Awful Things Doctors ACTUALLY Said To Patients

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[@Lord_zeel]

My doctor was listening to my chest with a stethoscope that had some kind of electronic amplifier on it. He had forgotten to turn it on, so he couldn't hear anything at first and said "So, how long have you been dead?" before explaining and switching it on. Was hillarious.

[@ChristinaMoralesMindfuqed]

😂

[@xaiisyourboss01]

😂 I found this hilarious cause family and doctors always have issues taking my heartbeat cause they can't find it in my wrist so I'm usually the one saying I'm dead

[@yelanchiba8818]

It was a funny moment 😂😂😂 If that happened to me, I would tell that to my mom right away and then we will laugh together 😂😂😂

[@heatherleighann420]

Lmao this is pretty funny, I love when people in a serious profession can still throw some humor in when appropriate lol

[@bluestonecreeper720]

Reminds me of the time that my pe teacher had a problem finding my pulse for class so we joked that I was dead

[@annb8810]

At my twelve week pregnancy confirmation, I told my doctor I was having really severe back pain and cramping. She said, “Ok? Pregnancy is uncomfortable.” Lady… I’m telling you because those are symptoms of a miscarriage, and you’re my obstetrician 🤦‍♀️

[@Skiffoh]

Those are just normal symptoms of pregnancy correct?

[@thehuntress454]

People in the comments, even if it may be just symptoms, she supposed to talk about any concerns with the patient not shut the patient down.

[@oneseeker2]

YES, any really painful can be a miscarriage!

[@dietotaku]

@@tatienouorest3358 they're signs of labor so if you're having those at 12 weeks you should definitely be concerned about a potential miscarriage.

[@dietotaku]

@@Skiffoh not at 12 weeks they're not

[@savian_is_spooked]

"If you're not going to look at me then you don't deserve to be here." - a mental health rehab center I was at for PTSD and AvPD caused by severe child abuse. The lady who said that proceeded to leave me threatening voicemails after I refused to go back to the program. I let my therapist listen to the voicemails and she was horrified. My therapist had to call the rehab center for me and tell them that I wasn't going back. She also reported them.

[@Nope-w3c]

Well, she was half right. You didn't deserve to be there, you deserved better.

[@sunmu1]

That's awful!! Hope you are doing better somewhere else.

[@savian_is_spooked]

@@sunmu1 Thank you, I am. That incident was around four years ago. I ended up on disability but I'm doing a lot better than I was.

[@savian_is_spooked]

@@Nope-w3c Thank you, that place in general was pretty crappy. Though, I live in the middle of nowhere so my options are limited. Luckily, I ended up doing better with a service dog and going on disability.

[@boingyboop4960]

That sounds like the opposite of mental health rehab to me

[@jeronmortensen9160]

Had a friend lose twins that were born prematurely. One of the nurses just offered to wash her hair after the ordeal, purely as a kind gesture. I figured it was good to hear a heartwarming story after so many downer comments.

[@arianewinter4266]

Thanks for Sharing this!!!

[@Roxannexoxoxo]

Love this. For some reason most medical professionals lack compassion. Especially if you’re uninsured or underinsured

[@tobiastwynholme9532]

​@@Roxannexoxoxo One of the heartbreaking things is, while there are definitely bad nurses and doctors, some of those 'lacking compassion' used to be the kindest and sweetest people but years of not being able or even ALLOWED to do enough (in reference to under/uninsured) that they break. Or they build a wall. The medical field will rip your heart to the tiniest shreds if you wear it on your sleeve and you simply will not survive that line of work. It's terrible, but that's how it works elsewhere. Customer Service is another industry that turns people in hollow shells of who they used to be.

[@Razzledazzle1062]

I loss my daughter at 6&half mths and the main nurse came in and said that is what happens to unwanted babies. I screamed at her letting her know she was wanted as I threw everything I could put my hands on at her. She avoided me the rest of the time I was in hospital. That was 39 yrs ago and I am still hurt by her words. Some people are just nasty as.

[@thevcountdown9824]

omg unbeliveable

[@RuaLuithnire]

What a horrible nurse! Clearly she should not be in the ward. I think she’s lucky you didn’t drop kick her out the window. I applaud your restraint on that one. I’m so sorry you had to hear that. Did she think she was helping?! I just don’t understand why on earth anyone would say that to a woman in the middle of a miscarriage.

[@CocotheNut]

How could she just assume that?!?? What an awful thing to say!! I'm sorry for your loss, I lost my daughter at full term 2.5 years ago and not a day goes by that I don't think of her

[@fightinamrah]

Oh I'm so sorry.

[@nikifade]

I am so sorry that happened to you. Please know that you deserved care and professionalism . Thank you for sharing this, I pray you have found peace after your loss.

[@SpewnyBard]

I was diagnosed with depression at 12. We moved, and I saw a new doctor. Turns out I actually had kidney failure.

[@voidtectonic]

Ah yes. Must be that new kind of depression, the one that only affects your kidney.

[@kfkkfk7995]

​@@voidtectonic...you know a lot of pathologies have depression like symptoms right?

[@Congiary]

​@@kfkkfk7995You know it could have been resolved with a simple urine test, right?

[@kfkkfk7995]

@@Congiary you know that was not the point I made right?

[@kfkkfk7995]

@@Congiary I argued that the symptoms probably did align with depression, and in that case it was not an irrational diagnosis. Doctors go for the most likely option based on the symptoms to the least likely, and a psychiatrist who diagnoses you with depression is probably not going to suspect something that's that far off their specialty. Still, they probably should have checked something though, but depression like symptoms can have SUCH a wide range of causes that it's probably really not productive to discard them

[@ReiraKurenai]

I was diagnosed with depression in my teens by my GP. I struggled and was not recovering at all, so my GP eventually referred me to a psychiatrist. Only had one session with the man, he looked me dead in the eye after I shared my struggles and said: “You were never depressed, this is just teen angst.” It was not, in fact, “just teen angst”. My GP and psychologist were both livid.

[@YeahNo]

And my arthritic knee was not “growing pains”

[@haruk2312]

Male doctors

[@Glock2217]

​@@haruk2312 nah, just bad doctors

[@ShastaMusic]

Haha my appendicitis was just "period cramps" when I was 14 😂

[@annexamv2776]

Literally gender has nothing to do with incompetency ​@@haruk2312

[@hollymartin1780]

My husband was in the hospital dying and they told me to prepare for his final expenses. Like he was a bill and not a human. He ended up making it but it was a horrible experience.

[@ccookvideos5564]

god I am so sorry. I hope he is doing much better today. Prayers to you ❤

[@BlindWeeb05]

People really suck. I thought I just misread that and it was supposed to say funeral!

[@annie.hi.]

A pediatrician was considering testing my baby for iron deficiency. I had heard that if a pregnant mother is deficient then sometimes the baby might also be. So I told him “I was iron deficient during the pregnancy”. He just looked at me blankly and said “this isn’t about YOU” Did he really think I was saying that just to talk about myself? 🙄

[@krystynach.6084]

and even so, then what! how rude of him. and even if you DID worry about yourself, why would that be bad? this is soooo hurtful, when sbd assumes sth out of their opinionated mind :/ hugs

[@suburbanmama0062]

That is concerning in multiple ways. My kids' Drs always get a rundown on my health because maybe of my issues increase their risks of those issues. I don't tell them things I deal with that wouldn't impact my kids' risk factors. Same goes for other family medical history. Mine is just more extensive, with higher risk factors and the earlier detected, the better chance of effectively managing disease/symptoms. Drs have actually thanked me for being in a typed up list I carry with me of my health issues. I need to type up an updated list of other family history that could affect the kids since there's now more to list. Until recently, there wasn't enough to need a list outside of my issues. These things are important. It's good to know what to list and what not to if you can, but if I doubt, let the Dr know. Knowing medical history can help Drs know what to look for sometimes long before they otherwise would. That Dr was rude to shut you down that way. It's concerning that you were blown off like that. Even if your concern wasn't an issue for whatever reason, that should have been explained. When treating children, especially when they can't communicate for themselves, the concerns of their parents/adult should be listened to and reasoning behind why the concerns are or are not concerning to the provider explained. Also, when to come back in if things change should be explained. Raising kids is sometimes scary, especially when they can't communicate what they are experiencing. It's hard sometimes to know what to do on your own.

[@MaeRose26]

wow he was rude af. though im curious. did u explain why u said that? if yes, what was his response? and do u think i can punch him in the face?

[@annmarieknapp]

What an idiot.

[@OneMoreDayNParadise]

Actually, due to my pregnancy, one of my twins had a vit D deficiency, and the other twin had an iron deficiency. I had both iron and vit d deficiency myself. So, that is very weird. Some doctors scare me like they don't know things they should.

[@meganhardy6983]

Short story. I had a miscarriage at 19. The dr basically said your levels have dropped and youre probably just having a miscarriage. I cried and was devastated. He walked right out. If it wasnt for the older male nurse who sat by my side explained everything and sweetly called me ladybug, who soften the blow i dont know what id had done. ❤

[@cooperkillen5729]

Thats heartbreaking.

[@emilycook4051]

I had a similar experience a few months ago at 19. Worst heartbreak I’ve experienced and I felt really invalidated

[@sherylbegby]

That's horrific. 'probably "just"'. that must have been completely devastating. I don't understand why some doctors have no empathy or ability to relate to their patients. So glad someone caring was there for you.

[@sherylbegby]

@@emilycook4051 I'm so sorry to hear that. Some doctors may brush you away and think it's nothing. But when you've set yourself up for a life with a little one, and prepared yourself emotionally and physically, the loss and grief is immense. Keep taking care of yourself and find a new doctor if you can .💔 You didn't deserve this.

[@Overwatch2010]

If I was a doctor and you had a miscarriage, I would of said “If you wanna try again for a baby, I would recommend this” and than give you things that could help you out, Like don’t stress to much,Don’t over work, Live with someone you trust, Don’t go up and down the stairs without help things, Try and eat food for the baby and you to enjoy things like that

[@leannewelch3815]

When I had my ectopic pregnancy in 2015, I asked them to double check where it was if that was possible. The gynaecologist sat me down and said “what do you want me to do, take your insides out and search for the cells that way?” To which I asked if she had ever lost a child. She told me no but that she brought back a child once. Then later on she said to me “Im just the gynaecologist, not the mother of a dying child” and then walked out of the room. She got reported but nothing ever came of it

[@BlindWeeb05]

I just wanna TALK... Definitely just talk. Wtf is wrong with people? I'm so sorry you went through that❤.

[@anneharpelle]

I have CRPS in my whole right arm. The pain is so excruciating that one day I went to emerg in hopes of them giving me something, anything to help with the pain. I explained to the ER doctor why I was there and I told him that I have severe hypersensitivity to any kind of touch to my right arm. He looked at me and said “well, I have to anyway “and proceeded to grab me by the wrist. My arm is also in a sling. The pain was so severe that I grabbed the doctor’s arm with my good arm. I was crying and apologizing and was shaking and confused. I am terrified of hospitals ever since. Full on PTSD now.

[@alexsis1778]

I'm really sorry that happened to you and that it was so traumatizing for you. Unfortunately, that sort of thing is done because there are people out there who will fake almost anything to get access to pain killers. Without knowing more about the situation its hard to really judge the doctor in that situation. Seeing a sling is definitely going to be concerning and require a more ginger response, but "grabbed" is so vague its hard to know whether it was done gingerly or violently. I know its really not what you wanted him to do in that moment but he could have actually been looking for your reaction to him grabbing your wrist to see if you actually have the condition you claimed. Unless the ER is attached to a hospital that you regularly go to, they don't have access to your medical files. So unfortunately provoking a response can sometimes be the quickest way to determine what is actually occurring. As Dr Mike pointed out as well in his comment about his boxing match, providing an evaluation of a patient's status without actually investigating is not usually a good thing. And providing strong pain killers sadly falls under that umbrella as well because of how easily abused they are. I hope you're able to go back to another hospital in the future if you ever need one. Not all doctors, hospitals and situations are the same

[@nanamoo2008]

When I was 21, I suffered a miscarriage. After the obstetrician told me, I obviously burst into tears. He sighed and then uttered the most callous question of all! "What are you crying for? You are young enough to have another". Not what you want to hear at a time like that! Some Dr's should never have gone into the medical field!

