ASMR Whisper - Reading my #1 Fans Messages

With love,
-Peter James
ASMR, the acronym doesn't matter so let's just relax. Whatever your reason for being here, whether by accident or on purpose, welcome.
Wearing headphones, earbuds, or just playing from the speakers on your phone? Don't be afraid to experiment with the listening experience! Typically you can find me in three situations when accessing ASMR content. To stay focused while blocking out the noise, I'll wear over-ear headphones at a low volume. The carefully constructed ambiance is a welcomed blessing in this busy world, helping me get the work done. Now listen... come close... if it's the spine tickling, brain buzzing, full-body tingle effect we're after, I'm reaching for the earbuds every time. They're small and fit inside the ear, making it easy to cozy up in bed, blissfully mixing into the sounds now bouncing around my head. Lately for casual listening, I've been playing the sounds straight from the phone's built-in speaker. It's a realistic and cozy effect laying in bed with nothing in my ears and just the sound coming from the speakers. If you have surround sound speakers in your bedroom, you're on another level and don't need my advice. From super high-quality assortments or low-fi sounds that bring you into the space, it's good to see you, glad to have you here and hope you enjoy.

[@itsyaboi9936]

When dealing with a stalker never call them "my fan" or "my stalker" instead refer to them as "the stalker/stranger/weirdo". Using "My" only furthers their belief that they are a part of your life

[@biscoffology]

right! like i just know girlie is watching this like "omg he called me HIS😍"

[@bathbomb67410]

wait i never thought ab this…

[@ellwie]

True

[@uhh12131]

I'm like 90% sure he was being ironic

[@danielbrien6937]

@@uhh12131Ironic or not, it’s still a very dangerous thing to do that can just add to the problem

[@madx04]

It’s interesting how a majority of people would like for him to have remained silent about a topic that is so pressing and serious in his life, I think the main focus of this is that he is trying to bring light to the insane issue he has to deal with and it’s uncomfortable for everyone in the comments because that’s the point. Imagine your inbox being flooded with hundreds of messages from a random stranger, he is allowed to be vocal about it and set further boundaries with his audience, which are obviously needed because people don’t know how to respect others. Be kind and considerate of what others are dealing with and respect how they choose to handle the situation!

[@moonlightwolf777]

This is definitely a bit strange, maybe more than a bit actually. I can only imagine how they will react seeing you made this video too. Goodness stay safe PJ.

[@HerbBert69]

Unpopular opinion but I don’t think he should take the video down. People need to be called out on their shit and be held accountable especially when they’re acting delusional. As he mentioned in the video he needed somewhere to vent this and I believe he’s done it in a way that’s authentically PJ, like the way you’d rant it to a friend rather than a serious account. I hope it’s nothing more than a lonely girl over fan girling about a KZbinr and realises how out of pocket the constant emailing is after seeing this.

[@mainegrove]

the thing is she won’t realise because she’s bipolar and in an episode, she needs meds and a lot of help idfk why pj didn’t block her the messages are so disturbing. but yeah it is more than just a fangirl, she’s mentally ill and has formed a parasocial relationship with him and either this video will worsen it or send her into another episode. really sad pj had to deal with this but making it into an asmr vid? yeah man that isn’t the best way to go about it

[@myshoesarenowfullofwater]

a public youtube video to hundreds of thousands of people is not a way to hold mentally ill person “accoutable.” it’s just cruel

[@skarlet1505]

​@@myshoesarenowfullofwaterShe should have thought about that before doing what she did. Quit trying to defend a weirdo you don't even know, not everyone deserves sympathy.

[@myshoesarenowfullofwater]

@@skarlet1505 that’s a sad mentality to hold, sounds like you’re a pretty miserable person :( hope some day you change your ways of thinking

[@finnvalencia]

@@myshoesarenowfullofwaterso then I’m guessing you had an issue with Baby Reindeer, huh? It’s so weird how roles work with yall. If a mentally ill man was acting like this towards a woman, this video would then be socially acceptable and the comments would be filled with support. It is not ANYONES job to make sure this girl is in check or getting help, she is grown and has the ability to do that herself. Trust me.

