep1ewe]

Most womans, T and CIS, (and the majority of men as well) actualy do prefear it in an emotional way before getting on to the subject, at least past 20s, those things tend to increse with age as well, it is strange to me why there are not more information about the emotional needs. P clips are more an emergency for people who hawe urgent needs because of a mild addiction or just mental lonliness and it is extremely important to distinguish between that artifcial world and the real world since things obviously does not work in the same way in the real world as it does in a videoclip. They really should talk more about this to kids in scool as well as older people in tose days where the internet often are the very first contact one hawe with this type of things whan kids (or elederly people) are serching for information they will tick on the things that give most mental thrills and excitement, not on long booring textlines. That does probably blur out the lines between reality and fantasies i think. (I am sorry for my horrible english, it is not my native language)

[@rebeccasam3434]

@@KymGedinski-wp6iv Yea, me too. I don't think that's really changed.

[@briansesztak86]

I really enjoy your videos . I can tell that it's straight from the heart . I'm on the verge of coming out as transgender female . Your videos have helped me out , more than you can imagine .

[@kjpatterson581]

You are awesome! You are a good teacher, and educator, keep it up.

[@alexandersantala2895]

Hi! You're videos are hilarious in a good way. I'm glad to see someone so open about how things are and not trying to filter out. I'm you're new fan. Have a good autumn and rest of the year 2022. ♥️💐

[@geneschlosser8700]

I enjoy you Coaching all of us on the Transgendered life. Thanks.

[@DrayseSchneider]

I recently reactivated my sex life, after a few years of a hiatus to get my head sorted out a bit, and feminizing HRT definitely has changed what the focus of pleasure is. Getting head just isn't a priority at all anymore. It's not even something I fantasize about, or have since about 9 months in.

[@Dizzimagic]

Lmao Im going to need you to not call out my only fans like that 😆💜

[@shoeonhead]

Feeling attacked? Lol

[@Dizzimagic]

@@shoeonhead just a smiiiidge XD

[@superwoman7579]

I am sooo thrilled that your beliefs and way of managing your life are almost identical to mine. And I can relate so much to you based upon my personal transition experience. It is a difficult but rewarding experience that women such as myself regard as a necessity as opposed to a choice. Thank you for being an effective voice to our transgender sisters and for allowing me to learn more about our experiences. ❤❤❤❤ 🏳️‍⚧️ 🏳️‍⚧️

[@madelinebutler3349]

loved the frank openness on this one babe!

[@AshleyxAdamson]

thanks Madeline!

[@NtFlashy]

Thank you for your honesty and engagement. It is illuminating and so helpful ❤️👍🏽

[@beckyb6115]

Bahahaha im Asian, my A*sh*le is Asian.... 😆 I friggen adore you and your videos, thankful for you and the content you create. I wouldn't mind seeing and hearing your thoughts on the other videos you mentioned. If you feel called please do make them. Thanks for being seen and your existence. Cheers

[@AshleyxAdamson]

glad you appreciate it!

[@cristinacindy7520]

I know, I love all your videos. And thank you for posting your last one. As soon as I get a job I will subscribe more. You opened my eyes last time and made me realize so much potential in myself. OMG your so awesome.

[@stelav221b]

Another great informative video. Thanks again

[@AshleyxAdamson]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@gregellefson4338]

I abolutely love your humor and your laugh. And the things you talk about, so much of it just absolutly rings true with me personally. Rock on Ashley.

[@andreariggle1539]

Finally someone is saying this .....

[@melodier1935]

Haha Again I can thank you enough for this video. I'm so grateful for everything you share to us :)

[@joannelhansandroid]

I'm a cis-woman and clitoral stimulus is super important to me as well as penetration, I have a really hard time getting off unless both of those things are happening simultaneously and what you described after the first 3 months is almost exactly what it's like for me as cis trying to orgasm, if things aren't just right it's like climbing a hill and almost reaching the top but then unable to get over the hump kind of like a "failed" orgasm. And you're totally right on point with the emotional stuff, it's gotta be there in some way like, if someone's wanting to have a quickie or sex right away there's no way that's gonna happen without a lot of lube. I usually play with my partner first and that get me in the mood for when it's time for me to have some fun. It's obviously very personal to each person to decide for themselves how they want their genitalia touched and seen so they're comfortable. It also depends on your partner, I've had partners who didn't put much effort into my pleasure and then others that care about my pleasure more than their own, they could have also like you said just been intimidated by not really knowing what to do and that's where the misinformation on women's pleasure comes from. I think the girl-dick isn't that different from having a clitoris so don't be scared to treat it that way. We're all a little different and we all like different things, so I say experiment and self-discovery!

