Ask Nick - Homewrecking For The Holidays | The Viall Files w/ Nick Viall

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Nick Viall

Күн бұрын

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@cblynn8295 Ай бұрын

Caller 1 is going to unblock him as soon as she hangs up with Nick lol

@andreegodbout868 Ай бұрын

100%

@Alyssa-ye2co Ай бұрын

She’s giving desperate energy. Pick me energy.

@Stormy575 Ай бұрын

💯

@vickinathan8777 Ай бұрын

She is not going to walk away from this guy!!!

@azii2973 Ай бұрын

She was incredibly frustrating to listen to

@eliskacharlottew.2408 Ай бұрын

The first caller is the worst. She admits she is constantly the "other woman" and she isn't ashamed?? The day her actual boyfriend or husband cheats on her will be a freaking slap in the face, and you know, maybe she deserves it

@aaliax521 Ай бұрын

She 100% will deserve it When she said “it just more fun” to talk to someone unavailable I was thinking what absolute trash She then starts to cry as if we will feel bad. I am sorry we only feel bad for the guys gf

@shelbysailer8730 Ай бұрын

First call is the most frustrating call I’ve ever heard on this podcast. It’s “rude” to block him?? Hasn’t it been rude of him to cheat on his girlfriend and lead you on?? I lost brain cells on that one

@juliaguiney856 Ай бұрын

This!!!

@lex-mu2kf Ай бұрын

caller 1 is unbelievably insufferable. I actually cannot tell if she’s an awful person or if she needs intense psychological help. the way she was yelling to talk over Nick was insane… why did she call him to yell when she should be listening to his advice? acting like that at 36 is insane behavior, and I cannot wait until karma hits her life like a ton of bricks.

@azii2973 Ай бұрын

She needs intense psychological help because she’s an awful person

@sandygallo7510 Ай бұрын

first caller also needs extensive therapy. 36 years old acting like a teenager aint it. Have some pride and self-respect girl. yes it gonna be hard to cut him off, but its for your own good. this is for YOUR OWN self development.

@Luckygingerslots Ай бұрын

I feel like the 1st caller is lying, she knows he’s married. She just doesn’t want to look bad. She is the worst kind of friend.

@seven92023 Ай бұрын

She already looks bad enough by the story she told.

@mmeshke Ай бұрын

Caller 1 = ultimate pick me girl

@Olive_1190 Ай бұрын

So insecure she needs to only go after taken men. That’s an evil person

@seven92023 Ай бұрын

Men don't pick damaged women like her. Hence why she is in this situation at 36.

@kaylapaige7458 Ай бұрын

Caller number 1: He doesn’t cheat with better, he cheats with easier. He feels he can play you, and you’re letting him. He isn’t leaving his girlfriend because he wants her more. It’s also sad to hear her say that she’s jealous essentially. Meanwhile she’s getting with someone else’s boyfriend.

@ryandickinson2905 Ай бұрын

My favorite quote, "It's tough." "Well, it's not that tough."

@marla-singer Ай бұрын

Right! It was at moment this caller became insufferable for me.

@zacbranch2083 Ай бұрын

Cheaters and people that knowingly cheat with cheaters don't deserve the time of day.

@AndreeaAnghel-c9r Ай бұрын

Oh my god I ended up shouting on multiple occasions during the first call. 😅🤦‍♀️

@MiaM-i3v Ай бұрын

😂

@Queenb1148 Ай бұрын

Right she is the worst

@catherineritch6241 Ай бұрын

No kidding

@Alyssa-ye2co Ай бұрын

Me too! She’s an idiot

@azii2973 Ай бұрын

SAME

@lizchristina90 Ай бұрын

I actually like the longer calls. It’s like a live therapy session. The best part of Ask Nick is getting into the minds of the callers and I think more time lets you do that better! Just to let the team at Viall Files know that not all of us dislike longer calls :) Also, caller 3’s boyfriend said he literally doesn’t see the point of talking about things unless there’s an argument? I’m not surprised since he’s very young, but this is not an indicator of a healthy relationship

@jennyonthecoast Ай бұрын

It makes you wonder what the first caller's home life was like. I can't imagine raising a daughter who acts this way.

