Ask More Than Once

[@4everu984]

He needs his own show!!! I love this guy. I'm a marriage counselor is dead on. 😹😹😹

[@montgomerysmom]

Funny and good advice too!

[@cherguihabib5495]

What's his name

[@brianawhatley7119]

Thos describes the relationship between my mother and my father perfectly. What confused me when I was little is that that my dad expected us to listen and obey when he asked us for something once. He expected us to listen to both him and mom and act immediately. He didn't start putting in the effort to listen to mom until he realized he was setting a bad example. Why would we listen to mom if he never did? If you're a man frustrated at how many times you have to tell your kids to do something, I guarantee that is half the times your wife has asked you to help. She feels your frustration tenfold. Lead by example. My dad figured that out, earned our respect.

[@annfraley7083]

"It's true, you little sinners..." It cracks me up when preachers say things like this. In a church setting, it goes without saying. And yet it cracks me up when people say it.

[@KM-nq7ez]

Some of the Best Information I’ve ever heard, and I’m 56. Wisdom

[@oneofnine9831]

Bless This Mess I’m 22, learning early

[@jolasky2630]

I can listen and listen...and learning in such a joyful way! Thank you!

[@constanceroyval767]

This guy has NEVER EVER met my husband. He looks for things I need done. Asks if there is anything he can do for me. This is true after nearly 24 years. Any wonder I adore him? Last time He caught me on a ladder--he about flipped out. While I do have M.S. and tend to fall--I am NOT helpless. So I do projects when he is out. Until lately I did all interior projects--then he retired. Time for NEW plans!

[@celianeher7637]

Not all people are the same, you have a good man. My is good as well but, I some time have to ask more than once.

[@StarboyXL9]

@@celianeher7637 We aren't you Celia. Our minds run on an entirely different track, I assure you. When you are thinking about a set of priorities you think are important, he is likely focused on ANOTHER set of priorities that HE thinks is important. Not saying either one of you is more right, just that men and women have different priorities from the get-go

[@celianeher7637]

@@StarboyXL9 Thank God we are not all alike. It would be a world of boredom. I have be told that I tend to do several things simultaneously and make little to no mistakes. I do not know if this is the result of working as a cook in a kitchen where we have a staff whom speaks several languages or the results of my upbringing around children of different cultures. But , I have now the skirting boards finished. It was a running joke between my husband and myself.

[@amberslahlize7961]

Well you said this is after 24 years, did you work with him to make him do stuff for you? I know one couple where the husband wants to help the wife all the time, and it sounds really adorable. That sort of breed of man I think isn't the norm. Not that it's a bad thing.

[@Bundalaba]

Huh. The modern women would have cheated on him at that point. Drama and easy money is their lifeblood

[@claudiuroman3161]

"It's true you little sinners" 😂😂😂

[@AkueShop]

my father never EVER needed me to ask him,... he just knew what I wanted ..and suprise me dong it.,, God bless his soul.

[@itskarl7575]

Your _father?_ Fathers _want_ to do stuff for their daughters. The dynamic between man and _wife_ is quite different.

[@AkueShop]

@@itskarl7575 my point: a husband can't love the woman the way her father does, in fact a male true love goes to his mother, his daughter, where he gives without being asked.

[@itskarl7575]

@@AkueShop Love is only going to approach unconditional when it's between parent and child. That's the same for men and women alike.

[@AkueShop]

@@itskarl7575 exactly, that's why a woman should never expect it from any other ones.... so she keeps reminding them.

[@bleueviolette4549]

Jewish women just assume men have to be asked numerous times to do something, and, they still won't do it! They have to be tricked into it - my Mother taught me the art - she would ask Dad to go thru the shed and toss out what was useless so she could get in there to get what she needed. After 40 requests and several mos., she would just go in and start doing it herself - that meant messing with Dad's crap! The moment she started it was like some alarm system had been set off in her husband's brain - out of the blue he'd appear and start moving stuff to protect it from HER! Before you knew it he'd be in there for hrs. getting it all organized, and Mom had only invested five minutes to get him to do it. It worked like a charm every time. They were married 49yrs. before Dad passed away. I just don't know why she bothered to ask so many times - I guess it was just their way?!

[@kurbatska]

LOL it is true

[@bluesifer8238]

She bothered because that little banter was all their love.

[@firecloud77]

Bleue Violtte, That is a pricelessly beautiful story.

[@nataliesteinberg2286]

Jewish wife here.... Read Post on top .. give me the trick again ... I do it I get nowhere

[@gloriahallelujah1118]

Bleue Violette she didn't realize her super power ! You did though ! Thanks for sharing, great idea

[@kimprice1864]

Love this guy. I would definitely attend his church. Lol.

[@artofgameplaying]

I have watched this video and read through a lot of comments to finally realize... My gf asked me to do the dishes couple of hours ago! I wouldn't even recall it without this video... She asked only once...

[@shirin8609]

ahahaha! show her this video! :)

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

why doesn't she just do the dishes?

[@pisceanrat]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 now, now didn't your mama teach you not to meddle in adult talk?

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

@@pisceanrat adult talk? hahaha yeah being a baby and trying to get your man to do the dishes sure is "adult talk". Again, I get that if your man is a pussy who doesn't do any of the man role in the house (yard work, house maintenance, roof maintenance, plumbing, car maintenance, etc) then he should be helping you with the house cleaning. But if he is doing the traditional male role then the woman should not be asking him to "help" her with her role.

[@mohamedmahmed1954]

This guy is amazing, I learn a lot from him to enahnce my presentation performance... just amazing

[@qtrpoundermom4640]

It's not that women want their man to want to do it, she just wants him to take the same responsibility for the house they share as she does. She doesn't WANT to do chores any more than he does. But she sees that it needs to be done, and she takes on the responsibility to get it done. That's what annoys women the most. It's that their partner doesn't take responsibility for the things that need doing.

[@bonn94]

that is just another way of saying- women want their man to want to do it

[@JoeL-yq1iv]

Seeing as we seem to speaking in stereotypical terms... would that same woman work on the roof, or fix the garage door, or repave the driveway? Probably not. Yet she expects that of the man. At the same time, in modern society, the man has to be equally involved in bringing up children; teaching, feeding, changing diapers and so on. So it's not 'share the responsibilities" in this case, because he likely already does that, just in different ways.

