Autism Morning Routine *HORRIBLE SLEEPER* | Aussie Autism Family

[@aussieautismfamily]

What time did your kids wake up today?

[@whitneymason406]

5 AM

[@cassiegodfrey8783]

We had a 3am wake up then back to sleep at 4:40am. I find if we have night wakes it happens exactly 8hrs after falling asleep and last 1-2hrs.

[@cs-td8nh]

2am 😵‍💫

[@elizabethlamb6166]

645! Slept in a bit 😂

[@bellaluci9844]

Around 4 am.

[@bellaluci9844]

Your daughter is the sweetest little girl! She's very independent and will grow up to be your helper!

[@stacymershon4328]

I love the realism because I have 2 twin grandsons who have severe autism and life is not easy. They are 11 yo and like you said they require every minute of their mom’s attention. It’s good to know we’re not alone.

[@liz51]

The beginning of this video breaks my heart. You're such a good mom 💛

[@alisonsui4674]

Its amazing how jacob can talk so much now . Keep up the great work

[@mathilda6763]

I feel for you, Jacob. Being not able to sleep when you're so tired is the worst thing...especially if your haven't slept properly for days or weeks. I didn't sleep very consistently when I was a child and it made me a lot more sensitive and easily overwhelmed. it sucked. As a small child "moderate" body contact (as in sitting next to my parents and leaning against them, but not getting hugged) and keeping the stimuli low (no electric light, dark curtains are good if there are streetlights close windows or use ear plugs to reduce sounds, make sure the pyjamas and beddings are sensory friendly (for me it was 100%cotton or linen, smooth.)) )helped to make those nights less frustrating. My dad liked playing the guitar in the dark for me or hum a song, that was good too. As an adult sometimes redoing my evening ritual ( getting up, making "good night" tea, brush teeth, for kids maybe read a book or sing a song) is helpful to get me in the mindset to try going to sleep again. Very well-know audio books (extra quiet) can help...the familiar story/voices/sounds distracts me from my frustration, but it's not new enough to make me stay awake to keep listening. I also take Melatonin now. Some nights, even with all your efforts are just horrible no-good nights. Poor Jacob. I can understand you're frustrated. if the night before was really bad or you didn't get any sleep... If you can sleep during the day, do that maybe for a little nap for an hour or so can help get you through the day, but don't fall into the trap of sleeping to long during the day...it makes it even harder to keep a healthy sleep schedule the following evening. also going outside after such night and maybe take a walk or play with a ball or kite or make a trip to the forest to look at plants (depends on you interests) can be good. being out in daylight and getting physically tired but keeping the stimuli as low as possible sometimes can help making the next night less bad. Good luck. :)

[@sarahgumball8597]

This is so sweet :)

[@skiptotheend]

Big hug Jess. I really hope you get some rest soon. You look absolutely beautiful with your new hair. I love the cut!

[@juliemachin737]

You are an awesome Mum to your two little cuties!! Your new hair cut really suits you. Have you tried playing some soft Meditation music to help Jacob fall asleep? Take care of yourself. x

[@trippelleasmr8650]

430am was when my son woke today. Your lashes look great! And love your hair jess. I hope you got to have a nap this day you filmed this x

[@soundiramdeva]

Your children both are Cute ....little one is beautiful kid....awesome 😍😍😍😍

[@angelicateznadavis6387]

My little one wakes up at 630 , it has been the first night during the week that he slept all night , the others nights he has been awake 4 or 5 hours until he fell asleep for a little bit or sometimes he is ready for the day , I understand your sleeping deprivation, hope things get better for Jacob ❤️❤️

[@swissaussieadventures2201]

You are amazing, Jacob and Jazz are so lucky to have you. ❤️❤️

[@rjwalln]

Last night was 8:30 to 4:50. Half the time he wakes 2:00-4:00 and then sleeps until 6:30. I feel for you and your struggle! Interrupted sleep night after night with no end in sight is indescribably challenging. You are not alone! ❤

[@John-zn3vf]

Appreciate keeping it real! Do you go back to bed during the day after these kind of nights?