@Stormy575 Ай бұрын

Caller 2--when someone says they've tried everything, it means they haven't tried anything 😄

@MeganWilliams-o3d Ай бұрын

I don't want to spread hate. caller #1, if you want to share a life with someone, please let this behavior go. repent in hope karma doesn't really get you bad (not in a god repent way, but in a way where you acknowledge this behavior yourself, send love to the girl you are hurting, and have a good cry of letting go and telling yourself you won't engage in that behavior again), and try to find a new way of having healthier relationships. we all deserve love

@KayleeMcClure-sn8kr Ай бұрын

"Youre too old to be doing this shit" so good.

@jillianphoenix3270 Ай бұрын

Caller #3, I absolutely relate to her. I dated a guy for 4 years who sounds just like her boyfriend. The one example that really resonated with me was her moving across the country to be with him, and he barely showed up for her during the move, not emotionally with excitement and support, and not physically with help or food or showing her around town. That is 100% NOT someone who loves you and is excited to be with you. And I’m sorry, you shouldn’t need to tell your partner that those are your expectations, you should feel that your partner loves you and wants to make you happy. I don’t think her expectations are too high at all, I don’t think he cares that much about her, and she should definitely move on. (PS, a week after finally breaking it off with my bf of 4 years, I met my now-husband who’s the most supportive, most generous, most loving human and husband and dad to our babies ever. And I look back and thank god I didn’t even up with my ex. Girl, you deserve better!!)

@juliaguiney856 Ай бұрын

I feel so bad for the second caller she is dealing with tons of insecurity and pain and all Nick is saying is “do something about it” not helpful what so ever for someone who is clearly struggling with this.

@kaylapaige7458 Ай бұрын

I agree and disagree, it’s very clear she has something deep going on, not something that can come from someone without proper training. He knew that his best recommendation was therapy. He did give her good insight with his comments of “he chooses you every day”

@Queenb1148 Ай бұрын

The homewrecker needs counseling bad!!! She is insecure and has to try and be a “winner” by getting with married men!!! Horrible human!!! Gives women a bad name and I hope she only finds men that cheat on her!!!

@Luciekayb Ай бұрын

Caller 3 should end it. I feel like Nick was kinda blaming her for having too high of expectations but it sounds like she is communicating her needs and he isn’t stepping up

@jillianphoenix3270 Ай бұрын

I feel the exact same way. He sounds like he’s doing the bare minimum, she should definitely move on!

@Jay35556 Ай бұрын

Yeah, I don’t understand why Nick sometimes excuses the bad behavior of men and tells women to accept it.

@ufash7 Ай бұрын

I think Nicks point was this is his first girlfriend, he is young, you cannot just expect stuff and should instead communicate expectations. Nick wasn’t defending but expecting a lot from a 23 year old without communicating said expectations is the issue.

@Jay35556 Ай бұрын

@@ufash7 Right, but it’s not a woman’s job to teach a man how to do the bare minimum in a relationship.

@jl85_16 Ай бұрын

Sorry but caller 3 should end the relationship. As a 39 year old I remember my relationship in my early 20s being just like this. I wish now I hadn’t wasted so much time trying to make things work with someone who looked good on paper but we had no compatibility to make a long term relationship work.

@a-j4g6z Ай бұрын

Caller 1: no one is gonna save you but YOU.

@sandygallo7510 Ай бұрын

There should be a 30 min cap per caller or we lose interest

@Ryanh1010 Ай бұрын

Especially when it goes for 40 mins plus and he literally says the same thing over and over before the callers get it😂

@PaigeHigginsVlogs Ай бұрын

The longer the better for me. This is how I get through my 9-5 😅

@sandygallo7510 Ай бұрын

@@PaigeHigginsVlogsoh I do too lol but I feel like he could have more time for an additional caller vs the hour long same person just repeating the same thing. I ended up actually focusing on my work and forgetting what I was even listening to towards the end lmao

@PaigeHigginsVlogs Ай бұрын

@ 😂😂

@candy07831 Ай бұрын

These calls go on WAY too long. First caller was almost a full hour

@mmeshke Ай бұрын

I agree. Should be no more than 30 min. It gets so repetitive.

