being a strong Black woman is a trap.

[@flawlesshoney]

I tell people exhaustion just to pay bills is NOT normal.

[@mwashi401]

Word!! #100percenttruth

[@AllNaturalEverything]

Not at all!

[@Peace2dagawdz]

Nope, I’ve always paid my own bills. I’m 34 now and I’m sick of it.

[@lovelylinda8891]

​@@Peace2dagawdzUnderstandable and relatable!

[@lovelylinda8891]

Agreed!

[@porchiajohnson1441]

At the age of 23 I noticed black women work hard and excel to prove our value to others. We try 10× harder to try to reach the value of average white women in society. We make ourselves as perfect as possible to still be treated as less than other women who can excel being average or below average. Once I accepted this I stop trying so hard. Life is a joke to me a temporary joke.

[@sharondavis3535]

Years ago, I rejected the word "strong" as an excuse for others to expect more of me and less of them. It's gaslighting of the the most oldest kind. I am worthy by being.

[@jaijai5250]

Absolutely. The Strong Black Woman trope applies to all BW across the African diaspora. It was coined and perpetuated by BM, but society has taken it and ran with it, with gusto! It’s societies way of saying BW are unworthy, and do not need or require the same love, support and protection that other groups of women take for granted. It aims to legitimise, and normalise the abuse, neglect and mistreatment of the BW. Black woman, please do not accept this label as a compliment. It’s exploitative, toxic and abusive. It’s basically saying you do more, whilst I do less!

[@AleciaRenece]

Yeeeeeeeeeees!!! 🌺💛☺️

[@xxwoman]

Yeah. It’s like they’re buttering you up so you’ll feel guilty and have to say YES! They’re pushing you into a corner and they know it.

[@karenmassey8354]

My older brothers taught me a very valuable lesson when I was a very young girl. They said that you should never be great at a job - only be mediocre. If you are great then people will just pile more work on you, and you will rarely if ever be compensated for the added work. Just save yourself the stress.

[@jaijai5250]

I wouldn’t apply that as a blanket statement. Are you’re brothers BM? If you’re self employed, or doing something on your home, for yourself, that defeats the objective. I personally don’t accept mediocre. I do any job to the best of my ability (regardless of financial remuneration), but I definitely know when, and how to rest, take care of myself, and say no. It’s all about balance.

[@karenmassey8354]

@@KM-zb9eg Nah, their point was perfectly clear and I have since had a work life well-lived. Perhaps you will figure your own work life balance out accordingly.

[@karenmassey8354]

@@jaijai5250 It should be obvious that their statement wasn’t about self-employment. Self-employment is a different matter entirely. Their statement was an early lesson in work-life balance and how it can and will effect your well-being.

[@daughterofdessalines]

It’s so interesting how people are immediately triggered (& start pumping out the self-righteous paragraphs) when a human being doesn’t want to put effort into “work culture”. We are truly programmed.

[@Cutiepie0978]

@@daughterofdessalinesI agree

[@IntellectuallyAstute]

It's like we're EXPECTED to be 🐎MULES! I ALWAYS knew "earlier on" that this society was SICK and I've NEVER wanted ANY parts of it. 🙅🏾‍♀

[@mollycakes7080]

You speak the truth

[@AllNaturalEverything]

​@@mollycakes7080 ❤

[@cassandraking5852]

I too sensed it from childhood when we had to go to school for 8 hours 5 days a week. It was to prepare us for adulthood so we could grind to make rich men richer. I became depressed when I figured out what this society was. I"m thankful that I awakened to it. I'm making plans to leave Western society.

[@AleciaRenece]

Thiiiiiiiiis!!!!! I'm with you 100 PERCENT. 💛💛💛💛

[@IntellectuallyAstute]

@@AleciaRenece 💛

[@Sahara333]

“I will see myself as worthy even if you don’t” preach! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@ladybug3380]

Black women feel like they have to be strong because they see black men as weak and can not accomplish anything without the help of the women in their lives. 2023 is the year of rest for BW, we are TIRED.

