不爱吃鱼的美国媳妇，碰上中式烧鱼，赞不绝口！中美习俗差异Top AWKWARD Things We’ve Experienced as a Chinese + American Couple😂

嗨大家好！今天我们来聊聊中美日常生活的一些不同文化差异
希望你们看得开心～期待你们的留言！爱你们的Jay和ari
Ari 的IG ➭ : Under_starlight
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[@LaoToufu]

Wow, great video. I laughed out loud several times, even at the very end. That food looked so delicious and it's fun to see how you cook it. Love, dad

[@淋鑫]

Gogo

[@arentbcgh]

你好老丈人😊

[@jungled27]

帅哥你好!哈哈哈哈哈

[@Invincibleintheseconddimension]

你年轻的时候也是摇滚歌手明星啊

[@terrykariakoo1738]

At the 14 minute and 15 second in the video, Jay takes on a challenge and sends his mother a message saying "I love you". His mother, like all mothers in China, hears his child say "I love you" and their first reaction is what happened，is there anything wrong with the child. The last two Chinese characters【咋了 za le】 in mother's reply are the most perfect proof。。。

[@shenyun7195]

很理性的觀點，說得很好，我常說文化不存在好壞，只有不同，關鍵是要互相尊重求同存異，而兩個人在一起，愛與交流，就能克服絕大部分文化差異帶來的沖擊。華人文化不會經常說愛，但是會把愛放心底並付諸於實際行動。我因為疫情三年沒回國了，這次在家呆了2個多月，我媽老說我睡懶覺，就吃吃睡睡。但是那天吃飯的時候我只是隨口說了句“今天鄰居家燒臭豆腐，味道飄出來，聞上去好香”（我們這一種特別的燒法，燒熟的時候不會臭）。我甚至都沒說我也想吃臭豆腐，只是隨口說了句。但是第二天餐桌上就出現了我昨天提的那種臭豆腐。我離開的時候，晚上我媽偷偷哭了很久

[@zll3649]

常回家看看

[@brandonso]

I'm from Hong Kong originally, and my wife is of Irish decent from Nebraska. Because of her influence on my family, they now hug a lot too, and the grandparents say "I love you" to the grandchildren every single time they see them. This was one of the greatest blessings my wife has given my family, was to show them how to openly express the love they felt inside. And abundant blessings to you guys and your precious baby! GOD hold you all close to Him in your journey together and protect you, in Jesus' name. Thank you so much for your videos. We love your whole family ... your parents, Eli and Josh ... blessings to all of you! 🙏 ❤️

[@程涛-m6h]

一对幸福美滿婚姻

[@Annie0519]

在人際互動及情感表達方面，挺喜歡美國人的表現，讓人感到熱情，友善，能更拉近彼此距離。而相對於華人世界，表現較含蓄，內斂，但大多數內心是溫暖友好的😄這次看到Jay煮了許多營養可口的優質蛋白質給孕期中的Ari吃，真是滿滿的愛與幸福啊！好羨慕啊啊啊啊～真的是再次應證“別人的老公，總是不會讓人失望”🤣🤣🤣[phone]👍

[@ThePrinceOfChenLiu]

“我爱你！”在中文语境里的感情分量几乎是最高级别短语，华人通常会在极为特殊或重大时刻才会说。所以Ｊａｙ的妈妈才会有“怎么了、咋了”这样的反应。其实，拥抱会上瘾，我现在就很喜欢和不同人拥抱，因为我想了解和感受对方，然后传递我对对方的关切。

[@LTBOA]

就像是告别😅😅😅

[@lauragrt]

No matter he says I love you or not, it’s always more important what he does… if he cooks you all kinds of yummy foods, tidies the room for you, tries his best to give you a better life, that is love

[@themiddlekingdom9121]

I am totally agreed, Ari is very lucky woman that she married to the right man; Jay, he cooks all kinds of foods for her. I bet Jay will cook for his children as well when they are in their youth and teenager years.

[@chufang50]

Ari is the sweetest wife!❤ Jay’s such a good husband!🎉 Enjoy watching Jay cooking!😊Thank you for sharing!🙏

[@HypatiaAmazing]

I noticed that Ari's pronunciation of Chinese words are improving!!! She is getting a better grasp of all the tones. Well done!