[@candycox3007]

Great video yet again, you talk about topics that matter. Thank you for sharing your insight for life with us on this channel. Gotta go, sorry, my other subscription channel has a new video for super cute eyeliner!!

[@GSFlood]

so much i agree with . glad someone finally said all this !!

[@wjadam024]

I really appreciate you and how plainly you put things in perspective especially pertaining to actual sexual activity.

[@RobisonRacing68]

I've missed so much in this life...

[@joeybeckley2064]

Are you trans too? I'm just starting out on My journey.

[@johnmontano6190]

Me too, wish I discovered my true sexuality at a young age

[@terrylake6410]

I wish I was brave enough to come out mtf

[@Andi845]

You are so on the spot, love your direct and so correct!! Have no words to thank you for your thoughts and attitude!!!

[@mildmannered1086]

The mental vs. physical stimulation happened in like 1 week for me... it was so interesting and lovely.

[@isabellarozalinda6434]

You should be on tv I can watch you all day 😂😂😂 I wonder if I take hormones is there any way to keep my size? I never took hormones but I plan to do it

[@AshleyxAdamson]

you wont lose your size if you keep using it!

[@Antony-t6g]

Thanks, Ashley, I think your videos are amazing. Great learning experience for men like myself looking to date a trans lady. You seem like a genuine lovely lady. Do you have any tips on Trans dating sites? Most sites seem fake money making scams.

[@avery_atleast]

I have dated entirely thems and femmes. Pre-op, as a top and dominant, nobody touched my privates unless I asked them to. I think it was partial about the roles we played and because most of them were aware that could cause me dysphoria. I certainly couldn’t keep an erection at all so I wasn’t using it for anything during sex anyways.

[@AshleyxAdamson]

OH HAI Avery!!! Lovely to see you here, thanks for sharing your perspective :)

[@EriniusT]

Your skin's great I was so surprised when you said it made you look 28, I thought you were like 25 or 26

[@robindaryn3404]

I am so fu@king thankful that you are talking about this.

[@mythornshaveroses6472]

I feel completely disconnected from society when topics like this one are considered. I know lots of people need a fantasy in order to attain some higher level of pleasure, but there is a fine line between that and being treated as a prop, like you mentioned. The whole idea of being fetishized by someone is a huge turn off for me. What about romance, chemistry and communication? That's my fantasy, I guess.

[@ghostface4404]

it often starts off as a fetish... a safe space.

[@ghostface4404]

But attacking them for seeing for seeing you as a fetish will only make them see you as just that... You'll stop their growth. You also need to understand that the desires to explore and enjoy your penis is normal... But, that puts men in an extermy vulnerable position... The most vulnerable position we'll ever be in. You need to encourage it... Be a fetish. By being his fetish... You'll get what you want. Otherwise, you risk him no longer willing to confide in you.

[@guitarman0365]

thats why doing adult work always backfires on those people. see what they conflate is sexual desire for intimacy. they get it from no one so they will look for it and accept it from anyone. But deep down everyone still wants someone to love them. But its hard to love someone that has been ran though so many times it cant be special anymore. Having a high sex drive i absolutely sympathize and fully understand the 'initial' desire to get into that stuff but it also leaves them emotionally destroyed in the end. Its better to obstain and hold that sexual energy and FULLY RELEASE it once you have those people that are really there for you as a partner who will not only pipe you down but provide all that other stuff too. which a quick romp will never achieve. it's too shallow. There are very very very few cases where people come out the other end saying yup im glad i went down that road just because the validation of people thinking i was hot was a nice feeling. Still left a crater in them no matter how many times they got filled up ironically.

[@ghostface4404]

@@guitarman0365 to clarify: by being a fetish--I meant in the proper time.