[@marissapriceheals]

"Sometimes we're overachieving out of trauma" 👏🏼 😮 The way I felt this in my soul. Whew! Thank you for speaking on this 💕

[@cristiful1O1]

The Unlearning is no joke! I was sitting here depressed and comparing myself to what others have and beating myself up for not being more productive or having more. Thank you for reminding me it's a trap. Thank you for reminding me I don't have to exploit myself to honor my family's hardship. No man can put a dollar sign on my value. It's an alien concept - an elaborate con.

[@NishNicole5190]

Pin this 📌! I agree 1,000,000%

[@regisnyder]

Trust me, I tried that “do little” at a high demanding corporation and “they” NOTICED that I wasn’t giving 110% anymore.

[@amisharajesh_]

Every time I hear from friends and peers about their life and struggles honestly feels like entering an air conditioned room after hours in the desert. Don’t let them gaslight. It’s honestly so different to be someone of color especially as a woman. Im not a Black woman. But as a POC, personally, I’ve faced so much aggressions either directly or indirectly even from my own family I’ve never understood nor been able to speak about because no one wants to talk about it. Whenever problems arise for POC, people always express “ok do it yourself” then they make a mockery of them trying to get it done alone and raise the bar to make it more difficult for literally no reason.

[@shelleynichols9626]

White lady here. New sub. Thank you so much for your voice, the beautiful celebration of your face with the shaved head, and for being on KZbin and allowing me to listen and learn ❤️ My in laws live in Norway. Years ago, when I learned that Norwegian adults can have jobs like cashiers and janitors and live comfortably and NOT BE SHAMED, my entire world exploded. The comment section is too small to say too much here, but suffice to say, this juxtaposition between the cultures continues to anger and sadden me. Keep on keepin on ❤️❤️❤️

[@AleciaRenece]

Hello there! Welcome to the family! Thank you so much for sharing this with us! Folks here don't know what's possible, so they can't imagine a different reality. But you sharing this is LIFE changing. Bless you. Thank you. 💛💛💛💛💛

[@shelleynichols9626]

@@AleciaRenece 🥰🥰🥰

[@truGEMini01]

Wow! Thank you for sharing. I never considered Norway until today ☺️

[@shelleynichols9626]

@@truGEMini01 I love Norway, truly. See also: cold, dark, rainy, expensive ☺

[@terriehouston2058]

I, remember when I would say my back hurt my grandma, would say you don't have no back she would go on and say when I came up we worked from sun up til sun down. Bless her soul may she rest in peace. The sad part about it I don't think she was ever happy she died and took nothing with her. She even said when she die that everything she have will go to hell because her kids didn't realize what she went through to get it the house on the hill, the store she owed as well as the land. And she was so right. SMH🥴 so I learn early in life don't work yourself to the point of no return. Trust God, timing.

[@AleciaRenece]

I'm so sorry to hear that about your Grandmother 💛🫂🌺 and yeeeeeeeeeees!!!! I am HERE for this message!!!! Thank you so much for sharing your story. 🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺

[@Beardsly_28]

I am not a black woman. But as a black person I definitely love ❤️ these videos from you. In the past and currently with all the black excellence and black people in luxury campaigns that have been promoted by black people on social media . And also white companies trying to sell us products I have gotten my fair share of people telling me I NEED to work harder even when I was totally exhausted. Or treating me like I’m worthless. Because I don’t want the same amount of success as them

[@EbonyHoopGyal]

Well they need to truly go enjoy the spoils of their g-d riches already and leave the “rest of us” be. 🙄

[@yepyep6916]

It also communicates to men that they don’t need to help, support, and protect you due to your perceived strength

[@AleciaRenece]

No.... Every woman deserves protection, support and help. Even if she's "strong". These men CHOOSE not to do it. The reason why a lot of Black women HAVE to be strong is because of men not stepping up or causing harm themselves (example: my own father abusing and abandoning us. I HAD to be strong because I had no other choice. No one was coming to save me...). Black men know EXAAAAAACTLY what's going on with Black women. They know exactly what they do to Black women. They just don't care.