[@rohitjames19]

Imagine at the end he's like this brings us to today's sponsor Nord VPN

[@Noirnaledi]

Wahaha😂 that would’ve been hilarious

[@danielbrien6937]

Is anyone else slightly concerned about the emails?

[@thebrunetteboy]

YEAH, right?

[@fickleness]

What emails ?

[@fickleness]

Oh nvm

[@cloudz9467]

Very. I clicked thinking the theme of the video would be something else but I quickly became unsettled. I know pj likes to make light of everything but it truly is scary to recieve something like that with this frequency

[@9cClimber]

Yes because half of the comments I see are women thirsting over him

[@Bluexo08]

OMG at first I thought omg yayyy he is reading all the comments of idk old videos😭 NO WAY I STILL CAN NOT BELIEVE THIS😲

[@biscoffology]

"pony boy" .. baby reindeer .. pj please don't be naive and just block them asap

[@tpopkin]

Is this a budding stalker situation? Sounds like a baby reindeer situation. Yikes

[@tpopkin]

The more I listen the more uncomfortable I become. Block block blockey block block to this person PJ!

[@mznny5764]

@@tpopkinYeah

[@moonlightwolf777]

It definitely makes sense, she did say she has BD(Bipolar Disorder), but nonetheless it doesn’t make it any less odd or okay to send someone messages like this practically everyday.

[@twilightdaneko3398]

She said bipolar

[@moonlightwolf777]

@@twilightdaneko3398 Yes, I know. I guess it is a bit confusing and misinforming I put BPD but that’s what I meant. I should have clarified that. I’ll fix that. Thank you!

[@Mona_rchy]

Personally, this is deeply disturbing to the point where it was hard to get through the video. I think PJ is being too nice at the end to apologize for not responding because the parasocial delusions should not be entertained. If this person is already looking to your videos for subliminal messages it would probably be best to take this video down. But that’s just my two cents as a stranger to another stranger whose KZbin videos help me fall asleep sometimes.

[@tonkabeanpumpkin-fh4fz]

I was wondering i f Pj was just trying to soothe the person there at the end while at the same time having let them know that he has enough for the authorities.

[@biscoffology]

55:59 FALL ASLEEP? BESTIE I'M TERRIFIED FOR YOU LMAOOOO

[@fififofum.]

on god 😭

[@aminirikiablack280]

And I thought I was down bad, but also I feel like it's not the best idea to read this in public. That just feels like asking for a bigger response. I can't deny that it seems they struggle with swings of emotion, which can't be fun.

[@Bluexo08]

She is definitely gonna read those comments and girl YOU ARE CRAZY PLS STOP!! & you are totally not cool just saying it is not about being different or like how every mind works but there is something called respect and privacy and you definitely not having that! Just think about if this happens to you how would you feel if a random crazy person does this for years to you EXACTLY

[@stevenmontoya9950]

PJ if I were you I'd def speak to the proper authorities about this, I don't want your safety to be at risk 🙏

[@tommymartin929]

People in comments behave like it’s his fault, not the person’s who write letters with this content. He is shedding light on a topic that is happening with HIM, ofc he has a right to speak about it

[@_kittencake]

This is… not relaxing or comfortable

[@bledeem]

Loool

[@Rxdiate_]

You say it’s not the same as baby reindeer but it sounds very similar… this person clearly needs help and you are putting yourself further in danger by making this video. Please make a report regarding these emails.

[@roscoepeekoe]

I actually think it's a good service to other ASMR artists to keep this video up as a warning to them...ASMR videos are truly unique, and can also be dangerous to the ASMRtist. Nobody in real life looks you in the eyes and whispers sweet nothings to them like an ASMRtist. It's truly easy to fall in love with that, but it's not real. Some people just can't get past that.

[@biscoffology]

17:10 ... pj :'( you're really sweet, truly, but they are manipulating you and that's what stalkers do.

[@karamel7762]

a lot of stalkers are ill and are people who need support and help for their behaviour

[@biscoffology]

1. YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE REPLIED 2. BLOCK THEM AND MAYBE MAKE A REPORT 3. TAKE THIS VID DOWN AND I'M SO SERIOUS 😭 edit; nvm he is so smart for unblocking them and archiving all of the emails.