[@alishawhitelow2151]

[@bridgettefarber4692]

I swear we have the same boy just I'm American. My boy is the same way. For 4 years we have not slept through the night. We will get through this. This is all for them. Its so tough to be sleep deprived constantly but i wouldn't give him anything chemically that you don't feel 100% safe with. You're not alone we are all in this together learning along the way😊💙💙💙💙

[@aussieautismfamily]

so tough hey! at least we arent alone!

[@franciscatimm6099]

Same my son is 5 in 3 weeks and I can count on one hand the number of times he has slept through the night.

[@melissablausey700]

Our son woke up at 3 am. this morning, which is typical he usually goes to sleep around 7pm. and wakes up several times during the night but he is officially awake at 3 am. I feel your frustration, your exhaustion, your struggle, you are not alone. I'm not sure how long this phase (if it's a phase) will last but it is extremely hard and I wish for you to get a few nights of "unicorn sleep." Thank you for sharing your experience, it helps us feel a little less lonely!

[@aussieautismfamily]

Aw Melissa it’s so nice to feel less alone, but I’m also sorry you and your son have to experience the sleep deprivation too! Thank you for sharing!!! 💛💛

[@mathilda6763]

I'm not sure I can help with morning hacks, because I don't have and children. but as an autistic person, stability is important in the morning. I want to wake up and know what's expecting me. I do not want an ever changing routine with different variables all the time. It upsets me if there isn't any of my usually morning food available (for me that's 1 slice of bread with 2 slices of salami and 1/2 slice goat cheese, but for others it might be cereal or porridge or eggs or cold pizza). by making sure I have that on hand I don't have to think about what to eat... the less decisions I have to make in the morning the better. Some people like making stuff like overnight oats the night before, so they don't have to prepare stuff in the morning. waking up at 07:00, no matter what day of the week or how/if I slept the night before was also important for me to keep my daily schedule consistent (my day ends usually at 22:00 if I am not working, I need around 2-4 hours to fall asleep). I give myself a few minutes to wake up and then at 07:05 I do all the minor hygiene stuff (brush teeth, brush hair (finger combing and getting the knots out by hand might make it gentler for your girl, there's also quite a few of cute short hairstyles for girls if she's sensitive to the whole hair-do thing. for going to the hairdresser, maybe you can prepare her hair so that it's tangle-free and ask the hairdresser to use as few products/tools as possible to make it more sensory friendly for her. otherwise braids are your friend because they're free stimming toys and the hair gets less tangled during the day)). I do the dental hygiene before breakfast, because then I am still half asleep and the routine kicks in before I am awake enough to think about feeling uncomfortable. it works for me. at around 07:25 I make my way into the kitchen and have breakfast with whoever is present from my family. At around 07:45 I'm checking my calendar for the daily schedule. I only dress in outside-clothes if I have to leave the house to meet someone or if I know someone is coming to visit. otherwise I wear what's comfortable for me. getting something that not awful to wear when out is important to... like...nothing with clothing tags or hard seems, or stuff that's too restricting...I personally don't like jeans and closed shoes. I prefer cotton and (soft) linen, wool is only okay with there's a layer of cotton between the wool and my skin. it's itchy. Anything that feels fluffy or plastic-y is probably a no. but maybe your son likes that kind of fabric.. I think he's wearing very fluffy pjs in this video. Sorry I am rambling.

[@williamvasquezvasquez9878]

Sorry to hear that Jacob is having trouble sleeping😐. I’ll will DEFINITELY pray for him🙏🏻 and in general I’ll be praying for all of you. It was very sweet that Jazzy said “Hello,guys” and I’ll reply in return. Hello, sweetie! Thanks for sharing👍! Love you all and God bless✝️❤️🙂🌈🙏🏻!

[@aussieautismfamily]

Thank you so much

[@williamvasquezvasquez9878]

@@aussieautismfamily You’re very welcome and God bless✝️🙂!

[@carohigh505]

for Jazz, grab a wad of hair and squeeze really tight, then brush from tip to root. starting at the bottom is the underrated method but it works amazingly.