[@rachelmacdonald9195]

yes! there are two people in the couple, and they should both contribute to the work.

[@ENFPerspectives]

@Joe L , it’s the stereotypical fixing the roof (fixing garage door, repaying the drive) type of things most men do not do, and women complain about. If the husband is not capable of doing those things, the couple hirer a contractor, and obviously should take turns cooking, cleaning and wiping snotty noses... but to be honest, where I am I see both couples doing their share of child raising and working so I am not complaining.

[@gloriahallelujah1118]

Naked laundry folding...follow the leader game👀

[@dianeshelley6439]

I asked twice , I asked 3 times, then I asked again and again. Most of the time it never got done till I did it, and yes he told me I nagged. Nag , nag. That's all you ever do. Then he left me and remarried , well she had him cleaning house during the commercials. Oh such SWEET revenge, and I didn't have to do anything but laugh

[@pisceanrat]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 ooh you are so desperate for a housewife the closest thing you can get is whining on every comment here hahaha! Your dumb opinion dont matter coz youre a lonely guy with no knowledge of marriage partnership dynamics lol

[@msarver9771]

If i asked you, then it is important to me. If my happiness isnt important to you, then i am not important to you. That is the message men are sending women.

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

So 90% of wives who neglect sex are selfish cunts who don't love their husbands? By your logic, must be

[@pisceanrat]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 where did you come up with the 90% statistics? From up your a$$?

[@arrielradja5522]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 no men just want hugd and compation ok

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

@@pisceanrat If you asked 100 men if they are content with the frequency of sex in their marriage, I would bet my house that at least 90% of them would say they would rather have more sex than what their wife is giving.

[@alessandrar8572]

It's true that women don't want to ask even once, because we are talking of chores that should be shared between partners/spouses, they are not favors, men are grown enough to see what needs to be done at home and do their part, assuming that they both work and bring home the bacon. If one person works, and the other one doesn't, of course it's their job to keep the house. But it also depends on what kind of job one has and how many hours they work, every case needs to be evaluated. It's also okay to ask, if one person isn't able to do something of if they are overloaded.

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

so do you mow the lawn? do drywall? move the refrigerator? repair the appliances? trim the trees? shovel the snow? stain the deck? replace the ceiling fan when it dies? do landscaping in your yard? Or are all of those things "his" job but dishes and sweeping are somehow "our" job?

[@alessandrar8572]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 What I'm able to do, I do without waiting for a man to do it. Otherwise I hire someone. And come on how many men do those kind of jobs each day, or once a week, or even once a month? Be honest. In that case I agree, they shouldn't do the dishes that day ;)

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

@@alessandrar8572 let's be honest, how many woman actually cook on a daily basis (not talking box dinners and pre-prepped shit from the freezer section)? How many women do THEIR chores with out bitching to their husbands to "help" her?? This whole video was about how women can get their husbands to do more of HER chores....

[@alessandrar8572]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 I suppose we will never be on the same page. Have a good life, bye!

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

@@alessandrar8572 I guess you are right. Say hi to your cats for me.

[@ramblerjambler9528]

I, personally, think it all boils down to this... Women want a partner, not another child. I shouldn't have to ask you 13 times, you aren't a 4 year old. But I enjoyed watching. I love that you tackle the issues with humor.

[@cristianacosta6257]

Men will always be kids though

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

No, women don't want a partner. They wan't the impossible: they want a strong man, who also jumps at her every order. She wants a man who has a prestigious job and makes tons of money, but who also has tons of free time to cater to her. She wants a man who is super great with kids, yet simply defers to her parenting style at all times. She wants a super sexy man whom every woman wants, yet she expects him to only want sex as often as her, and NEVER cheat no matter how little sex she provides him. She wants him to be the smartest person in the room, yet hang on her every word when talking about inane shit like her car pool drama. She wants a man to think she is super sexy, yet only want sex when she does. She wants him to be powerful and important person, yet she also wants him to do HER chores when he gets home from his high profile job. Basically, women want to be the Queen who stays at home eating pealed grapes while her husband is King, and somehow also her full time servant......................

[@ramblerjambler9528]

Lol Nick... that's the most incel thing I've heard all day.

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

@@ramblerjambler9528 That is the reply I would expect from a lesbian cat lady.... Now that we both got our baseless personal attacks in; would you like to address ANYTHING in my comment? BTW, I get that my comment is a generalization and there are many exceptions, but none of what I said was pulled out of my ass. Many men have experienced a handful of these observations.

[@reikaratnam]

Nick: many confuse girls and feminists to women.

[@gw10758]

This was from 2005... I have the CD set and we watch it at least twice a year...... it is soooooo funny.

[@anniegillespie7935]

I appreciate the information on the biology of a man's brain. I had just asked one of the guys the third time to take the recycling out. I wasn't asking until a couple of days went by cuz I didn't want to be considered a biatch. But after hearing this, I'll feel very comfortable asking them to do it every 4 hours 😁 From the comments I have read where there is conflict about having to ask multiple times... I think it's because you either have been with or are with a partner that doesn't do their fair share.. I didn't expect my ex to do mechanical things by himself . I offered to help him change the panel in our home. I helped him many times doing panel changes. I also did his invoicing purchased parts and delivered them, did all taxes, kept the house did the cooking the yard the animals oh and did I mention the kids? Him not doing it didn't have anything to do with how many times I asked him, or how nicely, he just at the end of the day didn't care. And it could be the other way around where the man does his part and his wife doesn't She lays around on her phone all day. So kudos to those of you who have worked it out and have a good system and hang in there for those who have been disappointed or are currently disappointed in their spouses efforts. I have done a lot of self work on myself since my breakup and know I have learned tools to make my next relationship better, and there is so much information out there to help you improve... the main one being the Bible. Because it's not about the woman being submissive to the man it's about respecting your husband and honoring him and in turn he's supposed to treat you like the church. Men treat us as if we are the church...hmmmm... Maybe that's a part of the Bible that goes to the other side of the men's brain so they have to be told a few times. I think it would help if more preachers would teach both sides of the spectrum! The perfect woman is described at the end of Proverbs by the way🐦💙🐦💙❤💙🐦💙🐦

[@shirin8609]

I'm sorry you had such a bad experience with your ex. That must have been frustrating to feel like your partner did not care for you. I hope you will find a fulfilling relationship where you and your partner both demonstrate respect and care for one another every day. :)

[@jennyngatai8357]

We don’t want to do it either. Everyone lives in the home, wears the clothes. All adults bare this responsibility not just women.

