Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder

Being an adolescent male can be hard. But add to that an invisible disability affecting how you learn, how you think and how you behave… it can soon become a nightmare.
Daniel and Jakob are two teenagers coming to terms with a surprisingly common, yet largely misunderstood disability - Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder.
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[@LoveTwentyOne11]

Imagine having a child that didn’t ask to be in this world, directly causing them to have developmental issues, and then wanting nothing to do with them. Sad cruel world we live in. Don’t have children if you’re not ready for them period.

[@sleutelpunt3940]

These moms should be put down

[@RossEnzo]

It is a cruel world. Can you imagine how many people were born from a mother that drank in the 1700s-1800s.... Never mind before 1700s beer was considered sterilized (clean) water...

[@roguesnow9887]

we call those people breeders cause thats all there good for

[@sell3100]

They don't want too much to do with Daniel possibly because of the GUILT of know that they've had a hand in him being the way he is...

[@messybunmurderconnoisseur8603]

😢

[@caroline-janehall1984]

I have Fasd as well my mum got drunk every day when she was pregnant. I think it should be against the law to drink when you are pregnant or be charged with assault and child abuse.

[@youngkappakhan]

If I had a mother who smoked or drank while pregnant with me I would have nothing but burning hatred for her, I would carry it to my grave. It pisses me off that this is entirely preventable and yet it still exists and it still affects innocent lives.

[@mayalameyer6390]

caroline-jane Hall It really won’t change anything. That will only destroy more lives. An alcoholic cannot control when they drink, they need treatment in order to stop. Most women don’t even know they are pregnant when they drink and cause this to happen - within the first few weeks, it’s already too late. Free and accessible treatment would help prevent this.

[@odinpatterson5910]

My mum did meth and Xanax when she was pregnant with me i have learning disabilities and vision and hearing problems

[@jillianamoroso8877]

They take them away from the birth mom and usually get adopted off.

[@tylery6352]

@@jillianamoroso8877 who said that? I like that quote

[@thomasreese5653]

My heart goes out to these people, considering how preventable this disorder is.

[@jmokj1635]

So the mom messes him up and then abandons him for her own mistake?

[@barbaragood1967]

I don't think it is fair to judge. Sometimes there is more to the story than what a 30 minute documentary can tell.

[@xxitzsmellyxx]

Joanna Fischer,that is American tradition. How is this any different from throwing your kids out at 18 after you failed them as a parent? Everyone here calls it "pull yourself up by your bootstraps"

[@lucjo789]

Pretty much

[@stephss]

She may have FAS too...or other mental issues. Victim blaming does nothing to solve the problem. Education is.

[@edgarallanpoestheblackcat6613]

maybe he was adopted

[@Elena-to1ne]

I wish him the best

[@AttitudeLive]

Thanks Elena! Hope you enjoyed the episode!

[@FieldFarmForest]

I have adopted a boy with fasd too. My heart breaks when he gets frustrated. I fight for supports for him constantly. He’s 12 now and there is so much more going on and the future is scary and uncertain. There needs to be more understanding of this disability for these people to be successful.

[@FieldFarmForest]

Apolonio Romero Jr. much love! I’ll never give up on my boy. Coma and visit my channel!

[@AquaticFox]

Do I have it my mom drank while she was pregnant with me for the first month and I don’t have the face stuff I just get super angry over small things and break things and I have breakouts everyday and punch walls and stuff gets broken and I can’t help it I also have diagnosed adhd when I was 5 and problems with self control with (weed) I don’t do other drigs

[@jmac127]

@@AquaticFoxmy adopted 5 year old daughter we just found out has fasd..my thoughts with you

[@likethecolorgreen]

It's sad to see that it gets misdiagnosed as autism ( the more flashy and fun sounding mental disorder).

[@kreeves122]

I’ve always said, that as a competent and aware adult- if you want to smoke cigarettes, drink alcohol, do drugs, or the like, knowingly introducing a substance into your body- then have it. But, when your body becomes the vessel in which an innocent life is thriving off of- that is no longer just “your” body. To subject a fetus and eventual baby, to your own selfish personal desires is about the cruelest thing a mother can do. When I see a pregnant woman smoking a cigarette it takes all of my energy not to say something, let alone do something. It’s just sick. It’s awful. You’re setting your child up for a lifetime of both mental and physical defects. How could someone do that?

[@kated5499]

Sadly kids can get FASD in the first month of pregnancy before they know they’re pregnant. It happened to my daughter who has ARND alcohol related neurodevelopmental disorder.

