Bridget Kelly on the Dynamics of Black and White Women's Relationships with Black Men

[@Ismail-cf6xu]

In light of everything that she said you’d think BM and BW would treat each other better. I don’t see the compassion, empathy, or grace among us. If anything we’re harsher toward one another, more often than not.

[@Leo82870]

That is such a generalization to which a more well round perspective would suggest that virtue and dysfunction defy racial categorization. Outside of our own sphere of knowledge we seem more prone to generalize. Give black people their flowers 🌹 just as you seen to throw bouquets at those who are not black.

[@solsovereigntytarot]

💯💯💯

[@primeva7579]

Living in Hawaii I see a lot of bm married to asian women. Just like in Seattle. The IR marriage rates have also increased. Seems as if bm tend to be more compatible with others

[@PrinceZakariyya]

@@primeva7579yea we are. Sysbm

[@tonymistreacts4158]

We give what we get

[@mekemeke8497]

At the end of the day, as a woman, if not taking disrespect and accepting substandard behavior is me being aggressive, good, I have dodged a bullet. Also, have you seen all White people argue? Please stop generalizing and being ignant. Dang!

[@SupremeDynastyTV]

As a black man I’m down for understanding, but the excuses are ridiculous

[@LiterallyTho]

@@SupremeDynastyTV all black men have are excuses. Lol

[@dopeplanetwatcher4471]

@@LiterallyThoand all black women have is excuses yea very ironic

[@primeva7579]

​@LiterallyTho people only make excuses for bw....that's the truth. Bm have improved despite obstacles placed in front of us. Stats from 2000 to now show that.

[@SupremeDynastyTV]

@@LiterallyTho I’m literally a black man… don’t generalize people

[@ksager123]

@@primeva7579 exactly

[@Dwei99]

Their having two different conversations imo. She’s speaking on a macro level citing societal and social-economic factors but the guys are speaking to interpersonal relationships. But both have some valid points

[@tg2016]

dread scott didnt have anything to do with economics

[@philliprobinson-muhammad2034]

Ok so here is my take. The black male female relationship has been fractured for some time now. And there is plenty of blame to go around for the fracture and continued disjointedness. You can't negate what the sister was saying and in doing so you now have to discuss on the level inwhich she steered the conversation. There are many reasons but one huge one is socio-economic which is bigger than just money. There is a stark diff from the "ghetto fabulous" person who just recently came into some change vs the one who was raised in or has worked hard to obtain the change that they have. The conflict resolution is going to be diff the language is going to be diff the stimulus for the conflict in the first place is going to be diff when you factor in the economic stratus. Although most problems are the same the way inwhich the problems come and how they are handled are diff as you go up the wealth pole. The way inwhich a poor poor person may deal with conflict is diff from the making ends meet person which is diff from the paycheck to paycheck person which is diff from the one who has just saved enough to get out of the neighborhood. Which will be diff from the one who has been raised with middle class means , then the upper middle class then the rich. So yes the language will change (hurtful and total disrespectful) because no matter who you are cuss words can and will be used. Coming from a person who was raised and still lives in the socalled liberal upper Midwest. A white woman is going to treat you the way in which she is allowed to treat you. And I don't care who the brother is he already knows that the white woman will have privileges and advantages that a sister will never have. Now let's talk about conflict resolution. When things go left and the authorities are involved black men know going into it that there is a diff between the two. I've seen it far to often that the white woman first has the protection of the police first even when it's clear she is the perp. Then when it advances to in front of the judge best belive the scales of justice is skewed in the white woman's favor. For example when the marital assets are spit the white woman will get damn near 65% vs the sisters maybe 35%. And don't think that this is implied from the start. That's why the commentator said the white woman starts from a diff place than the black woman. Examples would how was o.j. first wife treated vs Nicole, Barry bonds older set of children vs the ones by the white woman. The amount of money Michael Strahan had to shell out, would a sister have walked away with the type of money tigers wife got ( mind you she was the equvilant to the poor girl from the projects before tiger put those children in her) would the payouts be the same if they were sisters? Having had to go back and forth to family court I would be sitting in the gallery listening to the shit that white women would be awarded vs what black women were awarded. Mind you this is all in the socalled liberal upper Midwest. And for the record just sit in the courtroom and you'll see what it is that I'm saying.

[@channelyen307]

I love this conversation! Not all black women think that the black man is the enemy . There is a whole population of educated black women who know how to communicate and value the unit . And honestly black women who don’t yell , fuss and cuss are boring to black men ! If a Spanish women talk to blk men crazy she sassy . If a white women talk crazy to a black man she’s hurt if a black women express frustration she’s irrational

[@noctv6809]

Facts. Well said...

[@dheraboy818]

I don’t see them where are they..?

[@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473]

@@dheraboy818 change your circle you are hanging around with Sexy Reds and hood girls..Most likely if you are not seeing it You are a Pookie and Ray Ray. i'm engaged to a black physician as well as I am in the medical field too. So that speaks volumes about you meaning your money is down bad too along with messing with hood girls..DO BETTER

[@369pendulum]

You think black men tolerate white women talking to them crazy? I don’t think you know any black men

[@Skinny_Pimp]

Educated means what. How about Fit feminine and friendly. Can you say this black women have THOSE QUALITIES. Educated means Loan debt.