[@noahsimmons5593]

Big "sent from Ifon" vibes

[@georgegeorge-sq8lj]

OMG FRRRRR

[@ricksanchez6045]

FR (i have no idea of what this is but it sounds cool)

[@annak.9483]

This sounds like somebody having a psychotic episode tbh. Or, the beginning of a stalker situation... regardless, extremely uncomfortable. 😐

[@moonlightwolf777]

Okay last comment!! PJ, this really should be taken serious, cause this could turn into something way more scarier than it is. And like a lot of the other comments say, this video should be taken down. I’m glad you shared what you’ve been going through with this whole situation but I think you might have gotten the wrong idea on how this video would be perceived. In the nicest way possible, the girl needs help. This isn’t a healthy way of coping, I think she deeply needs someone to really talk to about these kind of thoughts and feels, not write to a stranger in this way. You should definitely report about this and definitely delete that email and create a new one. Again, stay safe PJ!

[@cloudz9467]

Wholeheartedly agree. I think he should've made a serious video talking about it without details instead of turning it into content. It was a very scary watch and this is coming from a huge fan of horror movies and scary youtube 😂

[@mainegrove]

oh hell nahhhh pj you gotta be really careful she must be going through an episode keep safe from the weirdo. you def shouldn’t have responded and this vid might worsen the situation (especially referring to her as “my stalker”) just keep safe man sorry you have to deal with this

[@elfeledt]

No one has the right to harass others, regardless of their mental health issues, especially not on an ASMR channel. It's absurd. If I were you, I would contact the email service provider and ask for their advice on handling this situation. Additionally, if I felt it was difficult to cope with this emotionally, I would consider consulting a professional. Lastly, I'd like to share a quote from the description of a video by another favorite ASMR artist of mine: "This video does not serve as or replace any professional medical treatment. If you are having trouble with sleep, anxiety, or any other possible psychological issues, please consult with your physician." Take care PJ 💖

[@madmadagin]

why are ppl mad at how he treated HIS stalker situation?? he’s allowed to say hey guys i’m being harassed, i think i should probably make a public video, to show potential future stalkers, and this one, if you act insane, you get called out. it’s his life, and his violation of privacy or wtv. let bro do what he wants about his situation

[@mattyb3923]

i know this video was probably posted for content, warnings, etc, but this should be taken down before she sees this because this could cause some maaaaajor problems. this is so dangerous, and if shes reading this comment right now, literally go away and get help. ur not mentally well at all. at least try to fix urself. also, pj, youre so kind and sensitive, which we love, but u should have never gave into replying or apologizing. she doesnt deserve any of it.

[@NicoleC-wt8pe]

Everyone is saying he should've blocked her or not responded etc. Remember it's easy to say that in hindsight. He couldn't have known that it would escalate to this level if he had no way he would've replied. This is just a lot and creepy. It also sounds like the type of thing to cause trauma so I hope you can find a good resolution.

[@Amber-yv8wq]

This is like...kinda concerning...

[@potatojuice5782]

kinda..?

[@oddmatterasmr]

Sanest graphic designer I've heard of so far. Stay safe out there.

[@anudariba]

i’m so sorry that your receiving messages like this… this is in no way acceptable like omg i’m so sorry

[@Mushroomcowa_]

Mental illness can be fascinating and it’s interesting to see how people’s brains work differently. Yet, at the same time it can cause people to do unsafe things to themselves and others. Stay safe! I hope the person writing the emails gets help. 56:11

[@user-wk4op9bd9h]

For once ! The majority of comments are right ! DELETE THIS VIDEO FROM THE PUBLIC & BLOCK THAT PERSON… you don’t have to endure harrasment and she told you about the bipolar disorder … so do her a favor as she asked in one of the e-mails. IT IS HEALTHY TO HAVE BOUNDARIES. … that being said; this is a unasked advice from one stranger to another. Ps. Good to have you back, stay safe !

[@h2698]

this video fascinates me, documentaries are made all the time revealing the identities of the mentally ill so why is this getting sm hate??? she’s putting herself out there for this type of response and nobody said anything when the lady from baby reindeers identity got discovered. i fail to see the issue in this

[@myeverypov]

the way i jumped when you said "kisses from bosnia" cause that's where i'm from... 😭

[@enci7901]

Jelda, ja Hrvatica sm skočila ono Wait WHAT.