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

so you make at least half of the money then? you are out there fixing the lawn mower half the time? you are doing the plumbing and electrical half the time? You are moving the heavy furniture half the time? you are going downstairs in the middle of the night to see what that noise was? You are putting together the kids toys at 2am on Christmas Eve? You are working overtime to pay for the kids braces? you are going to work, sick as a dog, because you have a deadline that can not be missed? Shuddup, you have it so easy. Just say thank you to your husband every now and then and stop trying to get him to do YOUR chores on top of everything he is already doing.

[@constanceroyval767]

What is with the idea that "We don't want to do it either"? I had NO trouble keeping a clean home when I was working and raising a family/ We just NEVER trashed it to start with. Always cleaned up as we went along. Did laundry daily so as not to pile up. Organized. Once it was just me & my husband--SUPER easy.

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

@@constanceroyval767 most women KNOW that keeping up a house is easy as hell, they just want to lie to men about how hard it is so they can manipulate men into doing even MORE in the relationship so they can do even LESS

[@StarboyXL9]

So where is your half of the family income Jenny? If I have to do half the housework, I fully expect to be able to work a 30k a year job while you work your own full-time job to earn the other 30k!

[@annakrawczyk1174]

Joel Gawne frankly speaking lady Income nowadays can me more than man and still he will be lazy ... what is your advice in such case? Lady is not mom but life partner and people need to share responsibility then only man can have milk and honey

[@CiscoWes]

Women tend to ask for something at the most inopportune moment. It's usually while we're doing something else, and we don't like to stop progress and go do something else. Because we end up doing something else while we're doing something else, and then what we were working on in the first place - NEVER GETS DONE. So we like to FINISH something first, and THEN start on something else. By that point, we have forgotten what it was you wanted to do. We end up getting split doing something fifteen different ways, and frustration sets in. Let the guy finish things first, and then "ASK". Don't instruct, don't command, don't tell. ASK. No, that doesn't mean BEG. Imagine if the guy barked orders. How long would that last!

[@ksarathkumarkrishnan4045]

Don't ask, instead "request"

[@Eyes-of-Horus]

What's important is the way the wife asks the husband to do something. The way the act is framed and formed can promote a motivation inspiring him to want to do it.

[@christinejones4086]

The way a wife asks? A man should be able to see the mess and take some initiative. Men are not children and should not have to be asked twice, and no matter how tactfully I ask, it still doesn't get done.

[@sirriffsalot4158]

@@christinejones4086 Hold the phone. You picked the guy, so what kinda sign are you waving here exactly? And more importantly, what feels like a mess to you is probably not even in his world as far as what defines a true 'mess'. Then, as far as he's concerned, it's just a nuisance being asked to clean, because it feels condescending, as if (just like you said) he's being treated like a child. Talk it out and agree on what constitutes a mess beforehand, and if he thinks cleaning at your desired level is too ridiculous, agree on him taking reponsibility elsewhere that makes more sense to him for example. No offense but from what you've said it just seems like you missed the whole point of the video.

[@lyncap99]

We don't ask more than once because we've been trained to believe we will be labeled a nag if we do that.

[@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64]

lyncap99 That label is a way to control you from asking for things to be done.

[@lyncap99]

@@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64 yes and it works.

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

No, it is just that when men want something done, they just do it. But when women want something done, they ask others to do it. Take some personal responsibility ladies. Does your man ask you to help work on his car? or to mow the yard? Does he ask you to help with the plumbing or painting? MAYBE he is busy doing his own chores (that you are not remotely capable of doing BTW) so he does not feel that he should also do YOUR chores.

[@lyncap99]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 I don't know what men you're talking about.

[@lyncap99]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 sometimes we are asking them to do THEIR "chores" like now the lawn or fix the car, etc....

[@barbthornell4786]

For me the "Dose of their own medicine" strategy has always worked remarkably well.

[@jenbyrum4775]

How does a person that has to be told several times to do something keep a job?

[@Gobackto4chan]

Jen Davis Relationships aren’t as rewarding to men as a job that can get us resources. So to be honest it’s cause we generally don’t care about whatever she’s asking us to do. 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@chiriviscospower]

@@Gobackto4chan basically

[@TZ2nd]

Leem oh that’s the reason...sucks to suck. Step 2 learn how to make a relationship worth it✅

[@JoeL-yq1iv]

Ignoring the silly responses... A man works at a job and keeps it because a professional relationship is quite different from a personal one. At a job, we expect to be told what to do by those in charge. In exchange, we get money. The key element there being "by those in charge". In a personal or romantic relationship, neither one should be "in charge" of the other. That's why it's a partnership. The average man balks at the very idea of the wife being their boss, despite the jokes and TV shows that reference it, and thereby resists being told what to do.

[@belindafleischer4245]

I

[@elisabethldavis]

my concern with men is that I don't want to do it either, but it needs done. He is funny!

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

Do you think your man wants to go to work every day? But it needs to be done............. I'll bet if you could make as much money as he does, he would GLADLY trade you places.

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

Um, most men are the breadwinners in a marriage

[@pisceanrat]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 as you said MOST. you aint a messiah you just a stupid single desparate and lonely punk who dont know each and every story and circumstance.. you keep scattering dumb opinion around. so do everyone a favor and STFU

[@lololollaughatlife1431]

Why is the woman labeled as a nag when she asks more than once? When a woman has to ask repeatedly this is a poor reflection of him- not her. Many woman who get ignored about the things they need also take the lack of response to their request as a lack of love and care towards the wife. That little chore that has now become a sore spot in the marriage, also becomes a symbol of the husbands love towards the wife. His refusal, and forgetting to do it over and over is because the wife isn’t important to him. (I’m not talking about the rude ways to ask for something either, smart people know this won’t go far. Everyone has a frustration level that will be reached with being ignored and neglected given a length of repeats though)

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

What is stopping YOU from doing it? Let me ask you, do you give him sex EVERY time he asks for it? If not, why should he jump every time you snap you fingers but (like an employee) but you are under no such obligation?

