The Narcissist Ends Up Losing MUST WATCH

[@cavedancesinc.6775]

What you said in the video is true, but it doesn't make me feel any better. If anything, knowing the person I was committed to and loved wholeheartedly has a condition where they can't truly love, makes me feel more devastated. The way she left, the cheating, promiscuity, child-like disregard for responsibility, all reveals she'll bounce from relationship to relationship until ultimately dying alone and miserable. Because I have empathy and had true love for them, it's the opposite of what I desire. Knowing they cannot change is sad. I'll move on because I have to. Someday they'll become a distant memory. But today, I mourn for them as much as for what we both lost that can't be restored. It wasn't even real, but it was real enough to feel.

[@ezdeezytube]

Its a painful lesson to learn, but I feel blessed having gone through it. These lessons are so important for the rest of our lives, for our mission on earth. The good feeling comes from knowing the lie is behind you.

[@emmajohnson6955]

I right with you ,so sorry you are going threw this.Just know I know my friend. 😢

[@ianstewart942]

Been there to buddy. Yes it sucks. I loved her so so much. Thought I had met the one,but I now see she wasn't. The discard was horrible. Yes I had the smear campaign to. I truly loved and cared about her. Part of me still does.😢

[@Jeweli.]

It's a double whammy, you mourn for them and yourself. It does show and prove you are capable of love which is a beautiful thing. You'll be ok, you're free and each day away from them you will feel a bit better. Ups and downs but their abuse can't continue whilst you're away and you can start to heal. It may take you a long time but you'll get there. Look inside and patch up your defences, they are good teachers in being able to show us what we need to work on. We have to cross that emotional sea, it's difficult I well know. You are strong and there's something very right with you and that's why you were targeted. Get as much sleep in as you can, it's the best thing for trauma, to dream and clear out that garbage in your head. Be kind and gentle to yourself. Blessings +

[@denisj6089]

Friend, throughout your healing journey, you will see that you got thrown out of a fantasy, it wasn't real, you get to experience life in reality and authenticity, you can actually experience joy and love in its true form and not live as someone else's property. Your discard was a blessing as hard as it is to accept.

[@chester2581]

if you are able to be emotionally detached and observe the interaction between you and a narcissist, you will notice a constant look of fear and anxiety. They are always looking to prove something to you and that is actually quite sad to witness.

[@antoniojenkins4548]

You're so right because deep down they suffer from severe people pleaser syndrome. That's why they always have to explain themselves. You can really use the narcissist if a person is a dark empath.

[@aliC04]

Mine cheated, rushed into a relationship with the other woman, got her pregnant, and now is miserable. He can’t stand her but wont leave bc he doesn’t want to pay her child support. He LOST!!

[@foreveryoung6464]

Mine got 3 different women pregnant behind my back for whole 6 years relationship. And guess what he said when I end up know it? "you should blame to yourself why I going through this far..." Crazy sick evil. I'm done

[@AcappellaGamer]

They’re only “vulnerable” as a performance to coerce you.

[@dodibenabba525]

Yes and no. I've seen a narcissistic collapse.

[@anoushkamarcin]

That is so true 😢

[@susanparker9877]

​@@dodibenabba525The narcissist is like a paper maché doll. There is no strength, no substance, no core self to fall back on. Their's is a sad, pitiful existence.

[@joannageorge7305]

@@susanparker9877 It's their own doing. I'm not wasting any sadness on that.

[@susanparker9877]

@@joannageorge7305 You are absolutely riight.

[@lanamorelli6480]

They can’t stay alone because they can’t stand themselves.

[@yourbeautybff]

I am a survivor of a narcissist mother and sister. I’ve been gaslit, and made to feel guilty. I don’t have any children, but I’ve been a parent. Only some people who have lived this will understand it. If someone comes on too strong, I retreat. I’ve learned through experience that the ones who jump in quick are the same ones who jump out just as fast. I am afraid of depending on anyone but myself. I’m a survivor. I am enough. I don’t listen to words. Your actions over time tell me all I need to know. ❤️

[@nc732]

No one will understand what you went through unless they experienced it. When I tell people the stories, they don't understand. I miss my previous life where my outlook saw all people as meaning well. I will never be the same after experiencing the narcissist. They are amazing at fooling people around them. She fooled me for 10 years. Its hard to digest the fact that I spent 10 years with someone who was a con the entire time. I loved this woman and she never loved me in return. They say narcissists are 20% of the population. I refuse to allow her to prevent me from engaging in love again. Just because she was a fraud, I will not hold it against another person if a relationship transpires.