[@minak.8305]

Ja sam iz Srbije i bukvalno sam pokrila usta od šoka zato što sam bila ubeđena da je neka Amerikanka ili Kanađanka kao on 😭

[@secretforreddit]

PJ honestly take this down. You're only encouraging their behavior. Please please please delete this for your own safety!

[@spiritual_444]

this is really sad, i’m sorry you go through this !! stay safe and strong.

[@Elijahgaming422]

Welcome back🎉 *edited because I have now watched and this is insane. Scary insane

[@TheJtPv]

for your own safety i would private this vid. a whole hour focused on them could encourage them to continue or even escalate because it affirms that you _remember them_ and _pay attention to them._ Thus, their previous tactics and strategies """worked""" :// If its any consolation, you didn't send them to the psych ward. this person is reacting to an imaginary "perfect" partner in their head and that imaginary partner is just wearing your face right now. if it wasn't you, it would've been someone else. none of this is your fault king If the person who wrote these happens to read this, please consider an antipsychotic and a mood stabilizer. that horrible feeling you're running away from does go away with the right kind of help. please please please share your honest symptoms with someone on your care team. i say this as someone in the same boat as you: sometimes we need to ask for help and its not our place to refuse.

[@tonkabeanpumpkin-fh4fz]

I suggest you retain the content of this video but somehow make it private so only you can see it. Enough of us (and probably the emailer,) have seen it now so we know the situation. *Get a VPN!!!* Never, ever give out your real name. Please take this advice from a 70-year-old woman in Maryland. Also, please know that the person would have ended up in the psy... ward with or without you. You bear zero responsibility. If it hadn't been you, the obsession would have been directed onto someone else. How can I say... this is some scary stuff. Be careful, Peter. (Let's just go with Peter James, you know?)

[@sadienio6166]

stay safe pj! people saying to take it down, probably too late now!! he may aswell keep it up so that it spreads awareness.

[@cinemagirlxoxo]

About the emails. You may be able to block them, and you can archive the messages from your junk/spam folder. That way your inbox will be freed up but you can still keep the paper trail of disturbing messages. Please take care. These things can evolve into very dangerous situations. Always trust your gut, dont hesitate to reach out to authorities if you're feeling unsafe.

[@bz7179]

Omg stay safe ! I don’t want to lose another asmrist because of stalking 😭❤️

[@DAndreaElise]

Bro...this is so strange...😬

[@potatojuice5782]

I just watched baby reindeer… yikes… I’m so sorry this is happening to you PJ💔 thank you for raising awareness about this

[@Smilelikeyou-mean-it]

I must say i kind of admire you for posting this. People like that shouldn’t be able to make their victims feel uncomfortable and unsafe without consequences. I hope you look up how to go about situations like this in the safest way for yourself, so you don’t put yourself at risk. But please! Look up intermittent reinforcement. Don’t EVER answer anything from someone like this. Any glimmer of attention makes the stalking much worse, even if you try to be bland and boring. They still get a kick out of being seen and getting contact from you. Take care of yourself and stay safe.

[@Rhia000]

pj hun this seems quiet alarming you should deffo do something about this

[@saundradavis]

Hi PJ, I did just decide to listen to this video. First, I wish you didn't respond at all. I mean, we can't go back in time & I don't want to make you feel bad. But responding to her very unprofessional emails is not professional on your part.. Especially asking her advice on videos? That's asking for more trouble. You have no idea who you're really dealing with. These emails exceed the definition of creepy and flat out disgusting! It scares me how much this person knows about you, and what they may do.. Please PJ, no more messing around, you've gotta contact the police about this IMMEDIATELY! At first, I didn't love the idea of you uploading this... Now I think it's good to bring awareness! I hope you find peace & that this craziness stops for good!

[@staraster333]

these comments are weird as hell but i just wanted to say im so sorry this is happening to you and i hope it gets resolved… everyone who’s saying to take this video down or you made a mistake by making this video or replying to them needs to lower their voice… it’s not helping anyone or this situation. stay safe pj !!! i hope you have people in your life who are aware of this situation and u can talk to about it!!

[@emmer.]