[@Theycallmekenney]

“There’s no benefit for black women to compromise” ….there you go right there. Ain’t no point in believing in ANYTHING these women say…if the women you approach are not AGREEABLE there is no point in continuing on with them.

[@LoneWulf278]

Facts don’t care about feelings. It may be an ugly truth, but it’s THE truth about human nature. Dogs aren’t even that agreeable if they don’t know you. 😂 Every smart human is calculating about everything and everyone they allow into their lives. There’s a desirability gap between men and women. 9 times out of 10, the woman isn’t attracted to the man as much as the man is attracted to her. That’s where the so-called “benefits” come into play. 🤷‍♀️

[@Theycallmekenney]

@@LoneWulf278 if a woman is not agreeable in your relationship, she don’t like you, she’s there for another reason….if you wanna be a trick go head and stay there. But Like the Pimps say “like who likes you” if a woman is always argumentative and always disagreeable but always looking for benefits you need to move the hell on…

[@Theycallmekenney]

@@LoneWulf278 I’m glad you brought up the desirability gap also….i call it “fuckability politics” a woman that likes you will give you whatever you want…if she sees you’re sweating her based on her looks she ain’t gonna give you nothing. The bottom line is don’t be thirsty I don’t give a damn how fine she is.

[@tonymistreacts4158]

​@LoneWulf278 nope. Its only that way with you. Yall on attack mode 24/7

[@ksager123]

fact

[@mc_chin_chin7034]

Accountability is a woman's kryptonite.

[@phoenixrising2231]

Bro said, "Black women talk to f*cking much and don't know how to shut up, are aggressive, emotional... - he must be the women in this interview! He came out the gate like a bull going for the red blanket (+ jugular) - mind already made up, already offended and defensive, disrespectful, over talking her... On top of all that, said he literally only wants the kitty and to, "like" her! 🤯 I can't/ won't do ignorance - this woman held it down - holdng her composure and spoke to his being off the rails; calm, cool, collected, apart from being offended, 'sensitive' or emotional... And, spoke factually founded truth❣️ Kudos ma'am! 🗝️💯🏆🥂 Much respect for man on right whom came to the convo with openness, a honest willingness to hear her perspective, for not attempting to assert a false sense of dominance in the interview/ conversation❣️ Kudos sir! 🗝️💯🏆🥂

[@Lys31090]

Yeah he's definitely a degenerate mushmouth.

[@Aliakmas]

So Karen’s speak to black men nicely? How exactly did the stereotype of Karen’s start if white women are nice?

[@stacyjpoliticscommunityfai359]

EXACTLY They're so sick in the head. Nonsensical conversation.

[@seekingtounderstand5201]

All of them aren't "Karen's"

[@BLKfootIndian]

​@@seekingtounderstand5201naw she only sleeps w you for child support then u cry bout passport app denials😂

[@slimm7848]

My granddad told me as a kid “Never fully trust women, once you start trusting women. Anything that happens after that is your fault.” 😂😂😂

[@Ghostisback24444]

😂

[@REALSTREETNIGGAMUZIK]

Shoutout to grandad for that good game 💯

[@missmack2328]

He was bitter 😂😂

[@jamaltimmerman9298]

Yep good advise

[@thewordsmith5440]

He is teaching you to hate women and destroying your future relationships. That's basically men's excuse to cheat because you think she's cheating on you.

[@shavontecharlene]

When will people understand black people are not a monolith. Generalizing black women as well is insane. Every woman is different. Everyone have different paths.

[@BlackTyeChi]

Was just about to say this. I HATE PEOPLE THAT GENERALIZE PEOPLE! It shows you are too unintelligent to treat each person differently. It's like homie never left his hood or something.

[@7damon8ietheredge54]

people generalize white women all the time in a negative way and no one says white women arent a monolith

[@damoncolquhoun]

@@7damon8ietheredge54 We don't have to. It's a given that they aren't. TV, movies, literature, kids books, toys, etc, have made that clear for us our entire lives.

[@damoncolquhoun]

Came to say the same thing.

[@lawr8th]

Generalizing black women is not insane. We generalize every single day. It’s apart of our nature. You’re only offended because that generalization isn’t painting y’all in a positive light

[@Ms_Timmie92]

They are not equipped to have a productive conversation with this woman.

[@muloshanzi915]

Nothing she said made any sense, she talked about white privilege, in a relationship? Is she serious? Trying to be a victim even in the sexual market place is disappointing.

[@In-Gall_Tegidda_n_Tesemt]

Correct. They speak Ebonics and look like fourteen year olds they dropped out of high school... Definitely not equipped! Why would any would woman in her right mind want to be with this two goons??

