I'm not going to change... | 1 hour of AITA

I'm not going to change... | 1 hour of AITA
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[@retruecano]

AITA is full of interesting stories, but when the poster is in fact TA, it gets 10 times better

[@Jcktmn]

But it is so much better if it moreso focuses on nta

[@hadeskingoftheunderworld7010]

I prefer NTA stories, but TA stories are quite entertaining to read the comments of

[@venus4724]

TA stories are entertaining to read because they'll be making up excuses and defending themselves every single line. It's so stupid that at a certain point you can't help but smile.

[@rizzly_bear_420]

timestamp? i don’t have the attention span 💀

[@saviorself1164]

YES! I love the TA replies. They pull no punches

[@Pachitaro]

Every ESH is like: "They did spit on you and throw your car into the lake _but_ you shouldn't have yelled at them"

[@beta_fishh529]

Exactly sometimes the commenters are stupid, like there was this one post where OP was at his own graduation dinenr, and everyone was talking about his sister instead. Instead of the obvious NTA, OP was apparently an insecure asshole

[@zashgekido5616]

ESH really does boil down to "You were wronged, but I don't like you" a lot

[@Boundwithflame23]

If you don’t stand up for yourself you’re called a doormat and told you should stand up for yourself. When you do stand up for yourself and come back with the same energy you’re given it’s “ESH. They shouldn’t have done/said that but you should be the bigger person” but in this context “be the bigger person” means “lie down and take the abuse” So which is it, Reddit? Do we stand up for ourselves or do we just let people be aholes to us? Pick a damn lane.

[@venus4724]

ESH most of the time is basically just telling the op to stfu and let themselves get bullied/abused/walked all over. "You shouldn't have...' nah. I'm being as petty as I want once I've given ample warning.

[@catpoke9557]

You reap what you sow. I think it's absurd that you're considered a jerk for being rude back at someone. Don't want to get yelled at? Don't yell at people. I am NOT gonna be the bigger person. The person who was rude to start with should've been the bigger person by NOT BEING RUDE. If you don't want to be the bigger person, then don't expect the other person to do it for you. Frick off Reddit.

[@rorimoore13]

For the swimsuit one, that gift was actually kind of dangerous. If she'd gone into a public pool, and kids happened to be there when the swimsuit started going see through, I'm pretty sure she could have landed some " Public Indecency" charges and possibly get even worse charges thrown at her. Im not a lawyer but it feels like that gift had the potential to have gone really badly.

[@Ambipie]

Depends on the laws and how it's prosecuted. In most places people accept that you go to a pool your little kid is probably gonna see the discovery channel and "mommy what's that" can't be answered with "oh nothing"

[@blehchu2839]

@@Ambipie That and wherever they live. Like here in the US it depends on the state and the subsection of each law.

[@HankJWimbledonNevada]

Me realising that they don’t know that NAH=No a**holes here lol.

[@Aloe002]

Huh I didn't know that either lol

[@sixteenhundredrats]

​@@Aloe002me neither.

[@Ÿūræįį]

I never knew that, I just thought that people said NTA differently

[@SomeIceGuy]

4:19 knew. He said “NAH. ESH if you squint” then proceeded to say that OP’s friend’s joke was just as harmless as hers.

[@ginabell694]

He asked her to stop walking into his room without knocking. Therefore he did try to get it to stop happening like an adult. She decided to not listen. He was asleep in HIS room woth the door closed. He wasn't exposing himself to her. She exposed herself when she walked into someones closed bedroom w/o knocking after she had been told not to.

[@Panteni87]

​@@tytoalba605and starting sleep under the covers isn't a guarantee that someone wakes up like that, especially on warm nights. This could have happened accidentally at any moment.

[@Actually_Zahren]

A fun game I like to play is "Reverse the genders" to show just how far Reddit will bend over backwards to make a guy the AH A girl lives with her best friend who has a boyfriend. Boyfriend is an ok guy, but has a bad habit of bursting into her room without knocking. She asks him to stop saying that she might not be decent, but he continues to do it anyway. So she sets up a scenario where he would burst in on her while she's not decent and the inevitable happens. Is OP still the AH?

[@vapx0075]

ikr, wth! Talk to the BF? What is he, her leash holder? She's walking in on him, that's a her/him thing.

[@ginabell694]

@@vapx0075 like would she even stop if the bf got involved anyway?

[@RRW359]

@@Actually_Zahren Even worse, imagine if she asked him what would happen if he saw her naked and his response was basically "well I haven't so it's fine". Not only would Reddit vote OP NTA but they would tell them to move the heck out of there.

[@beta_fishh529]

So basically you're telling me the OP in the sleeping naked story isnt allowed to sleep naked in his OWN bed? OP is so obviously NTA and everyone saying ESH is insane

[@hadeskingoftheunderworld7010]

And he CLEARLY already talked to them about it, Warned them that it was a possibility, and SHE STILL WENT IN. The people saying that ESH is being stupid

[@venus4724]

Saw another comment talking about it. Basically just "yes they tried to murder you BUT you shouldn't have stabbed them and waited to call 911 "

[@catpoke9557]

My dad does this. I sleep (mostly) naked and for some reason just the thought of this makes my dad upset and he always tells me to stop. He's the only one in my family who thinks this way. I never listen to him lol Like do people not realize that human beings are naked sometimes?? Nobody is in clothes 24/7. They WILL take their clothes off sometimes. I don't even sleep fully naked. I wear my underwear when I'm sleeping, to keep the bed clean. But I'm not opposed to people sleeping fully naked, either. It's their choice.

