Become Irresistible - Stop Being Manipulated By Women & Get A Loving Relationship | Sadia Khan

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In today’s episode of Impact Theory, Sadia Khan is back to go deep into the complexities of modern relationships and push the boundaries of conventional wisdom about love, sex, and human behavior.
Sadia is a psychologist and relationship expert known for her controversial viewpoints when it comes to modern dating and the roles men and women are taking in it.
And in this episode we’re exploring the nuances of consent, attraction, and the subtle contracts that often exist between partners. We also discuss how societal changes, like the sexual revolution and the advent of dating apps, have reshaped our understanding of intimacy and commitment.
We’re also touching on:
- Why Men Get Cheated on More Than Women
- Societal Issues & the Government’s Manipulation
- Relationship Independence and Self-Esteem
- Traditional Values, Religion, and Capitalism
- AI, Technology, and the Future of Relationships
- Consequences of Sexual Culture and Social Media
Get ready to examine the delicate balance of power between men and women in relationships; the impact of technology on our mental health and personal development; and the possibility of a future where emerging technologies could redefine human relationships and societal norms.
This conversation challenges you to confront difficult truths about the influence of pornography on sexual expectations today and the dangers of excessive independence and impulsivity in modern day relationships.
Sadia offers a fresh perspective on the role of self-control, discipline, and mutual respect in fostering genuine connection and long-term fulfillment, so be sure you don’t miss her insights that will leave you rethinking the very fabric of modern romance and connection.
CHAPTER MARKERS:
[0:00] Inflated sexual expectations & loneliness
[28:25] Changing dating dynamics
[53:51] What teaches men hate, not love
[1:12:32] Freedom & goals
[1:47:01] The impact of “the pill”
[2:20:00] Promoting sexual liberation
[2:51:14] Keys to a long, successful marriage
POWERFUL QUOTES FROM SADIA KHAN:
"Because they've got such inflated expectations of what they want and deserve sexually, they can't match with people who are on the same level as them."
“You can say the nicest things to a man, you can cook for him, you can look after him, but if you are not satisfying him sexually, he'll risk it all to be with somebody who does."
“[The miseducation of sex is] not actually teaching men how to make love, it teaches them how to make hate."
"A promiscuous woman has far more men available to her than a promiscuous man."
"I would love to redefine freedom as the ability to overcome your own impulses for your long term goals."
"What the contraceptive pill did is give [women] the same kind of mindset towards sex as men have. And I'm not saying they've got it right either, but I'm just saying in general, both men and women have become so lax with who they sleep with, and as a result, they have kids with the wrong people."
"How have we got to a society where we're using other women as a tool to increase the novelty in your relationship and then you can just throw away the next day, and yet we're claiming that we are becoming liberal and we have got women's rights."
"But who are you benefiting when we're telling women that you can be as sexually liberal as you want? The only person that benefits from that is creeping sleepy men."
"If we don't give people any restrictions, where would they draw the line?"
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Themes: Mindset, Finance, World Affairs, Health & Productivity, Future & Tech, Simulation Theory & Physics, Dating & Relationships

[@TomBilyeu]

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

[@Car_Fanatic]

If you follow her channel you will realize that her content is clickbait. Shes trying to be andrew tate. Its so odd And all she does is make clips from her old interviews instead of make new content

[@firsttenor76]

Tom! Love your content. I'm always just checking in on your videos and think... "I used to work with him" (what an honor that was, even before all your successes). Love how you've taken your success and using your wealth to make the world a better place. Thank you!

[@ImmortalAmbitions]

I'm really disappointed with you @TomBilyeu I'm not sure when you took such a weird direction in your content.But it's just not the positive vibe that you gave when I first ran across you. I wish you the best of luck, but I'm out.

[@mikerizzyraw]

She over values the value men have in his woman’s desire. Genuine desire is fleeting, like love… and oxytocin will force desire.

[@iamace3993]

hahaha

[@tooljack4439]

"The toxicity comes from the inability to walk away." I believe this is so true... for both men and women. I think Sadia is at the heart of something deep in all relationships.

[@MindsThoughts]

Left me speechless when I heard that

[@tooljack4439]

​@AugustoAlmeida-ll4pz While I don't disagree with you, I think your abuser stance is one-sided. My comment was intended to be broad. For example, a healthy relationship can become toxic, not from abuse, but from an overdependence. What makes it toxic is the failure to maintain personal boundaries and individual growth. Toxicity isn't limited to abusive behavior; it can also stem from unhealthy dynamics that stifle both parties.

[@sadiapsychology]

Thank you for having me Tom. Loved this

[@vd.s6158]

Why are you afraid to debate Rollo and Michael Sartain if you're convinced in what you say?

[@princedicky6706]

I just love u

[@julieterrell7921]

You did so good. You ruffled feathers and spoke actual truths.

[@aobakweCup326D]

​@@julieterrell7921Yoh 😮😮

[@leeanne1457]

Enjoy listening to you 😊 People hurt because you're speaking truth.

[@scarletta.w8721]

People are triggered that’s how you know she is telling some truth

[@bartgallant6897]

LOL

[@sheilalunas]

She has many haters 😂 I made a comment on one of her videos and got crushed by low confidence guys

[@Flo-ck8fx]

She straight up insults people on her socials and most things she claims is not backed with science it's just bias. Of course people are triggered.

