Bad Questions to Ask a Transsexual: Old Version

[@rheanonjasmyne]

Calpernia, you're BEAUTIFUL ! IF only I was a tenth as pretty.

[@HansMoorefacepaint]

Great video! Even though you are making lite and comedy out of all the constant questions you had been asked over and over again, I can see how you just want to be respected for what you stand for in the here and now.

[@mywingsareyours]

lol, yeah how dare someone be angry because society as a whole treats them like shit for feelings they can't help. i mean really?

[@Dailyreptilenews]

I see a series of stupid questions that are no ones business. I for one loved the answers. Its treating the askers like the child they ask to be treated by asking such stupid questions.

[@pirsocau]

required watching for all cisfolks

[@HeresJohnny-b4u]

I saw your YT video of you playing Amazing Grace on the violin. You sure do play the violin well. One of the best violin versions of Amazing Grace on YT that I've listened to.

[@LETMEINGUYS]

omg. that's too funny/sad but true I live in Houston Texas and there are at least 4 million people that live here sure, I know every gay person here. sure I do. we all share the same house. hahahaha

[@zenithian15]

Oh dear, I can't stop laughing! You've delivered the perfect combo of vitriolic humor and gracious beauty; what a treat to watch (and what a bunch of really dumb questions)! :D

[@sandracoentro206]

Hello. You're video made me laugh. Some people are just moron's. You are a very beatifull, brave, inteligent (and sensual) woman. When a person make a distintion based on prejudgement that person should just close their lips before asking anything. I just wanted to say this. Congrat's Calpernia Addams

[@BakerMadness]

was just introduced to you through Jonny McGovern... I am a new Big Fan! I've spent the better part of my morning checking your vids and reading comments. Favorite Part? The way you trounce hecklers. God Love Ya! and I absolutely swoon when you giggle or sigh on the podcast... Best Regards Calpernia! I am SO glad that you are out there. So Glad!

[@lindsayoz33]

This was VERY passive aggressive.

[@Johnson210000]

Calpernia: Thanks for the SUPER video! It is very effective because 1) it presents the topic with humor rather than as a rant and 2) you describe WHY the question is offensive. Keep up the great work!

[@edixon1995]

I probably died about 8 minutes in. Your sarcasm is spot on with your message. Haha favoriteddd

[@sarahkrouse1215]

I would just love to give praise to this video, rather than just trolling. Calpernia, you are incredible! I love that you made this video because, well people are incredibly insensitive and do not think before speaking. In any case, I adore you and respect the answers you gave to why these questions shouldn't be asked.

[@undertheblankets]

it's a good thing you addressed those questions which would bother in fact not just transsexuals but just anybody regardless of their sexuality. I really appreciate it that you made the efforts to talk on behalf of those who might have felt insecure or frustrated by those questions. I really loved your approach.

[@tonyperone3242]

Pretty women should not be insulted with inane questions.

[@tsuki1990]

you are an inspiration to the human race :) following your dreams and never backing down. I love how you say all this with a smile on your face.

[@babybari1977]

OMG, Calpernia, I totally love this! You have the most amazing sense of humor. And the way you ended each little vignette with that angelic smile just had me LMAO. 🤣❤

[@sophistik000]

Are those moments when one does not understand being insulted that make the difference. The longer lasts the smile of one who listen, the finer is the talent of one who insults. Leaving aside the uncomfortable reasons for making a video like that, I have to say that you made me laugh heartily. Great job!

[@Acesn888s]

Dear Calpernia, this video is hilarious. Thank you for all the great work that you and Andrea James do for the community. Take care of yourself.

[@anniefriday13]

Calpernia, No matter how many times I see this, I laugh myself in apoplexy. Thank you, and Bless you Calpernia. Keep up the great work!

[@KINGgutterface]

you are beautiful, witty and charming. the world needs more women like you darling.

[@sababa9989]

"I've seen Tootsie, I know what you're going through!" you are so funny. you facial expressions crack me up.