[@mothergoose9383]

@@catpoke9557 I will never understand people who won't knock and WAIT. Everyone deserves privacy.

[@nomi66]

OP is NTA. He's spoken to his friend, his friend didn't make sure his gf understood the rules fully and she walked into HIS ROOM without knocking. Sorry but if you're in someone elses home, you respect the house rules. OP deserves his privacy fully.

[@LPSgirl00]

For the first one, I think the parents should get their daughter checked for OCD. My friend has OCD that presents like that, where she's obsessed with contamination and has to disinfect things and keep things seperate in the kitchen, and it's gotten to the point she can't cook chicken in her house for fear of salmonella. I have OCD myself, too, and it would've been really great to have gotten treatment for it way earlier in life.

[@rory_john14]

Exactly what I was going to say! I have OCD too, and I used to really struggle with contamination. It was never meat-related for me, but I was unable to share cutlery and crockery with others, meaning I had to have my own set at home and was unable to eat out at restaurants for months. I couldn't eat food made for me by family or friends because I was paranoid that they'd spit in it or not wash their hands, even if they promised otherwise. And I had a phase before that when I was unable to eat anywhere without a 5-star hygiene rating. This was all between the ages of 13-15, so those symptoms are definitely possible at OP's daughter's age.

[@feistsorcerer2251]

They also should make sure she isn't developing orthorexia (which is the eating disorder that often goes hand in hand with OCD). Vegan is one thing but her obsession with contamination really does make me think there could be more going on.

[@Realizes-that]

Over cum disorder?!?!?!?

[@avashnea]

@@feistsorcerer2251 Veganism IS an ED.

[@privateuser3726]

It's probably the veganism that's making her insane, same thing happened with my brother and his wife when they became vegans they went completely insane

[@ResidentMilf]

So Mandy thinks it's a funny joke for people to see OP's boobs, unless it's Mandy's boyfriend? 🤣

[@HKona7]

We’ll see how funny it is when Mandy gets naked In Front of OPs boyfriend

[@tatkkyo9911]

​@@HKona7there nothing fun about looking at a turd

[@jakejanssen4319]

@@HKona7 lol if you couldn’t see another woman naked without being tempted to cheat, go to horny jail

[@Ambipie]

Regarding periods. If the dad or the older brother is more trusted with the period than the mom or the older sister, that means the mom or the older sister isn't very approachable. The arm the kid tugs on at age 10 is always the arm that holds them.

[@Blackcivicsi1]

So what if he wanted her to see him naked to make a point? He told her multiple times. Why should he be made to talk to the bf about it? From my understanding its his fing room. Not a shared room. HIS. Having to get approval to be naked in YOUR room because she might walk in while violating your rights to privacy after ypu already talked to her about it is just fing crazy. Wtf also, talking to the bf is just insulting to her. Shes an fing adult.

[@kellharris2491]

I would be talking to the landlord about this.

[@RRW359]

11:40 If invading someone's privacy regardless of intention is wrong why don't the same rules apply to what you do/don't wear in your own room? What's the worst that could happen to her from seeing him naked and if the genders were flipped would it still be ESH?

[@hadeskingoftheunderworld7010]

Yeah fuck the guy who said ESH, it's his God damn room and this chick needs to learn to respect privacy. What if someone is changing, just naked, masturbating, like come on man don't walk in on people without knocking, that's how you see stuff you don't want to see

[@multibomble]

Yes. And if it was reversed, depending on who told who could lead to the person walking in getting framed as a pervert for the rest of their life.

[@RRW359]

@@multibomble You mean yes it's still ESH if reversed? The person walking in would be considered a perv wheather the other got naked or not.

[@venus4724]

It's not ESH at all! He warned her multiple times and she laughed it off as if it was a joke...deserved. she was the one to blame in this situation

[@multibomble]

@venus4724 There are much better ways to make it clear you're serious than exposing yourself in front of her like that.

[@Clownish.mp4]

12:44 okay but as a 12 year old (boy but nonetheless) im so glad op told gf that, nothing makes me more angry than insulting someones weight, i mean one time i was sobbing at my grandmothers house because i didn't want to be there due to her insulting my weight my whole life :/

[@Shadowman2001]

As a fellow 12year old I 200% agree. Also why is no one talking about how the friends have the audacity to defend the gf like damn dude how biased and insane do you have to be to defend that shit? I think that the gf and the friends have their heads so far up her ass that their faces are smothered in her own shit.

[@atomicfallout67minis]

The clown horn gets kinda annoying after awhile

[@Smilawhil]

Extremely!

[@byakurenbreak]

You know what’s also annoying? Demontezation Nah but for real I do agree about the clown horn

[@jrumans]

Barely making it through 3 stories. Use a different word. That horn is obnoxious af

[@TheCaptainFatBelly]

So it's true. Clowns hate that sound

[@mothergoose9383]

It's bad enough when others use the word "babysitting" for a father caring for his own children, but when a father uses it to describe watching his own kids? Un-friggin-believable.

[@Snakeofwrath]

omg im so sick of cheaters saying they "made a mistake." CHEATING ISN'T A MISTAKE IT'S FULLY INTENTIONAL! Cheaters know full well they're hurting their partners. And that "I was in a dark place" excuse REALLY pisses me off! Like what, you were going through some mental health issues so you decide you're gonna cheat on your wife and the mother of your children?? OP was totally making excuses for cheating which was really unnecessary considering how that wasn't even what the aita question was about! Like you can say you cheated without justifying why you did so, good god...

