Being The Odd One At A House Party | Romesh Talks to Tom Allen About Being An Awkward Teenager

Romesh and Tom Allen discuss road rage, freakishly odd accents, teenage awkwardness and cleaning up after people at house parties in your finest bow tie to escape mingling.
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[@jonevans870]

I went to school with Tom and he did indeed always talk like this. He had some great lines too. I remember admiring some posh building with him on a school trip and he just goes “yes, very nice. I’ll take it”.

[@babbotunde]

I think Romesh Ranganathan might be the most naturally funny guy on British TV.

[@chopin65]

Yeah. I agree. His stand up is hilarious. Naturally funny. Not bullshit funny. Funny funmt

[@ashwathram5847]

James Acaster for me.

[@thosechickensareuptosometh5693]

why are these so short?? more please, and longer videos!!!

[@sararadley7189]

those chickens are up to something you can wach the full episodes on BBC iPlayer on BBC 3!

[@krashd]

They are short because they are trailers, watch the episodes if you want longer...

[@cammolyneux98]

I love Tom Allen

[@jonnyrocket3659]

I didn't like Tom Allen when I first saw him on TV.. but he's grown on me, and I now think he's one of the funniest men on TV. He has developed a likeability factor which crosses borders.

[@RosesAreGold1]

I've never related to him more. I sound super posh but am literally on benefits

[@RosesAreGold1]

Jon Treasure why, dear?

[@DissociatedWomenIncorporated]

Me too! Disability benefits in my case since I can't work, but my branch of the family became poor before that. I picked up the accent from my mum, despite growing up in the North East.

[@jamgart6880]

RosesAreGold1 Same! Lol

[@louisjohnson959]

Fix up

[@professorbaxtercarelessdre1075]

i've been told by a few people I sound either British or English despite being born in America. I just have a speech impediment, so its weird hearing that lol

[@danskizz7272]

I cleared up so many people's house parties as a teenager.

[@billyflynn2]

The boys wanted to talk about boy things and the girls wanted to talk about girl things, I didn't want to talk about either - oh every gay must have been there..

[@Edie45]

It must be both incredible and incredulous for Tom to finally have someone with whom he can share his old insecurities as well as his past life knowing there will be no judgement or put-down. Romesh is a sincere and trustworthy friend with whom Tom can be honest. Together they can see and speak the humour necessary to be so open. What a wonderful way to portray friendship.

[@Becktastic01]

More Tom, please. Everywhere. All the time. For all of us who also didn't know what to do at parties or never could quite fit in.

[@maureenackerley8024]

I never fitted in and always prayed that there would be a cat or a dog there for me to play with.

[@welshyyyyy]

Saw Tom Allen twice in his recent tour, the best stand up I've ever seen, and I've seen quite a few over the years. Highly recommend going to see him live

[@MilesMaddock]

My only complaint is that this is too good to be so short!

[@CannotBeVerified]

I love how Romesh laughs

[@PaulCarr1]

Tom has a wonderfully shaped head. He’s owning that bowling ball, Lex Luther look.

[@masterthieves]

Yes! Everytime I've been at a party, I never feel like I fit in so I just clean up and mind my own business.

[@sorkinfanatic]

This is so relatable!!

[@NickFieldMedia]

I felt like this growing up. My mum insisted my sisters and I spoke the Queen's English; we were never allowed to drop our Ts and Hs! Whenever I told her that people in school told me I talk posh, her response was always "Well they don't know how to talk properly!"

[@thomassmall70]

Nick Field well neither did she if she said that, should have been 'speak properly'.

[@juliee.p.7074]

My mom did the same with me and my siblings, and we grew up in Queens, NY. Once in a while, someone would legitimately think I was British. That would always confuse me, because my accent wasn't regional NYC, but it certainly wasn't British, either.

[@flala2261]

Julie E.P. 😅 Lolol

[@professorbaxtercarelessdre1075]

all mom's are a little bit crazy it seems lol

[@obibear123]

He’s naturally funny, love him

[@Knappa22]

I still do that at parties and dinners now. And I’m in my forties. I can’t abide the socializing / small talk so I’ll just find my way to the kitchen to do the washing up and tidying. If it’s a particularly tedious and lengthy party I’ll have the place ship shape by the end of the evening, everything put away, kitchen sanitized, and all the rubbish sorted into recycling boxes and general waste sacks. The works.