[@amandaadamczyk7962]

This breaks my heart. I’m autistic and have many of the same issues. I’m 25 and “look normal”, I hold a job, but I have horrid issues with functioning and doing normal adult things. I rarely have anger outbursts but when I do it’s like I lose control of my body and I feel bad because it scares the crap out of my parents. I wasn’t diagnosed til age 23 because I was “smart” and precocious as a kid and women/girls used to not get diagnosed almost ever. But I’m a woman with autism, and people often don’t even believe me because I can keep up appearances at work or whatever but things fall apart at the end of the day. I can really feel the sadness and empathy of their parents. That’s how my parents feel and I know it. I know they are frustrated when I do something stupid and impulsive or can’t seem to do what I’m told. I really feel for them. I want to hug them all. In a way, I just get it.

[@stevethepussycat9968]

My heart goes out to this young man, he's very insightful and able to remain positive is incredible. I truly hope the he's successful in life, he deserves the world.

[@pazz1038]

Why is this condition so unrecognized? Seems likely that it's because alcohol is a legal and taxed substance with vested interest by the numerous alcohol company's, the government and society as a whole who are so emotionally/socially dependant on alcohol. This is purposefully suppressed because of shame, guilt and greed.

[@linzwalker436]

And men can't get laid by sober women

[@hellknightmordred7655]

I can totally relate with being treated as a child or the fear of being ridiculed. I too have FASD and have tried to run from it for most of my life. Unfortunately their is no cure no escaping it. So you must accept it.

[@caroline-janehall1984]

@Apolonio Romero Jr. FASD is not a disease its a syndrome but unlikely most syndromes it is completely patentable. You saying FASD is a disease is like you saying Down syndrome is a disease , both are syndromes not diseases.

[@gaylecheung3087]

It’s really really selfish for a parent to drink while they’re pregnant

[@juleleo2488]

I agree, but just so you know. Also the father's drinking can cause fasd. So men also need to take care for their health. The seeds still make 50% of the child.

[@helenwalker5704]

Alcohol is such a dangerous drug. Legal and deadly. He deserves a better life.

[@sadlife8495]

this guy seems more mature than me and im turning 21 soon, and im perfectly normal, this guy deserves compassion and help

[@lbgdawarrior332]

He doesn't even look 18

[@caroline-janehall1984]

@Apolonio Romero Jr. that's easier said then done sadly 😥 Because in away that most people could never understand, people who have FASD in way have to grave for the person who they should of been. I'm not saying not to be proud of who you are but in reality you should be a completely different version of the person that you are and to know that it's completely patentable is a hard part.

[@superawesomechannel9371]

yes, people treated people badly. luck of empathy and companion.

[@shawnafsworld7431]

I've got F.A.S too I'm 25 year's old I was adopted at the age of 2 years in the USA, I was born at 7 months at birth I weighted 1 Pound and 3 Ounces The Alcohol did permanet Damage to my Brain. Caused a Hole in my heart I also had an aneurysm. My Left ventricular Artrty had a defect A.S.D / Atrial Septic Defect. I had surgery in Denver Co. at 3 month's old I was taken away from my natural mom ( Due to Severe Neglect ) and family I was placed in the South Dakota, Foster care system ( At 1 year I was Severely developmentally Delayed at this point in my short life I had Just Rolled over onto my Stomach ) I was also born with a condition called "Hypotonia" It's Weakness in both my Muscles and joints through out my whole body. I was adopted after I turned 2 years old. a Dr who Diagnosed me with Having Low Muscle Tone once told my Adopted Mom that I'd Never be able to walk, talk or even eat normally He said I'd be Wheelchair Bound for my entire life. He was wrong He said theres nothing you can do to help her. my mom thought Yes there is something I can do. So She took me to McDonald's Every day and i'd play on their indoor Playground equipment. Teachers would come to my house from 45 + minutes away and they would work with me.

[@lashawnablanton4649]

Shawna Fletcher praise God for all the healing you have recieved. Stay strong sweetie God bless

[@Chuy-pv9mx]

One pound????

[@penelope-oe2vr]

Awesome!

[@HilaryIsOkayssss]

I hope you are doing well. Sending you hugs.💜💜

[@shawnafsworld7431]

Hilary Thank you I’m doing good and I’m Also Autistic Too . I hope you’re doing good too during this whole Covid-19 Quarantine time.

[@goesbysteve]

I find this so sad. No matter if he has FASD or ADHD or just gets angry because of his early life and do things he shouldn’t. No human life deserves to be on the street, with a low quality of life when we have so many luxuries day to day that end up in the garbage. The NZ parents latter in the film are beautiful people and I hope they get support.

[@josiahkellogg7188]

I have FASD

[@99rylee]

It's cruel to abandon their own kid with a developmental diagnosis like fasd.

[@cindycarter4441]

HRD 77 Yes especially when it's his mother's fault☹

[@lorrolorra169]

Cindy Carter no it's no women aren't responsible for everything moron.

[@Weykpotis]

Do you know what causes FASD?

[@jacksonsalyerbehr7871]

Lorro Lorra dumb bitch

[@yama5182]

HRD Heather 77 ...🙄

[@PrincessKurae]

Interesting, by the way how they talk you would never expect them to have such a disability.