[@meganrogers3571]

Of all medical professionals, OB-GYNs ought to be the most compassionate about patients experiencing miscarriage because it's literally part of their specialty and happens so often.

[@DoriZuza]

Unfortunately, the training regarding the emotional side of things is pretty much non-existent for many healthcare providers (with the exception of psychiatrists).

[@milagroscapomasi8525]

This is disgusting!! Zero empathy displayed

[@nanamoo2008]

@@DoriZuza They shouldn't need training to show empathy/understanding, especially as an OBGYN as they deal with highly emotional people pretty much on a daily basis

[@DoriZuza]

@@nanamoo2008 I wholeheartedly agree that this is not how things SHOULD be. I’m describing how things ARE in real life so that hopefully people will know and be slightly better prepared to handle these awful situations made worse by unempathetic people (and believe me there’s lots of them).

[@fightinamrah]

I'm paramedic myself and during my formation I had to assist at a surgery preparation, a woman had a dead baby in her belly and couldn't deliver it naturally. The doctor was very rude to the patient who was mumbeling the whole time. I recognized the patient was just praying in Arabic and spoke the prayer with her. The doctor just yelled at us both to calm down. I was near to quit my job!

[@LibraryAce]

What a mercy you were there to care for her heart and soul as well as her medical needs. If only more people realized that is also a vital part of the job especially in such sad situations. I don't know if I could handle it (one of many reasons I'm not a medical professional) but even then it's not hard to ask if the person would like a clergy member to speak to or someone else who can offer compassion and care.

[@safaiaryu12]

Wow, that's awful. I'm so glad you were there for her, but that doctor should NEVER have acted like that in such a traumatic situation...

[@michelehemlokhexwhite4310]

How incredibly rude and infuriatingly disrespectful. I hope you reported him to a higher-up! This is exactly why diversity, equity and inclusion sessions should be mandatory in so many occupations. I'm very glad you were there for her. Stressful times like that don't need to be made worse by uncaring a-holes :/

[@theresas740]

Every blessing to you for tending to that patient by praying with her at such a painful time.

[@mrs.p.studge4349]

Spiritual hugs! Thanks for being awesome! Prayers for you and that woman. I believe that she's never forgotten your kindness. ❤

[@Lycan4]

After having taken time off of work and coming in to do the check-in process: "Oh, the doctor told us yesterday that he was cancelling your appointment so he can eat his lunch during that time." That was the third time he's done this, and after chewing out the receptionist and yelling that the doctor was untrustworthy (I could see him in his office, so I know he heard all that), I haven't been back since. It's been two years. I took the 'three strikes' thing seriously. And no, I did not get a call to inform me that my appointment was cancelled. They waited until I physically came to the office to tell me it was cancelled.

[@noorjahaanmohamed5916]

That's just horrible and so unprofessional. He doesn't deserve to be a doctor and should face some consequences to his actions. So sorry you had to go through all that with that inconsiderate, selfish man.

[@alexsis1778]

Truly the sign of a bad doctor on so many levels. Last year I was taking my dad to a doctor's appointment and we screwed up the dates and showed up a month early (totally our fault). We had to wait a bit longer than normal but the doctor found a way to fit us into his schedule so we didn't have to come back.

[@RyanLOLOLOL]

At a mental health wing in a hospital, Doctors have actually suggested to MY PARENTS in FRONT OF ME, that I might be faking it for "attention", and I have friends who have had that experience more than once. It's scary how far behind the medical and publics view of mental health is

[@ashleyroberts89513]

There’s a whole lot of people who fake mental diseases…gladly I don’t have any, and some people actually do, but most people my age (16) actually fake it for attention

[@fyourchickenstrips2068]

I had my first smear and the lady was so lovely, she was admiring my leg tattoos for a while then when she started the exam and lifted the paper covering me, she went "ooh I shouldve expected decorations here too" 😂 I'm heavily pierced and tattooed and was nervous about that but her calling it decoration was kind of adorable! Like she was an older woman, i was thinking she would make a rude comment or some thing but she made it a much better experience than I was expecting

[@cutepiku]

I'm vaguely reminded of when Kathy Griffin televised a pap smear to help ease the stigma and she got it "vagaziled" prior to the appointment - as in they decorated the area with little gems and what not.

[@jeanniesmith284]

MY OBGYN CALLS THEM DECORATIONS TOOOOOOO!!!!!!

[@LeighIsMe4546]

That’s just cute!

[@bryanaperry8760]

That's so cute! I love that.

[@shadowenderscar]

Let’s be honest, they are indeed aesthetic decorations for the skin

[@patrickj4747]

I suffered a corneal abrasion while swimming in a pool. The chlorine made it even more painful. I went to the local ED. I couldn't open my eyes without pain and gushing tears. While waiting to see the doctor, one of the staff people got my info. She asked if I had insurance. I said my card was in my wallet. Without opening my eyes, I took out my wallet and pulled out the insurance card. She said, "Wow, you'd make a really good blind person." I burst out laughing. She profusely apologized. I knew what she wanted to say which was "that was impressive without looking."

[@bottle3124]

Infuriating

[@goldenapplesaga5446]

​@@bottle3124 I don't see what's so infuriating. She made him laugh in a time of great distress.

[@amandasnider2644]

I have a weird little habit I do periodically... I pretend I'm blind so I can see just how screwed I am... come to turn out that my family have a genetic condition that can lead to blindness but you can't exactly test for until damage is visible. Can't remember what it's called but it's something I have to be mindful of once I get to my 50s or so...guess I'm genuinely practicing... I think I initially started it as a challenge because of watching criminal minds and seeing victims unable to get around their own homes in complete darkness...thought I'd like to be a little prepared for something highly unlikely to happen to me

[@KMx108]

I once offered to "give a hand" to a man with no arms. I immediately said, "oh! What a stupid thing to say!!!" He was very kind and told me it was okay. I was genuinely trying to be helpful as I saw him struggling to open a door. Sometimes intentions are kind and innocent, but words can come out all wrong and make you sound like a heel.

[@meikusje]

@@KMx108 if that were me with no arms, I'd probably have answered 'if only you could' 😂

[@lindycasey]

I had post concussion syndrome and had described some symptoms of confusion to my doctor. His response was, "I wouldn't tell people about that. They'll think you're crazy."

[@iloveFreedom.]

😮hat a nob!

[@Jacoe413]

I was in the hospital due to complications from a severe eating disorder ( my heart was starting to give out) I was days away from needing an pacemaker/ICD. The hospital cardiologist came in for daily rounds. My heart had stopped several times for a few seconds overnight. The doctor told me to my face that I weighed too much to have an eating disorder. That comment absolutely broke me. Struggling with mental health issues and being in the hospital sucks at some places! The complete lack of compassion is awful. We somehow become less valuable as humans.

[@DanielledeVreede]

That doctor needs to go back to school

[@bramsrockhopper3377]

After I’d had my first child, I’d torn pretty badly. They sent for the doctor to sew me up. He was one of the most horrible medical individuals I’ve ever encountered. It was excruciatingly painful even after injections, and I screamed a few times and cried non stop. He stopped part way through and sighed heavily at me and said “just stop crying. I’m not going to give you any more anaesthetic.” It took an hour. At one point my husband had to leave the room as he was so upset and couldn’t handle seeing me like that. It had been a horrendous birth (I was induced, much of it was shock I think), but the hour that monster spent hurting me was the worst part of it. He didn’t even do a half-decent job and I had ongoing pain and problems for 18 months afterwards because of his butchery. By the time he’d finished, I was exhausted and emotionally numb, and my newborn had fallen asleep without being fed or me having more than a few seconds with her. They put me in an otherwise empty ward and kicked my husband out, telling him he could come back in the morning. I just half-lay there in this strange room in silence, my newborn swaddled asleep next to me, crying alone. I’ll never forget his callousness. That’s the thing these kind of doctors forget - to them, we’re just another annoying patient they have to deal with and they probably make 50 snarky comments a day without thinking of it. For us as the patient, we NEVER forget that cruel comment. It stays with us. It affects us. Imho

[@TN-rf7nt]

I think you need to talk to an attorney about this.

[@bramsrockhopper3377]

@@TN-rf7nt Too long ago now…I’d have no chance

[@grex2595]

If you were just another patient, he would have given you something. Your real crime was being a woman. Women are seen as being overly hysterical in our society even in the medical field, and they are often ignored because of this.

[@silkthecatmoth]

My mom was terrified to have any more children because of people like this.

[@grex2595]

KZbin must not have liked my comment. It wasn't just because you were an annoying patient. It's because you were a woman and the healthcare system has a history of treating women as being overly hysterical about everything. Women will come in after a heart attack and be told it's just a panic attack. You could probably go into the ER with a severed arm and be treated as hysterical when you say it's just a scratch. Society has a problem with treating women as being hysterical about everything.

[@Molly-yu9wk]

When I was 16, I was having recurrent fevers and unexplained symptoms and was consequently being seen by an infectious disease doctor. The doctor took one look at me and said, “if your fevers were higher, maybe we’d care about them. Stop looking for answers for your symptoms and see a counselor to learn how to cope with them.” Two years and many doctors later I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease.

[@kuroe-chan5190]

The frustration is real! Wish we could report idiots like that. Glad you stayed in it hope you got true treatment

[@safaiaryu12]

Oh my god, I had the same thing happen to me! Except he wanted my fevers to be higher AND last longer. My mom was like, "Then she'd be dead??" Obviously didn't return to that doctor; eventually got diagnosed with an autoimmune disorder.

[@Sniperboy5551]

Well, it wasn’t an infectious disease. Rheumatology isn’t his speciality.

[@safaiaryu12]

@@Sniperboy5551 Mine was a rheumatologist.

[@Daniel-df3hw]

What is the condition you were diagnosed with?

[@EmmaLavik]

I got diagnosed with severe depression after taking one test like that. I think the highest score you could get was 27... I scored 26/27 but just a couple of weeks after starting on anti-depressants I re-did that test and it came back MUCH lower so thank you to the Doctor in specialist training who finally listened to me!

[@novawinchester3821]

I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child, and as a teen I approached my doctor, the same one who diagnosed my ADHD, about the possibilty of me having anxiety so that I could look into getting an official diagnosis for it and maybe go on medication or learn some coping mechanisms or just something, anything. Her response? "Yeah, that happens a lot with people who have ADHD" and then she moved on! She was the same doctor who, when my sister came to her about her chronic and severe insomnia, told my sister to try limiting the amount of time she was using her device at night. She told her multiple times to do this, and my sister would listen at first but when it didn't work after months of trying she gave up and went back to using her devices before bed. And when my sister admitted to our doctor that she had started to use her phone or whatever before bed again, she would be chastised for it and told to try it again because why else would a tween/teen be having issues getting to sleep? Turns out my sister has depression and also her melatonin levels were way off. She now takes anti-depressants and will take melatonin supplements before bed.

[@jeffscott3186]

About 12 years ago I had a doctor tell me-"you're a hypochondriac, that's your problem." At the time, I was going through a very stress filled time, my anxiety was raging, and my upper left chest felt "hollow" (best description I could come up with) and I would wake up in the middle of the night with a sharp pain just under my left clavicle. The doctor finally agreed to do an EKG. Results in his words- totally normal. I looked at the EKG. I'm no doctor, but I knew it wasn't. Luckily, my insurance at the time allowed me to make appointments with specialists without a referral. I went to a cardiologist. The first thing I did was hand him the EKG results and told him "Dr. __________ told me this is normal." The cardiologist looked at it and almost immediately said "He said this is normal." I said "Yes. He also told me I was a hypochondriac." The cardiologist sat very quietly for a minute and then said, "I've known Dr. _______ for a number of years. Previous to this I'd always considered him to be competent. Clearly that isn't the case. I assure you, you will have the quality of care here that you should have received from him. Let's start with a new EKG and when that's done you can tell me all that's been going on." Ending the long story. Determined I have an irregular electrical path in my heart. It was being exacerbated by the stress in my life. Cardiologist had me do a stress test and an echo. ECG showed my heart was healthy and I had an excellent heart blood fraction- slightly above normal. The stress test, which the Cardiologist watched showed my abnormal electrical flow became normal during exercise and how long it stayed that way depended on the frequency of my exercise (that last part was from a 30 day heart monitor test). What I found out two years later from one of the cardiologists nurses was while I was having that first EKG in his clinic he'd called Dr. _______ and berated him, called his actions and words unprofessional bordering on incompetent, his lack of empathy disgusting, and questioned his abilities as a doctor. He also filed a report about this with State Medical Board.

