Being black in Canada 🇨🇦 vs Being black in New Zealand 🇳🇿

[@simikyn6462]

The culture in NZ is very community based. It is not our way to treat people with disrespect, if it does happen, point it out to them and stand your ground in a respectful way. Most kiwis would not tolerate that behaviour anyway but there are a few idiots out there. You are as valued as anyone else. Take Care

[@conversationswithmeraphy1654]

I love New Zealand ❣️ thank you so much for watching the vlog.

[@heathcornbeef]

Kia Ora hello brother About ten years ago i was teamed up with a really good man David carpet cleaning in Auckland Aotearoa New Zealand he was from the Congo and one of the most lovely humble people I've known

[@rochellek5327]

So glad you were not in the states or you may not have walked away from one of those encounters with the police. Sad but true.

[@conversationswithmeraphy1654]

That is so sad yet so true, it's extremely scary to know that fact 😔

[@Vincentm206]

This was really helpful. Thanks.

[@conversationswithmeraphy1654]

I'm glad I helped 🙂

[@shanewilson2484]

Thanks for talking about these experiences.

[@conversationswithmeraphy1654]

Thank you so much for watching!

[@shanewilson2484]

@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 Here some young people talk about racism in New Zealand kzbin.info/www/bejne/maOxaH5on9Rqmbc

[@bernadettekelly8165]

Black is just so beautiful ❤❤❤.....

[@josebro352]

I'm a gay (bi) white man and I love black men. They're just sooo beautiful. Black men are very, very sexy.

[@sidneydhoro1554]

Thank you for sharing your experience 😊. I hope you continue sharing your experience and perspective as a person of color traveling

[@mohammedbinladen4619]

what is a person of color? doesn't even make sense considering black isn't even a colour.

[@chrisharris1522]

There is certainly racism in NZ but it more individuals that are like that it is not so much institutionalised, if you are discriminated against and report it the authorities will treat it seriously which I believe is not the case in some countries. I would love to see more people of African descent in NZ as a more diverse society is a better society

[@zaynevanday142]

Heaps of Racism from Maori 🔥

[@mary-loustock7652]

​@zaynevanday142 Yes there are but heaps of racism from non maori too

[@franpowers6348]

Ralphy, I am so sorry to hear about your experience in Canada, well Quebec... Why can't we just love each other... share and learn from each other. You mentioned your husband is from Canada... do Canadians treat him the same way they treat you?... Being from Western Canada, this really saddens me.

[@akken2112]

I've been to both Canada and New Zealand. My experience is that New Zealand is one of the most beautiful, laid back, chill and inclusive places I have ever been. Canada on the other hand, when it comes to racism is more like America light, about just as racist, but not as open and profound.

[@iallso1]

I visited Canada in 1988 and saw both sides of racism. I'm from a small village in the centre of England that was, certainly at that time, almost entirely white, as was my high school (more than 99% white), but I was brought up to treat people the same irrespective of their colour. One of my cousins that I visited in Toronto was dating a Native Equidorian at the time of my visit, his best friend was black and my cousins best friend was latino from Cuba. When we hung out I was comfortable and it seemed to me that out in public there was no issues with a mixed group of young people having out together. The flip side of this was that my uncle hated that his daughter was going out with a coloured kid and that he didn'tattend the right church, Pat wasn't welcome at the house. My uncle also resented that most of his neighbours were not northern European white, they were Italian, Greek, and even one family from Jamaica. Also on a trip to the beach my uncle and I walked past two black guys in their late teens or early 20s who were listening to music, when my uncle made an openly racist comment. I understand this is just a snap shot, but I did realise that clearly there were people in Canada who did not appreciate the multicultural society in which they lived. More recently I have emigrated to New Zealand and have been on the receiving end of racial abuse, despite being white. I don't think that it is anywhere in the same league as it would be if I were black, asian, or from the middle east, there is elements in all parts of society that feel the need to make ethnicity an issue, but there are many people who are accepting of other people.

[@conversationswithmeraphy1654]

Thank you for sharing your experience 🙏

[@interestedbystander196]

"Being black AND gay..."

[@sophiaferra1739]

Tuned in for more videos

[@WendyJoseph-ww8ws]

All the best. As graceful as you are gutsy. Hugs...

[@conversationswithmeraphy1654]

Thank you for the kind words 🙏❤️

[@timmcilraith8762]

We want people like you to come and live in New Zealand.

[@conversationswithmeraphy1654]

Thank you for the kind words 🙏🏿 and thank you for watching.

[@damianlenge8001]

I really enjoying this

[@hassandavis]

Thanks for sharing. BTW, there is no need to preface your life experience with any qualifiers or caveats.

[@conversationswithmeraphy1654]

Thank you so much for watching 😊

[@donnawilson3846]

Kia ora or Hello if you came to Aotearoa/NZ & a random person said to you hey what’s up my N….. it depends on the tone they used, & it usually could be a kind way of acknowledging your culture not realising it’s offensive to you, because if they say it often to their friends it is a kind gesture from them to you. They may not realise it could be insensitive towards you. Not sure if this helps. But racism is all over the World. For me personally it’s how we will react to the gesture? I would question their behaviour? Of why they said it? If it was intentionally I would pray that one day a person like you may save their life & they will change their point of view of how they view people like you? Always encourage my kids to never belittle anyone whether they be brown, white or black. Hope this helps. Our kids learn this type of behaviour we are never born with it. ❤😊

[@mary-loustock7652]

Tautoko support your reply. Sorry I only noticed this korero now.

