Ballerina Farms Living Her Life or Your Nightmare

[@NextStopAntarctica]

I love episodes like this Heather. Making me laugh one minute, and then choking up as you spoke about your mum and kids in such a heartfelt manner. Your analysis of stay at home / working mums was spot on!

[@JuicyScoop]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@syreetathibodeaux6114]

Best episode ever. When Heather gets real with us…it is amazing!! And powerful ❤

[@tarakersey6115]

@@NextStopAntarctica Vulnerability is what connects humans. I loved this episode too. I got that twing in my heart.. and it hurt my heart but at the same time it was sweet to hear her speak about such a precious memory.

[@tarakersey6115]

@@JuicyScoop Heather.. hurt my heart when you spoke about your mom but at the same time it was sweet to hear you reflect on such a precious memory. Thank you for sharing that with us.

[@stephrod80]

That made me cry when you spoke about your mom Heather 😢 ty for sharing.

[@ausflygirl3430]

I miss my Mom so much. Reflect on her strength, kindness and humor. How did she do so much and put up with all of us? I'm so glad she knew how much I oved and appreciated her.

[@tarakersey6115]

@@stephrod80 I know. So touching.

[@its_k18]

Same, so sweet 🩷

[@aliciaw2700]

@@ausflygirl3430❤ 𝒔𝒉𝒆 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘𝒔 - 𝒌𝒆𝒆𝒑 𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 2 𝒉𝒆𝒓 - 𝒔𝒉𝒆'𝒔 𝒍𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒊𝒏𝒈! 𝑿𝑶

[@syreetathibodeaux6114]

I loved Heather being vulnerable like that with us. I wish she would do that more. Very, Very powerful ❤❤❤❤

[@Mina-mt6kt]

I was a child in 1960s and my stay at home mom said that women are pushing going to work and someday it won't be a "CHOICE" it will be required to support a home.

[@tarakersey6115]

@@Mina-mt6kt I was born in 1973. And my Dad made good money. And I LOVED MY MOM . I hated being away from her. And she knew it and did it anyway. She got a job I guess to feel important and to traumatize me. Idk. She is a narcissist for real. 8 know that gets thrown around a lot . But she is. She is 72 and she still works at a Drs office as a receptionist but she tries to come off like she is a nurse. Lmao. And she doesn't need to work but then she complains she STILL HAS TO WORK. 🙄. HERO/VICTIM CYCLE. UGH.

[@tarakersey6115]

@@Mina-mt6kt Before I met my now ex husband I was married to for 20 years.. I always dated Artists, Musicians, otherwise jobless.. and yeah they were a lot more fun than my controlling abusive ex, but my ex husband had a good work ethic.. lol. Sigh.

[@zahrakassam2559]

The question I have in these situations is why is 'stepping back' never asked of men? Maybe it's because I'm a millenial in my 30s, but my husband and I are in this together. We have discussed when we'll step back and push forward together. I love my career and I don't think it's selfish or wrong to love it. I also grew up with a sahm in poverty and it caused a lot of fighting and abuse and my mom was trapped. I think it's like vaccines. We glamorize "the old days" because we forget everyone was getting wiped out by mumps or in this case, that women had no autonamy and were property.

[@tarakersey6115]

@@zahrakassam2559 I think it's a generational thing. I was born in 1973 and I was raised in a Baptist Church. Raised to believe that the Man was the Head of the Household and basically the Wife submits to her husband.. that you ask permission really before you make decisions. I mean my ex husband did that kind of.. but he would ask but I knew it was more like telling me. And the woman/ wife was in charge of the house hold, cooking, and if you have boys you are in charge until they can play sports.. my ex husband pushed mine like a drill sergeant and I would intervene. That's when we started having problems. Our parenting styles were very different. I knew I wanted a divorce after I got pregnant with my first one bc he changed. He was a true narcissist. He loved bombed me, said all the right things. Until I was married and pregnant then his true personality came out. And I knew I would never share custody with him bc people like that really don't care about their kids. They use them as pawns in order to hurt their partners, gain recognition for themselves through their child's achievements. Their sick FKS. I stayed for 20 years. Until mine were adults. They were never out of my sight or my parents sight. He traveled a lot for business too. Thank God. Anyway. But the answer to your question.. my family shamed me for divorcing him. No one in my family believes in divorce. They believe in misery and looking the other way. And emotional abuse. And I get called crazy.. it's nuts.

