Autistic Meltdowns for Thanksgiving

[@7Aheadfamily]

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[@catharineedgar9011]

I really appreciate you showing how to help Ezra and Simon when they have a hard time. Ezra’s seemed like a sensory overload, while Simon’s was a lack of communication. Neither of the boys were scolded for their behaviors, but were taught what was happening and what they could choose to do to feel better. Love it so much.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you Catherine. ❤️ I appreciate your kind words. You are very right! These precious boys would not learn anything if we gave them punishments for their outbursts. They experience the world differently than I do and I feel as their mother I need to help them communicate effectively, and feel heard and understood as best I can. They live in a very complicated world. I want to try to make it less complicated for them- Holly 😊.

[@littlejonathorn6860]

@@7Aheadfamily Holly: You and Adam don’t just speak for your kids, you also speak for ALL of us and for everyone who is going through challenges of their own. Your mentors, leaders/guides, advocates and you both give the voiceless power, grit, determination and so much more. Furthermore, like the Lorax who speaks for the trees or any historical figure or character that comes to mind. Really appreciate all you do for this community and truly blessed.

[@7Aheadfamily]

@@littlejonathorn6860 You are so kind. ❤ Thank you so much, that means a lot. Appreciate you watching and commenting. ❤

[@JonBrase]

I think Ezra started by throwing a fit and pushed himself into a sensory meltdown. Simon threw a fit but had enough margin not to melt down. I myself have never had an actual meltdown that I can recall: all my fits in childhood were me behaving badly and choosing to carry on. I've had panic attacks in adulthood that were close to meltdowns, but they still generally resolve if the triggering issue is dealt with, as opposed to me being completely along for the ride until they resolve on their own.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you for sharing your story. That must be very difficult to deal with.

[@seanwalsh5717]

2:27 I'm so proud of Ezra for managing his own sensory system so well by finding a quiet, dark, enclosed place to get vestibular input. That is huge.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thanks for sharing! ❤️❤️

[@Shhhhh098]

8:29 That’s a good uncle. ❤❤❤❤

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yes! ❤️❤️❤️

[@littlejonathorn6860]

Uncle/Brother Ryan of 7-Ahead Fam. did an excellent job taking control of the situations and staying calm.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Agreed! He is awesome. 😊

[@littlejonathorn6860]

@@7Aheadfamily and forgot, keeping both Simon and Ezra calm.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yes, we need to get him hired full-time. 😊

[@littlejonathorn6860]

@@7Aheadfamily ❤️

[@7Aheadfamily]

😀

[@seanwalsh5717]

5:00 My ASD child would totally have a meltdown in this situation. Plenty of new stressors, tired from travel, lots of noises, bright lights, people everywhere. Ezra is doing a good job IMHO. He just needs a quiet dark place to calm that brain down. A place without too many people might help. The compressions help too. In general, every ASD kid I've spoken too says not to talk to someone who is having a meltdown. It is too much input to process when one's brain is on fire.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yeah. Thank you so much for sharing.

[@sarakeith5480]

Thank you for sharing your Thanksgiving!! We had a very quiet one, sadly everyone was sick with the flu, except our son who cooked and delivered our meals!!

[@7Aheadfamily]

I hope you guys feel better soon! What an amazing son!

[@Sharoina]

Your kids are amazing. God bless you and strengthen and keep you always 🙏🏾

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much! ❤️

[@Sharoina]

Thank you so much for the advice and allowing us in your home and sharing with us how to cope and deal with situations like these🙏🏾

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you!

[@SarahMcMullin]

So good to have you!

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you guys so much!! It was such a wonderful thanksgiving!

[@Gree263]

You have 5 amazing kids! That girl of yours, she's special, a little mama & cheerleader. We are just now trying to figure out how to deal with meltdowns vs tantrums. New behaviors. So hard. This channel will be very helpful, thank you for sharing with us.♡♡♡

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank your so much, that is so kind of you to share that. ❤️ We are honored to have you join us on this journey together. Much Love.

[@Topshotta700]

Happy thanks giving

[@7Aheadfamily]

You too!

[@AvaParker-r8m]

It’s so cute how Marie was helping Simon! Such a great big sister! ❤

[@7Aheadfamily]

She's a great help!

[@Mandy-dw6ds]

What an angel of a sister they have...sooo sweet

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yes. Marie is a sweet heart

[@darkchipz3016]

Happy Thanksgiving!

[@7Aheadfamily]

Same to you! Have a blessed weekend. :-)

[@nathanjw940]

From my experience when I am in burnout which probably happened here with all the people at Thanksgiving or home too much it's like dry grass at only takes a spark and you get a full force meltdown. Yes as an adult they suck.