[@daughterofdessalines]

This is a misogynistic trick. I remember noticing how tender Ketanji Brown Jackson’s husband was with her & she is clearly an powerful & accomplished woman. We shouldn’t have to completely abandon our independence, perform submission or play small to receive gentle treatment, support & protection from Men.

[@AleciaRenece]

This is the one.

[@yepyep6916]

@@daughterofdessalines ….not really a trick. I think most men would like balance. A woman who can hold her own, but is also feminine. But if your masculine nature, independence, and strength is getting you all the outcomes in life that makes you happy that’s great for you. But if it’s not working, maybe it’s wise to re-evaluate what you have been taught.

[@AleciaRenece]

@yepyep6916 the thing is, women have to protect themselves FROM men... They're the number one demographic of folks harming them... The only reason why women don't have balance is because of men. It's just a fact.

[@amandacharlot1155]

I’ve fallen in love with this content. The level of awareness is what a lot of people are neglecting when in relates to toxic work environments, hustle culture, “sleep when you die”… It’s all so exhausting. I don’t believe we must overwork ourselves all in the name of “surviving” I want to live a fruitful life without having my rest forsaken.

[@notthatvashti8127]

There's an old saying, work your fingers to the bone, what do you get, bony fingers. You get little thanks and most of the time little pay. Being strong, resilient,and resourceful is overrated. Unfortunately in this system we are forced to believe otherwise. The ultimate okeydoke!

[@ayemiksenoj5254]

I've gotten to the point where being called strong, brave, resilient, reliable, and/or dependable is an insult to me. I try to communicate why I feel this way and the problems with these labels i.e. trauma responses like you said, but most people, Black and otherwise don't understand. Often, I just inwardly cringe and move on, but it does cause me to look at the person a little sideways. I know they mean no harm. I know that, but somewhere along the line most women don't want to be seen as those things only or largely. At least I don't. We need better language and a deeper middle to resort to for these problems and discussions. I haven't found it yet.

[@happygucci5094]

This comment.🎯💯💔

[@SJ_Vibezz]

This whole video was a affirmation to me! 💛 my gut was hurting all last night just thinking of going into work just to be picked apart constantly no matter how hard I try. The anxiety. I’ve been trying sooo hard now over 10 years just to prove am worthy when I have been worthy all along.

[@AleciaRenece]

🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂

[@denice6239]

I feel myself checking out mentally.The only rest I am thinking of is the grave. I am 55 and exhausted

[@soulnspired]

Sister please allow yourself rest now. Say no!!! I said no to two appointments today by people who like to call at the last minute to ask for a service. We are not mules not even for other black people. I pray you find rest ease and peace. I also work a full time job that is helping folks and I even say no to them. I don't care about Grant numbers. If they stress me out. I pull back.

[@AllNaturalEverything]

😢

[@IagainstI.]

God has given you life now, please cherish it. Don't allow ANYTHING on this earth to exhaust you to such an extent. You've been given this life to find beauty in your own way, not make it beautiful and easy for others.

[@salutemimi81]

These are my exact feelings I'm 42 I have no one My job is nit picking And all I can think is what's the one that's gonna make me snap cs I'm ready to go and care about nothing

[@lamareneahjordan8660]

Oh no. @denice you have a lot of life ahead of you. I hope you find a way to experience some joy while your here

[@robinmahan101]

Thank you for this message ❤️ today I accepted a part-time position after resigning from my last position 4 months ago due to burnout. The last 4 months has been a God teaching journey. I learned to live on less and repair my temple so I can live and enjoy life. This journey taught me that it wasn’t my responsibility to carry my family on my back. And that my worth is not tied up in “saving “ people, or competing with others. But that I am worthy all by myself. I also learned to lean more on God and have faith that, “He has given me the ability to obtain wealth,” on His terms. God allowed me to hold out for a position that’s less stressful, allows me time to work on my creative endeavors, and pays more working part-time than my last job did full-time! Again, thank you for your bravery so glad I found you❤️

[@cookiejoanna]

