It's the opposite for me usually. Everyone else is on their bikes while I'm running trying to catch up with them, losing my breath, and then extremely exhausted afterwards. This is how conversations usually go for me. The conversation goes too quickly and I can't process everything that fast. I'll end up missing a lot of what the person has said to me, and feel terrible about it. I'm trying to process what I'm saying, how I'm feeling, what they're saying, and the environment around me all at the same time. It's WAY too much. Thank you for another brilliant video. I shall return. :)
@katherineflowers11216 жыл бұрын
I get like this glazed look in my eye and a friend asked if I was ok and I'm like nodding my head because for me my eyes glazing over is like when you turn down the music when looking for a certain road I have to turn down my visual intake so I can increase my awareness of what is being said what makes this even more fun is the auditory processing disorder so while I can hear just fine it is like my brain doesn't register every third word close captions have made my life so much easier.
@Irene-gq4jr6 жыл бұрын
This is probably why I zone out in a group of people. I'm quite sociable, not shy or aloof, I just find it more work than it's worth to keep up with yattering conversations that often comprise trivia or gossip. Throw loud music into the mix and I have no chance. I also tune out the guys I work with, if I'm focused on a geeky problem they will sometimes be jokingly slagging me off in front of my face - at first they thought it was funny that I didn't bite, they found it even funnier when I told them I'm genuinely not listening to them, and still test me frequently for fun (they're great guys so it's all cool).
@Irene-gq4jr4 жыл бұрын
And just to overanalyse this further... I'm not diagnosed as being on the spectrum, but my interests and their intensity fit the picture in a textbook way (if I was male, that is, albeit my aparent normalization as a female who is typically socialized differently negates a diagnosis so I haven't tried). It's almost like mania. At weekends I can sit up half the night finishing reading a book, making candles, learning a new fiddle tune, creating a website for a friend or writing a Powershell script to extract info from 100+ servers where I work. I have far more intersting things to do than listen to shitty gossip or watch soap operas!
@ArtsCraftsAntiquity3 жыл бұрын
This is really true in social situations however I wonder how you do when you are focusing on a subject matter that you love but then a boss or a coworker imposed limits on how you have to do the work that you love to do. For me it’s been extremely detrimental, I have to have freedom to work in a way I feel comfortable otherwise it’s like trying to force a square peg in a round hole.
@maiyapercy3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for saying that. It is the same for me. I am walking, and all the other people are on their bike.
@derrabbit72896 жыл бұрын
I move and think a bit slower than most people, but once my mind gets its gears on something it will grind it to fine dust. Time often flies by me and I am wholly ignorant of it until I look at a clock and wonder what happened to the last three hours, it only felt like a few minutes
@Aiken474 жыл бұрын
But once you learn something do you seem to learn it more deeply?. It’s how martial arts is learnt. This occurs for me in certain things.
@t2dwarrior2093 жыл бұрын
I'm the same way.
@zeldaqueen994 жыл бұрын
I can’t believe how eye opening for me all your videos have been. All my life I’ve grown to hate myself because I knew I was so different and couldn’t figure out how to fit in. Your videos have made me be able to see that it’s not my fault I am the way I am. If ya know what I mean. I’ve been told since I was little how anti social I am, and how I isolated myself. People had to point this all out to me because in my mind I was just being myself. Until I realized that everyone thought there was something wrong with me and I was just being a dis obedient child because I couldn’t change my ways. At around 11 (I think...dates and years are really confusing for me) they diagnosed me with depression and anxiety. With counselling, medication and other things strictly for depression and anxiety, I still always felt the same way. I couldn’t understand why my mind still worked exactly the same way it always did. Anyways, I know this was long and not really related to this video, but it’s probably the tenth or more video of yours that I have watched and I felt I should comment now. Thank you for allowing me to stop blaming myself and just accept myself. I feel like my mind has just been rebooted. Thanks 🙏
@aikou28862 жыл бұрын
We got a lot of things in common. Maybe it wasn't at 11, but I was also diagnosed with both depression and anxiety after years of being told how "antisocial" I am. In fact, I just embellished some memories and told a different story that would somehow be okay with normies but… I don't have to anymore. Well, I'm trying to at least. I started my self discovery and acceptance journey some time ago and thinga like this really help me feel I'm not alone, they also help explain things that went years without any kind of explanation whatsoever. Ah, and of course. Dates and time are so confusing for me too, I barely know what day I'm living in and didn't exactly realized that until I went to therapy. I just thought I was forgetful or something until I realized I truly didn't know today's date and that I tend to speak about things as if they happened in the same timeframe. It could've been minutes, months or years but I'd still be speaking about them the same way.
@FerrellBill2 жыл бұрын
Read scripture. You'll start a journey that will negate all that self hate.