[@floorcoatin4u]

“Science” can be very subjective and bias as well. How many things were “proven” by science only later to be disproven by “science”. Science for a lot of things is a asking 1k a serious of questions and all of a sudden its congruent across its entirety. Look the plandemic and science proving “misinformation” only later that it wasnt misinformation…. Get a couple “experts” in a field agreeing on a subject and thats the truth all of a sudden…. “Insults” are often seen that way because they true and people cant admit it….. Like calling someone overweight that is……. Is an insult???? Thats truth homie

[@Mikkall]

People say "triggered" because they foolishly think it makes them look intelligent.

[@user-zg3vm1fd9h]

To all of the young men out there. First and foremost, build yourself morally. That way you can develop self-control. Build yourself physically, because women just as much as men are visual. Stabilize yourself financially. If you do these things you want have to look for a woman, the women will find you. And because of being a moral man you will be in a better position to choose the right one. I'm wishing you success.

[@JasonActualization]

I appreciate this advice, thank you my friend. -Jason

[@user-zg3vm1fd9h]

You're welcome young man. I wish someone would have told me this as a young man. I could have better directed my time and efforts.

[@ilikepancakes2368]

You still have to chase otherwise no woman will be looking for you.

[@Mikkall]

@@ilikepancakes2368 Simping is unbecoming these days, Jack.

[@kittydaddy2023]

This is good advice, but unfortunately being a better man doesn't change what's in the dating pool.

[@NatrajChaturvedi]

Yeah I never thought about it like this. After listening to her, I gotta agree that us men share a lot of the blame for the falling standards in women we complain about. It's the behaviour we men reward in women. Right from a younger age, most of us get attracted to the more shallow, hotter and promiscuous type of girls instead of girls who are more traditional and maybe have more substance.

[@user-kn1xs8xz2r]

True

[@Arkhayn]

I can't speak for all men, but I've never been attracted to promiscuous women, and I don't think I'm the only one. It's a turn-off, even for a casual encounter, so a long-term relationship is definitely out of the question.

[@leeanne1457]

That's great but that doesn't negate the fact that culturally men have moved towards preferrimg promiscuous women.

[@yme3267]

​@@leeanne1457men like women who are promiscuous for THEM..... That's not a new or hard concept

[@Shannon_Stamm]

@@leeanne1457 yes, they forget that, otherwise OF wouldn't exist.

[@jacobclayton2954]

​@@leeanne1457Culturally to whom? Which culture? American culture? Western countries collective cultures? I agree that there is truth to what you're saying but I don't think it is the entire world because not everyones behavior in the world reflects that. I think that was an error in the video. There were generalizations about "men" and "women" as if everyone behaves a certain way when there should have been a mention of which people they are discussing specifically.

[@jasonu3741]

@@leeanne1457 The Majority of men WOULD be in a long term relationship with a woman IF a woman did not end the relationship. This is a statistical fact.

[@1brightgirl]

Love her. She may not say what many want to hear, but she's pretty accurate for the kind of relationship most of us are going for but often make excuses and lower standards when we can't find it.

[@juliciahernandez3566]

Cheaters cheat because they lack integrity and are lead by their Feelings not their conviction to be a honorable honest person. SELFISH

[@markcavandish1295]

Wrong, cheaters cheat because they want to stay in their relationships despite being treated like a step child.

[@jeffreycharles5144]

Cheaters cheat because of the pleasure principle which is the natural desire for more pleasure and less pain. The addiction to dopamine serotonin or oxytocin. When a relationship is boring and lacking, people will cheat. We do whatever is pleasurable to do. We are faithful if it feels good to be and unfaithful if it feels good to be. We are constantly bouncing from one end to the other because discipline is not a natural thing but the desire for pleasure is all natural

[@anthony212459]

We cheat because we're animals. The constraints of a relationship is a false abstract connection. We're pretending to be something we're not. Sure you can chose not to cheat but that's individual choice. By nature we're still animals.

[@jacobclayton2954]

​@@jeffreycharles5144 I think what your saying is partially correct but not universal. It's more nuanced and balanced in that there are situations where it is purely out of pleasure and other situations where it is out of unmet need. It really depends on each person's particular dynamics.

[@jacobclayton2954]

​@@anthony212459Agree completely. Also there are no real conversations about each person's desires initially so that if you're a person who would say, choose not to be with other partners or lovers, you align more with someone who would be a better fit. Also we aren't naturally monogamous despite monogamy being sold as the norm

[@JenniferLeigh-qf2tn]

People truly have no idea how often women cheat. I know married women who sneak around with exes, Christian women who cheat with married men in church and I even know one who cheated with the PASTOR... It's insanely common, but they have men absolutely deceived. Right now, I know a couple where the woman is a total nightmare and stays out all night after going to the bar solo (She's done this for years) and the guy WILL NOT leave her and says "Oh yeah, she would never cheat. I know her." ... She already cheated on you, dude.

[@belikewater7717]

Lol 😂 what cracks me up is most of these men mentioned that the cheater is cheating with are married as well. Cancels everything out. It always take two to tango.

[@PeaceIsYeshua]

Yep! I think it started in the late 60s when women had more freedom and independence. My mom remembers women cheating on their husbands back then and trying to encourage her to do the same. She was shocked by it.

[@jannichi6431]

Self esteem comes within. The spouse has blinders on for reasons. STDs are more prevalent than ever. Herpes warts is a virus🦠

[@oliverp8006]

Usually it requires one woman and one man for this....

[@CM-sy3to]

All the husbands of my ex's affair partners stayed with their wife. I'm glad to be done with my cheating husband.

