Ask Kati Anything ep.126 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT

Ask Kati Anything ep.126 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT
Synopsis:
In this week’s episode Kati discusses why we can feel emotions in our body but not recognize them in our mind. She also talks about how to be our real selves when in therapy, what unconditional positive regard is, and how much self-disclosure we should expect from our therapist. She digs into passive suicidality and how to tell our therapist about it, and whether or not she thinks it’s part of having an eating disorder. She explains why we may act childlike in therapy and why it may be hard to let ourselves be happy. Finally, she shares her biggest learning in her own therapy, and what we can do to stop our ED from turning into a different one.
AUDIENCE QUESTIONS
1. Why is it that my body reacts in a way as if I am feeling a certain emotion, but my brain doesn’t necessarily “feel” the emotion? My body will physically react as if there is a certain emotion, but I don’t really “feel” the emotion...
2. How do I allow myself to “be real” in therapy? Whenever I walk in, I have a hard time sharing how I'm feeling and I immediately forget what has been on my mind / what has happened that week. I also constantly think I am making up my problems, am being too dramatic, or her other patients...
3. Just thought it would be a different experience to ask you a question about yourself as you always kindly offer so much help and advice to us. My question is I know you've mentioned before about you accessing therapy yourself in the past. I wondered what you have learnt most about yourself from therapy?
4. I have questions about passive suicidality. I believe that’s what this is called but not fully sure and what really do you do to deal with it? I was at a point a long time ago that I was done and ready to leave but ended up finding out I was pregnant and from that point forward it wasn’t an option...
5. Why can't I allow myself to be happy? I want to enjoy life, but enjoying it feels wrong? It's not necessarily that I feel like I don't deserve to be happy, but I just can't let myself live the life I want to live, and I constantly sabotage my happiness.
6. I hope you’re doing well and I hope that my question makes sense. I have been going to therapy for about 5 months now and have finally slowly managed to be able to get to a point where I can feel more relaxed and able to begin to process my traumas (CSA, emotional neglect, Physical abuse to name a few) without...
7. Is it normal to feel more child-like in therapy? And do therapists encourage this? I don't see my therapist as a caregiver (I'm still not 100% comfortable with my therapist yet) but each time I'm in therapy, I feel myself kind of "switch". And I stop functioning as an adult. Instead I watch myself do...
8. My question is how much self-disclosure from a therapist is normal? My therapist talks sometimes in detail sometimes not about her own life in just about every session, she's talked about her trauma's, abusive people in her life she cut out and about stuff that's stressing her out like...
9. How can one best ensure that while recovering from one ED, one doesn’t slip into another? (Example from Anorexia to BED or bulimia) (COMMENT: And could you talk about being at a higher normal weight or being overweight in the context of EDs? I feel like it is not often talked about and getting the diagnosis kind of triggered me because I thought that I was not ill enough to...
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[@anniekate76]

Timestamps! 0:49 1. Why is it that my body reacts in a way as if I am feeling a certain emotion, but my brain doesn’t necessarily “feel” the emotion? My body will physically react as if there is a certain emotion, but I don’t really “feel” the emotion... 23:29 2. How do I allow myself to “be real” in therapy? Whenever I walk in, I have a hard time sharing how I'm feeling and I immediately forget what has been on my mind / what has happened that week. I also constantly think I am making up my problems, am being too dramatic, or her other patients... 36:48 3. Just thought it would be a different experience to ask you a question about yourself as you always kindly offer so much help and advice to us. My question is I know you've mentioned before about you accessing therapy yourself in the past. I wondered what you have learnt most about yourself from therapy? 39:56 4. I have questions about passive suicidality. I believe that’s what this is called but not fully sure and what really do you do to deal with it? I was at a point a long time ago that I was done and ready to leave but ended up finding out I was pregnant and from that point forward it wasn’t an option... 48:17 5. Why can't I allow myself to be happy? I want to enjoy life, but enjoying it feels wrong? It's not necessarily that I feel like I don't deserve to be happy, but I just can't let myself live the life I want to live, and I constantly sabotage my happiness. 1:03:56 6. I hope you’re doing well and I hope that my question makes sense. I have been going to therapy for about 5 months now and have finally slowly managed to be able to get to a point where I can feel more relaxed and able to begin to process my traumas (CSA, emotional neglect, Physical abuse to name a few) without... 1:09:12 7. Is it normal to feel more child-like in therapy? And do therapists encourage this? I don't see my therapist as a caregiver (I'm still not 100% comfortable with my therapist yet) but each time I'm in therapy, I feel myself kind of "switch". And I stop functioning as an adult. Instead I watch myself do... 1:15:36 8. My question is how much self-disclosure from a therapist is normal? My therapist talks sometimes in detail sometimes not about her own life in just about every session, she's talked about her trauma's, abusive people in her life she cut out and about stuff that's stressing her out like... 1:19:42 9. How can one best ensure that while recovering from one ED, one doesn’t slip into another? (Example from Anorexia to BED or bulimia) (COMMENT: And could you talk about being at a higher normal weight or being overweight in the context of EDs? I feel like it is not often talked about and getting the diagnosis kind of triggered me because I thought that I was not ill enough to...

[@raywood8187]

Thanks, timestamps don't like me!😉

[@nikkimckay860]

Anniekate76. Thank you for the timestamps always helpful 🙂

[@arorasaakshi]

thank you so much for adding these omg! 💗💗💗

[@madisenbarnes8465]

Favorite podcast just made my day thank you 😊

[@askkatianything]

Oops looks like the wrong audio track for the opening....