[@noneedtoknow3467]

​@@ghostface4404 To be extremely blunt: NO. Dating men who are obsessed with trans women's penises always ends up with us as trans women getting our boundaries forcibly pushed back--first it's "I promise I just want to touch your penis a little", then when they get that they'll go "actually I want to suck you off", if you give in, in due time it will then be "actually I really want you to top me, PLEASEEEEEE". The man will push, whine, cry, do everything in his power to overpower the trans woman's OWN HARD LIMITS sexually. He won't accept "no" for an answer. Why would he? He's SO CLOSE to getting his fetish fulfilled! If he just pushes, treats her like garbage *just a little more*, maybe he can get his fill of gurld!ck. What, she cried after he gave her a BJ? Who cares! He got to suck a gurld!ck! She says topping sets off her dysphoria and she hates it? Who cares! He wants that gurld!ck in his arse and he'll guilt her until he gets it! And then what happens when this so called devoted and romantic man comes face to face with the reality that his beloved fetish object likely won't be there forever? That the gurld!ck has an execution date, and there's NOT going to be a last minute call from the governor to save it. I'll tell you what usually happens: He leaves her, or he starts cheating with trans escorts. Or sex stops entirely because he's just not attracted to her as a woman like any other, her whole value to him sexually was because of her penis. The men who treat trans women like a fetish deserve NOTHING, not even the tiniest crumb of gurld!ck. Thankfully most trans women understand this and treat fetishizers like the nuisances they are. There's a reason why the term "chaser" gets so much use in the trans community, it's not only a descriptor but a warning to other trans women to avoid these guys. Those of us who don't accept being treated as fetish material can and do find love with men and women who find us attractive in our entirety, and with men and women who accept and understand our limits with regards to not touching our penis in certain ways (or AT ALL). They understand what dysphoria is, and treat us like actual individuals with our own preferences and hard limits, and they RESPECT that. The men who see us as nothing but an exotic d!ck to explore will just have to pay for an escort if they want to treat a trans woman like a fetish.

[@tiffanytimbric]

It's not fun. It's work in that satisfying their wants is your job, often annoying, often tedious, sometimes dangerous. Acting like everything and word is the first time you ever heard it or thought it. Camgirling may be the safest avenue, then publishing your own videos possibly, but the legacy porn world is horrible, must be avoided. Escorting may be possible, but can be a slippery slope. The trick is to make positive experience for your guests/customers. That is what they pay for, fantasy, escape.

[@AshleyxAdamson]

Yeah, I think if I did porn I'd do camming, that could be fun cause its in my own terms. But yeah it's a lot.

[@andrewarthurmatthews6685]

Yes I think you make much sense as any type of porn is just produced for entertainment, for enjoyment, for stimulation, for relaxation. It’s not art and it’s not there to educate

[@rebeccaknox2567]

I know its two years old but I so had to watch this! You forgot the worst side of the adult industry though so maybe revisit it some day....its so disgustingly "made for men" by women who are doing it to pay for surgeriers and produced by....well its just bad but translesbian porn is way worse. Most look so baked they aren't sure whats going on, you can tell they're being told what to do and how and the majority I think are straight girls and not in to each other...super creepy. I'm always blunt and "me" when people ask me things and glad to see you are as well. You bring up a lot of stuff that most don't think about but because its so different and everyones unique it does make the whole dating scene awkward (ya even I have issues with dating transmen or transwomen). I did date a transguy and he was of the "it doesn't exist" school of thinking but it took a lot of talking to get so we both understood each others needs were getting met without sacrificing our own.

[@Smeel-Mainly]

I would give it a try, too. Society sucks in this area. Same thoughts as you on the topic. I appreciate how comfortable you were discussing porn. Excellent work!

[@vagresta1729]

You have the greatest attitude and I love your laugh you are always up and positive. I just think you’re terrific.

[@kajalroy3665]

You are absolutely a great teacher . Thank you

[@jhorton64va]

Thank you for this. I agree with you. Many of the porn videos don't know the difference between being gay or trans either. Some are downright insulting.

[@martinahager4931]

Danke!

[@bjhoppe9772]

1st 0f all... absolutely love your vids!... 2nd, how is it that you Don't get more views, 3rd, I don't know ehat more to say but thanks for posting all of these coaching vids. Wouldn't know who else to turn to for better advice amd anonymous tips on how to better ones self in the sissyfaction aspect of life!! You're an inspiration and role model for all sissies who would like to be true to themselves amd be the real girly boy who the need and want to be... Did that make any sense?!