[@graemeeeles1092]

Having boundaries changed my relationship game.

[@fillupbanks7885]

I am obsessed with this woman. I love how once she learned more. She changed her opinion. And she apologized about it!! WOW!! She is the queen of Prospective!!!

[@aldaley3537]

I spent 3 hours plus listening to this conversation because it was very interesting and informative.

[@Meta4Monky]

Great convo. Thank you Sadia for being open to exploring ideas

[@jarenb2331]

I think she's very aware but her blaming men and porn as the primary driver for unrealistic expectations is BACKWARDS. Women have FAR more options then men due to online dating, social media, etc. So the moment they get bored or frustrated, they move on. It's sad she can't see this is the primary driver. In this day and age, to use her example, ugly or fat women all think they can get a top tier man. No guy I know that's average thinks he can get a top tier girl "because of porn".

[@genocidelves]

Islam is right about women. Its men's fault for being weak and allowing a matriarchical society flourish in the west to begin with.

[@yobi9563]

Its not exactly backwards. I hear you on the last bit but the first bit she explained that there are far more men glorifying sex then woman. There could be 100,000 pornstars but theres hundreds of millions of men who watch them. The ratio is the problem, women are just capitalizing

[@markcavandish1295]

Absolutely Correct Jarenb… Women hold ALL of the cards in most relationships and manipulate men because they can.

[@bonnie1097]

Choose quality. That takes time that most people aren't willing to invest in.

[@JamieR]

​​I think it's often a lack of self discovery towards personal values, how to make sure there is compatibility, good communication ​skills and willingness to compromise (without dropping ones values). And considering 50% of us walk around with attachment issues, unresolved trauma and more. It's no wonder it doesn't work out. Lack of self love. Can't truly love anyone else fully without loving ourselves first. Oh, and our society breeds narcissistic traits like fruit flies. @@bonnie1097

[@lotsosoul]

Dr. Khan can’t hide the contempt she has for the men she treats. It seems living in Dubai has truly jaded her views on men.

[@JohnJohnCrusher]

I believe that to be accurate.

[@jasonu3741]

When she said Men are only going for the most beautiful you already knew this is looking at the top 5% of men in the world who some are living in dubai. The Average man finds the AVERAGE woman sexually attractive The Average woman DOES NOT fin the average man to be sexually attractive she attributes to all men what the top 5% of men do even basic statements like "these men spend 10k on a OF model" this CANNOT be the average American man... who is making 48k a year the #1 vice in America is Alcohol (its really fast food but w/e) the average man spends $4800 a year on alcohol which is oddly 10% of his yearly income... again the Idea that the average man sends 10k to a OF model is absurd and impossible. The man who spends that much on "porn" is making 150k+ a year and is nowhere near the "average" for men.

[@ThomasFaller]

The entire passage where she speaks about the need of a private life being congruent to a public like really hits the nail. That’s a mantra for happiness, right here. Thank you for that 🙏

[@chrischivz1940]

I enjoy this. Thanks for the perspectives.

[@charlesbourgoigne2130]

I learn so much from this, this is excellent content!

[@EmmainthePNW]

I really miss the old Impact Theory that was positive, and business and life goals oriented. Now it feels like the focus is on fear of the future and more negative topics. I guess maybe that gets more attention. I will always be grateful for the old videos that were dedicated to accomplishment and hope.

[@korban007]

Think so much has changed over the past 5 years we can’t help but get into other conversations which can seem negative. Also so much has changed over the past 100years we don’t understand how our species is on a decline: what’s favorable is that we can push to change these systems, ways, and ultimately starts within to ripple without. That whatever you want mirrors and those may mirror what makes you great and in turn echo into the world.

[@davidpinto7639]

Why do you see it as negative?

[@user-gz7ru2kq7n]

Real men don't cheat.

[@rimoumamari7346]

Are you a man speaking?

[@Kevin_MartinezG]

Awesome podcast Tom! Interesting topics; thank you so much! I really enjoy listening to your podcasts and learning valuable things for life from them! Thank you.

[@SimplyTiffany2009]

LOVED THIS

[@karenc.9298]

Thank-you for arguing your points so well Sadia

[@DANJEDI]

The Stoic, Insightful and Kind Hearted Sadia Khan ✨️Clear and Un Jaded

[@gregcharles92]

I haven’t watched Tom or this channel in a while. It’s incredible how he’s only gotten better at interviewing, breaking down complex and nuanced subjects, and all with incredible reasoning. Forget why I loved this channel in the first place.

[@joanna2935]

I was enjoying every minute! Great podcast.

[@chaddy-me-boy8299]

1:30 secs in, I didn’t know if I would listen to this podcast, but when she said guys assume things bc the guy picked her without her earning it, is spot on! 💯 🎯 ✍️

[@alecs536]

She mix bs with truth so elegantly

[@IndoPakCanvas]

No counter points. Just huffing and puffing away in a dark room in your home in a forested, inbred area of Arkansas. Lol

[@us5freaak]

Cause she’s only telling the truth when she’s taking the man’s side, right? Notice how she’s holding both genders accountable. And you can’t stand that.

[@jasonu3741]

@@us5freaak nah she just attributes the behaviours and actions of the top 5% of men to ALL men

[@alyzak.8997]

stop watching her if you're gonna be so useless in your criticism

[@user-mq2tn4zz1c]

@@jasonu3741 Is that not what we do for women as well?

