Before you marry her, ask her this question to see if she will obey you.

[@gafcat585]

I believe that as men we should ask ourselves the same questions... especially the first one.

[@sanane66543]

yea imma(guy top 1% 99%halal) ask myself to not wear makeup or revealing clothes so i can show obedience to everyone

[@gafcat585]

@@sanane66543 ?

[@iloveindia2444]

very true why should a woman should always put under scanner.

[@zain1132]

Obviously you'd only ask that first question if you were practicing yourself

[@MrAlyyy]

​@@sanane66543 If you're guy then you should ask yourself that do you lower your gaze? As for women ,modesty in clothes is important while for men lowering gaze is important.

[@senoritaarmy9006]

My father died two years ago. Please make him dua and those people who died also. MAY ALLAH grant them to jannah

[@user-bp3tv4cg2t]

Ammen

[@maryamibrahim7537]

Ameen,may Allah console you

[@leeghany5163]

He is very proud of you. ❤

[@syedashahgillani6979]

Aameen

[@Bluebell132]

The woman you marry will be the mother of your children, choose wisely.

[@iamapokerface8992]

cringe

[@cocobeh]

@@iamapokerface8992 its not cringe its true

[@faiz1857]

​@@cocobeh bcs some doesnt even marry and have a child

[@cocobeh]

@@faiz1857 ye

[@natevic1867]

Men will still always choose looks first. Let’s stop lying to ourselves.

[@Shtriga_34]

As a woman i think these are important questions. However the last one, i dont know about that. Find a less intrusive way to say it because up untill that time that woman has dressed up for herself, if you ask her this, even a woman that's already modest in her dressing will be wary of you. wary of the fact that we aren't even married and he's already trying to control me, who knows wt happens next, maybe he's one of those super controlling guys. This is how women think. So try finding a way to test or question her without being direct about it. A woman is an emotional being, you might just make her feel trapped and she might withdraw. You are analyzing her but she's also analyzing you, your tone, your behaviour everything.

[@naghmatalat4257]

I definitely agree with you, you maybe a good person but if you ask such a question, the girl can think you are super controlling or that will make you such a person in her mind . That will not be good for your relationship

[@mohsinakhan1511]

I definitely agree with you sister, even for me if my husband does this in this tone then it will be like a shock for me Or for any girl who dress modestly or put minimal makeup

[@MaShah21]

SubhanAllah exactly what I was thinking. Personally that last question would make me uncomfortable

[@kthebaws712]

@@MaShah21 why? What kind of alien world do u female muslims live in? Did u not know the prophet pbuh that u claim to follow publicly cursed the women who wear perfume in public????? Let alone the makeup and sexualised hijabs????? Hahahaahhaah yall women are cursed and u know it. U wanna justify it by all means but the truth is islamically u are not allowed to beautify urself in public or even leave the house without a mahram!!!! So shame on u women

[@MaryamQasi]

Yes you’re right, last question made me feel uncomfortable to be honest. I hope my future man would be humble enough hope testing

[@ibrmk2610]

And every women should ask the man these questions Edit: Wow, don’t ask about the makeup and that’s it don’t act like you don’t know

[@YoYo-kw3rm]

For men the questions are different 1) fajr 2) relationship with his mother 3)relationship with female’s in general 4) not sure about the last question, maybe something like would he take care of bills and expenses

[@ibrmk2610]

@@YoYo-kw3rm yeah but it is better to ask about his relationship with both parents it is better to know

[@afei4989]

​​@@ibrmk2610 if the husband is good with his mother, then the wife better prepare to give in

[@ibrmk2610]

@@afei4989 not always being good with your mother does NOT mean the person would be good with everyone

[@Lemons19902010]

​@@YoYo-kw3rm I like those questions, alhamdulillah

[@MobileMasseur]

The most important question you should ask for your to be wife is (Do you pray, are you willing to learn and grow in faith with me, Is it ok for you to accept me earning this much money, (standard living cost, etc) tell her you don't want a big nikah and if she agrees, you want to make the nikah simple and halal. From there, enjoy the journey as husband and wife to get closer to Allah. This is me speaking from personal experience, this is what I did. There is no perfection in marriage, you will struggle but it is how you both can come together to solve it. The best is to advise each other and stand together in remembrance of Allah Subhanawataala.

[@Livingindeception]

underrated comment

[@NM-ft9pb]

May Allah reward you, you think how people should islamically but it’s rare these days.

[@SF-jf3xv]

It's hard to find a woman that you can talk to like this

[@hahahaHaa-gq8bv]

Masallah

[@Sunny.Williams]

This is great advice. Jakazallah.

[@areebahayat1308]

Plz plz be nice to ur wife, this is not about make up or dressing it's about respect and obedience. U don't necessarily have to test her on things that took her hours of hard work to do, she probably did it for u. u never know. So plz be mindful and mature about things like this. Little kindness and respect won't hurt. Jazakallah

[@ebuslamentee5963]

Yeah but still what hes saying is that if your wearing a crap ton of makeup and you look like a clown, then you should at least be respectful if you have a reasonable objection at least

[@rangerbubblegum7509]

i like these comments. rather than being bitchy and toxic about it you explain your point in a nice way. thats the difference between muslim and western women

[@hamoodtatari]

I agree wallahi, it all depends I mean she doesn’t have to be obliged to obey all the time. If she took so long to do it for me then that would be quite annoying to her

[@jinhub2175]

Men shouldn't be "testing" women in the first place. Its a woman's job to do so and its the man that has to prove himself to be worthy of the woman he wants to marry.

[@user-cf6dn5tg4f]

@@jinhub2175 no.

[@NorrinRadd1984]

As a recent revert I will never want my wife to be "obedient" to me she is not a child and she is not my child. Allah SWT created her with her own mind and her own free will. As her husband i can ask her but never command her.

[@TaelynLangstaff-jd8zh]

Yes she is not a object she is a living emotional human being who deserves to wear and be treated with respect as well.

[@ybcaramel]

May Allah grant you whatever your heart desires. Beautiful comment 🤲🏼

[@ahabarhossain773]

Allah literally uses the word obedient for woman's roles to their husbands in the Qur'an. Yes, she is not a child, but a man is the leader of the family. How is he supposed to lead the family if he is not sure whether his wife will listen to him or not? The Prophet SAW said that obedience to one's husband is one of the four things that a woman can do to guarantee entry into paradise.

[@fridawsbamba1641]

Hope u don't change ur mind in the future

[@mynmeisname4825]

​@@fridawsbamba1641he's contradicting hadith who would u pick? Prophets saying or emotions?