[@goodfellow408]

Props to you Calpernia. I've been listening to the Gay Pimpin' podcast for years, and after listening to you on the new LA podcast for the last few episodes, I had to go online and research to learn about your life because I was so interested. I think it's so awesome that you did this video. I even felt like it was talking to me a little bit, which means your points definitely are hitting everyone when necessary. I learned a lot, and laughed a lot. Huge new fan here!

[@DontLikeDontWatch]

I've watched this video a whole lot since it's been uploaded. It's so fucking awesome. Go Calpernia.

[@amysanchez3699]

This is extremely relevant today

[@sammipooh]

Your points are so cutting and appropriate, and are both amusing and well delivered :) I feel somewhat saner knowing that my own response of irritation to being asked these sort of questions isn't so irrational. Ta vry much x

[@krissiespeaks]

This video was by far one of the best videos I've seen on KZbin. I love your candor in the video, and it was definitely informative. Great job :)

[@silvershark222]

Calpie, you're great. I love your wicked sense of humour and appreciate all you do for TS's everywhere. Love from Berlin - Silver

[@GunterJPN]

this video is so great. but actually, at my interview for my current job, when my boss heard I was FIlipino, he did the "this other guy in our company is Filipino" thing. I was like "... that's nice."

[@BoyThreeOne]

Hi Calpernia, I met you at MCCNY several years ago and just watched the video of you speaking there. It was wonderful to hear again! So now I'm looking through your videos and having a great time. This one is the best! I don't expect you to remember me, but I remember you and have thought about you many times. Love, Les

[@zollo420]

This.....Was.....AWESOME !!!! Sarcasm was perfectly used. Facial expressions were hilarious. Great job Calpernia.

[@SoxAsh0810]

Kick ass! Great video Calpernia! Nice way of making something serious entertaining to watch. Much video love.

[@CecileTellier]

hahahah who the hell compares Tootsie OR Silence of the Lambs to real people LOL this is great though.

[@chiptankgirl]

I can't believe this is 14 years old. Where has the time gone? Thanks for challenging me to be a better person.

[@nada_null]

oh ok, now I know, to be honest at first, I was like : you guys get butthurt so easily, not everyone is aware of what transexual people go through., but then you talked about the photo, and what it meant and I got your point.Though I've never ask any of those questions to my transsexual friends, I believe I could. I totally won't do it now.

[@instantamazon]

you go girl. this was a witty, take no crap, informative way to dole out some sense into the public. i hope it is spread around =)

[@Eopyk]

This is extremely fun! Continue with comedy Calpernia and especially comedy with a message like this one :)

[@AnAddictsEmpathy]

Lmao Holy Crap I Love This. The Mixture Of Your Humor & Sarcasm Blend Together Fantastic.

[@JeannieVanderburg]

ok ya it makes good sence that a woman has a female name. so dont going around calling her a male name. things change ok

[@NikoClemente]

This is probably the best video I've seen on youtube LOL I swear. ur sarcastic humour, information, composure, sound, facial expressions. it was just bloody fucking awesome LOL u remind me of Jessica Rabbit

[@sachem79]

This video never gets old, i must have watched it 10 or more times. Thanks

[@TheAllykat6591]

I love your sense of humor! I can't believe people have asked you those questions.

[@mrmybentnickelworks]

Thank you Calpernia for posting this video! If you sold this video on DVD, I am sure you would be the top seller (in comparison to Garth Brooks, Elvis Presley, and the Beatles). My point: There are so very many "dumb asses" walking around. Unfortunately, a couple of them I called, "boyfriend." Oh dear. Best wishes to you. Peace and Love

[@Bankai666]

Well done!XD Sure brought a snicker or two. I'm so happy I stumbled on your video! You look marvelous by the way:D

[@kellypillsbury]

Hey lady! Thanks for this video. I have some FTM friends and I have to admit, I had Questions about things. Instead of grilling them, though, I read some books for some larnin'. Worked great! I am also a little pleased with myself that I never considered asking any of the "bad questions"! It blows my mind what people feel entitled to ask about.