[@tjrides2s753]

@Cara Ferdinands FAS can absolutely affect speech.

[@caroline-janehall1984]

I also have FASD and whenever I talk I have to always go through it in my head before I say it, so I get out what I want to say the right way how I want to. And most people don't even realise that I'm doing it because I have had 37 years of practice and trying to hid it and pass off as being nerotyprical and it is extremely exhausting. I can see that this is what he is doing 24/7

[@Sumuddy]

NEVER JUST GIVE UP ON SOMEONE ESPECIALLY FAMILY. IF THEY DONT LOVE THEMSELVES THEN SOMEONE NEEDS TOO

[@aplam94]

I FASD, ADHD, ANXIETY, LEARNING DISABILITIES, CELIAC DISEASE, IRON DEFICIENCY, ACID REFLUX. I was adopted into a Chinese family at 4 months. I have never done drugs, alcohol, or smoke. I can’t find a job due to my issues and I qualified to do the job but people think I’m gonna be to much to handle.

[@michellesimpson6639]

I'm sorry for the problems you suffer with...but you seem to be a very intelligent person and I'm sure you can find a way to work through and manage your issues...don't stop trying to find a job, someone, somewhere will recognize your potential and when they do, that is when you can show the world what you can achieve with persistence, patience, hard work and self control

[@secluse]

I was a psychiatric social worker in the US working at the most intensive outpatient service level for 8 years, and most intensive inpatient level for one. I can attest that there is a huge lack of education in healthcare on FASD. We would see cases where it was clear it was likely the issue, though a total lack of resources for us as professionals in regards to continuing education. I can't count the number of trainings I've been to and/or have received advertisements for TBI, Autism and Mental Retardation yet none for FASD. Individuals with FASD instead get diagnosed with a litany of disorders instead of FASD. Bipolar, Intermittent Explosive Disorder, and as children ADHD. Even if these conditions are co-occurring it doesn't address the elephant in the room and these guys of course don't fully respond to treatment since the FASD is never addressed. Even when it is the resources for how to treat aren't widely available to healthcare providers. As a psychotherapist I've at times felt helpless and left to piece together resources on my own. I've seen firsthand countless times the 0-120mph in regards to anger outbursts, struggle with impulse control, difficulty with being adaptive, understanding social behaviors, being able to plan. It's definitely the lead cause of incarceration, homelessness, substance abuse, employment difficulties it's really a lot of tragedy that could be avoided. As a healthcare professional I can say that my colleagues and I wanted the education and the resources like specialized services for the FASD. In the US it is also difficult since Developmental Disability services, Mental Health services, and Substance Abuse services tend to be run by separate administrations. When all really need to be working together. At times having for instance a Developmental Disability like FASD excludes that individual from mental health services, and substance abuse services lack the knowledge to work with these folks so they have an incredibly high drop out and kick out rate in addiction services. Not to mention that when Developmental Disabilities are missed in childhood it's next to impossible to get that funding as an adult. FASD definitely is the diagnosis that is missed the most in childhood. It's a mess and almost always the FASD cases fall through the cracks. In mental health we actually aren't allowed to diagnose it since developmental disabilities fall in a completely different category of assessment, and once again near impossible to get for undiagnosed adults. So we would have to as a team unofficially make the diagnosis and do what we could based on the mother's addiction history and diagnostic criteria. We've even gone as far as pulling pictures of the facial features on our phone and comparing it to the client. I don't even know if FASD qualifies for Developmental Disability funding in the US since in every case we'd try and try to get the services for assessment and fail. Without the official diagnosis we couldn't even apply for it.

[@yeahtoast2011]

This guy is intelligent. He needs a job.

[@AttitudeLive]

Thanks for watching yeah toast 😊

[@oreos4366]

I'm smart too, can't hold down a job though.

[@anniespitz7026]

Please tell me they didn't just show his stash spot? Uncool man.

[@dianacruz5985]

Charity for these individuals as they can be considered as vulnerable adults and prone to all avenues of exploitation. Help maximize their potential.

[@missloriparker]

Women who drink during pregnancy, it is all over the map as to why.. some don't know right away they are pregnant, others have a disease (alcoholic), some were raped, dealing with depression, on and on, so please don't judge them, in reality they need help. ❤ take care, an lets try to take care of each other.✨

[@devinpaul9026]

No, that would be the VICTIMS who need the help. You don't "logic", do you?

[@vanderbam2741]

@@devinpaul9026 people who have addictions are victims.

[@devinpaul9026]

@@vanderbam2741 Yeah, you DEFINITELY don't "logic".

[@sarahalbers5555]

If you have a substance abuse, deal with it before you get pregnant. It is the solution to the problem. If you can't quit, don't have a baby. Simple as that. I have 2 friends who adopted children from foreign countries who had FASD. None of these children will ever be able to live indepentally. They also need a lot of medical care. 2 of the girls are progressively going blind. Of course, these are extreme examples, but it can all be attributed to drinking and using during pregnancy.