[@sweettea1193]

Ah the first question I'd fail 🤭 I completely respect and obey both parents, have no contact with non mahram men aside from a few cousins, and makeup is a no-no while hijab and abaya is a must. But damn, I sleep through Fajr regularly and end up praying it when I wake up. It's the only prayer I struggle with. Wallahi I need to be better

[@junaid7530]

sleep early, set up multiple alarms starting half an hour before fajr. maybe it it work

[@fazleahmad9945]

May Allah make it easier

[@hafiznuman7073]

At least you acknowledge this and thats a good starting. one day surely u will be successful in that as well if you keep reminding yourself.

[@AbdAllah_54564]

May Allah make it easy for us Believers Ameen.

[@sweettea1193]

@@AbdAllah_54564 ameen

[@jklmnoqr]

A man who is NOT her husband has absolutely no right to expect her to be 'obedient' to him. Dogs are 'obedient' not women. He could mention that the dress seems to be not as modest as her other clothes & the same with the makeup. You cannot TELL her to take it off. You can just mention it politely & see what she does. I would NEVER allow my daughter to marry anyone so controlling who seems to think he can usurp her father's role. THAT, on the part of a man indeed is disrespectful.

[@kingmosesix432]

I think he meant respect for his role as the leader of the family

[@percysbluefood]

Finally someone with a bit of common sense!! This is what is wrong with the Muslim society these days!! The objectification of women is real.

[@muks_h6991]

I totally agree with you man! Nobody, not even a husband, can order you to do something or not. A modest women alread knows how to dress and conduct herself well. She doesn't need to take someone's orders of what is appropriate. This is a controlling mentality that everyone expects Muslim women to tolerate and normalize in marriage. Muslim women are smart and know their religious/moral boundaries. Period

[@ahabarhossain773]

No, this is not disrespectful at all. The whole point of the Islamic way of marital engagement involves the potential spouses getting to know one another and whether either of them is prepared for marriage. In Islam, the man is undoubtedly the leader of the family and it is incumbent upon the wife to be obedient to her husband. And yes, we will use the word obedient because that is what Allah says in the Holy Qur'an. Yes, a wife has rights and a marriage is based on love and mercy and it is haraam for a man to abuse his wife, but a wife is in general obliged to obey her husband in all permissible matters. The Prophet SAW emphasized obedience to a husband as one of the four things that a woman can do to guarantee entry into paradise. So yes, it is perfectly fine for a man to ask such a question for his potential wife because this is what is expected of an Islamic marriage. Him not being her current husband is irrelevant because he has come to be a potential husband. It may make some women uncomfortable but that doesn't mean that you can disobey your husband. Likewise, it is perfectly fine for a woman to ask her potential husband if he is willing to financially provide for every single necessity within the family because in Islam, it is a man's responsibility. Should the woman be seen as "money obsessive" and "greedy" when she asks such questions? No! This is her right to be financially provided for. If the man or the woman are uncomfortable or not able to currently uphild their obligations ordained for them by Allah within a marriage, then they shouldn't be getting married in the first place!

[@trusfrated4645]

As a woman, the last question depends on the way you say it

[@nothingwhatever7046]

u say it in a better way

[@trusfrated4645]

@@nothingwhatever7046 yes. Good communication is the key!

[@doomdesire3460]

​@@trusfrated4645read ehat he said again

[@idkbro4932]

Not really, the question is worded fine. Its just that influence from liberalism and feminism has led people to not follow obedience to the husband in the good things he asks the wife to do.

[@Minnie_silvertears]

​@@idkbro4932 you people put obeying your husband out of context we're grown women who know right from wrong so you can wuit your little power trip

[@zakrabegum6557]

This man has a lot of knowledge alhamdulliah that is critical for our young to learn and adhere to, to make life easier for themselves, the religion of Islam is simple we make things complicated by looking away from the religion and wanting acceptance from this world forgetting about the next.

[@adrianSlasher]

Because young generation, whether it is muslim or non muslim think they still have long way ahead, so they strive for this dunya without thinking about the afterlife. So acceptance from other human being is what most of us prefer than the acceptance from Allah. May Allah SWT protect us from the hellfire.

[@arifahmustafa2768]

He is a boy

[@zakrabegum6557]

@@arifahmustafa2768 maybe to you he is, but to me an many others he is a man 👨

[@Adam10412]

@@arifahmustafa2768 and you're a feminist

[@trxp_raised2003]

@@arifahmustafa2768 boys don’t have beards

[@sarahsheikh9439]

It’s very sad that in fact men just look for beauty and they don’t even care about a person’s good habits. My husband left me and our child for another woman inspite of me being in hijab, religious, respecting him and his family. And for second marriage also men just want good looks and woman who is much much younger than them. No one wants a nice and caring person. No one wants responsibility only fun! So they want the woman to work also and take care of her expenses. At least this is what I have seen.

[@moynabegum8923]

You are beautiful amazing in shaa Allah, Allah will bless you with someone bigger better and greater that will be the coolness of your eyes. Be strong. You will be in my duas sis.

[@ebuslamentee5963]

Thats evil and haram

[@Danielajorge14]

I 100/percent agree with you same with me it's sooo sad

[@tahirballikaya213]

You have met the wrong men. Almost all men in my circle would want a women who stays at home and is obedient. As for beauty, yeah that's how Allah has created us, this is how we are attracted to women in the first place.

[@tenyohaia]

I feel you, they want girls that look young and beautiful, slim and wears fitting clothes...I been kinda on the big size my whole life and for the last 10 years i been rejected from good marriage cuz when they see me they immediately just turn away... I have always wore modestly, I never once hurt anyone, but they didn't even try to know me, immediately just rejects me cuz of my outside , they don't know that I care about family, I love children (as I also teach childrens), I can be a caring person (most ppl describe me that way), as Muslim wr were taught not to mingual with boys and i stayed to it, but not know it was going to cause me waiting in line to marry forever. I want to have a family, a loving husband and children's, but all because I don't fit in the category of the standard set by the men. I m 30 plus now and still single, I tried loosing weight and ended up in hospital couple of times, they have no idea what we go through for marriage...and still have all these demands...may Allah shines all the girls life in good homes and with good people

[@mubbashirgear]

My man just bodied a lot of people.😭😭😭😭💀💀

[@manino5872]

😂😂

[@Dont-worry1618]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@amirmir3244]

😂😂 your comment “ bodied”

[@mubbashirgear]

@@amirmir3244 👅

[@iamapokerface8992]

cringw

[@jeenadjo1238]

She'll be your wife and the mother of your kids, not an obedient slave. Choose your words carefully.

