Being A New Dad: Things No One Told You

[@Chelcee-NY]

We rarely hear about the male experience of pregnancy and preparing for a new baby. Great video!

[@smarterwithayetv]

Great video. Very informative. This is so true. I went through the same experience when we had our first child, and you'll definitely add some weight as a husband when your wife gets pregnant.

[@ashylyn18]

Yessss thats why i clicked so interested to hear a dads point of view ♡♡♡

[@new2dad387]

I read this comment 3 months ago and felt the same way. I decided to do something about it. I created a KZbin channel that's going to cover the pregnancy experience and preparing for a baby from a dad's perspective! I appreciate Royce's thoughts here and think we need more of it. :)

[@sarroumarbeu6810]

Ikr? It's great to see it

[@danielguillory4819]

@@smarterwithayetv d try yu

[@anniegreen9427]

To all the men making an effort trying to be a good dad and comforting your partner who just gave birth: your women are proud of you and you are gold.

[@Trpitaldy]

If only the effort was ever noticed

[@Douggydrealer]

We appreciate this comment ❤

[@bloccboyben1377]

Thank u brother😫

[@whatrtheodds]

❤🎉Yes celebration to all the supportive daddies🎉❤

[@miyahjean6823]

All of that nervousness proves you’re are great dad. Don’t be afraid, you’re never alone.

[@EllaJaneBinks]

The birthing classes helped saved my sister's life. My mum brought her home, she was born premmie, and not long after during a feed she flat out stopped breathing. Dad was able to give her CPR, keeping her alive, until the ambulance arrived and they got her to hospital safely (: Dad is so greatful he went to those classes so he was all brushed up on giving CPR to infants. Definately worth it whether you think you'll need it or not!

[@DustySteel]

I have not been CPR certified but I’m definitely considering it now after reading your comment. I’m so glad that she is okay!

[@ges4934]

Wow that's amazing I'm so glad shes ok!

[@Douggydrealer]

Wow!! Great advice.

[@nellieoliver5699]

I love how realistic and observant he is. I even love that he said all of the truth with humor.... You guys make a great team.

[@RnBFam]

Thank you!

[@kalabwhite9600]

My little girl was born day before yesterday and holy crap hearing someone else talk about the anxiety of feeling like a failure just removed a huge weight off my chest. Thanks bro.

[@mikemieding4773]

Try having a daughter born with severe complications

[@jonlaidonlie]

"this is not a time to shut each other out" - this needs to be put on blast!

[@Blackdadican]

Agreed!!

[@GoodnessandTruth]

When my wife and I found out we were pregnant I remember being so excited. I wanted to learn everything there is to know about being a dad. I was dissapointed to find out that there just wasn't much material, literature, or videos about being a new dad. And I asked my wife especially about books, why does every book address the mom and not both the mom and dad, even when it isn't about something specific to the mom? I was just stunned and was wondering if I was doing something wrong. I heard that, while acknowledging all the great fathers in our lives and in the past, most dads were very distant and aloof during the whole ordeal and felt their role was not in the nurture and care for their baby. I want that to change. The very fact that dads can experience post-partum depression proves that dads can be just as emotionally and practically invested in their child's lives as their mother. Thank you for making this video.

[@thetiredworm2100]

I honestly think that it’s just because dad’s usually aren’t into making this sort of content, but I know that many women do and they talk about it and I think that’s why isn’t all that much content from the male perspective, but who knows.

[@devynyates1929]

@@thetiredworm2100 As a dad who just figured out my wife is pregnant with our first child, I want to know as much as I can as possible. Day 1 I was rubbing her feet and babying her lmao

[@faize28]

Me too library is a good resource and online

[@Andrupenko]

Dads can be overwhelmed, tired or depressed, but they absolutely cannot experience post-partum depression discounts all the hardship that women go through. I do appreciate men's perspective and I am grateful for the candor, but it's absolutely not the same as being hormonal, physically broken AND overwhelmed and tired as a cherry on top of it.

[@rayyg786]

Yes! Even the psycology videos from male Experts! "How to deal with mom rage/hard emotions" excuse me..my husband has those too..even more than me. Why keep saying being a mum is emotionally challenging..being a parent is!

[@MoyitasLife]

Im seeing so many heart broken mamas who can’t have their partners in the appointments with them :( I’m hoping this helps ease some anxiety. My husband drives me to all of my appointments and waits in the car. Knowing that he’s near by and knowing he’ll be there as soon as I come out is comforting considering he can’t come in. What I do is record/FaceTime him to share experiences together (even if we’re sharing the experience a few minutes after leaving the appointment) it helps him feel included and it helps me feel connected.