[@aussieautismfamily]

Ooh trying this next time!! Thanks

[@acke26]

I'm a new subscriber. ADHD and autism runs in our family. Your adorable kids are still young and can be helped with a change in diet. I wish I knew more about the importance of gut health and diet when our kids were young. Please try decrease sugar and carbs. Increase proteins and fats. You'll notice a big difference. Before the age 5-7 yrs you can heal neuroligical damages........

[@teresadavidson1040]

You look beautiful you suit your hair in that style and I love your eyelashes x what a tired lady you must be at times but your doing a great job lots of love x❤️🥰🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

[@aussieautismfamily]

Thank you so much!

[@stacylevchuk8108]

Hello, I love the new hairstyle!

[@ritaho85]

My son Bentley sleeps well most nights. Some nights maybe 2-3x a month he’ll get up at 3-4am and go back to sleep around 6am. Today he woke up at 4am. We do early intervention and try to have him up by 7am on those days so he can nap before his session. Otherwise the sessions almost never go well with him cranky from needing his nap. He usually falls asleep at night by 9-10pm.

[@sarahelizabeth9553]

Gosh that looks like torture. Can you put some food out for Jazz and tell her not to wake you until 7? You have the patience of a saint.

[@nwcs2]

My son has had many sleep issues like that. I have resisted doing clonidine which was prescribed. Liquid cherry benadryl has helped to get him drowsy. From ages 2-5 it was the worst. Now he does better but still has disruptions that last weeks. The sleepy sticker patches also help. They are a blend of essential oils and he has slept better and longer with them.

[@TheStoryTaylor]

It's current 12 am and i'm doing the dishes because my son decided to jump on the dishwasher door for the 100th time and it finally broke. And i can't afford a new one, being an unemployed, single mom of two. The Princess is 1 and the prince is 4 with autism. Silver lining, i have you to keep me company. The night terrors should be starting soon, so I'm gonna need it. Hang in there Jess. It will get better. It will be hard to get there, but it will taste all the sweeter. Love from Portugal

[@aussieautismfamily]

Oh i'm sorry to hear that, seriously you are doing incredible as a single mum!!!! I'm so glad my videos can keep you company!

[@TheStoryTaylor]

@@aussieautismfamily you literally have been my saving grace lately. Keeping me sane. The nights gave been rough, plus the baby's teething. But we're hanging in there. And you and Jordan are doing amazing. I know it gets really hard. Sometimes it gets downright terrifying. But then we look at our little ones, see them smile and we realize we have the happiest kids on the planet. And it makes all the sleepless nights, all the messes, all the yelling and the crying ( us too, sometimes) worth while. And then we realize they are not the lucky ones to have us as parents, but it is we who are the lucky ones to have them as our children . You guys are amazing, and thank you for helping feel that I'm not alone

[@whitneymason406]

I can relate completely! My husband swears the liquid melatonin works better than gummies or chewables, might be worth a shot? Both Zac and I are hypervigilant sleepers so the slightest noise wakes us up. I wear earplugs and that helps me. When he's older I'd like to try them with him. Hang in there! 💞

[@aussieautismfamily]

Ooh where do you get the liquid one???? I need to try ! I’m also a very light sleeper, so Jacob may have gotten this from me! Oh I wonder how he would go with ear plugs, we use white noise for now!

[@whitneymason406]

@@aussieautismfamily Zarbee's makes a liquid version. Zac takes 1 full dropper about a half an hour before bed.

[@bellaluci9844]

@@aussieautismfamily we buy the liquid melatonin from Amazon also the Pharmacy ( CVS in the US). We put the liquid in a very small amount of juice or tea. Does Jacob go to public school? Does his teacher dress him. Also does he have an IEP (individual education plan) that requires the school to dress him?

[@jessiecee6564]

My son was like that would wake up at 3 and not return to sleep, that was due to a reaction to a medication, then went on another one and after 6 months we got him off the second medication, then after a month after that he sleeps so much better, he might wake up once or twice looking for me but then go straight back to sleep. I hope things get easier for you and Jacob, lack of sleep is a type of torture.

[@autisticfairy8002]

Omg my little girl is so the same. I also prefer if I can dress her up night before. Ateast t-shirt and socks. She screams when I brush her hair. I rely on hair clips a lot. I often do buns and hide the imperfections with hair clips.