@zeldaqueen992 жыл бұрын
@@FerrellBill it’s not that simple but thanks.
@adapederson61592 жыл бұрын
@@aikou2886 Same here, almost exactly 💯!! It is so nice to realize these things but I found out later in life. I always felt like I was swimming upstream. I did go through therapy and on meds, in my 20's.. It did help. I went through a lot of trauma in my life so I was only diagnosed with depression and anxiety, PTSD. I always knew there was something more to it and couldn't put my finger on it, but at almost 57, here it is.
@SamusV44 жыл бұрын
People always get so upset with me when I can't keep up. I am literally doing the absolute best that I can, I don't know what else people want from me. I'm not slow or dull-witted because of it. I've proven this countless times to myself and others.
@51elephantchang7 жыл бұрын
Aspies have to be sooo patient with nt's and this is almost never reciprocated,
@DarknessIsThePath7 жыл бұрын
peter nicholson in my case I was incredibly patient with my so called aspie friend but he rather ignore me for eternity for just wanting yo be with him one day but instead he rather pick up guys online for hours.
@firstnamenate97614 жыл бұрын
You ever allow somebody to annoy you for so long until you politely say please don’t do that? But then you annoy them once and the flip out on you and it’s like dude I was so considerate for what!
@51elephantchang4 жыл бұрын
@@firstnamenate9761 Regularly..
@Dancestar19813 жыл бұрын
True
@coreycox23453 жыл бұрын
@@Dancestar1981 Sometimes, they don't understand how you are being patient in listening when you know the net part of what they will say. It can be hard not to interrupt, then it is easy to spot that you are impatient.
@VegasCyclingFreak4 жыл бұрын
So if you were watching a video like this, would you be listening to it like 1.5x faster? I do that sometimes because it's actually easier for me. But at the same time, my mind is going so much faster than I can speak that I actually talk kinda slow because it's like I have to then go back into my memory to remember what I just thought a mile ago to retrieve it and then verbalize it. At the same time I might be thinking of 3-4 other things simultaneously but that gets lost because the verbalization process is so slow and I can't get it all out fast enough before I just lose the thoughts. I don't know what that is but it is kinda annoying.
@Prudentsnow3 жыл бұрын
The analogy is very accurate. I experience this exact same thing in my work invironment. I work 40 hours a week and get the 40 hours of work done in half the time. I can't go slower, but I can't take on more work, because I need to rest at that moment. Luckily I have set a structure, where I can mix my working hours and my resting hours, so I seem more productive, while delivering the same results.
@marinalina63487 жыл бұрын
This is good and I have allowed myslf to explore this concept at work only this year. Last year, I put so much pressure on myself to go full speed ahead while trying to impress/prove myself to others. Disaster - and I felt like quitting completely. This year I am pacing myself at the speed I felt better at while accomplishing more ironically. For me,working through one thing at a time and doing it well, more slowly, is way more productive than trying to multitask in panic mode. Groups suck because it is always the dominant people setting the pace and when you fall short of that expectation, you get targeted.
@autismfromtheInside7 жыл бұрын
yeah, groups can be tough. There are ways to deal with 'dominant' people, but it's still always a battle to stand up for yourself.
@sharonprendergast64692 жыл бұрын
I have never commented on a video before but I absolutely had to say thank you so much for articulating what I have felt for so many years. To know that I am not the only one who feels this way is so tremendously validating
@rescue4lifeAB4 жыл бұрын
I've been watching your videos. It's a bit eerie listening to you. You're oddly so similar to me (I'm an engineer also) and you verbalize thoughts I've had over the years but haven't put enough emphasis on accepting that I was/am different. Everything you said in this video, including the efficiencies (or lack of) at work is so true for me. Really enjoying watching these videos - it's like my subconscious thoughts are being brought back to my conscious ones.
@legendddhgf5 жыл бұрын
Is higher processing speed and lower endurance common for Asperger's? I strongly relate to this.
@wdekeizer7 жыл бұрын
This video explains so much on my troubles in the work place. Everyone else gets their work done in 8 hours but I can finish all the work no matter what schedule I'm on in 3 hours. People always notice "you're like a robot how do you work so fast". It sucks because I can't rest while on the clock so therefore I get less pay and have to leave early. If I do try and drag the routine out to 8 hours I get super tired and fatigued from all the lights the noise make, people small talking, background machines clanking and computer fans running.. It's so difficult to explain this to a manager but most workplaces rarely accommodate us and won't pay you a 4 hour break. :/
@autismfromtheInside7 жыл бұрын
yeah. I can relate to that. I hope that will change and more people will be paid for what the get done, not by how long they spend doing it.