[@DH03USMC]

Narcissism exists. Yes people have overly used the term to create a victim mindset but when you experience narcissism it is like nothing else. Can’t believe she’s a therapist. Insane.

[@CaitlinWoodstock]

She isn't. She has no clinical training.

[@juniperstardust5549]

Why are people dating Narcissists? I believe she's right in asking that question, and it's a very important question. Maybe she's right and people love narcissists because it gives them the perfect scenario to feel like perpetual victims and get attention and pity from others, which sounds like what a narcissist would do. I guess people are not really ready to have the conversation because they lack accountability and second, they love feeling like victims, and anything that will expose a narcissist would actually generate the kind of response that we see in these comments. So she's right.

[@brianmeen2158]

Sadia is spot on with her comment about narcissism .. go read around on social media 99% of people(mostly women) that have just broken up with a guy will tell he is a narcissist .. the term narcissist gets thrown around way too easily these days and it’s losing all meaning. Oh btw I find it hilarious and right when she said the people that are making the claim that their ex is a narcissist - they are the ones that are narcissistic lol

[@timothy8142]

I'll add that the "boring and mundane" of 50 years ago is a lot different than today. The "average" woman 50+ years ago was fit and relatively healthy. That "average" woman today is overweight, unhealthy, and covered with tattoos. And it's as if you have to dial down your expectations even lower than you thought they were. I came across a forum where the tall, wealthy, and average looking men can't even get anything from the bottom of the barrel. And why would they when the bottom of the barrel is getting hundreds of likes or views on dating sites and instagram.

[@maimaivaj91]

I like her much more this time around. I'm glad she's changed her mind on things after doing more research.

[@ianhamilton639]

She completely disqualified her own on viewpoint.. First half of the interview she talked about men and women in general.. Then the second half she admitted she raised her prices and focuses on rich dudes and trophy wives.. So her subjects/data points/view points are not of average people anymore, meaning she is not speaking on behalf of regular people. She needs to clarify that from the get-go, otherwise all this talk is pointless and misleading..

[@ShitJustGotReel]

I mean, inherently pointless seeing as her viewpoint only applies to around 1% of the audience 🤦‍♂️

[@ct9914]

I've always thought she's full of shit. I don't like her.

[@Dominic-tn9gv]

I love the Chemistry between Tom and Sadia. This is my favorite podcast of Sadia. Tom, you're amazing at podcasting. Thank you both very much.

[@libo6368]

Excellent interview

[@tjbroussard3524]

Confidence comes from competence and the byproduct is self esteem. Nothing artificial implemented will match because it misses authenticity.

[@Luk-ne2wb]

Hi Tom, I've been following you since 2016 and i trully adore Lisa! She is so inspiring woman and she help me to remind myself that good, inteligent and nice women still exist in this world. She was an example of female quailities I was looking for in a potential wife. Thank you both! BTW: you should reactivate relationship theory

[@grunge4ever08]

Ehhh…I can understand some of her viewpoints however I can tell she is very biased towards her own side and even admitted to sounding very different than her first time on IT. She kinda comes off as not sure or confused about her thoughts and experiences which I can understand to an extent as this subject is complex. Mostly sounds like she talking in circles but is trying to blame men for a lot of problems when it’s more of cultural and societal issues which Tom thankfully teases against what she is saying. And her belief of hypergamy as she stated early in the interview I think is kinda backwards….smh. All in all, this was a great interview.

[@coffeeandflowerz]

you literally just gave several reasons why she wasnt (a great interview)

[@grunge4ever08]

@@coffeeandflowerz …exactly the point…while she wasn’t a great interview, the interview itself and Tom’s questions and perspectives is what made it a great interview as it parsed out all the BS and showcased the bias while pointing out the actual underlying issues influencing those biases.

[@jacobclayton2954]

​@@grunge4ever08I felt a lot of that is that she is jaded by her clients. I saw that at times she was uncomfortable as though there was something else going on with her. (Perhaps anxious or another internal concern bothering her) I can tell her clients have changed her perspective. Yet, her clients are 1% of all men on earth so that in of itself is flawed, because the 1% are not reflections of all mens behaviors. I hope she takes a few regular men for the sake of seeing balance and remembering there is more of a Spectrum of the behaviors men are dealing with as they relate with women and it isn't just wealthy men who seem to have behaviors that are off putting.

[@grunge4ever08]

@@jacobclayton2954 Point well taken with her being jaded especially the male clients she had gotten were of the upper echelon of all men who are likely able to afford her premium fees as opposed to average men. Often times people with a lot more resources at their disposal have an inflated ego and skewed outlook on life and the opposite sex. Like 1st world problems…it’s seems from their worldview perspective it would be considered “the top 1% problems”….i agree that she should take a few regular men to broaden her perspective and recognize there is a spectrum. In doing this she would be able to be more effective in her efforts to make a positive impact.

[@jasonu3741]

@@jacobclayton2954 Her Clients are the wealthy men of Dubai who can afford for $2000 a hr session with her. As Dubai has no social programs for mental health/well being outside of religion the only men going to her in a financially extreme country like that are men with excess wealth and time to spend. She is not having sessions with the guys who live in cages that built that city thats for damn sure. Even when she said $50 hr clients are different than $1200 an hour clients while yes she is right but BOTH of those clients are going to be in the 100k+ club living in dubai and using a psychiatrist at all. you know when the guy who makes 48k a year see's a pyschiatrist? when the hospital offers one for free and bills his Healthcare provider.

[@Blue-ke9fu]

Love sadia. Great video!