This video came on time. I recently realised that me trying to be an over achiever was partially a trauma response to : 1. Growing up in the hood and going to a school with some rich kids who made me feel bad because my parents didn't own their own home or own a car at that time. That translated into me turning 25 and now already owning two cars, a large plot of land and I'm not going to have kids until my MCMansion is finished because I don't want my kids to go through being made fun of for being poor. The downside of these accomplishments is that i gotta work 50 hours a week at a job I hate but that has good pay, barely get any sleep, doing my masters full time while working full time, having side hustles, not spending time with loved ones. I deserve rest. 2. I wanted to prove to my dad's side of the family that I am worthy. And so I made it a point to become the first one to get a good job, first to live a life of luxury , first to get a masters, first to own property etc. But again....I'm overworking and I feel horrible. In short....f**k these people 😊

[@NeicyJ1990]

I overachieved out of trauma ✋🏿 I was the one doing twice as much to get half as far 😢

[@SoftWifeLife]

I stopped working 10 years ago because I saw this back then. I’m 52, years old and we’ll preserved as a result. Might I add I have a 100% provider husband😊.

[@ginnymellen4732]

This was fabulous. I am not a person of color, but it was sent to me by my dear friend who is. And I had a fantastic student where I taught, who believed she was, and needed to be a strong black woman, but I saw how she tried to do and be everything, and was exhausted. A friend lent me The Burden of the Strong Black Woman, which I lent to this student, and she and I both found it to be extremely helpful and validating. Thank you so much for your clarity, passion and intent.

[@DanielleDWardOfficial]

Thank you for really seeing your student and pouring into her❤

[@dinahbriggs5190]

I AGREE, TIRED OF BEING STRONG BECAUSE SOME MEN ARE WEAK, I RETIRE😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 OR PEOPLE IN GENERAL NOT JUST MEN

[@ladybre888]

Preach Preacher ! 🗣 I feel as a black woman we are taught we don’t deserve the whole meal but the crumbs but instead of excepting that “stereotype” we are resilient and end up playing the game to prove our selves where instead we can simply just be and attract our abundance !

[@DonawaVi]

That moving the goal post thing is so true. And then, they pretend they don’t see you but steal your work or words. I gave myself a personal experiment of what happens when I give instead of 120 to 100 percent, then 100 percent to 80 percent, what would happen? When I’m not operating at my best, colleagues/supervisors are still competing with me and think I’m doing the most when I’m actually on purpose performing lower than I know I can. Eventually I decided, hmm, if I performed at 60 instead of 80? Now folx are looking TIRED and I’m feeling energized because I no longer made myself available to share my ideas and energy. This little experiment was a way to fact check what my intuition was telling me. Needless to say, I resigned. People will attempt to harvest your joy and enthusiasm and will question why you love life and attempt to challenge you. I literally got employee of the month within a month of my new job but my boss’ boss was confused about it. Literally confused about the light I naturally carry that others saw and wanted to acknowledge me for

[@mollycakes7080]

Yes. You are absolutely right. We only see green. That needs to change ASAP in the US.

[@sharondavis3535]

When the bible says rest the land every seven years, I thought of slavery. Stephanie Perry one of the first that made me know I can decouple my wealth from my labor.

[@KeishaLauren]

Lord, help me/us to stop worshipping at the altar of other people’s opinions.

[@victorymusic7559]

Peace Alecia - I love your Haircut on on you - Your Glasses and Matching Microphone cover. Yes - I say During the Feminist movement Black women Should have fought for the right to sit down. When have Black Women not worked? NEVER!. When Have Black Women not hustled and Grinded? NEVER!. So thanks for the reminder and Blessing to you.

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

I wish I could like this comment a million times.💯

[@DebraJohnson]

I'm thankful women fought for the right for us to vote, have bank accounts, go to school, and own property. Yes, black women worked but we were mostly only allowed to work in low paying hard labor jobs and we had no rights as women. Because of those women who fought for women's rights, I make a good living and live comfortably without the requirement of being partnered with/financially supported by a man.