[@tarakersey6115]

@@zahrakassam2559 I taught my boys different. And that women are equals. And about talking about our feelings. I would have " feelings checks " with them . Pass the scarf and say what we were feeling. Watch a movie that had a Life lesson then pass the scarf and ask them what they got from the movie and have a discussion. Talked about caring about others. Respect. Not me first and win winning is everything. Like their DAD was trying to drill into them. My ex was a coach of a travel ball team and he and the assistant coaches would be so hateful and put so much pressure on them.. they would get so nervous they would mess up. I would talk to the team.. and tell them they were all winners. Those games were very upsetting to watch grown men scream at adolescent boys . I told them " your dad's were nerds at your age and they are reliving through you . They are acting like 14 yo boys right now. Block them out. Go out there and do what you know how to do and just know you're awesome! You have to be to play at this level. When the game is over leave it on the field.. win or lose.. bc you will always be a winner if you believe you're a winner. If they start that screaming, block it out.. start singing a song in your head and just say "yes sir".. find a Happy Place like In Happy Gilmore.. if you haven't seen the movie watch it. Bc my ex would say " If you're not first you're last" like in Talladega Nights.. I would say " Well you're stupid, try something original" and walk off. Sorry I'm rambling but I'm sure some of those boys are in counseling. One boys eye balls would shake. Parents would fight. It was crazy. And it was crazy expensive. All my ex husband's stupid ideas. I have a top 50 list. Idiot. I told my boys he had a brain injury and couldn't communicate effectively and don't pay attention to him.

[@danamaria80]

My mom worked and missed a lot. I remember she happened to be home the day I made the dance team. She was as excited as I was and we hugged and hollered in the living room. I remember it like yesterday. She took me to work with her once and I saw a whole different person. She was a boss lady and well respected and I was so impressed. She did the best she could which is what I’m trying to do as a working mom.

[@fusi56]

In the midst of frivolous discussions about TikTok, instagram, celebrity gossip, you touched on the many intense issues facing women regarding having children and female friendship. You presented many complex view points in a heartfelt monologue. Well done.

[@JuicyScoop]

Thx so much

[@k.6569]

A lot of us ARE sold a false bill of goods here, I don’t regret much in life but one thing I do regret is waiting until I was 37 to have my first baby and now that I have her there’s nothing more I would want to do than be able to stay home and raise her. If you would have asked me a couple years ago, I would have said there’s no way in hell I would want to be a stay at home mom but there is something in my soul that breaks a little bit every day when I have to go to work instead of take care of my baby. Part of me thinks a lot of the heat that ballerina Farms gets is from people who are jealous of her lifestyle and the other part of it is people who haven’t had the joy of having a child yet and don’t understand that you’re entire world and your wants can change in an instant when you have that baby. Thank you for being vulnerable about your story Heather!

[@JuicyScoop]

Great points. A lot of it is jealousy and being unaware

[@Littlehillsrejoice]

I agree with you 100 percent. I used to be snarky and insinuate SAHMs were lazy etc because my mom always said that and I grew up with a single mom that was never around (not her fault) but then I realized the truth. I had missed my mom all my life. I wanted her there! Then I had my first baby and literally fell in love. I realized I could never leave him and begged my husband to stay home. Luckily he agreed and made it happen for us but we’ve had to sacrifice a lot to make this dream come true. (Lived in a trailer, moved to a different state, 1 vehicle etc) I think many women are jealous or angry that this is not a choice for them.

[@carleyminsker5621]

​@Littlehillsrejoice and alot of people don't want to sacrifice downsizing to be able to stay home. They think having more stuff or a bigger house, which they barely get to enjoy, is worth more than staying at home. I love staying at home. I homeschool our son, he's 8 1/2yrs and we're about to go to DE on Sat to get my niece to adopt her. My sister's due August 8th:) so our dream of having another baby has finally come true:) I guess sometimes God does drop the answer to ur prayers in ur lap. Life is good and I know I'll never regret spending my time with my family instead of working.

[@Littlehillsrejoice]

@@carleyminsker5621 I totally agree. I love it too! Nothing beats waking up to my babies and getting to snuggle them and read to them and just be present with them. The other day in the garden they were playing among our flowers and splashing in the pool and my heart could burst just realizing how blessed I am 🥹 Oh my gosh ! I’m so happy for you! Congratulations and God bless you!

[@tarakersey6115]

Heather, I was a Registered nurse and I gave up my career to stay home with my boys ( and at the request of my now ex husband) and I loved my career . Do I think my boys appreciate that? Absolutely not! ( There is more to my story I don't want to share... Regarding my ex)..but I think my boys look down at me bc I didn't work.. but my biggest reasoning for my early retirement is bc I couldn't depend on my ex or trust him, and my boys dont know or remember the dynamic of our household. No one would believe the bs that man put me through after I left him once my boys were grown.