[@Ado_Remi]

That Crossroads place is a real gem

[@99rylee]

His mother's lying

[@secluse]

Most certainly, the first guy even looked like he had the facial features. Also his behavior and struggles are classic FASD. His sister clearly has the facial features. It's very unlikely if mom drank while pregnant with one child that she didn't drink for the other pregnancies. Alcoholism is also grossly under diagnosed in women, and the services for all substance abuse are poor.

[@Brokennindeathloop620]

My mom is the same, I actually remember being diagnosed young. I can't find it any records but she denies everything. I had the growth, slow growth problems, extremely slow growth. Just it all makes sense. I'm extremely hyperactive, I could go all day. School was fucking super hard, I'd read the sections then I'd look at the questionsvand unable to answer any if the damn questions, so always had to look back, to try to find them. I never could remember every step so projects we're impossible, everyone seemed to know what to do. I was always looking around trying to copy. Even if it was just explained. PowerPoints? How do I do it all, I'd still not know how to create one because all the stupid steps , I could explain it all verbally . basketball I couldn't remember what to do in plays because there's many if them. Fasd it all makes sense, and now like bills and shit, all that everyday crap..... I seriously think I have a pretty high iq too but like seriously..... The guy in the video feels a lot like me, he looks perfectly capable of everything

[@chrisconnor8086]

i think hes lying about his mom because hes embarrassed actually. his grandparents obviously raised him because his mother could not

[@Duh_wettest95]

@@Brokennindeathloop620 adhd

[@caroline-janehall1984]

@@chrisconnor8086 na he's not lying about his mum because he has all the classic features of FASD which he could only have thought his mum's alcohol drinking in her pregnancy. You can't get FASD any other way.

[@mariaameral6007]

If his mother had been drinking while driving and hit someone with her car she would be in jail for a time to pay for her crime.

[@queenofscorpios8518]

I have the same disability thanks for my birth mother, but it made me the person I am today. I was bullied because of my behavior I couldn’t control 😓

[@shadrach6299]

When women smoked until the 80’s, it wasn’t common knowledge that cigarettes were harmful to a fetus. I had children in the 60’s & ‘70’s. Only in the 70’s did the doctor say alcohol is probably harmful. They said nothing about cigarettes. I didn’t smoke or drink so it didn’t pertain to me. My step child’s mother smoked and drank heavily and those kids were MESSED UP behaviorly.

[@MrStartpointprod]

Thank you for sharing this, the conversation around FASD has to be a much larger one than it currently is. I know some of the people in your report, and I also know what these parents and the people living with FASD are dealing with day to day. It was nice to hear from the people directly affected, we need more of that conversation especially.

[@AttitudeLive]

Well thank you for watching and commenting MrStartpointprod! We hope you enjoyed our channel! Much work still to be done!

[@penelope-oe2vr]

It's a disability and should be treated as such. This man needs help and a place to live. :'(

[@redgringrumboldt8983]

He has an extensive criminal record, he will have a difficult time getting people to trust him.

[@chelsbnz]

I know you can't get a benefit without an address, but why doesn't someone put him up for 2 weeks at their place, even in a tent, while he gets a WINZ appointment with the help of a social worker even, so he can get at least a $220 a week benefit and get lodgings somewhere in Blenheim. There is no need for a kiwi citizen in NZ to not have income and be on the streets...

[@marykay8587]

chelsbnz they probably have but had problems with him regarding house rules so got kicked out maybe left....

[@kathighfield]

You have to have a permanent address you can’t so called “sofa surf” you have to be a named member of an address

[@andreawood8306]

@@marykay8587 Ur probably right he seems like a wanderer to me . I just wanted to give him a pillow and a snuggly hat 😄

[@camellia8625]

The services need to adapt their rules and policies to be able to provide support to people without an address.

[@latayabagley4189]

I have fetal Alcohol Syndrome spectrum disorder

[@raggedy_esh]

All the best to this young man with such a positive spirit

[@ElysePearl]

Great video, really informative I look forward to a time in New Zealand we can recognize FASD as a disorder and have services to care for people who suffer with this I have FASD and constantly fear for my future because people see this disorder as a criminal problem rather than a mental health problem

[@AttitudeLive]

Thanks for watching Elyse Pearl

[@akufromthefuture7159]