[@enrica1998]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 1. That's not what shes trying to say. It's not like a job. Not like do what I say. Its about the responsibility of the family and house that needs to be shared. 2. Doing it herself only shows that he will never have to do anything and still get all the benefits of marriage. Food. Sex. Clean laundy. Sometimes even a packed lunch for work. Because if he ignores her long enough she will do it herself. So why bother. 3. Sex should never ever be held as a bargaining chip. I feel wholeheartedly that one of my duties as wife is in the bedroom. And I never held it back. And sometimes I even gave it to him when I didnt even want to. Just to make him happy. Is that how it should be? Give him sex every time and hope he helps with the kids and house. Hope maybe I can have a rest day when he gets to lay around after work and watch me make dinner after I get home from work. Or go to bed without helping clean up the dinner mess? Because he already gets all he wants. Why would he have to do anything else?

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

@@enrica1998 1) I agree that it is about the responsibility of the family, so why is she asking her husband to do things that fall under her responsibility? 2)Again, if the husband works and she does not, and he does the home repairs and yard work, then WHY is he also responsible to take part in HER responsibilities? I'll bet her husband never asks her to put on a carpenters belt and help him with the drywall in the basement. And Ill bet he never tells her to go out and make some money so she contributes financially. 3) you are right, sex should never be a bargaining chip, but you women keep making it into one. Men are only playing by the same rules as you. If you are throwing sex at him all the time, then he will never have to bargain for sex. But we all know that most married men get neglected sexually eventually, causing most of the Marital problems.

[@enrica1998]

@@willadley7989 oh sweetie. Not all women are like that. Just like not all men are mindless sex machines like people try to say. I hope someday that you meet a nice girl and have a happy family.

[@skyhigh7773]

@@willadley7989 i geve a question for you tho are you want a girl for her body?

[@simondhar7776]

Pastor, thank you for making me laugh. Haaaaa. Enthuse listening to you.

[@foofooblenda734]

you changed it for me now huge thanks from my fam

[@oldcomrade8929]

1: 29 The lady Face turning at her husband, ooohhh boiii I am dead.. Where do i start hahahaha

[@dormanon7246]

This guy is awesome!! Lots of wisdom in his talks. The only thing I don't agree with is that 'the internal motivation of men is to do nothing'. I've been studying the topic for quite some time now and for men to feel fulfilled and happy they need to have a purpose and pursue it. When they hide from this or other responsibilities they feel depressed & women don't trust them to take care of the 'nest'. My partner is incredibly driven and loving, caring at the same time. And I would definitely never be with a man whose internal motivation is to do nothing. Otherwise, how can I trust he'll be an outstanding father? And how can I even be sexually attracted to someone who's got no drive or passion within them? Maybe I'm interpreting what he says the wrong way, but I wanted to share this thought.

[@hanhpham213546]

No body want to do chores, but it has to be done. What is wrong if she ask for help with chores. It's team work, it's not about being a personal assistant. What a backward comment.

[@kristieroybal4888]

I think there is some good I information in the lecture, and I always appreciate humor. I do not, however, appreciate the way he talks when he is pretending to be a woman. It's very insulting. I see that he makes fun of the men too, but it has a very different tone. And I'm on board 100% with asking (like you would maybe have to ask a small child) making you a nag... And I FEEL like a nag, which I despise. I do as much as I can, my husband controls the money, do I can't even hire things done. He has absolutely no "house pride" but his vehicles are spitspot. Our carwash bill is enormous. I think I'm just realizing that the lecture was designed for everyday problems that occurred in normal marriages. I'm stuck with a narcissist abuser due to health issues - no doubt caused at least in part by 22 years of abuse an quickness to temper. I think I was hoping for some enlightenment far beyond the scope of the lecture, and that was not the original intent.

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

But if your husband works and you don't, then the home chores are YOUR job. So, if he does not expect you to come into his office and do odd jobs for him, then why do you expect him to help with YOUR job?

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

@Ro Pi why should he be doing 100% of his duties (work full time, do yard work, do home repairs, do car maintenance, etc) and then also do half of his wife's duties?????? If she is a stay at home mom, her job is so fucking easy!! I'd trade in heartbeat if my wife could get a job that pays as much as mine. I'd win soccer mom of the year every fucking year.

[@CiscoWes]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 EXACTLY... Your simple point seems to be so elusive to so many. In the scenario where the man works all day and comes home, and the wife has been home all day, the man doesn't want to start in on working on housekeeping. There are typically things the guys have to do at home - upkeep, maintenance, etc... chores that are waiting for him once he's home from work, but we do this in addition "share the responsibilities" but we aren't sharing any of ours! And we don't complkain, we just do it.

[@constanceroyval767]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 NOT with that mouth

[@h54h52]

"I want him to say 'Oh I do it because I love you-u-u!' " He has a point. I went to a military boarding school. Neatness, clean and cleared surfaces, detail and the ability to live out of a suitcase were drummed into me.. So I do those things because the alternative is unthinkable. Doesn't mean I don't love my wife..

[@EMScott-le7vu]

Conflict arises when expectations aren’t laid out explicitly. This goes for both sides. No one does anything that they don’t want to do without resentment. The negotiationComes before the expectation.

[@crancelbrowser5478]

"What's with this always analyzing the internal motivations of the guys heart?" Lol, classic church.

[@gaymichaelis7581]

Yes, this guy is awesome!!! He is so darn funny, but so right on I think! And I am a woman! 😃🤣🤪

[@gemstones2942]

See, the thing is, a woman SHOULDN’T have to ask. Maintaining a household is a basic human skill and responsibility. For both men and women. To have a household together, the responsibly is split. Women do these jobs because they understand that they NEED to be done. Women don’t WANT the job done - they don’t want to do it any more than you do - but they understand that it needs done. You can’t be an adult and not expect to do housework. That’s why women are pissed off when men don’t do these jobs. The man is acting like a child, and leaving all the work up to the woman. A woman shouldn’t have to ask, because the man, as an adult, needs to understand that maintaining the house is his responsibility as well as the woman’s. Women don’t want servants - they want a man who takes responsibility, like a grown adult would.

