When you should re-home your aggressive dog.

[@jameslynch4042]

The wife is scared of the dogs. It shouldn't be a question of what to do.

[@amandamilobooks]

So much this. I loved that Joel listened to her concerns and turned to her husband and translated how serious this situation is.

[@amandamilobooks]

​@Gail Everett Very true. That was great to see. 👏♥ I was thinking that she must have told her husband this already, and that was probably largely how they ended up at Joel's, because he heard her. But he probably didn't grasp how the stress affects her and their baby until another man was able to relay that information in a relatable way. Most men learn best by watching and listening to other men. It was neat to see this session.

[@NavvyMom]

Exactly. And she would need to be seen as leader also, by either dog, and since I doubt that will happen, both dogs need to go.

[@stabadus24]

Obv time for a new wife JK

[@godlyvegan6688]

I agrer The husband should give him away

[@mr.stately9205]

I think A LOT of people could benefit from tough conversations like this, dogs just like people mature, and their needs/temperaments change accordingly. I personally have a great deal of respect for any owner who can recognize and accept when it's time to re-home, it's a decision that can literally save lives.

[@kellerayra7363]

Mr. Stately It hurts like hell to let a dog go. …. until there is time to reflect once you are no longer in a cloud of tension in the home.

[@mr.stately9205]

@@tryingtotryistrying I have felt this pain firsthand, it's not easy but what in life ever is.

[@mungbean345]

Thank you for being a man who cares about his family, helping another man who cares about his family make good choices for all members of his family.

[@AP-sx4nx]

As a former pediatric trauma nurse….I greatly appreciate this video and your honesty

[@charlenelynch6505]

And I'll speak for many here we appreciate what you do. 💙

[@AP-sx4nx]

@@charlenelynch6505 Thank you tremendously

[@User7688.--_]

Love. It is the mothers that want their child to have a better life than what they know they can give. When a dog is rehomed after tremendous research, that is also love.

[@Castigar48]

save the babies. you rock

[@spykethespider5070]

You did the right thing. Even if a dog isn't in the slightest bit aggressive it shouldn't be getting into a newborn's cot. Thank God you were there.

[@samwell707]

Anyone who says Joel isn’t real… watch this video. This man knows dogs, knows people, and is real as can be. I love this man. If you ever come to Texas I would love to show you my mini heeler, and show how your videos have made her perfect.

[@jacksonmoats3355]

I'd be interested in seeing a video if you have one. If you have footage from before you trained him then I would deff make a before and after video!!!

[@UNDERDOGMMA]

Great comment. Joel is the real deal and it’s more than just dog training.

[@strayandrongo7461]

Heelers are great dogs.

[@charlenelynch6505]

Yeah I appreciate his method and his attitude.

[@samwell707]

@@jacksonmoats3355 I’ve been thinking about making a channel for her. I’m preparing her for agility training

[@SamFAHntha]

It'd be hard at first for them, they're going to miss their dog a lot, but honestly I think after a while they'll just be relieved they don't have to live like that anymore.

[@BDTraining]

I agree.

[@stephanlazarz1921]

Spot On.

[@ganvalexposure2163]

I'd rather miss a dog than have to have a funeral for a baby or child because of my own ignorance allowing a violent breed of dogs around a small kid.

[@treeve13]

@@ganvalexposure2163 often if dogs show aggression to one another, they will not towards humans. But they came here with good intentions to learn what to do, that decision in itself seems to disprove ignorance.

[@sepita10]

@@ganvalexposure2163 violent breed? Lol wrong channel to say that, here we know dogs.

[@TheBehm08]

Joel on my TV: “HEY!” My dog watching on the couch: 😮

[@ambitionroad]

my terrier loves this channel lol

[@User7688.--_]

😂😂

[@julienvbz9361]

🤣🤣🤣

[@pittymama4500]

I totally feel ya cause all my dogs give a good head tilt like "wth?" Cause Joel is always on my speaker!

[@julienvbz9361]

@@pittymama4500 " i totally feel ya " ... WOW

[@targetsunshine6060]

I wouldn’t want to small dogs fighting in my house if I had a new born but certainly these put bulls! I would put my foot down if I were her. One of them has to go. Joel has the best advice.

[@BourbonInhibitions]

Dogs fighting in the home is almost always 100% on the owners not asserting themselves as the leaders in the house. How you live with your dog dictates almost all of their behavior, and bad habits manifest quickly, especially with working breeds. Dogs fight because no clear leader has been established so it's a constant power struggle between the dogs. If they don't see their owners as someone who will protect them, they have to dictate their own terms. When a dog knows who the leader is and that their owner will protect them, or get after them if they try to initiate an attack, they have no reason to follow through with that kind of aggression. Too often dogs are treated like royalty instead of like dogs. When you constantly let things go in the home the dogs learn more and more they have the freedom to do whatever they want. That includes fighting. If your dog has serious behavior issues, don't let them on the couch or in bed. Don't give them table scraps. Don't let them leave in front of you out the door or lead you on walks. And don't allow any unwarranted barking. Those things alone will shift the dynamic very quickly but consistency is key. This needs to be the new way of life, not a quick fix attempt. There are no quick fixes in dog training.

[@Nikki-cm2dp]

Thank you. So many idiots tell people to keep their dog even when it is a danger to the family. Crazy

[@kr698]

Yes! Disgusting!

[@Meg0307]

A baby adds completely different dynamic when dealing with problem dogs that issues with fighting. It's certainly a situation where rehoming would nearly always be the best option for the safety and mental health of the baby and mom. Sometimes hard choices need to be made

[@benji.B-side]

As much as he loves the dogs, it's not worth the risk. They could start fighting and turn their aggression onto the child, with being in such an heightened state of reactive mindset and triggered impulsive aggression. In this state, they lose all impulse control and rational. They could kill the baby in seconds, it's not a risk to take at all. Your advice was spot on.

