Exploring grief and shame with children born from rape - BBC World Service Documentaries | 100 Women

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[@lynnredwig2914]

Thanks BBC for making this documentary-it’s very heavy and my heart goes out to all the victims ❤Unfortunately I’m a victim myself and found out that my mum got rapped by 3 men in a park while walking home (she was only 14y old and never told a soul).My world has been shattered since finding out and I would love to talk to someone who is in a similar situation- there aren’t any support services in Australia and I feel extremely isolated… please feel free to contact me and I’m happy to share my story

[@tonismith5802]

Thank you all so much for sharing your honesty with us and to the brave lady who presented this documentary wrll done you are a hero in my eyes x

[@user-zr5qv8yc3c]

I wouldn’t use the word “enjoyed”

[@lilyof-the-valley7324]

Thank you for covering such a difficult and taboo subject, however, I find the word 'enjoyed' in your description a little unsettling given the context. Perhaps 'informative' or 'thought provoking' would have suited better? The documentary is very heartfelt and moving. My heart goes out to all the brave participants who were able to share their experiences and thoughts and really hope they have found a support network through this. I was literally moved to tears.

[@slantos2668]

"It's not your fault"

[@lyndacarter4586]

My daughter was conceived when my husband raped me, while our roommate watched. I’ve never told her, and never plan to. She’s had enough heartache already in her life. It is my burden to bear. It was hard raising her - she has her father’s eyes. To look in them would make my blood run cold and my stomach turn. I’ve learned to love her so deeply. She may have his DNA, but she is MY daughter. My heart goes out to every woman that’s had to experience this.

[@namibian.narrative]

Oh my goodness. I'm truly sorry no words can change the past but truly from the bottom of my heart, I am truly sorry. But just know that, I see you as a courageous and strong mother❤💞 I'm truly sorry love

[@ahill4642]

I admire that you are not telling your daughter. It serves no purpose imho.

[@lyndacarter4586]

@@namibian.narrative thank you.

[@lyndacarter4586]

@@ahill4642 thank you.

[@eddieblair9751]

@@ahill4642I was thinking the same.

[@SuperSpinWheel]

Someone once said “you were conceived out of anger and pain but you were born out of love”. As you grow together, you heal together

[@Bebedollie]

Amen 🙏 ❤

[@EyeoIsis]

❤❤

[@Anna-tj7mp]

How very beautiful.

[@1milvies]

Only if it is the woman's choice. There is no healing in forced pregnancies.

[@1milvies]

Only if it is the woman's choice. There is no healing in forced pregnancies.

[@user-tg5vs1xz5x]

My birth mother was groomed and then raped. I was the result,this happened in 1961 , she was 13 and I came 9 months later. What made it worse was in those days it was taboo for a white girl to be with a black boy/ man . She gave me up for adoption I spent many years in a Barnardo's home for unwanted or orphaned boys. I have spoken with my birth mum but never met her . Tbh I had no connection when we spoke on the phone, didn't feel any emotions, maybe because we never bonded at birth I was taken away immediately. Her parents had no idea that the baby would be of mixed heritage and were shocked and deeply disturbed and disappointed in their daughter. Born a child of rape should not define who we are today

[@gracevalentine1666]

Thank you, you are very❤ strong

[@Bebedollie]

Godbless u ❤

[@dandan4185]

This has to be a lie am I actually speaking to an incested child

[@haruno21]

yep, sadly many women cant DECIDE what to do with the pregnancy

[@-David.-]

@@haruno21 What on earth are you saying? It sounds to me like you are suggesting that this person is not deserving of life. I hope I have misunderstood and that you are not a vile and despicable person. This person’s life is obviously precious and valuable, regardless of their parents' actions. and to even suggest otherwise is atrocious.

[@rebaseymour1810]

Rape is worse than murder in my eyes, just not the laws. The rapist is to blame. Not the victim, not the child. You may look like them, but you don’t have to act like them. Each human is made with free will. She chose life. He chose life. The rapist chose to abuse and exploit an another person. They don’t deserve life.

[@christianandjesse7370]

Almost no victims or products of SA ever commit SA themselves

[@somehorse]

There’s zero justification for sexual assault. There can be grey areas for murder, but absolutely none for SA.

[@tabthecabbit3354]

Well said.

[@user-nc1rf5if1u]

how the hell can anyone judge a girl of 11 for being raped by her father, I am one of the lucky ones who had a caring wonderful father, who would never ever dream of hurting any of his children, my heart bleeds for Mandy, that people blame her, she is a victim and a wounderful mother doing her best for her child. I wish lovely things for her and her son, and hope she stays strong. how many of us could have coped with what she has been through, not many of us

[@NakedMartinMartin]

Maybe she enticed him?