@kaylinschwartz4321 Ай бұрын

I personally like the long calls especially since this podcast is something I clean too but I get it's not the same thing for everyone and that's okay.@@mmeshke

@mmeshke Ай бұрын

@@kaylinschwartz4321 I just think it’s obvious when people (like caller 1) call in mostly to listen to themselves talk. He gave her the answer by 42 min in. The rest is just repetitive cause she didn’t hear what she wanted hear. I like a long pod, just not a repetitive one. :)

@kaylinschwartz4321 Ай бұрын

@@mmeshke Ahh, gotcha. That makes sense!

@trlyng1 Ай бұрын

I agree. I fast-forwarded to yet another painfully long call, so I’m going to listen to my other podcasts instead.

@Lizaw4022 Ай бұрын

The first caller is not going to listen to any of your advice Nick I’m so sorry you wasted your time with her 😂

@ms_trial Ай бұрын

Caller 1 leads us all to believe she has nothing to bring to the table in a healthy mature relationship. Pouting about an affair and chasing after married men in your late 30s?! Girl, get a new hobby. I promise you life will get better after you stop being so selfish. You attract what you give, and right now that's a bunch of garbage.

@hannahadams1207 Ай бұрын

Caller number 1, stop romanticizing being the other woman. Simple. Grow up

@aluvstorie Ай бұрын

Caller #1 is ridiculously immature for 36 and needs a reality check. I hope she reads these messages and really talks to her therapist about all of her issues. My biggest observation - she says she has a pattern of going after unavailable men to seek validation. What validation are you getting by always being not picked??? That is completely contradictory… you get no validation/the opposite of validation by always not being picked over the girlfriend?

@christinestreit9535 Ай бұрын

My guess is her "validation" comes from the person risking their LTR to be with her and/or spend time with her. Totally twisted.

@hannahadams1207 Ай бұрын

Caller number one is what’s wrong with the world

@Alyssa-ye2co Ай бұрын

Caller 3! I went through the same situation. Me and my ex were perfect on paper. Both good people and we got along. Never fought. We weren’t toxic BUT eventually I noticed him drawing away from me. And I also would ask him to compliment me more tell me he loves me more. He wouldn’t change and unfortunately I stayed and he ended things which I’m glad he made the move to breakup bc I’m an anxious attachment dater and struggle with letting go even when I know it’s time. But trust me, he doesn’t love you the same way you love him. Move on. Find someone who loves you and on the hard days he choses to love you. Someone who loves you when it’s inconvenient and when it’s convenient. It’s hard to grasp he doesn’t love you but eventually you will move on. You’re 24 which is beyond young. You have years to afford to start over and move on.

@swtdi40 Ай бұрын

I love that you get into this and support these women while.they block these guys and hype them up

@bchapman8989 Ай бұрын

I don't think caller #1 wanted to listen to Nick's advice.

@k_marieeeee Ай бұрын

first caller was absolutely infuriating my god, she’s chosen her path in life clearly. good luck with that

@kaleacceeladd7511 Ай бұрын

Wasted wayyyyy too long with caller 1- we’re bored

@acd1168 Ай бұрын

I hate those kinds of calls. For real

@cicihaskill Ай бұрын

She just was not getting it she’s not going to change a thing then wonder why she’s still single 10 years from now

@SarahJoy2010 Ай бұрын

I was doing that shit at 40 and that’s when I stopped dating. Knew I needed to continue to work hard on myself before I could date again. Just now, over 2 years later, starting to consider dating. I hope you helped her. I really do.

