Autism Struggles in 2020

Things in the year 2020 have been difficult for most people and with our kids and autism, it's no exception for us. We are working through things, but how long can this last?
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[@kimradspinner4620]

Aww this breaks my heart you didn’t fail sweetheart everyone has things that are difficult your a superstar I hope you know that.

[@kimradspinner4620]

For the record Harry Potter is amazing I would happily read it a million times don’t feel bad that it’s a new experience more then once one almost jealous.

[@trevsedgwick3324]

So good how you guys can be so patient, your ability to deal with these difficult situations is inspirational, if this world had more parents like you guys the world wouldn’t be the messed up. Good luck with your kids, hope you leaving time for each other.😊

[@ivanamulovic1774]

Poor Ian! I think frome all of your kids, he struggled a lot. I love how you help him.

[@kkkkkkk7]

Give the book printed out, 1 chapter at a time. Do not give him that thick book all at once. REWARD EACH SMALL SUCCESS to encourage his earnest attempts at completion of the thick book. It is like trying to eat a giant cake at a piece at a time but the sight of the whole cake causes great anxiety.

[@kristamiller8732]

I agree... read 10. Min and stop.. you're frustrating him... set a timer and praise

[@winterdream5710]

Also, hug him when he's frustrated from trying. That's if he allows you to. When my autistic grandson gets frustrated, he bumps his head into me and I hug his head. Doesn't always work but when it does, we both feel better.

[@Blackafternoon]

@@winterdream5710 they ignore him and even admit to allowing him to talk to himself stemming in his room for hours.. and they see that as "allowing him freedom to express himself" while most of us can obviously tell they are the reason he is suffering.

[@winterdream5710]

@@Blackafternoon nooo, I don't think it's that way at all. Their son is a teen and even though he's autistic, he still has teen ways like ranting and wanting to be left alone for a bit. They know better than I do. My statement was more of what I would do in the situation which could or could not work. Dealing with teens is hard; an autistic teen can be more of a challenge. Overall, I think they're good parents trying their best.

[@Blackafternoon]

@@winterdream5710 what ever helps you sleep at night. Ill deal with it myself.

[@SedatedByLife]

Often, I feel I can relate to those on the spectrum. Depending on the severity - they can be so stressed out and from what I gather from some statements Ian made (which is my nephews name), he knows he's stressed and overwhelmed but nothing he's doing is calming him and doesn't know why. I struggle with severe depression, self deletion thoughts and some paranoia and when it flares, I feel the same way. Nothing I do helps, no talking to somebody helps. That in itself compounds the stress and agitation because we don't know why it's happening and why nothing is helping. At 45 as of today, I sometimes think these experiences, as frustrating and difficult as they are, have helped make me stronger in a sense. I recently watched the video of him on his most recent birthday. He's grown so much. I hope his own experiences with this has helped and will even more in the future, be stronger. You definitely have some great kids.

[@MustardPrinter478]

I'm autistic, and I've also gotten upset about similar things to bad reading comprehension (though not specificly that). When I was younger I didn't feel like an actual person because of how rare it was for me to relate to anyone. Ian's opinion on being autistic is the exact same as mine. I was diagnosed with CMT (Charcot Marie Tooth disease) about a year ago, and a doctor theorized that my autistic traits are all symptoms of it. I'm wondering if Ian might have a similar condition that can be treated, because what I heard in your videos make me think he might.

[@annheller6253]

It might help them to order him on or cam reader. It takes a picture of the board it says the page says, and it really helps me be able to read and understand the book and enjoy reading. I’m 60 40 brother.

[@tobyisaracoon]

His parents arent ignoring him or being disrespectful. They understand hes upset and having a meltdown obviously. They know he can calm down on his own from this one so they are chosing to let him do that. He isn't having a severe meltdown or hurting anyone so they see no reason to intervene or possibly make him more upset. They're doing very good and keeping Alister occupied and away from Ian so he won't stress out more. Please try not to assume things unless you are educated, know from experience or are also on the spectrum like me.

[@user-yd1mz4on1k]

Aww Alistair loves his little puppy dog 🐶. I’m so sorry Ian! Things will get better

[@andrewlien3579]

As a kid and a teenager, I was previously bad at reading comprehension because of my autism, but not anymore.

[@randomspacefan]

People always say people with autism are very good at school this proves that autism is different for everyone

[@CallMehShrimp]

I was born with autism in 2021 and i feel how he feel, when it came to reading. It also took me a long time reading one chapter. I do stim, I manipulate my fingers alot. And i feel him. I hope he gets better. Hope you are okay Kiddo!