[@LovesDarkBlue]

A lot of moms can’t even have their partner in the room during delivery... I gave birth 5 weeks ago and I was lucky enough to have him with me but I cannot imagine if I couldn’t. I feel for those women. That’s gotta be so hard to go through alone.

[@s731s]

This is why I'm sooooo glad I made the decision since last year, that I would want to give birth at home. People looked at me funny. But now with a pandemic, people are now saying "wow aren't you glad you're doing a home birth" lol smh.

[@cookieslee7254]

My boyfriend takes me as well and waits in the car it just saddens me alot makes my heart heavy everytime !!!

[@leafside]

I cried because I had my first scan a week ago and my partner couldn’t come in with me... it felt so wrong... I’m the one carrying this new being and going through all the changes but my partner can’t feel any of that and so being in the room with me, watching the scan, seeing what’s going on inside me I felt was SO IMPORTANT.. so... yeh..kind of broke my heart.. I asked if I could film it for him and they said no!! So that made me even more sad! I love in the UK so maybe in America things are different? But yeh...it sucked...

[@calliehoyles8898]

I found out about a miscarriage by myself and I found out the gender, saw hiccups and all the cute stuff without him. It’s a strange time for sure.

[@formalninja]

As a new father, I can tell you that this is 100%, listen to it twice if you didn't get it the first time. This was my entire experience like he was there with me.

[@Blackdadican]

How are you doing now at this time of dadhood?

[@judenedavis4976]

Awesome to hear his side. Bianca you have an amazing husband.

[@RnBFam]

Yes I do! Little Jalen and I are blessed to have him in our lives! 🥰❤️❤️❤️

[@ladykay917]

@@RnBFam You look like a young Sinbad...😁😁😁

[@Amaniachwen]

My husband and I were 7 minutes into this video last Monday evening when my water broke and contractions started. Now we’re at home with our 6-day-old son and just finished watching the video while up for an early morning breastfeeding session. Thank you for this content and honesty. You’ve given us knowledge + laughs, the best way for new parents to learn (second only to the inescapable trial-and-error learning, anyway). :-)

[@orpheus1662]

That’s amazing hope everything is going well for y’all.

[@rcng086]

How was his first birthday party?

[@crieverytim]

awesome that you cared to watch the male perspective

[@andreahenry4457]

This video....is amazing. I cried a little because I felt like my husband might have gone through this. Please do more dad videos. This is important

[@RnBFam]

Thank you and will do! More videos coming.

[@new2dad387]

I agree, I would love to see more dad videos!

[@dee_305]

You're right about the ultrasound tip, my wife is 5 months and I go to every doctor's appointment and ultrasound. Every time I see our baby, I start to shed a tear in the doctors office lol

[@lifewithtash978]

Thank you so much for what you said about those initial feelings! I once heard it said that "Women become Mothers when they find out they are pregnant. Men become Fathers when the baby is born" (Of course, this doesn't account for all family dynamics, same sex, single parents etc) I think more men need to be reminded that mom has been with baby 24/7 for 9 months. You JUST met the little one. It takes time, and that's totally okay!

[@RnBFam]

Soooo true! Love this. Great perspective, thanks for sharing! 🥰❤️

[@NatashaMafra]

Even for some women that happens too. It can take time even for the mothers to bond with the baby after the baby is born. So we can't expect fathers to have fatherly feelings right away.

[@LovesDarkBlue]

This!! 🙌🏽 I had my first baby 5 weeks ago. As soon as she was out and put on my chest I burst into tears. I was immediately overwhelmed with emotion over her. But when I looked up at him, he just looked kind of empty. Scared maybe? Somber? I was really disheartened that he didn’t react big, like me. But it was just him processing. It’s different for dads. Now he couldn’t be crazier about her. Just took time.

[@swoosh3684]

Wow

[@lifewithtash978]

LovesDarkBlue hope the three of you are doing well! ❤️

[@Antman_coop]

You understand exactly how much your content is saving us black brothers. Thank you 1M my man.

[@RnBFam]

Thank you so much for this! 🙏🏽

[@giftowercom]

white brothers too 😂 thank you 🙏

[@kristarae6745]

"Trust me pick up the sock" 😂😭😂

[@joeduran53]

Awesome video 🥳 I’ll be catching my daughter in October. HIGH 5 for making this video....PICK UP THE SOCK🤣!!!

[@16gbgirl94]

I’m 22 weeks and my partner has been picking up everything that I drop for a couple weeks. I’m so grateful for it I could cry!