[@JuicyScoop]

Ugh

[@NoeticNotary-sx1ec]

Tara, SO relatable - thank you for sharing ❤

[@robingrl23]

Tara you seem amazing I hope your boys wake up! They need to appreciate your sacrifices. Best to you. 💜

[@HissingKitty2008]

I can relate. ❤️‍🩹

[@tarakersey6115]

@@robingrl23 oh girl. Well my divorce was not good. My ex has just told them lies. They are both grown now. 25 and 20. Both Marines. One in California. One in North Carolina. And I don't get to see them much. They both live on a marine base. My oldest got married at 22🙄. To a 18 yo 🙄. And she was fine until after they married and she just ghosted me. And it broke my heart. I was just there to see them.. and 3 weeks later she pulled this shit. And she won't give me a reason. My son is up her butt. I have not said anything to her bc you have to SPEAK in order to do that. I have all my texts and none of them are ugly or inappropriate. I literally kiss her ass. This is my theory. I may sound crazy. My mom is a narcissist. I married one. He has been diagnosed. Were divorced now. These things repeat. I married my mom. See? I married a narcissist bc my mom is one. My son's dad is a malignant narcissist and he married one. She is manipulative and I think she knows I can see straight through her bs . If you know anything about this.. like read books.. watch you tube videos about it.. it is what happens. I married the person who I had the dysfunctional parental relationship with. I could do a Ted Talk. Lol.

[@tarasullivan4211]

This one hit hard! I stayed home with my daughters when they were little but one day realized I was completely dependent on my husband for everything and felt unsettled by that. I went back to work when my youngest was 8 and two years later my husband wound up becoming very ill with treatment resistant depression. I had great benefits and was able to take time off to take him to ECT appointments, etc. I’m glad I stayed home with our girls AND I’m glad I went back to work. We’re all just doing the best we can and as long as the ultimate priority is the children, all will be well. ❤

[@tarakersey6115]

@@tarasullivan4211 YES. A mother is always damned if she does and damned if she doesn't. I don't think one man on early know what it feels like to have that agonizing, soul aching mom guilt that eats at you . And the constant worry if you are doing the right thing for your children so they will develop into functioning adults later in life and don't end up on a therapists couch with some childhood trauma whether it be " their mommy put me in daycare and I was scared" , or my mom didn't work and she was the reason I couldn't have everything I wanted or everything other kids had and I was bullied". Sigh. I really don't think a single solitary man has one of these thoughts. They usually shrug it off and same something like "they will be ok, you worry to much ". Sigh.

[@tarakersey6115]

@@tarasullivan4211 And how commendable of you for carrying the family and taking care of everyone and working. Taking care of someone with a chronic illness can't be easy and you're family is lucky to have you.

[@tarasullivan4211]

@@tarakersey6115 Awwww…you’re so kind! I just love him and our girls so much!!

[@emilyincasper4434]

I have had to quit working because of health problems and man it’s tough with one income.

[@tarakersey6115]

@@emilyincasper4434 I understand my friend. I used to be very high middle class ( not to brag) and now I'm not. Living that lifestyle to me was very stressful and it was almost just having to kill yourself to have what? Stuff? And it certainly didn't make me happy. I have chronic health problems myself and I don't suffer by not having the things I used to. It really wasn't important to me. You realize what a need and a want is and for me having relationships and a real connection with people is what I found important to me ( even though some of those people don't understand that.) I think when I or anyone goes through a drastic change in their life whether it be with their health, finances, living situation or marital situation. It has a profound effect on one self and gives people perspective. It did me anyway. It made me realize what was important and to appreciate others and their struggles.

[@freshrachpears]

Heather, Thank you for sharing your experience as a GenX woman of our time. I’m only a few years behind you. I remember seeing the ad on tv … the song about the woman bringing home the bacon AND frying it up in a pan. My interpretation of what our society asked of me? Well, do it all… don’t pregnant too young, but also don’t let your eggs dry up. Don’t marry tooo young - but don’t be a spinster old maid. Get an education- but be ready to drop everything if the right suitor comes calling. Personally speaking, I grew to resent the mixed messages. I mean, I’d LOVE to stay home and nurture my bountiful litter of healthy, breast fed darlings. So, how would I provide an adequate home and lifestyle-- without either 1) bringing in a second income or 2) being one of the (small percentage of population) few fortunate enough to have been born into wealth. It definitely created a bit of cognitive dissonance. There is no correct answer because the rhetoric is flawed. I’ve also realized (and accepted) that the trad wife has the support of generational wealth. Old money. Top percenters. Us regular folks just figure it out, weed out the BS … and do the best we can. Like that single mom on the 1970s sitcom. I’ve adored you since Chelsea Lately. You have not only kept me entertained but continue to uplift and inspire me.