[@LillikoiSeed]

Competent, empathetic doctors are The Best.

[@deltalima6703]

Next appointment with that first doctor must have been awkward.

[@jeffscott3186]

@@deltalima6703 Never went back to him. The day he told me I was a Hypochondriac I found a new doctor. The thing is. A part of me had been thinking that it was all in my head. If I hadn't had a general idea of what a normal EKG should look like, I probably would've gone back.

[@allycat824]

Was it a bundle branch block? Had a cardiologist tell me I just needed more confidence. I was symptomatic at the time.

[@meaganelizabeth3758]

i have met so many amazing cardiologists since i have a congenital heart defect. They are always so sweet and kind

[@melissashupak]

Went to a GYN when my periods suddenly stopped at 34, along with horrible hot flashes and night sweats, severe fatigue, and more. I told him it all felt like my hormones were way out of whack and I was worried it was premature ovarian failure. His response was “you’re too young for that,” “you’re just overweight and that can mess with things,” “you’re not in your 20s anymore, you aren’t going to feel the same,” and my favorite “this is normal aging.” He refused to even test for anything. Ten months later, many useless appointments later, another doctor finally diagnosed me with, shock, premature ovarian failure as part of a larger polyendocrine autoimmune disorder, also affecting my pancreas, my adrenals, and my thyroid. Yeah, there was a lot of hormonal things out of whack. I hate going to doctors, and go in anxious about being believed every time. Because I’ll be damned if I’m going to be blown off as a fat woman hysterical about aging ever again.

[@NadiaGirl1]

Who doesn’t and I’m scared to go to the dentist

[@i.1213]

My gawd… stay away from any shot, you know what I mean…

[@alisonb2990]

I once saw a doctor for carpal tunnel related to my job. The doctor I saw I was sent to by my workplace. The doctor clearly wanted to minimize my condition for the sake of the company. So he said, “Being fat really exacerbates this condition”. I was 5’ 6” tall and weighed 125 lbs.

[@BBcaskin]

I saw a cardiologist in my 20's once when I was having heart palpitations and high blood pressure and he said the EXACT SAME THING "oh you're too young for that" and then he did nothing further and just told me to lose weight and exercise more even though I was currently working two highly physical demanding jobs.

[@potatocat2445]

i'm sad and sorry you had to go through that

[@aineoconnell690]

I had biopsies taken in January and was waiting for results. The consultant phoned me up and said "ah yes, as I thought, you've cancer"!!! Like wtf!!!! Didn't even ask if id anyone with me 😮😮I'm still traumatised by the whole thing. I'd an appointment then to go see him face to face. I arrived to find it'd been cancelled (no call then) and new appointment for 11th of March. On 5th I got phone call to say I was in for surgery on the 8th!!!!! So not only was my diagnosis blurted out over the phone but I didn't even get to see anyone before I went into surgery!!!!! I've an appointment now on Monday (if it's not cancelled) and I've a list of questions to ask, some which should have been answered before I even had any surgery!!!! Welcome to the UK and the NHS!!!!!

[@nachoramirez1308]

Wow, sorry for the sudden shocking news. It would have been nice if he had taken the time to break the news. Hope the surgery goes well and that no complications happen. god bless, and I hope that the following doctors are more respectful and kind 😇

[@DanielledeVreede]

That's disgusting. No way of changing doctors?

[@bamitsollie6492]

Lodge a PALS complaint seriously

[@gaiamorgosi7181]

One thing that I a was told and hated being told is that my pain didn’t exist and that I should stop getting to the ER. It feels so frustratingly sad to not being believed when you’re literally crying because of pain.

[@fidelianerina]

There is nothing more awful then when a doctor tells you "you're fine" when you know you aren't.

[@melissascott6112]

True. I've had that happen many times. That said, having a doctor hit on me (also happened more than once) was really, really disgusting. Being accused of drug-seeking behavior when you're legitimately in pain is another fun one.

[@RuaLuithnire]

@@melissascott6112 sheesh

[@pcbassoon3892]

​@@melissascott6112 I had a doctor be super duper creepy during a pelvic and breast exam during my pregnancy. And my second pregnancy, I never had a pelvic or breast exam. I think he was taking advantage of me not knowing it wasn't necessary.

[@vez3834]

​@@pcbassoon3892 Report the incident. I imagine if the doc has many reports, it will be looked at seriously. And don't be ashamed, just try to save others. (No expertise, just my instinctive response)

[@griffinbastion]

I had jaw and back pain, and fatigue, reduced strength and motion, doctors kept telling me it was nothing or back muscle. The other day after years of discomfort, i was stretching and pulled a bit too much, my jaw and shoulder made a cracking noise and I've been feeling okay since. My theory is that it they were mildly dislocated and pushing in a nerve as most pain and discomfort have been gone since.

[@libertyt8829]

I have had some bad doctors, but worst I've personally had, was when I was attending rehab after I was paralysed, and as part of my team I had a psychologist. The first time I saw her, I sat there and explained how I became paralysed and she said "I'm surprised you haven't committed suicide already, I would've if I was you" - that broke me

[@claricestarling397]

😳she sure was a psychologist like who say this to their patient ?Wtf and please dont take that to your heart please keep going in life *hugs!

[@pieceofpeace35]

I would have reported her like wtf.

[@TheFanademanga]

Had the same thing happen, i was quite young, maybe 10 something like that, but instead she said that to my mum... Best way to make a mum very stressed about her child mental health.

[@Bumblebee129]

She should get fired 😤

[@ivra6345]

unfortunetly most people are unaware of how heartless a woman can be

[@cj-gunn]

Positive interaction: I have great veins... every time I donate blood the nurses get so excited... The best one was a very gleeful "OMG look at those beauties... let me see the other arm... OMG spoiled for choice!!" it kinda made my day 😊

[@annaschwirian7548]

Had a doctor diagnosed me as diabetic after my first blood test with her she then said "Just stop eating desserts and drinking soda and you should be fine once your body adjusts to this medicine you're going to take" When I asked for further details on how i should handle this diagnosis her response was "Just google it" She hadn't requested to see my diet or anything just made assumptions. Her staff when i asked if i could set up another appointment to discuss a health issue related to bad reaction to the medicine i had tried to tell her about responded " You would have to set that up at our other location with one of her PA's. The doctor only has time for 15min per patient" I do not go to her anymore.

[@cmegan06]

When I was 17, I was very depressed. I went to the pediatrician's office and they made me do a PHQ, the doc came in and said "your answers point strongly towards MDD, but I don't get that when I'm talking to you, you seem like a happy young girl! Are you sure you filled this out correctly?" This lead me to downplay my own depression and not get treatment. In the same visit she also congratulated me for losing a lot of weight when I was actually suffering from an eating disorder

[@googleyoflolz9930]

Nah she knew what she was doing. Honestly, if you feel depressed the. You probably are depressed. It's 9 times out of ten because its a basic yet strong feeling. You'll know. And seriously shes a horrible people reader. Does she not know people act differently around people?

[@bunhelsingslegacy3549]

@@googleyoflolz9930 yeah, masking, it's a thing...

[@safaiaryu12]

Seriously? It's so not uncommon for people with depression to "put on a happy face", how did the doctor not know that? I'm so sorry.

[@hollyhell3772]

//TW I had similar with a psychologist once. I was talking about suicidal thoughts, I had told her about them before. Her answer was "if you really wanted to kill yourself, you would have done it already" Like, wtf? They tell people to seek help for suicidal ideation, but when you do you are met with this??

[@safaiaryu12]

@@hollyhell3772 Oh my god. That doctor needs to lose her license.

[@kkinner2762]

I had a miscarriage and the NP at the hospital told me not to cry "because it wasn't really a baby" and "we aren't sure you even really pregnant. Sometimes people just naturally have high pregnancy hormones." When the doctor came in later he was shocked and said, "no you were definitely pregnant." He was very kind. She was not.

[@midnightaurora9483]

That Nurse is absolutely awful, I'm sorry for your loss.

[@Loveroffood41]

The NP really needs a good lesson in empathy.

[@kikialeaki1850]

@@midnightaurora9483 NP stands for nurse practitioner, not a doctor.

[@itac.2280]

I’m glad you at least had that doctor who was there for you instead of just that shitty nurse spreading misinformation of your own medical emergency to your face

[@sierrabokoskie8374]

I'm so sorry. People are incredibly insensitive about miscarriage, even people who work with them all the time! I am currently miscarrying and at my ultrasound last week afterwards the nurse comes in and congratulates me and does her whole spiel about genetic testing and what to expect etc etc. I just looked at her. I have other children and I've heard the speech before so I just sat there sort of glaring, wondering when she was going to wake up and realize I was losing my baby. It took her entirely too long to realize she had made a terrible mistake. She was very apologetic, but seriously? How hard is it to read the chart?

[@lethalbacon7910]

For the bathroom thing, i’ve gone throughout the day at any given time once i hit college, but when I was in middle and high schoolers, unless it was a serious emergency, i only went to the bathroom before and after school and wouldn’t feel discomfort, it was just my schedule, so i totally buy that a teacher has a noticeably expanded bladder

[@risketch3463]

Mine was -- as a kid i had "anger issues" due to a disruptive home life and parents not understanding how to parent an introverted almost-teenager. I had a social worker who said that my "anger issues" were caused by a hormonal imbalance and that I should be put on birth control. My doctor then agreed with no tests, after I filled out a depression quiz thing that clearly pointed towards me being a depressed person, that I should go on birth control to help with my "anger issues caused by hormonal imbalance" -- needless to say, it took until my 20s to actually get proper therapy and a doctor that had the time to listen to get properly diagnosed with ADHD, proper medications, and so on.

[@emilyscherer2037]

A few years ago, I went to the ER for uncontrollable vomiting (I was projectile vomiting stomach acid) and abdominal pain. I couldn't hold down water and was very dehydrated. When I am vomiting like that, everything hurts. It feels like I've done 100 ab crunches. The ER doctor came in and saw on my chart that I had gastroparesis (paralyzation of the stomach - so a lot of my food doesn't digest and will come up and/or will rot in my stomach because it's not moving normally, andfi you can imagine having the worst stomach flu you have ever had - it's kinda like that) and will come back up, even days later. He also saw me vomiting into a basin with bright red blood in my vomit because my throat was so irritated from all of the acid. First, he thought I was a drug seeker, even though I'm still vomiting and my blood pressure was super high from the pain, and then he told me that GP didn't hurt after half listening to my symptoms. I was in horrible pain and was miserable but, even though I was sick enough to be in the ER, I had to advocate and fight for myself because I did NOY want that in my chart. He didn't even really want to examine me until I said somthing about it. I asked him if nerve damage in the knee hurt (keep in mind, I keep vomiting, no meds on board yet) and he replied yes. I asked him if nerve damaged in someone's back would hurt and again, he said yes. I asked him, then why wouldn't GP hurt if it's vagus nerve damage? He looked at me for a few minutes and replied,"I've never thought of it like that before. " I wanted to facepalm but he did order me meds after that. I know doctors get a lot of drug seeking patients - but they shouldn't judge who comes into the ER. Drug addicts can still have emergencies too. I just don't like to be labled a drug seeker because of my chronic illness and autoimmune issues. Sorry for the novel but it just bothers me to this day, and if I Have to go to the ER, I always go to the same one, who has all of my records. I don't doctor shop or go to different ERs and I really don't like to fight for medical care when I'm sick enough to go to the ER but I learned early on that you have to advocate for youself.