[@jaysaget1280]

My wife and I went to her first appointment. I did a lot of research. I was told that I am not allowed to see the doctor. That definitely hurt me, so I became upset and didn’t even want to do FaceTime (I was an entitled baby). I was told I would not be able to meet the doc until the delivery. I was now upset that I wouldn’t be able to get a sense if my wife was in good hands. I’m not usually soft, but I went home and teared. Prayed God and realized I had to be strong for wifey. She had an appointment 2 days later and sent me the ultrasound. That changed my perspective big time. The first trimester is tough on dads too. I need to learn how to be more supportive, bcuz she definitely deserves to have a great first pregnancy. COVID19 sucks! But I’M GOING TO BE A DADDY! God willing of course 🙏🏿

[@Blackdadican]

My wife and I had our second daughter during covid and I was told there was a chance I may not be able to go in while she gave birth(which I'm glad it was false). That would have been horrible. Kudos to you for doing your research. That shows your pro-activeness in dadhood💪💪🏿

[@marihasinc]

Thank you for a dads point of view! Not a lot of men do this but I’m glad you had the courage to spread some light on this.

[@kathystewart6143]

I am a childbirth educator and I love this video for Dads....We need more support for new dads and new parents. Excellent Video! Will keep up with your new videos regarding fatherhood.

[@BBarn711]

My husband and I have three little boys (including twins, please pray for us), and something we have done from day one is Dad has always done the bedtime routine. I wanted our babies and now little boys to have a designated time every day with just Dad so everyone can bond on a daily basis Plus, I'm tired by the end of the day, and it's really nice to have him take that part over.

[@KayElayempea]

Hey, Thanks for this video. I think this video is helpful for women too. I was relatively relaxed, like it sounds like your wife is :), but my husband would get very upset whenever the baby cried. That resulted in a lot of relationship stress. My husband wanted to help with everything which I appreciate, but also made me feel like he didn't trust me as the mother. Knowing that everyones emotions are different is helpful!

[@pauliinas6259]

I can't imagine the moms who don't have boyfriend/husband and have to get trough the labor alone. Men are so important support in that moment (and after) i can't imagine myself in labor without my man.

[@hospitaladministrator3359]

Yeah, that’s why women should get married before opening their legs

[@daycel13]

I’d like to say that for some mothers they also don’t have that amazing undying connection with their child either. I know that sounds horrible but I didn’t really feel a connection to my daughter until a little while after she was born. Like I actually had to get to know her and form a connection with her in person. Never felt it when I was pregnant or when she first came out. I definitely have a very strong bond with her now!

[@t.h.1492]

This is actually A Thing for many parents, so much so that there’s a whole area of study devoted to it. In the words of one of my psych profs, “parenting, especially good parenting, isn’t some natural born instinct, it’s a skill and bond that’s cultivated over time.” As humans we have some instincts that help us out, but a lot of it is learned

[@scarlettr3085]

This is actually normal and something I wish was talked about more between doctors/midwives and in birthing class

[@amorsolo2634]

When I found out I'm pregnant I wasn't happy. My first ultrasound I wanted to cry but I can't because my husband is excited and it sucks that I'm not. I'm now 7months pregnant and the worries are still there, but I'm also looking forward to being able to raise my daughter well. It really helps to have a supportive husband and to be able to talk to him about what I'm going thru.

[@live-do3vt]

Same I lost my first girl 28 weeks pregnant and me and my husband where so excited had just got a bunch of stuff for her then one day she just passed away unexpectedly. I'm now pregnant 20 weeks with another girl just found out and its now bringing back emotions of love and hope. Before I was so scared of getting to attached to this little girl growing inside me, but I know she deserves just as much love as the one I lost. I felt terrible for the for not feeling any attachment up until now.

[@sarahroberts7374]

@@amorsolo2634 how do u feel now? Xx

[@ninjakid4000]

Just found out my girl is pregnant so i decided to come to youtube to do some baby studying and how not to freak out and what to do and expect and i found it!! Thank you so much for this and btw my girl's name is Bianca too

[@ElMovimientoTX]

Same bro 😂😂

[@saraiblue9553]

Yes pick up the sock. I've cried about dropping stuff.

[@jens9458]

I totally have the “I’m failing, I’m failing” feeling as a brand new mom. Mom dad solidarity! We’re all going through a lot

[@diamondj7571]

I can’t even express enough how amazing this was . Mental health is so important and how the dads feel matters too ! Absolutely ! Men or women , were all human and all have feelings and this is new to everyone ! This really should be talked about more and you literally hit every topic and described it in a way that makes so much sense ! Me and my partner are working on TTC and I will definitely be watching this again multiple times with him . I don’t want him or me to feel like we have to keep anything in ! Communication and support between each other and family will be essential ! Thank you so much for this #dadperspectivesmattertoo

[@sindysura5259]

For real!! we're so use to this idea of guys "having to be tough" or not talking about emotions, but we forget that they DO feel!