[@JuicyScoop]

All so true! Xo

[@elektrablacksky]

Very good points

[@ausflygirl3430]

Exactly

[@gillianchanga-nj4lm]

Yep - and this generation has to take the breast pump to work. At least in my day, you could stay home if you breastfed. I look at young girls at my job and think this is what my mom’s generation sold us? They are running themselves ragged.

[@binkinbelle]

Very well said

[@blueladyb1097]

Heather ur rendition of the best memory of ur life- walking home from school w/mom 27:11 and to watch u choke up touched my soul,I choked up too! Ty for sharing, ur a wonderful human and I love listening to Juicy Scoop!

[@MelissaYoung-ej6po]

The Vicki Gunvalson Imitation 😂😂😂

[@chalenejohnson]

The fake eating on TikTok. I can’t breathe. 😂😂😂

[@hunkerdown]

24:45 😂😂

[@tarakersey6115]

@@chalenejohnson I don't even have tik tok or Instagram. I couldn't take the fakeness on Facebook when it came out. I was honest on my Facebook posts and people thought I was weird I guess. Lmao

[@citrusbutter7718]

@@tarakersey6115 I also hate when people pretend like something they're talking about is SO JUICY (no i'm not talking about Heather)... Like those KZbin gossip channels always going on and on about the tea and drama. The high pitched shrill voice they put on, the unbreaking hyperactivity, them putting in sound affects like booming noises after they reach a comma in their sentences. They could be talking about 2 celebs seen just talking in public and they get all excited doing the most talking as if the world just stopped spinning doe to the thunderous monumental earth shattering moment around those 2 celebs seen TALKING, GURLs THE TEA..... I can't stand them. And they always have that stupid valley accent....

[@melindastinger9152]

Heather, thanks so much for being open & vulnerable about the working mother dilemma that so many of us can relate to. I love these episodes the best, because it’s like I’m getting ready for work while chatting with a best friend! ❤

[@elisa-beary]

I’m SO glad you’re covering the ballerina farms situation- it’s def juicy but it’s so sad. Yes, she’s rich but that money can’t fulfill her or give her a partner who sees her as an equal or makes her less lonely or makes him care one bit about her desires in life. She’s privileged, sure but I can’t say I’d trade lives with her. The article was flawless. It illustrated everything without outright saying it & we need more journalists like her. The fact that her husband said sometimes she’s in bed for a week out of exhaustion showed they’re not putting in equal work & he should put his ego to the side & let her get help.

[@CitySlickerButtKicker]

Hes rich, shes poor because he has all the financial control, nothing is in her name.... not even the revenue from her monetized social media, it all goes to him.

[@sarahjoslynxoxo]

Pausing this to call my mom really quick, thank you for sharing Heather. I’m 25 and my mother is in her mid sixties, I’d still cancel any and all plans to spend time with her.

[@shashamarie4760]

I'm 42, a teacher, and pregnant for the first time. I'm terrified of carrying this baby in a healthy way first and foremost, and now worried about how I'll work and raise my baby. I'm also the breadwinner in our family. We have very difficult decisions ahead. Praying my mom can help us in the day while I work 🙏 wish I could stay at home.

[@scmonaghan1]

I got an au pair and love it, it's a great in between day care and full time SAHM. But I definitely nurtured that relationship with the au pair, it was hard giving her my time too(like little talks in the kitchen when I wanted to go to bed or be with my kids) but it has definitely paid off, she is a tremendous help to our family, loyal, loves the children like her own and I know they are cared for and loved when I'm working.

[@shashamarie4760]

@scmonaghan1 wow. That's a great option. We only have a two bedroom, so that would be tight for us, but very interesting 🤔.

[@sunnymeadow575]

Sounds like a lot of things on your plate! Take your time with the big decisions, but make sure you're taking care of yourself too. Pregnancy is already tough

[@shashamarie4760]

@sunnymeadow575 you got that right. These days, I'm proud of myself for taking a shower and doing the dishes. 😕 All I pray 🙏 for is the health of me and baby. I know everything else will fall into place. Thank you for the kind words. 😇

[@apaul5572]

1984 LAX Summer Olympics were a blast! Lionel Richie "ALL NIGHT LONG" in bright cotton clothes. So '80sssss!

[@Dalilanotdelilah]

Heather, speaking about your mom and your fondest memory broke my heart. Thank you for being so open and honest.