[@egheitasean1]

I think I've seen this video about 20 times. Some the faces you make are so hilarious! And I love the sarcasm lol. All of these questions are offensive and it's a shame people feel they have a right to ask them of trans people. I can understand curiosity, but there are standards of politeness and common decency. Thank you for posting

[@anniefriday13]

THANK YOU, Monicaspirit. Your words are a cool breeze in an otherwise parched, hateful, and intolerant Hell being made by fools, ignorants, and the small-minded, evil haters that have ALWAYS made our lives a little bit harder, a little less tolerant, and much sadder and hurtful than it has to be. Thanks

[@Azkadelya]

Oh my gosh, you are AMAZING! I wasn't expecting anything this funny when I clicked this. I totally love you. I'd tell you what I usually say, 'Keep being awesome', but I don't think I need to. You are bursting to the brim with it!

[@jubbles23]

I don't understand how anyone can ask these questions. You look beautiful, and you probably know that already. I do like you ending a sentence with something fierce while having a smile on your face!

[@AlwysLauren]

Thank you Calpernia. Instead of trying to answer these stupid questions when I get them, I'll just send them this video :-)

[@xtorie]

You're awesome. I don't get why people think someone's life is their business just because it's "different" or "weird" to them.

[@DarkWillUser]

LOL KZbin's new "feature" of hiding the video timer keeps me from being able to "Skip to the Questions".

[@alteredegoX]

I love how you said all that with just a totally straight face. I actually find it funny how I've already faced a few of these questions and yet I've been out with my friends about 3 times as a girl and having to live most of my life still as a boy.

[@naturegirlfromny]

I live in a pretty white bread community and don't get to meet transgendered people but I am so glad that we as a species are starting to become a little more enlightened! I think you are great and gorgeous too!

[@gpsywmn]

Cali, i first saw you on your dating program and more recently i finally discovered and watched Soldier's Girl ....now i am even more impressed with what a beautiful, strong,intelligent and loving person i always saw in you! isn't it a shame that so many so-called "normal" people aren't more like you !!!! bad questions to ask is priceless and what a creative way to present them, lol!!!!

[@nichya11]

i get that question so many times "did your surgery hurt?" and i answered them always saying "no my doctor uses anesthesia, ever heard of it?" hehehe thanks calpernia!

[@ZebrasFirst]

Calpernia, Wow, God Bless you. The bio film of your love and tragedy was very powerful. I hope it opens a lot of people's eyes. Secondly, you covered most of the ground of what not to ask you, great/funny job!! But, I'm sure questions about the film would annoy you, too. Like, did it reeeally happen like that? or were you reeeally in love?, etc, etc. Is the A&E coverage of the story available on DVD?

[@ANFjace]

I'm FTM and I just adore you. Hopefully we'll be in the same area at one point in our lives so I can meet you. Keep up the good work, Calpernia. :)

[@vixTHEunicorn]

I really adore you Calpernia. I love how you talk with this ironic tone to make stupid people feel...erm...stupid? I really like that you're who you want to be and who you realy are! People who write negative comments must have no brain and are so untolerant (no brain= being untolerant I guess?). I really appreciate this that you do record yourself to let the world know that it's worth to be yourself. x

[@octabreaker]

i love this video, and i can't tell you how many times i've watched it and i enjoy it every time. I love how you do this with a smile on your face through most of it. GO CALLIE!!!!!

[@speedlearner]

I found your video very amusing and very informational at the same time. I give you kudos for making this. I wish more people would watch this video and get a clue. You're very correct. You are a human being and deserve a great deal of respect.