@andgate20004 жыл бұрын
Same...and work doesn’t know what to do with me for the rest of the time.....and I’ve been disciplined for doing “nothing”...all because I’m finished.
@davebell36844 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your videos Paul, confirming a few suspicions I've had about myself and giving some useful "operating instructions". I've had a problem in the workplace all my life relating to this, I seem to be able to jump a few steps ahead quite easily and this seems to upset my managers as if I've shown them up in some way. My intention is always cooperation but I get back a reaction like I'm competing. One of my favourite analogies is "signal to noise ratio", noise to me is stuff like small talk and good manners which seems to be signal to a lot of folk. The jumping ahead seems to be either a sudden absence of noise or a lazer focus through it. Cheers.
@keats275 жыл бұрын
I've watched about 5 videos of yours now and it's like....holy shit, this guy actually gets it...
@Gydjulind Жыл бұрын
I know both sides: I either go (or think) faster than most other people or I go much slower, it’s one or the other. The thing is that my speed always seems to be opposite to everyone else’s speed, so I never fit in. It’s the same with my speed of understanding things. Usually I see connections and have a complete overview at lightning speed where others struggle, and vice versa. For example: I took Spanish group classes for a few years. I was always amazed to see other people struggling with grammar, whereas I could instantly see the logic of it, e.g. verb conjugations, so that I hardly had to study anything. But with respect to e.g. understanding the plot of a story, it often took me much more time than others. Anyway, I was always the exception, the odd one out, and when I had a serious question about something I didn’t understand (but all others did) no one took me seriously and they just thought I was joking. On the other hand, I had to endlessly sit out all their numerous grammar questions. Long story short: it didn’t work for me…..
@alfredjohnson26614 жыл бұрын
I can understand how you feel. I’m personally the opposite, I have a really slow processing speed so it’s hard for me to keep up with fast paced conversations.
@davidhill56845 жыл бұрын
I'm usually relieved when I've accomplished some task, but then have to wait for others. This is why I go early to places, so that stage is done and I can rest until the other person shows up. Usually means being ridiculously early. Having a good book on the go helps..
@odonnelldenise4 жыл бұрын
Thank you again for these terrific insights. School, and even family time is incredibly exhausting to me for this reason...you putting it into words is such a relief!
@tobpip27 жыл бұрын
How did you become so self aware? Have you got a great therapist? Is it through introspection? You're brilliant, thanks for posting excellent content.
@autismfromtheInside7 жыл бұрын
it's my special interest. haha... :)
@brianmedium72656 жыл бұрын
What therapy modalities have you found best for healing trauma?
@paulmichaelfreedman83346 жыл бұрын
I've been trying to figure out what was "wrong"with me for a couple of years now, and now and then I would investigate. I had a lot of other things going on too so I could not dedicate. But recently I did and found out I have Aspergers. I'm 46 and have found some workarounds but other aspects I just radiate ASD. Thing is most aspies are intelligent enough to eventually deduce (they never realise directly) that they're the ones that think differently, and in my opinion that is the big debated difference with High Functioning Autism, HFA people just don't have that extra neuron, sort of speak. Not to dumb anyone down, just my blunt honesty as a true aspie :)
@katherineflowers11216 жыл бұрын
Omg I'm 45 and I totally have done the same like I have coping mechanism but as I'm not actually around people like in a job situation and my husband is totally cool about me not working because he doesn't want me to be stressed because he knows I don't handle nearly as well as he can anyways it's nice to know others are relating like I am at an older age. :D
@charienna6 жыл бұрын
Paul Freedman Thank God he gave you that one special interest. You are going be a light to aspies. You can get through to them.
@tictactarot15925 жыл бұрын
I wanted to tell you thank you. This really helped me understand. I wish I could ask you what to do about someone who is incredibly brilliant when they can answer verbally, but it takes forever to write things down. The advice I have been given is contridictory. Some people have said to force him to write, but it is not how he learns. When I bring up voice recognition software Im told I should force him to develop the skill. I go back and forth on what to do. He is my 7 year old son. He is several grade levels above kids his age (highschool in some areas). He can write amazing essays but it can sometimes take 4 hours to get him to write 10 sentences copied from a book.
@chris-zu6sf5 жыл бұрын
I have slow processing speed. What I do is create workflows as visual cues to help me stay focused and connected.
@katherineflowers11216 жыл бұрын
Ok so in this video that youtube recommended and rightfully so you explained why my husband & I struggle at times because I'm a walker and he's a cyclist thx again for taking the time to do these they are really helpful. I guess when it comes to things like these videos everyone needs something different and fortunately they are so many that I finally found the one that helps me the best thx again. PS you encouraged me to finally start a blog "wired differently" on word press.