[@victorymusic7559]

@@DebraJohnson Peace Sister - That may be true in a sense but not as with white women. You'd be surprised how many Black women paved there own way centuries before any Feminist movement which was mostly for entry into Corporate America and they had something different to prove to their own men that they were not ditzy and dumb eye candy for the front desk and their husbands leaving them broke. Yet still today Black Women get paid less and still do the most work and have the most degrees. My comment is the fact that Black Women came here forced to work and still had to work and still seem to have to work hard and we do have the right to sit down because she is still working and not receiving her true just do. There were already Black Women who were owned during Slavery who knew all of the masters business that his wife did not know hwo to handle nor did he want her to. So again in this case with this talk I am just agreeing that Black Women have nothing more to Show and Prove. Unless it will benefit us because everything the black women does benefits everyone else. History proves it and we deserve what we work for and the choice not to work as hard for everyone else. So now we have the choice to pull back and not save the day to our depletion. Peace

[@happygucci5094]

The exhaustion should not be normal. -Alecia Reneece the Artist. Thank you ❤

[@sunnyflower1979]

This is me. 44 on the hamster wheel. I run faster and faster and carry the tired and dead hamsters too. "I got it" is my favorite line.

[@sarahjackson1897]

Just recently l had a revelation that l had been living my life from a place of feeling unworthy. This toxic belief has influenced what l have failed to achieve and the things that l did achieve along the way. The root of it for me is childhood abuse and neglect and growing up in a legalistic church ministry. Even though l have been in counseling for years it is still hard to undo this type of thinking but l am proud of myself for not giving up on my healing journey even though l am tired. Thank you for shedding light on a silent battle that so many of us black women face that few people and society give us permission to acknowledge Sending love to you too sisters❤.

[@DirtyFastingLife]

❤🎉❤🎉❤ Love your Videos Sis, being Real and it all makes sense. To finally have the validation to unlearn and break the toxic chains ..that try to define who we are as black women. I take REST...on PURPOSE. I MEDIATE.. and I still hear lazy..and selfish at times but each day it's a battle to love yourself in the best and in the most nourishing way possible. Keep Doing what you are doing. You are a treasure and you need to be shared and protected. REST REST REST ❤❤❤ Blessings 💖🙏🏽🌟🌈.... PGCounty DMV here😊

[@flawlesshoney]

Girl! We think the same! Thank you! ❤

[@nanaanan4731]

Boundaries. I think that really loving yourself will give a woman space to say enough.

[@tribecalledmaya]

💓

[@nicolelove8501]

“Stop playing the game” love it Alecia ❤️

[@myvettebeauty]

I’m so blessed I found you!

[@mwashi401]

I said the same thing. One of THE best KZbin channels 😊

[@kiahernandez2194]

Thanks for letting me know that I was seeing things the wrong way. We need to talk about what's going on. You is right, I'm not working no 2 or e jobs. I'm not backing down from anybody I have a job but it's volunteer work I still get paid and I don't hustle so hard I'm actually having fun ends are met is kids well taken care of. But I've been taught to be strong and what goes on in the house stays in the house. It was tough and you're right it's a trap

[@yourstruly1984]

Happy Mother's Day 🎉❤

[@soulnspired]

I find myself being triggered by all of the graduations happening. All of the overachievments of diplomas degrees Dr PhD Masters Doctorates and so forth. I don't feel like I've done enough.

[@ahava2810]

If you want to study further, then do it sister❤. Do it for you because you're passionate, not out of comparison.

[@annicks7385]

I have missed you ! Happy Mother's day to you. You're healing mother wounds and sister wounded to so many women . ❤ I do as little as possible everyday. So proud of myself 😂

[@catxkay]

since i was younger i hated being called strong but i never knew why but now i embrace it cause baby im not strong somebody gone have to help me idc 😭

[@sandravandiver5937]

First of all thanks for the message and I’m learning to unlearn from the trap! You’re right about that.working hard long hours and still it’s not enough. The trauma. Ouch, I’m broken too. I’m tired.I’m learning how to take naps. I still have a lot more to learn. Trusting God all the way!! Must watch all of your videos

[@StarcrossedDeath]

Not a Black woman, but as a fellow woman of colour, this resonated hard. Your videos are so important Alecia...thank you for sharing your message and your beautiful soul with us

[@AleciaRenece]

🥹💛🫂🌺🌻 Thank you so much for being here, for being so kind and generous with me. It means a lot to me. Much love and joy to you!!! I'm SO glad this resonates with you!!!