[@Aristeia48]

Good god, this was great. You know, you and Chris Hitchens got something in common, drinking gives you both super powers to TEAR UP dumb questions =D

[@southernxpacific]

I first stumbled upon this video a couple of years ago soon after it was posted. I found it both entertaining and informative. The combination of a sense of humor and blatancy is perfection. You can imagine my excitement when I came across Transamerican Love Story what must have been about a year ago. Anyway, I'm writing a research paper for class right now on transgender men and women and was inspired by these videos so I'm citing these and Transamerican Love Story in there. Thanks Calpernia!

[@lottegullen]

This was awesome and well said:) And btw, you look very pretty:) I sure hope these ignorant people get the picture now..

[@ViiZedek]

wow! you're so pretty!

[@ElkeNicolai]

@CalperniaAddams Consider her/him to be the complete opposite of what Dutch people are normally like. Seriously, I'm from the Netherlands too and I am in no way like her/him. Love you!

[@Surfarmia]

You go girl! That really got me to find a many answers to the questions I get all the time. And you're so right! Thanks for sharing this! Love ya.

[@AuthorOfSin]

Thank you so much for sharing this, my fiancee is a transsexual and she is asked these questions constantly, usually it ends with me beating the crap out of the person who asked, but then that's just me. :)

[@mcpuggington]

Calpurnia! this made me chuckle when i needed it most, so thank you! i had to deal with some annoying friends of my girlfriend asking her if it was okay for them to tell someone we both know "about me"? um no, do i tell people that hardly know you about the sordid details of your life that you wouldn't want the average person you meet on the street knowing about?! geez!

[@anastasiaplaydressup]

Thank you for seeing the humor in this video. The person who was mocking my "stupidity" (when he should really look at his own) as seen above. Did not get my joke at all seen below.

[@marcopolo7709]

I love your wit! For lot of people, ignorance means they don't know when they've crossed a line.

[@oeat001]

And usually when people ask if surgery hurt, they are referring to the period after the actual procedure, the recovery period, where the anesthesia no longer blocks the sodium channels in the intramembrane space, preventing nerve impulses we know as the sensation of pain. Then the severe trauma of the surgical procedure can be felt as pain. A procedure such as mutilating the male reproductive organ with its numerous nerve endings would hurt severely.

[@Timberextra]

LOVED this!!! You are awesome!!! I am glad to be a "Cal Pal"!!! Love you, Calpernia. :)

[@GeishaCat]

its pretty sad that some people don't have enough class to know that you DON'T ask questions like these. is it me or is it that the further we get into the future the further back the human race gets? oh! you have the cutest facial expressions! i love them!! you're beautiful!! :D

[@jacnar]

Great video, Calpernia. Your humor is very infectious. And you are gorgeous!

[@Pommit]

That reply about MILF porn is hilarious.

[@anniefriday13]

Calpernia, The more I watch this, the more I pee myself. Thanks for being so damn hilarious. When I need to get a "reality" check, I come right here and feel SOOOO much better. Thank you, Thankyou, Thank you!!!! You are beautiful inside AND out. Keep being you. You are WONDERFUL!!! Tanx!

[@n0ts0B9]

I love this video, but I always regret looking in the comment section at all the entitled fucks who get off on running you down.

[@Atrancarrua]

Hello Calpernia. You're great! Last week I watched the documentary Middle Sexes and you were great there. It's just sad to read that so many people over here have no idea what you're talking about. But they actually don't even exist, right? Kisses from Sao Paulo (Brazil).

[@tamaraargois]

I agree with you. Who the hell care if they want to reveal their names. Maybe that means that they're not ashamed and proud of who they are.

[@yameyumex]

You've probably heard this before but wow... I really thought you were born 100% biologically female. One of the best MtF transitionings I've ever seen. Marvelous. I also really like your comments on question #5. You seem like a really good person, which is of course the most important thing. Much love from Sweden.

[@JohnBach]

This was awesome. :) You remind me of my sister. She has the same brand of sarcasm and wit. Sometimes you have to worry about the fact that a 100 I.Q. is the average which means at least half of the people in the U.S. are less than 99 :)

[@SisterUnity]

exquisite sarcasm, love the smile punchline. Thanks for the fun video!