[@paviharnesberry9277]

Ive had one of these attacks on a few different occasions, and they are HELL. good on you for advocating for yourself. The first time, I was in so much pain, I was begging my mom to stop it. She called 911, but by the time they arrived the pain was gone and I was on the floor feeling near death. My temp was super low and so were my blood pressure/pulse. After that fiasco I just wanted to stay home and sleep so i refused medical care. Ive never went to the hospital for it, but if it happens again Im taking inspiration from your story and advocating for myself. thanks ❤

[@TattedIrishxxx]

As a nurses aide in hospice and a surgical technologist, it breaks my heart for you having to have gone through something like that. Shame on that Doctor!! 😡

[@angiepen]

GP doesn't hurt?? What Crackerjack box did that idiot get his license out of? o_O I have gastroparesis too, and the first twenty-some times I ended up in the ER, everyone up to the janitor was constantly asking me how "my pain" was, and I've had doctors express surprise that I didn't have really bad gut cramps. :/ I'm lucky because mine *doesn't* hurt -- early on I'd get some muscle soreness from vomiting, but those muscles are apparently a lot stronger now, lucky me -- and used to drive me nuts trying to convince them I was just there for the nausea, not for pain. One time I (once again) told everyone and the janitor that I wasn't in any significant pain, and the doctor had me shot up with dilaudid anyway -- he apparently didn't believe me. :( If your idiot and my idiot could, like, put their brains together in a blender, puree it for a minute or two, and then give half back to each, they might actually be competent physicians. (Once I was compos mentis again, I complained to the hospital ombudsman, and after a board investigated, I got a nice apology letter and they zeroed out my bill for that visit. So yay?)

[@RexytheRexy]

I was already going to comment before I read what you said about addiction - I've had friends with GP, and it sounds horrific (hearing about any doctor telling a patient with obvious symptoms that they aren't in pain makes my blood boil - I was told the same thing before my congenital spine defect was diagnosed and when my gallbladder was failing). Having to explain your condition in minute detail and advocate for yourself in an ER is something a person who is actively throwing up should never have to do. Anyway: I'm one of the chronically ill folks who lost my pain meds between 2015 and 2018. I ended up living off leftover pain meds and falling straight into actual, legitimate drug abuse (benzos and opioids). Thank you so much for showing the empathy that you did to addicts. It genuinely means a lot. I understand being accused of being an addict simply for having a medical condition, too. I experienced that constantly from 2012-2018 (my addiction issues began in 2019), and I wouldn't wish being perceived as an addict/being treated the way 95% of medical professionals treat addicts on anyone.

[@abidonaghy]

Yup! Had this exact GI issue myself and its like satans flaming boot repeatedly kicking your stomach. Brutal. I've also been dismissed as a drug seeker because OTC painkillers werent strong enough to deal with endo pain. I get that few people understand how debilitating the pain is but how do they not understand that this is a recurrant issue with no end in sight and the pain is NOT being managed when it does flare??? All I'm gona wana do now is go to a pharmacy and take an unhealthy cocktail of everything i can cause you guessed it! I am indeed after painkillers!! For my chronic pain!!! Which leaves me so incapacitated that i lose motor function!!!! Which means i create a lot of mess!!!!! That i cant clean up because im in pain!!!!!!!! UGHHHHHHH I'm sorry you went through that. We deserve better.

[@nicolelavigne1700]

I had a gynaecologist suggest I get pregnant to cure my ovarian cyst. I was 15 at the time. When I was 17 and he diagnosed me with endometriosis he again suggested I could get pregnant to fix it, then handed me a pamphlet about endo that said that while some people experience less pain while pregnant that is generally temporary and it can be harder to get pregnant. Even if getting pregnant was a reliable guaranteed cure for either condition, there is no scenario where recommending teen pregnancy is ok.

[@amandaweires]

This is messed up.

[@greeneyeyedtiger]

I would of reported him

[@alexreitler]

Damn , this is something I jokingly told my girlfriend (she's 18, and her parents don't allow her to get treatment for it - hopefully she can move in with me this year and get the help she needs), never would have thought that an actual doctor has such unconventional ideas

[@mkjirak]

Dang, my PCP when I was younger was so much better at handling this. She went over all the sane options and we decided to start me on hormonal contraceptives. She also volunteered to have a stern talk with my parents if they had an issue with it, but luckily that wasn't a problem.

[@ElysiumKeeper]

@@alexreitlerI know you were joking, but joking about potentially very life threatening serious issues may make a lot of people ruminate in depression rather than alleviate the load. It's really sweet that you want to help her, and very appreciated, but damn her parents are trashbags. Not allowing treatment for very painful conditions your child has is FUBAR. She is still their own blood..... no matter if she's an adult. You are the son or daughter of someone all your life. Age doesn't erase fraternal bonds....

[@micheleparker3780]

When I was pregnant, in one of my exams, the doctor (femalè) asked me how I was feeling. So, I decided to 😊tell her the truth - my back hurt, my feet hurt, any I was tired all the time. She replied, "You do want this baby , don't you??" It shut me up real quick and I felt ashamed. This was 35 years ago and I still remember the comment and the feeling. This was simply one of several comments made by different doctors at different times over the years and each one has stuck with me and made me feel ashamed, starting at age 15 with my first pap and breast exam, by a Black male doctor (I'm Black).😔

[@sandyandmaxrule]

At the time I was an ER nurse. I had triaged a patient who had vaginal bleeding. I asked her if there was any chance she was pregnant. She said no because she had an IUD in that had only been there about two years. I did a pregnancy test anyway and it comes back positive! Then the doctor went in all excited and told her she was pregnant. She starts bawling saying she wasn't ready, she was still in college, she was trying to be careful. Doctor comes back to the desk so confused why she was upset. The charge nurse tried to explain to him that the patient wasn't ready to have a child but he couldn't see how that would be bad. I still think of her sometimes, walking out of the ER crying and on the phone with her boyfriend. I hope everything turned out okay for her.

[@skribulz7]

As a divorced woman, I really appreciate that Dr. Mike doesn’t apologize. One time someone asked “do I say I’m sorry or congrats?” I laughed and said “congrats” (but that might not be the best response for many people)

[@Kat-ow1lg]

Recently an acquaintance that lives next door told me they're moving and same thing so I wasn't sure what to say, didn't know them other than a chat or two for sugar, and said sorry you have to move we'll miss you! Cause I genuinely did not know what to say, definitely learned from Mike on this one

[@AmericanBaker]

I agree! I'm really looking forward to my divorce being final. That was a rough time I'm so glad is at an end.

[@phiefer3]

I don't know, I think in a lot of cases saying "I'm sorry" is probably the safest response to give. If the person is happy to be out of the marriage then they're less likely go get upset at you for misjudging it as a bad thing; while someone who is upset/depressed over their divorce are much more likely to be offended by such a misjudgement and may as well get upset by someone asking if it's good or bad. Happier people are generally more understanding and forgiving than upset people.

[@bcaye]

I think "Are you okay?" would be acceptable. In those circumstances you can be okay with the transition but having problems otherwise. Maybe support other than emotional could be helpful.

[@Hitsugix]

as a mortician i agree. we once had a lady come into the funeral home, stating her husband had died. she wasn't in tears nor did she look sad in any way, so instead of the usual "i am sorry for your loss" i asked her how she felt about her husband's death and she was actually glad and happy, because he was an abusive alcoholic c*nt. having had a father like this throughout my whole childhood, i completely understood why she was happy. it wasn't a loss for her at all.

[@ilovsapinta]

I self-admitted myself to the ER for mental health reasons. When I was asked how I planned on hurting myself, I said "Most likely with pain pills". The nurse looked at me and he said "Oh that's the WORSE way to do it, organ failure is miserable". I honestly find it hysterical when I think back on it. P.S. I'm also doing better now

[@tamarosenthal5639]

Yeah no this nurse was right, med overdoses are not it

[@melissascott6112]

Sometimes you have to laugh simply so you don't cry! How awful! (and glad you're doing better)

[@sarahprice659]

My mom didn’t take my OD attempt seriously because I took Tylenol (I hadn’t taken nearly enough to mess myself up, but I did puke the next morning. It wasn’t until she happened to mention it to my pediatrician, who was VERY concerned, that she realized it was something serious. Oh, Mom!

[@kitty79er]

@@sarahprice659 this is why i think people should be forced to take a class or even years of learning how to know when to take something serious verses when to take not as serious

[@griffinbastion]

One story I have about mental health is that someone close to me tried to kill themselves following someone else's suicide and the doctor said "are you proud of yourself" as well as making remarks about the person's relaxed pose (after overdosing on multiple substances) as well as saying that asking for therapy is too much from free healthcare

[@damaramcelrath-fatherree9732]

Had a doctor once verbally debate me about refilling my 30 day Hypertension Medication that was lost in moving homes after only having 10 more days to refill anyway, but there was ABSOLUTELY NO debate nor questioning of the man who needed a refill on his 90 day supply of medicine in 20 days.

[@sharonhirschhorn1636]

Took my son in to the doctors , I was seen by a new doctor. My son was 13 at the time and had a severe case of acne. He had gotten a lump on his neck and I wanted it checked out.The doctor took a look and said ,”well it’s either a boil or a very aggressive malignant tumor. “ My son looked like he was going to faint , and when I told the doctor ,” What the hell were you thinking?” He replied that he felt strongly that we should be honest with children. Told me too but let’s see first if it’s cancer before we scare the kid. Thank goodness it wasn’t cancer but I had to deal with a terrified child for a week while we waited for the test results.

[@ungarischfsikurs743]

When I was 13, my psychologist told me: "Did you ever consider that your mother don't love you because you are just unlovable?" I never went back, I straight up refused to go back into this doctor's office.

[@RuaLuithnire]

WTLF

[@fightinamrah]

Terrible

[@mrfrogkingg]

How the hell did that 'psychologist' even their degree? I'm studying psychology and I cannot imagine anyone like that choosing to go into that field

[@susanbolin275]

I'm so very sorry for any pain that horrible comment cause

[@nerit4221]

I really wonder how some people get into healthcare when they’re so awful

[@t.l.c7481]

“It’s just normal female issues and pain.” -it was an autoimmune disease. “You’re depressed? Just go for a walk.” -I have an autoimmune disease which impacts my brain. I exercise regularly. I just love having my issues dismissed. 🙄. This is partially why I don’t trust doctors and I’ll google how to “fix” myself before I see any doctor

[@pattycake8272]

My daughter and her Dr. google stuff together. In the exam room. I like older nurses, they know it all. If I break my arm then ya Dr.

[@shannonstibor6967]

Honestly, you are better off with Google anyway.... I went in to the doctor and they pulled up a screen, asked if I had a smartphone, told me to take a picture and then to Google it. I had frozen shoulder. Instead of just explaining what it was, or how I got it, (especially since I actively use my shoulders and I had Googled that prior when my mom suggested it and I ruled it out because it didn't sound like it 😂😅) he just said "Google it". Doctors today seem to be very rushed and don't listen. That's just one example. I spent most of 2023 in various hospitals and different specialists and my primary, and physical therapy, and it just... I gave up. I just don't even care anymore. I don't have the energy to keep going to these appointments to not even be able to find the issues, fix the issues, be told to Google, just be sent to another specialist, etc.

[@Maeshalanadae]

Cushing’s?

[@HollieAndApollo]

I completely relate! I was told the same and I’m like I’m literally in school to teach yoga.. I do.. daily lol

[@pattycake8272]

@@shannonstibor6967 that's insane. Our drs. Would rather get in there and operate than try to help you if you can be without operating.