[@65kimmie]

A friend had a situation like this client. A dog fight broke out, I think while the baby was sleeping in another room. He intervened, and one of his dogs clamped onto his dominant hand while lunging for the other dog. He re homed his dog the aggressor, and went through surgeries and PT, that injury cost him his hand and his livelihood.

[@kellerayra7363]

I re homed a very strong drive border collie that started resource guarding more things as it got increasingly frustrated. Regardless of playing with a groups of dogs, walking regularly and obedience classes. This was the first dog my children ever had in the family. I’m not going to lie this dog could sense the lack of confidence in creating a comfortable situation for everyone. I had a behaviorist come in and after observation and talking for a couple hours she sent back a report. It would take even more time and money to help the situation and I probably would not get to the level of trust I was looking for. Re home would benefit EVERYONE. Dog included, the dog isn’t happy in those situations either. He went to a large animal vet who was retiring his herding dog. I learned something from that dog through that pain. Research your breeders and let the breeder pick a puppy…. a good breeder KNOWS the personalities in those litters from handling and socializing. I was devastated at the loss and had my dog handling confidence was shattered. I got back on the horse… let a different breeder pick the puppy. There’s no shame in doing what is the healthiest for everyone in the house. Especially if you exhaust all avenues at your disposal. The dog is now happy and the kids weren’t living with a negative first dog experience.

[@wtfgoogle3884]

Or just be a decent human being and don't buy from breeders.

[@wtfgoogle3884]

@Beautybeyondthebeast it's a stone truth, and it's a change that we need to make in this society.

[@fructosecornsyrup5759]

@@wtfgoogle3884 Are... you referring to backyard breeders and puppy mills? Because that would actually make logical sense. If you're referencing _legitimate breeders,_ you're either deluded or don't understand what breeders actually do for a living. Breeders breed for predictability with dogs, among a lot of other things. Their dogs have specific purposes. Though adopting a shelter dog is a very noble cause, you cannot accurately predict a shelter dog's temperament in the same way you would be able to with a dog from a good breeder. You simply do not have the same controlled breeding group or the knowledge of the dog's past or lineage, and to fool yourself into thinking otherwise is plain ignorance.

[@fructosecornsyrup5759]

@@wtfgoogle3884 Also, that's a non sequitur fallacy and has nothing to do with the topic at hand.

[@kellerayra7363]

@@wtfgoogle3884 a rescue can come with just as many issues if not more. Plus it would have taken a long time going from border collie rescue to rescue waiting for specifically eight to ten week old male black and white properly socialized puppy that I can get to know from a clean slate. But thank you for your charming lovely grown up response. By the way I worked for the humane society at one point in my life. Ain’t that a kicker. Judge that Where I live the shelters bring dogs UP from down south , as we have a higher adoption rate. Along with consistent neuter and spay rates. But you’re the expert on society… get real I support the adopt don’t shop people and their cause however some of them are becoming pious and overzealous…giving their cause a black eye.

[@henrikflygarepipes5471]

Is it common in the US that you do not walk your dog? The advice ”walk your dog once a day” seems a bit strange from my perspective (Sweden) were people usually goes on 3-4 walks a day with their dogs.

[@migukujo2794]

I think so. I live in the US, I walk my dog 2x daily for a minimum of 1.5 hours everyday and when I tell people that they look at me like im crazy

[@kellerayra7363]

People in the US seem to have a hard time prioritizing their animals’ needs with their busy lives. Two working parents kids that are over scheduled with extra curricular activities it’s ridiculous. There’s an explosion of doggy day cares, dog walkers, dog sitters, even the new thing dog day school drop them off for part of the day training. Dogs of certain income levels really ARE living a life similar to a child. Then there’s the device addiction which I am also guilty of. Although I at least put my phone down when I do get off my lazy rear. I don’t know how devices factor in over there. It’s not unusual to see someone walking their dog leash, bag of poop in one hand looking down at their phone in the other. I keep waiting some dog or a crack in the sidewalk take the person down breaking the phone in one hand and squished doo doo all over the other

[@5mayalevi]

Not for me. I walk my dogs 2 hours a day. But you also have to remember, the workweek in the US is not the workweek in Sweden. I walk my dogs after my run/workout. I also work a 60 hour week as a teacher. My contract hours are 7:30-4, and then I do an after school program till 6. People in the US tend to work MORE and have less vacation time granted than those of you in Europe. So consider that.

[@Castigar48]

depends on the neighborhood. low income places youll see dogs chained up on a porch all day and barely interacted with

[@The.Nasty.]

I hope this guy does some reflecting, two pits that don’t get along isn’t a good mix for a young family with a new baby… Hope they both get what they need, obviously the guy cares and wants to fix the situation but you have to ask yourself if the fight is worth the risk and stress.

[@antigubernare]

Yeah I would definitely suggest re homing that baby

[@Monk-E]

But pits are nanny dogs 🤣🤣🤣🙄

[@annmeacham5643]

@@Monk-E They used to be back in the 1800’s when the dogs lived inside small huts with the whole family. Any pup showing the slightest aggression towards people, was put down immediately. That’s why they were so trustworthy. Few breeders are so diligent now and there are many unsafe animals out there. For example, the family in Memphis, TN, their pet pitbulls severely mauled the mother who was fighting to defend her children who were found dead at the scene.

[@Monk-E]

@@annmeacham5643 in the UK they are banned because people used them for dog fighting and because generally people who get this breed are shit people

[@patrick7mary]

@@annmeacham5643 yes, that’s where I live. Someone else commented on that story. There was another lady in 1994 in Memphis that was found in her own yard dead from her neighbors 2 pit bulls. One of them had bitten off the leg of her dog a couple of years before she lost her own life. I still say there is something about this breed. That family had those pit bulls for 8 years, then attack their own family unprovoked, I can’t imagine. I haven’t heard any other breed turning on it’s owners after 8 years and killing them. So sad.

[@annmeacham5643]

In a Memphis hospital, a mother lies in very serious condition while her two beautiful babies lie in a morgue as the father grieves because the family’s two pitbulls attacked and killed the toddler and the five-month-old baby. They had had the dogs over eight years with no incidents. The mother will live although mauled severely over her entire body, including her face, while desperately trying unsuccessfully to defend her children. The father was not home at the time. 😢😢😢 Just heartbreaking.