[@perla5921]

​@nc732 i feel like every second person i meet is 1.

[@yarabia]

It’s amazing how after break up from my side he suddenly realized his mistakes and even apologized for cheating on me. He wanted to Hoover me back again so he took all blame onto him. But when I tried to fixed it before he lied and made me feel like a crazy. This is what showed me that they know exactly what they’re doing to us, they’re aware of the pain. No more drama in my life. No getting back together. Life’s waiting for me and I’m going to take it ❤❤❤

[@fainitesbarley2245]

Yep. The last couple f weeks before I disappeared they treated me extremely well. That just showed me they knew what they were doing all that time they did the opposite.

[@shrimpeyes4662]

Of course they know😂😂, it's easy to manipulate a woman emotionally and a woman will literally do anything to fit in to the world you give them after isolation from everyone. It's a well known fact just look how easy pimps(narcs) turn these women out. It's always been this way it's only modern society that tells us women are real adults when in reality they are adult children. With the freedom they got they have just managed to ruin the family unit and birth so many narcisists it's taking us all down. It's going to get way worse it's a pandemic

[@KenHockeye-sy4nb]

No one wins. Not ever. Not them. Not us.

[@MiamiAtNight]

You wrong,if you lose a Narcissist in the end you win! Because you will regain your sanity and your finances back!! And will have the ability to detect a narcissist a mile away, that’s a total win for those used and abused by them.

[@shelleyCollins-o6y]

thats why my narc has to have the tv on all the time so they never have to hear their own voice.. Good for him glad he is feeling good with someone else its a lie.

[@chvsrbrt]

It’s funny. The narrative is all the same. Mine told me I was her soulmate too 😂😂😂

[@aknightofcamelot]

To me, winning would be like she heals. I would accept who she is if she could see her self and want to change and grow. But you cannot help someone who doesn't know they need help. Sometimes the compassionate thing is to allow them to live in their delusional bubble where they are "OK" and everyone around them is to blame.

[@shielapolicarpio1290]

But why it is so hard to move on from them even knowing whay they have done or who they are. Its just a struggle. Why is it easy for them to move on like nothing happened😭😥

[@Ehuff]

Because the back and forth created a trauma bond that changes our brains to crave that dopamine and cortisol. Like a drug.

[@susanparker9877]

They are so unaware, so laddy-da, that they perceive nothing of any depth or importance. My ex didn't want to watch the news, because national and world events didn't concern him. Even the personal crises of his own daughter were just annoyances to him. He ignored her calls and then shut off his phone. His cold, cold heart was pervasive to everyone and everything. I cannot take the hurt personally, because he didn't give a damn about ANYONE.

[@angelafox9522]

They can move on so quickly because they literally don't know how to Love. You have to think in terms of their dysfunction or, mental illness, or spiritually cursed. I believe some of them really wish they were normal and envy others who are; the reality is that they wish that they could feel love the way that we can, but they just can not. I hope this helps 💯

[@perla5921]

​@angelafox9522 they might feel euphoria in the beginning...when they've love bombing in the beginning

[@shrimpeyes4662]

Because the patterns mimic all addictions 8ts that simple.

[@susanparker9877]

I watched my ex self destruct in his personal life, work, friendships. He was incapable of holding anything together at all. He was a complete failure.

[@shrimpeyes4662]

Yet you fueled and enabled him. Your just another woman who will only ever birth narc babies.

[@merin797]

Their constant shapeshifting must be exhausting for them.

[@marcpedneault3362]

2 months in and mine is in collapse. All her monkeys have been converted and her family too. I preempted her with a police report. Her monkeys sent me all the sceen shots of what she said and the threats. Ive also removed all her good supply. Shes 8n a state of complete c9nfusion. I honestly did not want to take it that far but she left me no choice. Im ready for what comes next. Sadly

[@lorraineolivera24]

Best job! 👌 👏

[@hspinnovators5516]

So jealous! Mines enablers is his whole family: (.