[@AsukaDoinHerThang]

@@sindysura5259 Amen, exactly!

[@LoveAuntAshley]

It's so refreshing to hear a dad be so open and honest about post pregnancy! I actually had no idea post-partum depression/anxiety was a thing in men but I mean it does make perfect sense! Thanks for that insight!

[@christinegerjets2798]

Same here. No clue that happened.

[@howdyyall417]

When my son was born prematurely due to my high blood pressure, his daddy had to do everything. I was stuck in one hospital post c-section and our son was flown to a different hospital. It is a wonderful idea to give dads advice. Mommas aren't always able to do everything and it doesnt always come natural to women anyway. Good job supporting the daddys!

[@lagflag]

Dude, your baby is so lucky to have you as his father. Congrats and thanks for the great video. I will be a father in couple of months and that was so helpful.

[@RiCra012]

During this pandemic, my boyfriend can’t even come to the appointments 😔. It makes this process a lot harder. And the hospital cancelled daddy boot camp! Online courses were booked up. A lot of things we tried just weren’t available. I’m watching this with him and he really appreciated this video. Thanks guys

[@BabyMango]

Same! My fiancé couldn’t come to my ultra sound appointments :( it was really difficult. I had the technician turn the screen around so I couldn’t see the baby on the ultrasound until I got home and checked the emailed ultrasound pics with my fiancé. It helped him feel more involved since he couldn’t be there. This time is hard on us pregnant mammas!

[@lydiaepley]

My husband couldn't be at mine either. It was really hard getting rough news without him in there with me. I was so freaked out and petrified the nurse snuck him in for my blood work and shots.

[@gracytoyschultz4416]

My ex husband and I are still friends and unfortunately I can only have one person in the delivery room, so the tough decision is just have my mother to support me when my daughter comes into world (although I wish I could have him and my mother with me)

[@katieg3163]

Right there with you ❤️ Hope everything goes smoothly for all the moms and dads out there!

[@RnBFam]

It is unfortunate what the pandemic is doing in that regard. I’m sure it’s been a difficult thing to navigate for you and your boyfriend. Those are special moments but good thing much more are to come!

[@liftyswifty4125]

I have a 1 month old with my girlfriend, and I am severely suffering from anxiety right now, like it's beyond horrific, but seeing you describe exactly how I'm feeling and seeing how much better you seem right now has made me feel hopeful. All the best to your family bro.

[@liftyswifty4125]

I just want to add to this, we are approaching the 4 month mark and I couldn't be happier, everything you said was right, thanks again for the upload mate

[@mrsglitter8373]

It does get better I am not a man but my husband went through it also he never vocalized it but I knew and the older the child gets the more a father bonds..... It's only different for women because we have quite literally physically bonded for 9 months and pain happiness misery and we waited to push the baby out and to give birth so it's a little different for women for men you might have a lot of anxiety and not feel it immediately but trust me it will come

[@liftyswifty4125]

@@mrsglitter8373 hey 😊 I feel I bonded quite quickly with the baby, I loved her instantly like I hoped I would, I didn't like to touch my girlfriends stomach whilst she was pregnant as It creeped me out Haha, so I think my girlfriend was a bit worried about how I would feel, but like i said i loved her instantly, she is like my little best friend now. But the anxiety and depression I felt for the first month was the worst thing I've ever gone through without a doubt, I believe it was brought on by the sleep deprivation, I always knew that it would get better though, even in the most difficult times. I will forever have a new, enormous respect for mothers, a lot of men who don't have children believe that the man has it the hardest as they have to go to work during the day and believe they deserve rest when they get home, due to lockdown I was at home for the first 4 months of my daughters life and I can guarantee right now that parenthood is the hardest job in the world.