@SarahJoy2010 Ай бұрын

53:16 my comment to this time

@kristabelle43 Ай бұрын

(Caller 1) I wish I was there to chime in but the one thing no one mentioned is, this guy is in a relationship, but he isn’t married..if he was truly interested in the caller he would chose to be with her. It’s not like he is “stuck” in a marriage with other factors complicating the situation. To me it’s clear she is the side piece and will stay that way as long as she allows it 💯

@chronicallybriana Ай бұрын

Sorry, but this episode was kind of a snooze 💤

@acd1168 Ай бұрын

Some of them are like that 😫

@kaylapaige7458 Ай бұрын

Caller #3: Sadly some things are learned with age and experience. My significant other and I have very different love languages. Things that I think come naturally, aren’t the same. He has to be very intentional with certain things, and I have to be understanding that he actively shows he cares every day in his own ways.

@aluvstorie Ай бұрын

Caller #3 sounds wise and mature beyond her age, yet exactly 24… and I mean this in a good way. Obviously she is very self disciplined, intelligent, hard working - and has had certain life experiences that has led to her maturity. However, Nick was on point about things that you really care about vs. things that you have an opinion about. Whether or not you leave your boyfriend, don’t let it be because of conversations that you test him with. These seem to fall in the category of things you’ve done abundant research on and have a strong, educated opinion about… whereas they’re new topics for him and he’s just responding based on first thought/instinct. Your boyfriend doesn’t have to be the person that you have these types of deep and thoughtful conversations with… two people could have different interests and still be good partners. Now, if you testing him is a reaction from general day-to-day dissatisfaction, that is a totally different story. But Nick was right about something. He’s 23, you guys have a lot of growing up to do together. You sound wise beyond your years because unfortunately, you had to grow up quickly. But he didn’t. If you guys do break up, which is totally your right to do so, just know that most guys your age will probably need the same growing up.

@stack.attack27 Ай бұрын

Over an hour on one call that only needed to last at most 20 min is ridiculous

@InMy1987Era Ай бұрын

Caller one… baby girl know your worth! Truly and authentically know your worth. Once you do that… you won’t need validation from others. I agree with Nick… doing this shows your character. Truly this guy doesn’t care about you or his GF by the way he’s acting.

@Stormy575 Ай бұрын

Wayyy too much intellectualizing on that first call. She needs to get out of her head and into her emotions. Get angry! You're letting this man treat you like a doormat.

@claudiapawlak6894 Ай бұрын

Your lifestyle makes you available in a relationship. How do you get yourself in these situations or out of a situation. The ego in him having two women is high. It's enough to look else where , in your ancestors . If you are stereotyped to be that kind of person, change your ways ! This sympathetic talk is a way to get yourself out of a relationship . Play & Play until you realize reality . Play it out , till the end ! Because she or he is a not really . Love is not jealousy . Why are you trying to make yourself who you are not. Needs & wants are more important than a couple .

@ruthdahl5551 Ай бұрын

Both of these callers make women look so insecure and manipulative. Man! Nick how do you listen to this drama and drivel.

@Ryanh1010 Ай бұрын

This first call went on wayyy too long, woof. She admitted to being a pick me and zero chance she blocks this guy or leaves him blocked.

@bchapman8989 Ай бұрын

Question: Nick how do you vet these callers? Ie. How can you tell they are real stories/situations vs. Trying to just be on your show and trying to buy as much of your time as possible? A real question 🤔

@Megan-1234 20 күн бұрын

The first girl saying he’s not respecting her. Lol. She’s not respecting herself! And he’s not respecting his actual partner!! She thinks he’s going to respect HER?? You’re not special. You’re not going to change the him. He’s not going to choose you. Go find some self-respect and quit getting in relationships of any kind with taken men! It’s not a coincidence you keep doing it! Edit: ok so Nick said all the same things lol. I think this girl needs to think that she’s the best. I’m better than her ‘cause he chose me. I’m going to flirt w the popular girls boyfriend because that meows me better than her. No one cares if you’re better than anyone. It only matters to you. And it’s only Tori’s opinion that you’re better than anyone else. Just because a man is giving you attention, definitely does not mean that you’re better. Just easier.