A girl i grew up with has fetal alcohol syndrome. She's had it very rough. From a mother that still drinks daily from breakfast to bed all this time (we are both 28 now), to a grandmother that has taken "care" of her all these years with an iron fascist style of parenting. Very abusive. Guys have taken advantage of her in all the worst ways. She had a hard time in school as well, socially and academically. She STILL somehow was a total sweetheart that whole time. From the physical, mental and sexual abuse she dealt with, a lesser person would've snapped. She was a little different, having her own disposition that some people didn't get. But it wasn't from FAS. She was just a character. She struggled in school but only because she was so severely broken emotionally. She didnt try. But in terms of intelligence, she was smart. She just didn't learn at the pace or how others did. But after high school, she got a job and started working towards leaving home. Her grandmother wouldn't allow her to work and save up until she was out of school. Not to focus on studies, but so she couldn't leave so soon. They needed a house slave, so they did what they could to slow her progress. She eventually got a car, and that's when i started to lose her as a friend. The sweet girl became bitter and pushed everyone away. Though i hardly blame her. She met a 40 year old guy at 19 and he took her in to "save" her from her family. He beat and raped her whenever he did certain hard drugs. When he broke her jaw and caused a miscarriage, he went away and she returned home. Sadly, she is now on disability and spends her days heavily drinking with her mom, NEVER leaving the house aside from 2-4 trips a month to the store to stock up on food and ridiculous amounts of booze. She stopped talking to me, as whenever she got drunk she would yell at me over the phone saying how i judged her for her life (which i NEVER did.), and how since I'm a guy I'm nothing but a demon. I dont blame her for how she feels towards men, but i was like a brother to her.. I did EVERYTHING I could to uplift her and show her how awesome she really was. But she's gone now. She turned into her mother, sadly. I've told her i will ALWAYS be there for her if she needed me, but she blocked me. Not once did i preach, suggest different choices, stifle her plans, or wrong her. I only showed her love and patience, figuring she needed to come to her own decisions, as too many people forced their will upon her already.. Maybe letting her spread her wings while around me was wrong. Maybe I should've sternly told her how i worried about her bad choices.. But i didnt want to rule or influence her in any way. I wanted to lead by example. She's since had a kid with a guy, but lost her to dcfs bc of her violent household and chronic binge drinking. Hannah, you will always be my sister. I love and miss you. I hope you'll be happy someday and find healthy love. I also hope you someday realize none of the abuse was your fault. You have ALWAYS been, and ALWAYS will be worthy, good, valid, important, etc. You are enough. Please be safe. I'll be there if you ever need me. To your grandmother and mother.... Shame on you both. You both contributed to the brightest light dimming down to a slight glow.

[@aspenmargaret1881]

It’s not really cool to share someone else’s story like this. As a survivor when people tell ours stories without permission it’s taking away our right to choose in a way that feels like what our abusers did.

[@sell3100]

@@aspenmargaret1881 I agree but I also think Aku meant well.

[@baileytt06]

@@aspenmargaret1881 you wouldn’t like Reddit

[@Jdjustsaying]

What a shame the animal lover has a job at steggles. I hope he can get a better. Fortunately he is surround by a loving and supportive family. The poor guy without support is struggling alone, I wish here were more services for these folk. 💗

[@AttitudeLive]

Thanks for watching Janet!Hope you enjoyed our channel!

[@heathersohappy2833]

Janet Donald , not being snarky, what services would you like to see available and what conditions must be met to receive the services?

[@mandlin4602]

Omg the dyslexic lad in school. I never really had behaviour problems, I was a people pleaser. But I got called lazy and struggled with my working memory. And all the teachers even after my diagnosis said I was lazy, that I wasn’t trying hard enough. Seriously you shouldn’t go into teaching if you’re not passionate about educating all children.

[@mandlin4602]

Let me clarify that I do not have FASD I am just dyslexic and could related to the being called lazy part.

[@mattjay1]

Dude is sharp as a tack but seems hypo, just like he said himself. Hopefully can channel that energy into something fulfilling for the future.

[@LauraTeAhoWhite]

FASD is real, iv'e seen allot of people with FASD in the industry I work in. Its definitely a disability that left unchecked can lead to reckless decision making and lack of comprehension.

[@Durka-Durka]

What industry do you work in?

[@LauraTeAhoWhite]

@@Durka-Durka I was working in forestry

[@nickybee7920]

I think i have a touch of fasd my mom slowed her drinking during pregnancy..but still kept drinking. Selfish person she was.

[@juliestevenson9151]

How unfair life is for some poor soul s with this disability

[@jacobkelley7523]

i have FASD im 25 and looking for support

[@ShadowBeats1]

As someone who has and lives with FASD I pray for this guy

[@rae7864]

Sending all the love and hugs to him 😊💓

[@joannehaines1487]

Hi I have fasd and I am 29 years old sometimes I wish I did not have because I got bullied at high school I went to a specials school that helped a little bit but I did not know that I had the fasd until I was 19 years old then I under stud why I was diffent to everyone my really mum did drink when I was in her but she died when I was 9 years old if it was not for my adopted mum I would not be were I am I work as a actor it has not been easy but I enjoy my self. I hope you can find a good job you love doing

[@linzwalker436]

Thank you for bringing awareness to this.

[@raeperonneau4941]

Rivers are magical places. So glad he has one to go to for solace.