[@Dabroodrooster]

You do realize that for many many many moons, the woman stayed at home while the man went out and earned money. To pay the bills, food, etc.. woman would be in charge of the household and raising the kids. Now ofcourse times change and I understand. But do you really believe the nonsense that comes out of your mouth? Every relationship is different and should be treated as such. It's impossible to compare 2 relationships because the people are different. Based on what you said i have a feeling you have no idea what you are on about. How much experience do you have in this field? A little example: my girlfriend loves cleaning and doing the household. In return i work and bring home the bacon. Very basic but you get the point. This has been the way of life for many centuries. Now we have 76 "genders" , a shitton of useless snowflakes and look what happened to society, values and norms, respect, etc...

[@valerielove9837]

\well said. I dont want to train a husband to clean himself. pick up their clothes of the floor extra. his mother and father should have taught him that. you wanta partnerto do things and fixing the house and chores go both ways.

[@hamdikhelifa5652]

Sapphire one thing that differentiate us men and women is you have A NEED which is not a need for us when you see a dust on piano you have a need to clean it but we men don't have a need and will not say we need to do it what we think about that time is what is the value of being dusted on that thing but most of the time you expect it as NEED TO BE DONE but we don't need to do it and its our nature we only want to do which have high rewards like buying things which benefits the house or materials and gifts and give you happiness but if you want a man to do it you have to tell him how much it makes you happy and appreciate him in every opportunity and say to him thank you when he does it first time without tearing him down, and if he cares about you he will start to do it but you have to be patient at the beginning then if it doesn't work you move on but this advice only to the men who were not raised to do those things from early age

[@gemstones2942]

Juri Jaric Of course every relationship is different. I’m sure your partner wouldn’t be complying about having to ask you to do housework, because she enjoys it as you’ve stated. But the examples in this video were women who were frustrated with their husbands for not doing any work. Clearly, these women aren’t comfortable being the only house caretakers, as they shouldn’t have to be. Unless one partner decides to take a certain responsibility for a set of tasks, the responsibility is split for negotiation for both the man and the woman to do their path. If both work, which nowadays tends to be the case, why is it unreasonable that a woman would want their husband to do their part in housework? It isn’t. I’m merely explaining the frustration of the women who were used as examples in this video - of course every relationship is different. These women evidently would rather they didn’t have to do all the housework themselves.

[@gemstones2942]

Hamdi khelifa You talk so objectively about women having a NEED that men don’t. You talk as if there’s no logic, rationality or productivity behind it. You really need me to explain to you why cleaning your house is necessary? It’s basic hygiene and maximises the house to be the most productive environment it can be. That has high rewards: you won’t be living in a dusty trash heap. As if women don’t also buy things?? Some sources find the women buy MORE things. Women don’t need men to buy things for them, they can buy things themselves, buying things isn’t tedious. Certainly not buying things that make one happy. However, the work it takes to maintain a house (work which is objectively necessary - not some irrational yet instinctual need that all women have) is hard work and I’m sorry to tell you that women don’t want to be left to complete it all on their own when it’s not only their house, but a house they share. Just as I’m sure men don’t want to be left alone in buying things and working to bring in the bread.

[@waldencounseling9873]

I think this guy is funny and I use 3 of his videos in my session work. AND...a little insight for him and anyone else who follows him; women want a partner and more specifically women want an adult partner. This translates to someone who looks around and sees tasks that need to be done, then takes charge and gets it done. Many times it feels like a larger boundary breaker when there are also children in the household; the response to have to ask an adult more than once, to have to be the only one looking around-seeing the chores/tasks/projects that are ahead of them -while raising children- in particular feels not like a partnership And I hear and agree that it feels like you have another child in the household: I didn't hear you, I don't WAAAAANNA do it, it is not important to MEEEEEE type self talk. Luckily all men are not childish like this. I have found certain parenting has helped avoid this unhelpful outcome and too interestingly and noticeably those who grew up on farms seem to have also learned to pitch in without being asked or asked more than once. Over and Out.

[@andrewashington5067]

we don't wanna do it either! Please, just do it the first time so we can do nothing together! Many hands make haste. -Mrs.Blaze

[@ShiaM]

God has given him great insight to women...wow

[@deborahstroman2987]

And men!

[@rachelmacdonald9195]

No, you want him to recognize that it's his job too!!! Do you think she wants to do it?!!!

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

so you make at least half of the money then? you are out there fixing the lawn mower half the time? you are doing the plumbing and electrical half the time? You are moving the heavy furniture half the time? you are going downstairs in the middle of the night to see what that noise was? You are putting together the kids toys at 2am on Christmas Eve? You are working overtime to pay for the kids braces? you are going to work, sick as a dog, because you have a deadline that can not be missed? Shuddup, you have it so easy. Just say thank you to your husband every now and then and stop trying to get him to do YOUR chores on top of everything he is already doing.

[@skyhigh7773]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 oh wow wow wow not every man does it and ask your self one question what would YOU do if you didin't heve HER around!

[@skyhigh7773]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 and btw don't you think a working woumen AFTER her work is tired ?!!?! And still heve to do all the washing and cooking and cleaning !?!?!? And if you don't think that *that* is importint then try to doit your self!!!

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

@@skyhigh7773 "what would YOU do if you didn't have her around" hahaha I would have twice the amount of MY money to spend on ME, that's what. Also, there is literally nothing my wife can do that I can not do. I'm a better cook, co do laundry, can clean the house better, make the money, do the taxes, etc. My wife does not work, so your comment about her being tired after work is not applicable. And most marriages where the man and woman both work, more often than not, the woman has a much easier job.

[@pisceanrat]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 someone's playing make believe he has a wife now sure lol! if by chance you swindled your way to landing some unlucky lady i'll bet youre the toxic type who will beat her up for not bringing you beer. Go back to the 16th century where you belong twat

[@whizkidliz]

This man's a genius!

[@swarnimad7051]

I love your speeches😎😎😎😎

[@itskarl7575]

Well... as a guy who feels like he's been exposed by this video... I can tell you that it's not that I don't remember what she's asked me if she asks just once. She asks, I say "sure, sure, sure". I'll do it later. Then I forget about it. At various points in the future I will remember, however: "didn't she ask me to do such-and-such?" But I figure, "meh, if it was important, she would have given me reminders. Maybe she forgot, I sure hope so."

[@michaelbonanno7476]

I agree with him on about 70% of the way. I can see Tim Allen doing his comedy bits and shows based on this guy - or the other way around.