[@queenqueen977]

honestly if this is the case why do we live in such a narcissistic society? why do we have narcissistic systems, platforms, and spheres? Why is narcissism continuing to rise?

[@ashmac4732]

Because it’s the end of the world.

[@deniserandall4397]

You will when it becomes evident that your pain and tears makes them happy

[@jrandallgilmore8907]

Listening to your video and reading all the comments makes me want to send love to all of us. I’m involved with a narcissist now. I’ve walked away twice and the second time I blocked him completely. I was miserable for four months missing him terribly even though I knew what a broken, sad person he is. When he came back again I just gave up. It’s a no win situation for me and it’s always a roller coaster. He’s never mean or nasty and never puts me down. But I’m not fooling myself. He’s a narcissist. He has others and he lies and keeps everything secret and goes back and forth from breadcrumbing me to full on love bombing and future faking me to keep me engaged. I feel too emotionally tired to fight anymore. It was so hard to walk away twice. I don’t have the strength to do it a third time. I’m just starting to date someone new but I’m so emotionally tied to this narcissist I don’t think I’m being fair to the new person and I hate that.

[@hspinnovators5516]

I understand this completely. Does the new person know your old attachment? It's healthy that you are aware of it instead of treating others like a rebound. We need new relations to heal. Sending love ❤

[@angelafox9522]

As a wise suggestion, you should heal more before dating because it's not fair to you or the other person.

[@irielion3748]

Start therapy, go No Contact. Tell them you've got a new partner and discard. It'll eventually be done to you anyway. Get out whilst you have a fighting chance

[@mothebarakuoane363]

I pray that you ultimately gain your freedom. I know exactly what you are going through. I went through it but ultimately got the strength to completely detach. People who have never been with these monsters will never understand.

[@shrimpeyes4662]

You have come to the right place with all the other enablers and narc slaves.

[@nicolehayes6020]

Everything you say is so true and makes so much sense. It already clicked w me that I l can’t ever have a normal mother/daughter relationship with her n I’m at peace with that. I can’t leave for good until another year and a half, so I’m trying to look at this as as a positive experience for me. What I mean by this is that God, or my higher power, is preparing for what’s to come. So for everyone out there who is reading this, try to turn your negative energy towards positive energy and make it work to ur advantage. Peace love and happiness ❤❤❤

[@LoveWolves777]

Anoushka, you have really really helped me !!! Everything you have said I experienced first hand, and thank you Jesus Christ 🙏 that strengthen me to survive 🙏 it.

[@anoushkamarcin]

Thank you for your comment … I am so pleased that the work has helped you. I am so so happy … keep going forward

[@elizabethearle4899]

I love your video I had this bad experience

[@anoushkamarcin]

Thank you for your kind comment and I’m so sorry that you had to experience this

[@Bob-zh6dw]

​@@anoushkamarcin Anoushka, I believe there are 5 stages (not 4 stages) of the NPD CYCLE. There is Love Bomb,Devalue, Replacement, Discard and Hoover. They can never be alone and will ALWAYS have a replacement lined up BEFORE they discard you. Your thoughts?

[@DarkMetaOFFICIAL]

stg i just am winning rn 😂🤘and find this video at the top of my feed. i can't describe how freeing it feels and amazing

[@DanielleMonoskey]

I left a relationship of 37 years with an abusive narcissist and 3 girls to him. We all have trama bonding. My middle child told me 3 years ago that her dad was a narcissist. I started to look into it and i finally left him .....all i that wasnt mine......and my 2 german shepards who were my therapy and kept me from leaving the past 2 years. I was told horrible things and doubted who i was. I walked away. Leaving all of his business and worth behind.....for a reason. I needed to get away and prove that i was worth more than what he said i was. I am 55. Have little to my name but i am making it on my own and found the true person i always was and then some

[@barbaraseccombe2421]

I love these talks learn so much such a great speaker

[@deezgex]

She told me this along with twin flames etc etc. Even got mad i wouldnt just follow into all these things she told me. I wasnt leaving but yet fights would happen over silly stuff

[@PtyYouTube]

You’re so good Anoushka

[@TheColtonStreeter]

Modern dating advice advocates for everything you are calling narcissistic, but this is just simply human behavior for the person who is attached or they aren't narcissists and are just following dating advice or they just aren't worried about it.