[@Noahhhhh123]

我也是喜欢做饭的一男的，很喜欢看Jay给Ari做好吃的视频，这世间唯有爱与美食不可辜负

[@free4587]

因为有爱所以才能相互包容东西方文化中巨大的差异 祝福你们一家三口 永远快乐

[@穗羊下凡]

杰和馨，看了你们的有关不同文化背景的交流，深有感悟！这世界上不同种族和文化能走到一起，彼此互相了解互相关爱互相尊重，是和谐社会的基础。谢谢分享！

[@jeremycylee5825]

Ari: Can you text your parents and say " I love you?" Jay: Is this a challenge? Gold😂😂😂

[@LTBOA]

在中国给父母发“我爱你”的短信的确是个挑战。

[@wangyuning285]

in China, it is a challenge indeed, at least it is for most families. Usually the parents would be equally confused at the outta nowhere i love ulike Jay's mom said i love u too and asked what happened

[@yuqinwu4745]

我刚来美国的时候很不习惯陌生人跟我打招呼，特别是那种笑得很甜美的那种，会让我手足无措的感觉😂到现在我也还只能接受跟老公还有自己的小孩拥抱，其他人不行……父母也不行，也没说过我爱你，跟老公都很少说，只会偶尔在人少的地方说……人多就说不出口😂

[@vergilzhuo5157]

喜欢看你们的视频！ 80后的家庭很少说“我爱你”，但有了孩子后我们开始对自己的孩子和爸妈说“我爱你，我想你”等等，包括拥抱。大家越来越敢于表达了。😀

[@benlee6500]

Very good examples of an awkward situation between 2 cultures. It's good to embrace each other's good practices...Good that Jay and Ari showed us the good ways...

[@foodiepiglet5298]

Another awkward thing is when chinese married and we do call each other's parents mom and dad, but in American call by the name. In chinese we don't say I love you to people, we do things for our love one, either friends, family or your other half. That's why we feel so weird when we say I love you. Especially saying I love you infront of parents.

[@CHCCwords]

假如在中國的街上有人突然對我說喜歡我的T恤，我會覺得這人要不是精神有問題，要不是詐騙犯🤣🤣🤣 很喜歡看你們的影片，很真摯，滿滿的幸福感！😊 也要讚賞一下剪片，很自然。I love you guys. 😁

[@oomboo7648]

也不至于，就是会吓一跳，然后回个谢谢就走了

[@oomboo7648]

心里会觉得是不是在推销什么东西

[@yeungnick244]

So so true, I wasn't born in Canada, but basically grow up here, yet I could never get used to the hugging to females, even if we were good friends, and to say I love you, haha, yeah, maybe only the younger generations, same with Jay, I never heard my parents say that to each other, and honestly, if we say or text that all of the sudden, the person on the end will probably thinks someone is very wrong, maybe I'm dying or very sick, some kind of bad news for sure😅

[@CWChan-xq1ik]

Dear Ari and Jay, like your videos. Just hope that the relationship between the two countries is as sweet as between you two. Wish Ari's pregnancy every smoothness ther is.

[@fenggao1287]

非常活跃的话题！文化习惯的碰撞……融合！包容！彼此是否能接受对方、是国际婚姻的基础。

[@aaronyongming2933]

The conversation at the end is so right on the spot! But I always love to see people share and talk about cultures

[@loraleichun5061]

Blessings! So happy to hear 👶 is doing well. Great topic, so true! I'm American Chinese and I feel it both ways having grown up with an immigrant Mom and American Dad.

[@claudiacarabbaSA]

I hope Jae will write a cook book. I would love to eat like this! I enjoy you sharing so much with us. God Bless you always and in all ways 🙏🙇‍♀️🦋🌹

[@user-xb8uc7jy8j]

Ari 中文越來越好，而且四聲很準😊

[@Jade-fi3nk]

你很幸運娶到漂亮的Ari 每天都很賞心悅目 加上他們的家庭很溫馨又很開朗

[@simonhsi9862]

So happy to see the sweet couple and Jay is gifted CHEF , enjoy family time , it worth as well..

[@ngaimark2369]

每星期也可以加入二餐三文鱼，攝取欧米加3营養。吃輕淡一些較健康。祝你們健康快樂！

[@alextang7755]

You are such a wonderful couple. The God is with Ari during her pregnancy.