[@JanetSpear55]

Wonderful video. I am an old 78 yr old women and absolutely love your videos! Your type of training really makes sense and we just got a new Aussie pup (3 months now) so we are watching all your videos Safety is so important!

[@MR2U2B]

At the 14:39 mark, the second approach was a kind of "I'm sorry" approach after being corrected, but the next move was a subtle nip toward Joel's hand. All dogs do these actions, but the repercussions are worsened with a pit. The owner is oblivious to the subtleties needed to house those dogs. Both need to be re-homed.

[@patrick7mary]

I agree and noticed that too.

[@JR.6Speed]

We need a follow up on this video.

[@ravenpate9547]

I totally agree with this opinion I have middle aged pitlab mix who is getting older and is very chill. Under rough circumstances I accepted a small pitbull terrier female into my pack who THOUGHT that she was going to bully my old man. She learned real quick from day one that you will NOT bully my boy and learned who ran the house hold. I love her though, sometimes you have to be tough on these guys these are REAL dogs that can kill it’s okay to raise your voice and not take their crap lol.

[@alisha_madariaga]

Wow Joel! This is a GREAT video. I mean.. it’s actually terrible.. but I mean great in the sense that there’s gonna be people out there that NEED to see this . This was what I’d feared with my own dog ( a story you’ve come to know by now) but I was VERY lucky that in my case, rehab was a possibility (and subsequent success but still a work in progress) . My heart goes out to the owner :(. His suggestion of basically what I’ve always called the “crate and rotate” routine works when it works but it’s entirely dependent on the humans to not make any mistakes. And that’s not realistic . That’s I how I ended up in the hospital.. One of us took one dog out of the crate not realizing the other had done the same with our other dog in another room. Sorry I missed you in solana!! Gonna catch you next month though! Please keep putting out the amazing content.. you are helping so many people out there . Full disclosure though.. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t laugh at that point when you referred to babies and children as “things”.😂😂 . I see why it came out that way . I know that wasn’t intentional. It was funny though;)

[@BDTraining]

Lol, I just rewatched the voiceover, I actually call kids things multiple times, lol.

[@alisha_madariaga]

@@BDTraining hahah. I believe that ;). I actually came across a post on that Nextdoor app where this guy was complaining about some kids playing ding dong ditch and he posted his ring video with the caption "does anyone know who owns these things?" lol. I died

[@mungbean345]

That made me laugh, too. In one sense, kids are such things of mystery-so full of potential and you have no idea where it is going to end up displaying. My folks called me and my sister Thing 1 and Thing 2 (of Dr. Seuss fame), and despite our many animals, other responsibilities, and people in their lives, we always knew that we were the most precious "things" in their lives. 😄

[@drdawnb]

I would be interested to know what he ultimately decided to do.

[@tiffanymonti2782]

Very powerful video.. thank you Joel for being so honest and always looking out for what is best for everyone.. thank you to the parents for allowing the video so we can all be educated.. Tough situation.. I hope all works out for your family.. whatever that looks like for you..

[@BDTraining]

Yes these people should be commended.

[@okmislayden2784]

I think Caesar said if your dog fights in your home you're not in control. These dogs need exercise, rules and boundaries but I know not all owners are capable of this.

[@failtolawl]

I mean good luck with trying to rehome a pitbull. There isn't a no-kill shelter in this country that isn't filled to the brim with them, and the regular pounds are putting the majority of the breed that are unadoptable down nearly every day. Who the hell is breeding them?

[@lonewolf6287]

Same in Australia with American staffy and bull Arab … go to shelter and they are full of them or a lot of dogs in there are crossed with them… backyard breeders breed for profit and often breed unhealthy mixes resulting in more bad tempered dogs because of bad breeding … I’ve met some great American staffies who have been purchased from breeders who have a contract with clients that they have to return dog if they can’t handle them… these are breeders who care.

[@shawnadavis7434]

Thousands of breeders on Tik Tok. I’ll be scrolling and will see a live stream of breeders showing off their unhealthy micro bullies and “ pure” pits. So many back yard breeders.

[@fatcat5817]

Backyard breeders saw one walking down the street following a female pitbull who looked like she was recently nursing puppies. That's in a suburban city, Can't Imagine a big city like San Fran or new york!

[@LilMissGGG]

So so so many backyard breeders, and irresponsible owners exploiting dogs for quick cash. What this country needs is some gosh damn regulations on “breeders” and sellers. 20% of the US dog population are “pitbulls,” that’s a pretty large number considering how many other breeds there are. They became a huge trend and everyone started breeding anything that even remotely resembled a pit to make a buck, or be cool. Plus people STILL don’t believe in fixing their damn pets! Now the AM Bully has become the new fad and the same thing is happening to that breed. Ruining the breed quickly by massive overbreeding and backyard, not caring one bit about health and quality. Just scummy lazy people that don’t want get a job.

[@heybri]

Yeah i agree in this situation.. They are good owners but unfortunately they need to make a tough decision

[@liisaks1]

Unfortunately it's not easy to just 're-home' a dog. It may be relatively 'easy' in some countries - but certainly not where I live (Phuket, Thailand). Who in their right mind is going to take on an (occasionally) aggressive American Bull Terrier XL??

[@sopyleecrypt6899]

Then, sadly, sometimes it’s in the best interest of the dog and family for the dog to be put down.

[@tiryaclearsong421]

Unfortunately in my state a mother of two very young children is maimed in the hospital and both of her children were killed when their two dogs attacked. The parents were all about their dogs. Unfortunately they probably should have rehomed the more aggressive dog. The fights can migrate. The jealousy and guarding can become deadly. The dogs were euthanized, the children are dead, and the parents have lost their family. Surrendering a dog can lead to it having a happier life without the stress of children and other dogs they don't like.