[@AlexA-yw2kl]

Great Information. Gullable Public

[@ladybee9716]

My views on this is others can ask my husband to do something he puts it on his agenda like it's his duty, but when I ask him he more often than not says he forgot. I shouldn't have to beg him to do what needs to be done he doesn't have to even ask me most of the time because I do what needs to be done to keep this house functional. That makes me feel disrespected as his WIFE because if you forget what I ask you to do then forget everything that's expected of you. I'm not buying that analogy.😞

[@ummeyousuf7588]

Yes! If men need to be asked so many times, like little children, then they are bigger idiots than we think! They're adults, they need to man up and take responsibility! And putting the whole world before your wife is extremely insulting and unfair!

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

This is because many times a wife treats her husband like a personal assistant and constantly makes demands with little gratitude for what he does. You husband likely is willing to help others because they will actually show appreciation for his efforts. He likely no longer wants to "help" you because he knows it's never enough and he will never enjoy any reciprocation from you, never mind any gratitude......

[@shirin8609]

@@ummeyousuf7588 Well, it's important that there is both give and take in marriage. Yes, perhaps some men may appear to put "the whole world" before their wives-- and in some cases, they actually are doing so-- but more often, men are focusing on work outside the home to provide for their families. That is actually putting his family first. Men work hard, but they are not the servants of their wives. Wives must demonstrate compassion and understanding for their husbands if they wish for their husbands to respond well to requests regarding the home.

[@sunitafisher4758]

🌸 I don’t ask anyone I do things myself If I don’t know I google it lol 😂

[@donnamcdonald3709]

Same here. I do it myself or hire someone.

[@hardcore6471]

I'm constantly giving. Not sure what that take, take, take thing is about.

[@brezzainvernale]

Therefore! When I say: "So, in October I go visit my family..." He: "You could have told me!" and I: "I did more than once!" He:"...."

[@carinkacarinka5882]

Thanks

[@benn300]

Action reward system.... Everytime he does something good give him special treatment. That could be everyday

[@ilikeblackberries]

Haha xD Having someone sounds interesting! I will be more patient.

[@SFHFWill]

Pretty funny. Ironically in Hebrew the word for husband is the same as master. Also ironically, the word for wife is helper. Probably why men don't notice smaller tasks.

[@leedza]

My poor wife, only if she knew.

[@shirin8609]

lol show her the video! :)

[@abideinchrist6163]

This guy just got me laughing my lungs out.... Jesus Christ 😅😅😅😅🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@gautam88ify]

When women want to do something, they do it right away. Men don't even move on the first pulse.

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

if your statement were true, this video wouldn't exist because women wouldn't constantly be asking their men to do things that she was "doing right away" as you contend.

[@nataliesteinberg2286]

I asked my husband at least 50 times in a month to get rid of the charity clothing bags this was back in 2017.... It is now 2019... I am asking again now 130 times

[@benstr8156]

if it's been 2 yrs, why don't you do it?

[@nataliesteinberg2286]

@@benstr8156 I did it.... Plus I don't drive.... I lost my license due to street racing

[@benstr8156]

@@nataliesteinberg2286 lol. Good for you. Problem solved. Next..

[@nataliesteinberg2286]

@@benstr8156 really... You have nothing else to say.... Other then next problem.... Yes... Why is that when we are asked by our significant other to something and we don't right away it isbanfight right away.... Yet for men it can be months... That is ok... We get beat for not listening to men

[@benstr8156]

@@nataliesteinberg2286 you read my comment incorrectly.. "Good for you. Problem solved. Next.." I didn't write "Next problem". "next" was to mean, move on with life. Stop focusing on issues.

[@swapnilnarendra]

+Beth D and that is why I respect my wife so much !! :)

[@skyhigh7773]

Awww thats sweet 🤗

[@KGBos]

Who are you replying to?

[@see5840]

😁😁 Oh my God! It's so true!

[@geest0705]

All this time i thaught he’s a comedian🤣just realised he is a reverend

[@alicem3544]

If we split our responsibilities in the marriage from the beginning, so that everybody in the family know what they are in charge with (including kids), I think things would go a lot smoother, and we would not have to ask so many times.

[@antoineberkani9747]

Am i the only one who watches this guy just because he's hilarious and doesn't give a flying fuck about the perceived message behind it and gender debates? This feels more like standup than preaching to me.

[@qittfthegame6128]

The audience have the guiltiest woman I ever seen🤣🤣🤣😂

[@izuko9225]

it's called sharing the mental load

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

mental load?

[@pisceanrat]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 you wouldnt know coz youre a single lonely loser, twat!

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

@@pisceanrat "coz" is that new age cuntspelling?

[@patrickedgington5827]

As a man, I would say he got it half right. Men have a to-do list, and the way you get something done, is to be on that list. When and how you ask is what matters. Women do ask, over and over again, and do you know what men call that? This guy’s wife wife knew how to ask, to get what she wanted; she said you’re such a good husband. Respect matters to a man. That put her request at a high priority, so it got done. Even though it might have put a kink in his day. But the true success, would have been for her to get on the list without creating any problems for him, or needing to butter his corn? As a counselor, if I was seeing you, that’s what I would want you to be able to teach?

[@vedinthorn]

I'd love to be asked....at all. Instead i get told and asked nothing until shes so angry that I'm getting cursed at.

[@EdieBabeMonster]

Wait... I call cow pucky on multiple counts: first of all I know plenty of women including myself who actually do want to ask in the first place... see if I didn’t want to ask - ahem - I wouldn’t. Super simple right. Also modern women don’t give one iota what the motivation in his heart or anywhere else in or on his person is... motivation-schmotivation we just care that it gets done... again pretty basic but there is sweet subtle elegance to it which I appreciate while recognizing not everyone sees it. Thirdly... quick question... what? No seriously what are you even taking about? Why in h-e-double hockey sticks would I have treat my partner different than all the other people in my life... everyone from besties, blood relatives up to acquaintances and even strangers all respond questions, requests, inquiry on the first go unless hearing is obstructed. Conceptually this is easy to get ahold of so I can’t fathom why I would have to adopt a special double or possibly triple ask policy for the person closest to me... this seems very high maintenance at the least Besides which where else in life is this the case? Do they ask him many times at his work place or at anywhere else in his day to day experience out in the world? Ultimately I disagree with the notion that ladies should normalize having to repeat requests regularly. Also I wish to acknowledge that there are plenty of things we ladies do for our men daily and we don’t have to be asked at all much of the time so I personally choose refuse to engage in this odd mental grooming favouring instead to treat him like a person.. like a person capable of getting a request the first time it is uttered. Let’s see how it goes 😏

[@lindaray777]

but we don't want to do it either!!!!!!