[@Reelprankstergangster]

HOW OLD ARE YOU 💀

[@CallMehShrimp]

I’m sorry are you mad at me?@@Reelprankstergangster

[@Reelprankstergangster]

You were born in 2021 right🤨

[@CallMehShrimp]

No sorry, i was diagnosed in 2021 my bad, sorry. Lol@@Reelprankstergangster

[@MadisynRaymond-kw3nz]

I have autism I’m 13 I cry a lot bc I have depression I have anger issues OCD ADHD so have a good day everyone 🙏🙏😇😇😇👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Princessdee2020gaming]

My sister has Adhd, depression, and anxiety what helps her calm down she likes to hid in her favorite soft blanket

[@randomspacefan]

I’m so sorry I hope you get better ❤ (talking about anger issues and depression ik autism ocd or adhd can’t be cured)

[@matthewlockfeld397]

“It’s a BIG BOOK!!!!!”

[@PaigeRobins-ky4qc]

📖📚

[@aranhoulihan7618]

Have all three of your boys had a meltdown at the same time

[@catiehays3361]

These boys have grown so much from this & are becoming wonderful young men..

[@MxCartney_Lou]

I hated reading……same thing, I knew how to read at a young age, but I couldn’t comprehend long books, especially if I didn’t even like the concept of the book in the first place…..and in my senior year I had to move to contemporary literature class because I really couldn’t handle the English history classes and read things like Mark Twain

[@sha9543]

02:36 even in a normal family, the kids constantly compete for parents' attention

[@tobyisaracoon]

Allister doesn't understand he is disrupting the video. It isn't a call for attention he's just unaware. I was the same way, it's a lack of social awareness and understanding social cues.

[@mi5veezee]

picking fights with brothers is absolutely normal boy behavior.

[@yummyfaerie]

You know i love how you guys ask your children for permission to post these videos and help calm them down and dont laugh at them!❤

[@Saltboi1823]

May I ask, is it possible for autistic people to be anti social? I am autistic and I hate leaving my house for anything.

[@MrMooAndMoonSquirrelToo]

That's not an antisocial trait, per se, but a symptom of many mental health complications. Best thing you could do to get more clarity is to see a therapist.

[@Saltboi1823]

@@MrMooAndMoonSquirrelToo I was not speaking in literal terms, Mister/Miss doom.

[@MrMooAndMoonSquirrelToo]

@@Saltboi1823 sorry, I'm autistic myself and I didn't quite get it. 😂

[@andrewlien3579]

Ian didn’t like reading chapter books when he was 11.

[@shdox_]

I've had trouble with reading too, still kind of do. But I found audio helps me. For some reason, Audiobooks register a lot better for me than just reading pages of nothing but words. I've gotten better as the years have gone on, reading short stories and excerpts. But all novels I've completed so far had been in audiobook form.

[@KasperskyFan2111]

I feel for this kid. I had to read lord of the flies in middle school and it sucked and also took forever

[@kieransmith4353]

i know people that took more than 1 hour to read the book. i tried to read the first page but did not read any more of it so ian did better than me and i was older .

[@user-yd1mz4on1k]

Ooo I love the baseball hat on the couch with the retro nintendo nes controller on it. I love all things retro / classic !

[@AutismFamilyChannel]

Have you checked out our nostalgia channel?

[@user-yd1mz4on1k]

@@AutismFamilyChannel Yes , I just subscribed thanks!

[@Zozo_4]

I have a boy in my class that has autism I know how he feels I do not have autism but I have a problem like Ian but I feel terrible

[@46gcc]

Has he ever been dx with ADHD as well?

[@renayhayles6883]

So why are they making him read it?Why not watch it with him. Stop it after each event and help him take notes. Take notes when there is foreshadowing. It’s called accommodations. Think of a language that is difficult for u. Get a thick book in it. Read it. I am supervised his teacher gave that assignment.

[@urlocalautistic]

Maybe he doesn’t have an IEP. I am a 2E kid personally, and I cannot get an IEP due to my advanced knowledge.

[@annheller6253]

It might help if you order him a or cam reader it helps me and I’m 64 and still can’t r read without it

[@stephaniek4298]

4:24 I have family members with ADHD who have expressed the same struggles with reading and getting stuff done as Ian. I'm curious if they also have ADHD like my family members do. It's a real struggle.

[@TheQuietpanda]

i hate the summer holo days cus it messes with me so much and no one done understand so im trying to mask it i was sent to school in lockdown and that helped alot and its nicer to be in school for the rutine but i dont like the people in it :(

[@annheller6253]

It might help him if you order on the OrCam Read or import at the text and it will read it to him. That’s what I have to do and I’m 64.

[@gavinfoger4720]

ian is in my class

[@julien529]

Wow..how wonderful!