[@JG-py9iz]

This guyy He’s just great

[@Soundwave._]

I so relate to this. My Dad had an upper-middle class upbringing and still talks like that even though we are barely middle class as a family now, and I picked up that 'posh accent'. In Yorkshire. In one of the most working class schools. The kids thought I was putting it on. That's just how my voice is...

[@mrkillman555]

Class doesnt really change, so if he was upper middle class he still is

[@Soundwave._]

@@mrkillman555 I mean yeah, actually, that seems to be true, He's certainly got the arrogance, and so has everyone on his side :/

[@patrickfreeman6851]

I sympathise with this on a spiritual level. I promise I'm not middle class I'm just gay

[@OfficiallySanctionedKATG]

Tom is the spitting image of my son. Although tom is older, my son actually was rocking the baldy beardy look before he was. So when i first saw Tom years ago he looked nothing like my son. But now, they are 100% the spitting image of each other.

[@janettosan3739]

Love Tom…..❤️❤️🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@cate4338]

omg - Tom is one of the sharpest and funniest people I have heard and seen in action - makes me sad that he may have felt sad - he wasn't on his own - even those who are popular with everyone, feel the pain and confusion of being young... and I'd love to hear the sarcastic comment regarding my 'blurb'.

[@a3s1r1986]

I always liked Tom's delivery. Proper but different and he manages to subvert your expectations so sometimes the joke goes in a completely different direction. And he really hams up the camp when he gets going. Now I learnt he and Rob Beckett were at the same school (different years I believe) so there must be something in the water there because their both funny.

[@ashleydavies3079]

Tom Allen's life sounds so tragic. But I've never loved him more.

[@LeeAnneGuerin]

Oh no 🤦🏼‍♀️ I used to clear up at parties too! Especially when I felt like I couldn’t talk or connect to anyone 🥳

[@peterclarke7240]

Me too! I'd always start doing the washing up just to avoid trying to make conversation. I really should have just said "I'm not coming to the party, but if you pay me 20 quid I'll clear up for you."

[@cloudchamois7004]

this Romesh talks series to is so good!

[@AdamDylanFoley]

Gotta love Tom Allen..

[@emmacassidy8482]

His mum sounds exactly like Rob Beckett!

[@LUFC123]

In a different class............ socially

[@OfficiallySanctionedKATG]

Not in a different class socially at all as tom and rob literally went to the same sxhool.

[@saintz2k7]

@@OfficiallySanctionedKATG Chill that was a joke from Mock the week he used

[@OfficiallySanctionedKATG]

@@saintz2k7 i know, but i wasnt being pissy about anything, just pointing out the fact they both attended the same school.

[@violetskies14]

I'm from Nottingham and compared to the people around me I speak quite "posh" just because my grandma who helped raise me insisted I use "proper English" and on top of that I'm physically disabled and I now know autistic but at the time I just thought I was awkward but luckily I was born in 2000 and by the time I was in senior school it felt like people were beginning to realise oh no we shouldn't bully the girl in the wheelchair. So a few older boys did but the people in my year were always pretty nice to me even when I came out no one really said much other than to ask me if it was true I was a lesbian. But I was still an outsider. I never felt like I fit in and I didn't so I get what he's saying here. It's tough when others look at you and know you're different and kinda exclude you for it even when it's not from cruelty.

[@theodoretekkers]

Sorry to hear that. I am also disabled. I totally understand what you said about excluding. Kids did that to me in 0rimary school.

[@Aanapoda]

Love him love him love him

[@iwong3357]

I love Tom Allen. Even imagining him angry is somehow charming and, I dare say as a hetero man, adorable.

[@sharonhill2602]

Love him so much

[@aloofmusician856]

This is the special pie and mash shop that does jellied eels!

[@emmanuel-in-greece6954]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/pZjJqn1_eLlsl6s

[@glendahicks6843]

Aloof Musician Surely all pie and mash shops do jellied eels ???

[@patrickmuhwheeney6518]

Two of my favorites...

[@taniasmakeup4853]

love this video

[@ObsoleteOddity]

I loved this sketch.

[@ObsoleteOddity]

@Namename nam Lastlarast umm...yes, why would you state the obvious?