[@7Aheadfamily]

I bet it was difficult for our kids during Thanksgiving because so much was new. We had so much going on and so many people that they weren’t used to. But I am glad they had some fun times too with their cousins. Thank you for sharing. I like your analogy about the dry grass. I’ll try to help keep my kids’ grass wet.

[@nathanjw940]

@@7Aheadfamily it's great for 4 hours but after that picturing my own space for a while

[@7Aheadfamily]

@@nathanjw940 Very good Councle. :) Thanks Nathan!

[@stilljustval]

I love how good the other kids (cousins?) are to both of your boys, and the humor of the eldest at about 4 min...lol

[@7Aheadfamily]

So glad you caught that! ❤️

[@LikeSomeDude]

It may be none of my business, but I suspect that Granddad needs to be TICKLED!!! LOL all my love guys!

[@7Aheadfamily]

😂 So true. 😊 He often looks that way, but he is a really nice guy.

[@tamaraanderson7260]

So fun to see your Thanksgiving Day with family. I bet Ezra will love his new swing!

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yea! He loves it!

[@marianweinstein2823]

Maybe because Ezra had to deal with having something taken away from him ( some of the cords) this game where he was in control of giving something and taking it away helped him to deal with the situation.

[@7Aheadfamily]

I like that thought. He was able to share and have others touch his light but he had power over it.

[@ImagineAsylo]

Your brother is such a fun guy! I love his little sensory set up too ❤️

[@7Aheadfamily]

He’s awesome. We don’t visit him enough.

[@josevladimiraustria2736]

There’s a lot of things to be thankful, one of which is being with your family, that is something money can’t buy. Hoping for your channel to grow more, it may take time. As they say, the journey is as important as the destination. We don’t celebrate thanksgiving here in the east but Happy thanksgiving 🦃 .

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you! Very true.

[@Topshotta700]

I feel soo bad 😔 for him

[@7Aheadfamily]

He sometimes has a hard time, and it breaks my heart. But I know he had so much fun in that new swing!

[@Topshotta700]

That's me making happy

[@7Aheadfamily]

@@Topshotta700 Indeed!

[@slimbowlin]

He wanted to let everyone know he is in control of the lantern game by only letting you touch it

[@7Aheadfamily]

That makes sense

[@avaforward122]

Your brother is amazing with the boys.

[@7Aheadfamily]

So true!

[@DeDeSmith32]

Wow! Your brother was awesome with the boys. So cool! ❤

[@7Aheadfamily]

Right. 😀 He actually does that for a living. He works at a high school with special needs kids. so he’s really good at it. :-)

[@jerrolinstarlin7090]

Thats really cool that he works at a high school with special needs

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yeah! ❤️❤️❤️

[@Laura.catdoglovers]

Another story about the same time we went on an enrichment trip to do inside mini golf an one course had a flashing light it was in the middle of the trip so it put me off the rest of the trip and i didnt want to be there anymore one of my friends had a lsa ,which is extra support in lessons and around school, with them but they did a staff composition in mini golf so the weren't with them so we went to go find them to tell them that we were done but we had to wait for the other 30 kids but it was a bit of a struggle

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you sharing!❤❤❤

[@investinyourchild9166]

it was a adventure

[@7Aheadfamily]

👌

[@SarahMarie-j2n]

Maybe he just wanted you all to feel connected in the same way in that moment & confirm that you'd respond in loving ways & that's why he wanted you all to just touch the lantern, to confirm safety & sameness. Maybe it was his way of thanking you all for working together to help him get to a better calmer moment. Your brother is wonderful with your son!

[@7Aheadfamily]

That's a beautiful perspective! It really shows how important connection and support are in those moments.

[@7Aheadfamily]

😀 it was fun.

[@AdamAndersonP]

cool cake

[@7Aheadfamily]

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[@annaiovesfries4270]

Simon wasn’t happy but when he saw the car he stoped crying so fast he is a car lover that’s for sure

[@7Aheadfamily]

He is! Yes, we are probably going to do a movie on that soon. 😊

[@annaiovesfries4270]

@@7Aheadfamily I bet he talked you guys into it he was like please car movie

[@7Aheadfamily]

😅 Yeah, hopefully soon he will be able to talk that much. 😊 but he will point in whine. :-)

[@jerrolinstarlin7090]

How long has Simon liked cars

[@annaiovesfries4270]

@@jerrolinstarlin7090 I actually don’t know

[@AvaParker-r8m]

Happy thanksgiving!