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

But the husband doesn't want to go to work either, but he does it, because it is his job. If you don't work, then housework is YOUR job.

[@michellerlchristian1958]

I thought asking numerous times is nagging. I was taught not to nag. He expects me to do what he wants, the 1st time. Why not the same from him.

[@kyakukid1]

It's not about asking more than once that you will be labeled a nagging spouse. It's more in the sense of how you ask a man to do something for you. Noticed how he presented each woman in his skit. There was no love or encouragement or any honor and respect. 😎

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

why are you asking for anything in the first place? anything a man can do, a woman can do better, riiiiiiight?!?!?!?!!?! I love how contradictory you twats are.

[@drathontaldraconis1311]

if he is doing it. LET HIM.

[@artchem1]

Very interesting:)

[@goodflowh]

Oh some men are so clever they purpos ly would not do just to irritate.

[@lifesymphony2024]

Do we ask for a favour from a friend or even stranger more than once in order to get them to help us?? If we do that, it is pleading. If a friend or stranger can lend a helping hand when we ask them once or sometimes not even without asking, wouldn't we expect more from a husband whom we share our lives under the same roof??? I can give you a perfect TRUE example. Once i asked a favour from my EX HUSBAND to drive me and my mum to Ipoh to attend a function. My mum asked him too. He refused because his parents stopped him. Then, i asked a male collegemate for a favour. He drove all the way from his house about an hour, to pick up my mum and attended the function which was held 150kms away. Then, sent my mum home and went back to his house. It took him about 5 hours drive. That's when i thought myself, "Who is actually my husband??"

[@befrank4099]

that loser of a man only did that cause he thought u may put out to him .

[@celianeher7637]

I have been asking my husband for over 18 years to nail the skirting boards in place, I asked more than once . I ask at least once a week. Soooooo.

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

what is stopping YOU from doing it? Are you inept? Lazy? or just controlling and this has nothing to do with the task and everything to do with you hen-pecking your man? You can't figure out how to use a hammer? In 18 years you could have learned how to build a house. If it was really important to you, you would have taken care of it yourself. After about a year of marriage I realized my wife had no interest in getting better at cooking. You know what I did? I got on Google and started to learn how to cook. Now I am a great cook and don't have to rely on my wife for good food. I suggest you get off your ass and take matters into your own hands.

[@celianeher7637]

It is difficult to nail skirting boards with one hand.

[@celianeher7637]

And the next time think before you speak, or in the case write.

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

@@celianeher7637 in 18 years, you couldn't find ONE person to give you a hand? Another friend from your book club, perhaps? hahaha, you women are so horrible with your shitty excuses.................And I loved how you wrote that like you sure got me there...........dumb twat.

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

@@celianeher7637 BTW, I have installed skirting boards and you actually can do it by yourself. it just takes a little more effort because you have to have a ladder propping up one end of the board while you screw (I prefer screws over nails because it stays tight) in the other side, then you just move to the other side and screw that in, then get the middle area. See, if you put half the amount of effort into actually DOING something that you do into nagging your man, you could get some things done. nobody nags a person for 18 years unless they just enjoy being a bitch.

[@loganfoco1184]

Everyone is saying if they ask more than once they are called a nag. Could be the way you ask, could not be. But one solution to this problem could be a reward/punishment incentive attached to the request. “Honey if you take care of the laundry within the next ten minutes I’ll give you... hugs/kisses/cuddles/sex/watch his movie tonight/make him his favorite sandwich etc. if you don’t fail to do it, I’ll be upset and you won’t get (insert reward you picked) and instead, you have to listen to me complain about Karen from work for the 16th time this week.” That should work for me. Just allow a little room for a debate. Husband asks to do it in 15 minutes and you allow this if he is already in the middle of something. And then set a timer in front of him so he knows.

[@veronicaolivares9150]

Great!!!

[@veronicaolivares9150]

True!!!

[@mbyrd6713]

I respect what he's saying but if the kids or I behave that way, it's a problem. There needs to be improvements on both sides. He is correct, nevertheless, I don't ask my husband to do anything unnecessary or meaningless. He would not like it if the house was a mess but I should have to ask numerous times to get him to help maintain it. It's a very misleading concept.

[@mbyrd6713]

Ro Pi Well, we can't really say that. I don't really see where non-Christians are any more informative.

[@mbyrd6713]

Ro Pi There's no reason to shiver. The more I listen to Pastor Gungor's messages, the more I see that he has a lot of help information. There are some things that I'm not so sure about, but that's alright, it may be for someone else. Anyway, best wishes to you 😉

[@mbyrd6713]

@Ro Pi Oh no, I'm not saying that I expect my husband to do all the housekeeping. I was saying that we both have a role in taking care of the house and the family. When I ask my husband to do something that I need him to do, he usually just does it. By the same token, when he asks me to do something, I just do it. I just didn't see the logic in having to coerce him into doing something that we both know needs to be done. Pastor Gungor is speaking to women who cannot get their husbands to do tasks when they ask, so it doesn't really apply to me anyway. To me, it almost looks like nagging and I would not want to be seen as a nag. I'm sorry I did not clarify that for you. My hubby and I take good care of each other and our marriage is awesome.

[@idil59]

I ask my husband 10000..... to do something and he never does it!!!!

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

What is preventing YOU from doing it? I thought women can do anything a man can do. So why don't YOU do it?

[@idil59]

If I ask him to put his clothes in the washing and he doesn't do it, should I do it for him?! your comment is out subject, it's not about gender equality, it's marriage issues, you can't understand it if you are not married, and if you are and still commenting like this, it means you have problems with women!

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

@@idil59 it all depends. Are you a stay at home wife? and he works? If so, then yes, it is your job to do the laundry. Even if you work, if you two decided that you do the laundry, then you do the laundry. If your husband is responsible for mowing the lawn, does he ever get mad that you don't help him mow the lawn?? probably not, because he knows that is his job, not yours. I am married and DO understand that these days you women want your husband to do 100% of his duties AND 50% of YOUR duties. Pull your own weight in your marriage and stop complaining.