[@anniekate76]

It was adorable though

[@LessThanThree76]

That was awesome though. 😂 Also. Ooops, no notification today. 😟❤️

[@anmgraphicartist9900]

Hehehehehe

[@kem2271]

You rock, thank you for being you! 🙂

[@Sarahhedger]

I thought there was no video, it didn’t show up in my subscription page nor did I get a notification 🙄

[@cindypatrick785]

I related to your excessive running.At the height of my anorexia I exercised 7 days a week ( 5’7 1/2 weighed 125). Ate rice cakes w tuna no mayonnaise, apple slices. Literally felt my insides chewing on me🤦‍♀️. My 8 months of therapy in my 30’s helped me get rid of the distorted mirror and my OCD, Not quite as much of a perfectionist 🙂 8:41

[@nikkimckay860]

Question #3 was very helpful and interesting hearing about Kati s therapy experience s ❤️

[@daisy-daisy768]

Thank you Kati. So many relatable questions today and very helpful answers.

[@LessThanThree76]

Got no notification today. 😟 Also, loved your new title ”song”. 😉❤️

[@daviddanielsson3643]

You're awesome, Kati. 🙂

[@eloisemarie5219]

Always good Kati thank you.

[@daisy-daisy768]

Timestamps 1 0:50 2 23:28 3 36:49 4 39:55 5 48:18 6 1:03:55 7 1:09:14 8 1:15:37 9 1:19:42

[@dalerichardson2893]

Kati my husband passed on Fri and I had to identify him and of course I cried but haven’t cried since . We are waiting on autopsy.Why can’t I cry anymore. Please help I know I need to cry but it doesn’t happen.

[@nikkimckay860]

Kati Morton. Another Interesting and helpful AKA podcast and you reading everyone s questions and giving the best Answers you are just so calming to my mind and body #3 question was good to hear your experience s with being in therapy thank you ❤️

[@DAPalomares]

Did anybody not get a notification?

[@abibaker73]

Nope I didn’t, and I have all notifications turned on for this channel…

[@annasophia2005]

No I didnt get anything either!

[@LessThanThree76]

Yup.

[@yb4691]

Me neither ;)

[@_maia_m]

No, and I usually do

[@hopefortomorrow2143]

Thank you so much for helping with my add-on question! I have noticed one thing I do, when I'm frustrated I push my tongue to the roof of my mouth. It actually becomes painful kind of like clinching my jaw (I did that years ago and stopped). Any suggestions when I know I've been stuffing emotions but I'm not sure what I was feeling, thinking, or any urges? Is just knowing I'm stuffing good enough for that time and trust that I'll be able to know later as I do this more?

[@cindypatrick785]

I’ve often wondered if there could have been some feeling of neglect because of my brother only being 11 months younger than me , then 1 yr later next brother, 2 yrs later sister,2more years youngest brother. I’ve been thinking about it lately because my first Great grandsons sister came when he was 14 months old and I worry about how it will affect him 🤔 8:31

[@elinamaar]

I was just thinking about you and wondering if you are on summer vacation since I haven't seen your videos. I decided to check your channel and lo and behold, there it was, your newest video. Thanks KZbin, for not showing it in my subscriptions page 🙃 I have actually nothing special to write here, just saying hi, thank you for everything you do, and trying to tell algorithm gods to take note and show Kati's future videos please and thank you 😅

[@ASerranProductions]

I went into like an active fawning episode for a year and half. I was drinking heavily and not being a good friend to myself. Lately I’ve gotten to the point where I’m able to regain access to that sacred space in my brain. In my vision of this my brain was a well organized old timey gothic library, with cigarette butts and sheets covering all my knowledge/books . I’m still in a stage of recovery and cleaning up my sacred space. When asked to visualize that space where we felt unsafe I popped into this terrible room when I was a child. My mom had painted the walls this awful purple and pink, it made it look like the walls had stucco. I hated the color. I didn’t get any options to furnish or decorate my room. My beds growing up where always these impromtu beds mostly old couches sometimes the floor. It made me realize I’m having trouble as an adult expressing my needs and wants because I keep going back to that state as a child. I’m just biting my lip and happy to have the one poster I bought at a county library. Much love to everyone breaking the cycle! We got this.

[@jamaicaigot9335]

Awesome vid! could you get the audio version of it on audea? i listen to most of my audio there would love to hear this on there

[@despicabledavidshort3806]

My granddaughter used to cut herself when she was younger and before I got custody. She said it was to let the pain out 😢

[@raywood8187]

Please let me know if anyone sees this comment. I'm not sure mine are posting and I didn't get any notification on this video either.

[@anmgraphicartist9900]

I see it

[@raywood8187]

@@anmgraphicartist9900 Thank you! I wasn't sure if KZbin was trying to disappear me.

[@anmgraphicartist9900]

@@raywood8187No worries! I'm glad to help!

[@taddreams]

what happened to the time stamps?!🙁

[@tamiwigginton7137]

❤❤❤❤

[@anmgraphicartist9900]

100 emotions a day?? Wow!

[@leahklein1405]

Yo Kati you're awesome. I watch and re-watch your vids when I need a little reminder of things! I wonder if it's a good time to stop saying "sounds a little woo woo" and to just accept that you are serious about woo woo things. I get the woo woo term is trying to make skeptics more comfortable with trying things... but it might be more effective to be more serious (less backhand dismissive) about things that feel uncomfortable but help :D

[@feiswalsalim2117]

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