Asperger's Syndrome Vlog - Should You Force Yourself to Socialize?

[@Peter-GG]

Thanks Maranda, it's so good to hear from people who also struggle with this. I can honestly say I have not figured out the right balance: how to be self-giving (rather than selfish) while not denying the fact that my "self" flourishes when it has a good deal of space to itself. Sometimes I really AM glad after I've gone well out of my comfort zone to socialize, while other times (the majority) it hasn't seemed worth it. But it's impossible to know 100% ahead of time. The best answer may just be what you've said: the need for compromise and give-and-take. And a small circle of people who understand you inside and out while also being willing to encourage you to go that extra mile on occasion.

[@mandyslittlelife]

Landon Gavin Sounds like you definitely understand! It is a frustrating issue.

[@porteal8986]

I've experienced this too. I often feel, when I'm sitting alone, that I'm not doing enough to expand my social circle, or that I'm failing because I spend more time alone than most people I know

[@mandyslittlelife]

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[@JohnnyDeppFan1433]

Great video. I've experienced socialization pressure my entire life, and I'm always resisting. I know it's for my own good to socialize, but at the same time it's the last thing I want to do. Tough situation.

[@mandyslittlelife]

JohnnyDeppFan1433 Thanks for watching and commenting! Yeah, it really is a hard call sometimes to know when to give in to the pressure and when to just let it go.

[@mandyslittlelife]

***** I understand. I struggle with the same feeling of defeat. It is hard to keep trying when you know the trouble will never go away. Before I knew I had AS, I always thought it was other people who had the issues, now I realize that socially, it is me who has many of the issues. That is hard to deal with and it can be really self-defeating.