[@deaglefly4338]

In my opinion this KZbin channel brings THE MOST VALUE to the viewers. Tom prioritizes value to us not views and IT SHOWS. Thank you Tom! God bless you!!!!

[@PeaceIsYeshua]

This isn’t valuable content. She’s not credentialed (and isn’t truthful about it), and she bullies people on her social media platforms in ways that are downright shocking. Just a quick search will reveal this. Many people are very concerned that large platforms are having her on…

[@deaglefly4338]

@@PeaceIsYeshua you’re offended or threatened by what she says and it’s blinding you from seeing the value. The podcast and episode is filled with value

[@PeaceIsYeshua]

@@deaglefly4338 I didn’t listen to what she said for more than a minute. I had a bad feeling about her, and those feelings were confirmed. Please check out what I’m talking about and be careful who you take advice from. 🙏🏻 I’m very concerned that she’s influencing people as a “psychologist.”

[@juniperstardust5549]

It's amazing to me to see, but something I've learned in life is, the most valuable and knowledgeable people that have actual and helpful advice, are usually the ones society will tell you not to listen to, to me, social disapproval is a badge of honor, in most cases, she reminds me of teal swan, wisdom that most people don't want to be shared. Sad but true.

[@PeaceIsYeshua]

@@juniperstardust5549 You’re right! But I think it’s mostly alternative shows that feature her? I typically like the guests of alternative shows, but not in this case. She also holds to Muslim ideologies, and I don’t think I need to explain why those are destructive. There’s a clip on (redd) it where she’s praising child marriage…. and she’s deceptive. Plenty of red flags. 🚩

[@satin-samurai]

Love Sadia, she is so fun to watch. She speaks candidly and from experience. Aware of her own limitations and bias. Agree with her more than disagree. 👹

[@casinisau]

Muy buena entrevista felicitaciones

[@Mariedumont]

Inflated expectations. Today you see awful men with THE attitude as if they were the hottest, most interesting, masculine and attractive men in the whole area. That makes sense.

[@spectershore4482]

😂😂 Marie tu es dure là...

[@prajwalnegi]

What men need to be/ have :- self control, leadership, virtuous, god loving, valuing commitment, high self esteem, financially well of, fit, tough mind(able to do right thing is situation favouring the wrong choice), fit, goal Oriented, delayed gratification. Not impulsive or in control of impulses. Have values & principles in place to make the right choices, have a 3rd person perspective, self respect, have the ability to walk away. FOR WOMEN( what a man who is having all the above traits wants from his partner : Ambitious, strong values and principles, only available to her partner, no male friends, god loving, understanding, accountable, less body count((no one wants to deal with a woman with trauma - due to her past) - I believe it's same for men as well, hence I belive men should only have sex with women who they consider to marry only period. Understand :- commitment, how the game works, both of them are a unit ( us against the world not each other). Understanding kids, is empathetic. To be very honest : both need to keep in mind :- what would happen if someone did this to me. Become oneself better for his/her partner that's the gift, grow together. Both need to have urges in control : stop giving these foolish dumb excuses to yourself that this is how men are designed or women are designed: u need to be responsible and make yourself to become better. Both should be brutally honest with each other. Both need to understand envy in this world and learn how to stay unaffected. Both need to firstly keep oneself in check then their partner asap anything slips. It's both. I say it again :- STOP giving excuses, stop being on the leash of your impulses, emotions : it means you are weak and there is no difference between you and an animal. Cultivate your ability to do the right thing. Be a person whom you would want to be with.... Don't say she did what he did, men are like this women are like this don't let anyone's betrayal, indeed, poor decision making, lack of intellect affect you as a person. Stick up to your moral, standards grow into it always stick by it irrespective of what others do, be a righteous partner, person, husband, wife. Date to marry. Date for intimacy, choose wisely, love is the answer. Question your beliefs, make them better. Keep yourself open to other people's opinions and understand what he/she wants to achieve or gain is there any agenda is the reason right, wrong act accordingly. Become the change you want to see in this world.

[@jannichi6431]

Thoughtful, wise advice. TY🙏

[@phoenixfire8226]

god loving? no thanks, i want my partner to be grounded in reality. it's really important.

[@JordanPamelaTisor]

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[@GiftOssai-dd6mj]

Started with 5,000$ and Withdrew profits 89,000$

[@ericwilliam2023]

I'm glad to write her tay I do hope she will help handle my paycheck properly☺️☺️☺️

[@ericwilliam2023]

Can I start with as low as $1,000?

[@hgfw9295]

Only two legal changes in the society would change the whole game: 1. Obligatory DNA test at childbirth/pregnancy 2. Obligatory prenup at marriage agreement. These two would give men so much security the whole society would benefit on all other levels

[@OArkbird]

Or Men stopping simping and holding women to higher standards like our fathers used to do.

[@hgfw9295]

@@OArkbird say this to the men who pay OF

[@OArkbird]

@@hgfw9295 😂

[@PeaceIsYeshua]

*Choose someone who **_truly_** loves and fears God, and someone who shows genuine care and **_respect_** towards you. If they don’t respect or value you, RUN!!*

[@user-kn1xs8xz2r]

Proverbs 31:10-29

[@mickcrovo5238]

I have watched her a couple of times now and I have to say that nothing she says makes any sense to me. What I see is not men with unrealistic expectations so much as I see decent, kind, attractive men getting rejected by entitled women. To me, that's as much the reality as gravity.