[@orbitmouf]

There are pit bull rescue organizations, the dog would need to be rehomed with one owner and no dogs I assume.

[@patrick7mary]

@@tiryaclearsong421 yes I live nearby and was sickened by that story. I see the national media picked up this story and see it highlighted People Magazine online from October 10. I read somewhere that pit bulls are the dogs that attack, injure or kill even their owners seemingly without warning. That the reason they are more deadly than other breeds is that they lock their jaws onto you and will not let go. That is why I am now questioning if there should be more laws or at least warnings about this breed if a young family chooses to home this breed of dog. I can’t think of any other breed that would haul off and maul to death it’s owners children and maul it’s owners after 8 years in a loving family setting. Just can’t fathom the agony of the Mother losing her children but moreover the horrid trauma of laying over her children while her own dogs are mauling her. There are no words. At the very least, I think they should the more aggressive one. If it were me, I would remove both dogs from the home, because of the story about those two dead children and injured Mom. I have a GSD rescue, work with him daily 24/7, and he is precious, but knows me and my hubby are the “ boss”. Dogs need boundaries, discipline and love just like children. And lots of walking;)

[@patrick7mary]

@@orbitmouf great idea. I think it does have something to do with 2 pit bulls instead of one. I know of another time in 1994, a lady on a nearby street where I grew up, was mauled to death by 2 pit bulls. She was found on the side yard of her home. She had already sued the man because one of the pit bulls had attacked her dog and had bitten his leg off. Then a couple years later she herself was mauled to death in her yard by those same pit bulls. So sad.

[@lorianderson8145]

Take note of the timestamp ( 14:39 ) after Joel redirects the dog and the dog kinda air nips at Joel's hand. NOT GOOD. If that dog challenges Joel like this, makes me wonder If the wife is home alone with the baby and she attempts to redirect the dog with a point of a finger or wave of the hand as Joel did, I don't believe the dog will submit to her. Most likely from watching this video, the outcome won't be good. Joel said everything that needed to be said. I know this is hard for the guy to hear, and I feel his torn emotions. I only hope for the best for all.

[@iLLuminatedWithDren]

So people know, I adopted Rico (blue) and after 2 months he was stolen from me in 2020. A week later I get Roofus (red) as a puppy, 1 month later I give him to a family friend while I contract in Afghanistan for 4 months, 6 months later fall in love and get a job out in California, 2 weeks go by after moving and I get a call the dog has been found. Two months later we get pregnant. And wifey came with a dog as well.

[@KiraSieni]

Dude don't let what people are saying get to you.

[@annmeacham5643]

It’s clear you are a man who takes his responsibilities very seriously. Thank you so much for sharing your challenges with us. Your courage in disclosing your difficulties and allowing Joel to address your concerns, will reach farther than you will ever know, and may save lives. Your wife’s anxiety is well founded. In Memphis, TN a father is grieving the loss of his two small children despite the heroic attempts of the mother to defend them. Her condition is now stable. They’d had the dogs eight years without any problems. You have good dogs and I’m sure you can find good homes if you spread the word. Protect the ones you love; they’re your primary responsibility. God bless you, your son & your wife. ❤🙏🥰

[@sheshickey]

Such a difficult and heartbreaking decision to have to make. Great advice. But...that sky behind Joel's left shoulder!! ❤❤❤

[@TheBurrito171]

I'm impressed how considerate everyone is here for mom and baby wellbeing. Y'all some stand-up guys.

[@stopwars8642]

Yes, twopits are too much for moms to handle she cant care for baby and dogs at the same time. And you dont want the dogs jealous over the baby and do anything to baby. Also if you dont walk the dogs forget it and she cant do it or break up fights. Definitely rehome one to someone who can walk the dog and have a better life each one

[@philaeew4866]

I always wonder how often Joel has to stress that clients have to "take A walk every day" - as if it's not normal to walk your dog twice a day? Is this a US thing?? How can you own two big strong dogs and not walk them? Of course the animals go crazy. They're not made for being inside all the time, just like we aren't.

[@judymorton5991]

The other thing is that when you have a new baby, you do not have time for all that extra stuff. A baby is enough of a new job. It is also the most important job you will have in your life!

[@justchilling7594]

The problem is all it takes is one situation where your attention is not there it could end in catastrophe because it doesn't take much for a newborn to get hurt. The owners did their best but sometimes the risk is just too high.

[@vladluteen2299]

I'd be curious your thoughts on the couple in TN that had 2 pits for 8 years that turned on them and killed their children.

[@vixtalityy]

I have a highly reactive golden retriever. We got her as an 8 week old puppy and nobody in the house ever took her out for walks or to socialize. Because of this she is highly anxious, has severe separation anxiety with my dad, is very resource protective, and is very anxious in new places. She has bitten me on the hand and bit my little sister once ripping her thumb nail off. I currently live away from home (I was the only one that ever tried to help my dog and her anxiety that leads to aggression) and I've tried getting my parents and other family members to step up and do something. No matter how many times I've thoroughly explained my dogs issues and what my family can do to help her they don't. I really need some help and advice, my fear is the older my dog gets the harder these behaviors will be to fix and my dog is already 3.

[@dogsenseforu301]

Huge congrats for you trying. Also, apart from 'Don't overestimate what you can do in a week..... and don't underestimate what you CAN do in 3 months' - there are some GREAT KZbin trainers esp with nervous dogs eg Susan Garrett - albeit they are very irritating to those 'Type A' and/or ADHD people. Anyway - you got this IF you/anyone else takes your dog for a 1 hr walk and you/family provides 10-15 mins training per day (usually in 5 min increments). 🙌 to you.

[@vixtalityy]

@@dogsenseforu301 Thank you so much for the advice ❤ I will get this information to my parents and other family. I can for sure work with my dog on the weekends because that's when I can see her, other than that I will try my best to get my family to follow through with this. Also question: Do you think that taking my dog out into new places during this training will be good for her to continue to desensitize her to new places and people? And how would I introduce new dogs after she's progressed in her training?