[@buttonsf3293]

7:07 I went into the ER for spotting while pregnant (20 weeks) after a car accident. They did an ultrasound, admitted me to keep an eye on me, and while I laid in pain cramping a doctor came in and said with a happy jovial tone "I suppose you know by now your baby's dead" I didn't know. It was my first miscarriage. Years later it's still a gut punch to think about

[@TheCardinalArt]

When I was 4 I was in a car accident which left scarring on my face. By the time I was a preteen it had faded and I didn't think anything of it because I had the evil acne to deal with. Later in my early 40s I had severely injured my back and one of the "doctors" I was referred to was a chiropractor (I didn't know better at the time). The first thing he said to me was "Those scars on your face must make you really self conscious. Do you have self esteem issues because of them?". What? I hadn't even thought about them for over 30 years. It took me several years to stop worrying about them again.

[@smalltowngirl78]

So to add something positive... I had the same primary physician from age 4-20. Small town too, so I'd see him at church, around town, etc. I'm 26, just left my ex-husband, kids and i just moved back in with my parents. I come down with bronchitis, so I of course go to see him. He diagnoses me and gives me a prescription, then asks me "So what happened? Are you ok?" I tried to blow him off but he sincerely cared. He was the first person who told me that what I had been experiencing was abuse. ❤️

[@Tirani2]

I am glad he pushed just a little bit, and was able to help you. The good ones like this are rare breed these days.

[@sherylbegby]

That's amazing humanity and perception. I'm touched that he cared about you like this. I hope you are able to find any help you may need to work through the abuse you experienced.

[@chyndb]

Am I missing something cause I don’t see anything for before you said so to add something positive….?

[@amaiakagane5612]

@@chyndb I'm guessing it's because most of the comments on this video are about really awful personal experiences. @smalltowngirl78 I really appreciate this, thank you. I also like that the video had some positive and funny things added too. Hope everyone has a nice day.

[@kentario1610]

My GP follows my mom on fb and likes her posts, so she sees when mom posts about a nature walk we both have, and mom jokes that the doc can see me going out and getting air.

[@alexia4431]

I was in the hospital post suicide attempt, and an older lady nurse stepped in with the most stern expression I'd ever seen. She started asking me "so why did you do it?" and telling me that she had suffered a far worse life than I could ever imagine. I was 16 and unable to breathe or speak through my drug overdose. Only after she was done berating me did she give me an oxygen mask 🙁

[@VioletEmerald]

How horrific!! I hate that these people work in medicine.

[@hiimapotato123]

That is horrifying I am so sorry you had to go through that. How dare she say those things to you? In the worst time of your life she berated you and made it all about herself. I am so so sorry you had to endure that and I hope you’re doing better ❤️

[@greatPretender79]

That is absolutely horrifying that she said those things *knowing* you couldn't even respond. I kinda feel like she thought you'd think "oh, maybe my life really isn't so bad." But probably what you heard was, "I'm better than you."

[@juliasmith960]

That was terrible and she should never had said anything like that to you - especially while withholding medical care! I hope you never deal with anything like that again, but if you do you or a family member can insist on speaking to the hospital's patient advocate. Best wishes for you going forward. ❤‍🩹

[@lonelylama5222]

Why did you do it? No way you could’ve experienced something that was worth taking your own life over, right?

[@carolynlemieux53]

My mom told me about the time my pediatrician asked her if she was afraid I might have AIDS. I was born in 81 in a small town in northern New Hampshire. When I was born I needed a blood transfusion so this is why he asked. My mom just said no because of where I was born and how rural it is. This doctor was known in my area as a quack because he would say outrageous things to people all the time. For instance he told my husband when he was 16 that if he had sex he’d stop wetting the bed! He out grew it soon after that comment!

[@kioshijacakl]

My family doctor that I went to most of my life always said I was severely overweight/obese every time I stepped on the scale. Keep in mind, she also said this to my brother who has ADHD so much and high metabolism that he is literally a stick. She gave me so many body insecurities that I even gained an ED. I think, even if I was 30 lbs. underweight, she would still say I am obese, that's the kind of person she was. I had also talked to her about a concern I had with my breasts and she just said it was fine and I would grow out of it. I was 16 at that time and, the next year she saw me, she just said, "Oh so that's still a problem huh?" And didn't say anything about it. She was never a good doctor but seriously...She at least shouldn't be working with kids. I wonder how many other kids she has given insecurities and EDs to.

[@nachoramirez1308]

Some of the stories I read so far are crazy. Thankfully, I had a great family doctor he was with my mom for both her marriages and delivered all five kids and was the pediatrician. He always had loonytoon bow ties and a kind smile. He would be tough when he needed to cus I got a little heavy one year, and he told me to cut back on fast food and not eat at night. Made sure my mental health was good and I was being taken care of (lost the weight and he was pleased, wish i could have him as my adult doctor), lol. Hope all is well and you have a doctor who cares and respects you. Peace ✌️

[@applepeel5528]

When i was 16, i was in the hospital for suicidal ideation. The doctor at the time told me that i was being very selfish. That honestly made me feel worse and more suicidal. The worst part was i lived in an abusive household at the time. My attempt was basically a cry for help.

[@RuaLuithnire]

What a jack🍑

[@katnissever-meme9318]

That's so awful! That doctor should have been fired! I hope you're somewhere safe/doing better now :'(

[@ms.mckenna.brooksDavarsk0096]

😂

[@RavenSutcliffe]

I had a nurse like that; she was stitching me up and asked how I could be selfish enough to do that to my mother. My mother was my primary abuser at the time. I'm so sorry and I hope you're somewhere safe and doing better

[@kianisjuan1652]

@@ms.mckenna.brooksDavarsk0096 what the hell is your problem.

[@CrashIsHuge]

I actually had my gynecologist say something that made me feel a lot better during my very first appointment with her. She told me "I'm sure you're very important to the people in your life, but your vagina is not special to me" and as someone who's never been to a gynecologist before, it made me laugh and really relaxed me

[@RuaLuithnire]

I would laugh at that too. It’s a much faster way of saying “I’ve seen them all, you can’t shock me, it’s fine. It’s all good.” 🧡🧡🧡🤣😂🤣

[@sierrab489]

My mom worked in a woman's office for years. She always assured me that one vagina looks like another lol

[@sierrab489]

My mom worked in a woman's office for years. She always assured me that one vagina looks like another lol

[@Shopgirl1]

I had a male gyno who I went to for a pap and when he touched my leg I jumped and said I hate these things they’re so embarrassing and his response was some women like this..I guess he thought I was a cold fish or something like I’m supposed to enjoy a Pap smear!

[@RuaLuithnire]

@@Shopgirl1 gross!

[@anmkohaku0077]

At 24 years old I found myself suddenly in the hospital. I had a nurse come into my hospital room saying okay we have to get you up and moving around. Mind you I was in a hospital with a DVP and shortness of breath. My mom who is a retired nurse said “I don’t think so seeing she is on heparin shots and we are waiting on the results from her scan”…. Literally minutes later the doctors came in and they rushed me to emergency surgery… I had PE in my lung and they were worried it was going to go into my heart. That nurse is lucky my mom was there. My mom also made sure that nurse was never on my rotation for the rest of the time I was there

[@brads_wife]

Former teacher. Yes, we get a (usually working) lunch break; yes, we get a planning period; no, we don’t have time to pee. I would go 8+ hours without going to the bathroom, while drinking coffee and water all day. It actually took me several years to be able to force myself to pee more often once I left teaching.

[@CorrineJones-kd9ph]

I’m a teacher and I’ve heard the bladder comment while getting an ultrasound. Many of us do not get guaranteed lunch breaks, and we cannot use the restroom while we have a classroom full of students, so we hold our bladder the entire workday. One of my colleagues got a kidney stone in her mid twenties, and the doctor said that he sees many kidney stones in teachers and nurses for this reason.

[@tyrant-den884]

Had a teacher who'd had four. Countless other health issues. Passed in her 40's.

[@amandasnider2644]

What's interesting was I had undiagnosed anxiety as a kid but my teachers wrote in my report cards, "Anxious bladder" because I'd go to the bathroom just before recess but before class begins again I'd want to go to the bathroom again out of the worry that I'll need to go during class and miss something or not be allowed. As an adult I still got it but now it's worse because I also developed IBS on top of it...something heavily influenced by anxiety and stress lol. I could NEVER work a job that doesn't allow a bathroom break every 30 mins. Ps, yes I've been tested repeatedly for diabetes but going 28 years strong without despite having a strong family history of it and having PCOS and being obese...its remarkable I still haven't developed it yet

[@languay1]

I'm a teacher. Sometimes, I'd have to hold in my urine until my hands tingled (not tinkled). ⛲️

[@mabryperry1829]

I was a substitute teacher last year, and I always went to the bathroom when I had a break, like during specials or lunch. I am very sorry not everyone gets those breaks

[@lizgreer6888]

Elementary special education teacher... sometimes I make it through a whole work day and then realize I held my pee all day. I try to drink a whole 50 oz water bottle a work day. So I usually really have to go by the end. I know it's not healthy but I don't have time to do it during the day

[@julianaconway4742]

You’d be surprised how many doctors have said to me during an exam “looks fine, your tonsils aren’t swollen” I had my tonsils taken out 12 years ago

[@Crazy_Old_Ben01]

They can & do grow back. I'm not saying that is what happened with you. But it can & does happen often enough To have it checked out . If you want to know if yours have grown back. I would suggest that you find and get an appointment with a "Good" Ears, Nose & Throat Doctor. That should answer that question. Along with any other questions that you may have. Good Luck !!!

[@vakama9053]

I mean, they're right. Your tonsils *aren't* swollen.

[@criticalmass5402]

Well they were right then weren't they? 🤣

[@Mia-her8ii]

Some people have no idea what they're talking about obviously 🤣

[@thefairy6884]

My primary doctor, who used to deliver babies, diagnosed me with vaginismus after two failed pap smears. After she explained what it was amd how it worked I blurted out, without thinking, "You're telling my vagina has anxiety?" We both had a laugh and she referred me to a physical therapist (who I will be seeing once my health insurance kicks in at work)

[@viktorrodriguez7517]

I got off work one day feeling like I was about to faint and my chest and both arms were tingling so much to the point of pain. I was also short of breath and had an elevated heart rate, therefore I was under the impression I was having a heart attack or something else related to my heart. So I asked my mom to drive me to the ER. After several tests and scans and whatnot, a nurse came in and explained that the doctor was busy so he was gonna give me my diagnosis. He tells me the results of everything came back normal and that it was just anxiety. Then he felt it necessary to add, "I was in the Iraq War and watched my brothers in arms die. What do you have to be anxious about?" I was too stunned to speak and my anxiety got worse at those words. I have major anxiety due to childhood trauma.

[@ashleighwood7013]

At 25, I was going through months of severe anxiety and a serious mental breakdown... I told my doctor at the time and his exact words were, "To be honest with you, I don't really care." I remember because I think it's possibly the worst thing anyone has ever said to me. Luckily I changed doctors, and now I have an awesome doctor and I have the medication I need to live a normal life again. (I'm 35 now)

[@perfectfit04]

EXCUSE ME

[@ferociousgumby]

I was in an emergency ward because I was suicidal (I was about 18 at the time), and four hours later I finally saw a doctor who said, "Well, can't you just pull yourself up by your own bootstraps?"

[@nicknackpaddywacks]

WHAT???

[@RuaLuithnire]

Excuse me?! If you don’t care, you need to find a new job sweetie! That is horrible!

[@gloriav7646]

I hope you reported that person

[@lauracelati6996]

A gynecologist told me that I didn't love myself because I had gone without shaving and even recommended therapy. I had told her that I suffered from very bad boils every time I shaved and I had even apologized in advance, but she didn't listen or care and assumed that I didn't love myself. I was young and it affected me a lot at the time.

[@cassiebeal9646]

That's not even an uncommon issue with shaving. What a horrible person

[@Aphelia.]

I hated myself more when I used to shave ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ it makes no sense

[@lyssgoddess]

Girl this upsets me. 😢❤ YOU DO NOT HAVE TO SHAVE 😫😭 I’m married and these discussions with my partner were the most healing thing ever far more then therapy 😫🥺❤️ “it’s just hair” was literally so comforting I get ya

[@0.-.0]

Having hair is WAY MORE self loving and WAY MORE attractive!!!! You are not a prepubescent child, you are an ADULT!