[@2ndstreetmarvel]

I love this woman! While I do disagree with some of her opinions on politics, and some of her other views, her core values are spot on. I have enjoyed your interviews with Sadia. Also, Tom, I like Lisa, but I could see why some others don’t, she has a strong personality, and she seems over the top at times. I think you’re all awesome!💪🏿

[@genocidelves]

Weak men create hard times. I saved you 3 and half hours.

[@yobi9563]

I see why you said what you said now lol

[@dandomx9698]

😂

[@InspiredbyDG]

😂😂😂

[@travelinventor9422]

Watch Dan Bacon. I saved you love life. You're welcome.

[@paulrutkovskis]

Sure but how do you become a strong man? You don't become a strong man by reciting I'm a strong man 12h a day. There has to be more to it.

[@user-io9gr4rj4o]

OMG, I love you both Tom and Lisa, you guys are so cute together. And, thank you for having Sadia on again.

[@sheilalunas]

Loved you guys together 👏

[@victorhankinson1530]

I think it’s funny she says she’d rather be in a country that can cut her hands off but where the rules are known and then goes on to describe her nuanced decision around not wearing a head covering despite believing that it’s morally and religiously correct. Still I think most of her take on relationships is fairly correct. Interesting discussion, thanks

[@enice617]

Great effing conversation. Need. More.

[@annale-so3fj]

it's crazy how often she interrupts him

[@aobakweCup326D]

Because she is getting exposed

[@joanaziz745]

She’s speaking for god??? Or promoting a narrow perspective of what a group of humans promote by their limited beliefs or limited understanding. Two wives?? Although she has some valid points….She also appears to speak from both sides of her mouth & hypocritical toward living up to her own belief system….???

[@georgia_swann]

With the economic situation becoming more difficult it’s going to become even harder to convince women to have kids. No matter what men say most of the burden of having children falls on the women(physical/emotional/financial) while the men only risk a paycheck.

[@Project_Freedom1]

Watching from Kazakhstan

[@jamesrobertson4098]

Love your truth Sadia ❤

[@firstsecond9569]

"In the UK there's a sort of racism where people don't judge you for the colour of your skins but for your beliefs" -Sounds like the exact inverse of racism

[@TheBrainNuggets]

Wouldn't that be beleifism then?

[@Mikkall]

Some people treat the word "Judge" like a forest. It's common sense, get over it.

[@patriceesela5000]

The power of leaving the table when respect is not served, is real

[@spectershore4482]

She shows so many red flags in her behavior 🚩🚩🚩🚩 but doesn't try to hide them (and she actually told about that). She still delivers many truths and doesn't try to trick men or women on their relation

[@defendliberty1289]

You don't ask fish how to catch fish. You ask an experienced fisherman instead.

[@phoenixfire8226]

You don't ask a fish anything, cause they don't even speak English

[@Icarianbrother]

My advice is listen to your better judgement, especially when it comes to women. But, understand that there is an obstacle in the way. If the needs of the "boys" are unmet, the "boys" will conspire against a man's better judgement. It is difficult for a man to listen to his better judgement over the incessant chatter of his disgruntled "boys". They turn into great lawyers on the side of poor judgement. Paying direct for box quiets the incessant chatter of the disgruntled "boys" and helps provide mental clarity. It is easy to not care about rejection or losing a woman that is no good for you, when you know without a doubt that your needs will be met. Just remember to always wrap it up.

[@beardelmar]

I always enjoy and disagree with (frequently) Dr. Khan. First, on the communism versus capitalism debate. Imagine there is one pie, equally divided according to socialist rules. A capitalist bakes two new pies. One of the pies is equally distributed among the holders of the first pie, according to the rules. The capitalist keeps the second pie all to himself. Everybody has twice as much pie as they had before, but the GINI coefficient has gone up - the capitalist has way more pie than the others. Second, Dr. Khan describes a sexual market place (I won't say endorses) that is brutally capitalist. The top 10% of men fcuk 100x as many girls as the "middle class" of men, and the "poor" men of the sexual market place, starve. Should female sexuality be distributed according to Marxist principles?

[@BoogieSmurf_]

she spitting facts Peace over Pleasure for sure

[@toughenupprincess1987]

The men that don’t like what Sadia said in this podcast are the men she’s described. I look after myself and I get a lot of initial attention. Many men fall of only because I refuse to send them pictures, entertain sexual conversations in the early stages of dating, sleep with them asap, express openly my willingness to get to know each other first. Sadia is telling the truth and men need to see how they’re contributing to the brokenness of our society. To many men if the woman is not twerking in public she’s boring and they don’t even want to wait to find out what she’s about in private for him and him only. That’s how men miss out on amazing women

[@jacobclayton2954]

I felt Sadia at times was flushed and anxious as well as jaded. Sometimes I felt she was spot on. Other times, not so much, but maybe because Tom brought topics which challenged her to grow and learn. I hope she is ok. I really liked what she said in that you want a woman who actually is physically attracted to you. Its critical. You cannot get with someone who isnt digging you. Especially sexually. I think that is why many issues come up in the first place. Tom I thought did a masterful job with seeking to connect with Sadia, rather than be right.

[@madsaintmatt]

She starts out so intelligent on relationships and then she shows just how ridiculously ignorant she is on economics. smh

[@rapscallion9333]

That was palpable

[@meowmix1569]

This^. Childlike thinking on economics or even defining words.