[@sanane66543]

obedient is not slave you absolute brainwashed westerner. are you not obiedient to yo boss? or Allah? its not being a slave its showing love

[@zain1132]

Or she could end up being a burden who goes out with other men and divorces you while taking half your money and the kids. These questions are important

[@sanane66543]

@@zain1132 thats why you marry islamically without state involved brother.. if she does not accept you already know you dodged a bullet 😂

[@DarkKnight-dk3bf]

when wearing modest clothes become slavery. 😂😂😂LoL the only person she should care is her husband not some random European beta C**k .

[@ruhethahmed1402]

Your wife should still be obedient to her husband.. nothing about being an obedient slave

[@inshafatima4778]

Assalamualekum brother why don't u suggest some questions to us (sisters) to ask a guy before marriage

[@mkt106]

Cuz hes talking to majority guys.

[@c.n.3938]

Wa aleykum salam wa rahmatullah

[@turtle_truck1331]

U can ask men the same questions 🤷

[@abdurehmanmalik8974]

I feel it’s best to look for such advice from sisters.

[@apachekafka773]

This is a short...go look for the complete video don't be lazy. The advice is both ways

[@Chatelaine0]

Even "disobedient" women deserve to be married. Many Niqabis ended up opening everything and many uncovered women end up covering and even leaving their mixed careers. These are not good questions to ask. What is more critical is understanding the Aqeeda and having a common goal and understanding of what a family means and what is roles are required from each partner. Far too many good people are not married these days and the Fitna is rampant because of these Bid3ah standards. A woman can be married for her beauty, her wealth/career/connections, her name/ethnic tribe, and lastly her deen (which actually refers to her way of life..not her PhD in Shariah for example). We need to look long term and to solve the problems at hand.

[@sanane66543]

yea deserve to be married by soy weak loser men. a man which has things together almost never wants a disobedient women because those succesfull men have certain characteristics which goes against it

[@sanane66543]

Islam also tells women to be submissive obedient to the husband so its not biddah

[@Chatelaine0]

@@sanane66543 Don't confuse otger religions and cultures with Islam. There is no Quranic proof which says women should submit to their husbands. Men and women in the eyes of Allah are equals (except for the man's duty to be a spender/provider and characteristics specific to men like 9n average height). Very few Hadeeths talk about the virtue of a wife's obedience - but that is limited to acts of worship and sex. She has a say on how things are ran in her house and marital affairs is not aupposed to be a mute follower. Let me remind you in the Seerah..The Prophet's wife Khadija (pbuthem) was a wealthy business owner with Caravans stretched from Byzantea to Abyssinia. That's like owning and running DHL and all their fleets in addition to supplying goods and workforces ...like owning and running Walmart. She was not the humble mumble type. Neither was Aisha pbuh..a woman who never shyed to express her distate or jealousies publicly to the Prophet pbuh. Also, Islam made women on a level plane as men when Allah commanded to stop the murder of young girls and to allow women to give equal Bay3ah (voting rights) where a woman's vote is equal to a man's vote. Its only in giving testimony (court) where women are asked to be in twos because many women might get nervous and forget, so her friend or other companion can remind her and affirm what had occured. We Muslimahs are not obliged to obey husbands who are not Godly or in a state of diaobedience to God. We are not obligated to obey no one but Allah and our parents/leaders. Anything beyond that is Shirk...why would women obey a man who can divorce them anytime and be a complete stranger? We are not Christians or Jews bound by an eternal covenant to our husbands or else face damnation ıf we leave them. Alhamdulillah for Islam and the dignity and flexibility is brings where women are agreeable towards men by free will without subjugation because the men themselves are virtuous, caring, and exemplary as was the Propher pbuh.

[@sanane66543]

@@Chatelaine0 it litterally says wife has to obey men of its reasonable 😂 what are you talking about

[@hibbaimtiaz7947]

@@Chatelaine0 Thank you for laying it out perfectly. Marriage in Islam is more about the sense of "Mutual respect & Understanding." That totally does not mean that someone has a right to order around the other, completely disregarding their spouse's sense of intellect, Men and Women alike. It's unfortunate to think that Muslims with such views often forget that Men and Women in Islam were made different but at the very same time equal.

[@rashedahmed729]

The girl after me asking those questions: *"You're so over protective, I'm sorry but this ain't gonna work"*

[@mohammedali-rh7cq]

Overprotective is a great quality of men,

[@nathangrey6236]

Good low quality women left you

[@forctis4672]

I hope all the men asking the women these questions are asking themselves the same thing

[@issawicheima8128]

First question ✅ her faith Second question ✅ her behaviour Third question ❌ tell me you’re insecure without telling me Fourth question ❌ trying to be controlling There’s so many other important questions you could’ve asked. Allah knows best

[@user-bo4hw9mo4r]

Obedience to the husband is very important. Husband has every right to tell his wife what to wear

[@yobro6053]

Guy friends whilst married to a man? Ehhhhh no.

[@percysbluefood]

​@@user-bo4hw9mo4r it is not lmao. You can ask her nicely, and sit and talk your issues out. Your wife is not a dog or a slave to obey you. Keep that in mind.

[@andithanoj8372]

​@percysbluefood that is what Islam says. Not sure why it has to be taken to the extreme of being a slave or a dog. Obedience doesn't mean her opinion isn't heard on anything

[@issawicheima8128]

@@andithanoj8372 Us women we don’t have a problem with being obedient to our husband. It comes naturally when we have a loving, understanding,respectful and providing husband. But nowadays there’s a bunch of guy not even fulfilling their responsibilities asking you to be obedient.

[@PureGamingpro]

Before u ask make sure ur a reflection of those questions in some way. I mean the characteristics they will show

[@Ajax-zx9pz]

yeah you dont want to come off as an hypocrite

[@udontevenwannaknowbruv]

Exactly

[@paulamoogan8499]

Extremely valid point that needed to be said in the man’s video but for some reason was left out and the focus was all on what the woman needs to be for the man … it goes both ways in a marriage not one way … in this case it seems to be coming from one way … the man’s way

[@yuppieyup8188]

​@paulamoogan8499 because he is talking about what men needs to ask and not the other way around lol. This whataboutry is weird and unwarranted. Cancel anyone who advises men against women. To hell with feminism

[@ihalludbA]

Facts!

[@sazaydehmed9819]

The problem is 90%boys won’t ask bcoz that’s not what they want

[@lilyflower7385]

This is very true even if they are practising they don't want a simple girl they like the modern hijab look.