@autismfromtheInside6 жыл бұрын
Thanks Katherine! Good to hear it helped :)
@katependley86244 жыл бұрын
The walk vs bike is such a good analogy. My friends and family have always had a joke about me: she has no middle gear. Meaning, I'm 0 or 5. They accept it as me (mostly) but still try and get me to live in 3rd gear. They way you've explained it I'm going to share with them so they can better understand that we're not wired to comfortable plod along. BTW - the bike thing isn't just an analogy for me. One day I got fascinated by cycling and demanded from myself to get it down and push it to the limit probably a year or more than a neurotypical person would. It's like that for any physical sport or activity I take on. I wonder if others do that, too.
@Cymricus5 жыл бұрын
me: watches this on 2x speed
@TeacherMom803 жыл бұрын
#LoveThat! 😆
@du91633 жыл бұрын
HAA me too 😂😂 1.5 speed
@carstorm852 жыл бұрын
Ahh good, not just me. And on computer, with extension, even faster than 2x!
@a8lg6p4 жыл бұрын
On Wechsler Adult Intelligence Scale, I scored in the 99.6th percentile on "verbal comprehension", but 49th percentile "processing speed". Not sure if the way you're using it here is the same thing...I often feel like I have thoughts racing through my mind and it's hard to slow down, but... - This definitely described me as a child: "Children with slow processing speed have difficulty performing simple tasks fluently such as when a child is slow to perform basic arithmetic operations such as in learning the times table. Children with slow processing speed take longer to complete assignments in class, do not finish exams in a timely fashion, may not be able to keep up with note taking, and cannot finish copying exercises within allotted time. These children read slowly and take even more time to complete tasks when under pressure." - OTOH, I think in paragraphs, so I tend to overwhelm people with a barrage of information, and the only way I'm good at communicating is in essay format. Good for getting academic degrees, not so good for making friends. - This is one of the reasons it never occurred that I might be autistic--the stereotype is the math/engineering savant with poor verbal skills, whereas I've always been sort of the opposite: I've always been above-average at math... I think on the SATs, I got like 600~650 on math, but 750 on verbal. I'm now a self-taught programmer, and I think it's easy for me mostly because I easily pick up terminology, and programming languages are, well...syntax. It's like analogies. - But I'm getting the impression that maybe this isn't that unusual for Aspergers?
@ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, the past few years I have found it tiring to get through an 8-hour day. If I got my work done fast, they would just give me MORE work to do. And then I would have to keep going full speed for my entire shift, if I wanted to leave work on time. My motto became: "If you're good at your job, you get to do other people's work too!" Where's the incentive on working hard then? All I could do was maintain a good attitude (not get angry or complain basically) so that I could keep a good reference while looking for other work. It wasn't easy to find a new job, but a year later I am doing a job that I enjoy, and have a great boss! My struggle is the early mornings and not being able to stay asleep all through the night. Love your videos; keep up the good work!
@bakuyugipokewwe2 жыл бұрын
Perfectly explained. It's why I suck in crowded areas and get anxious when walking in the street because I naturally want to walk so fast I'm anxious if I miss something crucial so it's like I'm trying to examine everything but keep the quick pace to
@xTobsecretx3 жыл бұрын
I can relate to this a lot - I’m a computational biologist and often only get to work 2-3 hours a day but in that time, usually I can accomplish almost as much as my brilliant colleagues. It’s tough forcing myself into the remaining 5-7 hours.
@lisewagnac36234 жыл бұрын
Wow I am so glad I came across your channel, this is so so helpful. I never understood why I would be so tired when all I did was focus throughout the day on work but it would be so intense that I forget to eat and sometimes I lose any concept of time because I’m so deep. Definitely going to watch more content!
@reniefuwa3 жыл бұрын
I love that analogy. Works for anyone who operates outside "normal" processing/working speed, really
@alvislancaster59674 жыл бұрын
They want to label everyone with something...it's just your personality.....who says that what you do is abnormal or is some kind of problem?....every single person ever born has their own personality ....we all have strengths and weaknesses.......just because u don't like noise,,doesn't mean u have a condition...etc...
@aniliname4 жыл бұрын
I can SO relate to this point of being paid by the hour. I'll work on projects in groups and be done hours before everyone else and often end up with much more complex and precise work and end up getting penalized for it. I have no idea how to slow down or even estimate a slower time for invoicing because I just can't comprehend that people take 4+ times longer to do that task. Still working on this. No idea how not to lose money for no reason.