[@jordanluckett1898]

I have falcholol syndrome as well as a small seizure disorder, I find the best way to help is just forget the past and be happy man with whatever you do besides drugs

[@jordanluckett1898]

I don’t do drug, I don’t know if I said that right

[@virgomitchell5918]

This makes me feel sad for him even though I have mild cerebral plasy and I have mild autism and I have little bit of Depression and I don't think it's fair that people with fetal alcohol syndrome should be picked on and honestly we're all equal to our people and treated with respect and kindness especially love

[@ciarasingleton4419]

he has an amazing attitude

[@noahlangdonreidy882]

As a person with fasd I can confirm it’s a living hell 90 percent of the time

[@nicswee8049]

The blonde guy should become a model, so handsome!! Wish them all the best. They are so intelligent and have so much to give

[@loulou3676]

Ngl, Jakob's hideout looks super comfy

[@gardener5857]

Then I think of all the chronically homeless. It's a tough world for lots of people. Thank you for posting this.

[@Jeff13R]

Fasd for me has 3 triggers; 1. Brain to mouth(trying to formulate sentences) 2. Ear to brain (hearing or listening) 3.tunnel focus (unwavered focus) 1.If im brain to mouthing and ear to brain happens my brain to mouth is gone or the other person becomes offended.. 2.If im trying to ear to brain and my brain to mouth happens then ì miss everything. And thus in lies my disability. 3.If i am focused on something i miss most things.

[@Gallamanji]

Being homeless in NZ looks chill bruh

[@sadlife8495]

i hope everyone can get help, i wish i would help but i am too selfish and out for myself

[@kateg9302]

I can see the facial features

[@yaiyasmin]

Everyone from New Zealand seems so nice

[@gabe-po9yi]

You’d think FASD would qualify for resources, just on the basis of cost to society. Those with Down Syndrome or ASD very rarely cause problems with the law; not so with FASD.

[@camellia8625]

Nice to know it is only worthwhile helping someone with a developmental disability if it stops them negatively impacting others.

[@AppaloosaDreams]

18:45 I heard dyslexia is more common in left-handed people.

[@AaaaAaaa-iw6sx]

Yeah 20% of the population is dyslexic compared to 11% of the population that is left handed

[@jessmarie4203]

I know this guy how you going its jess from levin

[@Boneskullzy]

For me I was born in 1990 before they knew that it was a spectrum disorder, that and my mom lied about it, drinking with me when she was pregnant with me... But she lied to the doctors she lied to everybody. I was adopted. The state took me away from her. The same with my brothers and sisters. I qualify for every check mark in the fasd checklist. I'm going to go get tested next week. I know that what's going to happen is I'm going to find out it's the truth. my mom drank with me when she was pregnant with me... The thing is when I met her when I was 18 she tried to tell me this but she told me in a way where it sounded as she was drinking after I had gotten taken away. But in fact it was before. And it's really f****** fantastic that I find this out when I'm 27 years old, instead of you know when I maybe four or five like I should have? The thing is I'm not pissed off at my parents, the ones who adopted me, for not looking into it when I brought it up a long time ago... I'm more pissed about the fact that my own birth mother didn't want me wanted to get rid of me and ended up pushing out and not going through with it seeing.? Why couldn't my mother have gotten a real abortion? Why did she have to drink with me? Why did she lie to the doctors? Why did she lie to her best friend? I asked the halfway house lady who is still working there to this very day whether or not my mother drink while she was pregnant and whether or not that was the reason why she had to give me up. She didn't want to tell me but she looked down and looked very sad. She said I was a good person.

[@Boneskullzy]

How am I a good person? How am I a good person? Im no one. I'm nothing. My entire life I have lived wondering why why am I so different than everybody else? Why am I so much more capable of understanding simple things than everybody else? Why was it so hard for me why was I so stubborn and arrogant towards people who just wanted to help me? Why did I do things that were malicious to my friends and my family on purpose to make them hate me? I could have avoided all this! I could have avoided all of this! This all could have been avoided! This wasn't necessary mother! This wasn't necessary at all! I didn't have to go through life living the way I did I didn't have to go through life wondering why I was so messed up I didn't have to go through life with behavior problem after Behavior problem going from counselor to counselor to Counselor ending up with no friends at 27 years old and worthless piece of s*** human being you can't even take care of their own son because they're afraid of their own anger issues.... I hate my life. I wish I was dead! I wish my mother would have drank herself to death or me to death! I never deserve to live it should have been other people! Nobody like me deserves to live why because I'm a fucking cripple? Yeah I deserve to live because I'm messed up in the head? Down syndrome people don't deserve to be aborted because they're special?! Fuck that!!!! No way man!!! Times 5 hundred

[@Boneskullzy]