[@doumbouya2355]

That’s not true. A good Muslim man would want a practicing Muslim woman and not a modern hijabi girl

[@AliAhmad-sn2ce]

@@lilyflower7385 BRUHHH what are you saying! That’s what most of the «PRACTICING» Muslim men if not ALL would want… 🙃

[@kaktusdesiberie7196]

I disagree. In fact it depends of what kind of man you meet. If you meet regular Muslims I agree. If you look for a religious man they go 💯 for good girls. They can sacrifice a lot about looks in order to have a good wife, they know this life is temporary.

[@manino5872]

@@lilyflower7385 that’s fair tho, if a man is happy and a women is happy who are we to get in the middle of that, slowly they will both become closer to allah

[@galaxyx4851]

I would use more silent methods to ask these as well, to root out any possible lies and to see if they contradict themselves. Don't ask these questions directly, make them silent and unnoticeable and do it after to breach their initial tone, so this way you get an honest answer

[@sabeehkhan8638]

Please could you give an example?

[@galaxyx4851]

@@sabeehkhan8638 Firstly, ask questions that obviously need an honest answer. Now that you have done this, you will need to breach their layer of defense when it comes to words. How you breach this depends on the girl. Now subtly throw in the questions, or parts of the questions you wish to ask, and piece together everything. You should wind up with all the answers you need.

[@daisyrose-kp4rb]

Most men want a beautiful girl. Everything else comes later.

[@HamadiENT]

Beautiful girls are everywhere one that checks all those boxes aren’t

[@zainababdulhameed6561]

Beautiful face ends after some time while a beautiful soul always remain the same

[@jjama8668]

You can also have a beautiful girl, nothing wrong with that, but make sure she fears Allah, and she would mostly likely fear violating your rights, being a great wife in return .

[@MuhammadSalman-ph9iw]

​@@zainababdulhameed6561thats the answer i was looking for simple and straight forward👍

[@TaelynLangstaff-jd8zh]

But making her obey your every command Is like treating her like she some slave so I highly recommend not to do that, and if your only with a women just for her looks then just stop you are not worth her time and efforts anyways.

[@dishatabassum8912]

The last question made me think "I am good being single, Thank you 🙂" If in the first meeting a man asked me this then it's will give me the image that he is super controlling, and might even have a thing about humiliating me in public. Because I have seen man who makes their wives dress a certain way and then in public gatherings stare at other women openly. And then loudly complaint how their wives have let themselves go after the marriage.

[@noumanahmed5441]

It's sad that there are plenty of muslim women like you , who have been brainwashed into this feminism bullshit. Read about the women of Islam who came before you, I'm not saying that us men are perfect, but most of us follow our Prophet Muhammad pbuh footsteps and expect our future wife to be pious as well. Don't forget that the man has authority over his womenfolk, and this is mentioned in the Qur'an. If you reject the Qur'an, you can no longer be a Muslim . Allah knows best. May Allah guide us all.

[@mikaeelr5971]

@@lostinthedunyathey still go out there way to look at women with makeup on if they are married I’m a woman btw

[@meology8510]

it's wrong to not lower your gaze from someone rather than your spouse, that's something i agree on. however, i don't agree that if you're married you don't have any sense of protectiveness over your spouse & allow them to fully reveal their beauty in public, & thus have other members of the opposite gender magnified to them. so both should fulfill their responsibility that Allah commanded them with.

[@user-cf6dn5tg4f]

I you’re ever asked that by a man voice your opinion! He’ll know to avoid you 😂

[@yuppieyup8188]

Yeah, voice your opinion when being talked to so they know what's up. We are actively trying to avoid feminists who will consider everything controlling. Muslim feminists are the worst because they want us to uphold Islamic law when it comes to paying for their stuff but do not uphold the law they are responsible for

[@aira6951]

There is no functionality in any of those questions. These are basically to make sure the girl doesn't have a mind and thought of her own.

[@AAA-xc4zm]

Can you explain more?

[@aira6951]

@@AAA-xc4zm As the man said it is to test the girl's humbleness and obedience. Humbleness is a virtue that all humans must have but on what grounds is anyone testing obedience? Respect for your spouse goes both ways but obedience is for relationships like master and slaves not spouses.

[@AAA-xc4zm]

@@aira6951 Are you a Muslim?

[@aira6951]

@@AAA-xc4zm yes but I don't know how that matters

[@AAA-xc4zm]

@@aira6951 It's because in Islam obedience to your husband is an integral part of being a wife. It might be a hard pill to swallow for some women. But it's the truth

[@sajid279]

My suggestion would be to see the behaviour of his/her siblings and family members around him/her...that will tell about his/her temperament...

[@sweettea1193]

Ah that's not always fair because many people have pretty wild family members. How a member of our family behaves is out of our control

[@salie2022]

@@sweettea1193 i agree with you

[@smeshcel3025]

they arent gonna have a ufc event in the house when you come over. everybody is gonna act on their best behavior

[@sajid279]

@@smeshcel3025 Talk to them before going for marriage proposal...ask their neighbours and friends indirectly about their character..

[@Series_here12]

​@@sajid279 lol you ask others about your future spouse. And imagine that other people are jealous of your future spouse. And fill your head with bullshit lies.

[@dalhaanu]

As a women, these questions are it Allahuma Barik.

[@isthi000ify]

They need to ask us men this too 100%

[@peaceful.warrior333]

Please make video for women regarding the same

[@doumbouya2355]

Well, if u ask me, the number one thing the women will ask is are u interested in a second wife ???😂😂😂😂😂😂just kidding there...But Actually, number 1-3 in the video are also the same with men if u ask me and not just applicable to women 1)when was the last time u slept through fajr 2) what’s your relationship with your father/mother 3)what’s the nature of your relationship with women in general ? And then u can add other things u would like to know like his salah, his iman, if he drinks or not, if he smokes etc

[@duskairable]

It goes both ways

[@umm7641]

Brother talked about what women should ask in this same video. This is just a cut out clip made into a short. u should be able to find it if u browse through this brothers channel

[@kicou88]

​@@doumbouya2355 Yeah I also think it might be something like that and maybe also "Is this your first marriage?" to know if they already had a story with someone, why it ended if they want to talk about it of course and then to know their view of what's a family. Their plans for the future, how many kids they want to have...

[@homeschoolindianmom]

​@@doumbouya2355 I don't understand why anyone who lives in a western country would ask this because it is illegal anyway. I also don't understand why one would think not having more than one wife is better. Why ask this question from the start?