[@terriehouston2058]

I'm strong, through the Most High Yah, not men, family nor people. My God, give me my every need. Because if you think somebody gonna come save you other then God, then yes your not gonna make it because you're putting all your trust in everything else when our God, is running it all.

[@AleciaRenece]

I feel you, but it's way more nuanced than that. God put us here with people. The people have free will. If we see someone being harmed by other people, as Believers, we're supposed to help those people. Anything less is not God like. This is a conversation about the "Strong Black woman" trope. This has nothing to do with being strong through God. This is about Black women being exploited.

[@bd10232003]

I just recently subscribed to your channel. This resonated with me so much! I’m so TIRED! I work hard, I take care of everyone’s needs and it’ll never be enough. My dream is to just live for me and making myself happy. ❤

[@DebraJohnson]

I respect and agree with a lot of what you said, but I don't think BW are necessarily working to prove something. I think we work to survive/pay the bills. Most black women have people (kids, families, ourselves) depending on us, so we usually can't afford to just stop working and "let things fall apart." We don't really have any space to be vulnerable. For me, personally, not having a steady income would be more stressful than working. I do follow Tricia and I have bought her book, so I support the message and as someone who has experienced burnout, I understand why it is needed.

[@AleciaRenece]

For me, It's both. I completely agree. I was working because wasn't no one coming to save me, but I was also looking for worth and value.

[@xoeyeam]

thank you for being here. i appreciate your presence and messages so much ❤❤️‍🩹❤️

[@Shannen-ps9ts]

I Falling apart and crying over everything isn't helpful either. Black women needs to stop caring and making a big deal about everything and learn to say f that crap.

[@AleciaRenece]

Crying and falling apart is healthy. We actually need way more of that. Pretending not to be bothered by things literally destroys us.

[@Shaolin91z]

Thanks Lord for your salvation Thanks Lord for your peace Thanks Lord single no kids

[@TJ-yv3kp]

I needed this message today❤

[@dionnedeniseeveryday]

Thank you so much. This is so needed. ❤

[@gborowme]

I’ve always hated that line but I did not know why,now I know ❤

[@ms.rivera7898]

So true. I am blessed, I am deserving, and I need rest. I am currently working hard (extra hours) to save up to get out of debt, and to take some time off and travel abroad. I have a goal of how many months I will be working. But in-between that time, I am still prioritizing rest and taking a day off if I need to.

[@kaiagutierrez4990]

Alecia, sometimes my business aint your business lol. You didn't have to threaten me like this, but this is such a great video. Thank you. 🖤

[@Stillshook]

Thank you for these videos. Its sad to see what has happening in the rat race. Too much is that, too much. This needs to stop.

[@cedfowler]

My friends need to hear this from you!

[@EbonyHoopGyal]

I LOVE your view and ideals. We can all relate and resonate. My only question is, *how* do we reach a point where we can comfortably pay bills? I want to leave America so bad and ASAP. But it is a process… And until then, I have to make it here. How do we do this?

[@EmergingNow577]

THank you. So glad for this channel, and for you SEEING me...

[@lolasvow3732]

Love love love your content!!! I tell my brother all the time that this is not the life God had planned for us. I’m in the process of trying to set myself to actually leave or even just stop working in America and enjoy life

[@desiree1812]

I needed this. I felt like a little sister/cousin that needed to be sat down and talked to.❤

[@midheaven_mimi]

ALL 👏🏾 OF 👏🏾 THIS 👏🏾 🗣️ PREACH!!! So glad I found your channel! (thanks algorithm!) I resonate wholeheartedly with the messages I’ve heard from you in the videos I’ve binged since yesterday! 😂 Keep it up! 🫶🏾

[@T2010_]

Thank GOD I found your channel. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and truth.

[@shavonnemilan8352]

What a great conversation. I’m glad to hear this subject from a different point of view.

[@greatfulthankful1716]

Wonderful video. I'm so happy that you are thriving in your own way. It's inspiring! You hit on many levels of manipulation and BS that we've been conned into believing. It's everywhere. Thank you for sharing your truth.