[@madisenbarre-hemingway8582]

as a labor nurse this is WILD to me. I don’t care if you’re shaved, bush, made a cute design, whatever. A vagina is a vagina 🙃

[@jondorr4011]

Growing up i uad so many health problems. From chronic insomnia to depression and bad food allergies along with violent mood swings. My mom took me to many doctors and the way she describes it they just wrote everything off because i wasnt exibiting symptoms while I was in front of them and they basically just said she was over protective or exaggerating. Finally a friend of my grandmother recommended her doctor. He actually listened to my mom, and while he couldn't do everything as a GP, he was able to refer me to others who actually helped. He's also the one who first started me on an antidepressant. That man literally saved my life.

[@ellen-marie6692]

Had a new family doctor (female btw) who said, after I shared my concerns about family history of addiction, that I didn’t want strong codeine pain meds while I was waiting for a surgical referral to have my gallbladder removed, “normal people take the painkillers” & proceeded to write the script. This was enough for me to know I could never see her again & I dropped her.

[@leadslinger]

I once saw my doctor as I had "jock itch" by my groin/genital area. He prescribed me a antifungal oral medication and lamisil cream. I asked isn't lamisil for athletes foot? He replied it's also great for athletes balls. 🤣

[@spoopyvirgil4944]

Oof, ringworm. Crotch ringworm probably isn't comfy.

[@ms.mckenna.brooksDavarsk0096]

It is..

[@kitty79er]

😂

[@llkg9]

Lol. When I worked in pharmacy, one of our insurance companies got really picky about how often patients could refill creams, so we'd have to call the doctors' offices to get a sense of the size of the area being treated, then estimate days-supply. One day, I called a nurse about an antifungal (which, unbeknownst to her, can be used pretty much anywhere on the body). She got really flustered with my questions about the "size of the area being treated," then she finally says, "Look, I haven't seen his p*ni$, so I have no idea what size it is." 😂

[@michellemahoney8126]

I had a cervical biopsy on March 17 one time, and the doctor looked up from between my legs and said “I bet you never thought you’d get pinched *there* on St. Patrick’s Day.” The med student who was observing looked at me like “Oh, God, this guy’s gonna end my career before it even starts.”

[@gl15col]

When they tell you before a cervical biopsy "Its just a pinch" I wanted to say "Imagine your balls being "pinched" like this, and see if you wouldn't cry too"...They cut into a very sensitive body part with no anesthetic. Doctors are often dicks.

[@KeterMalkuth]

@@gl15col To be fair, the "It's just a pinch" that most medical professionals use *before* a procedure is meant to work off the placebo effect to reduce the pain without medication. If someone *believes* it should just feel like a pinch, it will hurt less. This obviously doesn't excuse anyone who tries to use that to critique showing discomfort. That's just horrible behavior. But the intent when saying it isn't to be mocking, it's meant to relieve pain and discomfort.

[@katrinadaly1755]

Actually it’s been proven both anecdotally and I believe there was a study I saw on it too - that patients who were told they would experience MORE pain than the level of pain the procedure was, actually felt LESS pain because they felt they were “more prepared” for the pain than those that were told the actual average pain level the procedure was rated and also experienced less pain then people who were told the procedure would hurt LESS than it actually did.

[@creativefishstudios5011]

For the longest time I struggled with infertility and loss, one appointment that followed closely behind one loss the doctor said "congratulations, you ARENT pregnant!" I called my sister bawling in the middle of the night...

[@ChrissyBae]

Wow. Im so sorry that happened

[@LexMeRep]

Before I had my DAVF surgery, I was sent to a lot of doctors to run all kinds of tests. After I've had the second Bell's Palsy of my life, my doctor told me to just go to another part of the hospital to run some tests, nothing more. I went in, they told me to sit, then asked, "Have the doctor told you what the test is about and how it works?" me: "... no?" them: "We're going to put needles into your face!" I almost fainted.😂

[@violentmuse]

When I inquired about a hysterectomy after a decade of agony from endometriosis and my first loss, my gyno refused it as an option because, "my future husband might want children someday." I also have seizures and the combo makes the odds of me ever carrying to term nearly impossible, which she knew at the time.

[@katehenry2718]

"future husband" will have better brains and more empathy... and be fine with adoption if children are to be part of the family.

[@RuaLuithnire]

🤦🏼‍♀️ my future husband can get in the boat and row, or he’s not going to be my husband anyway. What does a hypothetical MAN have to do with your uterus?! Girl, I’m so sorry you head to even deal with that. I hope you got the care you needed.

[@RuaLuithnire]

@@katehenry2718 exactly what I was thinking

[@OhWellBananas]

@@RuaLuithnire When I went to a an OB/GYN to inquire about getting sterilized after Roe v. Wade was overturned, I had already prepared my answer if I was asked that: "Then I'd get a different husband." As you said, not sure what a non-existent, purely hypothetical man has to do with this. Thankfully, my doctor just asked me if I was sure that's what I wanted, (a few more times than I felt was truly necessary), but still better than being 2nd to a man who doesn't even exist.

[@RuaLuithnire]

@@OhWellBananas depending on how this next presidential election goes, I’m getting my tubes tied and they best better take me seriously. I hope I get a doctor like you had.

[@joshuajace8750]

I've had that "you're not depressed, it's just your personality" one before too. I've also had "There's a thing on the MRI that we only see in people who have had a stroke but you're too young to have had a stroke" (I was 27). A year later, another MRI and another Doctor tells me I have indeed had a mini-stroke.

[@ferociousgumby]

"What do you have to be depressed about?"

[@jessicaj2990]

i recently developed painful breast lumps (well "recently" I've had them for a year now) and every doctor I've been to so far (several different obgyns) refused to do any testing, I got ONE to palpate(?) and do an ultrasound but they all said, even the one who admited there are lumps palpable and visible on the ultrasound "it can't be cancer, you're too young to have cancer". not a single one wanted to do a blood test. I also called every breast cancer clinic I can realistically reach and they've all told me they're not taking new patients.

[@shawnycoffman]

​@@jessicaj2990As someone with a blood cancer, I can tell you there are YOUNG people with breast cancer. Males and females. The youngest one I've seen, I believe, was 15 years old. I've seen 20-somethings in with all manner of cancer: breast, ovarian, pancreatic, bone, blood, etc. etc. etc. Cancer knows no age boundaries. I wish you all the best. 😊 To the doctors who say this, if these patients are "too young" to have cancer then why do we have children's cancer hospitals?

[@user-gc7zz5zm7u]

A stroke can happen even to kids, what did the doctor Mean?!

[@christineheinaranta8353]

I’ve had a newborn patient have seizures, and after multiple tests found a stroke, which likely happened in the womb from mom’s high blood pressure. “Too young for a stroke” is such bs! But not only do doctors not believe patients, they also don’t believe when nurses report findings to them. The first Pediatrician didn’t believe me that this particular newborn was having a seizure. He and his resident were laughing at me saying I didn’t know the difference between a seizure and a startle reflex. I called another doctor over ASAP, and we ran the baby to NICU for IV insertion and phenobarbital.

[@jacksonquinton9276]

I am in hospice with my mother who is passing from cancer I’ve been at her bedside the whole time she gets Dilaudid every hour I had no idea it was that strong! Makes me wonder just how bad her pain is… nurses here are extremely sweet people no issues with anything they say great but the hospital drs and nurses where extremely rough on my mother and not in any way interested in helping her they way they seen it as a waste of time because she is dying made her feel like a burden! Have never been more angry in my life made it very clear I was not happy with the care she got very thankful the hospice had a bed ready for my mom and welcomed her with open arms they have cared for her in such a way that she is constantly comfortable and not feeling any pain she is finally peaceful I am extremely grateful for the nurses here they are a blessing they have become like family to mom and I mom is beyond grateful for them especially after her experience with hospital

[@sweetshinegacha]

once a doctor told my friend “can you just stop? seriously, just stop. you’re really stressing me out right now.” MY FRIEND WAS HAVING A PANIC ATTACK BECAUSE SHE WAS TOLD ABOUT HER HEART TRANSPLANT

[@laurahess3417]

I was diagnosed with Lupus at the ripe old age of 14. Due to my circumsdtances, I qualified for for disability payments through the SSA and some services through Medicaid. I don't take any of that for granted... I know there are others who aren't able to get the help they need. Anyway, one day I was at my primary care physician's office. After my exam, she turned to me and said, "Don't you think you've used enough of the disability payments? You should really stop having this pain and let someone else use these services. Plus, you should really stop being depressed." It was such a hurtful and bizarre statement, I didn't know what to do. She was quite cold and hateful. I turned to her and said, "You don't know what the hell you're talking about. You just lost yourself a patient." I left and never went back.

[@RedSelf]

That was the right thing to do, and you don't have to make excuses for being qualified for those services. You're valid and also is valid to get some sort of help.

[@janedoe41276]

I didn't know that by telling someone to simply "stop having pain" and "stop being depressed" would instantly cure the issue..... I'm glad you stood up for yourself, and never went back!

[@MedicalAutonomyProject]

I can strongly endorse the walk on on the doctor method. Used it several times myself.

[@lizmullaney305]

So being disabled at 14 is an uplifting experience? And she had no clue how SSDI works obviously. You using your benefits does not deny anyone else any assistance they qualify for. She’s either a fool or completely biased and hateful.

[@lauranolastnamegiven3385]

unfortunately, you probably gave that medical practice exactly what they wanted, I'm sure they were losing money, having you as a patient, because of low Medicaid reimbursement....her attack may've even been planned & purposeful...which is not to say you shouldn't have left, but I'm not sure you 'stuck it to them,' as much as we wish you had...unless you reported the witch, & got her in trouble

[@artisticsword]

One of the worst doctors I ever got referred to was a pain management specialist who had received relevant medical files about my health conditions but didn't read them. Instead, he questioned me about my medical history, kept asking me "How do you KNOW you have that", and then started asking me some of the questions one would use to diagnose anxiety. Unfortunately for him, I was in my fourth year of my honours degree in psychology, and my specialization was personality and behaviour disorder diagnosis, so I knew exactly where he was going with these questions. I listed off all of the diagnostic criteria for anxiety and how I didn't meet it, and then told him to focus on the reason I was there: pain management.

[@Creepergirl7794.]

What exactly WAS he trying to do, because now I want to be aware of it in case it ever happens to me. I'm really curious, if you're okay with telling me what he'd asked or what his intentions were. Was it just to get money? Idk

[@artisticsword]

@@Creepergirl7794. Honestly, I don't know what his intentions were. I'm in Canada where a lot of services are paid for by our national health insurance, although not all services are fully covered. Money could have been the reason. This was when the DSM-IV was in use rather than the DSM-V, and a lot of the questions seemed like re-worded versions of the diagnosis for General Anxiety Disorder and Hypochondriasis (it's been removed in the DSM-V but was previously classified as a type of anxiety disorder) It was long enough ago that I can't remember the exact questions, but because our in class work involved diagnosing patients based on case studies we were given, I had a good chunk of the DSM-IV memorized.

[@Creepergirl7794.]

@@artisticsword Interesting :)

[@juliethomas3523]

So much assumption goes towards everything being psychosomatic with women! What that says to me when a doctor leads toward anxiety is they are lazy more than anything. It is unreal the level of disregard that we are treated with.

[@Creepergirl7794.]

@@juliethomas3523 I've heard of people going to a psych ward and being treated like they were inhuman and less than: threatened by workers and other patients (whether with violence or rape), told they're "crazy" if they try to tell someone or ask for help, refused the ability to talk to anyone outside of the facility because "they're unstable", that kinda stuff. it makes me scared to even tell anyone my problems because I don't want it to happen to me. I have suicidal thoughts and I s/h, but is it better to tell someone and run the risk of going to an abusive psych ward, or keeping it to myself??