[@lucky41210grl]

The primary purpose of a spouse is to help you find peace. If you are looking for someone who is always obedient, you are talking about a slave.

[@mohammedali-rh7cq]

Obedience of the wife to her husband is a command from Allah, it is not something that men made up.

[@mynmeisname4825]

Ibn Hibbaan narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadaan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: ‘Enter Paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.’” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 660.

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

Yeah I have LOTS of problems with the last q, tho it may be for reasons that are very specific to my own circumstances. I used to be married, my ex was very jealous and he would be upset if I dress up and wear makeup when we go out for anything even work. Consider that I already wore very minimal makeup to begin with and my clothes are modest and not form fitting. It got to a point that he even makes a big deal about me doing regular skincare. I became very drab and unkempt just bcs I am tired of having to argue for my self care EVERY SINGLE TIME. And guess what? Our marriage ended because he cheated with a girl who wears a pound of makeup and dresses like a hoochie. There were other reasons that already weaken the bond between us, but the infidelity was the last straw. So my take on this is that a person who is excessively jealous and restrictive of my looks would very likely be the cheater himself. So if I were asked this question, I would run out the door before you can demand an answer. No sir, thank you. Good luck in your future endeavors. Byeeeee.

[@jklmnoqr]

@continuousself-improvement1879 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 CONGRATULATIONS on being delivered from a living hell! I'm SO glad you escaped that despot!!!

[@tuhin9910]

makeup is haram to wear if men can see you

[@mynmeisname4825]

Just cuz your husband was bad doesn't mean every man who wants his wife to not be looked by man is bad. Any real man won't want men stare at his wife is it that hard to understand 😭

[@ishratjahan2999]

And yet men only look for slim, young and fair skinned girl😂 the first condition is that the girl has to be slim, not too short or too tall, below 21 years old, fair skinned. It doesn't matter how pious, patient, and skilled the girl is. If she doesn't check all those categories, they'll look for someone else to marry.

[@Danny-dh2pg]

Being young is a chance every woman has. Being slim is what almost all women can do if they make the effort. Men will go for all skin colors.

[@user-cf6dn5tg4f]

I guess I’m not a man

[@Eren-yt7hh]

​@@Danny-dh2pgwell everyone has a preference but character is more important of course

[@saniyasiyana613]

Not only the wife should be respectful and obedient the husband also should be respectful and obedient Love respect and value for your words goes both ways not only the wife or women

[@rizwan1998]

He never mensioned it is just for the guys. The fact that he says if you are a guy does not exclud the women. He is only speaking to his brothers. Not everything is about if this then that.

[@coffe2270]

the husband should be obedient? this is not from islam

[@jjama8668]

@@DankWasTakenbut not be obedient, if someone has authority over someone else, they can surely be loving, caring and respectful towards them, but being obedient towards them defies their authority over them, it doesn’t make sense

[@idkbro4932]

The husband has authority over the wife in the good things he asks her to do. The Qurʾān nor Sunnah doesn’t exactly mention this same role for the women. You can be respectful to the wife without being obedient.

[@mynmeisname4825]

Where does it say husband gotta be obedient? Cuz had it been necessary it would be in Quran and hadith. As for women being obedient that's in hadith Ibn Hibbaan narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadaan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: ‘Enter Paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.’” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 660.

[@fez6501]

I smashed it. Thank you my Lord, my master, my sustainer, my provider, the one who blesses me even though I am unworthy of his love, favour and blessings. Truly blessed May Allah swt have mercy on us all especially me that I may please my Lord the one and only God Allah swt. Ameen

[@helenandersson1320]

Everyone that haven't repented to Jesus Christ being our only hope and savior, is a follower of satan.. Your ignorant as it also says in the Quran to worship the Messiah that is Jesus Christ. Educate yourself about the Quran versus the Bible but not with the help of family or your Iman, as they will most likely lie to you

[@Razia10376]

I frowned so hard at the last question. I felt intrusive somehow. I will bolt if he asked me this in such a tone and I know most women will too. I don't know, maybe too much controlling attitude?

[@fathimazohra4265]

"Evil women are for evil men Pious women are for pious men, Impure women are for impure men Pure women are for pure men."- surah Nisa. Allah's Qur'an is an absolute truth. 🕋

[@omaima883]

I have all these characteristics alhamdulliAllah TabarakaAllah but I have not yet had anyone ask me these questions.. I pray to Allah for me and for all those who are in the marriage age❤ may Allah give us zawj salih

[@Better.without.youuuu]

My answers 1. The last time I slept through fagir was at 11 years old because I didn’t get enough sleep and it was Ramadan 2. I respect my father and I still talk to my father and I forgive him because of what he put me through, (I don’t stay with my father anymore) 3. I stare down when I go out , and I don’t talk to men unless it’s my grandfather or uncles or father. 4. I would say “if you don’t like it I will change, whatever you don’t like I don’t like.” In general I don’t wear makeup . Alhumdlilah 🤍

[@samikshagoyal7707]

If you are a woman, I am really concerned about women’s rights in Islam 😢 Your answers are as if you are a slave. I am not blaming you for anything but I as a Hindu Goddess worshiper find it really concerning 😔

[@miss4862]

Mashallah!!!

[@Better.without.youuuu]

@@miss4862 🩷🩷

[@projecteventhorizon1670]

Brother, thanks for your advice!

[@hawamohammed2183]

I grew up with 9 brothers i get along with boys than girls doesn't mean i don't respect myself

[@2590muhashong]

But ofc, you avoid relationships with non mahrams. You have your brothers, you wouldn't need other men unless for marriage

[@mirzabaig8522]

Yes sister, when they say this they dont mean shy yourself away from a man when he just wants to ask a simple question or for example, a cashier is a man and you can't check out. I as a muslim sister believe that We must distance ourselves and respect ourselves.

[@isaz597]

SubhanALLAH so true

[@blueskies3845]

Assalamu alaikum good points. What are the 4 questions to ask the brothers prior to marriage?

[@isthatuson6922]

Thank you so much, my brother. This is what I need right now, algamdulillah

[@nurulhidayahabdulwahab918]

If you are not comfortable with her make up or clothes, don’t marry her. You can never change people, the only person you can change is yourself. I will never marry a man who ask me all these questions. All these questions sounds so condescending.

[@MyGoodDeeds]

If He Is Practicing Muslim Then He Is Not Judging You All By Himself But, What Allah SWT Has Mentioned In The Quran. That's It!