[@Kara-jj9yx]

I’m screaming at the eating and telling the story part🤣🤣🤣 I swear we have the same brain because you’re always 100% correct hahaha

[@goldenniblings]

Time stamp?🎉

[@Littlehillsrejoice]

“Trad” wife here 🙋🏻‍♀️. I cook all of ours meals except once a month when we go out and I stay home with my kids and literally make all of their snacks etc and buy no processed food except tortilla chips 😂 we have a huge garden and chickens and I enjoy every minute of being a “traditional” wife and mother. My mom was so busy and never around when I was a kid and my husband had a mom who gave him up and then had a horrible childhood. My husband and I make sacrifices and are frugal beyond belief to have this wholesome lifestyle where I am always present for them and I’m so grateful that this is my life. All glory to God.

[@JuicyScoop]

That is lovely

[@patricaowens]

AMEN

[@erinpack4934]

OMG Heather!! That is such a beautiful memory with your mama💜 And ‘One Day at a Time’ was priceless!! Loved that show!! My mom was a single mom and we watched tgat, ‘Solid Gold’ and ‘Star Search! You rock Heather!

[@Skepticstake]

Scott Peterson doesn’t have to be presumed innocent because he’s been found guilty.

[@kmorgan5075]

THIS!! These are the conversations we need to be having! Thank you Heather! I know this is comedy but you need to know that is has gotten so many women through these stages in life.

[@schielesmrs7648]

OK. Am bawling my eyes out at your memory of your mum 😢

[@lucianalbc]

Its an amazing episode!! You actually painted a great picture of why woman have to work and the struggles of feeling guilty, and inapropriate. And thats only for women....when family is about the father too...we miss our father, and we wanna spend time with them

[@MA-jz9xt]

I worked federal job in Canada when they put the vaccine mandates during Covid I did not want to take it. I refused the Jab and stayed home with my kids as a result for over two years. It was the best time ever!!

[@tinagarrett1685]

I have a lot of guilt over my kids going to daycare. When my first-born was small, I did not get to volunteer for field trips or the school carnival, etc. I got to volunteer a bit with my second child, but it was still a struggle to be doing so much while working full time. Then the kids get older and don't need your help as much. This emotional struggle is so real.

[@Rteest345]

Longtime listener. In fact, I’ve never missed an episode. But tonight, you speaking about that walk with your mother, was for me, your most shining moment. So real, so vulnerable and just so beautiful. Thanks for that Heather and thanks for ALL of the laughs!

[@cherylt7701]

But Scott Peterson was found guilty!🤦‍♀️ For the love of God…people need to let it go!!!

[@catherinesullivan7414]

Loved this episode. Loved everything you said about ballerina farm, so heartfelt, so well said- your perspective is so needed, a mom who raised kids that lived through the struggle of kids and career. We never hear this perspective more. Notice how single motherhood came up so much this episode, the real housewives and their issues with finances after divorce,the struggle between career, marriage, and being a mother is real. Thank you Heather for showing compassion to the ballerina farm story and loved that story about your mother, I think so many of us have a memory like this that we often think about as mothers now❤

[@ausflygirl3430]

I really enjoyed diving into to this trend of Trad, the Olympics, your beautiful Mom and the RHOC. Thank you for sharing a heart moment with your Mom. I like that about you, love of your family, special moments.

[@arinicnori]

Great episode! Thank you for sharing the story of your mom and you walking home. It was so touching and I shed a tear. There is never enough time with our loved ones, never.

[@Kaceygb9]

Heather I tear up about my mama not being there a lot and she died when I was 22. I feel robbed of time with her. She was a single mom and had to work 2 jobs for us. I agree with you about a woman can choose what she wants wether it be single or stay at home mom. Wish I could but it’s expensive these days. Love the episodes where it’s just you ❤

[@BabyRuthyBear]

This was honestly one of your BEST episodes?!?!?! Thank you for sharing your perspective. I learned something new about you today. I like this softer side of Heather. ❤

[@JuicyScoop]

I'm so glad!

[@lisathompson7966]

This episode is exactly why I LOVE Heather. Yes she is funny and entertaining, but beyond that, she is truly a good person.

[@JuicyScoop]

These means so much

[@susiedurham4426]

I love her guest choices, but Heather (alone) feels like I'm talking to my friend. Beautiful episode and so authentically heartfelt ❤️

[@badgirlhowdy]

Heather, I love your solo episodes and when you go into your POV for these stories with relevant experience. Excited to see you in Dallas!!