[@matthewmcmahon684]

I love Tom Allen lmao

[@louisealjaradat5063]

Two of my favs..Rom and tom

[@kays2720]

Loved him in Home Improvement

[@leemartin2978]

A ridiculously infectious laugh and really funny man , Mr R R 👍

[@lu8201]

More chats please x

[@itsacarolbthing5221]

I adore Tom Allen

[@jeanniehelliwell1599]

You can always find him in the kitchen at parties” remember that 70s song 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@anndonnelly6920]

Saw him for first time on Have I Got News For You last night brilliant

[@trockodile]

Got to love Tom! 💜

[@EmmaAppleBerry]

Omg i was always the one in the kitchen cleaning up keeping their pets company if their parents were home id go join them and have a lovely time a cuppa and antiques roadshow or something anti teenager 😂😂😂 even as an introvert when i forced myself to go out with friends i was introverting so hard i was basically doing what i would have done at home anyway. Oh and of course id usually be the bag minder the drinks watcher the one making sure my friends were all safe and not getting into trouble confiscating phones and giving parents check ins 😂😂😂 all the parents loved me and their kid which was almost always only an aquantince or friend of a friend often would end up inviting me over or to other smaller gatherings because their parents approved or theyd heard about me from their parents or grandparents or siblings whod id become basically instant friends with and theyd suddenly be friends with me too often better friends with me than the mutual friend of ours who id come as more of a plus one with or wed go from friendly classmates to solid friends instantaneously. Cant say it was the usual highschool experience but im glad i made the most of the so called expected normal teen things by still being me and finding a way to have a less horrific time than i would pretending to or forcing myself to stand around drink 'dance' etc.

[@estebancomulet]

I knew one guy at school just like him, w the suit and briefcase and manufactured posh accent (his parents were common as muck). He was witty and very bright. Reminds me so much of tom allen. Must be a trope...

[@Mirandorl]

1:54 we have found a new Hide the Pain Harold

[@yneshAshanti]

Awkward people, like this if you can relate!

[@sheikhando4815]

Yuvanesh Silvanathan Sri Lankan bruddah colombo or Jaffna gang

[@nick260682]

Yuvanesh Silvanathan Shut up you beg

[@pegsbarton6353]

Tom Allen has really grown on me. At first I didn't get him but I am getting tuned in to his style now and I like him a lot. Like Romesh too but he scares me! He's really fierce sometimes...but his sourness is endearing. Is it true he's moving to America?

[@DowzerWTP72]

0:53 ooooo I recognise that guy. This must be the same shop that Munchies filmed in a while ago. They serve like an eel dish or something, and he's got the technique down to a fine art. Definitely recommend the watch if you're into that kind of thing :) :)

[@kjellvanbaaren752]

Still no idea how sofly hes holding those pies

[@elzumbido4742]

YES! I would do this. I would party all night and be the latest up then when everyone was asleep I would recycle and crack out the bin liner. Big UP 🙌

[@peterclarke7240]

Me too- I'd be the first up, and I'd sneak downstairs to do the washing up and put the bins out. Ridiculous... 🤣

[@FishBoneD14]

I’m the same way at house parties

[@tobiassl8011]

WHY ARENT THESE LONGER

[@nellekeglansdorp1595]

Did you know that in Germany everyone has plates that show what city or county you live in? The first 1 to 3 letters tell people where you live, eg. Hamburg (HH) so they expect you to be shit at driving mountain roads.

[@Knappa22]

That’s the most sensible and German thing I have ever heard!

[@LUFC123]

He was in a different class ..... Socially

[@samjudge9178]

The guy making meals is the one from the video about jellied eels and pies idk forgotten name

[@professorbaxtercarelessdre1075]

this is such a great show, it reminds me of comedians in cars getting coffee, but without the cars or Jerry Seinfeld, instead its Ramesh, and therefore is much more enjoyable :D

[@jonduffin7560]

My parents sent me to classes on diction and elecution, because my father was raised that way. My sisters and brothers didn't pick it up, whereas it had a big impact on me. We weren't rich, I'm not now but I still sound like a 30 year old Reese-Mogg. Also clean up at parties, it's someone's home and I'm a guest lol

[@nobodyimportantt341]

1:45 me. this is me at every party

[@westsideisdabest7825]

I had a similar experience. Went to a posh school, but my family was pretty bog standard Barratts estate middle class. Was called the school chav because I spoke and dressed a certain way (Dropping the odd t mid sentence, clothes from JD sport - minor stuff really). However all my friends from outside of school would refer to me as the posh boy because of the school I went to. Can relate to being that kid who just never really fits in no matter how hard you tried lol.