[@nurulhidayahabdulwahab918]

⁠@@MyGoodDeedsif one is a true practicing muslim, one will try to be the best version of himself and guide his wife and family with full wisdom. Not by judging people especially another fellow Muslim

[@ihalludbA]

It’s funny you say that because the purpose of theses questions do exactly that, guiding his wife to worship Allah. The essence of theses questions are 1)prayer is important and she should be praying 2) respect your parents 3)do not speak and associate with the opposite gender (free mixing) 4) do not commit the sin of tabaruj , which according to Hadith will effect not only the wife but her husband as well so this question is just as important.

[@nurulhidayahabdulwahab918]

@@ihalludbA should ask himself first.

[@gopraydontdelayy]

@@nurulhidayahabdulwahab918 my dear he's gonna marry the women so of course he's gonna ask the future mother of his children whether she prays or not! What's condescending about that? I mean, when you are gonna get married wouldn't you ask your spouse to be, questions like "do you pray your daily prayers, do you exercise and maintain yourself, etc etc"... Imagine if somebody comes up and says "You should ask yourself that questions first".. That would sound ridiculous because first off yes i did asked myself and I expect my husband to-be, practicing Muslim as well and hence I am asking those questions in the first place. And it's my right to do so cause I am gonna spend, In Sha Allah my whole life with that person. Hope it makes sense✨🌷

[@swtcocao]

Very good.. what questions should the girl ask the “angel” oops I meant the guy

[@Estelleeeeee]

How many camels do you offer? (in his case) :P

[@Shay3356]

lol

[@ashiff7781]

Brilliant. Girls also need to ask those questions, they are marrying future father of their children, must choose wisely.

[@seventyseven1403]

Don't just go for Beauty Brothers! Look for Peace! For without this, there is just misery. You will be given signs, do not be fooled the veil of Lust! Tough times are for every relationship. Make sure you are both strong enough to handle these. Build yourself first Brothers, the better you are the better the person you will attract.

[@cinderell5414]

You don't want a wife, sounds like you want a servant.

[@Darur1308]

the wife will serve u yes, but other than these things everything else is just gonna be smooth sailing inshalalah

[@syedyousuf1056]

Will you cook for youre husband?

[@reality-now]

Bro most of men today just look for beauty( today standard fake eyelashes, fake nails, fake cheeks, fake hair) that is reality, they won t ask for your pray, your knowledge in Islam, your maturity, our your faith. I witnessed so many times...

[@taha7538]

Also work to become worthy of such standards… Don’t lower your standards rather raise yourself inshallah

[@eeshajshgsh]

the happiness i feel! because i asked myself these questions, and i'm pleased with the answers, praise and glory be to Allah, al'hamdhulillah He has guided me and may He guide you, O you who is reading this 💐 may He open closed doors for you and make your hardships easy for you. may He grant you happiness in this world and the hereafter, and may Allah make you among His beloved slaves ❤️

[@booknerdjebbi5037]

The last question to me is controlling. After she's already made herself up to go out with YOU, for you to say take it off is a hit in the guts. Especially since she thinks she is being modest enough. If a man I'm considering marriage with asked this, I would be wary of him. Maybe asking "if I was uncomfortable with you going out wearing a certain outfit, would you stop wearing it out for me?" In essence the same, but more gently worded. These things matter. I would then ask the man what exactly do you consider immodest, and we would have a discussion to see if we're aligned. Having someone dictate to me how I should dress just doesn't go well in my mind.

[@user-kt1fz5md8t]

Can we chat

[@fisabilillah8481]

I sleep thru fajr every month for a week straight

[@yasmino6387]

Ahahaha stop !!

[@fisabilillah8481]

@@djhd3670 you didn’t get it 🫣

[@girl-mv4vy]

​@@djhd3670 shes on her period dude

[@Friel718]

That’s different lol

[@NurKh4n]

😂😂😂 😂but nah, you've been used to waking up. You'll wake up anyway and do morning adhkar.

[@NidMad]

I am not Muslim but I am.arabic (I'm druze). I love the last three questions though and I am a kid however I saved the video to remember when older. May Allah bless you!

[@r.b7979]

Honestly some fathers dont deserve respect tbh. We soemtimes sugar coat how vile the world truly is. The point of respecting your father in the first place is because he raised you. There are men who sexually abuse their own daughters or deprive them of essential needs or simply left their mother when they were concievedetc. These types of fathers shouldnt have any repsect

[@BQ900]

Women in past years had to obey because they had no education and were dependent on men for guidance. Now days women have degrees and money. However, I do meet my husband’s expectations because that’s the contract. He also tries to make sure that I am happy.

[@mynmeisname4825]

Ibn Hibbaan narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadaan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: ‘Enter Paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.’” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 660.

[@Friel718]

Wow hearing this I realize how lucky my husband is 😂 ما شاء الله

[@hannantanveer9660]

can you suggest some one for me so that I can also become lucky

[@BRASHID]

MaShaAllah brother Straight to the point

[@tahaali2732]

If a sister says she sleeps through fajr, that wouldn't necessarily be a red flag for me. Waking up for fajr can be difficult art times and so you may miss it but still have the intention to have prayed. The whole point of marriage is to help your other half to wake up for fajr if they struggled to do so before marriage. 💕

[@PENH5428]

I’m Muslimah Alhamdulilah. But I only pass 1 of these prompts lol. Remember, women want respect too. You shouldn’t ‘tell’ someone what to do especially if they aren’t your family. You can make a request and explain yourself and she can make a decision . You have to build trust before expecting someone to follow you. Also- some fathers turn out to be monsters. Hear the story before you judge someone.

[@mynmeisname4825]

Yeah "some" fathers "Some" mother's monsters Too. Not talking about u but generally women make it look like thar 99 percent men are evil

[@mynmeisname4825]

There's a prophets hadith about obeying husband, U shouldn't obey if he says to do something like shirk obviously. Where did fathers came from?

[@mynmeisname4825]

Do u agree with last point? Idk y many women got angry with that. As a man let me tell you, any man who is really modest and protective and loves his life, would not want other men to stare at his wife or wear attention grabbing stuff like makeup

[@PENH5428]

@@mynmeisname4825 The point about the father is question 2. Regarding the last point - honestly , it depends how he asks. In this scenario, the man and woman aren’t married and the man is asking the woman to change her outfit/ makeup. The man is gauging whether or not this woman is a fit for him but don’t forget , the woman is also gauging the man to see if he’s a fit for her . Does he speak with love, tenderness ? Or is he demanding and controlling ? For me , I’ll happily oblige anyone ( friends family husband ) who treats me with respect and consideration vs a robot that must obey every command no matter what.