[@mrsglitter8373]

@@liftyswifty4125 awww that is very precious to hear that coming from a father my husband was the same way he was there for the very first ultrasound and I think it creeped him out so bad that it brought on stress because after that initial ultrasound all he could talk about was the baby looking deformed the baby looking like an alien what if it comes out missing fingers or an arm or a leg haha it is so funny now but it wasn't funny then because he was really worried and stressed about it but the moment that I gave birth to her he started bawling his eyes out and I have never in our entire relationship seen this man cry and we have been married for five years only two times have I seen him cry when his mother died and when our daughter was born and when our daughter was born and he visually watched her come out he just lost it with his emotions and I wanted so bad to get up and just go hold him but I was completely numb from the waist down LOL I'm glad that there's so many good men like you and my husband out there that understand and love their children and are there for the woman and child both I am a woman of God and my prayers go out to you and your family

[@ThreeRiversSaint]

I have a 2 month old and you described word for word how I felt and how I still feel . I went through so much depression because who I was was gone and Now I’m suppose to be this new guy and I don’t even know who he is . Your video made me tear up and made feel like I’m not alone . Thank you !!!!

[@rebeccaellison9999]

I feel like I’m constantly annoying my husband trying to ask him how he’s feeling during this pregnancy. We are 35 weeks and I want to try to support him the best I can as well.

[@kongoff]

Oh bro, the joint weight gain - I feel ya.. Smashing cheesecake as I watch this. Did I buy or want the cheesecake? No. No I didn't.. 😫

[@live-do3vt]

Oh man something about cheesecake and pregnancy is just so right I craved it with both my girls

[@kongoff]

@@live-do3vt haha, it was definitely enjoyable. We had our little girl 6 days ago so now we're on to the family visits with scons and other baked goods! 🐖 😂

[@wintertrine]

Thanks. This made me laugh 😁👍

[@_.smittenkitten._7859]

Lol my babies father gained 10 pounds with me ...times was fun and also haptic

[@WorldWideCeleb]

Awwww lol

[@alexlinthicum]

"Trust me pick up the sock" I busted out laughing so hard 😆

[@ScottSensei]

Bro, this has helped me tremendously! You’re real. Love that! Going to be a father mid August. Thank you for the tips. You for sure deserve more subscribers! Best of luck to you & your fam. looking forward to future vids.

[@RnBFam]

Thanks so much and glad I can help! Congrats on your baby on the way as well!

[@leajohnson10]

You got this! Hope you are in love with your little one by now

[@user-bu9ne7ef3q]

How’d it go

[@ScottSensei]

@@user-bu9ne7ef3q Currentley playing with her in a activity centre we got her. She’s laughing and having a great time. Great times, David.

[@user-bu9ne7ef3q]

@@ScottSensei congrats

[@johnandersoniii582]

I normally don’t comment on videos but this one need me to chime in. We brought our baby home yesterday. After watching this, I realized my wife was listening in on it sh so she was shocked to hear what dads go through. When I told her how I was feeling. I couldn’t finish without crying lol. I hadn’t cried through any of the stages of pregnancy, labor, or time at the hospital. I whole heartedly agree that it’s completely different when you get your baby home! New dads, rest, be patient, and enjoy the process!! Thanks for your advice and openness. I’m sure it wasn’t easy to open up to a camera.

[@Nat-pi3gm]

"Just in expressing that, we can better cope with it" "Definitely speak up, because the longer you hold it in, the worse it's gonna get" "Work together as a unit, be there for each other" Sir, I wish the best for your new experience. It's a great great great video. Thanks for sharing 💙

[@reecejones3187]

Thank you so much for your openness. You’re right there is no videos of men’s issues with babies and yours has really helped me!

[@leanabrown7864]

So I jumped the gun and watched this video without my husband! As soon as he gets home I will rewatch this video with him! This was very informative and eye opening! This will be our first baby and it nice to at least have some idea of what it may be like for him. Great video!!!!

[@RnBFam]

Thanks and hopefully it can be useful to you both

[@2ntnun]

Its weird bro. Im having my first born. I never thought id watch something like this but this is amazing. Watching this makes me ever more excited as ever. Thankyou!

[@Jack-yo5nh]

Honey, that's postpartum depression and the anxiety goes with it. Hearing this video and seeing your passion, you are truly a great dad and wonderful husband. I feel the kind of dissociation you held at birth was the first steps. Youre doing great💜

[@Chino196]

13:05, I cannot relate to that feeling at all. Not only was I holding my wife’s hand and guiding her with the nurse and doctor during the delivery, I cried tears of joy when he was born. My life gained a whole new meaning, and that amazing unconditional love and bond was there the minute he was born. I understand everyones emotions and attachments are different person to person. One universal rule is that every human on this earth has the need and desire to be loved.

[@brianshellypark8229]

Please keep posting. We need more dad's POVs out there.

[@sierramower]

I absolutely love that you did a whole Bible study with your family, and opened up about how the new baby was affecting you. It's really important for new dads, and all men for that matter, to really communicate when new changes are causing mental changes. And it's great that everyone in your family Bible study was there for you in that moment. A support system is hard for some people to establish. Congratulations on your new baby!