[@Musicalsfangirl]

I've always said you don't just sneeze and end up in someone's vagina. You're absolutely right, cheating isn't just ONE mistake, it's a SERIES OF THEM. You CHOSE to talk sexually with them. You CHOSE to take your clothes off. You CHOSE to put your penis inside them repeatedly until you come. Stepping on someone's toe is a mistake. Stomping repeatedly on their foot is deliberate, just like cheating

[@leomassafm160]

As the saying goes: cheaters never prosper.

[@Rmsdxdkskxelfm]

They fell down and slipped frfr

[@timewithjackson3975]

16:16 as soon as i heard "she compared me to her" i knew this was gonna be yet another emotional incest story

[@DPWFG]

My old supervisor tried to get me fired after my best friend (to the point that we were considered platonic life partners) unalived herself. I found my mom in the middle of an attempt when I was 10 and my uncle unalived himself when I was 18, so it effected me heavily. Luckily, I was part of a union at that job and the union told my supervisor to stop harassing me or they would go to HR

[@NellaJade]

I’m so sorry to hear you had to go through all of that. May they rest in peace, and always remember you’re super brave and it wasn’t your fault ❤

[@bestie_bubble]

Thank you SO MUCH for reverting the parkour. this is so much more relaxing.

[@LxstLxrde]

The father telling his son that his girlfriend did the right thing for breaking up with him, through me for a loop before I listen to the whole thing.🤣

[@jazzerzzz22]

First story- dad clearly loves his daughter, my dad wasn't happy when I was pregnant out of wedlock, but every single craving I had that man would have it in the kitchen the next day if not same day, and even stopped making kielbasa till after my pregnancy, but I certainly never ASKED him too.. I had moved home, pregnant, i didn't have an allergy to the food, it was just my pregnancy.. This dad has done so much to go along with a choice that his daughter will probably abandon before she's 20.

[@moonstruck8245]

I tried going vegetarian once as a teenager. Lasted about ten minutes. She'll get bored and stop soon.

[@hadeskingoftheunderworld7010]

​@@moonstruck8245 let's not give the daughter such little credit. We don't know her or her level of commitment, she's certainly out of line asking for everyone in the house to stop eating meat but she may be fully committed to this idea especially with the way her parents are supporting her, when my older sister had a vegetarian Phase it lasted a few months but my family constantly teased her about it instead of supporting her, though my dad did make more vegetarian options

[@sxilormxrs]

Am I the only one who thinks that the the theater one isn’t an asshole. Who cares if she humiliated her at a party she knew he had a bf and was actively trying to get with him even tho she knew. She kind of deserved it. OP is better than me tho cuz she waited lmao I would of said something earlier

[@shizzle602]

I love the old format, thank you so much to the wonderful people at Emkay 🥰

[@tututoller]

I'm sorry, but I am pretty sure this is a *compilation* of old AITA, and not new videos, thus the old format.

[@shizzle602]

@@tututoller oh ok, thanks for the info

[@_leaf-3525]

for the one with the trans boy at a wedding- even for cis people, this is obviously bad. but as a trans person i have to say that getting deadnamed is one of the worst feelings i know. it's so blatantly disrespectful and I've felt horrible for literal days after being deadnamed. that kid probably does not feel positively about his aunt now

[@diamondpelel6291]

⁠@@rizzly_bear_420you’re being obtuse. They’re obviously not talking about people doing it accidentally, so your advice comes off as condescending

[@mothergoose9383]

@@rizzly_bear_420 Please don't make excuses for cruel and sick people.

[@HKona7]

@@mothergoose9383biology doesn’t lie. Men are men , women are women (.) go cry about it

[@Wodanazz]

Your parents will use your real name on your gravestone

[@Yamadekere]

The woman very simply wanted mentally stable people at her wedding. I see no problem with this

[@pacattack2586]

The constant clown noices are super annoying - I'd rather it just be silent or at least not this...

[@azazellon]

I know. Bleep it out or censor it completely.

[@paigemosher8697]

Then mute the video. There, problem solved. Don't give unsolicited advice on how to make content when there's no problem to "solve".

[@pacattack2586]

@@paigemosher8697 Oh yes - mute the video when the whole point is someone is reading something to you... that makes *perfect* sense...

[@TheCaptainFatBelly]

​@@pacattack2586or just ignore it. Or don't watch the video. Simple

[@Jjj-wm6ur]

⁠​⁠@@TheCaptainFatBellyyour allowed to give critiques . Plenty of ppl give advice to better suit viewers wants. They don’t have to follow them. But we’re allowed to have an opinion.

[@SteelAtomic]

for the first one, NTA. You get to eat what you want lmao and js cuz yo daughter stopped eating meat doesnt mean she can force others to do the same

[@The-one-and-only-Fruitcake]

My thoughts exactly If I were her parent, I probably wouldn’t have even bought her the pans. I’d give her a list of chores and give her money for them so she can work for and buy separate pans if it bothers her that much

[@masterridley8593]

This seems to be recurring theme these days. Bit odd to me, but makes for some decent reddit fodder, at least.

[@katie17330]

I agree as someone with a food intolerance (not an allergy, but awful symptoms for weeks). I lived with roommates for years sharing a kitchen. It required me to communicate and ask for small accommodations, but it would not have been appropriate or reasonable to demand they stop eating their regular foods.