[@7Aheadfamily]

Hope you had a great day too!

[@kalegolas]

The lantern thing was probably Ezras version of sharing that he likes it. He have noticed that others shows than they like something and tryes to do the same, but it gets a bit weird because he dosent do it so natural. The fact that neurotypical shares things they like have I totally missed until you guys told me through a video, but Ezra seems to have noticed it.

[@7Aheadfamily]

That makes sense. Thank you for sharing. I bet you’re right.

[@TentoesMe]

Hehe I would have had trouble just dealing with sockies. Sockies off!

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thanks for the advice!!

[@Laura.catdoglovers]

This story takes place in ny second year of high school we when on a school trip to magna which is a interactive science museum before i left i was debating taking my ear defenders but I didn't end up bringing them and i regretted it because there was rooms for all the 4 elements my group went to the water first it was fine but you did get a little wet entering the room next we when to earth that's when i started to regret not bringing ear defenders because there was a conveyor belt with fake rock to move around that was really loud i was covering my ears and by the end i needed a break but couldn't ask for one because non of the teachers that were with my group new about my autism and i didnt even talk to them by the time i needed a break it was almost the end of the trip so i powered through it on the bus we were allowed to wear headphones and be on our phones because it was a 1 to 2 hour long bus ride so i put on headphone to regulate and kinda zone out before we got home

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you sharing!❤❤❤

[@irelandkingumu8153]

Who touch it the longest before it takes it away

[@7Aheadfamily]

Mark. :)

[@DBK415]

Ezra loves cables. What age did Ezra start liking cables? Hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yes he does. :-) That’s a good question. I think he started when he was around 2 if I remember right. Before that he was more into wrappers. Then, chip wrappers were the thing. 😃

[@DBK415]

I see that Ezra likes his uncle's basement. Lots of cables I bet.

[@7Aheadfamily]

@@DBK415 Yes indeed. :)

[@ralph4720]

The twins were born on thanks 🍯 giving 🍯 ❤

[@7Aheadfamily]

Awesome!

[@ralph4720]

@@7Aheadfamily It was the best family function we ever had afterwards. It was so calm and peaceful. Everyone loved doing so much. I've been kept on pooping. His pants like he does now. But I have something to say about myself. I wasn't training until I was to go to the party. Until I've 70 years old. Till I was 7 years old. I just do not want to sit on the toilet and that's where ivan is

[@7Aheadfamily]

👍

[@jerrolinstarlin7090]

He probably wanted to be silly with the lantern

[@7Aheadfamily]

yeah. He was probably just playing his own game, having everyone touch the lantern.

[@jerrolinstarlin7090]

Yes

[@7Aheadfamily]

😁

[@TheCraftyShark]

Is there a reason his uncle is so good with autistic kids?

[@7Aheadfamily]

He also has a child who is autistic and he is a teacher as well.

[@TheCraftyShark]

@ oh that makes a lot of sense

[@majamaja4850]

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[@7Aheadfamily]

We haven't, thank you for sharing💕

[@militarychase864]

I had my headphones turned down all the way over my hood and it was too loud idk why they aren't that good their prety bad

[@7Aheadfamily]

Sorry about that

[@militarychase864]

@@7Aheadfamily don't need to be sorry I think I might have sensitive hearing love your videos I think their interesting I like the ones when you looked after ian connor and Alistair from the autism family I also watch them and I find their videos interesting too learning about autism (I don't have autism)

[@7Aheadfamily]

I see. Thanks for sharing. We love the Autism Family too

[@7Aheadfamily]

Cool. There videos are fun. Thank you for sharing.

[@adamanderson9887]

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[@7Aheadfamily]

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[@vannahgraceful4079]

I’m also autistic

[@7Aheadfamily]

So glad to have you here! Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@theupsidedowngame9194]

Not first?!

[@7Aheadfamily]

what do you mean by that?

[@andersonfamilyadventures4552]

😀

[@7Aheadfamily]

❤️👌

[@laurawalles5855]

Ur two kids need a brain scan to find out what is going with the brain

[@7Aheadfamily]

What would the brain scan tell us?

[@tetra3ne56scur3]

0:01 kids should not be in construction sites @sevenaheadfamily Property sometimes cannot be replaced without costing an arm and a leg of money

[@7Aheadfamily]

I’m not sure I’d call their basement a construction site. There wasn’t any dangerous tools or materials down there that I remember. ❤️

[@rawandrealautismmom]

Happy Thanksgiving😂

[@7Aheadfamily]

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