[@RoseHazelyn]

So I’m late to the party lol but I know exactly what you’re talking about with the energy. Everything you say about like dynamics is exactly describing how I am sexually.

[@KymGedinski-wp6iv]

🤣😏🥴 This is awesomely informative! Thank you Ashley! 💙🤍💜

[@renalove2537]

Love your outfit, Ashley ❤

[@user-ph2jg8zx9m]

That's so awesome that ypu wear the same outfit for almost every vid. So brave.

[@AshleyxAdamson]

recorded the same day :)

[@thomascrownrg]

Only an opinion but... a noticeable number of men have latent all the way to deeply suppressed sexuality as well as desires. They seem to feel more comfortable with one that presents such femininity while having just the equipment they have long to experience. Great job, New subscriber

[@pAuL-nb2ud]

5:00 I’m a “gynesexual” straight guy … so no matter if I’m with a woman or trans woman, I’m going to want to do oral sex both give and receive . I don’t like when that’s “taken away”… For me, I wouldn’t say there is a “focus” on that part of the other person, it’s just that I like ALL parts of that person ❤ Good video thanks for sharing

[@BrendanTripp]

Ashley ... oh, my! I must say, I have never /intentionally/ watched any trans porn ... things have popped up in Zoom calls (before their security got better), and the like, so I have a vague idea of the genre, but it's never anything I've been interested in. Funny how that works, eh? Frankly, I lost interest in porn within a month or so of starting Lupron ... can't blame that on estrogen, of course, but zeroing out the testosterone made porn just seem gross. Of course, losing all genital function essentially made the porn useless. I envy you still having sexual response, but after years of Lupron and Zytiga, "down there" has no more erotic response than ear lobes or other peripheral sites. I have many questions for which this is not the venue ... wish we were in geographic proximity where loitering at a Starbucks was a possibility.

[@alanadee2514]

That was very informative This was a real good video I've been wondering about p*** transporn for a long time

[@sachithaillangage3168]

Sometime people try different works make there own careers and become famous. Without been every day same person.

[@BradNichols-k6i]

I just found your videos and I love your honesty plus the great information for us cis males who want to date a beautiful trans woman ❤

[@MidoriQueenAlys]

I wouldn't know anything about sex with dude. I'ma lesbian and absolutely repulsed by men. Also for me the mental part happened to me after a year on hormones.

[@mathewlewis5227]

Lesbians are straight women just scared of asking men out. Once you get yo pussy stretched by a man you straight.

[@ChristianCatboy]

Hmm... I might be a lesbian too. I've been assuming that I needed to date men, because I have a relatively passive personality and need to be pursued and "treated like the girl in the relationship", but I suppose that doesn't take women off the table

[@pookiedacat8364]

Honestly, I'm kinda used to girthy. Sometimes yes, there is too long. I agree with your assertion that it takes a minute to get things dilated and comfortable, this part is on the guy.

[@lillianroux2747]

You are amazing. I love how up front you are. ❤❤❤

[@alysonmosby4237]

Omg. You are so correct on every point. 😘🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

[@Scifi4life]

Great video. You look really nice too. I like your little arm bracelet thing too. Very cool looking.

[@thewiseoldtranny9640]

Pre-op I only dated women, It was only actually having physical changes to my body that led me to even consider dating men. As such I can't comment on pre-op sex with guys. I've never considered anal sex tbh, it still gives me gay vibes (As did being with women post-op, which is why I considered getting with a dude)

[@blankslate8002]

Are you bi?

[@matthebert9293]

God another fascinating interview. I learn a lot.

[@matthebert9293]

I can listen to ypu all day

[@saifurrahman2188]

Ashley Adamson you have got captivating Beauty, stay blessed my dear 😇🙏

[@chriskwakernaat2328]

The mental stimulation is not just for girls , some men have it too. (me) I can't just "pick up" a girl and go straight to sex. i need interaction first. I always want to get my partner off, if i don't know how or i am uncertain, i ask.(like eating out). does not have much to do with being top or bottom , imho it's just the way it should be.

[@AJ-ox9oj]

Yes your right on this subject thank you...

[@ourladyoftheflowers6668]

The thing is that it’s forbidden. That’s part of the attraction….

[@robb8773]

I think its all about communication between the partners to let each other know what works for them.