[@mandy7131]

Right So many sick sobs out there

[@tori2380-g2g]

Crazy how a father that doesn’t hurt us means we are “lucky”. Men need therapy.

[@ilanarhian]

I know, I was really shocked that anyone would say she “had an affair “ with her Dad! What’s wrong with those people?!

[@DieAlteistwiederda]

The only one I would ever judge in a situation like this is the monster who did it never the victim/survivor of it. I know people who've been through things like this and I've never thought of them as bad in any way. They are just people who had horrible things done to them and they had to live and survive through this all.

[@amberdinsdale9578]

The only ones who should be carrying shame and guilt r the rapists, not the rape victims not and these innocent people that were conceived through rape.

[@hayleyfay4779]

nice dream..... but unfortunately its not reality

[@warpedweft9004]

When you grow up being told that every bad thing that happened or choice a parent made over which you had no control was due to your existence, it does terrible things to your mind. It's a life sentence. You can learn to live with it and not let it control your life outwardly, but inside, the emotional scars never heal.

[@TH-eb5ro]

Well yes, in an ideal world but there is also science to support that trauma is passed from mother to children so it needs to be dealt with.

[@MarioGreco]

@amberdinsdale9578 I completely agree with you.

[@pooppoop-hw9ue]

​@@hayleyfay4779your children are not an EXTENSION of YOU!

[@juliettevharris]

My ex was conceived by rape, except his mother kept it from him. He was raised by his mother and his stepfather. His stepfather had children from a previous relationship. He was raised to believe his stepfather was his father until one day his older "sister" got mad at him and told him his dad wasn't his real dad. He was a teen, so he confronted his mom about it. She locked herself in her room and cried for 3 days and wouldn't speak to him. He said he never brought it up again because obviously, he didn't want to make his mom so upset. She told me years later that she almost got an abortion. It was pretty obvious why. It affected him deeply. She should have talked to him about it. He has real psychological issues because of it. He won't deal with his isdues either, because his mother taught him never to talk about things like that. I think it did him a huge disservice. He ended up causing real problems in my life because he wouldn't deal with his issues. I refuse to have him in my life because of those problems. He's not a bad man, but he really needs to work on himself and his trauma, but he never will.

[@juliakrol7165]

Heartbreaking.

[@blueStarKitt7924]

Sorry about that!! But did the stepsister have been shown the damage she caused?

[@Laoriginal718]

That boy should have been told from the very beginning that that man was not his biological father. I don’t understand why people lie to children as if the truth doesn’t always come out.

[@Laoriginal718]

@@blueStarKitt7924the stepsister didn’t cause any damage. The mother and step father caused damage when they decided to lie to that boy instead of telling him the truth from the very beginning.

[@juliettevharris]

@Laoriginal718 I know, right? Children are smart enough to understand. You can tell them in an age appropriate way, and they will understand. You can tell them they are still loved.

[@ScottishAnnie]

Whats crazy is Sammy is having to fight to stop her rapist having access to her grandkids. Her son is an adult so can't be forced to see him but rapists having rights to access to the child is not ok. Check out Sammy Woodhouses story & petition against it.

[@zeerose8205]

Omg this is insane!!!!

[@ScottishAnnie]

@@zeerose8205 should not be allowed at all.

[@marinaSassygUrl88]

Why isn't this monster still in prison wth!!@

[@ScottishAnnie]

@marinaSassygUrl88 he is, crazy huh

[@cryalot378]

What?! are you serious? In what kind of f-up world do we live in? How can this be allowed?!

[@hansendesigns]

Part of the issue is that society isn’t horrified enough by the abuser and doesn’t champion for the mothers. They should be able to say what happened and have no shame and no stigma. They did nothing wrong. It’s a brave thing to have the child and a huge heart that they love these children.

[@XZY382]

FACTS !!

[@BlueskyDenver]

I was 18 years old when I reunited with my mother after growing up without her. Within the first two weeks of our reunion my mother told me she never loved my father and that she was a naive teenager who was abused, exploited and taken advantage of by my father and that’s how me and my siblings came to be. My mother and I couldn’t even have a relationship because she saw her abuser in me and in my siblings. To this day she doesn’t have any relationship with any of us. As a 40 years old woman I understand how hurt people hurt other people.! Ultimately, I owe it to myself to live the best life I can regardless which way I arrived in this world.

[@archerandthemouse]

I think your mom has created a wall to protect herself from shame and guilt and a whole lot of pain. I know it is hard not to take it personally. It must have been very traumatic. Not every woman would walk away from her children but I am guessing something broke inside of her. I hope you have found family, joy, and love. Who she is, who he was, is not who you are in this moment, you are your own person and you get to break some family pain by living the best life you can, I am glad you know that, wishing you healing and a great life.