I'm tired of living the way I do I'm tired of living in this hell I'm tired of wondering why... But the truth is nobody f****** cares nobody's ever cared nobody will ever care I'm the same me I was when I was born I'm going to be the same me I am when I die. I'm just a worthless piece of s*** human being who never figured it out. I wish I would have known when I was younger that I had a disease that was caused by someone hating me. Maybe I would have killed myself sooner maybe I would have saved Justin and ended up hurting myself either way I'm done. The only thing that is keeping me alive is my son. And day after day I'm realizing how worthless I am to hiim, how little he respects me how little he cares for me how little he loves me. He's better off without me. Everybody is. Everybody's better off without me everyone was better off without me not that I don't love my son I would love him to death I just wish that he wasn't born to a piece of s*** like me. I don't know what to do anymore. Day after day I'm getting closer to saying f*** it and just doing whatever I don't know. I don't want to be a dramatic I don't want attention. I don't want people to throw me a pity party I don't want them to say "oh you poor thing come here it's okay I love you you're beautiful etc" Because it's not true none of it's true I'm not a beautiful person I'm not a beautiful soul I'm not a beautiful mind I'm not a beautiful thought I'm not a beautiful anything I'm not beautiful cells I'm not beautiful. I'm ugly and Petty and worthless and mean and shallow and hateful and spiteful and rageful and gross and and mean and Thoughtless and careless and hopeless and and I don't think it had and I always f****** and I always run short and I always fall short of my own expectations and I always fall short of everybody else's expectations which I make my own expectations because I don't know what the f****** shoot for because I'm a loser through and through I've never gotten the bar I've never gotten past this I've always missed the ball I've always shot for the whooping missed I have always failed I am a failure I will always be a failure Before I die I should get failure tattooed onto my forehead so that people know The world is sick... Or maybe I'm the disease.... I'm not sure what to believe anymore I don't think it matters does it After all we're here of our own accord. Nobody's holdinour hand And despite trillions of years of evolution through chaotic circumstance that's purely coincidental, I am here today speaking on this f****** device A hunk of plastic gallium and other metals transformed into something I can use to talk with people who are also mean on the other side of the f****** universe And I took it for granted I took all of it for granted I never wanted to live I never asked to be born But I'm hereright I see no benefit I give to anyone... I see nothing when I look at myself... I'm just Hollow empty worthless. And I will remain as such until the day the universe takes me back or until the day I reset myself and start over as someone new.

[@highiqmemes9921]

@@Boneskullzy how are you doing?

[@madeleine8977]

I liked these boys. They have so much to deal with and it is a medical condition. So few of us realize that.

[@thetortoise4107]

Not that this matters but looking at the childhood photos Jakob definitely had some of the facial features of FAS (not as evident as a young adult looks like), surprised he wasnt diagnosed before

[@samlee3185]

I have fas too...im 40 now. But everyone you trust abandones you for seemingly small stupid reasons, i see people who are worse than you but they even your mom treats you like a monster. Thats really annoying. People are soft, and odd. I always have problems with everyone but more by minorities like gays, blks, Asians etc. i was Buddhist but my friend whom was scammed me. I feel I act better than most of them, it seems. People come up with reasons to go after you.

[@brendaseager7371]

Maybe someone should start a petition and standing up for the people with FAS, and try to get this condition covered as a disability! This is a condition that is caused by a government controlled substance!!! It is the same as children born with opiates in their system, another government controlled substance!!! I live in Ontario and lucky, enough the children born with these conditions can and do get help from the government in the way of schooling and programs to help them handle the hardships, come of age because they have either of these conditions, they qualify for disability assistance, this allows for them to to afford housing and food, plus they can access programs. There is so many children born with these conditions that programs do have a long waiting list and at times, help is slow getting, but do not give up keep fighting for what you are entitled to and good luck.

[@stephenstromhenriksen4995]

I have fasd. I wish that woman would not t drink when they are pregnant. Hope that this two man have a good life and get a girlfriend or a wife soon

[@indeliblystampedsupertramp3252]

Sorry...... i don't understand. How can anyone fet FASD if the mother hasn't drunk alcohol while pregnant. It seems a ridiculous diagnosis

[@thomaswhite2579]

she's lying

[@marykay8587]

She’s lying... or he is due to shame (which he mentioned earlier)

[@neeshapatterson2730]

I have FAS. And ADHD, it sucks. I can’t rem a lot, everyone has to help me with stuff it sucks 😖, my moods are up and down all day everyday it sucks and my mum is an alcoholic and drank a lot with me a lot, and she dosent think it’s her fault that I have this problem 😒 they can’t take responsibility

[@boytusok9197]

You also need to take responsibility im an alcoholic myself my grandma died from drinking my mom has fas was drinking when i grew up she smoked crack for a while but i pushed forward got a full time job for almost 4 years but im seeking help with alcoholism now

[@Cecilia-vv7vc]

@@boytusok9197 why does she also need to take responsibility for what? For being a victim of a selfish mother?

[@annetteslife]

I know someone who has FAS and we were friends for over a decade

[@zakford8039]

Poor guy...hes really smart too..he needs a break and a home

[@rfry200]

Very sad. Hopefully Daniel will get help in prison.