[@LGDrunk]

I'm sorry what was that bit about working 4 nights a month in Berlin...do I have to learn German, asking for science

[@clauderjbb3842]

a connection....is what i'm hearing....makes perfect sense.

[@jenwright2577]

You definitely dont become a size queen overnight or even within five years, the b hole is something that never ceases to amaze me, 😯

[@SW-qx3mm]

I really love your series, you are so inspiring with your attitude, opened a and you being so smart and charming.thank you.

[@JustinGaud]

Imagine, I've only recently recognised you're Asian). That's what is to be Ukrainian - you have great genotype diversity and generally love freedom. Thanks for being simultaneously so simple, tactical and free expressing the sexual aspects of being transwoman. Good luck and blessings on you, cutie)

[@AshleyxAdamson]

Thank you Justin!

[@p1aydumb280]

Nothing compares to hugs TBH.

[@Ghostdog4]

There are a number of men who simply adore pleasuring women in how ever a manner they desire. They pay attention and actually care about their partners needs. If you need a demonstration just put out a howl for the Ghostdog. Gorgeous, simply gorgeous!

[@nullifye7816]

It's so cool how sex-positive you are! FWIW I have also seen quite a bit of content with more "realistic" material and girls like what you describe and that's really hot in its own way. Having said that entertainment will always go for the exceptional and cater to fantasies and that's not really a problem.

[@josephalai3576]

Ashley, you are adorable. You always get my gurl giggles

[@craigcairns5233]

Omg so pretty I love ur outfit 🌈 😍

[@N8DE420]

Thanks for the info

[@rebeccasam3434]

So far there's not much if any change in terms of what I like/how I work beyond a few physical changes (and lower libido), but then I maybe wasn't totally "normal" before. Rough or huge sounds horrible, and I hate the terrible ideas people get from porn.

[@user-ph2jg8zx9m]

Any advice on how to hide a adams apple? Or bulging in pantys?

[@AshleyxAdamson]

Tucking. For adams apple it's all about posture.

[@cristinacindy7520]

You are so right ✅️ ❤️

[@johnarohde9444]

I definitely enjoy your beautiful input

[@BillyIson-d3y]

Why no recent videos?

[@Snider112233]

Mental stimulation is key. For me, it’s 90 mental and 10 physical

[@dspencer8827]

You look amazing x

[@donaldhollingsworth3875]

For myself I would not have sex until I had gender reassignment surgery. That's more important to me. I've been celibate for over 31 years so I can wait another couple of years once I have gender reassignment surgery.

[@xThePrinceOfPeace]

Do as much research as you can about that surgery. A lot of people end up regretting it

[@martinithechobit]

ty good to know.

[@pershing7e]

I'm 18 months in and sex means nothing to me now. If I never have it again I'll be ok

[@6Heather6Hazard6]

Your sex drive's gone?

[@devynyoungg]

omg that necklace !!!

[@beedwarf]

Sure, try it. You might like it, Ms. Adamson.

[@robb8773]

PS. The communication is better if it happens outside the bedroom first.........

[@BruceEllsworth-v5q]

Nice video

[@YannickDouchet]

I'm great with you at 💯 !!!

[@Ashleylee419]

You totally should have!! But you are doing more good by talking to us all :)

[@lumisvideos]

You are like the Trans Version of Neo from the Matrix... and that makes you the transest person ever!

[@darknessshine-darker2517]

I'm tryna make a film

[@wykkydjvc]

porn is entertainment, not education. and yes you absolutely could do porn. sex work is definitely a job and to quote Jenna Haze "it's an act, not reality"

[@davinadavina1331]

im a transgender and i never had onlyfans or looked at it

[@kevinnosx9]

I would love to you see in a film.

[@Mr1971tommyboy]

I can relate.

[@sasa-sv8kd]

it is 2024. It feels like "everyone" does p*rn nowadays and then talks on podcasts about cooking. If I would look like you, I couldn't resist not to do p*rn.

[@roxannejoganik3466]

the truth is I love me as a woman and I think young people have different Ideas about being a woman I want a husband not a fling .....

[@Buddhabebop]

LISA YER TEARIN' ME APART!

[@scottyk1763]

Porn actually made me think at a younger age bigger meant better. My poor young hole 😢😂 Now the whole size queen thing i cant get away from😅