[@Tsitsi414]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 I can't believe you just said that! Seriously?!?!

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

@@Tsitsi414 what part of what I said do you disagree with? Do you think that a wife has ANY responsibility in a marriage? Or do you think she should just be eating pealed grapes while watching the Price is Right while the husband does everything?

[@Angie-GoneSoon]

I must be completely different from all the ladies he asked.. cause I ask more than once.. but, my husband starts saying I'm nagging, or bugging him.. He's got a new thing now.. now he calls me a slave driver!

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

what is preventing you from doing these tasks you are asking him to do?

[@pisceanrat]

I ask my husband at least a dozen times and most of the time he still wont do it and say he will do it later

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

why don't YOU do it?

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

I am guessing because you CAN'T do it

[@pisceanrat]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 way to go bud. You finally solved your own question after 8 months!

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

@@pisceanrat yup, just add it to the long list of shit you couldn't do and a man needed to step in and take care of it ; - )

[@pisceanrat]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 nice of you to assume it is a long list when i do almost everything. Assume all you want... i can tell you know nothing coz you are lonely. I can see from your bitterness NO woman would want you LOL.. enjoy your single blissfulness

[@jimh6813]

Is your hubby a lineman or work at auto body repair or a mechanic? Does he bring home the fried electricity transformers or smashed up cars or truck engines for you to repair? But yes, he sees your laundry basket you left in the middle of the floor. And he's wondering why you haven't put it away.

[@emargaretable]

This guy is very entertaining and makes all the petty quarrels we have everyday seem manageable if we could all just lighten up. But here's the thing: www.theguardian.com/world/2017/may/26/gender-wars-household-chores-comic

[@thomaslundgrenmogensen7174]

Wonder who gave thumbs down..

[@hofico6]

Sam Kinison’s milder twin???

[@alyce-kayruckelshaus1224]

It's because we're afraid we'll be called a nag if we ask more than once.

[@barbthornell4786]

But you have to really COMMIT to that strategy.

[@teresavalitzski6040]

I ask my husband multiple times and it usually comes back to me days or weeks and even months later . He'll ask me what did I want to do about it, and I'll say we went over this don't you remember? He'll say he doesn't remember a thing about but when I tell him the conversation then he'll remember. Same thing when I tell him about something that happened with me or someone else he'll only remember the first part of what I said. I know because I can come back days or weeks later to update him on what's going on and he'll tell me I never told him or that he doesn't remember me telling him anything except the first part. He swears I must have been talking to someone else. We live alone and he's the first person I usually tell anything to. So this we only tell them once and that we have to tell them multiple times is not always true. We've been married almost 40 years and he's always been this way. Even as a kid

[@angietaylor5256]

That would be nagging!!!!

[@gab31282]

I like these guys insights and teaching but it's awoken in me so much anger that I have toward my spouse.

[@claraandriessen8423]

Would you do something for me??? Pfff Do something for us!!1 First of all it's BOTH the men's and the women's job to do things around the house . The woman shouldn't have to ask at ALL. Who wants to have a partner that acts like a kid? Luckily nowadays many men are raised to know that things around the house are also their responsibility. The whole relationship gets better when you work like a team in that way.

[@kurbatska]

My mom never asked my dad twice....he just wanted to be asked....But if you want men to do something, you have to start it first, like mow the grass. Start from the easy part and then say: Oh honey, this part is so hard for me, you do it......Done. Otherwise, don't ask them anything, they will fuck it up anyway LOL

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

if they will "fuck it up anyway" why don't you just do it? And why did your mom marry a loser?

[@kathleenhannigan2487]

....and when you ask three times seven days apart each time....you are accused of being a NAG

[@MuzikAficionado]

Men need to be told several times to do a task because they are conditioned to believe that: 1. What women expect or demand is less important than men's own ideas and plans. 2. Women's wishes aren't and shouldn't be a priority in men's life. 3. It is a woman's job to listen to a man and do as asked as men are the boss. 4. It would be okay if men don't do what they are asked to as women would either do it themselves (like mum/sis used to do it for them) or there's no punishment for men for delaying the task with an excuse. 5. Household chores have been predominantly women's demain, so globally men take time to come around and share the responsibilities at home.

[@vickigriffin]

I was repeatedly labeled a nag, anytime I asked him to do anything.

[@befrank4099]

u wouldn't have been called that if u combined it with abit of head..

[@onlyonefaith6356]

the reason women gee mad about asking him 5:38

[@tashawheaton4235]

If you ask too much though you’re “Nagging” and all women hate to be called nags, so I’d rather just do it!

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

bingo! the reason why men never get called nags is because if they really want something done, they fucking just do it themselves. Women in general can not get that concept. If a man wants the car washed, he just washes the car. If a woman wants the house clean, she nags her husband. Hell, my wife is not a great cook and after a couple years of not getting any better, I just started cooking for myself. If your man is not doing what you want done, roll up your sleeves and be a big girl and git-er-done

[@gemstones2942]

Nick DipaoloFan See, that becomes different when you involve a household. There are certain jobs that aren’t desired to be done, that just NEED to be done. And it’s a basic aspect of human responsibility and maturity, to understand what needs to be done to maintain a home. That job should be split between partners. That’s a job for both, not through desire, but through obligation. It isn’t fair for a man to leave the job undone just because he doesn’t want to do it. Do you think women want to do it? No. Women understand that it just NEEDS to be done. That’s all. And a man who won’t understand that isn’t a man. He is a boy.

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

And a woman who refuses to do it is not a woman, she is a little girl.... see, I can emotionally manipulate you too....

[@pisceanrat]

@@nickdipaolofan5948 hahaha whoever your make-believe wife is i greatly pity her. Imagine being nagged all day long by a caveman bigot "karen bring me the beer" "karen bring my slippers im tired working all day" yada yada yada ill bet ya she left your sorry a$$ long time ago

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

@@pisceanrat I wonder how much peanut butter you make your dog lick off of horrible places. yuck, that poor dog.

[@enolastraight577]

Women need to stop asking what they want done and start TELLING men doing so will FIX the problem...men will fall all over themselves to get it done, then!