[@artemis754]

me and my best friend (they are vegan) made a deal bc we are planning to live together, they said; "I personally don't eat meat, but I know you do. I won't prepare meat for you, so if you do want it you will have to do it yourself." which i think is completely reasonable. op is NTA for cooking his food in his kitchen in his house. his daughter can't expect her parents just give up their kitchen and no longer prepare meat, just because she doesn't eat meat anymore.

[@venus4724]

​@@The-one-and-only-FruitcakeMm I don't think what op did was wrong... it's better to support your kids. I guess if that works for you.

[@westvirginiascoolestcanadian]

i’m an avid meat eater but i sympathize with the first one’s daughter so hard. i’m so picky and get so grossed out by things being “contaminated” and no one seems to understand why. but i have to adapt to the world around me and so does she.

[@michaelplunkett8059]

Wife has no problem making everyone else uncomfortable in the kitchen Why is daughter the sacred cow? Her fads and obsessions are her own. Stop the little dictator.

[@MisaMisaIsOnTop]

God on you for realizing you have to adapt

[@susannadanner906]

Hope you don't mind me asking - what could POSSIBLY be more of a contamination risk than a literal cadaver? Like meat is a carcinogen, biohazard and breeding ground for everything awful. How are you going to make that worse other than with literal fecal matter lol

[@littlemoth4956]

Could be an OCD thing. It's worth seeking treatment I think

[@vikkran401]

I disagree about it being an OCD thing. She's just on her way into becoming a crazy entitled vegan, that's it. Because if it was an OCD thing, wouldn't she be worried about non-meat contamination as well?

[@ChristopherSibert]

Someone should let bridesmaids in on the secret: their dresses are ugly on purpose, to focus the attention on the BRIDE, you know, the one getting married 🤣🤣

[@Mrguy145]

Exactly that! The bride and the man she is marrying are the people who need the attention not some bridemaid

[@yukitai9063]

28:04 Rick's sounding sketchy. Leaving a guy who hates your guts to spend hours preparing an event at your house is contextually very illogical. Dude was probably planning to raid your house prior and then trash the place after the wedding (perhaps that was what he spent months scheming). Love how most posts are "and my friends think IATA". What kind of friends do y'all have?

[@ch3m1cal_bon3s]

For the period talk AITA, no way 😂 my *incubator* left after my dad got tired of her bs, I was two, since then my dad had raised me basically completely on his own aside from his mom's help, but we were too far away from her, and he had the whole talk and would even run to the store and get WHATEVER I said I needed, until I got a job and he was able to sit in the car. And after he felt I was responsible enough, he handed me my copy of our insurance cards and told me to make an appointment for whatever I needed and tell him when and where, as I'm in my own body and can tell when somethings not right more than him

[@krychur4956]

"You are a pervert who likes to expose himself* man is allowed to sleep naked in his own home ya know. she probably wouldn't like it if he went into her room unannounced for any reason. as someone who tosses and turns at night, the blankets and bedsheets wouldn't be covering anything if I slept naked, and this is the point OP was trying to make. just because someone goes to sleep under the blankets doesn't mean they'll still be covered by the blankets by the time they get up.

[@foxiiss]

I listen to these as a podcast and it's pretty infuriating hearing honk honk sounds all the time. My solution for that would be that you replace the word you censor with something similar that we can distinguish but the word complies with the youtube guidelines. Thank you for reading and considering, love the stories.

[@MisaMisaIsOnTop]

They do that with some narrators

[@m7dd1222]

omg i agree 100% it got so annoying after a while

[@se7nn1120]

I remember when I got my first period. I went to go pee and when I saw blood on my underwear I just yelled "Daaaaaad!" and started crying. He barged in the bathroom shouting back "What?! What happened?!" I showed him my underwear and he started laughing and said it was okay and that it was natural. Dad was the youngest of 5 siblings and he was the only boy, so he knew what a period was. Fun times.

[@The-one-and-only-Fruitcake]

For the girl with the credit card: Yes, absolutely TA. I use my mom’s credit card all the time. She lets me do that because it’s more protected than my debit card. I zelle her the money I spend. That person has no right to tell that girl whether or not she can use her dad’s card. If the dad really didn’t want her to use the card, he’d see the charge and get the money back from her somehow

[@K31vakkums]

Why didn't she just call her dad real quick to clear it up?

[@hadeskingoftheunderworld7010]

​@K31vakkums because she doesn't have to justify herself to complete strangers who seem invested in other people's private life. It's not her kid, it's not her job, and the woman shouldn't have done that. The girl didn't have to do anything to appease this shitty woman

[@The-one-and-only-Fruitcake]

@@K31vakkums because at that point, the cashier wouldn’t let her use the card. And the dad could’ve been at work or otherwise unable to answer the phone And as the person above me said, she doesn’t have to justify herself to anyone other than her dad

[@K31vakkums]

@tighnari3435 I'm just saying it as someone who's had my card stolen by family and has used family's cards. I do it all the time and I wish someone questioned my brother when he used my card to spend $1000s at a bar and everyone just took his word for it. I'm still in debt from it.

[@K31vakkums]

@@hadeskingoftheunderworld7010 I dunno, I'm in debt for $1000s because a family member stole my card and everyone "minded their own business" and didn't question him.