[@220783ajidil]

Greetings from Montenegro! Just wanted to thank you - I've learned so much from your down-to-earth approach in dealing with my scaredy-cat Lagotto. The "we're over it" phrase has become a mantra in our household and the dog has never been more confident. Cheers!

[@jejewa2763]

I think there should. Not be anny discussion. At least one. Of. The dog if not both should. Go..

[@slofty]

Point taken but is your keyboard broken or something?

[@susiemorris2334]

Do we know why the owner doesn't walk the tan dog at least once a day, EVERY day? I have a non-aggressive-breed large dog and he gets 3 walks a day.

[@Flippokid]

Full time job and a baby. How much more do we really need to know?

[@tinawong7825]

Man, take care of your family first. Get rid of the dog....find him a home, you can't do it all and you need to prioritize your child and wife first.

[@Trainwreck_Art]

Thank you for covering this type of situation. A lot of people want to demonize anyone who rehomes a dog, or worst case scenario, has to take one to the shelter, over aggression. I think they don't realize that for most people who have to make the choice to rehome an animal, that's the absolute last resort, after spending thousands on training, doing everything they can to change the environment at home to avoid issues, ruling out any kind of underlying health issues that could make them act out, etc. I had to rehome a dog that randomly decided after two years that she just did not want to share space with another dog, period. After thousands in vet bills, training programs, etc over the space of three-four months, the breaking point came when she jumped on our other dog and tried to rip his face off, WHILE HE WAS SLEEPING. He didn't have a favorite toy, wasn't near her food or vying for attention, wasn't in a favored sleeping spot, even. She just walked into the room, crossed the room, and jumped on him. And our other dog, in spite of being the same size, has always done everything possible to not annoy her; he never even fought back, just tried to make himself as small as possible, didn't even make a sound. We kept them separated at all times after that until I could find her a new home with no small children or other pets, and made sure that her new owners were aware that she had been fine with another dog for 2+ years, until she suddenly wasn't, and that there was literally NO trigger, no change, nothing, that set her off, so they would understand it wasn't an issue of them always having butted heads, or he challenged her, or anything like that, and that she was just not a dog that was trustworthy around other dogs. Some dogs are simply like that, for no particular reason. They just decide they don't want to put up with other dogs, and they're not going to, end of.

[@sharonreilly1856]

I agree that although it is a very difficult decision, sometimes a dog needs to be re-homed. You don't necessarily have to bring the dog back to a shelter. There are non-profit agencies like Doggy Harmony that can help you find a suitable home when the dog is not the best fit for a family. These agencies can also find foster homes until the dog can be matched with the right owner. It's not fair or safe to keep a dog in an environment that keeps it in a perpetually stressful situation. It's not fair or safe to keep an entire family in such a situation either. My rescue that I adopted came from similar circumstance like in this video. With training, exercise, structure and discipline she is now a happy dog. She is my only dog but I have 3 cats that she gets along with just fine. Joel's videos were a great tool in helping me get my dog to where she is today.

[@sharlyt3557]

This was so real. You can’t have unpredictable fights between big & strong dogs around a newborn! I hope the methods help and they learn to chill or else one of them gets a family without being brothers under the same roof anymore. Sad situation🥺gotta PROTECT THAT BABY THO!

[@rendenellenberger5262]

My buddy brought his pit over to play with my pit and they were perfect except when they were barking at strangers through the fence, then their excitement turned to aggression toward eachother. With my young daughter around the house, the dog play dates stopped immediately. No dog in the history of the world is worth risking your kid getting hurt over. Joel's right, that dog would make someone an amazing companion

[@pmarieblessed5117]

Exactly! There should not be any discussions. They should put that energy into finding a good home for him. People should stop trying to equal a dog to a human being.

[@mattoz7662]

It’s beyond me to think that people own multiple dogs that must be kept separate at all times.

[@Alteori]

The husband seems to have a very sweet and quiet nature, not the greatest fit for bully breeds. They need a VERY firm hand and CONSTANT physical activity so they don't feel repressed. These types of breeds were originally bred to bite and hold bulls, bears and other large animals around the face and head. THINK ABOUT THAT.... BEARS!!!!!! When baiting large animals was outlawed in the 1800s, people turned instead to using and breeding them to fight. They are powerful animals that require a VERY firm hand and experienced animal handler.

[@Anni-bt8zt]

Wishing the family all the best... 💕

[@lisaleondires9576]

I think it’s heroic that you advocate for the children. The fact that you do it with understanding and compassion without judging the owner is the icing on the cake. I wish his dog could be re-home to Cesar Milan Ranch

[@TSUNAMI-MAMI]

Mandatory spaying/neutering for all pits needs to be installed. I know there’s good ones but this measure is necessary. We gotta end this dog’s bloodline. There’s hundreds of other breeds and mixes without the sordid history and concerning present. I’ve seen 8 separate pitbull attacks at least!

[@MyriophyllumTuberculatum]

I saw a video on this chanel long time ago, he said that only few people are able to get over bad behavior bull, i think he's right, they are unpredictable for 99% of people, there are worst breed i think

[@tashalodge1340]

I needed this. I have a female that is so hyper and similar. Walking has changed and helped a lot but I still have to get even more stern....

[@tessadubois3679]

I have so much respect for you taking into account the mom and her stress. I hope this guy knows he's got to make his baby and partner first priority. I feel like you gave them the right idea of what the right decision is.

[@MrBlueSleeves]

Newborn baby in the house and this guy has 2 pitbulls????? And doesn't even walk them out regularly???????? Someone call 911

[@leopardstar6004]

Structure in the home is the most important thing with aggressive dog. Same sex aggression is the most common dog on dog aggression. Yes you have to keep them separate for a while but you can make it work only some people will have that will. The place command and loose leash walking is where to start with both dogs. Yes with a family I would say the same thing. You don't want that kiddo getting between these two ever. You have to be on your toes

[@GoannaUK]

Thank you for being so firm and clear in this video, Joel! The situation is already out of control and the dogs have no respect. The mother and baby need to be safe and there can be no hedging the bets with " i love my dog' notions. Too late, the love won't cut it as they have learned their behaviour now and it will take too long and too many risks to train them out of it.