[@ElleJae-b9q]

Correct

[@ballen8905]

Race discussions during a basic topic about love is crazy

[@ChrisN-hs7dh]

black women have destoryed the community, they thought getting rid of male authority was smart idea but they actually helped the oppressor in our demise! THanks black women, this is your mess now clean it !

[@Styles.rp25]

It’s not a gender issue, the issue is inter generational trauma within the black community.

[@lisacox3750]

THIS!!! There is a HUGE difference based on how people were raised and the environment they grew up in. Yet, she isn't completely wrong that socio-economics does still play into that part as well. Yet...I agree it is NOT a gender issue.

[@FABRIC8TIONUNLIMITE1]

Black is a description not a monolithic group nor a Lineage, you can't just flatten blackness. There is no ''black community,'' there is a ADOS Community.

[@MaxPowers2.0]

Also the intentional disruption of the black family unit.

[@CC23411]

BRIDGET handled this discussion with so much grace and humility that I am in awe. The way she addressed their offensive questions and engaged in their fundamentally disrespectful premise about Black women TOTALLY DISPROVED THEIR WARPED PERSPECTIVES!! 😂😂😂

[@JUDALATION]

you men she was in denial the whole time...l

[@julianlunn594]

​@@JUDALATIONfacts

[@bkjane]

Thank you Bridget. Dude in gray demeanor is aggressive, voice elevated, interrupting while your speaking and have the audacity to ask why bw are not nice, pink and soft 🤦‍♀️😒

[@desdior1207]

A few of men like him Ive came across were very argumentative, loud, and combative. As soon as an issue arises, all those 3 traits popped up and there is no talking things out with guys like him. Almost like having to use therapeutic communication skills with a person having a psychosis episode

[@bkjane]

@@desdior1207 it’s showing real time in the video. Bridget is measured in her verbal and physical response but if she matched his energy it would be see all bw are the same just want to argue. This is why I don’t entertain ignorance but kudos to Bridget 👏👏👏

[@francisikwueme1688]

I find it funny AA men who are the most aggressive, violent , least conflict resolution skills compared to their Asian, white, or Spanish counterparts think there won’t be some type of rub off effect on the women in their community. Women and children are a reflection of the men in their community. So stop comparing yourself to black women compare to your male counterparts and find out what they might be doing different 🙏🏿

[@tupactargaryen]

@@francisikwueme1688 😂 tell Sade Robinson about how wm are less violent.

[@ballen8905]

This is just NY grime.

[@michaelputin3960]

What this woman and her fellow sisters should do is take their product to the open dating market and see how well it sells against the product being offered by women of other cultures. At the end of the day it is not about how well you can articulate your gender war argument, all that really matters is how well your product sells on the dating/marriage market. If the latest story from the Hinge dating app is any indication, I would say that the product that Bridget and women like her are trying to sell is not in very high demand🤷‍♂

[@tripleb1960]

Who tf wants any of you ninjas? Let alone from dating apps 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@TheRealTriune]

She basically said if you're broke, it's ok to have a terrible attitude and treat people badly.....gotcha🤦🏾‍♂🤦🏾‍♂

[@TheDTrine]

That’s what I got, as if that behavior should be excused based on one’s socioeconomic status.

[@TheRealTriune]

@@TheDTrine it’s sad that our people don’t travel like we should because if we did we would know that there are poor people all around the world that still treat people with respect

[@TheNatedoggva]

Thank you!

[@bandthoven175]

Missed the point by a lot

[@TheRealTriune]

@@bandthoven175 not at all….I heard it all and it was nothing but excuses for poor behavior without offering solutions 💯

[@mayawilliams5421]

Smartest conversation I’ve heard. @bridgetkelly you really held your composure and spoke well for yourself and black relationship. Thank you

[@Slade.]

Literally fighting with my girl because she keeps telling me “If I was man enough, if I was man enough” haven’t spoken to her in 3 days and I’m strongly considering ending the relationship so she can get herself a “real man” I’m embarrassed to even be saying this 😂

[@DeathsInverse]

Bro it's not worth it

[@mcphearson25]

Leave her king lol

[@Slade.]

@@DeathsInverse really not bro

[@Slade.]

@@mcphearson25 I may need too 👑

[@icemikec3721]

Leave

[@Mightymorphinpowerbottoms]

This is why educated women are feared. He wanted to push that ignorance off on bw so bad but she educated him respectfully.

[@ksager123]

cap lol

[@culturedkinfolk]

She is right! How people see the world is based on economics. As a Black race we forget that each class has a set of norms and expectations even within our own race. Hood BW is not how all BW act. He is talking from a Black hood pov, nothing wrong with that. But that is not the only mindset.

[@LoneWulf278]

I agree. I meet much nicer black women in high income areas. I stay away from the women who are from low income backgrounds. They definitely have attitude issues with random strangers, no matter how nice you are to them. Lol. It’s not politically correct, but it’s the truth. I’m sure it benefits them when navigating the mean streets of wherever tf they’re from. But it’s definitely unpleasant. 🤷‍♀️

[@saralove6974]

Most BM can not provied protect, sleep around, & no respect, so BW have to be strong to take care of them self,

[@batriciaparker]

Points were made on both sides. But Bridget was preaching!!