[@sh4rds0fgl4ss]

nah but why was a (what I'm assuming to be) 25-32 year old looking at a 12 year old's thighs anyway? like sure it's a bad thing she insulted them but no one is going to point out why she is looking so low? it's a 12 year old child and she's looking very close to "there" but everyone is more distraught over the insult and the bf doing the right thing and telling her to shut up edit: I get it, if you're face to face and you've been talking for a bit a quick glance here or there is fine, it happens. BUT SHE WAS ON A FACE TIME!! the 12 year old (probably) wasn't even on screen for that long and she immediately went to looking at her thighs!

[@kenyabrunson4985]

Anyone commenting on a 12 yr old's body is gross and disgusting.

[@JennCampbell]

My sister has a partner like that. Barely able to care for kids while she works. He is also a loud jerk, who has to put down others to feel good about himself, and throws a fit if anyone corrects the bull crap he's always spouting. Easiest fix: avoid whenever possible!!!😅

[@heatherdickau5335]

The first story The child learns needs to learn to respect others if they aren't vegans. Respect has to go both ways.

[@antayafairless9028]

For once I disagree. Without their consent ? She barged into THEIR ROOM. THEY didn't consent to HER doing that! So why is it about consent for her? Its their room. Their space. You need consent to ENTER.

[@omnissiah7247]

yeah but they're a woman so a different set of rules apply to her when the topic is that of sexual nature. I don't like it either, sucks, but that's life.

[@Over0w0MeAmTheHotel]

@@omnissiah7247bullshit double standards

[@sharonannrowland5783]

A person with Munchausen syndrome by proxy often: Has medical skills or experience. Seems devoted to their child. Looks for sympathy and attention. Tries too hard to become close and friendly with medical staff. Needs to feel powerful and in control. Does not see their behaviour as harmful.

[@hevs7889]

Lady with the girl and credit card… YTA KAREN!

[@MimikyuCookie]

30:29 this story really takes the cake for infuriating family members. Like, you’d rather believe that your sibling/child is being a jerk for no reason than believe that there’s an actual reason?

[@blankuser48]

40:00 Normally I would say you are 100% TA for yelling, as a child of divorce a lot of trauma has come for the fighting in my house, but in this case OP is 100% NTA

[@catsareexcellent]

Wish my parents weren’t bigots it would make life so much easier

[@w3aponex870]

That sucks bro

[@catsareexcellent]

@@w3aponex870 indeed it does. But I’m glad that dad stood up for his son.

[@StabbySabby]

are you cis or are you normal

[@lemonz0880]

win brother for sticking up for his sister! thats beautiful! i hope the sister remembers that! bro is a real one for sis

[@abitavajian1671]

That one about the period messes me up, my parents are married, but when i first had my period my dad was the one who was around when i first realized it and helped me while my mom was busy with important things, and sadly my dads been there most of the times im on my period and has to help get me the things i need more than my mom(due to work and such and weird hours)

[@mothergoose9383]

The "rainbow baby" crap makes me sick. It's a baby. That's special enough. This baby has NOTHING to do with previous failed pregnancies.

[@jessilynallendilla5014]

teen daughter lives in your house she doesn't get to dictate what other people cook and eat in the kitchen throwing a fit over the kitchen being "tainted" time to learn to get over it the world won't bend to your teen phase

[@brock3399]

the story to do with the mom dying is kind of making me think of my mom dying when i was 5

[@Npyne]

The honking is way more annoying than just using terms like butthole, jerk or idiot. It's so jarring.

[@hluccaskywalker8329]

About the milk one, NTA unless OP didn't know the severity of the allergy. If it was more serious it definitely would be an ESH

[@LizFromDecencyUnited]