[@yohboyish]

Mashallah may Allah reward you

[@Skinok_skin]

Like one wise man said: if you want to ruin society... ruin the mother

[@henachaudhry1235]

I also think girls should ask questions too, and definitely the same 1st one I think it’s the most important!

[@Rusk2op]

Makeup one is a deal breaker for me 😂

[@mynmeisname4825]

Ibn Hibbaan narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadaan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: ‘Enter Paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.’” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 660.

[@M_C_O.G73]

This man is grooming young people. This is disturbing. This IS NOT what you should think about women. Obedient??? Obey you????? Sick and twisted mindset that opresses women. Have you seen what they do to young girls and women who do not 'obey' them???!!!! No human should ever obey another human. Ever.

[@homophobic_Scissors]

Grooming minors, do you have -iq?

[@user-wf1bw3og4c]

You are not a smart person

[@mynmeisname4825]

Ibn Hibbaan narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadaan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: ‘Enter Paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.’” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 660.

[@nathangrey6236]

Remember women's it's also applies on guys 1. How much he prays 2. How much does he respect his mom 3. What's her relationship with other women(non-mahram) 4. Something that you don't like

[@mynmeisname4825]

What would u give an example for 4th one?

[@nathangrey6236]

@@mynmeisname4825 Check if he's someone actually worth being led by. A man is supposed to be a leader. And if he's lacking in that quality then you shouldn't be obedient to him.

[@SS-gh6jy]

This is absolutely true. We fixed my brothers marriage and set the date. Since my brother was practicing Islam he wanted the marriage to be very simple and easy but of course the girl’s family refused. Just before 2/3 weeks of the set date we caught the entire family lying about her past and when we confronted they shamelessly counter attacked. Instead of apologising they demanded apology from us. The girl would rudely reply to my brother that he is not yet her husband and she is not answerable to him any more. Seeing this and how much my brother was depressed we decided to cancel the marriage and two days later the girl calls and accept that they lied and my brother said since you created this mess you resolve it and he forgave her but her family was too proud to do that too. We ended the entire thing and alhumdolillah we later learned the facts about their family and glad he was saved from a really bad situation. وَیَمْكُرُوْنَ وَ یَمْكُرُ اللّٰهُؕ وَاللّٰهُ خَیْرُ 🤲🏻

[@Opalmoon887]

He wants a pet not a wife

[@girl-mv4vy]

For real

[@Abuhan47]

What would you say if the woman’s awrah is not covered and her husband tells her gently? I agree this guys words are demeaning but I ever say to my wife when we’re first married about certain clothes she had in a nice way and it was fine.

[@ExcyWoW]

This is just straight text book behaviour of controlling relationships, holy hell. Do not do this. Have respect for your partner as a person. They are your equal, there is no need to force anything on them.

[@soob9178]

so if your husband said to you "i'm going clubbing with some women", and you say no. And then he says you can't tell me what to do. Is this controlling behaviour? If he asks you nicely and politely that he isn't comfortable with you going out with those clothes, and your reaction is "you can't tell me what to wear! and you don't control me!". It is YOU that lacks respect and humility to say "I respect and trust my husband and he knows what is best for me, so I am going to listen to him". Has nothing to do with wanting to assert control. It's not an unreasonable request to not want your wife going out in public with crop-tops. You can't force anybody to do anything from a technical sense. But people have boundaries in what they will tolerate in one another.

[@noname-yb3nh]

This is about Islam. You worry about your West don't tell others how to live

[@PSNloversalu]

What the others said here. Also these questions are before the start of the relationship. So what you said is invalidated.

[@farhanalamia9520]

Jazakallahu Khairan ❤

[@jareevoldemort2373]

Ok SubhanAllah, In Sha Allah my future person will be very lucky Alhumdullilah and In Sha Allah hopefully I’ll be as well 🤲🏻✨

[@DaggerSecurity]

Many women will lie about all 4 questions if they want you bad enough.

[@girl-mv4vy]

True. Other way around men will too

[@DaggerSecurity]

@@girl-mv4vy yes. correct

[@Abuhan47]

And her/his family and friends will also

[@esthellakomerl8084]

Not sure. Because if a woman's heart is not into the deen, it shows. His questions are based on how practising a woman is.

[@doukoure3468]

@@Abuhan47😂😂 too much

[@Kim_Jong_Un_.]

Brothers asking very good questions

[@humaafandi8894]

Asking like a Nazi. Not using other senses

[@ridds777]

Number four. What Islam is! Power and control over women!!! 🥷

[@blendirushiti9235]

Alhamdulillah Thank you very much ❤️I needed this Video very much Alhamdulillah please keep makeing more of those Videos Inshaa الله and let the Sunnah go forward and don’t stop May الله subhanahu wa ta'ala keep you all save and protect us from the evil and May الله subhanahu wa ta'ala give us the needed patience and May الله subhanahu wa ta'ala answer our Prayers and May الله subhanahu wa ta'ala give us the strength to never forget him and that we Worship and serve him until our deaths❤️🤲🏼Amin

[@awaismir2398]

If she asks if Fajr is a type of sleep paralysis, Run.

[@Alexalexalexalexx]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Islamiciman]

Everyone knows it’s salah 😊

[@londongirl6711]

4 Qs to ask a man before marriage: 1. When was the last time you slept through fajr? 2. What is your relationship like with your mother and sisters? 3. What is your relationship like with other women, colleagues etc? 4. If you're leaving the house all night every night with boys/ leaving the house to partake in shisha (makruh)/ leaving the house dressed in an inappropriate manner (tight jeans showing thigh/buttocks), how would u react to your wife reminding u of ur disobedience to Allah? Don't forget to ask for their bank statements too ladies, man needs to provide ❤

[@Danny-dh2pg]

A man needs to provide for a traditional woman but it’s not really her business the exact numbers as long as all needs are met

[@Rayhan17x]

Bank statement 😂 no wonder im struggling to find a spouse

[@abelievereverrising283]

Every time an islamic speaker advises men, most men agree and talk about self improvement. Every time a Islamic speaker advises women, almost all women talk about how the advise really should have been given to men. May Allah guide us 😢

[@idkbro4932]

@@abelievereverrising283 It’s because the ideology of feminism is currently being propagated on women more than men.

[@user-ud5oy5nc3q]

Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “If I were to order someone to fall prostrate before anyone other than Allaah, I would have ordered women to prostrate themselves before their husbands because of the great right that Allaah has made due to them from their wives.”