I think Southern Sounds ASMR had very good advice on stalkers and spoke about hers on her “Everyday Mary” channel about 5 months ago. Very scary stuff, stay safe okay :/

[@chilldude6470]

PJ, you are much more generous and understanding than most people would be, given the level of harassment you've endured. Be safe!

[@jonsand2365]

Dont delete this video, make it unlisted and give me the link. This will entertain me for YEARSSSS

[@kemnden]

Genuinely concerning man, pls be safe!

[@DorianTheDiva]

no bc i’d be so scared PJ stay safe 😭🥴

[@latrelljohnson411]

i don’t comment on any videos much… but i want to say that you need to be very careful because people like this are completely unpredictable. if you feel like they could have your ip address i would say to either block them or report them immediately. i’m sorry you’ve been going through this unsettling situation..

[@Cxurtney]

This is honestly concerning, I think you should report this person to the authorities and block them. Please stay safe

[@taz9311]

Please stay safe, PJ. Seek help from the authorities, this isn't normal behaviour and I genuinely, as much as I love uploads, think this should be taken down. This only plays into what they're wanting from you. Don't interact or entertain this person. This is a stalking/harrassment situation. Report and log everything you're being sent.

[@amyknott7229]

Is her name.. Martha? 🫣

[@ricksanchez6045]

“Why did you say that name?!”

[@TomokoKuroki567]

I am concerned about those emails PJ, especially since there was an incident with you a few years ago on one your live streams with false allegations.

[@Emheartssunshineandsaltwater]

On cold medicine and crocheting a hat for my SO, and amazed at how much worse your emails are than your comments, this is like material for creepy movies.

[@kirs1091]

The shrek emails were really something

[@biscoffology]

YOU'RE BACK OMG also why am I scared after reading the comments like what am I about to fall asleep to

[@Sugarskulladdict97]

I feel like I should just pause and come back in the morning to listen, I’ve already got stress in my live rn with some family stuff I don’t need more to worry about

[@kenny1329]

It is a big deal. You have enough information to at least get the person on a watchlist. That way, the authorities will know if the person decides to jump on a flight to Canada.

[@JosephNH97]

No he doesn't. The legal system is atrocious when it comes to stalking

[@DonovanRobinson420]

Thanks PJ! This put me right to sleep!

[@janbotasmr]

I’d suggest looking up ‘twin flames’… the fact that this person thinks you’re theirs is really concerning. There are definitely some extreme ‘beliefs’ people can come across with this, including that someone should go to any lengths to get their twin flame to notice them or love them. People, even celebrities like Ryan Gosling have gotten restraining orders against people convinced they’re their twin flame. As someone just trying to start doing ASMR myself, this is wild.. pls stay safe and don’t take this situation too lightly!

[@MuItiASMR]

Respectfully you messed up making this video, the second they admitted they were bipolar and were having self-admitted delusions regarding you, you really should've blocked them and not just listen to them saying dont reply. You likely had good intentions not wanting to block them and be supportive of them but with their condition and seeing they were developing a parasocial relationship toward you it would've been best to block the person. You're just a youtuber not someone they personally know, you can't properly help them the same way people in their personal lives can.

[@AestheticsHermosa]

agree. And what scared me the most last time pj even put his house key pattern for asmr bfore. We have cases about stalker in malaysia bfore. That guys even followed the girl to overseas. Stalker can do anything. Pj should sue or put some restraining order or something.

[@Bebop888]

this is a little concerning luv. a shame you have to deal with this

[@jaleman6595]

I’m not even a minute into the video and I’m so concerned with the comments 😧

[@amyknott7229]

This is so horrible genuinely, if this was happening to me it would stress me out so much.. I hope you’re okay PJ!!

[@landrybeck]

Listening to the sound of his voice and nodding off, then I hit the 3:54 mark. “Whoa, what?”

[@TheRedWizard123]

Stay safe PJ. No matter what any of these comments imply or suggest it’s not your fault. You don’t need to feel bad about anything, especially even questioning whether you should be replying to these messages and in not doing so apparently hurting them? In fact, you’re benefiting thousands of people’s lives via the ASMR you post. Please take all the steps you need to - without guilt. It is a big deal if it is effecting your life and mental health as you say, and you certainly don’t deserve it. Keep yourself safe and thanks for your videos PJ.