[@MysteriousSkies44]

THANK YOU HEATHER for sharing your story from when u were 6yrs old... My sis & mom have been really trashing me as a person & my work ethique... bc I chose to be a stay at home mom to my 4yr old & 9yr old. Bc my hubby makes enough that we can live this way. Which my dream was to always be a mom (having experienced absent parents myself) & they have been making me feel horrible & lazy bc I've chosen not to work & spend summers home w my boys. (I'm college educated too). I feel like your perspective as a child explains why I choose to stay home w my boys. THANK YOU HEATHER!!!

[@elisa-beary]

People are SO mean though sitting on their couch eating takeout while this woman has competed & worked her ass off since birth to compete at this level in gymnastics & you’re at home going on social media posting about HER HAIR?!? That’s disgusting to me, I’m sorry. I can’t imagine what she’s put in to get && STAY where she is in this sport.

[@tmcbgrrl0074]

YES! THIS! and that interview... when asked 'where are they female swimmers?' "Oh, probably putting on their make-up" WTF is that?? I can't even.... So rude 😞

[@aubrey7753]

Loved hearing your experience growing up. ❤ I’m sorry you felt not as cared for as your siblings. Don’t feel bad for sharing your true feelings. It’s authentic and inspiring. I am really lucky to have a husband who is happy for me to stay home with our daughter coming in January. I know not everyone can do that and we aren’t rich but he works so hard for our family. People need to not shame others. Some women have to work or want to. I think it’s best for my kids for me to stay home. Not everyone can do that. That’s my opinion and I’m happy I’ve made my life to be this way and God blessed our family to do so.

[@Shnnnzlsmth]

Wow, Heather this is one of the very best episodes in my opinion. You are such a sincere and real woman and I felt everything you were saying about the emotional stuff.

[@lisakelly231]

I love you Heather! And just in case you haven’t heard this in a while. You’re a good Mother! ❤️

[@ElisabethKanyer]

Oh my word...the moment about your Mom. :( Thank you.

[@denisehodges6257]

I was inspired by the Mary Tyler Moore Show… the clothes, the career, I loved it all 😂. I’m 67!

[@ElisabethKanyer]

Yay! ❤ Another amazing, brave pod time!

[@lpatin28]

Very decent and kind take on this whole thing. Loved it!

[@tinaswindell6786]

Insomnia crew unite!!!!!!

[@aliciaw2700]

❤😂𝑼𝒏𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒖𝒏𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒍𝒚 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒄𝒓𝒆𝒘 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 ! 𝑺𝒕𝒂𝒚 𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒐𝒏𝒈 & 𝒅𝒐𝒏'𝒕 4 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒄𝒂𝒇𝒇𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒆 𝒉𝒆𝒍𝒑𝒔 𝒙𝒐

[@meredithboudreaux7272]

Im here! power up !!

[@shelleyfroese9126]

Hiii, I napped earlier in the day 😩

[@emmadunevant3331]

I'm here!

[@ausflygirl3430]

Checking in!

[@MakeupByDiana529]

You make me laugh, you make me cry, you are just everything to me ❤

[@HeatherMarieKader]

Speaking about YOUR life is the most precious part of this episode. I love when you’re vulnerable. It’s the hardest thing to do but it’s speaks directly to people hearts. I too had parents that worked and would’ve loved for them to be with me more. I chose to stay home when I had kiddos and when I recently left my ex husband, it was extremely hard to do so I get the topic. For each parent, it’s gotta be the choice you’re best able to live with at the end of the day. For me, I can’t get those baby years back so I’m grateful I was able to stay home with them while they were little. Now they’re older and I can work. So it worked out for me but not everyone’s life is that way.

[@tmcbgrrl0074]

Heather is so hilarious! She is now Heather 'Whatever' McDonald to me. lolol xo

[@colleenjonesmcleod3511]

Thank you for the commentary... you made me tear up and laugh at the same time. Guilty, sad , thankful, and joyous is also how i feel as a mum. I appreciate this conversation. Cheers to you

[@floridabrit9572]

Love you Heather. You do the best you can do as a mum whether being a working mum or a stay at home mum. Your tears about your memory with your mum got me in all the feels. Bless you, bless all us mums and our kids 🙏 ❤

[@JuicyScoop]

Thank you so much!

[@briarrose29]

27:00 really got to me. Experienced it as a child and as a mom. I hate how our society is set up to force parents to work so much to live a normal life. 😔

[@caseypittman9149]

The mom guilt is real - my mom worked, I worked. Do I wish she was home? Yes. Could she? No. Do I regret not staying home with my son? Yes. Did I want a career and the income? Yes. We are also brought up to believe we can have it all. It's real hard to have it all and we have to make hard choices. Thank you for sharing the story about your mom ❤

[@danielmcintyre]

The lack of air conditioning for athletes is appalling

[@MatildasMama]

i was here for the ‘84 Olympics tooooo !! i walk the LA River every morning .. it’s actually not THAT bad. 😂

[@tararevell]

Thank you for being so authentic, Heather. Lots of love and big hugs.