[@Gardenwork-wi7zy]

Dear Joel, since yesterday I wanted to contact you and ask you your opinion and whether you believe there ‘is an actual problem’, or if uou think everything is ‘under control’. Speaking as someone who’s born in a country where the Pitt is banned, and also now resides in a another country where it’s also banned, looking in from the outside it appears to me that America has a massive problem with pittbulls, and forget the staggering dog on dog attacks, we’re talking fatalities against humans… kids in particular. Just a few days ago, you had two Pitt’s attack and kill a two year old and a five month old baby, critically injuring the mum whom laid on top of her two year old, trying to shield her from the barrage of bites and pulls. I had a look at some neutral stats and found it shocking, just digging slightly beneath the surface - pittbulls accounts for less than 6% of the dog population in America and yet … - more than half of them are up for adoption or in shelters, where then 40% of them will be euthanised. - not only does this breed account for way more bites and fatalities than other breeds, they are also responsible for much higher rate of severe injuries - since 1980, America has lost more than 260 KIDS to pittbulls attacks. I mean, I understand the whole song ‘no bad dogs, just bad people’, and ‘they’re so misunderstood’, but the facts speaks for themselves. Honestly, I shouldn’t care too much as I’m not even an American, but I am a dog lover, and also a mum. That story out of Tennessee broke my heart, cause how do you defend that? They had both dogs for 8 years and never experienced any aggression in either dogs, not towards their children and not towards each other, amazingly, both parents were staunch pittbulls advocates. So I just would love your opinion Joel, as I deeply respect your expertise and opinion. I think your truely into something with your approach to dog training. Thanks in advance

[@katelarouche2835]

Such great content. Thank you Joel.

[@frankxu2321]

Hi Joel, great video once again. The owner obviously overwhelmed and baby's safety always come first. May I ask you how often you handle senior rescue dog with abuse history? Do they behave differently with your training method? (e.g. leash popping) How much they usually improve? Thanks in advance.

[@Flippokid]

He's had a few on video. It's not entirely the same technique when it comes to fear. You have to be slower and more forgiving. The butt-flip method works better I think with these dogs, because then it's a gentle flip (in comparison to the leash pop at least). But at the same time, you have to be the boss, so there's certain behaviors you can't let them get away with. You have to learn and read your dog's body language to understand if it's coming from fear, or from 'I'm gonna do what I want'.

[@MsHarasan]

Aren’t having 2 male pits a dangerous combo if not trained properly?

[@SJ-ry9er]

Yes a lot of dogs don't like dogs of the same gender. They see each other as competition. Pits are especially known to be same gender aggressive since they're less tolerant of dogs.

[@SJ-ry9er]

@Gr Ch Buck I've given up on telling people that, they didn't believe me. My parents think the dog they have is a pitbull but he looks more like an American Staffordshire terrier to me.

[@rico4you]

The truth and reality can sometimes hurt. Joel tough / direct talk with Dog owners... 💯% Real. Full respect.

[@jillsy2815]

Oh I love you so much Joel for sharing this heartfelt talk that these clients needed. 🐾❤️🙏🏽

[@mihaeladog7187]

I don’t have babies and I am still very stressed.We were 4 ppl in this dog thing when we got him as puppy and now one year later my husb and teenage kids left me alone with the devil. Had to quit my job if you can imagine that …

[@robin212212]

what kind of idiot will even consider keeping two pitties they can't control with a newborn in the house.

[@slofty]

A sobering percentage of people would, sadly. There is a growing sentiment that bad pits are the fault of an owner, these people think all they have to do is not abuse their raised-from-puppy pit and things will be a-ok. This is exactly why half or more of the dogs in kill shelters are pits nowadays.

[@Flippokid]

Someone who's had these dogs and loves them.

[@MyriophyllumTuberculatum]

@@Flippokid Baby safety first

[@slofty]

@@MyriophyllumTuberculatum Vegans and dog lovers hate human beings. Edit: A generalisation, with exceptions of course.

[@Flippokid]

@@MyriophyllumTuberculatum Yeah of course, but most people would first try to make it work before giving up on their dog.

[@emilygeez]

I did a training session with you and your older dog before you had your pool installed! would love to come back just for a safe socialization place for my dog! not sure if you would remember me & Luna but we learned to advocate for her so much and she has lived such a full beautiful life despite her reactivity!

[@jillsy2815]

He has a website where u can sign up or email him 🐾❤️

[@User7688.--_]

I remember the name luna. Do you know if he videoed your session? If he did, you could do a KZbin search. Type in the search bar: Beckmansdogtraining luna

[@emilygeez]

@@User7688.--_ it was many years ago before he started posting I don’t recall anyone filming..

[@kd1g130]

The most important thing with dogs is are they a safe dog and friendly, or not? They have to be mentally stable and willing to obey and respect people. Otherwise they don’t deserve your home. Period. And with two dogs , it’s even more dangerous. No one can be too careful , especially when it comes to two dogs. Rehome one or both , your life will be better. I personally prefer peace over stress and vet visits and would rehome both.

[@sopyleecrypt6899]

A young, healthy dog of any breed MUST be walked every day. Ideally, any dog, even older dogs or dogs with health problems, should be walked every day. I don’t know why some dog owners don’t know this. The physical and mental benefits of a daily walk outside the home for a dog are enormous. If you can’t personally do it because of health issues, have someone walk the dog for you. Can’t do that either? Rehome the dog.

[@verabolton]

This isn't dog training, this is marriage counselling 🤔

[@Babymercy8]

We should all become doctors to be top notch dog trainers? 🤣 Who knew lactation would be involved 😳

[@KerriEverlasting]

I've had babies and dogs. The stress is real. Great advice from Joel once again. I'd be interested to know if the dogs were rehomed, how did they go in their new homes? Are they ok now?