That second to the last one, where the SIL wanted her 2yr old to be flower girl.....wow! Brought back memories of my big sister's wedding. I was 11 yrs old when she got married, and I was soooooo excited and happy for her! I was even more excited, when she asked me to be a bridesmaid! Wow! Me???? A real bridesmaid? At 11 yrs old?? I thought it was the coolest thing my big sister ever did for me! Now, the families didn't have tons of money, but we still wanted my sister's wedding to be really wonderful. So, I got a local florist to teach me how to make wedding bouquets over the summer, in exchange for me doing clean up and stuff in her shop. (child labor laws, etc..etc... I couldn't officially work for her, to repay her teaching me. And, I was an obnoxiously bright 11 yr old, so making wedding bouquets for a simple wedding wasn't outside of something I could do) Anyhow, between learning how to make the bridal bouquet, and ones for the MOH (who was our older sister), myself, corsages for the MIL and mom, and boutonnieres for the men, and saving up all my baby sitting money for 6 months to pay for all the flowers, as my gift to my sister, I was pretty proud on the day of the wedding, of how it all came out. It was such a super special day, as the first of 3 sisters was getting married, and she let me be such a big part of it, just like I was all grown up! I was going to treasure the memory forever! AND, I'd made me and my oldest sister's bouquets from flowers that would look nice when they dried, so that we would have our bouquets, from our sister's wedding, as keepsakes forever. The wedding was lovely! My sister was beautiful! It all looked so magical, to my 11 yr old self, it was such a happy day....... until.... Until a friend of my new BIL's family approached me, and said, 'okay. that's enough for you. hand over your bouquet to my daughter. she wants it, and since you're all done with it, I told her she could have it!' - ummm, WHAT?!? I had no idea who this woman was, and even less idea who her, apparently, 5 or 6 yr old daughter was!! There was NO WAY I was going to give up my flowers to her kid! I panicked, and started looking around desperately for my sister, but couldn't see her anywhere! I spied my BIL's mom, talking to my oldest sister, and bolted in their direction, with that woman and her kid hot on my tail, demanding I 'stop being a baby and hand over my bouquet, right now!' I get to my sister and BIL's mom, just as the tears start running down my cheeks, 'Sister! This lady says I have to give her my flowers! I won't! these are special! from sister's wedding...and..and.. I MADE THEM!' Now, oldest sister and I didn't get along real well, and in that moment, she did the worst possible thing! First she asked BIL's mom who the lady was, and when she found out she was a close family friend, my oldest sister took my flowers out of my hands, and gave them to that lady!!! I was beyond distraught!! I tried to say NO! Give them back, but oldest sister told me, "don't make a scene at sister's wedding!! we haven't even left the church yet! If you don't stop crying RIGHT NOW, I'm going to tell sister to make mom take you home, and you'll miss the party tonite!' ( i hadn't been making a scene, I just had tears running down my cheeks, but was being very quiet...just clearly very, very unhappy) Needless to say, I never forgave oldest sister for taking what was a special day to me, as the youngest sister, and memories I'd planned to cherish forever, and completely shattering them for me with her cruelty. I lied and told sister I didn't feel well, that I drank too much soda, and spent the rest of the evening curled up in the back seat of mom's car. It was horrible. I'm 59 yrs old now, and the memory of how hurt and sad 11 yr old me felt that night, still stings. My whole point here is this. The brides 6yr old daughter IS old enough to remember her daddy getting married. Being the flower girl in his wedding will be a memory she'll carry for the rest of her life. Something she'll tell her own kids about, and nieces. Something she'll cherish. If that were to be taken away from her because SIL is an attention whore, selfish, rude and entitled, and can't stand it if HER infant isn't constantly the center of attention EVERYWHERE,.... it'll be something that step daughter will never really get over. Her heart will be broken. She'll carry a teeny tiny seed of distrust for her new step mom, and for her dad, because of the betrayal. Even tho she's too young to understand it IS betrayal, that pain will be there, because such an important task was taken away from her. Kids remember this stuff. They carry it around, inside their heads, and it festers. Even 6 yr olds. Being flower girl in your dad's wedding is a BIG deal! I'm glad OP stuck to her guns! And, she absolutely was NTA for telling that entitled bitch off! How dare she try and push her 2 yr old into someone else's wedding! A 2yr old that will truly have ZERO memory of any of it! Makes me mad just thinking about it! I hope OP had a gorgeous, joyous wedding and I'm so happy she shared it with her new daughter! (step daughter, that is) ♥

[@ooops.its.raquan7187]

The last story is giving me so much anxiety for that lady and her babies, hopefully she can get them away from her ex's crazy gf

[@aduckofsomesort]

OP did not consent to the friends girlfriend coming into his room so it’s laughable for you to say he exposed himself to her and consensually.

[@harshitabhuyan8892]

Parents need to understand that you don't need to agree to everything your daughter says. You are raising her, not the other way round.

[@saxoncubin9027]

This pan is older then you 🤣🤣🤣

[@Mariethechaotic]

Okay, I know it's because of the KZbin monetization thing but the bike horn thing is really really annoying, especially because these long videos are the kind I usually listen to while trying to fall asleep.

[@rymikai]

54:08 - tattoo initials no like seriously this is fcked up, tattoos are PERMANENT on a person's body! you don't fcking do sh!t they have explicitly told you not to do (well, specifically they wanted an exact replica of the design) while the full refund thing is a bit far fetched (was not op's decision anyway) it was absolutely sh!tty also the fact that they signed something that wasn't even their own design? only a copy? that's just the cherry on top of the cake

[@LisaApril]

Story one: no. In a parents house you have to respect your parents food what they want to eat, and all sorts of stuff until you move out. Bad vegans and vegetarians have a habit of being mean to people who don't eat the same way they do and for really being obnoxious about it and vile. The best thing to say to your teenager would be something like when you're out in the world as a vegetarian you have to respect what other people are eating even if it's meat. You have to respect other people's choices just as you want them to respect yours. So, please respect silently as I eat meat and I will respect You silently as you don't so we can get along otherwise you're gonna have to be punished for making a big deal out of this. In the real world what will happen if you harass people who eat meat is you will lose a lot of friends and No one will want to hang out with you because you're so judgmental. Respect goes both ways and you have to show it to get it. So if you don't respect that I eat bacon I'm not going to respect you, and I will punish you for harassing me. Take her electronics away or take her favorite books that she's reading away or take her ability to drive away. Take something away she values because she's taking away your peaceful enjoyment of bacon. I was a vegetarian for 20 years and the last two years I was vegan. Now I'm eating meat because I had a very harsh disease that really took away a lot of my weight and vitality. I could not eat enough vegetarian food to give me what I need. My doctors advised that I eat many small meals during the day and include lean proteins like poultry and fish. You have to eat to live not live to eat.

[@yourtoaster123]

I’m vegetarian, and I don’t care if people eat meat. Have a like.

[@nannettepolcastro4799]

Should have told her she can be vegan when she gets a job and can pay for that expensive stuff herself.