[@taylorkoonce8834]

I’ve had stomach problems most of my life. My first gastroenterology visits after leaving my pediatric doctor, I was explaining symptoms and treatments I’d had thus far. I don’t remember what was said but we were talking about my use of antacids. She said, “well you can either get esophageal cancer from your stomach acid or your antacids, which one do you want?” A decade later, I still don’t have real answers for what is wrong with my digestive system. But, I’ll never forget that.

[@michaelmorris8317]

I had a quadruple bypass in June of 2022 and on the second day after surgery all the doctors who were in the OR during that operation made their rounds. One of the doctors who was in there to pull the vein out of my leg stopped by. I thanked him for his work and also told him that I was so surprised that I had a bypass because I started having pressure in the center of my chest a couple of years prior, but just thought I was out of shape. He stood there with his arms crossed. Looked at me with a disgusted look on his face and said, "this had been going on for decades, not the last few years". He then turned with an irritated posture and walked out. I was stunned because at this point, I didn't even know that I had Atherosclerosis let alone what it is. I now fully know what it is and how I got to that point, but really?

[@LadyPhoenix62]

I was an RN and had an older patient who had just undergone a lumpectomy. The doctor came in to tell her and her family the results and it was positive for breast cancer and that the patient would need a mastectomy. Of course, the patient began to cry and the family members were all highly emotional. The doctor then told the patient, “I don’t know why you’re so upset. It’s not like you’re using them anymore.” Then he left with a shocked and pissed off patient and family.

[@kjames5682]

What a horrible thing to say. He probably doesn't use his testes anymore either, but that's no reason to cut them off.

[@michellebobier4471]

WHAT???

[@erldagerl9826]

I’ve been reading all the stories in the comments. This is the only one that made me gasp out loud.

[@Archon_of_Freedom_]

WTF

[@RobinHood70]

After seeing my doctor for chronic diarrhea, he literally told me that I was just overweight and should stop going to the fridge every half hour. When I told him I ate like a squirrel, he said "Well something's not adding up", implying that I was lying. Meanwhile, I'm sitting there thinking "Yeah, something's not adding up. Why do you think I'm here?" I was later diagnosed with Celiac Disease. Doing research, it was thought at the time that about 25% of Celiacs present as overweight with difficulty losing weight. (Research since suggests that that number may be much higher.) Had he suggested that as a possibility at the time, he could have saved me years of severe GI problems. I'm happy to report that after a number of similar issues were reported on the then-fledgling RateMDs, he went into research.

[@jblyon2]

I come from a family of overweight people with Celiac. I'm sad to say your experience is not abnormal. The rest of us are overweight due to sleep apnea (or both)...we don't have sleep apnea because we're overweight, it's a face/throat structure issue that starts with puberty, every time. The absolute refusal to believe that we can't lose weight despite trying is so damn detrimental. Of course enough of us have been diagnosed in the past decade it's easy to try the diet to see if it's Celiac, and if that doesn't work, or it only addresses the GI issues, you hound the doctor for a sleep study.

[@Whit-wy2ow]

Personally, I'm horrified he went into research. Doctors are not scientists. And this one seemed particularly unobservant.

[@teganmargaret4198]

I was overweight and struggling because I ate the same food as my roommates and even exercised more than them. My doc told me to eat healthier and exercise even more. I asked for a Celiac panel, and she said “I doubt you have that, but alright”. Been diagnosed since it came back positive! On a gluten free diet, I lost 50 lbs. Never went back to that doctor.

[@janegrant4016]

I was both gaunt and yet still overweight when I was diagnosed Coeliac. Now finally absorbing nutrients, and coupled with the loss of a family member, my weight swelled. I had a doctor suggest that maybe I should start eating gluten again to help lose weight. She was kinda joking, but let's just say I don't really go back to the dr anymore.

[@janemiettinen5176]

Mom waited a year for her Crohns diagnose, she got so weak she had to go on all fours from bed to bathroom at times. Her first doc had said its definitely not Crohns, not even a possibility.

[@FelidaeFaeTV]

A student Nurse Practitioner this most recent Tuesday told me she didnt think I am Autistic because Im too intelligent and dont meet all the markers. This was our first meeting, we had met ten minutes prior and I had brought up my belief of being Autistic in passing because I also believe I have EDS and had started with telling her about that. She never once commented on EDS, never told the NP I saw after her (with her in the room) and dismissed all of my concerns as mental health issues. I seriously hope someone teaches her Autistics can be intelligent and MASK.

[@abigailrdaws0n]

While at an appointment for something, the doctor asked if there was anything else worrying me. I said, well I eat pretty healthily and go to the gym but I never lose weight. He said well it's all about eating, no one in a concentration camp was overweight. While I was processing the idea that he might reccommend starvation and hard labour as a lifestyle plan, he proceeded to say wait till menopause, women can work out at the gym as much as they want then but it will make no difference. So that was a delightful conversation.

[@ToriNoHiko]

One time I went to a gynaecologist who asked if I ever considered plastic surgery in my labia. I asked if anything was medically wrong with it and she said no, it just could look prettier. Yeah, thanks. I’ve never thought my labia was not “pretty” 😂

[@rruthlessly]

That's horrific!

[@hcf4kd1992]

Enraged. That's 100% sexual harassment

[@terynb4407]

My gyno said at our first appointment "well this shouldn't be awkward since Ive already seen you naked." 😅 like fair enough cause he delivered me but it caught me so off guard

[@MandyMoon12]

Omg that's horrible of them!

[@kjlucky6501]

“Oops my foot slipped from the rest and kicked you in the nose. It’s okay, plastic surgery is always an option, right?”

[@mariewraight4969]

My grandfather had suffered with chronic abdominal pain for a while and lost a lot of weight without trying. He kept going to his GP and was constantly getting turned away. On his final visit to the GP he was told “Mr Harding, your problem is you’ve lived too long”. I say final appointment because a week later he was dead. He had cancer in his stomach which spread everywhere AND leukaemia. He was 76 and could’ve lived much longer if he’d been seen.

[@brh.1892]

That must have been incredibly frustrating, I'm sorry for your loss!

[@clashstudio2014]

Sounds like a lawsuit to me

[@lunerlilly]

Doctors are honestly developing extreme habits of turning patients away the last few years... even when you explain the symptoms.....

[@nevaehhamilton3493]

The apathy of this a-hole. I'm so sorry for your loss, Marie.

[@nevaehhamilton3493]

​@@clashstudio2014 it is.

[@sctuten91]

I had a surgeon say to me after the pre term loss of my infant daughter (I had been very sick w chronic pancreatitis and needed a port during my pregnancy) he says I can’t understand why they LET YOU try to carry her. I kicked him out of my hospital room.

[@AzureTwilight]

My pediatrician noticing asymetry in my face and commenting on it to my mother was precisely how I was eventually diagnosed with SCC in my submandibular salivary glands when I was a child. My dad said my mom looked like she was about to murder a doctor until he said that it made him want to perform some further testing. Then she got worried. This was back in the 80's (I'm old) so thankfully it was caught very early and I was a kid so I bounced back quickly after treatment. Basically my pediatrician possibly saved my life there as I don't think prognosis of that type of cancer was nearly as good then as it is now and it's not that great now. Even then I was very lucky because the cancer had not yet spread.

[@tayzonday]

I actually had a urologist (at the University of Minnesota) “jokingly” tell me that if I masturbated, it would make me go blind. I wanted to raise serious concerns with him about a range of topics like postcoital dysphoria, but after that frat joke I wasn’t in the mood 🤷‍♂️😳

[@Joshua-wc5oz]

Ayyy ma man tay!❤

[@tweetycheeky8741]

ur at ur limits that's why you glasses right now

[@elecampane]

Dude, that's gross for a doctor to say! Also, Tay, I love seing you in the comments, you write pretty insightful stuff

[@MythicSuns]

Damn, I'm with you there. Though at the same time if they were treating you around the time your song went viral I'd say by frat boy standards they were showing a lot of restraint. Either way, yeah, I'd see another doctor.

[@MythicSuns]

@@tweetycheeky8741I come from a whole family of people who wear glasses...mind you, we also all live in a rather boring County.

[@meikusje]

Had a lump in my neck that no one was taking seriously, was causing me issues but no one believed it because they all said it was 'just an enlarged lymph node'. Demanded to get it removed. While in surgery (localized anesthetic, so I was awake), the surgeon was telling me how he thought this surgery was a waste of his time, and if he didn't find the lump in ten minutes he would close me up and send me home without removing anything. Then he goes 'ah, there it is. Hmm... It's a lot bigger than I thought. Better send it in for a biopsy.' Turns out it was a tumor 👍 did I ever get any sort of apology for the way I was treated? Absolutely not. Oh, and they told me it was a tumor when I came in to get my stitches removed. I hadn't had any sort of call or anything, had no idea they were going to tell me anything. I was sitting, waiting for the nurse or whatever to come and snip the stitches, some doctor comes in and sits down and goes 'well, turns out it is a tumor', starts into this explanation of what kind of tumor etc, and I'm just like... Ehm... Who are you, what are you talking about, do you even have the right person? And he goes, 'oh, no one told you?'. Overall a terrible experience where no one seemed to know how to behave properly or how to follow any sort of procedure, and the internal communication was apparently non-existent.

[@danielleking262]

oh wow, that is awful !!!! That is pure negligence!!!!! 😠

[@LizIsHauntedMiddleton]

I hope you are alright now and that it wasn't cancerous!

[@amandaweires]

Wow. Just a bunch of numbers to them, and not a real person. I hope you're no longer see that practice.

[@meikusje]

@@charleelastname4262 it turned out to be benign, and I've had two check-ups since and all seems to be fine! Good luck to you 🤞🍀

[@meikusje]

@@LizIsHauntedMiddleton yes, it was benign, fortunately! I was referred to a different hospital after and they did take me seriously, so it ended well. I've had two check-ups to make sure it was all removed properly and not growing back (apparently the surgeon hadn't even bothered to check he had removed all of it, the specialist I was seeing afterwards was appalled at the lack of information in the report), and everything is fine.

[@NamelessC00ch-pp5qo]

I developed EOE (an allergy-like condition) when I was four. Despite my screaming and crying in pain, along with intense pain and anxiety around eating, no doctor bothered to refer me to GI until I moved to a different state. None of them believed me, and my mother was told every single time that I was manipulating her in order to get my favorite foods and special treatment. My new doctor was shocked at the other doctors' behavior, and explained that I had a likelihood of being put on tube feeding if the condition persisted without treatment.

[@wilenglish2991]

the worst thing a doctor said to me was: "your child has cancer, but don't worry its a good cancer" then a few months later "your child isn't getting any better like wee had hoped your child will need a bone marrow transplant but were not sure she will make it through the conditioning...... don't cry, its a good thing" whilst my child was sat next to me

[@lindsaysheffield]

Depression being personality made me fondly remember my old psychiatrist’s quip “I can’t medicate you out of a sh*tty situation” when I wanted to up my bipolar meds because of bad work situation. I’ve kept that in mind when I have depressive episodes and ask myself if it’s the disease or if there’s actually situational changes I should be making. Miss that guy - I moved it off state so couldn’t see him anymore, but he genuinely cared.

[@yoshiyajoshuakiryu3198]

Best psych I ever had ask “do the others make you talk about your past?” When I said yes, she said “stop. It happened. Get over it. Don’t focus on it you can’t change it.” It totally shook me because I had been so bitter about it. She moved on pretty quick to the hospital so I hope she’s still changing lives. ❤

[@amazinggrapes3045]

DAMN I wish someone had said that to me. It's always... "well, let's try this one" and "I'm not comfortable taking you off X"

[@amazinggrapes3045]

​@@yoshiyajoshuakiryu3198that sounds like the worst psych in the universe fr

[@widget5718]

@yoshiyajoshuakiryu3198 That's actually REALLY BAD, it's very important to talk about your past and understand your trauma. What they should have done was help with possible ruminating, in which you are on a cycle of talking about trauma, etc in hopes of understanding, etc

[@redbirddeerjazz]

@@widget5718yep. These clinicians need to be trauma-informed. Your past stays with you. Trauma literally damages the brain and embeds itself in your nervous system. You can’t just “get over it” in an instant. On the other hand, JUST talking about the past without doing proper healing work is likely to keep you stuck. But it’s important to acknowledge what you experienced and how it affected you, so that you can move forward.