[@prettyqueen573]

Love these conversations

[@kween1574]

(finger snaps) SNAP! SNAP! SNAP! SNAP! Yes, all of that. Thank you.

[@Queensofleisure]

Yellow looks amazing on you; you look rejuvenated sis! Keep up the great work!

[@missmirusrobinson6913]

This message grounded me. I love this!❤❤❤

[@NishNicole5190]

Thank you for Pt.2 Alecia! Sis, I’m still unlearning, unleashing this exploitation and this “Strong Black Woman Trap”! I’ve succumbed to thinking my worth had to be attached to luxury….designer bags, designer clothes, expensive self-care, luxury vacations, luxury cars, multiple degrees, management jobs and being a business owner (I’ve failed 5x’s). It led me to nothing but getting into debt, being depressed and feeling unworthy. NEVER AGAIN , I release it all in the name of Jesus 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾

[@princesskaiasher727]

Thanks Sis this video helped me a lot 😊

[@harvicklife]

Message received ❤

[@paid2talk298]

Food for the soul. You are so amazing. Thank you❤

[@Honeyangel202]

Once again, your videos are amazing. Tysm and I love talking about these topics 🙏🏾💖

[@Nara26177]

I love everything about this video.

[@shaylanewlife]

Hello Sis Alecia 😊❤

[@BodyCulinary]

Thank you so much for sharing. Today I am pumping Sing LaLaLa all over the place as my Birthday Soul Mantra. You are appreciated.

[@naye5178]

Yessssss off topic, for the last few videos i be like where is her yellow glasses they so cute on her. So i was super excited to see them in this video. You made me get some for myself. They make you look quirky beautiful 💛🤓

[@annaware1836]

Preach🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 Speak that history! Speak the word of God!

[@misslashaybay]

Every game needs players/participants...

[@adrianjeffrey2897]

This doesn't pertain to me as I am a BM. before I go on about my business YOUR AUDIO SOUNDS GREATT!!

[@AleciaRenece]

Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! Thank you so much ☺️🌻🌺💛

[@sweetpotatoepieeee]

I needed to to hear this. I always crave to just make a major change. I wish I could just work an easy job part time and live the slow paced life. But I have a student loan and rent to pay lol.

[@jaylynbrannon]

You’re glowing Alecia!

[@AleciaRenece]

Awwww!!! Thank you so much 🥹💛☺️🌺

[@temilawal]

Thank you 😊

[@MercedesLynn]

The video I needed!!!!!! Thanks sis 🙏🏽🫶🏽🌷💖

[@disappointeddinosaur4440]

❤Thank you for this message 💕 💖 .

[@itsroween]

These videos you are dropping are amazing!

[@dontmeidgaf2888]

Awesome topic🎉🎉❤

[@andylee4299]

😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

[@nafeesahedwards]

May Allah bless you 🙏💗

[@jamekac.stuckey3228]

🗣️🗣️🗣️

[@OneEyedLion]

First, acting like men is no achievement. If it was, you wouldn't be exhausted. Second, a woman saying this means its 20 years too late. Women only take positions when it's safe to do so.

[@1HelloAngel]

💕

[@alicia1029]

Your videos are too therapeutic

[@1968dogg]

What other ethnic groups scream/shout/trumpet "I don't need no man"?

[@kimroller3609]

None, because they can depend on most of the men within their culture.

[@AleciaRenece]

You're obsessed. No one is even talking to/about you. Go on somewhere.

[@kimroller3609]

☺

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

​@@kimroller3609 That's true.

[@NeicyJ1990]

Opt out of the game 🎮

[@valeriesouthern3288]

Is there a husband and family in your plans ?

[@SweetUareDesi]

Exhaustion😂

[@valeriesouthern3288]

@@SweetUareDesi I don't get it.

[@SweetUareDesi]

@@valeriesouthern3288 men and offspring are exhausting

[@valeriesouthern3288]

@@SweetUareDesi I still don't get what you mean. I guess I'm slow.

[@tribecalledmaya]

@@valeriesouthern3288 yes 👍🏾