[@rosemaryskeen9670]

Ari! You're so cute 🥰 And your Chinese is so good now. Perfect pronunciation!! Way to go. I'm Chinese American, but I'm a big hugger. I don't like having guests wearing street shoes inside my house either. I wouldn't say or offer them guest slippers here but I do clean the floors right after they left. 😂 Luckily, my husband doesn't like that either. So we both wear slippers inside the house. We have porch slippers too.

[@Headphones.on.Seals.]

What a adorable and lovely couple!

[@xavijames2354]

😂😂😂😂😂中国人相对更含蓄一点，喜欢用行动代替语言。比如父母可能不会对你说我爱你孩子，但是他们会用自己方方面面的行为告诉你他们很爱你

[@tangtang.y4030]

含蓄……是舌头的说法．什么都能解释。 你确定不是文化中缺乏这方面的发展？

[@黃某人-f3y]

祝福你們全家人平安健康!

[@MEdim7]

作为比Jay小一年的中国男生，我能感受到对家人说“我爱你”的尴尬，我自身也从没对父母说过，也从没看见父母互相说过，甚至看见Jay发微信去给妈妈说“我爱你”也能代入到那种尴尬😂，但我相信Jay这一次突破了之后，以后跟妈妈沟通就多了一种表达方式了。不过目前在中国00后的那一代在跟父母相处的时候，貌似互相也越来越会表达关心与爱了。

[@xggong8261]

中国人比较含蓄，但是不代表不爱，反而说了感觉很肉麻，还是不说为好

[@MEdim7]

@@xggong8261 我觉得适当地说会更好，认识的很多98.99和00后尤其是女生，如果从小和爸妈的相处都是不吝啬表达“爱”的话，家庭氛围都比传统的中国家庭都好很多，都跟父母相处成朋友，什么都能聊。其实港澳台很多家庭也都是这样的氛围，我认为会比大陆的好，而70.80后当父母，加上国内大环境更先进经济更好的今天，也确实越来越多家庭是开始勇于表达“爱”的，如果更多中国人从小愿意表达爱还有从父母那里听到爱，长大之后会更自信。

[@samxu1467]

jay, the right way to cook this fish is : 清蒸4分钟，倒掉盘子里的水。另外用热锅，花生油少许，热了以后倒入生抽，葱姜，然后把酱汁倒在鱼上，即可。 trust me, crappie is best tasting fresh water fish, 红烧 is a waste buddy. I am cantonese

[@chrisyong8719]

All those dishes are just so delicious and mouth watering. Like the food, u guys have the right chemistry. And congrats that baby is coming along fine. Have u chosen a name ? We’re so excited for u both.

[@Boss-or9qk]

祝福你們平安喜樂

[@rae4486]

Ari 真是幸福吔!

[@SpikeOuu]

Chinese here. When meeting people, I don't like to hug or shake hands. Once when I went out for a volunteer activity, the person in charge shook hands with me at the first meeting, and I felt super shocked and awkward. I think having welcomed eye contact and some welcomed verbal expressions is ok.

[@yeungnick244]

Also for the hugging part, I remember one time a good female friend (White) was getting married, and when I gave her the wedding present, so trues to hug me to thank me, and feels like I stood 2 feet apart, and just give her a hand shake🤭, but she understood, cause she had a long history of unsuccessful tries to give me a hug.

[@yorha2b278]

That bedroom voice in the beginning... Wow!

[@1yipwah]

祝願母子平安，兒童幸福

[@kennethl4172]

Ari, it looks like tge baby is fed well. Keep up the good work Jay!

[@wjh3246]

哈哈，又恢复早期视频的风格了，饭前或者饭后轻松交流的聊天模式了，有别于全家总动员，阖家欢乐的系列，这也是不错啊。

[@aclovetudou]

水煮鱼 酸菜鱼 太安鱼 也给你老丈人和媳妇儿做下尝尝😁

[@mada881010789]

Jay quickly cleaned the stovetop while he s cooking. I was very impressed.😂

[@leonzheng3005]

我发微信给我妈“妈，我爱你”妈妈回复“孩子，你怎么了，没事吧，你不要想不开啊，发生什么事情，你一定要好好的，不要吓我啊！！！！！”

[@LaoToufu]

haha

[@sinnieleeonUtube]

Another way you may want to try is don't put the fish in with the sauce. This way, the fish remains crunchy from the deep fry. Separately you can mix a few table spoons of corn starch with water in a bowl and when the sauce is ready, you can slowly pour the corn starch mix in to thicken the sauce to your liking, then pour the gravy sauce onto the fish. Then the fish's skin taste crunchy.