[@Hamzakhan-dt3gv]

Interesting video

[@kobinafynn7873]

Sorry to ask, but did you say you were waiting for your husband in your statements?

[@conversationswithmeraphy1654]

Hey I apologise I have seen this video on awhile, which part are you talking about?

[@elizabethrodriguez5742]

Raphaellllllllllllll! Miss you 🤗

[@conversationswithmeraphy1654]

Miss you too

[@Mcfreddo]

That's a horrible theme of racial harassment you've been subjected to.

[@danekamo]

This should be about having a nose ring in Canada or NZ rather than colour😊

[@mary-loustock7652]

Whats a nose ring?

[@mattieclan8957]

Dont be offended when you are in NZ, as many store as a standard, have someone at the door checking for proof of purchase regardless of what race you are. Guess this is happening because of the huge jump in store thefts the past years.

[@Hamzakhan-dt3gv]

That’s sad

[@richevericheve5156]

you where lucky because rascism is hidden in nz which is worse as it comes out in a horrible way ,my man is from west africa and i have no end of abuse from people accusing him of things he has not down just because he comes from africa..i have only meet a few who know me that are ok

[@Andrew-tf8jt]

Where's it hidden in New Zealand give me an example or keep your bullshit to yourself...New Zealand is one of the most diverse places in the world if you were harassed it's because you were being an ass hole not the other way around.

[@hellurmoto3163]

Thats sad to know you experienced that here in our country!! Im so sorry! My neighbour is from Zimbabwe and thee most humble guy my family and i have ever met, il fight anyone who tries that man. He got his car kicked in for no reason from a mental patient living down the road and all he said was “dont worry, its ok friend, its only a car”. 😭😭Humbled me real quick.

[@heathcornbeef]

Kia Ora hello brother hay our cops are not perfect not even close but we don't fear our police but still don't muck them around they hold the power but mostly don't have guns so chances of getting shot are slim. Hay brother i hope you and your husband/family are healthy and happy

[@conversationswithmeraphy1654]

Honestly I feel safe around the police in New Zealand. I lived in Auckland and plan to go back to enjoy that reality amongst many other things. The only time I got scared was in Christchurch, but they will always be some bad apples in an apple tree. Thank you so much for watching the vlog.

[@heathcornbeef]

@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 i lived in Christchurch in the mid eighties and if you experienced racism or homophobic hate there I'm not surprised when i was living there white power skinheads were a problem

[@conversationswithmeraphy1654]

Yeah when I come back with my partner we're thinking of either living in Auckland, Wellington or Hamilton. We'll see!!!

[@heathcornbeef]

@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 nice 👍

[@zaclooking3656]

Back to NZ soon as

[@conversationswithmeraphy1654]

Yes soon as !!!

[@horndog7357]

Sweet,mind your own business in my land nz and you'll be 99% Allright.

[@philmills2970]

Hope you and your husband find your way back to NZ soon take care m8

[@conversationswithmeraphy1654]

Will be coming back in the very very near future 🙏🏿❤️

[@Ozee316]

I think something that is important to remember is that police are often looking for various people due to recent crimes. If you fit the profile - young male with dark skin etc - they may need to confirm you are not the person they are looking for. That is unavoidable and it is not due to racism. There is no way to avoid this in my opinion since police are often under very severe time pressure to catch criminals on the run. They need to balance how they aprehend these people with how much they make the general public uncomfortable. Very little crime in NZ is committed by men from African origin, mainly because there are so few living in NZ anyway. It is highly unlikely that any NZ police will be actively looking for someone that fits your general profile and so will not show much interest in you. NZ has less problems (so far) with major shoplifting. Also NZ law does not allow security or anyone to physically restrain shoplifters. Stores are installing cameras and asking for police to tresspass serial shoplifters. In Canada, the problem is obviously far worse, and again you unfortunately fit the general profile of those who are committing the crimes. It could be approached differently but I am not sure you would agree other solutions are better. Walmart Canada could require facial recognition and drivers licenses to enter and trespass more people. That would end profiling. In terms of police interactions, obviously if people were given digital IDs that were carried around then police would not even bother looking at who you are because an AI computer would tell them exactly who to target and what level of force to use. I would not like to live in such a world but it would prevent racial profiling. You would be profiled by computer ID.

[@ricecristi]

A child with a music case fit the description. Stop yourself.

[@tantomasheline1940]

You made a mistake talking about your wife

[@KittyKalitaASMR]

He's Gay. Hope this helps :)

[@user-hp8hv5vo9h]

A man with husband

[@jamescorry63]

I,m sure you have some good things to say , but when I struggle to hear you even when the volume is turned right up ,,, its a lost cause

[@richlee509]

Black Don't Crack

[@dobbynp]

well as we're talking victimhood I'd like to see something about being white in Africa