[@iLLuminatedWithDren]

He doesn’t have a new home yet.

[@truegirl2anna]

Don’t understand why anyone would risk getting a pit bull when small children live in the house. They are naturally aggressive dogs…some are incredibly sweet but just not worth it when you have small kids around. Latest of many headlines was two pit bulls a family had for 8 years killed a 5 month old and 2.5 year old little kids. The mom was in critical condition. WTH.

[@Alteori]

@Gr Ch Buck Um...... there is actually no such thing as a "pit bull." In fact, a pit bull isn't a specific breed-there are several types of pit bulls. Pit bull is an umbrella term that's used for several breeds often referred to as "bully breeds."

[@ozdigg9254]

I'm interested in the outcome with this couple. The man seems more concerned with his dogs than with his baby. The body language shows him touching his dog, not his child or his wife.

[@Flippokid]

Just a walk per day is not going to fix this behavior, I think. Especially if all he's going to get is a 20-30 min walk around the block while he has to adhere by all the leash-walking rules. That has a place and a purpose; but it won't unwind this dog. This dog needs to get rid of all his energy, he needs to _play_ at least a cumulative hour per day. Intensive one on one play. He's very confrontational, so playing with other dogs is not safe. The owner can't play with him 1 hour per day either.

[@gomezkillerbee]

Joel’s dog training, life coaching, and therapy!!!

[@suzp2265]

Surely it's basic that an owner would expect to walk their dog every day and if they can't then the dog deserves a different home where that will happen.

[@carolinecarter6874]

Thank you for your experience, commonsense and reality .I'm fed-up with the it's only this or that, or give him a treat ...it doesn't work! I own my dog...he doesn't own me!

[@albrownmd]

Joel, do you have any wisdom to share on breaking up a dog fight once it’s started? Definitely better to prevent it from happening, but what is your advice when the dogs are fighting to make the fight stop?

[@ccap3211]

I was told by a trainer to grab the dog by the back of the collar and lift its front legs off the ground.

[@yvonne2965]

The owner is too passive … I hope he rehomed the dog for his child’s safety.. these dogs are too undisciplined & they are playing with fire

[@ilkyazvecan]

Great video. I agree with what's been said, it's the better option to rehome in this scenario.

[@mikesgirl8304]

Pit bulls should not be pets. I love dogs but Pit bulls are not like other dogs, people don't want to face the truth but it's in their genetics to maul, maim and kill, it's what they were bred for. No one ever taught my dog to herd things but she wants to herd because it's in her genetics, Pit bulls want to kill because it's in their genetics. They can cause way more damage than any other dog, it's like owning a Tiger or a Bear, it's just not a good idea, especially with small kids in the house. This family needs to get rid of this dog, Pit bulls need to be bred out of exsistance, they aren't safe for anyone, we have so many wonderful dog breeds in this world that are not a danger to us, we don't need Pit bulls

[@LilMissGGG]

Why are you even watching dog training videos if you have illogical beliefs like that? Are you having an difficult time controlling your Border Collie? Do you know how many breeds were bred to “kill?” Better get rid of every terrier and half the hunting dogs too. If your logic was reality then all humans would need to also be eliminated because we also are bred to kill literally everything around us? And while we are at it, we better get rid of anything else that makes us scared. Let’s get rid of cats also bc we know they have murderous minds. Oh ands cars too! So many deaths from those. And you know what else kills? Virtually every animal, including us, on this planet so we all gotta go! Gtfoh with that irrational thinking. Use logic to think and not emotions. I know it can be hard but, if you’d truly spend a lot time around numerous breeds of dogs throughout your life and formed opinions off that, you’d quickly realize they ALL are capable of aggression, mauling, and killing. And you’re comparing wild apex predators to a domesticated dog? A wolf would definitely kill faster and more effectively then any of the meanest pits out there. A bear can take your life with one swipe of its paw. A tiger with one well place bite to your neck. Place blame where it belongs, on people. People who don’t educate themselves on training and canine behavior before getting a dog, or even after. People who abuse or neglect their pets. People who get an animal to fill their own selfish need for love. People who are too lazy or just don’t care to put the time and energy into raising a dog properly. Very few dogs are born just natural aggressive and wanting to kill. It still has to be taught, and conditioned. I guess we need to eradicate all these ankle biting nasty aggressive little dogs too then right? Not fair to discriminate and have double standards for other breeds. If someone is naive and ill prepared enough to go into a rescue and just pick a dog and expect it not to have some sort baggage then they need to adjust their expectations and not get a dog in the first place. If a person doesn’t know enough to meet a dog and assess their behavior for potential issues, then they shouldn’t honestly be owning a dog to begin with. That’s like not studying the material closely for an important exam then being upset and crying “that’s not right, I didn’t know there would be such difficult questions on it.” I’ve met plenty of aggressive dogs and contrary to your opinion, non were pits. They were Yorkies, poodles, German shepherd and shepherd mixes, border collies, all the chihuahuas, Aussies, Maltese, Bichons, labs, heelers, and jack Russell’s, shitzus, a schnauzer, and one absolutely terrifying chow chow named Bear. Just proves that ANY breed can be aggressive you only hear about “pits” bc it makes for the best ratings and views bc people like you that enjoy being scared and their beliefs controlled by what they are told, and hear. If you want to advocate for a good cause then go fight the war on drugs because those are real killers. This channel is meant for open minded, smart individuals, that care for ALL dogs and want to help them. Not for small minded, weak willed, nothing positive or rational to say ever about anything, folks like you. Take your negative Nancy ass to FB where you belong.

[@TeamTarver]

Any dog can be dangerous if not trained properly.

[@ivanmolina5778]

Love how Joel says it is not just about the dog ! Unlike the crazy 24/7/ praise treats people. His outlook makes more sense and more tailored for actual humans with actual dogs.

[@mehitabel1290]

He makes me wonder if ANYTHING is about the dog.