[@ianhamilton639]

yea she contradicted her ENTIRE first half of the podcast when she started talking about economics.. and was unaware of it.. made no sense. You can't say " yes, people are ultimately responsible for themselves" , but then all the sudden "i'm a communist. people aren't responsible for themselves because jeff bezos makes me buy things on amazon."

[@jasonu3741]

Cant say she started out so intelligent on relationships If Tom had bothered to ask her "what percentage of men do you think do X,Y,Z" in relationships you would see she is attributing what the richest men in dubai/around the world do to the average man. The average man in the US age 35-50 makes 48k a year... I can ASSURE you he is not spending 10k a year on OF models. 15% of marriages end due to cheating... even if we add 10% to that for all the people who went uncaught... thats still not the 90% she is painting the picture of she is doing what most women do and thats look at the men she fucks and say "all guys fuck all the time" and no its just the guys you choose... are fucking all the time

[@angies7906]

I'm curious why Tom did not have vasectomy instead his wife is on the pill for so long.🤔

[@clickmage-scalingshopifyec708]

why dont you vasectomize yourself?

[@Littleone124]

The BCP is used for more than just the protection of pregnancy. My ex had a vasectomy and I was still on the BCP because I medically needed it.

[@angies7906]

@@Littleone124 yeah sure but this is not what I'm talking about.

[@kenwizzythedj2000]

I love sadia khan great conversation

[@thetroothhurtz]

WOW!! This is eye opening holy shizzz

[@TheLightnoise]

Done @ 1 hr 55, when she said there's no such thing as narcissist's, just people who choose to be abused ? i beg your ??????? pardon .. what ? I had no choice, i was adopted by a pair of alcoholic,, narcissist child abusers. I can assure you they exist. & what you both thought that was funny ? un subbing

[@PeaceIsYeshua]

Wow! Narcissism is a very real personality disorder, and I’m VERY sorry you grew up that way! I encountered it in a man I luckily never got too serious with (because of the red flags), and wow, what a nightmare I could foresee it would be. I hope you are now surrounded by healthy minded people who love and value you! ❤

[@tc59932]

Unsubscribe from the guests channels, not the hosts channel here lol.

[@PeaceIsYeshua]

@@tc59932 It would be nice if channels would better vet their guests though. She seemed suspicious to me, so I visited her channel yesterday, and just seeing how she responds to comments and throws insults like she’s in high school was shocking and is enough evidence to not take her seriously, and she’s not a real psychologist. :/ Maybe she is controlled opposition. I actually unsubbed due to this show also, because it’s not the first time he introduced me to a guest of this caliber, and I don’t want to be exposed to these types of people anymore. :/

[@Flo-ck8fx]

She is full of shit. Nothing more to add there.

[@svandyk3]

Such an interesting topic. It's appears that men and women are becoming more and more at odds with their goals and what they value. While I agreed with most things both of you said, the one thing I was very disappointed to see get brushed over was when Sadia continued to fervently ask why men are "obsessed with vagina?" It felt personal and shameful. It is however, just biological preprogramming. They can help it no more than women's obsession with romance and "cuddling". I sure hope she comes back. I feel I have more questions than answers. Tom, I feel like you hinted at some of these inconsistencies but pulled some punches. Great work as always.

[@jacobclayton2954]

I noted a few times where he very gently but directly and indirectly shared that she may want to look inside herself for how she is thinking and take a deeper look at what she is saying. I loved how he focused on connecting with her rather than being right.

[@sorin_ion8151]

Men rely on love ,women on mind games and manipulation. No compatibility here.

[@Domzdream]

At 20:44) - here I think Tom nailed it. That’s actually it for the most part. But this is why we need each other.

[@paulaballetdancer4432]

You are SO RIGHT! My son is blind and clueless? Horrifying to watch. He refuses to believe anything I tell him I see. He puts her on a pedestal and it’s outrageously naive!!!!

[@jacobclayton2954]

Can you show him through example? Like do you have examples you can share with him that might help him? Any men in your sphere who can educate him? 🙂

[@lylyanazarela4807]

Sadia is the best ❤️

[@doremon-vy1jz]

I see Revux as a long-term hold. Great fundamentals!

[@Kenji1962Boss]

She’s marvelous! And beautiful!!

[@Flo-ck8fx]

And full of shit

[@themightyafrodite5029]

2:41:24 oddball fan here. I enjoyed the episode with you and Lisa. It was cute, informative, and intriguing.

[@jannichi6431]

Thoughtful, wise advice. TY🙏

[@mrfriendly9956]

Well, this was an entertaining one. My favorite part is at 2:58:00 and I will paraphrase (Why do men struggle to have open and honest conversations with their wife about her weight? Is it that they are not receptive?). One reason could be related to the comment regarding self help at 1:54:50.

[@AlanDV.v]

Very good observation 👍

[@dr.amytanner]

She never backs anything up by research, just all opinions that constantly contradict herself or the research.

[@jacobclayton2954]

I would love to see what she says backed in science. Because then we can see the behaviors from a scientific standpoint and they can hold far more merit than opinions.

[@SebastiaanVaz]

I strongly recommend Sadia to read the book Basic Economics by Tomas Sowell. As good as she is on relationships, she knows very little about the economy.

[@sidn515]

Sadia is gorgeous but her arguments have taken a turn for the worse in the last year. One great takeaway is "Don't fall in love with her face, but with the way she treats you" ..words to live by.

[@ShubhamSharma-mb4og]

I wonder what's wrong with Tom.