[@Littlevampiregirl100]

@@archerandthemouse come on, she was a teenager... that has not given her a whole lot of foresight on how to deal with such trauma and care for children in such a wildly unstable circumstance. it would break anyone. judge the father instead for bringing such a horrible situation to life

[@XZY382]

​@@Littlevampiregirl100The problem is that she's had others, and today she's not a teenager - you can't whitewash her indefatigably - she's still an accomplice, despite everything, and this child has suffered a double penalty: that of her abuser father and that of her mother, not to mention that of society, so in reality it's a triple penalty. No, no, no, my boy! I could have said what you said there if she hadn't done anything but try to raise her children - many are raped and choose to fight for their child.

[@RealUlrichLeland]

The fact that the police weren't interested in Eva's story is terrible because that would be the easiest crime in the world to prove. All they'd have to do is use her DNA to prove that she was the result of parent-child incest, which would be extremely obvious to a geneticist.

[@Samantha-vlly]

This should be taught tbh.

[@ameyburden8961]

I was raped when I was 19 I got pregnant I kept it to myself for years telling inly my youngest sister. I had MY son who I love with all my heart I Thank God for him then one day he asked me if his father was his real dad my heart sunk because the hardest thing for me was to tell my child that I was rapes when I got pregnant with him I told him he was upset but now we are so much closer I would go thro it all over again for my son I could not imagine life without him.God gave me this Amazing son.

[@amazingjane2703]

That is just wonderful and a testament to the power of divine Love. What a shining example of the power of good. You are both blessed because you overcame hatred with love.

[@colettegibson6516]

Why did he query it in the first place?

[@YvonneBlake-d5j]

Why did you feel the need to tell him he was conceived by your being raped?

[@___erika]

❤

[@hippiechick2112]

I had to pause at 15:38, when they asked Mandy if anybody apologized to her, and she said no. Broke my heart.

[@lindadspeed3999]

The shame is on the abuser and none of these women and their children.

[@vs1399]

I am a product of the title. I was told this information during an awful argument. It was meant to hurt me. My last child is also a product of the above. I have not told her nor will I ever. She is my brilliant beautiful baby well teenager now. Our origin is not who we are. I love me. I wouldn't change me for the world. Same goes for my baby. Love yourselves. Sending love to anyone like me ❤❤❤❤

[@annasheikina1423]

I can't even imagine those level of hatred, despair, anxiety and terror when woman realizes that she is pregnant from rapist.

[@jasminelee1234]

I cannot believe the things so called ‘human beings’ are capable of doing to others. Each of these people featured are so brave and dignified in spite of what was inflicted upon them. ❤

[@thrashhippie]

I feel for you all. You are all so brave. None of you should feel shame. You are not the abusers. I wish you all well. Take care.

[@XZY382]

Not all human beings are human beings, and this video demonstrates this perfectly.

[@rolandscales9380]

It disturbs me that there are respectable, high-minded people around who would have us believe that conception through rape is impossible.

[@BrizzB]

As long as men can pretend it doesn't happen, they can continue to control women's reproductive rights. It's alarming how ignorant most of them are about female anatomy. Like....mind blowingly ignorant.

[@malwads1836]

As disturbing as it is.... It's actually a valid mating strategy🤢.It's horribly UNETHICAL obviously but it still apparently has similar success rates to consensual intimacy.This horrible 💩 happened all the time during wars & whatnot & sadly in some cases it was even used as a form of genocide to wipe out a entire people's ancestry.

[@jojobizarrelivingstone594]

Thats a thing? (Im not asking if its real)

[@sheilaboston7051]

@@jojobizarrelivingstone594 That same statement was made by a US Republican (religious nut-job) politician in regard to the 'right to choose' argument. He said that the exception for rape and incest wasn't needed because a woman can't get pregnant from rape ...

[@yesibot.2051]

My grandma was a child born from rape. My great grandma was probably 14, when a soldier busted into their home and took advantage of her. When my grandma was born, the soldier came back looking for her …so my Great grandma hid her in a shoebox under the bed. She was mostly raised by her own grandma, and grew up too quick. Her mom married in her 20s and had more babies. She would say her half siblings didn’t love her ,but they adored her …to this day the last living sister has great memories of her. She raised them little ones since her mom died of cervical cancer 😔 . She was always cold and rigid. I understand her more now although she passed years ago(2008). Rest well grandma ❤️

[@777ALCHEMY]

I have a daughter conceived by unconsented exchange. I will never tell her, she will never know. She is my world and the smartest, most precious little spirit.

[@YvonneBlake-d5j]

But here you’re on the internet!

[@777ALCHEMY]

@@YvonneBlake-d5j lol you gonna hunt my toddler down in a few years? Karen

[@777ALCHEMY]

@@YvonneBlake-d5j did that help you release some emotions, Yvonne? Good. 🤍

[@LGrian]

Please reconsider. Children sense and know so much more than you think. She will eventually know you haven’t told her the whole truth and it will hurt her far more than the reality.