[@shrimpeyes4662]

It's a pandemic of narcs out there, women have been birthing them at a rapid rate. They will only have children with narcs and create narc babies, the next generation of degenerate sex criminals to take society into the abyss. Narcs and enablers and the women who birth there children are all just as bad.

[@hibbertsh]

Way to below their ego to reveal the truth, just not with you but to everyone... I care less. I have deleted him 😊

[@fonzobooker7998]

I hear you good my friend

[@deezgex]

What if they do say they are feeling bad, they are weak, vulnerable etc etc. While in a relationship?

[@KarenMarie-hn8db]

I hope he’s miserable … he’s my neighbor. It’s very painful. He betrayed me and went immediately into another relationship.. I suspect she’s ONE of his ex fiancés from the past. He said he couldn’t get rid of his ex. Also he’s divorced twice. She’s been there since January. She has decorated the entire front of his house for Halloween. When we were together he would NEVER EVER decorate. Now, there’s pumpkins etc. she is a HUUUUUGE downgrade. Unfuckingbelievable 🤬😓

[@TanisVega1]

She's a downgrade? That's a narcissist way of thinking... no one is superior, It's not about looks!

[@rastamuff1]

Divorced twice? The red flags were waving right in your face

[@hspinnovators5516]

It's his ex? I'm his ex currently. Don't give me hope! Lol

[@KarenMarie-hn8db]

We’re all “ex’s” and “supply” to the NARC

[@KarenMarie-hn8db]

No dirty 🍆s allowed back

[@merin797]

Lack of social queues.

[@DarkMetaOFFICIAL]

idk why, she gives me the backdoor cheatcodes late at night when she's falling asleep with me on the phone. says she's lonely. while living with the new domestic partner. wow

[@darintalbot1]

Thank you Ann you help me so much

[@HellasGD88]

Narky would always say to me that when he leaves me no one will have me, he did eventually leave me and my kids he remarried a nearly 60 yr old that is trying to have a baby LOL!, anyway I don't think that his life is a bed of rose he looks like the cat's dragged him out of a gutter.

[@Luke747gal]

Galatians 6:7 Do not be deceived; God is not mocked, for you reap whatever you sow. Sowing lying, exploiting, cheating, manipulating will result in destruction.

[@bryanwhitehouse4141]

Many thanks. 😊

[@musclemouseautospa2592]

Love this video

[@nessauk2786]

Think short game dressed up as long.

[@raidenewalden4354]

If this is the case he will lose out because he gets old he gets ill and people notice and that is his downfalls .

[@khawlaben893]

What if he got married while dating me he even was talking to me in his honey moon and ask for a date ! I’m in pain he got married while telling me he’s depressed and at hospital Why would he marry while he’s with me ? I don’t understand I found out he married by myself it’s been a week I sent him a message that I found out and blocked him I’m in pain is he happy with his wife ? Why he did this to me

[@deezgex]

I actually trully felt alot for this person before i had a chance to open up to them and be together. She adored it and then built me up but i learned so many things but felt her past traumas were the cause of some of the defensive bs. But 4 plus years later i still feel like i did but now with alot more hurt while they just up and left. Told me love for me has been dead for years even though just recently told me differently

[@deezgex]

This girl showed me her broken self time and time again. It went from broken, to in love, to hate and anger and then be cold. She may have other issues idk but npd and bpd both seam pretty close

[@fainitesbarley2245]

A lot of the behaviours are pretty close. The difference s borderlines still exist and are not dead inside like narcs. Also - BPD ameliorates in middle age whereas narcs get worse.