[@princessakashia12]

Is he one of your friends?

[@princessakashia12]

It must be cool to go to school with the KZbinr

[@urlocalautistic]

@@anthonysavala5539That is so f*cking ableist

[@supercreeperstar5976]

Cool that’s awesome

[@annheller6253]

I I have trouble reading my cam, reader or cam reader broke my brother mailed it and they’re going to fix it and get it back to me so I can read because it really takes a picture of the text and Rita back widget to me that’s only way I can read and I’m 64 so embarrassing

[@MissPixel22]

There is no failure only learning ❤

[@brettjames1992]

I loved my reading class I was in when I was in the 8th grade, and I have lots of books I love to read!!!!!

[@Princessdee2020gaming]

My twin sister has ADHD and she is very upset about doing her mistake on her art project today 1/15/24 she had a melt down and she got yelled at by our mom she use this soft blanket to calm her self down like Ian. She sometimes cries in her blanket I was trying to calm her down then she started to scream again like Ian she was on her medication so sometimes that made her scream and yell when she is really upset like Ian have a good day when she tries to read she can’t tell my mom what the chapters what is it about she love chocolate cookies if she can't tell use what the chapters is about she does not get the cookies she gets upset and she keeps saying I can't try again and then when she calms down she tries to read again

[@Thunderninja124]

I was like him when I first read mr stink my first big book

[@IK_4]

Have they looked into why all of their boys have autism? That would be something I'd look into.

[@b0g_dyke]

wdym?

[@IK_4]

@@b0g_dyke It could possibly be something environmental.

[@b0g_dyke]

doubtful their genes just don't mix well

[@taposherabeya7857]

Genetics

[@lobsterboi.mp4]

It’s genetically linked, similarly to adhd. Additionally, when the oldest has it, the chance of their younger siblings also being born with it is increased I believe (also similar to adhd)

[@Adu489]

I wonder how your wife kept her cool even though what happened

[@user-ej9nb9qz3u]

i done the samething like him getting upset like that

[@Princessdee2020gaming]

❤❤❤

[@PaigeRobins-ky4qc]

💜💜💜

[@Zozo_4]

Autism family I hope you all have a great day

[@Zozo_4]

Ian is in my cousins class

[@matthewsnowdon8530]

Ima be honest this is a little like you shouldn’t film this I feel really bad for the boy Im autistic myself Please don’t think im a hater at all i certainly am not i just feel bad for like the struggles of him Again im not hating anyway tho

[@highwayexpert66]

Late comment but i have dealt with something related

[@TentoesMe]

Oh. I remember those frustration meltdowns. 🫤

[@tbear4pa]

Shiitake Mushrooms!

[@goosehauser9680]

Do you know Leland Powell

[@AutismFamilyChannel]

Sounds familiar

[@goosehauser9680]

@@AutismFamilyChannel how is Connor

[@Hedwig-gj2di]

It really saddens me that you filmed your child at one of his worst moments and uploaded it to the internet for the world to see. He deserves better than this. I have two children with autism and although I'm not a perfect parent, I could never do something this bad to my child. It is your job to keep his dignity to the best of your ability. This is not doing that. I just came upon this video... The first video I've seen from your channel and I'm already turned away. Im not saying you're bad people or bad parents but maybe shut the camera off when your children are suffering and not at their greatest moments.

[@jedi_master100]

That something is not going your way, dose not mean you can me dramatic and ridiculous!!!!!!

[@urlocalautistic]

Okay but you can’t even spell “be” and “does” and you have a random star wars username and no profile picture. Before you assume you know everything about autism, go back to spelling class, and then research autism.

[@Princessdee2020gaming]

@@urlocalautisticdon’t say that be nice 😢😮

[@urlocalautistic]

@@Princessdee2020gaming Nope. If someone is gonna disrespect a disability that I have, I’m gonna stand up for our community.

[@Princessdee2020gaming]

I am not listening to you because my sister has ashd

[@nygivenpoint]

Try thc

[@charlie_says3841]

Imagine filming your child while they are so distressed and panicked. This is so exploitative its awful. You state he "gave his consent" ; children will always want to please their parents and he undoubtedly felt pressured into allowing this to be posted. Furthermore, as a child, he doesn't yet understand the implications of it. Rather than comfort him, you whip out your phone to film him in the middle of a time when he needs support and calm and comfort? As parents it is our responsibility to do the right thing by our children. They can not consent as they are children. This is so distressing to watch.

[@user-gg7zv1fq7p]

I have a fun fact about autism having autism is a excuse

[@JasonxYourPalEntertainment]

Leave him alone! You failed and you will never get a like for this one. When WILL YOU LEARN?!?