@Aiken474 жыл бұрын
I find this when I drive a car or ride my motorcycle, I process the journey approx 30% faster and could comfortably do 90 in a 60 zone at my peak, but 75-80 is easily sustainable but still dull. This also happens in daily life, I have had to “dumb down” or the frustration of having to wait for others to catch on to a process or concept is a quick route to a meltdown, it also leads to misunderstandings (if I don’t dumb down or condescend in the literal sense)as the other people don’t have the depth in terms of reference to draw on. Then I also get called opinionated (an expression misapplied because I have the facts) and arrogant (again I’m not the one ignorant of the facts) “Dumbing down”has also damaged me as this mask also dulls the areas I am slow in.
@ArtsCraftsAntiquity3 жыл бұрын
I was a biology teacher first at a suburban high school with honors kids then at an urban high school with kids who had behavioral issues, although I could hyper focus on biology all day I could not continuously teach the honors students all class period, they would hang on my every word and need so much information versus the kids with behavioral issues would learn some biology but I was tasked with the job of fielding interesting questions and handling behavioral disturbances. Teaching in this dynamic environment seemed to move more quickly and it was like being on a bike with hills I could manage the gear changes better than a flat surface at 1-speed.
@HalflingRC3 жыл бұрын
Awesome analogy! I love analogies, I figure out the world with it, and use them at work when I am teaching. These videos are great, I find myself in these over and over again!
@RaymondDoerr4 жыл бұрын
I usually try to guide the conversation by asking questions. I find this works best, because then I can guide the conversation at my own tempo. This gives the added benefit of helping me to have a little bit of control over the topic. I don't have Asperger's but I am weak at communications in general. I find it interesting that Japanese hikikomoris suffer socially, often even more than the community here does.
@ioiwut48742 жыл бұрын
im mostly just being silly with my comment but i like to say, the kids are playing hopscotch while im walking over the monkey bars lol and as a child growing up this was more literal than an analogy.
@Suebee19885 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this video. I am certainly no kind of engineer but had the same experience in school...and then at work...as you are explaining here. I'm currently seeking an aspergers diagnosis and the latest testing I did has landed me with ADHD - partly because of my very high mental processing speed. I've been looking for more information online about faster than average processing speed and all I'm coming up with is remedies to assist individuals with slower processing speeds to speed up...Not helpful to me. Your explanation of how fast processing speed relates to work productivity & pay per hour situations has brought me to the conclusion that any work I might be able to do in the future needs to be based on pay by benchmark or final production, not on an hourly basis.
@xenophero4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the perfect analogy for this.
@beknight93993 жыл бұрын
Every day I'm searching the stop-Button of my brain. Thinking parallel a lot of things while speaking with others, in groups the world seems too slow and I get impatient and stressed, feeling wasting my time or bored.... My thinking is so fast and complex, that my spelling can't follow. The other side feels exhausted, breakdown, no energy for nothing left.
@UsseWill8 жыл бұрын
Resonating strongly with this one. Group assingments are the worst, especially when the whole class is given the same assingment and just divided into groups to do it. I would complete it in 5-15minutes and some of the groups take 1h 30min and still don't quite get the hang of it...
@autismfromtheInside8 жыл бұрын
yeah, working with others is probably the most difficult side effect...
@zalzalahbuttsaab5 жыл бұрын
I have the same experience when being invited out to eat. I've usually finished my plate before anyone else had raised a fork. I also tend to think too far ahead when planning and then have to wait several years while everyone else catches up.
@BurningZeal8 жыл бұрын
Your analogy depictions are always spot on, love it!
@autismfromtheInside8 жыл бұрын
thanks :)
@TristinKing3 жыл бұрын
Wow, I so feel this way. School was horrible because I 'got stuff so fast I then had to sit around while everyone else did. Still feel the same now and one of my biggest frustrations is having to take people on a round about journey to get where I got very quickly.
@cory999982 жыл бұрын
This makes it hard to talk to people for sure. Anything thats slow makes me zone out and leave as soon as possible, but also sometimes I want to talk to someone with a slower rhythm and end up spewing out way too much at once and the other person has no idea whats happening. Part of why my roommate and I are such good friends is because we can both talk at higher speeds and explore thoughts at a similar pace. He is usually a bit faster than me which keeps me challenged. I have trouble talking to others, like my brother because I want to engage in a meaningful conversation with him but often spew out way too much. But if I dont, I get fidgety and bored. I dont know what to do because I want him to enjoy the conversation, but I also need to enjoy it myself. Both peoples needs are important and I cant find a good middleground.
@Dedo703 жыл бұрын
Perfect analogy, Paul. I LOVE your channel!!!
@alessandrotomasi88153 жыл бұрын
I also have a sustained inner pace...somehow I am three steps ahead of others, but looking at the immediate steps and sequencing them is a much harder test of my impatience. i am wondering, however, if you, the reader, also feel like you need a longer time than NT to warm up "intellectually". Might guess it takes a while to fire up all those wired neural connections!