[@FormerlyknownasPonti]

Thank you for finally addressing the new dads' thoughts, feelings and emotions 💕 I'm sure your tips will help an expectant couple on their new journey!

[@lomographylillian]

Dad of the year! This was so encouraging to watch! Thank you for taking the time to sit down and talk about this, the dads need more support!

[@robync567]

I had NO idea men experience PPD too! Thank you for being so honest. ❤

[@lyndiemaedubois3983]

I’m blessed with a wonderful husband who always takes his day off every time I have appointment😇 9 weeks pregnant here. God bless all the dads and moms to be. Thanks for the video.

[@Nursewifemomlife]

I love that you did this. My husband agrees with you and we have 4 kids. There's so much focus on the mom, and we need it, but people tend to forget that Dad is going through some stuff too.

[@moonbeam0]

This was refreshing and restored so much faith in this process. My partner and I just had our baby and I have wondered why there wasnt much out there for him specifically and this is so needed. A conversation that shows that being a good dad starts before the baby ever is born. Seriously man GREAT STUFF!

[@RnBFam]

Thanks so much!

[@mannaman33]

New 1st time dad; my son is a little over two weeks old. Thank you for sharing this. The lack of sleep and exhausted has been challenging like nothing before. My wife had a c-section and it required me to really step up and take on almost all care for the first few days / first week as she was in significant pain during recovery. Thank you for the reminder that we’re not alone.

[@vincentcabelin8371]

Agree! 100%!!! First time dad from the Philippines

[@MrGaskmask]

Dude I really, really appreciate you talk about the new dad anxiety. At the moment I'm writing this. My baby is two months away and I'm already feeling that anxiety and was looking for something or somebody to talk about this because there is not much out there and was feeling lonely, but thank to your video I feel relieved that is out there somebody going through the same when you really care to do the right thing. Thank you so very much for this, thank you thank you.

[@411dragontiger]

Can I just say how real and vulnerable this is. My hubby went through all of that. It’s so great that you are able express this to help other new dads out there. Thank you so much.

[@milomassive]

My baby is due on 11th November , 7 days time and I’m so excited 😆 this video helped me loads and was funny at the same time , relieved a lot of tension. Thankyou ! ❤

[@lizettegarcia5401]

I totally understand you on not feeling that obscene amount of euphoria when they give you time with your spouse and your newborn immediately after their birth. It was the craziest, almost saddest moment for me. Always expected that and I was disappointed in myself. But you're so right, he is the light of my life and I love him so much. That little disappointment means nothing now.

[@GØÄT_MÄN_0526]

I am due to be a father to my daughter February 1st. We are very close. Very excited. And getting things ready. I love my wife, and am ready to grow in life with her. Raise my daughter and future children the best way I can. Always being there by each and everyone of their lives.

[@tarrynthedoula]

This is so so amazing. I am a birth doula in the DMV area and I'm always wanting to help out my Papas, especially my first-time ones and you're right, men are truly lacking resources and it breaks my heart to see how under supported you all are. I'm so excited to share this video with my clients! Keep up the awesome work!

[@missiarnett9040]

Where in the DMV? I'm in NOVA and pregnant.

[@tylergeorgeson]

Every single one of these points are dead-on. Go to the screenings, umbilical cord scissors are all dull, bring things to do/watch, the couch beds are definitely jacked up, DO those newborn classes! Especially PRE-PACK your bag! Things can happen any time, and it might not be a slow labor at home. We had to be induced after a scary weekly checkup, there was no option to go home and pack that bag. This is so great dude, I wish someone had shown me this before my daughter was born to help me manage it. But you captured the fear and anxiety word for word. It's really helpful to know I'm not alone in going through it.

[@kristenbellows3411]

I wish my partner had the support of other dads when we had our son in 2016. Thanks for making this video!

[@nickolico]

Failure is a necessary (and repetitive) step of any journey. The school system has taught us that failing is unacceptable, they could not be more wrong. Fail your way forward. You've got this.

[@Krissy4280]

Wow, I never thought about the partner's point of view/mental health. I know it's a big adjustment for everyone but I never thought to stop and ask how he was doing. I'm glad that you were brave enough to share your very private feelings and thoughts.

[@mrdappernature8861]

I actually help deliver my first child. Its part of life. When i seen my daughter crowning I was ready to pull her out. Can't wait to deliver my second one. Its always a cool experience. Dont be nervous guys trust me its a beautiful thing. Video was spot on and good pointers.