[@theveganteaspilled4742]

Re-homing my dog was the hardest thing to do especially because this dog and I went through so much together. Unfortunately because my neighbours kids provoked him and my little sisters were in danger. He is happy and living his best life. But it was a hard choice I had to make.

[@charlenelynch6505]

Excellent video. I'm reviewing your older ones too but only on dominance. Almost a year with my adopted/rescued husky - still working on her dominance. She's fixed but marks and scratches grass at the dog park. I correct her and she doesn't do it for the full duration at the park. Same goes for her being a bully with some dogs, correct her - she gets it. However, go back a few days later - restart. She hip checks other dogs and doesn't get along with poodles. I'm not a fan of poodles either 🤔

[@pmlm1571]

This is a tough one. If this dog gets lots of exercise and total discipline, maybe it can work. Hope so!

[@s.b.5259]

Goddamn i would love to work/ intern for you. You're so knowledgeable!

[@gabriellas9001]

I don’t understand how could any dog or human have a normal mental health without exercise or leaving the house for a walk at least once a day. How can people take on dogs that don’t get walked everyday? People should just ask themselves “would I be perfectly happy if I was locked up in a flat or house most days? No, people would get pretty frustrated, your dog gets frustrated too. No rocket science…

[@grethen123]

So glad to see this topic addressed! Thank you for the video

[@LaraYAH127]

Hey Beckman family 🐾💌, So good to see the videos. This was a hard video to watch but very real.

[@smalls970]

THANK YOU JOEL! Very very hard conversation. You are the best!

[@mrsjay6223]

As always, just in awe watching you do your thing Joel. 👏👏

[@megancourtney9341]

We have a 10.5mo old dutch shepherd who has been reactive/aggressive towards our 6yr shepherd/collie/lab cross. The Dutch is now bigger than our older dog. Dutch shepherd is currently in heat so we're waiting to see if we can have her settle after hormones go back to normal (we m7ssed fixing her due to goingintoheat 2 days before surgery date). We're trying to correct the growling and rewarding when she's calm. Only an issue in the house (resource guarding of specific spaces and people) out on walks the 2 dogs are fine. We've had discussions on what happens if we can't correct the negative interactions of our younger dog. Possibilities include the older dog moving out with another family member when/if time comes.

[@mrfish5241]

Hey. Recently I moved to a new area in the UK. I stayed for 2 weeks and bonded with a dog they had they need help with. I have limited funds but used what I had to feed and love the dog. He's a little aggressive and skinny. He has back leg issues. I don't know how he's been treated but I can imagine. I want the best for him, he's a rednose Pitbull 10months old. I have the opportunity to take the dog away from the home. The people I was staying with offered me the dog as they are struggling as he doesn't get on with the other dogs in the house. I'm willing but with limited funds and having cats at my current home means it's not possible. I'd love to find a home for him so please if anyone can help let me know!

[@michaelbooth2890]

I don't understand how people do not know that dogs need daily exercise. If you don't have time to walk a dog, you don't get a dog.

[@thedisconnect5769]

Hmm it takes neglect for a dog to get like that. I doubt they'll miss much. I've raised 17 pitbulls from infant to full grown into death plus countless litters. I bred pits for home protection and trained them with a lot of attention especially around kids. My current girl is the best one I've ever had and she's aggressive. Aggressively sweet. Pits are hardly ever naturally bad it's incredibly rare because of their intuition they are after all nursery dogs that being said it's sad. A little love goes a long way with pitbulls a little attention a little clarity and disicipline also goes a long way

[@emmagarcia7217]

Humans need to understand how important dog training is once you get a dog. If these dogs was properly trained from the beginning, the stress would have never happened. It would be smooth transition when the baby came.

[@sloopy5191]

Yes, this dog must be rehomed for the sake of Mom and baby. Mom turning her back at the wrong moment, under the right circumstances, could be a disaster never recovered from. The dog also needs to be with someone who truly knows how to handle it.

[@primalcritters]

Any dog trainer or even dog person worth their salt knows that Cesar Millan was absolutely right. This whole BS about there be no Alpha and a study proving it is erroneous. I live in a household with multiple dogs and I'm a female 5'9 128. But I'm tough with my dogs. I'm extremely loving with my dogs but they know they cannot F around with me in their presence. Alpha is absolutely true. People think it's a bad word. It's about respect and order. That's the bottom line

[@KiraSieni]

Even if it's not "alpha" oriented, at the very least dogs need clear boundaries and rules and to know that there are consequences and rewards, just like with kids. They are going to do whatever they can get away with. And they will thrive if they have clear and constant expectations

[@kimberlyzamlich2985]

"This guy has to be more afraid of you than to fight that guy", ha, ha that's right! Take that you positive reinforcement only dog treat trainers! You should be called "I don't mince my words trainer Joel Beckman"~ and hey I did not know your resume included couples councelling~keep up the blunt honesty~thank you!

[@lei5342]

The struggle is real, especially for the mother. I am a first time dog owner with a 4 yrs old girl. It took me 1.5 month just to train my golden retriever puppy not to jump on my little girl. The first two months were tough, luckily everything works out now and I have two beautiful, happy daughters.

[@WollongongSkyWatch]

You put in the work and effort. The dog owner featured in this video simply doesn't want to - he wants to be the friend, not the master.

[@tinyali7704]

Love the analysis! I also see two dogs who haven’t earned the right to be off leash together yet. I wonder what their initial meeting looked like, but I’d be surprised if it was done incrementally and in neutral territory without toys/treats present. Too many people bring a dog home to meet their first dog when they should have a parallel/pack walk at a local park first. Part of being the “boss” is setting up your employees for success right?😄

[@iLLuminatedWithDren]

They were together for 6 months no problem. One day I brought home a giant stuffed octopus and they tried to kill eachother ☹️ then about 4 fights since then

[@michaelnuttall5896]

@@iLLuminatedWithDren ok dogs have a size identification of let’s call them high resource items whether it be bones or treats or toys or a big ball vs small ball. The giant toy was likely considered by them to be a life changing evolution to their position in the home/pack, a reward etc you baited them into conflict.