[@Qleverett]

I know a ton of blk women that dont come feom poverty. They still in most cases are not nice

[@averywarner2891]

Preaching the recipe on how to be ALONE only wanting county jail mf's wanting you

[@HiHello-wz6bx]

If you think what she said is preaching, or worse, wisdom to be followed....you are in for a RUDE awakening. No man of substance or value is accepting disrespect in his household. Yall can say an do whatever you want outside the home, an actual MAN, ain't dealing with that

[@ChrisN-hs7dh]

@@HiHello-wz6bx exactly, this is why male leadership is necessary because women are running in circles and dont want to accept their bs is working against them and destroying the community. But this is the price they pay for disrespecting black men, you cant expect anything good to come once you undermine the men! female leadership lacks reflection and accountability what a fucking disaster !

[@smome777]

​@averywarner2891 How she preaching on how to be alone when she just got married?

[@TheDTrine]

I think they all make valid points. But speaking as a black man, we are not extended the kind of grace we’re expected to provide to anyone else. That’s just how it is…

[@SuperBrianMak]

Because bottom line, we Black men don't give grace to each other. 🤷🏿‍♂️

[@shorts26]

He's 100 percent right but it doesn't matter to me because I don't deal with any black women who don't treat or talk to me the way I want to simple

[@precisemindspro]

@@SuperBrianMak nor to ourselves

[@rosejames5172]

Same for b w

[@tyquanhumphery]

There’s more points that need to be talked about here!!

[@Zackey-Zackk]

She's talking about black women get walked all over but black man get walked all over when they're polite kind and nice which is why I'm no longer a nice guy anymore I know how to be kind because I grew up like that but now I'm going to pick and choose which woman I'm going to be kind to

[@LoneWulf278]

Then you understand perfectly.

[@Ghostisback24444]

Exactly

[@ItzD]

So you still mad about what a teenage girl did to you? Grow up....

[@Zackey-Zackk]

@@ItzD stupid duck that never happened to me and it didn't happen to me ever in life but black men understand what I'm talking about so go listen to sexy red or something silly ass

[@DrUmarJohnson1]

@@ItzD Our brother sounded like he seeking a non-Black woman. Lets wait and see if he replies: "Love is love" or any anti-Black statement

[@tmreaves1]

We always competing who has it worse but we arr all hurting and should learn to be empathetic and understanding

[@TwoH.Q]

I’m a man, and am refreshed by Bridget’s perspective here. She’s always been level headed on shit. We have to show up with more perspective as 40+ year old men. At least when you have an objective woman in front of you.

[@ksager123]

cap

[@ChrisN-hs7dh]

no way, she is excusing black women's known toxic behaviors which are a turnoff to anyone. Black women will date white men and change their behavior. why is it hard for black women to act right towards black men?? its all based how they view us, they dont respect black men

[@mercyh193]

What a great conversation! And as always, Bridget phenomenal job on breaking it down and showing that link to socio-economics! Always loved how intelligent Bridget is!

[@RCBLAZING]

Why is she lying? She knows freakin well it is different how BW and WW talk to black men in relationships.WW that has been around BW all their life bring that same delusional energy into a relationship that BM nor WM will not tolerate. WW that grow up out of the influence of the delusional mindset, their energy is totally different. It's a percentage of BW that brings that relaxing energy that is peaceful and calming to a BM. Now that BM is getting that outside of the community, it's a problem.

[@primeva7579]

Yeah what these women like to do is paint the narrative that bm with ww always have relationship problems when that's false. Ww tend to treat bm better than bw do. I grew up suburban and we had a rule to jot talk to white, asian, or mixed girls who had blk friends. For good reason

[@desdior1207]

For us who date outside the black community we don’t see this as a problem. More so a solution 💯And those who cry about it are a problem and detriment to themselves. There’s a crabs in a bucket mentality going on here for decades that not many of us don’t want or choose to put up with so we move accordingly. I feel I don’t want to put up with bm attitudes and entitlement myself.

[@solacenmute4840]

If you as an individual are getting treated differently by women you deal with, it is not because of color it's a direct reflection of you as a man.

[@nishashawn2021]

You comprehend none of what she said. She explained so eloquently that race is not the sole reason for the stark difference. Social and economics (environment) is the reason why it's a difference. You didn't listen to understand, you heard to respond and still didn't comprehend

[@dheraboy818]

Talking about the bottom line..?what she mean by that..

[@kevinnash2444]

Uhh she lives in an alternative reality. I do not agree with anything she said. Thinking like that will keep you stuck in life.

[@Newgodflowhoe]

Agreed

[@MrBronx61]

💯💯💯 Exactly. All I hear from her is one excuse after another.

[@antoinelove1329]

Then you're legit the idiot in this situation

[@jwil7954]

It’s less about “oppression Olympics” and more about being acknowledged. If you can acknowledge your pain, then why not acknowledge your brother’s suffering.

[@williambrownii9947]

They are having two different convos, but the way he's shitting on black women is wild.