@hermanehrentraut49565 ай бұрын
All throughout primary school I struggled because of the slow pace of school being 180 days a year but when I reached college it got better because now I was having 15 weeks of school, but what I especially notice is summer classes were only 5 weeks long but covered the same material as the 15 week courses and I did my best work but always ended up on the dean's list when I took summer courses.
@agaobi5734 жыл бұрын
Excellent way of describing the process! Thanks
@upyours77 жыл бұрын
Its really good to have this kind of affirmation, especially in a time in my life where (I don't know if this is common, i figure it is) due to life circumstances, I've become progressively more tired and unenthusiastic where now I can't summon the energy to think quickly, but I still can't think slowly, so I'm left with not much thought that doesn't feel grating. Curious if anyone else experiences this.
@autismfromtheInside7 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I can relate to that. Lack of motivation and energy is a big problem sometimes.
@dtanya56194 жыл бұрын
Did you have Sister Pudentiana for art class too? I couldn't draw or paint a damn thing, but she gave me As because she knew I was trying. Or did you have Sister Viola for Latin? She had Alzheimer's and didn't show up to teach the class half the time. When she did show up for class, everyone had to stand at the side of their desk and give her either the English or the Latin word, depending on how she was holding her homemade flash cards. When you got the answer right, you could be seated. I was always the last one standing and she was always disgusted with me. Four years of all girl catholic high school is really a lifetime all its own.
@pamspencer57333 жыл бұрын
Hilarious,yes Catholic Nuns 🧟🙏👀
@EliCrousey Жыл бұрын
Excellent points!! Thank you for a new perspective!! 👍👍🙏🙏
@borgresearcher4 жыл бұрын
weed helps me slow down ... i can think and talk without overthinking about it, it makes me feel like myself. i can finally sit down in the couch with my friends and watch tv while having conversations, i can look at their eyes, and laugh about what they say, i didnt feel unconfortable, i didnt feel judged all the time, i just felt i belonged, and thats a feeling i believe aspies dont have often, i couldnt even sit with my family and talk, i always felt so disconnected, so not interested, i couldnt do this before ... i wish you could enlighten some of us about the use of weed and autism, some say its good, some say it makes you paranoid, but thats not what i felt
@ba67037 жыл бұрын
I really like your 10k analogy. Nice way to put that. Great video. I also have speed problems, this helps me see it a bit differently, I might use this when explaining how I work to some of my coworkers.
@autismfromtheInside7 жыл бұрын
if you have any success let me know! :)
@hotshot3518 Жыл бұрын
I would say that struggling with a disability, can be like being sexually assaulted. Because a rape victim and a person with autism/asperger's/adhd both have one thing in common: they are both survivors. You have power taken away from you and you need take back that power to be in control again. Someone can overcome their disability to function like a normal, typical person and to have the life of a happy, healthy human being. Being a survivor of sexual assault can thrive on to become better people. Saying that someone deserves to struggle with a disability, is like saying, they deserve to be raped. No one deserves to be raped.
@t2dwarrior2093 жыл бұрын
I've got a frustrating slow processing speed but have alot of endurance.
@leslock18 жыл бұрын
very well explained.
@bunnybaker22896 жыл бұрын
I have both, the more “complex” things like science, critical thinking and math I can generally blow right through, whilst reading, writing, history is painfully difficult for me. Also, even if I’m good at something I do it slowly which results in a good outcome “quality”. With things I don’t understand, it doesn’t matter how much time I spend on it it tends to be sub-par either way
@stefanrusek23223 жыл бұрын
I took Advanced Quantum Mechanics, but they didn't make me go back and take regular Quantum Mechanics. I loved that class!
@harambo882 жыл бұрын
you can hit me 20+ hours with complex science topics and i feel energyzed afterwards and i run on a much higher speed than normies. waste my energy with smalltalk or opinions that root in social forcing or just emotions and i ll cant follow for more than 2 sentences. thats bc i base my opinions on facts and their ignorance isnt equal to my knowledge. thats why those "orange man bad(even if he killed less ppl than the black dude but blacks must be good, orange man must be bad) for example really drain me. they can be faced with "orange dude killed less, stole less, brought more progress" or "blacks can be evil ppl too, read statistics about bama" and still think "yeah fact says this, still i think that, just bc my feefees" and many of them are not even botherd with representing an opinion they know isnt rooted in reality. would i walk around and tell ppl elephants are small and red, i would stop when i see a real elephant. i would be ashamed for being so wrong. watching a real elephant and still stateing them are small and red would go against my corepersonality. such ppl drain me bc my brain filters them, there is no use in wasting calories with giving them mental energy.