[@比-c4c]

我又來了，來至臺灣的祝福😊

[@MrBenzene2010]

Our fridge used to freeze too. It happens to be the damper & thermoster asm (This thing let cool air from the freezer coming into the fridge). Basically the damper doesn't open and close correctly anymore. It's time to change it! Otherwise, it will eventually ruin the fridge's motherboard and you had to pay a lot to fix it (unfortunately, we did!)

[@ymhktravel]

As a Singaporean Chinese, I'd like to say we are kinda walking the middle path between the 2 cultures. We do say " I love you" or more likely "I care about you" to friends or family members but that's when we really mean it, instead of casually saying on an everyday basis. Expression of love and care for a person is usually through unspoken acts of kindness than saying "I love you". Among the younger generation, we do hug each other but that's more for like very close friends, not just anyone. Normally in any asian culture (not just the Chinese), we don't wear outside shoes into the house. Reason is simple. God knows what dirty things have stepped on and then bring it into the house which is usually kept clean. Just as we were taught not to open an angbao (gifts of money) in front of everyone when given, same goes for presents as it's rude to do so. The disappointment on the face will be easy to notice if it's something not suitable and to smile and say what a great gift would be somehow fake (which is even worse). It's like i won't tell a friend she's slim if she isn't, we tend to say the truth (eg. you've put on weight) but I know Americans will be horrified about this. Lol...

[@tannerschuman9914]

Congrats on the new family member!

[@dawdle525]

I went from feeling awkward when I heard "I like your hat" to saying "I like your hat/shirt" 2 times a day. Time changes everything

[@yky77]

Actually here in MIRI, SARAWAK, we also always greet people like morning, how do you do to a stranger. We are living in very big family. We have a malay friends, Chinese, iban, kayan, kehyan, kelabit, berlawan, . One day you might come here to see our culture here, visiting GUNUNG MULU and NIAH CAVE

[@GP-nr2fm]

Thank you for sharing all these awkward but wonderful experiences between eastern and western cultures.

[@Yongxian-pv5sl]

hope to see Ari and Jay someday😊and thanks for sharing your lovely videos

[@dongtao567]

保持食品的多样性。对宝宝的健康很有好处。为什么国内的孩子，特别是农村的，在体质上没有这样那样的小毛病，就是食物的多样性，天然性起到一定的作用，个人观点哈！❤❤❤

[@angxiang3186]

U can use starch powder to coat the fish n wash off b4 frying/steaming ~ starch can remove the “fish” odour. Also I didn’t see u “season” the fish with some salt b4 frying. And the minced meat ~ can add some soaked chopped shiitake mushrooms. The meal look nice n should be good ~ u got all the basics right.

[@brandenongkp]

Jay’s home cook food gel the whole family together 😊

[@newage405]

Jay的廚藝徹底征服了Ari一家人！

[@Spark.doggielove]

Love your video. I am so happy you have your baby boy. I am 26 weeks pregnancy. Please make more videos like this so I know what to eat everyday🎉

[@JayAri]

Thank you and congratulations on your pregnancy! We’re so close in the timeline! ☺️

[@joysalau7863]

Totally agree 😂

[@JichengPeng]

Very realist feelings that I have also been through before...😂😂😂😂

[@lynettehuisinga2202]

My dad used to call the fish CROP-eez. Not Crap-eez. HAAAA

[@ThePrinceOfChenLiu]

我最近做各类蛋类菜肴时喜欢以鱼露替代盐，这样可以充分融合盐分、提鲜、增加风味。但是西方人很多无法适应鱼露、虾酱这类食材的气味。

[@hongma-ci9sx]

这期视频欢快有趣，祝宝宝健康 顺利出生

[@mikal024]

Come to New York City. Would love to meet you guys.