[@jackrobinson9403]

Oh look who it is, the Chav. Chavva laad

[@matthaywood6155]

make these at least 10 minutes

[@lilme7052]

I knew a few lads like that.

[@black76561]

funny

[@Ludifant]

I am wondering about the size of the telelens that shot those cutaways. And did you get permission from these people?

[@pete687713]

I feel for Tom Allen, it’s hard to be a gay man in a straight man’s world

[@JordiVanderwaal]

Isn't he just lovely.

[@janettosan3739]

My perfect dinner party…. My friend Gill and Kevin and Scotty, , obviously me, Tom A, Alan C, , Rob B, Romesh R Elton J. Chris Pratt, Ryan R, Ellen D, Daisey M C, Cathy Burk, actually the list goes on….⭐️ I can dream.

[@Jmc54xl]

I want to marry Tom Allen

[@faithelson]

Bin liners are always under the sink tho

[@PatrickRyan147]

There's definitely one thing I'll take from these sketches. I will never eat in a Cockney pie and mash shop.

[@LeslieDugger]

Don’t laugh! I clear up at parties still. Who wants to hang out in filth? Then again, the parties I go to nowadays are with close friends.

[@HairyWeevil]

At 2:29, is the guy in the background, on the right, tasting the wipe of his forehead?

[@Rafiawinters]

YES 😂😂😂

[@hopebgood]

Mmm....salty

[@w7n424]

I thought he was gonna be really manly 😂

[@wanidaanderton4941]

Romnesh ,I've got a theory, you can only be vegan if you've never been hungry,

[@ich9703]

Number plates that say we are Not from around here. You mean like license plates which say which City you are from? Oh i wisshhh we had that

[@recipesandsongs8050]

what is that music?

[@smlfan2087]

Is this a real shop and what is it they keep pouring over the pies?

[@UltraClassFamily]

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[@HulaBeulah]

my two neices speak nicely, the rest of us, that includes both sides of their family don't. We are all from Dagenham. Do not have a clue where it comes from. On top of that, mine, my sister and my brother in law's grandparents are irish, so it definitely doesn't come from them.

[@Ludifant]

Wait, British people don´t notice our steering wheels are on the other side? So they need a sign on the actual car? I am starting to thing maybe foreign drivers aren´t really the problem? See an optometrician, please. Or maybe even that is hard. Walk in to the baker and demand to be measured for contact lenses.

[@hopebgood]

:)

[@LizTiddington]

I usually really dislike Tom Allen, to me, he generally comes across as bitchy and not funny, but this interview made me like him so much more, I SO empathise with being the awkward 'posh' one who isn't actually posh and I've so been there cleaning up at a house party...

[@bobstar6837]

Romesh's eye is so lazy it's on the dole

[@hohaia01]

posh limbo

[@oldmanjenkins38]

I would smash all that food. Is that wrong? Man I have a simple pallet.

[@xxsimplyelliexx1541]

Sooo is tom gay because he is very attractive

[@mmmmmmichael]

God is fake Karma is real That last bit was a lie Lol

[@sherryromero3415]

The jazzy area clearly communicate because dictionary visually attack circa a aromatic freckle. quaint, striped crack

[@rhodriilewiss]

Amazing how you can be a comedian without being funny

[@sarahl3721]

Amazing how comedians can't make you laugh but manage to mortgage a house in London off the back of it!

[@rhodriilewiss]

Sarah L just like magic

[@basketweaver1144]

Jesus who invented that guy to houseparties

[@samshorto5433]

Callum Goodall Way more people than would invite you. Also, it's 'invited', moron.

[@basketweaver1144]

Sam Shorto AYOOOO GOTEEEM!!! Also, it's 'way more people that would invite you', moron.

[@samshorto5433]

Callum Goodall No, it's really not. Nice try but maybe have another go at learning to write.

[@basketweaver1144]

Sam Shorto nah you are wrong my illiterate friend, learn grammar

[@basketweaver1144]

Sam Shorto "people than would invite you" does not make sense "people that would invite you" makes sense Also "more people than those who would invite you" makes sense

[@janicebroom1612]

I love Tom Allen