[@777ALCHEMY]

@@LGrian KZbin comments always want to turn a simple sentence into a life lesson or lecture lol

[@lizbrooks1953]

What an exceptional presentation. Each Lady & child were treated with such dignity, respect & kindness. Please do more along these lines.

[@ccutehoney]

This is why the ability to have a choice to not continue a pregnancy is so important for women!! This is horrible for everyone in this situation except the perpetrators

[@Bebedollie]

Abortion is murder tho It's not the babies fault or the one who got raped But u can't just say Abortion is the answer because that's wrong too

[@YvonneBlake-d5j]

@@BebedollieHave you ever been raped? Are you capable of carrying a child in your uterus by someone who violated you? Walk in their shoes and see if you can make that decision!

[@kameralkutie5594]

@@Bebedollie Your opinion isn't everyone's opinion. Everyone thinks differently, have different situations, and handles things differently, so that's why having a choice matters. Your opinion should not apply to someone else's life that has absolutely nothing to do with your life. Get over yourself.

[@lorimav]

Murder is a worse crime than rape. Rape damaged a person often for the rest of their lives. Abortion annihilates an innocent victim. You can't commit a much worse act than that.

[@kameralkutie5594]

@@lorimav I said what I said and I stand on what I said.😏 YOU don’t have the right to tell anyone what do with their body. You pro life people are just talk. There are over 600,000 children in three states alone that need families. So clearly it’s not about the so called “children” it’s truly about pushing your own narratives on other people. And most of people wouldn’t be saying this if you were raped or a close relative like your DAUGHTER was raped with an unwanted pregnancy. So dismiss me with that rape is worse than murder nonsense when it’s a clump of cells. You aren’t providing any financial support for the children in foster care, you aren’t adopting these children, you aren’t financially responsible for the women and girls who are raped and their medical bills, you aren’t financial supporting their lifetime of mental and physical health. And since you are so holy you would know that no sin is greater than another sin, so go check that you ignorant Bible Thumpers.♟️

[@ELine39]

This woman Sammy is incredible at narrating and connecting with/interviewing others - I completely thought she was a BBC correspondent the whole way through until reading the blurb at the end of the video! Wow

[@tribyte4813]

I want all these people find peace, healing and community. None of them deserved what they've been through.

[@LucyBee11235]

It was so moving to see the empathy between women who have been through the same horrible situation. They had the power of knowing exactly how awful the other’s experience was and exactly how to help her to heal and overcome.

[@person35790]

I wouldn’t tell a 12 yr old, honestly, if I could avoid it. 12 is such a difficult time, moving into puberty and not quite knowing themselves yet. I would wait until they are out of high school where they are at least somewhat better equipped to emotionally and rationally handle it.

[@LGrian]

Possibly but many people are hurt more by the secrets kept than by the difficult truth

[@lunalove9395]

I guess if they outright ask though then you can't exactly lie or dance around it - otherwise they might resent you for keeping it from them when they find out later.

[@Ann-qe6py]

I agree that 12 is too young. Seems that it would be better to wait until she is an adult.

[@ivy456]

It's young but at the same time you don't want that 12 year old looking for their father. Sometimes it's best to be honest even when it's hard.

[@ilovecatsnteanbooks3971]

I am a product of rape, my mother was only 16. I have had a terrible life and have absolutely no luck. I feel like I am paying for the sin of my father. I’ve never felt like I belong anywhere. I feel like I’m walking under a cloud that follows me around constantly 😞

[@Samantha-vlly]

🫂

[@NicoleGibson-87]

❤ god loves you

[@Kettyperry11]

I m in same 😢😢

[@tactician6129]

God holds no value here.​@@NicoleGibson-87

[@AnjaLSL]

To all the sons and daughters: You were born fresh and pure. ❤ You are all precious. You are only responsible for your own actions. You have done nothing wrong. You have the power to be who you want to be. ❤

[@Samantha-vlly]

To all people that watched this, please spread the link. People should know the after effect of the survivors who had children. This deserved to be heard as well.

[@akosuakoranteng3327]

Thank you for being brave enough to tell this story. Sending lots of love to all those in the documentary ❤

[@carolinapuebla6872]

I want to hug you all, it breaks my heart 🫂🫂🫂

[@lisasteen66]

I just strumbled acrossed this video on KZbin. In 2004, my kids were taken from me by the authorities. I was devastated. I never watch TV, but in 2004, I just happened to turn the television on, and there was this documentary on rape victims from Rawanda. Most of victims experienced things I could not imagined, but they were just so resilient. I couldn't believe it! They gave me a lot of hope. Your program reminded me of that.❤

[@JustAnotherAbdi]

I hope you got your diamonds back 🫶🏿❤️ I can’t imagine what it must’ve been like 😢❤️

[@normabrien8331]

It’s so revealing to hear the emotional damage done to these women. And now here in the United States republicans are so bent about abortion rights saying that women who have been raped have to give birth and at the same time they are against feeding children in schools and they are against healthcare, how twisted these people are it is beyond comprehension.