[@aobakweCup326D]

Why?? 😂😂 If you are referring to the guests lately, I get you

[@user-sf1yd4ny2i]

Same

[@kudzaimuchayi1895]

Watching from Zimbabwe

[@marcusdelictus]

do they youtube there

[@KingMinos316]

@@marcusdelictus yes, the whole villiage gathers round an old Rhodesian desktop, one of them climbs up a tree to get reception, and they watch together while pounding millet.

[@kudzaimuchayi1895]

Yes absolutely. Where you from?​@Marc-hn4eg

[@kudzaimuchayi1895]

​@KingMinos316 haha I think you have a lot of travelling to do .

[@marcusdelictus]

@@KingMinos316 wth is a rhodesian desktop????????????

[@SebastiaanVaz]

I agree with Sadia on hypergamy. Women will initially fall for a man who's superior to her in a general sense, meaning she's not able to manipulate him on a psychological level. He's "alpha" from an interrelational perspective. However, we should not forget that, according to evolutionary psychology, both men and women have two dating/mating strategies: short term and long term. And a woman who's in it for the short term has some VERY different desires in a man than one who has a long term strategy. Sadia's point rings most true when the woman has a short term strategy (casual sex, having fun, flirting, etc). Though, when the woman is looking for the father of her children, she will be more hypergamous in the traditional sense where he should not only be smarter than her, but also more successful/higher status.

[@louisifsc]

I couldn't hang in there until the end, too much subjectivity, shaky arguments and stereotyping. I am starting to think that any serious conversation on this topic needs to take into account that what men and women "want" varies based on many factors, but especially depending on what stage of life they are in. I would like to see studies where the data is stratified by age. Even with this level of analysis, you can't really measure maturity or personal development, so it's still difficult to get a good overall picture. We look for VERY different things in a girlfriend/boyfriend as compared to a wife/husband. People are very capable of doing a 180 when their mindset changes, and they start thinking about settling down. It is extremely difficult to try and generalize with such a dynamic at play. Much more nuance is required if we are ever to get to the bottom of this.

[@jacobclayton2954]

I agree. Nothing is ever black and white.

[@yobi9563]

This has been so informative. I actually discovered something about myself through this talk. Thank you guys

[@carollancianese1371]

I watched every podcast where Sadia is invited ! I wouldn't know where to start to thank you for the knowledge , therefore power, you're giving us😊 I appreciate you guys, thank you so much. Love from Italy💚🤍❤

[@vishnurajput3008]

Just shifted my focus to presales, especially Revux. Early investment is key!

[@ninjaskills24]

She's wrong in thinking that men fall in love through sex....thats why guys can be promiscuous and women cant...she was thinking from a women's standpoint... Also men like to teach a woman about sex...if she's going to stay. Men are as much attracted to promiscuous women, as women are attracted to short, weak, broke men

[@fruitsarelife7073]

You are speaking from a non-promiscuous standpoint. The reality is most men are promiscuous themselves, which is why it is possible for women to be promiscuous. The men are the leaders of society. Women just start to follow what men do.

[@Doct0rGonZo]

Straight to the point.

[@jannichi6431]

Most men DO think with the package below the belt, primarily. Men can reproduce into their seventies,.women cease at 42. This disparity levels and evens out in sixties. Basic Biological instincts have everything to do with sexual relationships. Was the 'security' aspect discussed? I may have missed it if it was. Of course, my opinion is just that...an opinion.

[@jannichi6431]

Biological instincts are STRONG. Child bearing years and security are more important to women. Men can reproduce into their seventies often.

[@ImmortalAmbitions]

And i'm sorry , but I think your psychologist is only sharing a certain viewpoint. Because I can tell you right now. I've never gone into a relationship thinking that the man is going to cheat automatically. And I can tell you multiple times that my friend's partners and even my own husband has gone into it, assuming that the female is going to cheat. So I feel like her perspective is only true for about 50% of people.Because I've definitely seen the other 50%.So anytime that any group assumes that the other group is always coming at something from a certain perspective.You're going to miss half of the information and half of the accuracy.

[@CaitlinWoodstock]

She isn't a psychologist. She has zero medical training. In the USA this would be considered fraud... you're not allowed to impersonate a doctor. I think she holds residency in Dubai so I'm not sure how this applies in her case.

[@onlinenow1]

@@CaitlinWoodstock She does have a bachelors in psychology and even a masters degree in education and developmental psychology. You got upset about something she said and now you are trying to discredit her.

[@tjbroussard3524]

The primary logic for most women is based in caution (not exactly fear). The primary logic for most men is based in aggression (not exactly anger). The two navigate this among everything else hopefully reaching a center point or middle ground. Both seeking peace a security with each other. Complimentary forces. Her rewarding bad habit analogy is a chicken or the egg argument. I think it was a great follow up to challenge it with the human tendency to capitalize on convenience and needs.

[@HollanderEdewing]

Social media. Weed drugs & alcohol is ruining the culture

[@rosebud679]

I'm intrigued by these conversations and can't help to feel immense joy & contentment in finding Islam.

[@keepingup2952]

Yeah, we all learned about this on Jerry Springer and Maury Povich. Why are women not required to register for The Draft? Equality Now!

[@impactvolleyball3688]

It’s funny how people take sound bites out of these conversations and try to extract a black or white truth. She doesn’t truly believe that narcissists don’t exist. It’s a statement made as a part of an entire conversation and that conversation is made around two individuals bodies of thought. When you strip away the context from any statement you can make anybody sound bad.