[@Makeup4ever5]

Forest green is a beautiful color and looks good on all skin tones. Kay shouldn’t have shown up in a black dress. She fucked around and found out. Her fault. No one else should be mad about her being kicked out for her own selfishness. It’s not KATs wedding so she doesn’t get a choice to say what she will and won’t wear Bridesmaids can pay for her black dress if they think that OP is in the wrong. But they won’t cough that money up

[@orgnismasmblyln]

i believe the daughter is suffering from obsessive compulsive disorder, so it's unfair to blame her. she isn't doing this to be annoying, and she genuinely believes these are normal things to think. she should see some sort of medical professional. it's not "teenagers being teenagers," it's an illness. left untreated and ignored, it will only worsen and cause her much suffering. seeing such a lack of sympathy for something that she can't (or doesn't know how to) stop is very upsetting. given that the post is a few years old, i hope things got better for her. if someone you know acts like this, please tell them to read into ocd forums and articles. i don't understand how people can be so quick to assume malice.

[@crow5326]

I think people are quick to asume malice because they dont know about things like ocd. I hope shes doing okay. And i hope she got help as wel if its ocd.

[@robuxyyyyyyyyyy4708]

​@@crow5326People do know about it they just have a horrible understanding of it

[@ooops.its.raquan7187]

Yeah but this comment is also based on an assumption. She definitely still needs to have boundaries regardless if her behavior is a symptom of mental health issues. The only thing that would change is how those boundaries are implemented. So I think the dad's reaction is still warranted

[@crow5326]

@@ooops.its.raquan7187 very true. If you feed into the ocd it only gets worse. She needs therapy. I have ocd and with me that was the case at least.

[@orgnismasmblyln]

@@ooops.its.raquan7187 my point was that people were being unjustly cruel towards her, and making suggestions that would worsen her condition. my comment is based on an assumption, but it's much more likely than what others are suggesting. i'm not saying she should start cooking with bacon grease covered pans, of course. that would make any vegan upset. but what is described is a fear of something that is not there. (i.e. meat oils on the father's hands even after he washed them.) she can have boundaries, it's just that the ones she currently has are based on incorrect beliefs and are the symptoms of an illness. the dad is right to be upset, but if he wants to solve the problem he needs to realise it's true cause. triggering her symptoms serves only to make her distraught and worsen her condition, so for the sake of her mental health it must be handled appropriately and with kindness. calling it ocd is an assumption, even if by such a small margin of uncertainty, but nobody would do these things simply to be dramatic or an annoyance, so even if it's not ocd, as you suggest may be the case, she still needs therapy. as previously mentioned, she's scared of things that aren't there. that is inherently a mental health issue, regardless of what specific label is most applicable.

[@Spideyman2]

I have a single dad and when I got my first period we weren't even in the same province. I was with my older sister and Aunt but I knew it was coming so I dealt with it myself. I told him over FaceTime he was supportive. When I got home he told me a few things and showed me where we kept the pads but since I have a different bathroom then my sisters said I could bring some downstairs if I didn't want to come upstairs everyday. Overall It wasn't weird and I didn't think it was weird since my mom died when I was 11 and my dad has helped me and my sisters through a large part of puberty. Even before my mom passed my dad still talked about this stuff and my mom didn't care. I think it was messed up the mom got mad it's important dads know this because they need to support their daughters too.

[@NalDeryoga]

the fired employee for deceased parents i already knew it was a YTA moment, "oh you got a month off you should come back ready as ever to SELL SELL SELL" what if the funeral wasn't even had in that month. The one month paid is fine but they couldve did unpaid leave as well if he had his savings in order to collect himself but no they are all management who would take 3 months of to bereave but that employee gets 1 month and is expected to overperform like nothing has happened.

[@NoProblem-IAmMeYouAreYou]

When i was twelve My cousin told me i looked like a pig (i was a chubby kid) pretty much right after that i developed ed and that comment still haunts me

[@katl3034]

When I'm making my imaginary plans for my lotto win my husbands ex is in the top 5 to get a large amount because she's the mom of his kids.. no even a question

[@FrenchToast2727]

15:26 agree with this, it feels like something out Victoria would do in Life Is Strange BTS

[@shelliblossom8953]

For the one that called the 12 year old too fat I would message everyone I will apologize when she apologize to my 12 year old sister for sexualing her (because that what she did saying she was fat because her thighs are too big is a sexual idea

[@keybored67]

kiddo, MY pan in my kitchen in my house. you can do what you want in your house that you are paying for.

[@meat._loaf]

yoo i was waiting for this!!

[@dmansfile]

The clown honking really ruined this for me. If it's going to play dozens if not 100+ times, could you make the censor sound something less obnoxious? I watch a lot of this channels content, but not this one

[@ericworley4361]

"I went to the liquor store and bought regular milk.." ......what?? Since when does the liquor store even sell milk? And even if they did carry milk, why would that stick out in OPs mind as like, the go-to place for milk getting??

[@Guidingsonar]

Thumbnail responce, No. I had a teacher whose last name was bacon. they sometimes introduced themselves as "Hi I'm Bacon, and no I do not like eating bacon. I am a vegan." She also does not care about people eating what they want to eat. the dughter is the a hole as she is trying to stop you from enjoying what you enjoy. edit: as a child, I remember I think 2 weddings Ive gone to-? I hated it tbh. I don't understand why anyone would want kids there anyways. Especcially if they don't want to be their themselves

[@thespicecorner]

Love this channel and everything but the bike horn is so annoying. It’s not the noise itself but how loud it is. Sensory overloaddd ❤

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

51:40 grandfather is the good one. OP didn’t owe them respect, they’re just mad they got embarrassed by someone they didn’t see as manly.