[@AttitudeLive]

Thanks for watching and your support Robert 😊

[@RossEnzo]

You don’t realize that before the 1900s (industrial revolution) it was unheard of to have clean water. Clean water in most areas meant river water mixed with alcohol, and most people have had FASD in their lineage. That said, it is sad how much it exists even in the 2020s, heck the fact that people are still producing children is pretty incredible FASD or not

[@mel0-NRG]

Alcohol was used Iow concentration, low enough to sterilize the water.

[@linzwalker436]

Great video

[@franklinriley7074]

Those rolls look 🔥

[@jordanluckett1898]

Exercise is very good too it stimulates your brain and doesn’t really make you think as much so is yoga

[@shaneo5436]

Both good guys. I like them.

[@howtowithelizabeth7513]

Why are they smoking so young 😥😥

[@wadduphotthing]

How do you know if you have the facial features?

[@hiphopboy29]

Thin upper lip Eyes closer togther No filtrum above lip

[@maureenerickson-robertshaw3985]

FASD can happen to children of women that drink but don't abuse alcohol. Some women have a glass of wine with dinner the first few weeks they are pregnant because they don't know they are pregnant yet. Most women don't know they are pregnant for 2-5 weeks. The social stigma does not help women to seek help for their children. They might not even know it is possible their child could have it. Education is key. No amount of alcohol is safe if you may be pregnant.

[@lonesomebeetroot3376]

Education is key. For about the first 10 weeks baby is not pulling nutrition from the mother but it’s own yolk sac. Placenta hasn’t set up shop yet. Consuming alcohol in the very early weeks of pregnancy does not cause this.

[@lonesomebeetroot3376]

@@user-615frlxxcd do you not know what a placenta is?

[@H4CK41D]

they are just so misunderstood

[@HumanimalChannel]

Very interesting. It's sad that not everyone will be able to overcome fasd barriers, or learn to find the positive in it, in the way that Jacob did. And we are only at the start of the swell. A few months ago there was a terrible incident in America, a woman pushed an elderly man off a public bus. He died. With the brief info available and photo I believe that the perpetrator has fasd. I don't say this to insult anyone. To make any assumptions about criminality. But it just seemed instantly obvious to me. I would be interested to know if anymore viewers know of this case and would agree? Edit: her name is Cadesha Bishop.

[@brittnyloveridge6018]

One would think being human one would want to fully understand human nature and anatomy. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome is 100% preventable if people are educated on the matter. This is 2019 how is it possible woman can question whether alcohol will harm their unborn child!?!

[@cinamontaste]

Beautiful! 'Sure im different, but m instill human!' Xxxx

[@jrsixowfour8674]

Heart broken

[@marialerenzo86]

Why don't you move here?

[@brendaseager7371]

I agree with the lady that said how sad for this boy that his family doesn’t want to have much to do with him even though, it was the mothers doing! This guy has to stop acting like everybody is telling him what to do and trying to understand that people want to help him finally. I know what this condition is, due to having siblings born with it as well, and it has made their lives hard but, with help with others helping them get into housing, disability benefits and medical, they are doing well. There rent and bills get paid automatically and they are given the difference to do whatever they need to with. It is a hard life but my siblings cope fairly well now. I don’t know where this video is made from but, there not classing fas, not a disability, is causing a lot of hard lives for these people, it IS a disability, that apparently, your government body has a major one!

[@kreeves122]

2:30 | If that’s not FAS then idk what is! This poor kid has every single facial and physical feature of FAS. From the low muscle tone, the downward slopped mouth, low nose bridge, close together eyes, low set ears…

[@K119_]

Wide set eyes are also a huge giveaway

[@sarahalbers5555]

Classic signs.

[@thetortoise4107]

yeah even with the second kid when his adoptive mom was saying that he didnt have facial features, you could see in his childhood photos that he actually did have them as well (they seem to have cleared up as he grew though)

[@feeltheillinois]

he walks so much he should become a triathlete or something

[@AggressiveMenace]

One question, is that UK?

[@powerwise234]

New Zealand.

[@katharinajanzen8986]

I have Fas and schizophrenia,my dad have Fas and schizophrenia and my mum too.Its very hard.I wish the parants don't born me.This is not live

[@DD_11111]

Such a shame for him. Not his fault.

[@fleamau]

Who is here for sam o nella?

[@blacksupra001]

Sal - Monella

[@nimmernomma8830]

@@blacksupra001 ? The KZbin channel

[@jessmarie4203]

I get you i got it too 🙂

[@5p674]

That kid who said "I kind of like doing my own thing"...There's the problem right there...being allowed to do his own thing...no consequences.

[@lizardkingwalking]

I don't think it's alcohol. I think it's rolled tobacco papers.

[@Pazuzu-]

Drinking during pregnancy: that is so empowering.