[@Styles.rp25]

Exactly. Everything is going over his head!

[@tadah21]

Yea he is disparaging half of his own people dumb

[@djdarkphador]

Nope....He's saying what most....not all...but most of what black men have experienced from black women. Lets call a spade, a spade. My black male friends, their friends and their friends have said the same thing. This is nothing new.

[@LiterallyTho]

@@djdarkphador Black women haven’t had good experience with black men either. Black women don’t benefit in anyway from having children or a relationship with black men. Black women do better in interracial relationships. So there’s really no need for BM and BW to go around and continue to make videos like this.

[@sensis8036]

And like she tried to explain to him, it matters what circles u roll in. A Black Astrophysicist is not looking at the same pool of BW that Pookie at the local strip club is dealing with Guys wanna play in trash cans then complain that everything in there is GARBAGE.

[@nenajay3174]

Bridget is 100% right. I'm so glad she spoke on this. If you want to better black men and women dynamics, thars one thing. I wish the comparisons between black and white (or other non black women) would stop. We (bw) have always had it much harder than other women. And how did the convo turn into who has it rougher- black men vs black women. We need UNITY.

[@antoinelove1329]

Agreed. Algorithms destroyed us

[@snoopdog44144]

She's spot on..

[@taurusthebull76]

This vid just came across my feed as I don't know any of the speakers. Bridget seemed to have to hit the bullseye with pretty much everything she said. Great points made!

[@acailacarroll2303]

I love this conversation because I feel like they were listening to understand each other instead of a debate. In my opinion. Grey shirt was just getting everything off his chest

[@TYBO-xl1xz]

Stop saying “Spanish men/women” it’s Hispanic, they speak Spanish

[@TYBO-xl1xz]

Unless they are from Spain then that’s Spanish men and women

[@awaal1600]

Take it a step further because Hispanic was a term made up for the census. So-called Spanish people from "Latin" countries are actually Indian.

[@tmac8604]

I've heard Hispanic is a derogatory term from multiple Latin people 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@TYBO-xl1xz]

@@tmac8604 Yeah because they don’t know any better, they barely speak the language properly and they definitely aren’t Latin (officially) neither

[@TheLastIrritant]

U ain’t from nyc

[@cornelious36]

That dude is to old the be thinking stupid. The more he talk the more ignorant he sound!

[@rhondam4369]

💯💯💯💯

[@Qleverett]

Its not stupid its sad blk women cant take critique

[@DeathsInverse]

I mean, it's a lot of our experiences.

[@TheBetterlife101]

*too, and you're right

[@moedogg30]

Their response showed she the smartest on the podcast. Her answers were so insightful that they ignored her, and she got them to make her point for her.

[@youngblknignorant1]

As a black man bridget talking that talk... in terms of a white women comprising it is a great outlook i did not see

[@LoskiTheFirst]

This chick mentioned socio economic. If you read btwn the lines, what she's basically saying is that black women will by default have an attitude towards men if they don't make enough money for their liking. Which is a poor excuse for not having common decency.

[@neutral6175]

word, i was really tryna break that down. she lost me when she said a white woman starts off with more privilege.

[@SolidSnake240]

We already knew this tho lol

[@neutral6175]

@@SolidSnake240 fr, have woman seek you not the other way around 💯

[@bandthoven175]

@@neutral6175 if you can explain to me how white women aren’t inherently privileged in “American Society” then you would be correct ?

[@bandthoven175]

You lack empathy which is why you can’t actually understand the black woman plight. I bet you can’t understand why men kill themselves 70% higher than women

[@kareemkirk6895]

The dude in the gray is displaying the stereotype that keeps us down. He comes off real hood, so that is the woman that he is attracting. Class attracts class and hood attracts hood. That’s where his experience is coming from. Once dude learns how to conduct himself and articulate himself with some class, he will automatically start to attract women of the same..

[@kgravgrav8496]

Wow I have to add Bridgette like you’re super intelligent. Your standpoint is on point. I think that black men don’t understand how to be kind honest and have goals and that is why they have trouble with black women because they expect them to be honest and have aspirations and when they don’t. That's what starts the issues.

[@brandnewbeauty4244]

i dont get offended because this doesnt apply to me. Im naturally very sweet and soft. And have been bullied and beat up by black women and seen as weak because of it. So its hard for me to get mad at black men saying these stuff about black women when ive dealt with black womens attitude and aggression simply because they feel i dont act how they think i should. I think black womens attitudes has nothing to do with economics or race. But more to do with seeing their moms,aunts,friends act like that and picking it up. Social media just makes it worse. As you see black women picking up the same catch phrases,gestures and lango. Very robotic and Im seeing it with nieces. Also to some extent the lady is right. Black men do not approach women the same way white men do. Its always with aggression or too direct. Ive only been in a relationship with one black man and had to leave. Because im not coming out of my feminine atmosphere for any man whos use to fighting with women.