[@deezgex]

@fainitesbarley2245 ive read it can. But ive met her mother so not sure. I know her issues started early on. She is very kind most of the time but quickly can discard even especially the ones closest to her. Her and her mother are almost identicle and reffered to each as twins etc many of times but also both toxic towards each other at times. Both seek admiration and validation non stop and both have went through partners like a phone book always blamming the past partners then later compare to previouse partners as better type things. She is 35 with adhd and ms diagnosed but was told even in her younger days she was kind but then cold and off putting from others who knew her way before me. Adhd and ms effect cognitive thinking but her mom isnt either of those so its gotta be a combo. Along with thinking she is special with gifts and hears the voice of god when she woke up one day. Says spiritual things have made her do past things as her excuse for doing them and so on. In the end everything got blammed on me how she feels etc when just days before all was so great with me and its like she wants to ignore just telling me or feeling that way. Im not sure what it was but over 4 months now not a single word after being together for years

[@deezgex]

Everything all became my fault just like in the beggining all before me was their fault smh

[@deezgex]

@fainitesbarley2245 ive read bpd can continue and also get worse over time. She claims she sees things that are not visible to anyone else ontop of many other things

[@steenkristensen6351]

Nej det ved jeg godt Anouska det tror jeg nok vi kan blive enige om de bliver aldrig tilfredse uanset hvor meget man gør, så jeg går aldrig en i tågen igen never, så ha en fantastisk aften Anouska 😉❤️

[@dhamon-pi6os]

Maybe not ok but better than I was

[@celiamurray]

It does not help they lose "in the end". I already lost our business (he chased me away). My income and money and now my house. I'm 54 and have to make something out of nothing. How??? In South Africa the court system does not care - I have been trying to get divorced for the last 3 years and just want my half. He can carry on with his affairs and his life. No problem with that but I can't even get that. Oh, and my lawyer cost me the price of a house...with no benefit to me. Any advise??

[@basicinfo2022]

If he was a bad man to you, he will be a bad man to the next person.

[@moonglow1158]

No wonder she never sat at a table in that house

[@djangopipo5712]

❤❤❤…is there any chance to helping them to become a new better person?😊 Thank you 🙏

[@dodibenabba525]

I think not personally

[@marcpedneault3362]

No

[@Jeweli.]

No unfortunately.

[@Bob-zh6dw]

Not a chance. They will always be toddlers (emotionally) in adult bodies.

[@Bob-zh6dw]

If they could change then they wouldn't leave you. You did all you could to make them happy and unfortunately it's never enough. The same will be for the new supply. How sad!

[@fonzobooker7998]

Wow

[@arcticauroras9627]

Ridiculous as it sounds

[@nursetanny841]

Idk… He seems to be living his best life and charming everyone to believe he is.

[@castieldiallo2945]

Yes, she has gone from one failed coupling to another. In 2 years Ive counted 5. All with the types she swore she finds unttractive. Short, metro, 50 plus and oriental.😂

[@arcticauroras9627]

No

[@ForGodandKeiki]

💙🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽💪🏾💪🏾🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@arcticauroras9627]

Soul mates are possible

[@rambultruesdell3412]

👍👍

[@arcticauroras9627]

You imagine so much

[@PtyYouTube]

Pain is an illusion, just like fear, and the lies they fed you. Stop crying for your ex. Life is real out there and there are more fishes in the sea, find yourselves someone like Anoushka 😚 And be happy.

[@shelleyCollins-o6y]

Funny he says he has no emotions yet today he cried for a woman on tv today but all the time I went through chemo and was so sick he never cried once nor was he ever home he was having an affair with my so called best friend. I don't believe anything he says

[@Billybunts]

😢

[@elizabethearle4899]

👌🙋🏻‍♀️

[@arcticauroras9627]

One moment

[@arcticauroras9627]

Made mistakes b4

[@thetruther954]

Well, let’s leave out the erotic, let’s not think that is what this is about. But would it hurt to thrown in the personal touch of where and how this affects you? Yes, the main thing is the progress, the main thing are the insights, the main thing is the clarity. But where does it come home to rest? Did you conquer all this for your parents? Did this type of relationship affect you in some way? Is it a habit for you of these type of relationships are the thing you find yourself in and now you know why? For God’s sake you’re a leader. We want just enough to keep going. That’s more than just what sounds good on paper. But for God sakes, don’t tell us how you are doing and that you don’t think you can make it. I definitely don’t want to hear that.

[@arcticauroras9627]

If I wanted to cheat then air it I'd go to the BBC and tax check same time. But for now NO

[@arcticauroras9627]

If I was pretending you must love the city bombing look

[@vwmusicplaylist1935]

It's an important topic but this woman sounds so angry and bitter.