[@JuicyScoop]

You are so welcome!

[@carlcalabro]

Heather omg. Making their own bread and gummies?!?! I’m dead.

[@aprilbianchi3219]

I ❤ this conversation Heather! Awesome job. I forwarded to my daughters.

[@caitlynjohnstone3511]

I love this conversation. Thank you for your perspective Heather! 💗

[@jackikurtzmann9253]

I would buy that shirt in a second!!! I’m coming to see you in NJ in October! 🎉🎉🎉

[@JuicyScoop]

Yay

[@tarakersey6115]

No mother should beat themselves up for the choices they make when their Children are young when it comes to working or not. When our kids become Parents themselves they will understand the agonizing guilt for the moms who had to work and the constant fear and worry that the mothers felt who didn't work bc they knew they had no control or say " in case something happened" and they needed to leave or their husband left, or even worse , a tragedy happened. Our children will GET IT, ONCE they become parents and are forced to walk in their mothers shoes.

[@bekkylove742]

You REALLY covered it all Juicy!!! Thank You VERY MUCH.

[@Pllcat]

I agreed with everything you said and your story about you and your mother made me cry. I love you so much and I was wondering if you could also talk about your opinion on the welcome to Plathville family. They have a show on TLC. Love you always, Heather thank you for always making me feel better and happy beautiful❤

[@JuicyScoop]

I’m aware of the show but have not watched but I will

[@VeganTrove]

Awww Heather. Im sorry you bearly saw your mum. My mother was two generations older than me. I am adopted. She was there my whole childhood. I was so lucky. This was in the early 60s. Women were able to do this because the economy was sane. I see all these poor women juggling a job and children and i dont know how they do it. I also feel sad for the kids. But this is when the economy in Australia was ok. Its before neoliberalism.

[@jackkoba8053]

Oh no, not the Kirby vacuum 😂😂😂

[@roguehouse8336]

My Gma was sold one by my cousin 😤🤔🫠 We all chatted about it and then years later my mother bought herself one! Even after calling us kids to come interrupt the salesman 🫠 I cannot!

[@jenniferburkhammer837]

My kids are 20 and 17 now...I'm 41. I was blessed enough to stay home until recently. I still hold guilt about things in their childhood that I feel I failed at or something I wanted to give them and couldn't! So Heather, as mom's I think no matter what we'll have this guilt! Thanks for sharing about your mom❤

[@KMKSARQK]

It's funny that you mentioned the TikToks with loud eating. Bethenny came to mind immediately. Later in the podcast, you mentioned Bethenny's eating while doing her spiel. Her loud eating could be used as a form of torture!

[@roz805]

I worked in Downtown LA during the 1984 Olympics. It was live, 😊Good times ✌🏼

[@rj-ly4yn]

Heather on Vickki is GOLD...

[@simplyjulie1612]

Heather, when you cry when you talk about your parents, I cry. It is so raw and so real. Wish I could give you a hug. 💛

[@Willowjaylee]

Great episode, i love you Heather. Ty

[@evelyndeleon3571]

I love solo episodes those are my favorite ❤

[@rose_quartz_loveandlight]

Heather you're an icon and such an amazing strong woman, we love ya! ❤

[@ishadeta]

I think covid had alot to do with the stay at home moms tiktok trend. Moms were forced to stay home for that time and found there was money to be made on tiktok. Probably enough to make up for the litte difference in income after quitting job and not having daycare cost.

[@jackieiervese]

Amazing episode! Thank you for being so raw and vulnerable, and connecting so deeply with so many of us.

[@Fluffyfarmgirl]

So many great nuggets of advice in todays episode. Made me emotional. A true mom to all ❤

[@JuicyScoop]

Thank you

[@goskale]

Heather keep watching they've changed the ending in ''Presumed innocent '' ... it is amazing

[@JuicyScoop]

Good I’m watching

[@Charley0213]

Omg this show was one of the best shows I have seen in awhile. All the actors are sooo good. The hate between the defense and prosecution is portrayed so well, you can feel the tension. I even like prosecution district attorney. He played that part well.

[@teresa9687]

I love this podcast and I appreciate you sharing your heart.

[@digitalbanana1]

Heather, you are such an amazing story teller! It must be the Irish in you (American living in Ireland and always in awe of the talent of story telling here)

[@JuicyScoop]

No one has said that to me about the Irish. I love that.