[@asiadixon2373]

This was absolutely AMAZING! Often times because so much attention is focused on mom and baby, the attention on dad is an after thought. Yes, mom and child are critical however dad is critical as well. Thank you for being an avenue to open our eyes a bit more and aid us in understanding the fathers perspective and what you guys go through. I valued every part of this video and will be saving it for my husband to look at when we decide to create our own little bundle of joy ❤ God bless you and your family and all the other wonderful dads out here 🤗

[@matthewholmes1762]

Thanks for this video, my wife is 12 weeks pregnant now with our first child. I can already feel the anxiety building up. Ill need to go ahead and get the communication going with my wife and some trusted fathers in my life, So I don’t crash and burn from anxiety. Thanks again!

[@sikelelasikentanda2145]

This is really important. I've been preparing myself for being a mom, and with my history of depression and anxiety Ive been worrying about how I would handle it mentally. Now I know I need to watch out for my baby's daddy as well to make sure he's okay just like he'll be doing for me.

[@noellerobin9896]

Aww I love this comment. It’s so sweet. I struggle with depression and anxiety as well and I always wonder how I would handle being a mom even tho I’m only 17. I wonder if I could do it. I hope you are doing well !! ❤️❤️

[@mwoaf]

my baby is about 3 weeks old and i relate to this video so much. I am glad i'm not the only dad that didn't feel that 'magical bonding' feeling when my baby was born, and the associated guilt with not having it. Thanks for this video!

[@sohaali9798]

3:36 Pick up the sock moment in Phoebe's voice from Friends 😹😹

[@MexiAggie07]

I totally played that on my head when he said that lol😂😂😂

[@kaelakeluskar]

You're absolutely right, no one really talks about what happens in the hospital right after you have the baby. Thanks for that perspective

[@chmayna]

This is so good. It really helps the mother too. It is important for us to be aware of our husband's feelings so we can be sensitive to them.

[@fairdinkumsheila]

❤️ Praying that the anxiety completely disappears. Can't express enough how precious this perscetive was. It gets easier and easier and actually it's more and more enjoyable the older the baby gets. All the best to you amazing parents ❤️

[@jessicamclean7213]

We couldn’t do any classes because of quarantine and my husband couldn’t come to ultrasounds but he did try because of all this. We didn’t even get a shower. But all in all we are excited and our rainbow baby should be here in a few weeks

[@tolleri90]

About the magical bond that supposedly all moms get with their newborns. Well, it's a myth that all moms get that starstruck loving feeling right from the start. Sure there are moms who do, but I for one needed time to get to know my child before falling madly in love. That doesn't mean I didn't love my daughter when I first held her, I did, but those deep feelings came only after I got to know her and took care of her. Some of us need time and you know what, that's so ok and so normal, just not talked about enough. 😊 Anyway, great to hear the side of the dad for once, thanks. ☺️

[@sarahpastrano1820]

Royce is WAYYY TOOO funny!! He was making serious topics funny! I love that he speaks about important mental health topics!!💙

[@RenoisHere]

I have no idea why this was in my recommended. I'm a single 17 year old still living with my parents, but thanks for the information I guess

[@Itsyagirlbigtay]

It may help you down the road.😅

[@crzxm]

Don't have a baby. Look up Patrice O'Neal talks or look into MGTOW.

[@crzxm]

@G R I didn't ask for information.

[@crzxm]

@G R I can say anything. This young man has the choice to choose for himself.

[@crzxm]

@G R So why?

[@Mckaytho]

Sitting in the hospital recovery room, about 16 hrs after I just had my baby girl, and all of this is just yes. I’m SO glad you talked about the mental health side for the father. My husband has been so hands on and amazing but I am going to make sure I pay attention to his fears and feelings just as he’s doing for me. Thank you so much for this video!!!

[@samantharees285]

When i had my first child and we were in the hospital...that was when I realized how much my husband had on his plate. But the best advice i can give is when the baby arrives take the first hour without visits from family and friends and let friends and family and nurses know ahead of time. Especially the nurses. (well, i had my last baby two years ago not in a pandemic. My heart goes out to all the new 2020 parrents.

[@jennifer_moss]

You have such an amazing husband! I love hearing a dad's side of going through pregnancy/delivery/new parenthood.

[@cjwise5552]

I just want to say that as a father this video resonated with me 100%. But let me give you peace of mind. If and when you have a second child, this anxiety/depression/uncertainty is much less intense because you’ve been through it once and know how to handle it through your past experience. I just had a second child a week ago and so far I feel those same feelings trying to creep in and I’ve learned how to battle them intelligently.

[@vidatate3128]

Im a 22 year old, not pregnant or planning to become but these video are my favorite!