[@amandamccallum6796]

For YEARS I was told by multiple doctors that I was too young for the symptoms that I was complaining about. I now know that I have had a genetic condition since birth that caused all of those problems and no I wasn't too young for it. It took 10 years of fighting to finally get my diagnosis of Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and I sometimes think that I wouldn't be as sick as I am if doctors had listened to me when I was younger.

[@rebeccajesse4604]

I went back to school in my late twenties and finally had insurance again so I went in and asked to get my cholesterol checked. The doc at first was like "you don't need that, you're too young". I looked him straight in the eye and said "My mom had a heart attack at age 50 and both my uncle and grandfather on her side died of sudden heart attacks in their 50s. You are checking my cholesterol" The doctor agreed, checked my cholesterol and put me on medication right away. Just because something is statistically unlikely, doesn't mean impossible.

[@helplessnarwhal3722]

I have EDS too! I’m sorry you had to go through that

[@RuaLuithnire]

I was just diagnosed with EDS in the last year. It’s amazing all the off hand comments from doctors over the years and point RIGHT at it!

[@leathermuth2141]

I read this comment and was confused for a second thinking I wrote it without remembering. That is extremely parallel to my experience as well. I was constantly told that for so long and all I could think when the they would say that to me was "If chronic pain had an age restriction I wouldn't be dealing with it, now would I?!"

[@johrathbun]

After speaking to some friends, I suspect that I may have this as well...I've got a new doctor, so don't trust him, and don't know how to broach the subject. How did you finally see a geneticist to this diagnosis?

[@theheartofthestone]

I'm really grateful for my gynaecologist, I came in really worried about unexpected and consistent bleeding because both my mom and grandma needed hysterectomies in their 30s. He ran tests sent me the results and scheduled me for a uterine biopsy and internal ultrasound. In the follow up appointment we went over everything.

[@melaniep6943]

I was newly pregnant, working 12 hours a day, and started bleeding. I was scared and giving myself anxiety attacks so I went to the ER since it was so late, the doctor looked at me and said “Well what do you expect me to do about it? I can’t stop it.” Same guy came in when my friend got her lip pierced, it got hit right after it was done and it was so swollen and I told him he needed to be careful because she is a heavy bleeder. He asked me her diagnosis and I said well idk her diagnosis but I do know she has low iron and she bleeds a lot. He said leave that up to the doctor. He took the piercing out and blood shot everywhere and he couldn’t get it to stop. He had to go get another doctor to cauterize it and a nurse to calm her down when he said he couldn’t get it to stop and gauze to hold on it, if only he had known beforehand so he could prepare. And if I was wrong what would it have hurt to prepare in case? 🙄

[@danibarlow7914]

I went in for my 40 week check up with my first baby. He checked my cervix and said I was only at a one and that I might not dilate more because I had a “lousy cervix” 😂 I discontinued my care with him so fast and found a different office to take me. It was kind of hilarious to call and ask if they were accepting new patients and when they asked my due date I had to say “today”. They laughed so hard when I told them my last OB diagnosed me with a lousy cervix! Long story short, I had a 9lb baby vaginally a few days later. My cervix was a rockstar! 😂🎉

[@Mia-her8ii]

Some people are just a**holes and shouldn't be in that profession. Midwives can be a great resource to turn to when doctors have let you down.

[@residentevil2928]

If your cervix wasn't doing what it's natural purpose, then lousy would be appropriate. You overreacted.

[@Shebeast3]

with?! wow!

[@gypsycat8627]

@@residentevil2928 clearly she didnt since her cervix was fine when she gave birth? mind your own, guy

[@aaronscarpa7469]

Your cervix held a baby to term. That doctor is a schmuck.

[@thalia_1701]

i had a psychiatrist tell me that i was ‘too sensitive to discipline’ and ‘couldnt handle proper discipline’ after describing the abuse i went thru as a child, which contributed to my persistent depressive disorder diagnosis at age 16. that was the only time i saw her, and i made sure to do better research into medical professionals after that

[@melissascott6112]

Good for you! Don't settle for less than a team that works for you. I work in corporate strategy, and it's all about the customer. We'd all be better off if we remembered that when going in to meet with yet another white coat. I say that, and yet I'm intimidated and flustered too (which is why I have to keep & take notes). FWIW - when I was diagnosed with depression in my 40's, having realized I'd had depression on and off most of my life (also not helped by an emotionally & physically abusive, violent childhood)... my oldest sister sent me the book "Choose to be Happy." Needless to say, we don't have much of a relationship now, if at all, for a million other but similarly tone-deaf actions.

[@ganyu_literally]

i JUST want to talk to her 🔫

[@mahatmagandhi2434]

Crazy women right here​@@melissascott6112

[@RuaLuithnire]

@@melissascott6112 oh my god, those people just… I have an absolute fear of ever talking about my abusive childhood for that exact reason “breath out the trauma and breathe in Jesus,” 🙄 “at some point you just have to choose to get over it and not care about it anymore,” and similar comments from supposed therapists and self proclaimed devout christians. They wonder why people are leaving their house of bs (the pronounce it worship, though) in droves. It just terrifies me and disgusts me.

[@RuaLuithnire]

That is horrific, “too sensitive to discipline” does not explain the bruises, the blood, being sworn at and thrown into things, it doesn’t explain the emotional wounds, it doesn’t even touch anything sexual that may have happened. It is absolutely clueless. I am so sorry someone said that to you. I’m sorry you had to hear that. I’m even more sorry people treated you as less than human as a child and then this jag off did the same. Ugh. I am terrified of being told that after hearing it from a few therapists. The number one thing that will stop me in my tracks and send me to an entirely different clinic/health system all together is any mention of religion in their bio. You can be whatever religion you want or nothing at all. I do not care. That choice you’ve made for yourself doesn’t need to be part of my care, but if you’ve gone as far as to put it in your professional bio, it’s going to get shoved down my throat. That is where I have gotten every single bit of the “you were just a bad kid,” “you’re the problem, not your childhood,” “that’s just what old ladies do.” I seriously wish none of us had to go through any of this. There is no reason for it. Sometimes, I feel like some of these folks picked the wrong career, they became doctors or therapists because they thought it would get them rich. They need to go into some other profession that does not involve working with the public.

[@genevieverea5732]

I had neurological issues due to an assault and couldn’t move my hand properly Had numbness down the whole left side of my body To the extent that initially I fell over sometimes just walking 10 years later symptoms are reduced significantly but still some residual issues The neurologist said I was making it up As his tests didn’t show anything

[@leahmoore6820]

Anyone else's heart drop the second he started reading the one mentioning a miscarriage?

[@Caseysfacey]

I went with my plus sized wife to the Dr about an issue she was having with her knee after an injury. He was dismissive and invalidating of her pain and instead told her "if you are carrying around the equivalent of a teenager in excess fat, you have to expect some pain". For the rest of our marriage, she refused to go back to any Doctor again after that hurtful and disrespectful interaction. He made the whole profession feel unsafe for her. I was so livid on her behalf.

[@brielynne39]

weight talk is one of the reasons i too stopped seeing doctors. i’m just barely overweight and my obese PCP loved to bring up my weight whenever possible. one day she casually asked what i like doing for fun and i said i like baking and i 💩 you not in front of my grandma who was with me, her response was “do you eat it all by yourself” and i was baffled she had the audacity in front of me and family. unfortunately doctors loveee to blame everything on weight and it’s disgusting. i would’ve had several of my diagnoses earlier on had she just listened to what i had to say

[@ckdraws410]

While it’s true that being overweight does complicate a lot of health issues and is likely to cause knee pain, you have to at least examine the patient! It was one knee that had recently been injured, not both knees/other joints without injury. And even if there wasn’t anything wrong with the knee from the injury, he should still try to help. I’m not a doctor, but maybe some stretches, a brace, tips for exercise that isn’t hard on the joints would be in order. Honestly, the overweight status of patient should be all the more reason to listen to them since their health is more complicated

[@bun04y]

You witnessed first hand what many women go through by too many doctors. We're either pregnant or the wrong weight.

[@Uchiha.Itachii]

Well being overweight where it can cause u pain in knees and back is something that can happen and I feel like many overweight people can’t accept that fact cause they just want another reason than their weight because they don’t want to exercise

[@katherineheasley6196]

@@Uchiha.Itachii but that's not what they're talking about. There are good and bad ways to broach the topic of losing weight, and if the doctor is disrespectful about it, that'll only result in the patient not trusting the doctor. Also, "lose weight" becomes the default "solution" for some doctors, even when the problem the patient is experiencing has nothing to do with their weight. So, yes, you're correct, but that's not what this conversation is about.

[@austinluther5825]

In this case, the doctor is the patient. I used to be the lab manager for an independent lab and collection facility. During the pandemic, 80% of what we did was take samples amd run tests for COVID-19. I was called to the front because this guy was yelling at the woman who worked the front desk saying that we were trying to give him the wrong test. He screamed, "I am a doctor! I know what I'm talking about! And the airline clearly requires a NAAT, not a PCR?" I shot back, "You mean a nucleic acid amplification test, which is a category of molecular testing that includes polymerase chain reaction?" "Um, well, um..." "You are a medical doctor, I am molecular scientist. Stop yelling at my staff; you are not allowed to speak to anyone here except me. I might be still willing to take your sample personally, run your PCR which is a type of NAAT, and give you the results in time for your flight." The amount of doctors during the pandemic that had no clue what they were talking about regarding COVID-19 was truly staggering.

[@lemonlimesnout]

I work at a hospital lab and same. Doctors and nurses don't know what they're doing. :/

[@Whit-wy2ow]

Drs are usually just very specialized diagnosticians. I didn't realize what a difference it made until I was getting my PhD. I was taking a plant pathology diagnostic clinic for the first time. There is a big difference is knowing the how and why of something, and how to run experiments to help determine something that is completely unknown, and following a procedure to make a diagnosis and then recommendation. Drs follow known quantities for an end result, and the result is what matters. Scientists follow unknown quantities and how you get to the end result means everything. We are doing very different things with very different goals. It's interesting, and slightly concerning, that we all tend to put Drs/scientists in the same category, when they are surprisingly removed from each other.

[@SewardWriter]

Please tell me you delayed his results.

[@bunn228]

​@@lemonlimesnoutI worked in hospital labs too and experienced the exact same. They're very good at some things but when it comes to tests and sample types they don't know what they're doing. The number of angry phone calls I got only to have to turn them around to go get the right sample or reprint the test request :\

[@MiracleFound]

​@@lemonlimesnoutThey may well not know a lot about lab tests, they are only vaguely covered in both nursing and medical school. They both know a lot about gaging the implications of the results and how it will impact care decisions.

[@emk-69]

I went to hospital for a scan as i was bleeding and was worried i was losing the baby. On scanning there was no heart beat... as the Dr/Nurse wiped the gel from my stomach they turned to me and said " i guess you were expecting that news!?" I burst into tears and asked why would i have expected that!? They looked blankly at me as i was whisked off for a DNC. I'll never forget that insensitivity and lack of bedside manner that Drs are supposed to have!

[@Dustin.Born.]

2:37 I have the worst veins. My right arm is my "best arm" No nurse/tech/etc. has ever been able to draw blood from my left arm. On my "good arm," my right, they have to use a sonogram or whatever to find a vein. Ever since I've been like 10. I'm 38 now. When I was younger, like 18-28, they always poked me 8-10~ times before moving to the machine. Now I just tell them to get the machine, you're not going to be able to draw blood. Their always like, "Yeah, ok, I'll be fine. I've been doing this for so and so long" _10 minutes later_ "Ok we're getting a machine to help" I'm in pretty good health as well. Non-obese, eat well, exercise daily, etc. Just my veins are horrible. I'm kinda glad I do, though, just because if the vampire apocalypse comes.