@keyisme13564 жыл бұрын
I wonder if you have adhd and asd. Because quick processing sounds more like ADHD. Slow processing sounds like asd because the multiple environmental inputs means we're processing more stuff and respond slower.
@steffen35 жыл бұрын
Hello Paul, what do you think about self employment than?
@ascgazz3 жыл бұрын
Great analogy
@bridge125828 жыл бұрын
thanks for makin vids man. great stuff, keep it up
@autismfromtheInside8 жыл бұрын
thanks Ryan! :)
@deborahlee81353 жыл бұрын
Great analogy Paul. I understand so much more listening to your videos. At work, yes similar! However, socially I'm chasing the cyclists; exec dysfunction has me off the bike and just looking at it wondering how I got here 😂
@Dancestar19813 жыл бұрын
We need to work in short bursts of energy and then have big rest periods that’s how we function properly we aren’t built for endurance marathons we are built for sprints
@MasiukA5 жыл бұрын
Here's a question - how might asperger's people understand/use analogy, when it's akin to figure of speech? In other words, is it more difficult to aspies to understand analogy, or are aspies better at understanding analogy because it's more direct?
@tonystephen63124 жыл бұрын
Heres one: Mind numming/long factory shift but if i could do the job isolated in a room i could manage it. Not quite your thing about speed but does that suggest an aspect of Aspergers or Introversion?
@FreedomInTruth7774 жыл бұрын
I have trouble with keeping up with someone who speaks slowly, If you are in the middle of a thought and a long pause accurse I'm already on another subject and when you continue your thought it's almost painful for me to comprehend and immediately become agitated.
@RivKit847 жыл бұрын
Great explanation, I totally relate!
@autismfromtheInside7 жыл бұрын
Glad you like it!
@aloismair37003 жыл бұрын
Wow. You nail it all. Tahnk you.
@artemischo35003 жыл бұрын
Lol I realized I have both. Such as when I was practicing Piano I HAD to play it fast or my brain would 'glitch' and I'd forget how to function. But if I want to make sure I am controlling my body parts properly (such as not dropping something) I would go slower and be hyper-aware of every little movement I make.
@miriammaldonado78483 жыл бұрын
Love the Aspie & ASD perfect wonderful world❤
@ousmand7424 жыл бұрын
I have the exact opposite problem. I have to work 10x as hard and most times I still come up short.. I’ll take your problem over mine though.
@paulmichaelfreedman83346 жыл бұрын
Hi, I use weed to slow my brain down. Been using it for the last few years. It's expensive, but I am much happier this way because I don't have so many processes going on at once. Still multitasking a lot, but much less than before.
@jedrashidul69523 жыл бұрын
Same here😁👍
@ChristianExiga2 жыл бұрын
thank you for your videos
@TheCyberSatyr4 жыл бұрын
Relatable. This is my life, this is why I don't like working on teams. Its why work is usually more draining on slow days, because everyone around me moves so slowly towards the goal when it all can be done at once
@nirtheart7 жыл бұрын
2:45 I am extremely visually too! This was an interesting topic!
@gadeyeye6268 Жыл бұрын
Wow wow 😲😳. I never thought anyone else felt thia way. I feel like I have to live life in slow motion because everyone says I move too fast doing normal things. This can lead to accidents unfortunately tho from my experience.
@Snooperzan Жыл бұрын
I’ve often said my mind prefers to sprint. It wants to work really hard or barely work at all. The problem is that most people prefer to operate in that middle ground.
@Kobolds_in_a_trenchcoat Жыл бұрын
Honestly, it's basically the opposite for me. I can't run for more than a few seconds at a time but I have pretty good endurance and could walk for days on end (yes, I realize and understand the metaphor is not meant literally but I actually mean this both metaphorically and literally). I don't mind keeping at something for a long time to understand it I kind of get bored if I understand things too readily or frustrated if I just can't understand things. I very much prefer an hourly pay structure because some days I just have off days and some days I am very much on the ball can go at a good pace; the hourly pay keeps a consistency I don't necessarily actually have. I know this was kind of all over the place but this video really does not reflect the way I think about this subject at all. No disrespect, I understand what you mean and just disagree.
@BarbaraMerryGeng4 жыл бұрын
Thank u for explaining this I am very slow about lots of things bc of a visual problem, and I must move quite carefully & slowly in order to avoid getting into accidents. - Living in a crowded big city, all the young people move about super fast & they get angry when I’m around .. 🤔🤫😒 Sorry to be slow ...🐢
@jjpeste8 жыл бұрын
It makes perfect sense!
@ASAS-dn4ve4 жыл бұрын
The extra speed works only for some activities. If an Aspie was not successful in life to get caring supporting parents, the field of bigger speed might be not discovered or not developed at all. While in other activities the speed is lower than average, a person might have difficulties just wash oneself and dress properly.