[@susandrew7217]

Hey. I'm expecting my first baby in June and just want to thank you for how open you were about your experience. Obviously, women have it the hardest.. but glad to hear male perspective

[@hannahwillams9602]

What an incredible video. I’m due 6/27/20 with my first. I have watched y’all for awhile but I sent this to my whole family. The realness and raw emotion and truth was so perfect. Thank you so much!! This will help me to look out for my partner as well! Thank you so so much and God bless your family.

[@reneek1672]

What a WONDERFUL father and husband you are!!!!! I almost cried when you said you have the worst anxiety that you were failing. It takes so much courage to speak on your feelings as a man. You’ll be an excellent, loving father!

[@caritasdecaro8019]

Thanks to corona, my husband has been robbed of attending the ultrasounds of our first baby :'(

[@moniquekh1989]

Is there another facility in another location? I had the same thing happen but my doctor moved me to another location where they do allow one person in the room. It’s very important that you have that support instead of having to FaceTime. Good luck on your pregnancy journey!

[@ELizbeth135]

Yep... me too..😞

[@laurascott1550]

Same and all the local private clinics are booked up massively it means so much as he got told by the doctors he probably wouldn't ever have children and now he cant see the first movements of our miracle baby x

[@LeighPhillips78]

I wouldn’t say robbed. It’s called pandemic precautions. Pregnant women are immunocompromised after all.

[@magalychavez5956]

Same 😔

[@LuisFernandez-dc4wm]

I’ll fight a doctor if they ever say I can’t be near her or be apart of anything she’s experiencing. She is 3 months right now with my first baby, a little boy and I’m so happy and excited and I’m ready for it. I’m 36yrs old and was told I would never have one so I had already made peace with that many nights I cried myself to sleep and then boom… baby lol I ain’t missing shit

[@chrisjernigan396]

Thank you so much for this, man. Sharing all you did really helped me a lot. We're expecting in the next 3-4 weeks and I'm a nervous, neurotic wreck haha. Really appreciate this.

[@abigailhorner6685]

Thank you I feel like you shed a lot of light on things that my husband who isn't the best at communicating was feeling... but he thinks hes a man and he shouldn't have feelings. But a lot of things make sense now. He would jump out the bed too and couldnt walk from being so tired. And saying like he couldn't do anything right.

[@AsukaDoinHerThang]

This is the most Rare, Raw, Truth I ever heard about a man's experience after there wife's pregnancy. I'm in awe, I find it very cute how much you live your baby and at the same time it sound very rough you were going through a spiritual attack of anxiety. And I loved how Bianca was able to notice a little what was going on. It is so good to know that this because this is a video I am definitely going to be watchinf again in the next 15-20 years when I have children.

[@alexandrakritzman938]

I’m having my first baby in may and this was so helpful. I need to remember that as much as I’m freaking out after the baby gets here my husband may be too. And it’s also relatable to hear that a man can go through some form of PPD/PPA. Thanks for the vid!

[@svcrain]

Can't wait to show this to my partner. I really appreciate that you touch on a lot of mental health issues for the guys because they're going through a lot of changes too, and I think it's just as important that they feel seen and secure. I want him to know that whatever feelings he experiences are valid and okay

[@ritaharris8035]

This is literally the best “from a father’s point of view “ video EVER!! I never would have thought this is what a father could go through. Thank you for sharing. So amazing 🤩 💪🏽

[@babyparker2014]

“Somehow you can become her slave”! 🤣🤣👌🏽

[@manssorameer]

This guy went all out. Respect bro

[@acancio08]

Loved hearing a guy’s experience. My husband actually had a more emotional connection with our son and took on taking care of our son a lot in the beginning. I actually felt a little bit more like you with the connection since it was not right away but breastfeeding helped me with that and in time the connection came. Having a child with your partner is definitely a journey.

[@KatrinaMcCullough]

I've had three babies now, and I wish I had made my husband watch a video like this. You nailed all of it!

[@InfinitelyASMR]

I Stan a dad who’s open about his experience and emotions. Subscribed immediately and sent to all my pregnant friends.

[@MM-ho4fi]

Thanks for this video bro! I'm about to be a dad in the next few days/weeks. I can't wait to hold and cherish my son.

[@MyTwoCents0210]

This was the best video I’ve seen about having a baby, hands down. Thanks for the raw truth with a sprinkle of humor!!!

[@charlenefoggie-barnett185]

I really love and admire your honesty. I’m a 63 yr old mother of 3 - 1 son 41 and a son and daughter in their 30’s. This is SUCH important information. In my opinion, you’re spot on. Bravo!