[@mkatepaski9947]

The gift of gab ! ​@@JuicyScoop

[@ashleyj.williams4105]

Dr Laura wasn't "pushing the trad-wife thing" she was recommending the return of the traditional family. Ya know, the way it's been done since the dawn of man.

[@LaLaLopez1999]

Yeah and it was all working flawlessly since the beginning of time. Definitely zero flaws with those family systems. Definitely 100% perfect. 😂😂😂😂

[@leaortiz6233]

Love this episode. Thank you for sharing the story about your mom. As a new mom and working, it truly is a struggle to go to work and leave my kids at daycare. We live very minimal and we struggle so much. As a mom, I took a pay cut in order to have flexibility. Crazy how this world works. We talk about kids are the future but companies do not care. Oh the world we live in.

[@rozaleos]

As a child, I despised my aunts with lots of kids. They will make my older cousins take care of the new kids. No child is getting the attention they need, but they look like they are having fun, because it’s a bunch of kids. Hard pass.

[@deirdresomner8749]

Yayy , Heather is back.

[@ScubaSteve3560]

SCOOPERS UNITE, WE'RE IN FOR ANOTHER JUICY DELIGHT!!! ❤😂🎉🍏

[@malavirevic7979]

Hugs, Heather! I can ditto almost every sentiment you expressed. I would not have been happiest being a homemaker but wish I could have afforded to be home with my kids until they went to school and been the “class mom”, etc…but we do the best we can as we live our lives. We need to give the ladies a break that want this life and applaud them for choosing the life they want to live.

[@gillianchanga-nj4lm]

Heather, your story of your mom made me 😢. It was so genuine. It was a struggle when I was pushed back to the workforce by mom and grandma; totally understand their reasoning. But gosh, it was tough to balance it all when my kids were little.

[@rosaberaldo2581]

Thank you, Heather. Your honesty is so touching. I am 56 and absolutely understand everything you are saying❤.

[@lulusland]

The best episode I’ve seen in so long of just Heather talking and being vulnerable and supporting women with every views. Love it. I left corporate last year after 13 years and must tell you this year has been amazing my kids are happier my husband is happier I am happier and u see now why I was so miserable when I would see woman staying at home because this is the most fulfilling thing a woman could do I think that when they are older I will be able to find something f that will keep me busy ❤❤❤❤

[@sallyfellows8281]

Wonderful episode!! I agree about my cell phone and it's battery! I notice a beautiful blue ring, a memory of your travels? And I noticed the lovely YSL purse too, good for you!

[@suzanne8535]

Great episode Heather! Just remember, the kids were in school from 8-3 then my daughter had sports from 3-5 Monday-Friday so it was really just the summers I could have spent more time. I always took all my daughter's school vacations off. So how much time was really missed?

[@goldenniblings]

Thank you for sharing your experience Heather.

[@susanll4811]

Stayed home with my 2 boys.. noe later 20s. They are AMAZING HUMANS! Went back for my masters in mental health therapy in my late 50's. Best decision! Never to late to have a career😊

[@elisa-beary]

Hello fellow insomniacs, hey Heather. Loved your last episode, I’ll never forget the first time Julie & brandy told the story about them having to make that trek in the Middle East only to see others in gold carts the first time. I’d LOVE to see you 3 perform at the same show at some point.💕💕

[@lizm.9253]

Great show Heather. I related so much to your talk in the beginning of the show. I watched One Day at a Time every week as a little girl, and as an adult felt so very lucky you be a stay at home wife and mother. My parents were divorced, my mom worked full time and times were lean. It taught me to live within my means. Also, I enjoy these shows with just you❤

[@jillp7655]

Heather, I have been somewhat hard on you for the last year as fans sometimes are. This was one of the best podcasts I’ve heard in a long time.

[@JoJo-vl8jb]

I love solo Heather episodes!

[@susiegross1853]

YAY!!! I live in Dallas Texas!!! Can’t wait to see your show!!’👏🏻👏🏻

[@nina-marie]

OMG ! "One Day At A Time" I've watched that show on "Crave TV" which airs older shows because my Mom mentioned it was a Great Show & It Was & Still translates well. My parents got divorced when I was 7 & watching this show made me understand some of the choices my Mom made that I didn't understand then, But I do Now ! I TRULY Adore You & Your Pov's ! - Cheers From 🇨🇦 🙋🏻‍♀️

[@abbiegraceb]

My mom and I are coming to see you in Austin next weekend & we’re so excited 💕 love u Heather!

[@JuicyScoop]

Yay! So excited