[@戴玉書]

我也正在吃飯， 剛好配菜也是海帶芽蒸蛋， 看了你們的肉末蒸蛋， 下次我也要做來吃吃看。

[@freefree1219]

My daughter was an exchange student in France with a host family. The family taught her to do bisou bisou with friends and talk a lot at meals. That's a big change to the more conservative interaction in Eastern culture

[@liuzun]

축하합니다 매일같이 있는게 행복이입니다 每日 在一起 是 一一个幸福 每天 看你们视频 每天快乐😂🎉

[@心目]

薑好像不需要放冰箱, 只要室溫陰涼就可, 或上網查察資訊. 煮魚時最好先把其他食物做好再來做魚.順序要規劃好.

[@sauravlahiry6951]

hi sis and bro, so informative.

[@vickydu494]

Jay can cook!

[@rorobibili]

My parents never said "I love you", instead, they would cut up fresh fruits and bring them to you or feed you with all kinds of delicious food😂

[@ancesliber2598]

在我家里，虽然也有给客人准备的拖鞋，但通常我们都会说不用换，让客人感到更加随意轻松。只有当客人在家里住的时候才给他们拖鞋。

[@user-zk8ve2ni5l]

在美国14年已经习惯“拥抱文化” “我爱你”文化了 唯独不能习惯穿鞋进屋，哈哈哈

[@XLDC5]

crappie 鱼很好吃的，我也吃过几次。

[@angelali360]

Come to NYC lot of good authentic Chinese food. ❤ Really like your channel

[@和豐賴]

終於有了寶貝.祝幸福.

[@skylun222]

這幾道菜真的色香味俱全 我剛吃飽看得都餓了

[@posangchoy758]

祝母子健康

[@zhenpang6378]

Steamed eggs is really innovative to me! Thanks Jay!

[@2080_King]

Take care Ari❤

[@hychen7890]

这些尴尬的事情其实也挺可爱的😂，关于拆礼物的区别，我还记得上学的时候英语课本上讲过

[@yeewoonliew6354]

小时候都被教育，拿了礼物或红包不会当众打开，但会说感谢。都是一片心意，不能以礼物轻重做标准。送礼人与送礼人之间也不会有攀比或尴尬的情况。再说每个人经济情况也不一样。

[@jayf4612]

I almost thought you were talking about croppy. Never heard of crappies myself. Definitely spot on about the difference between Chinese and American customs. Seems like even in American culture, some married guys who tend towards the jealous side wouldn't want their wife hugging another man. I don't know. I guess it would depend on who one is married to.

[@wchen6026]

If all of a sudden, I text or call my parents to say "i love you", their first reaction will be "How are you? Is everything all right?". Basically they would assume I have encountered some challenges in life.

[@佐斩]

祝福你们好好生活，相互珍惜

[@黃某人-f3y]

God bless you all !

[@christianyang7595]

It’s just different culture, mindset and way of doing things. But it’s changing too. My parents never said “I love you” to me, neither did I to them. It’s very common for my generation and all previous generations. But I say “I love you” multiple times to my son everyday (I really do and I really want him to know that) and he will respond with “I love you too dad” every time without feeling awkward at all. It’s certainly a result of international communication, but I think it’s also a result of natural social and cultural development/evolvement. But we’re still not used to say I love you to just ordinary friends. I don’t think that’ll change anytime soon.

[@sharondwyer8513]

You have a wonderful gentleman 👏

[@sxgtube]

欧式贴脸礼左右共三次，除了两个男人之间是握手，其他人之间都要贴三次脸。Party要是大了见面和送行时都要花很长时间，对不习惯身体接触的东方人来讲也要好好适应才行😆

[@loklok3869]

祝你地幸福快樂

[@userWilliam]

先点赞再看😂🎉

[@michaelzhu1530]

Jay! You are too good cooking Chinese! Ari developed a Chinese stomach now! lol

[@franklee1573]

看到你们搬到了堪萨斯，我也在那儿住过，附近有个perry lake, 那里的Perry lake bass非常有名也非常好吃，你应该做一期关于这个鱼的节目

[@mrfoo5827]

Congratulations from Singapore

[@wunxue]

Arias comments are precise

[@HongWong-qr8xn]

给一点点无关紧要的建议...换块软点的砧板能省一点你磨刀的时间😅

[@陳文康-w3b]

恭喜！喜獲麟兒

[@zhaochunchen9468]

蒸蛋不用塑料膜也可以，还可以减少 landfill.