[@picardy7488]

Yes, it's cruel. Young girls impregnated by their fathers will have to endure that - and can't escape. And giving up a child comes with trauma too.

[@ma.amiradoranteskadoche4374]

Have you ever heard about quiverfull families? "We will have as many children as the lord may give, since they are his blessings", a cute thesis to found a movement on, right? In reality a church's assets are tied to the amount of believers giving their due tithe. So they push this narrative to get more and more devotees, while restraining family planning, forbidding any form of birth control and keeping their communities air tight, as to not have their beliefs questioned. It's quite the efficient system, since people are a renewable resource. Now apply that to a whole country and you got your answer.

[@beautifulautumn1]

So in your opinion, an innocent child should be murdered because of who his birth father is? At the same time, your beloved Democrats let innocent children get traffic (and routinely sexually assaulted across your Southern Border) your abortion mills do nothing when rapists bring their vìctims in to get rid of their unwanted evidence (they never call the police). Shame on you for allowing such evil. Your head is not right.

[@malwads1836]

​@@ma.amiradoranteskadoche4374I'm not 💩 on religion in general....But for me personally, 👀 that controlling stuff in certain groups is partially why I'm a lifelong atheist.

[@jaclynzinck4241]

wow. just wow. this is probably one of the most deeply impactful documentaries I've ever seen on here, and I've seen many. these people are all so strong.

[@hassanbarud]

How evil could some fathers be .how can 11 years old being abused said to its your fault.disgusting

[@sarahillingworth9257]

The courage they have to do this momentous. So inspiring

[@THEAnnEla]

It really bothers me no one has ever told her before it was not her fault. She was 11. And it was her father on top of that. Who could blame her?

[@anilu3021]

What a moving documentary. So important to hear these stories. We don’t talk enough about the ugly consequences of crime and abuse. Strength to you all ❤

[@MAROBI333]

We go through hayell. Everybody wants to glorify it. My mother spent a lifetime trying to punsin me for what my father did. She hated me until the day she died. I have never even cried over her. I know she didn't deserve to go through raising me. I took it on the chin and just loved on myself more.

[@lorimav]

@@MAROBI333 Your mother had deep psychological problems before your conception. A normal well adjusted human being can distinguish between the abuser and an innocent child. I'm sorry you had to go through all of that. I raised 5 children. 3 of them were not biological and their biological mothers loved substances more than them. The state took them away from them because of severe neglect and abuse also.

[@virginiaarthur5]

It’s not all of us though I was born of rape to and my mom loved me and she’s my best friend

[@MAROBI333]

@@virginiaarthur5 beautiful

[@goldendiamon]

It's not your fault that people inflict their unhappiness upon you.Plss know that it ain't your fault

[@shams61022]

These humanbeings are just amazing. Thumbs up to all that went thru the challenges in life. Stay Strong.

[@AngelaWildman-ep6qu]

This is why abortion needs to be legal everywhere. I’m so sorry for all these people with monsters for Dads 😭💔

[@Hoopla29856]

So you think that because these innocent people were conceived out of a crime of their biological father, they are not worthy or deserving of life? Punish the victim? Decide that you somehow have authority over the value of their right to their own life? If my dad was a criminal, why should I be imprisoned for my whole life because of his crime? This argument makes no sense.

[@AngelaWildman-ep6qu]

What if their Dad is also their grandfather who raped his own daughter? Why should an 11 old girl have to have her Dad’s baby and lose her own childhood?

[@AngelaWildman-ep6qu]

Why should an 11-year-old girl have to have her Dad’s baby and miss out on her own childhood because her Dad raped her?

[@WasabiKitCat]

​@@Hoopla29856why is it that whenever the discussion of babies born from SA comes up and someone mentions abortion, you anti-choice types always jump to "so you think these people don't deserve to live?" Obviously the children who were already born and are living their lives deserve to live, because they are walking talking human beings with autonomy. When someone says abortion needs to be accessible because of scenarios like this, they are referring to future instances of fetuses who haven't yet been born. Saying abortion should be an option is not saying that these people never should have been born; what's done is done and they are able to heal and grow. It's saying that if someone gets pregnant from SA, they should have the choice to either continue with the pregnancy or not, and they can pick whichever would be best for them to heal. I'm sure if given the option, many women would keep the baby anyways because that's what they believe would be best for them, even if many others would not keep the baby. The point isn't that the mothers in the video should have aborted their children, it's that others in the future should have the option, whether they take it or not.