[@kareemkirk6895]

she is absolutely right. It is social and economical. The only caveat is in the Latino community. Latino men can make a low wage, but as long as he is working, they are respected by their Latino women. For the other races, you are treated for what you could afford; that’s a fact. 💯

[@GHwest131]

I’m sure people look at the man talking and think how is he criticizing black women for their behavior when he talks the way he talks. I want to say his way of expressing himself is for a man. Black women leave male behavior alone.

[@awaal1600]

She definitely has a point. But even with the socioeconomic variable considered there are differences within the races of how they view and go about dating. The sister states that black men arent sensitive, but white men are even less. She's definitely right about class and economics but only half right because there is a difference. Btw my Black Queen does not act in any way that he described. What he describes is ghetto behavior and lends to her point about starting point. My wife is from the hood but she ain't ghetto and doesn't prescribe to any of those notions or stereotype. Perhaps you need to change where you shop

[@sensis8036]

Well said. As I stated elsewhere, ppl play in trash cans then complain that its full of garbage!🙄 They go shopping in Monaco with 5 euros then complain everything is overpriced They shop on Canal street then criticize merchants for having cheap fakes They go to Save -A-Lot for groceries then say there are NO healthy food options in the world VET before u GET If u want a cat dont buy a dog then b*tch at it for barking Im no Chinese Philosopher but these are my 2cents. Makes sense? One love❤ 🇯🇲

[@dc3470]

I totally disagree with the woman. We don't approach sistas soft & sweet?

[@TSteele718]

Bridget is smart, I low key like her better than Mandy but I wish both those sisters much success and love.

[@blessed3779]

They are both bi-racial with yt moms……. Mandy is just mad annoying

[@Skinny_Pimp]

Smart??????

[@TSteele718]

@@Skinny_Pimp you may not agree but she articulate her points well.

[@Skinny_Pimp]

@@TSteele718 So you judge intelligence by the way it sounds NOT by what is actually being said. Interesting.

[@TSteele718]

@@Skinny_Pimp never said that at all lmao. Just because you disagree with someone doesn't mean they aren't intelligent.

[@antnam4406]

I live in Europe, Spanish people are white Europeans not brown folks from Central America.

[@Qleverett]

“I dont know any black men who are soft, and sweet upon entry” wow flat out lie

[@djdarkphador]

It definitely was a wow moment when she said that.

[@sensis8036]

Theres a difference between Idk any And THERE ARENT ANY

[@MinnesotaEverything]

She has to be in New York! She is crazy masculine!

[@desdior1207]

@@djdarkphadorshe may not know any. Especially if she’s from the east coast. Shit I only know maybe 3 off the top of my head who are “soft” upon entry😂

[@MyName-h7q]

Of course the dudes she chases aren't nice. Lol. Duh

[@AhlamAl-din]

True.. a prime example im a mixed BLK/Irish woman from the hood.. when I dated men from my area I was too white for them.. when I dated 9-5 guys no matter the race it’s a different conversation & dating objectives all together.. the social economic part of what “Bridgette” said is true! It’s based on a lack of everything mostly w/ any guy from a poverty area..

[@mickeysmoove4562]

I don’t see the correlation 😂 you’re too white for a hood dude but just right for a 9-5?

[@kennethrenquist9414]

sorry couldn't watch all of this. she lying from the jump... your attitude isn't determined by your socioeconomic status

[@tam6011]

Yes it is. You can see that in the children. Even when when it’s two parents. I get what she is saying

[@antoinelove1329]

Yes it is. don't be dumb.

[@teemax1809]

bridget called it within the first minute of the clip. i switched off 20 secs after that, cause this discourse is MAD boring. Stop with these boring ass, generalised, DRY talking points.

[@axa5005]

Bridget ate this whole segment. Great points.

[@Bre-vz6ip]

Neither one of these guys screams masculine real men

[@Jordan14-vo1jn]

She keep trying to use the money route that is not what they asked you instead of answer the question she will defense and try not to spend it and using the money what she saying we already know that has nothing to do with the question that they asked her

[@AngelRivera-vh7bz]

May not be completely out in the open, however, Latina women mostly be guarded or satellites are up when it comes to dealing with darker Latinos.

[@HoWaRd1187]

She contradicted herself by saying our dating issues are socio-economic and not racial and then saying that a White woman can leave a relationship and still have more options because she’s white.

[@SuperBrianMak]

Because White women are socioeconomically privileged. That's why.

[@primeva7579]

Truth is that the average bm with a white wife was at his lowest when he got with that woman, and she built with that man. They never address that though.

[@smome777]

That's still socio-economic........on average poor white people will still have more privileges than an average poor black people.

[@antoinelove1329]

@@primeva7579 That's my situation too. Thats NEVER discussed.

[@antoinelove1329]

Race and Socio-economics literally go hand in hand

[@cameronmanning8606]

My wife is white and after 8 years I can see all kinds of privileges that I didn't even realize. More people are comfortable and accept or tolerate me even having her around. This is a fallen world. I swear only God can save us.

[@blaqueruby4946]

That’s what the girl is saying... BW know all this before...it’s sad that BM don’t

[@roshellegouldbourne787]

How is that a bad thing or maybe I'm not understanding your comment.