[@KanishQQuotes]

The first one. You got your own pans... Keep them separate She needs to wash her own dishes herself

[@abubarrie88]

Uhhhhh if I’m in my room naked and someone just barges in without knocking how is that me exposing myself. There would have been nothing to see if gf knocked. And it’s been addressed to her before and she ignored it. This isn’t a ESH thing. It was his bedroom whatever state of undress she happens to see him in because she barged in and refuses to knock is on her. To create a narrative that he’s some pervert shows just she’s trash.

[@skellington9647]

literally 99% of the situations mentioned in these stories can be resolved by the OP calmly pointing out what the other person did wrong and then apologizing for their own wrongdoing.

[@devops3243]

That 1st one should just get a smack down on her tyranical power trip. She's being supported with special utensils and food options and she still wants everybody to bow down to her whims? She doesn't need the abstence of meat but the presence of a shrink.

[@Llama_Whisperer]

Man was naked IN HIS OWN ROOM. End of story. she had no right to come in. She is totally TAH.

[@AJSSPACEPLACE]

55:24 There are a couple tattoo artists that “sign their work”. but those artists maintain a good reputation because THEY GET CONSENT! they ask “Would you mind if i sign it” and the client says “Yes i would” or “no i wont” IT IS THAT SIMPLE! THERE IS NO EXCUSE NOT TO ASK PERMISSION!

[@MEEEPMEEEPMEEEPMEEEP]

The credit card OP is a rat snitch and needs to learn how to mind their own business

[@Donglator]

The single dad is a goddamn champion being able to take care of three girls by himself. If the mother doesn't want to help, she doesn't get to talk about parenting

[@user-me7iw6ft8z]

The girl who says she has all the talent and her brother doesn't souds like it's only in her head

[@paigemosher8697]

Yep. Only real talent those people have is their ability to live under complete delusions.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

41:14 this OP has no idea if the father gave permission or not! OP just decided to make this their business and everyone else’s problem.

[@Hyperfixationelimination]

Day 5 of asking for wholesome memes at the end of every video

[@siniebeck4821]

Hello fellow Vincey fan!

[@yamairad1]

This is very helpful when they are particularly stressful.

[@redjarww3882]

1:00:31 you bring the beer, you get an invite, simple as

[@AdachiCat]

The first one is ridiculous. That little spoiled brat needs to be put in her place

[@bigboi6582]

42:44 I love that dad, seems like an absolutely chill guy and honestly I don't understand why he got with such a crazy woman.

[@jessicaparker2011]

40:52 my dad AND mom have given me their card to use. If I were that teen I would've actually lost my shit

[@Yellowbeing08]

51:01 I'm sorry... WTH, being italian is not a reason to be a butthole! Saying it as AN ACTUAL ITALIAN, who lives in ITALY. This guy did the rigyht thing calling them out on it.

[@rickynieves3144]

Of course if a viable same sex parental type figure is available, then they are the preferred person to give hard biological talks with the kids for the simple reason that they have actually experienced it before. However, it certainly isn't necessary. My mom was a single mom of twin girls and had the talks with us and our friends whose parents wouldn't. If she'd had boys, she'd have had the wet dreams talks no problem because she's very scientifically and logically minded and there would have been no viable option for a man. It isn't perverted to teach children biology or life skills, that's ridiculous. Good on dad for being such a stand-up dad and making a difficult discussion such a positive experience for his amazing daughters. About the yelling...cut yourself some slack. We're none of us perfect and you've apologized and made it up, teaching your girls even more valuable life lessons along the way. Great parenting, keep up the great work 👍

[@panboo4628]

19:37 honestly? if she was going to be that petty? I'd take them home and (if all three of them were comfortable with it) buy all the sons some random sundress, and go back. The sister gets what she wanted, Connor in a dress, and you're just going above and beyond for her wedding

[@sharkt9877]

15:48 Straight up the friend deserved it. The gf is not an asshole. Imagine being such a pos toy try to steal someone’s bf Infront of them in a party. If those two were male a fight would probably have broken out

[@indekscard]

41:20 i think this is the first time I've ever seen a comments section agree on someone being TA

[@Jacoe413]

12:52 not at all. You did the right thing as the older sibling. You stood up to your jerk GF, who hasn't grown out of the judgemental bully teenage phase. Your little sis was defenseless and vulnerable. She needed you and you stood up for her!

[@CatiosPizza]

6:06 24! And is a mummy's boy. Tf? I feel sorry for the dad

[@MillieBlackRose]

The story of the guy not being invited to a party. He is not the A-hole. He didn't let himself be used and they are mad about that

[@jordankarr5022]

45:47 $35 an hour for babysitting three kids 24 hours a day for 3 days is a steal. Or at least on par considering you should pay double the rate at night, and it should even out at $35 an hour whether it's day or night.

[@Jacoe413]

42:36 she's the sick one. If she thinks a single father helping his daughter with her period ( that the mom didn't care about ). "Mom" failed them. She couldn't even make sure her daughter had even the most basic supplies ( pads, extra underwear, and midol)

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

11:24 this isn’t petty. Intentional or not, OP had a reasonable expectation of privacy in their room! She laughed it off, so she had to find out another way

[@yourtoaster123]

Ok for the first one. I’m vegetarian. I understand the sharing the pan thing (although I wouldn’t explode in anger), but the dishwasher? I would be fine with that.

[@yourtoaster123]

Also idc if people around me eat meat lol

[@yourtoaster123]

Also NTA

[@beta_fishh529]

Isnt it odd how these complimation videos has almost double the views as your normal videos? Oh wait! I know why! People want the old format back!