[@XZY382]

​@@WasabiKitCat FACTS ! Especially as I've noticed that many people take the liberty of downplaying DNA and what's known as epigenetic inheritance, which is no mean feat.

[@ktjamlex]

Don't be ashamed - you should be proud of the strength shown by your mother and you. You are on a pedestal.

[@Chatterbox-94]

As a person who has friends who have been raped I feel great pain for these innocent people. I can’t even fathom the psychological pain and torment they and their mothers have endured.

[@Boo-pv4hn]

I’m so glad stories are being done on this! People do stories on the victims of rape but not those born of rape, just left behind as something that people pretend doesn’t exist People ignore that these stories coming out on the paper often means that we see a lot of details we never knew often very young. This is really horrible and doesn’t protect the children at all, the shame and bullying of being born from a rapist. There’s so much cruelty

[@Samantha-vlly]

!!

[@Samantha-vlly]

Yes Whoever watch this, please spread the link.

[@nervo]

Wow, this is truly one of the most moving documentaries I've seen. I cried from the start to the end. Thank you so much for shining the light here and not making others feel as alone. "I had to survive to survive" really spoke to me. I think there are more women than we would like to realise who understand this sentence. Thank you again.

[@CTN404]

My mother was abused by my father… and when people say your daughter looks like you. She says flatly no. She looks like her father. She was dismissive of me. Ignored me whenever i talked to her. Gossiped about me, laughs at me… Belittling every accomplishment I have done. I once told her, there are women who aren’t treated well by their partners and take it out on the child as revenge. Oh boy did she scream defensively at me.

[@oceanheartz717]

😢😢

[@jilldowding-walker8066]

I'm sorry she treated you this way. But you have intrinsic worth. It is notbyour fault. I hope this doesn't stop you from being a successful, happy, fulfilled person. ❤

[@Bluebubblesxx]

Clearly she’s still hurt and u can’t blame her

[@rajimac]

Such a beautiful documentary about a difficult subject. None of the mothers or children should feel ashamed . They did nothing wrong. I hope the support group can help . It’s amazing what the did in Rowanda . Strength sones in numbers and talking .

[@elouisefaulkner-brown4626]

This is such a very brave documentary and one to be revered. ⭐️ ❤️The huge amounts of courage it must have taken for all of those affected to speak out about the horrific events they have suffered and how they have turned those events into pure love for their children is nothing less than outstanding. An inspiration to all. Thank you for sharing your stories with everyone and inspiring others to come forward too. From pain can come 🥰

[@paulanicole4786]

this is the most unique piece of media I have seen in a long time.

[@Samantha-vlly]

Honestly, this feels heavy to watch. Every single moment they paused, speaks out the most to me. A reminder for me that understanding through compassion and empathy is what matters the most with every single person I’ll meet.

[@isabelleboulay2651]

I was told when I was 9, awakened in the middle of the night. I woke up the next day feeling like I'd had a bad nightmare while at the same time that it had really happened. I never knew him. People in my family know who he is but tell me they don't know. It's shameful, it's taboo and I'm a constant reminder of this to the entire family, on my mother's side and rejected by my adoptive father's side. I don't belong anywhere. I've moved around looking for a place that would feel like home. I'm indifferent to any particular place. They're all the same to me... I still don't know how to feel at home. The closest I've been to feeling at home is staying in my bed. It's hard to know where to go when you don't know where you're from. There's an emptiness, a feeling of loneliness that can never be changed. I'm not completely unhappy, I understand my mother and her issues. I haven't forgiven the invader, the one who deeply hurt my teenage mother and stole her innocence. I wish I could have saved her.... and me in the long term. it's difficult to describe... if I ever feel the courage or need to do so...like it's going to change anything.

[@theeffect3927]

i hear you.

[@myjourneytojesus7437]

Jesus can heal your wounds ❤

[@adem6371]

The shame is for the predators. You’re all amazing

[@arrowarrow17]

I want to be a friend for all these people. I am happy to see their smile.

[@BettyofOOO]

We feel shame for these things we had no control over. That it’s perpetuated by family and society just wears you down like a rough grade of sand paper. I love that we’re talking about a real issue that has silently tormented us for so long. More of this, please. Great program, this will go a long way to make a big difference in so many people’s lives. Not being alone is so important.

[@ebonydarkness]

My mother, who I believe has undiagnosed psychosis, was taken advantage of by an older man. I wasn't wanted and my existence tied them together for years. She stayed with him even after he tried to kill her. My sperm donor sexually abused me when I was 9, used Craigslist Personals to find 18yo sex workers when I was not much younger, and married a woman barely older than me. So much predatory behaviour was normalized to me and I have survived abuse by other men thinking it was normal or my own fault.