[@muhammadsuleiman857]

Good luck finding a woman like that.

[@tjc4085]

Which part is unrealistic to you?

[@anisah8546]

Trust me, they exist, even in western countries. I know women like this at the mosque. They are quiet and don't go out much, and you CERTAINLY won't find them on social media - that's why you don't know they exist. But wallahi there are many, more than you think - and some are surprisingly young.

[@MelodyAlf]

Good luck to you too! I'm also hoping to find a good man while making sure I'm also a good person by improving myself little by little. Everyone has a different journey, but I hope it all goes and ends well for everyone, including you and me 😊

[@anom6707]

Yup it’s near impossible nowadays.

[@reginaldpooftah4525]

My toilet seat has more rights man. Come on

[@user-kt1fz5md8t]

Can we chat

[@adamkabilelhak6003]

With regards to question 1 and 3, it is not good to ask about someone his sins. BarakAllaahu feekom❤

[@alia-wm8ug]

Your going to marry this person and most likely be with her the rest of your life, so yes ask whatever question that might effect you

[@ukhtsarah3]

Allahuma barik ! Really good question to be honest

[@issakakamaldeen-rr8fq]

May Allah grant us all good spouses. Aameen

[@mkt106]

💀💀 the switch up from the 1st to 2nd question.

[@salie2022]

I have the answers ready i just need someone to come and ask XD...

[@Paper-Z]

What are your answers😁

[@mubbashirgear]

Have sabr 😁

[@noorameena4373]

As salaamu alaikum wa Rahmatallahi wa BarkatahuPlease provide the link for the wholel video..... Jazaakallah khair

[@ummabdirrahmaan8756]

As a woman myself, if you are a religious brother, believe me.. you dont want to marry someone who wears makeup outside the house..

[@ummabdirrahmaan8756]

dont ask if she would take it off and see how she reacts. You need to instead ask, are you someone who wears make up outside the house?

[@sanane66543]

​@@ummabdirrahmaan8756 90%+ women wear makeup if men follow what you say noone would marry😂

[@forestdude5168]

@@sanane66543 yeah, i literally never met a woman who didnt wear make up, guess marriage wont be a thing anymore lol.

[@sanane66543]

@@forestdude5168 i mean there are some with very little guess we need those brother 😂

[@saaa.aaa.]

​@@forestdude5168i dont wear makeup outside only mehram

[@absar4578]

Feminists Crying in The Comment Section

[@Jomana_azhar]

The last one, if he's the one being unreasonable, of course no one would listen to him. Compromise should be done on both sides. If a man wants his wife to cover up more than she always did, I doubt she'll listen to him

[@mynmeisname4825]

Ibn Hibbaan narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadaan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: ‘Enter Paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.’” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 660.

[@MIA80073]

Could you do a version of this short of questions a Muslim woman should ask someone before marrying them

[@lawwithlilly]

I absolutely agree on the points mentioned

[@oldgranny1549]

can u do one of what a girl should ask him before marrying him

[@wolmark-ym9pw]

Check this. kzbin.infoZlxCZ2ZvEHs?feature=share

[@rahbid121]

Ask him, 1) what makes a good husband 2) a good father 3) about his relationship with his father and mother 4) his daily routines and what sort of friends he hangs around with. (Because prophet Muhammad (saw) said, "show me your friend and I'll tell you the type of person you are"). 5) send many children inside the room, and test their patience. Ask about their interactions with the opposite gender. 6) their temperament. 7) once you ask a question, observe their way of answering. 8) if he has a sister in law, how is his relationship with her? 9) the most important, ask him about his ibadah, which mosque he goes to, to pray. 10) how would he like to raise his children. What input he'd like to have. (The reason I mention this is because, once you have children, your life takes a 360degree turn. You see the world through your children. That's when the reality kicks in, and you ask yourself if you've made the right decision in marrying the right person.

[@rahbid121]

May Allah guarantee you a pious, loving, kindhearted supportive husband, who will be the coolness of your eyes hearts and souls Ameen.

[@djhd3670]

people can change their attitude during their life.telling and doing are two different things

[@MohammadAli-dx5bx]

exactly! that is why look for bride / groom among your circles where you can have an exact idea of the lifestyle of a family rather than a person.

[@djhd3670]

just look is the person watching videos from certain so-called celebrities muftis . people changing their behavioral patterns in different societies etc. in the end both partner should able to honestly admit their mistakes

[@hannanatalisa3282]

Before marriage my future husband already told me he hates make up and doesn't want me to wear makeup. I wasn't a makeup wearer anyway and I was fine with that. Fast forward 5 children later and he still loves me without makeup. After marriage I can see his wisdom of why he doesn't want me to wear makeup; makeup shows a form of fakeness, makeup erodes the youth and natural beauty of the face, it's toxic to the body, and he wants to kiss my face when he comes home from work without getting makeup on his face 😁. It is also more comfortable to do the salahs without having to put off and on makeup each time before and after. Life is easier and more enjoyable without makeup. For me I beautify myself for my husband, so I follow his lead in what to wear, how to do my hair (when in the house), what perfume to use, etc, and I don't care what other people think about my appearance because I'm not putting up appearance for other than my husband. May Allah bless our marriage. Aamiin 🤲. By the way, I'm now 33 years old and was married at age 19. My husband is 5 years older than me. Just thought to put that out there before someone says, "Okay, boomer!" 😆

[@yasmina3814]

I'd rather die alone. I'm out.

[@enjisilverstone-nolongerac7533]

Not to be rude but men aren’t meant to control what women wear I can understand the obedience business but we aren’t their slaves and they need to respect us as well periodt

[@lantempo]

but women should still obey men IF he does not feel comfortable in front of other men

[@wavez4224]

@@lantempo depends on situation tho.

[@NidaAman-dk1nu]

Yes. The men who wish to control what a woman wears are control freaks who are insecure that their woman might leave them for another man because they don't feel like they're 'good enough' for her, or less important. They try to control to stroke their fragile egos, not because they wish to 'protect' their wives. Of course, if a woman wears immodest clothing and too much makeup which you don't like, then don't get involved with her in the first place. But to expect her to 'obey' you in these matters AFTER marriage is totally unreasonable.

[@LaoZhang00]

They literally are supposed to. Learn your deen.

[@D-A-N-]

Honestly they can answer one way and then act another way

[@sanane66543]

then its on them lying is major sin

[@benazeerbarudwale7429]

Subhanallah❤.. Allah-hu-akhbar🤲.. Ameen✨

[@itscoldouthere8971]

Everyone should hear this❤