@systerkeno4 жыл бұрын
This was really helpful. Thank you sir!
@JK-es9wu4 жыл бұрын
Thank you .... I have the same problem ... but am labelled as very odd .... now I know it's not so odd ..
@hugglesnz4 ай бұрын
Oh my god, so so much THIS! I've always wanted to just "get this done, so I can get away and rest". If I can get 8 hours of work done in 2 hours, please let me go and not make me have to "look busy" for 6.
@andgate20004 жыл бұрын
Now I know why I get stuff done so much quicker than others at work....and can’t change tasks. Changing tasks or stop start really shits me.
@NAVYA117 жыл бұрын
this is awesome
@autismfromtheInside7 жыл бұрын
Thanks :)
@rebeccaelle1353 жыл бұрын
thank you
@andgate20004 жыл бұрын
Wow....this explains why I’m so efficient and fast at work......and work doesn’t know how to deal with the extra 2 hours I have up my sleeve everyday.
@nucciadrake1447 жыл бұрын
Againg your videos seam to be perferct copies of my endless trying to explaing to myself why do I find everything so difficult, why am I called lazy and I never believed I could be right until I watched your videos....
@andreachang61367 жыл бұрын
Yes all my life people have openly underestimated me which has been very frustrating. It's lead me to quite an aggressive well fuck you all mentality
@deansoderland42873 жыл бұрын
Even when I started college I ostracized myself by not buying the books to study and still passing class. By the time thermodynamics hit, I had no friends and couldn't study right. Still passed. Hit burnout on 400 history class. History did not compute, had to be felt and interpreted.
@jojozepofthejungle26554 жыл бұрын
I find slow drivers that don't drive in sync with the traffic to be unbearable.
@ReverenXero5 жыл бұрын
At those times you say you need to bring the bike to a stop, shuffle to the new direction and go again. - The brains file system is associative, as opposed to the file tree hierarchy of today's computers. I use this attribute. When the direction changes, I use the bike to jump. Jumping the whole way at once, almost guaranteed meltdown. But, Jump from current focus, to something that I can associate with my focus one way and something else another, but that next one maybe I can associate somehow with an attribute shared with the new (invader) focus (haha). By making these small jumps through my experiences, thoughts, ideas, memories, analytic conclusions/Logic, daydreams, etc... (what to the NT may appear random and seem totally unrelated in any relevant way to their eyes - I wonder if their perception of this thought process has been a factor in some people on the spectrum being mistakenly thought to be detached, or even delusional? ) Its more like a mental open world BMX track than feeling like I am suddenly on wet, cold, broken and unfamiliar asphalt, in the rain, at night. I have a bike, but its pink and has bear trap pedals. and I am barefoot. This change in focus maybe has or is going to happen, One path I take because I can fly, superhuman, show off and have fun with the transition, one path I take because I succumb to fear and just want to put my head down and power through as fast as possible until it's over so I can get back to my nice safe routines. I believe we are the next evolution. We process different. Not slower, just different. The lack of/absence of some social skills? Another gift! Most NTs are boring as fuck to be around as it is! One might even dare to chuckle the wide misconception of "disability", when a more apt term might be augmented. If they only knew. Smarter, faster, better. And we are just getting started.
@rc31514 жыл бұрын
Thank you Try to explain this to someone in a two way conversation to someone and see how fast you become mistaken for a pretentious know it all A hole. With a good analogy. I am so thankful for you.
@zXJulianXz7 жыл бұрын
I had the opposite. I find I'm always catching up with everyone. I never do anything quickly. I can do something I'm interested in for a long time, but not quickly.
@autismfromtheInside7 жыл бұрын
everyone's different I guess...
@sarahlikesmusic73477 жыл бұрын
Me too, I have processing issues so I can't understand things easy I need to read things over a couple times before I even understand the context. I figured this was a normal autism spectrum thing? Guess not
@zalzalahbuttsaab5 жыл бұрын
@@sarahlikesmusic7347 same here
@grugbug43134 жыл бұрын
Solid! KEK!
@Sunset17053 жыл бұрын
This must be why I get so irritable when people are talking, trying to explain something or tell a story… either A) I’ve already arrived at the conclusion before they’ve said it or B) I just need them to get to the point. Or it’s especially annoying when people say the same exact thing in 5 different ways during the course of a conversation… it’s like you just said that 4 times, I get it, why are we still discussing it? And so I zone out a lot in conversations (usually groups) but then miss out on being a part of the convo because I can’t keep pace with them and focus.
@sarahmi545 жыл бұрын
Duuuudee. This makes sooo much sense. Lol I can follow fast dance movements like a beast but when we slow down I'm like wtf is going on.