[@ElizabeteDe]

I was in tears.. so much love and respect in this film, may god bless you all and keep safe ✝️

[@viarnay]

they all were pretty lucky to have mums wit guts

[@lindawentink2725]

This was so sad but at the same time so beautiful to see these women sharing this pain and being supported.Thank you for this🤗🙏

[@kgminnie]

Brave documentary....thank you. So sorry for all you've all been forced to carry and endure...loving and healing blessings. No blame, no shame, absolutely none is yours to carry.

[@leideningrid]

This was a great documentary. I think I can speak for everyone that it’s great that you’ve found one another and together be able to help each other. My heart goes out to you all x

[@A6ugslife]

You should never be ashamed of how you were born. You are a blessing from God.

[@ahill4642]

Amen to that. Zero shame.

[@julesoxana]

Amen, its never their fault and every life is a blessing✝️🙏❤️

[@carolinpurayidom4570]

To anyone concieved in rape you are loved and good and made in the image and likeness of God just like anybody else your past and how you were concieved doesn't define you but who you choose to be does and you have that power may God give all victims of rape including those concieved healing, justice and answers.

[@coffeebean2370]

Lies

[@Tumbledweeb]

@carolinpurayidom4570 Could you kindly leave the religious preaching off the table when engaging with matters like this one, please? It would be appreciated a lot if you would.

[@nna1800]

​@@Tumbledweebno, she doesn't have to do that at all, why does God offend you? If anything your comment is offensive

[@Tumbledweeb]

@@nna1800 Lies offend me.

[@txbre8758]

I’m sorry but they were conceived out of sin and pure evil, this will only bring the antichrist further. No one is innocent.

[@TechnicalRain007]

JFC. The whole world needs less corrupt leaders. These brave, strong and amazing souls. Thank you for telling your stories. May your truth set you free.

[@margueritesheriff8935]

Amazing, brave, strong women. Good documentary - well done

[@KJ-wh8fu]

Thank you all for sharing your stories, heartbreaking as they are. All those who want to take away women's autonomy should watch this.

[@karatekai6384]

I don’t think if it was me I would have told them how they were conceived , But then I’m not in that position . 🙏❤️🙏 I think the girls young ladies, they are incredible strong woman , they carried shame and guilt for another persons actions and crime against them , I’m sure this documentary was very empowering and enlightening for them , especially to know that they are not alone. 🌹

[@hldo00]

What an impactful documentary. This should get a lot more views! It’s such an important topic to have.

[@leeangel8749]

These people are all so incredibly brave and amazing. I’m so grateful and inspired by their stories of strength and overcoming some of the worse things that people can ever go through. God bless each and every one of them!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@oceanstaiga5928]

A very difficult and heartbreak video but so important to hear these stories. Thank you to everyone involved brave enough to share their story, wishing them all the best in life. The only people that should be ashamed is the perpetrators.

[@jetblackhair92]

Its sad but the psychological impact hurts the most. Especially seeing how the victim of rape is blamed and seen as mental and its their fault it happened.

[@mjay858]

I am so proud of all the people on this documentary you are the cream of the crop. Rising above the ugliness of the world/people that hurt you! You are so strong and brave.

[@user-oc8ko9ve2z]

This is what needs to be discussed when government officials discuss access to abortion. They NEVER discuss what will happen to these babies who are born or who is going to take care of them. And they don’t even mention the rapists. All the blame, shame and responsibility falls on the victim. It’s horrendous.

[@LizzyGiggles]

Thank you to everyone in this for your bravery.

[@AnjaLSL]

All babies are pure. ❤ All babies are a gift. ❤ All babies are precious. ❤

[@ko-dd5cp]

What brave women and children to tell this story. Sending you so much love 💕

[@paulaturpeinen6612]

❤ Thank You all ❤

[@crocrocroatian]

Thank you. All of you alive deserve the world ♥️

[@manueldumont3709]

NEVER-Accept, the(degrading)-Responsibility, of a rapist . U Are-INNOCENT(S) .

[@MelliaBoomBot]

That was the best mini documentary I;ve seen in a long time. It was beautiful, supportive, heart breaking and illuminating. I hope everyone involved is in a better place and also those it might have helped through just watching. Top marks BBC. Well done folks.

[@hebemontealegre8093]

My great great mother was raped and she gave birth to me lovely grandmother. My grandmother gave birth to my mother and my uncle and aunts. My great great mother loved her grandchildren. I am a pediatrician . It s sad to think maybe my adorable grandmother wasnt loved by her mother? At the end, no matter what kind of man was the raper, the best of human being run in our families. What our grand grandmother, how she raised my nanny, was the most important.

[@amarpreetsandhu3633]

I'm really sorry that you went throught this. It breaks my heart. The perpetrators should feel guilty and utterly ashamed of their sins. I wish you all the very best and pray for peace in your lives. 🙏🏼

[@jilldowding-walker8066]

And Eva told the police, who were not interested. Yet the evidence stood before them, being disbelieved! Atrocious!!! 😢

[@juliawasilewski3755]

You are all beautiful humans. Thank you for sharing your stories.