[@air8379]

It's satire. I kinda thought that at first also, but then realize it's just a part she plays. Check out her response to this video - it made things a lot more clear to me.

[@darliegoddess]

I never said they were "all " bigots, I just referred to the ones that are . It's not that we want acceptance kosacheque , it's that we don't want them imposing their beliefs on everyone . Curiosity is fine , rudeness is not.

[@bluespiral58]

I just watched Soldier's Girl and had to find out more about the real Calpernia. You're pretty, funny and brilliant!

[@kittengirlmaryann]

This is so funny. You have an amazing sense of humor! :)

[@Kelter82]

Ahhhhh now that's what I like to hear. Although the fact that you cut out an assumption does not make it 'easier' for me to understand. I understand just fine. I only jumped on you here cause my best friend is a transwoman and she is very much head over heels for cute ladies. I do agree, to the bottom of my heart, that you should NOT be grilled by anyone. Best of luck to you in your ventures :)

[@mresundance]

:D Excellent Calpernia. I think a lot of people don't get it because they fall into "dumbass" category, apparently. But for those of us who've dealt with these kinds of questions . . . aha, nicely done and it made me laugh.

[@ryptoll4801]

I don't have any problem answering most of these questions, and I'm transsexual. Perhaps it does come down to how much privacy you need/want in your life. I often find it amusing to discuss my private personal stuff even with complete strangers. I don't think the questions themselves are bad either, but depends on who asks them and for what reasons. But then it's the people who are bad and not the words. Not everyone knows if they're being offensive or not when asking someone a question though. Although I can imagine that as a famous person other people might care less about your integrity/personal space and generally be more rude, but I'm not famous so I can only imagine.

[@MatthewMcPeck]

that's hardly what i'd consider an error. in the film, which is what she is referring to, he is portrayed as a straight yuppie. in context of the "i saw (such and such film) and i think transexuals etc.", it makes perfect sense.

[@joannarei808]

There should be more people like Calpernia Adams in this world! Too much straight, normal people=boring, not that great or fun, may lead to crimes. More different, open minded, non-original people=fun, exciting, adventurous, smart, knowledgeable, knows alot of what's going on in the world. I have alot of friends who are different in race, color, gender, and sex, they are all human to me, heck even my dog and cat is my best friend.

[@NooBudgettProduction]

Calpernia, I love this video. Whenever I'm in a bad mood this makes me feel better :) Thank you for making this video. I've used it many times when explaining to ignorant asswholes why they shouldn't say or do certain things to or toward trans people.

[@Ebenia]

What a personality you are! :O Amazing. You can truly see how much you have grown through your experience. Congratulations and everything good and blessings in to your life!

[@mushumushushoe]

My question is: How was your day, ma'am? Frankly, even though someone may have questions, that doesn't mean they've got the right to poke around in your life, or any one else's. There are forums they can find these answers to their questions, ways to correct their misinformation, without intruding on another's life, with as much right to privacy as anyone else. So any question that isn't the same sort of question you'd ask any other person, I agree - it should be kept to themselves

[@pjeaston]

It's really sad to know there are people that ignorant to ask these questions of transsexuals. These questions shouldn't be asked of anyone. Wonder if they ever ask their moms or dads these sorts of questions.

[@SquadbayNinja]

"I think of you as a woman." I've said this to my sister and a girlfriend before. Had nothing to do with what gender they are of course, but everything to do with maturity and security, that they don't act like immature, bitter, confused little girls anymore.

[@pyxel]

Calpernia, this video is awesome! I can't stop laughing :) best way to prove a point is by humour!

[@TheMooseJ]

Yep, I've bean asked several of those in the past. Utterly loved the 'I've seen dum and dummer, and I know what you're going through' line. I'm stealing it for next time someone askes me a stupid question. -Jhonny