[@kclodetti]

My wife and I live in California and we have 2 daughters. 1 is 16 and the other Is for and she has severe autism and watching your video reminds me of our nightly and morning routine.

[@fadilakadri7118]

I think you are an Amaizing mum I am a grandma To an autistic little girl she will be 6 in December she just started saying 1 word very few We are so happy that she is for use it is an achievement I am writing to ask if that is a sign that she will be more verbal and if anyone has experienced the same thing

[@aamiiscool]

Your a superstar I’m tired watching this 💕💕

[@jennycraig457]

Emme woke up normal time… a few mornings ago she woke up at four am… I feel for all of your kids having sleep issues… it must make life so hard.. good luck with it all…

[@RhynoTEK]

Hi, I know what you’re going through. My daughter used to get up every 1 hr and if I cuddle with her she would constantly beat me up or scratch me in her dreams until she woke up again. I posted all her meds in another of your videos but this one helped her sleep through the night and be alert the next day. Clonidine Hydrochloride 0.1 MG (sleep aid) Non-habit forming.

[@nathanjw940]

Sleep issues aren't fun. I have them myself being autistic. Yes I would get frustrated too with not sleeping like Jacob. I could close my eyes for hours and I couldn't fall asleep. Very frustrating. Is there anything Jacob does feel comfortable in? I know there's a uniform but you can ask for accomodations for him because of his disability. Take care of yourself too get some rest my mom has health issues because my brother wouldn't sleep.

[@nwcs2]

For toothbrush you might try a three sided one. It worked for us and it goes faster which worked for our guy.

[@aussieautismfamily]

We actually have a three sided one! Such a great tool

[@laurenkennedy5309]

We had a good night coz little miss was sick these are the nights she sleeps the longest! 12:30am till 8:30am! 🙌🏻

[@np100]

My heart and soul goes out to you. I remember those days. Please ask your doctor for some ambien for Jacob. You truly cannot go on like this. Believe me.

[@aussieautismfamily]

I will definitely ask, is it a medication?

[@shaquitagreen4120]

You look like me when my daughter wakes up she is a bad sleeper as well my 1 & 5 year old both are autistic my son has always sleep good but my daughter who is 1 has always keeps me up I feel like I'm stuck in the new born stage

[@alexiadenly1102]

Hope you get a little sleep tonight!

[@aussieautismfamily]

Thank you!! last night we got more than usual, so im thankful

[@catharineedgar9011]

I’ve seen 2:30-3:45 am more times that I’d care to in my life 😅 You are such a wonderful mom to these sweeties. Can you remind me what the big squishy mat in your living room is?!

[@aussieautismfamily]

Neptune blanket is the brand! It’s called a mellow mat!

[@rachelguratosky8744]

Hello beautiful Mum, may I suggest not using " rubber bands " ( not sure if they are called that in Australia), but they are no good for hair and even worse for children's hair, if you want, I'm sure you van Google info about it,and she has such gorgeous hair definitely would want it to stay gorg, please don't take offense hon, just sharing my opinion and experience, love each one of you, love your lives, love your family and I thank you for sharing pieces of y'all with us❤😁, channels such as yours are helping so many around the world, I thank you from the bottom of my heart....😘🤗💗

[@zarahaleem3418]

I have sleep issues from childhood... Nd now my both 5yrs nd 8months have same.... Is am autistic??? But I was very good in studies.. University graduated nd lecturer at college...

[@tyreesetjjoyner1995]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💜💜💜💜

[@Something2seeNDo]

Do you take a nap at all while the kids are at school?

[@aussieautismfamily]

I try to, but cannot nap well. Also work

[@Something2seeNDo]

@@aussieautismfamily oh my bless your heart super mama. Following your journey from the USA❤️

[@kgmclol]

How old is Jacob now

[@aussieautismfamily]

5

[@franciscatimm6099]

Do you think he has nightmares? My son has similar sleep patterns to Jacob and I've always wondered if he has nightmares and is afraid to go back to sleep. I hope that one day he will be able to tell me

[@nadinelohlein8449]

We use Melatonin and i'ts a lot better. My Son need it and he is better behave on Day. He sleep verry better. Ask your Doktor. Sorry my english is not perfekt. 🙈