[@zarailly]

Thank you for making this documentary, thank you for all that took part and for sharing your experiences. God bless ❤️

[@viviensmith2764]

Thank you to everyone for sharing their stories. Wishing you healing 🙏🏻💗

[@ilciavargas7318]

Is a crime that should be punish with many years in prison , sex with a child under 18 years old should be severely punish. I feel so much sadnes for the victims of rapes and for the children from those rapes. Children out of a rape should not feel guilty for a crime that the rapists committed . A rape does not prescribed in many countries and victims can still take action to put those rapists in prison no matter how old they are now . In Chile, Mexico etc victims have put there rapists in jail of all ages, some of those rapists are 70 or older that that. Sure U.K have the same laws towards this terrible crime.

[@lilmisskiss692003]

New York has a stature of 7yrs. after that they can't be prosecuted.

[@elvenkind6072]

Thank you for sharing these stories, beautiful people. God bless you a lot and protect you every day. With friendly greetings from Alv and my cat Lucis, here in Norway, and have a great weekend. 🙂

[@vblake530530]

This is really making my eye sweat. I don’t know if I can finish this one. I made it. My God, My God. How is this world NOT Hell? Then again you do see here, Angels are made.

[@michelleqs78]

All these stories break my heart for these innocent people. I wish I could give them a hug and take away their pain. They have tremendous courage to share their experiences. God bless them ❤.

[@brahmabkitty03]

God bless these kids and their parents for keeping them. I pray healing for all

[@skehleben7699]

My heart breaks for all the women and children.💙❤💙💚

[@Bebedollie]

Godbless everyone that has been through this situation and may ur hearts and emotions be healed. And may u prosper in every thing u do ❤

[@AllIsWellaus]

Because of the feelings, emotions and the memories I wanted to acknowledge and touch on here, my dyslexia made putting down my experience coherently a challenge. I did my best to convey my truth and desire to touch on my experience and support for the people affected needed to be provided and respected. This brought up a lot for me. I had a termination due to a sexual assault. I genuinely wished I hadn't as I now know I have that love to someone who also was a victim in this attack. I know that I made the best decision for that very young women I was at the time. From working through this and finding that peace, from my perspective this could be the one defining moment that removes you from this horrific violence. My child would have been 27 and this human being was denied life because of trauma. If I could and if it was welcomed I would to want to give each of the people here a loving hug and say you are the goodness from your Mum that was also passed on. I think that you be that defiance that came to be in spite of this violence. I hope that that people affected fom this find each other to see that the Mum's and the children will survive and those feelings are given a voice and in time they are set free.

[@bottomendbliss]

Sammy Woodhouse you are a legend. Well done and congrats. Your selfless work has changed the lives of many for the better. Including those who watch this doco and are inspired in a positive way.

[@hdzmiriam]

The greatest proof they are different, is they are here, worried about their mothers... in a way the abuser never did. They are already a different person, and a million times better human beings.

[@mandy7131]

I pray for healing for everyone That went through this N that the men that did that evil act Pay the rest of their sad sick lifes

[@VIVABELLAVIVAHERMANO]

These topics are very deep, xan be difficult to come to terms with these realities.

[@haruno21]

I dont think having a child from rape is a good idea. I mean, I TOTALLY understand that many many many girls and women CANT decide to have an abortion. Whether because it's not legal in their countries, or because it is a situation the family is covering or because of certain religions and beliefs. My heart is with all the women who were raped and the children who have been born from it. You're all innocent in this matter and victims. And I hope that tragic happening dont define you. BUT if you have the chance, the possibilities, the privilege to be able *TO CHOOSE* , please.... use your common sense. You can save yourself and a child from an entire life of complex psychological dilemmas.

[@nadjak3410]

Life is full of complex psychological dilemmas. That's the human experience. I just hope that anyone going through this has the opportunity to be cared for by a community and has access to therapy and family therapy.

[@Tadao-Lao-q6t]

@@nadjak3410agreed. It’s seems like the child of that Ugandan women is her person, confidant and someone she loves very much. It’s a women’s right to use her “common sense” to make her own choice to have the baby or not. And for some a baby conserved from horrible situations saved them. I just hope they have the help and tools to navigate these challenges.

[@maggielovegood1667]

you are not only saving the child a dilemma but also an ☆Existence☆ in which they could have done other things for example, changing the world for the better

[@lali_kay]

That was very thought provoking and sensitive, that was a really nice comment to leave ​@@nadjak3410

[@klauds6375]

This turned the works on for me. Its absolutely heartbreaking, especially for the men who clearly live with that very terrifying guilt that they might actually look like the man who did that to their mother.