[@kdeleveneleven]

This woke me up bcs it's indeed concerning. Anyways your mic settings here is immaculate! Atleast I got a lot of tingles even though I was creeped out jeez

[@jstarstudios7110]

God, if she's bipolar, she needs to get on meds IMMEDIATELY. It's very treatable with medications, but if you're not taking them you can ruin your life in a manic state.

[@EarlyMoly]

First 24 Hours Squad?🎉🎉

[@evonlifts]

Very frightened about these emails. I do like PJs emails nerding about audio qualities and being excited about the videos he’s made genuinely looking for feedback.

[@anunaskedforopinion]

The fact that the first one was sent at 6:44 AM is wild.

[@paula-uw2ck]

Oh wow this is actually concerning on both ends, I don't doubt you're being careful but sheesh! I Hope this person gets the help that they need (and that you stay safe, of course)

[@natedued]

This scares the hell out of me at night I’ve gotta rewatch it during the day

[@Alwayshungryandtired]

This is the part in Baby Reindeer where he doesn't think its serious enough to go to the police. I hope whoever this is sees all of this and is stable enough to get the hint. You now need to keep us updated 😂

[@honestlyme929]

oh baby reindeer you better watch out

[@barbararebocho6729]

PJ stop replying to these people 😭 there's nothing wrong with leaving weird people on read

[@kalinakulakoova]

baby reindeer sent from my iphone jokes aside, as this was entertaining and creepy, u should still take this down and report that person. Scary.

[@tonkabeanpumpkin-fh4fz]

I am 70 years old and had no idea what the references were about. ("Wth is baby reindeer???") I just looked it up. Oh, I see.

[@izzybell3349]

Very odd behavior on their part, hope youre staying safe just in case

[@biscoffology]

I'm not sure if pj reads the comments but I really hope other ASMRtists reach out to him to get him to take this down tbh

[@WherEmEweeD]

You are certified no.1 stalker creep, you would be better off deleting youtube

[@TNVGAMING]

Why? Grow a thicker skin.

[@An0nam3]

Im going on a asmr video binge of his videos to catch up on ones ive missed but what the hell is this 😭😭 even ur local asmrtist has stalkers

[@JosephNH97]

These comments aint it. They basically just say "molly, you in dannger girl" THAT'S NOT HELPFUL! PJ needn't worry, how's that going to help. Many people online receive these types of communications. All he can do is continue to not respond. Store the emails. And he should continue to read them every once in a while in case they say something more worrying. He should reply to her one time, and one time only saying he's not intrested in having any further contact, he's not intrested in being with her or anyone, and that he won't be replying any further. Than no response. IF the emails continue and become more concerning then go to the police so they can have it on record. Nothing more he can lr should do. These comments though 🙄

[@SandorBundaMusic]

This is some disturbing level of delusion and parasocial obsession, mixed with an extreme loneliness most likely. I would completely shut down any future communication with this person if I were you.

[@lighthouse66]

This is a real problem that may deserve public discussion - but PJ may put himself in real real danger by putting this out.

[@soniaaa4557]

not betterhelp being the ad before this 😭 Stay safe pj

[@CrackerPhobic-]

this is actually concerning and scary….. 🌚

[@Jmpwfdpdl]

This is so cray cray

[@stephano01]

I love your voice! Best ASMR KZbinr ever 😎

[@abimon76]

pj bro we love you please do something about this its legitimately kinda scary

[@user-bb5gd1vo9f]

These emails are creepy as hell, jesus christ. People who send this stuff can be dangerous

[@cybercherry7]

Sent from my iPhone

[@Chorus300]

the constant emailing does not sound like a good situation

[@biscoffology]

like emailing them 4-5 times ?! 😭he's too sweet and innocent for this world I fear.

[@Chorus300]

@@biscoffology I think probably very kind and forgiving

[@Chorus300]

@@biscoffology but id definitely wanna draw a line by now

[@jacobs1264]

pj? pls report them or something

[@tshn8363]

you shouldnt have posted this

[@AestheticsHermosa]

Idk bout yall but im calling the authorities if it was me. This person that emailing him can do anything atp. Sorry to hear this pj. Idk that u been through this. I thought that u been busy with the project u worked on in the last vid and decide to take a break. This is terrific.