[@2ticketsplease898]

Bridget knows how to deflect,

[@ronrockwell]

Bridget is dropping gems on this ep. She spitting nothing but facts.

[@WillWilliams-q5u]

I try to watch these dudes. Damn its hard, though. I believe the reason why math and esso couldn't get along is. They are both often Loud and Wrong. Its disgusting 😢

[@hans5198]

Lots of Black men do start off nice, you simply can not generalize everything in your mind and approach relationships with generalizations because you’ll not acknowledge or recognize the very things that you think are lacking in black men because you’re preloaded with your disposition, but you’ll think that the slightest gesture by a white boy is so grandiose.

[@rayjones9819]

My man is generalizing all black women. He needs to interactive with different people to formulate a more educated opinion.

[@teearrawright2549]

The men just refuse to take accountability this ladies point is beyond valid

[@Ghostisback24444]

Y’all are GROWN ADULTS Why you we be responsible for you

[@40millproductions]

This is what we need in black relationships. Communication. Sitting down and just talking like this.

[@dennistaylor6342]

Powerful conversation!

[@elektrastone7327]

I agree and disagree with both sides. Just repeating what everyone else said, first of all BW and all BM cannot and should not be put into such small generalizations. Secondly, I know kind sweet black women, he needs to widen out and meet new black people and then I disagree with Bridget's comment saying she's never met a black man that was warm and soft or treated a woman with delicacy. I've had more black men hold doors for me, offer me a ride home from work when I didn't have a car and they didn't expect ANYTHING in return. I've met black men that saw me not eat anything for lunch, which was by choice and they were up in arms that I wasn't eating. I mean some of the kindest, gentle men I've ever met were black men and shockingly white men come in second place with that. It's Asian and Hispanic men that are rude and treat me like I'm trash.

[@sensis8036]

I dont think she said you have never met them... I dont think she said they dont exist.. She said SHE hasnt met them..

[@elektrastone7327]

@@sensis8036 I know that's what she said. But the way they both were talking, it was implied that these sort of BW and BM don't exist. I'm sorry you didn't understand that from what they and what I said.

[@shadthagod8033]

Bridget be talking that talk I love her

[@djdarkphador]

Why do we as a whole not listen and hear what black men experiences are? Why does everyone, including black women try to invalidate our experiences and stories? But others, including our blk women want society to affirm their experiences. It seems people/society/women don't give a damn about men...blk men's strife, struggles, and battles that we face in our world.

[@MyName-h7q]

It's because women can be easily manipulated and overpowered. So they are put upfront so they can be easily manipulated or killed/ taken hostage.

[@roshellegouldbourne787]

We listen to y'all's experiences though. Non Black Women are better, we're angry, fat, loud, combative, argumentative, no one wants us, hair hats, hyenas, bt 1000's, our 😺 stinks, y'all are getting y'all passports, Black Women are at the bottom, we're not fit feminine or friendly, we love pookie and Ray Ray, 70% out of wedlock births, least married, kicked Black Men out the home, chose welfare over Black Men, hated Kevin Samuels, Please add what I forgot to mention.

[@roshellegouldbourne787]

Oh I forgot. As a Black Man all races of Women want y'all ( I take that as a win, don't you ? ) y'all dominant basketball, football, hip hop, what could you possibly be going through that's bad 🤔

[@smome777]

No one wants to admit you will get what you give. The line about grace is the one most people will ignore and holds so much weight.

[@MauisRai]

Bridget you was talking yo shit n u shut him down!

[@djdarkphador]

Naw, she didn't...they came from a little bit different perspectives...one side gave a little more grace to women, while the other gave a little more grace to black men.

[@beanzwynnznewz9174]

At the end of the day we are in this together and we can’t prosper trying to do this just as a black man or black woman separate.. that’s the biggest issue

[@angelaadamsali3936]

These type Brotha’s have no idea about our needs or our pain, and only want us to understand their plight. They can’t match her intellect and so they flatten the conversation. They need to take notes from the Black men that understand us.

[@desdior1207]

Not all bw are the way he describes. And I’m totally speaking as me myself. I’m tired of that narrative. Then these guys look at me sided eye because I’m soft spoken and agreeable

[@Yaya_____]

This woman speaks so eloquently ❤ I love her

[@SocialDrones]

He sound crazy. Bridget is way too smart to have this conversation with these cave man dudes 😂

[@MsMendita]

It’s a class thing. Educated block people don’t “argue” they have disagreements, in a generally civilized manner. And their arguments definitely don’t look the same as poor black peoples domestic disputes.

[@raegray8768]

Beloved they are not coming because you are just not that Negus yet!!!! It’s spiritual and you don’t have it. It’s not about your money at all! It’s you.

[@rhondam4369]

this conversation is very ignorant...I only agree with Bridgett's comments Black men stay tearing black women down...just stop it

[@DeathsInverse]

I don't think they're trying to tear them down. We just don't understand why they're so difficult.

[@Dr.Beetlejuice110]

3:52 I don't get what she's saying here. I need some examples from her on what she thinks the compromises men are talking about. For example, if I ask a white woman to compromise watching a TV show over a movie. How does that benefit the white woman in the end vs. A black woman with the same scenario. What she is saying only works when it's a financial compromise I think ......but even then I still need an exact example from her. Otherwise I'll have to say it's a non-point.

[@LionMentality1982]

"Not coming across Sweet BW" That Statement is 100% Facts.

[@Wearenotfriendsxo]

Thanks for posting ❤

[@ebonybranch9697]

What she is expressing is. White women would force herself to be comfortable in any type of relationship if their economic plays a part. Financial freedom through marriage is a big advantage. It’s easier to build a house with someone else. Black women were already setup to mentally be in survival mode. We have to work ten times harder to make sure we live comfortably.

[@Daydreamerr13]

Exactly

[@MyName-h7q]

So BW don't be with men just for money.....!?!?!!!?!????? You can't be that dense. Y'all really got to work on the lies.

[@antoinelove1329]

Agreed. I'm dating white. You and Bridget are absolutely right

[@gothamtyler]

She's right...Ive dated a variety...tone may be different but it's the same....real shit... Poor is poor , decent is decent,and we'll off is well off

[@tupactargaryen]

These discussions are old now, bm and bw just need to go their separate ways. If you’re a bm who has a passport and some money saved up, I would advise to leave the U.S. and never come back and if you can’t do that, only deal with non bw . Problem solved.

[@ksager123]

wisedom

[@nikkideevah]

Yeah get that passport & marry someone who needs a green card. And next thing you know her whole family living with y’all

[@tupactargaryen]

@@nikkideevah most passport bros don’t plan on coming back, so a woman looking for a green card irrelevant to the discussion.

[@ka9202]

Regardless of the background, it comes down to the individual's choices made at that moment.

[@rakimillian_ex]

sweet black women exist, they are not common, but they exist.

[@doshpits]

naa you’re just using your anecdotal experiences to disparage your own race of women.. you’re not a man and never will be

[@djdarkphador]

I can atleast agree with that. But I dont think the dude was telling any lies to begin with.

[@SmooveTV718]

I'd say they exist more than people think.

[@doshpits]

is it like a full time paid job to denigrate blk women or what?

[@rakimillian_ex]

@@doshpits idk but it does pay. i blame capitalism.

[@JLarkins-ho6nh]

It's not economic, it's this culture

[@theukeconomist6518]

All my black friends who are highly successful are married to non-black women. I've seen plenty of black women who always look miserable, grumpy, aggressive, and unapproachable.

[@doshpits]

what was the purpose of this comment?

[@mnkwazi]

@@doshpits Probably to get you triggered, looks like it worked!

[@honeyb7027]

LMAOOOOO this man irks my soul with the lack of comprehension i genuinely don’t think it’s a hard concept to understand the bottom line the beginning matter ! Great topic though 9:32

[@shorts26]

He's 100 percent right but it doesn't matter to me because I don't deal with any black women seriously who don't treat or talk to me the way I want to simple

[@Koolhand85]

Always been attracted to her. Her height. Her voice. She’s flawlessly beautiful. To hear her speak so eloquently and deliver such powerful views based on the depth of knowledge. Impressive. Highly needed. Shorty really DID THAT! 🫡

[@madmann1000]

This conversation is pointless because statistics show black men have low success rates in dating and marriage with anybody regardless of race. Black women have high success when they date out in terms of longevity. So who is the blame when black women aren’t involved in the relationship?

[@aarongraham4264]

Bridget speaking over these dudes heads. And I like them (pause) but she was trying to have a multi layered conversation that they weren’t qualified to have

[@prosperbenjamin84]

So then what is she saying about having a lighter complexion than dark skinned Women?!?

[@LoskiTheFirst]

Thank you, tragic mulatto thinking she’s depressed or relates to the life of a black woman in the projects.

[@RyanMerch]

She's right. It is rooted in socio economics

[@heruapocalypse2021]

She's right only because Westernized Programmed Black Females make everything about Economics.When That is separate issue from Interpersonal And intimate Relationships and Duty to Marriages.

[@HiHello-wz6bx]

Not entierly it isn't because this is not found as commonly in the Mexican community. It does happen, but not nearly as frequently.

[@RyanMerch]

@HiHello-wz6bx That's fine. They're talking about black men/women as is pertains to how we operate in regard to one another

[@jerryrodriguez3554]

​@RyanMerch don't gloss over the fact that other groups face similar socio economic challenges but they still figure it out

[@dannysan2441]

​@@RyanMerch " that's fine"? If Mexican women are working with their men as they flee impoverished conditions, that means it is not socio- economic. Eboni k. Williams has the same attitude and disposition as the rachet hood chick.

[@cornelious36]

interviewers are supposed to let the guess talk!

[@Skinny_Pimp]

Guest Not!

[@FABRIC8TIONUNLIMITE1]

It's called Host privilege and that's how it works, one does not over talk the Host.