Being In A 10-Year Relationship And Getting Through A 2.5 Year LDR: Charmaine Sew | Ask ZULA | EP 17

[@ZULAsg]

Thank you Sew for being so open and candid to share her love story with us! And if you are in an LDR, feel free to share your relationship stories in the comments section below and we hope that all of you can meet your partners soon!

[@HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS]

@@harukaizamioranemp8472 😰

[@TheSmartLocal]

WE LOVE YOU CHARSEWBAO

[@TheMscandy123]

is this sew commenting?

[@melissatan158]

The “stranger” feeling after a long period of not meeting is real… when Sew talked about it, it just triggered memories for me. Happens everytime. Then when we separate again, needing to learn to live with the pain of separation in the first week hits the hardest…the lonely feeling is the worst. Glad this is all ending!!! Jiayou Sew and Axel

[@Jay-ru2cw]

Thank you so much Sew for sharing such a heartwarming love story of yours. May you and Axel last forever!

[@mtyh1999]

Truly loved Sew's story on their relationship. I've gone through my share of a 2 year LDR and similar to her, I did feel certain changes in how he acted when he returned for his break. However, LDR didn't turn out so well for me, and in fact scarred me. Apparently the feelings were no longer reciprocated as he started getting closer to another coursemate of his and he decided to call it quits between us. Can't say he cheated for sure, but they were definitely too close (physical contact), and he'd say he's busy studying but turns out having time to go for a trip with her and some other friends. ps. he broke up with me over a phone call. I've doubted LDR since and pledge to not personally be in one anymore, but it's beautiful to watch Sew's relationship worked out. :)

[@sonexarmy97]

This is so light-hearted and cute. It’s nice to know that there are stable and healthy relationships in real life too😍🤗

[@MrZomfgwtfbbq]

Gotta give props to Sew for being so forward looking and planning for the future. Keep it up and finish your degree.

[@eatdrinkdistrict7241]

I know a couple of friends who are in a relationship for more than 10 years but they did not last beyond 7 years in marriage. Responsibilities and mundane household chores set in so the magic disappears. Reality is not what you imagine (eg him running to hug you), but never forget to find the joy and love in every day’s simple moments!

[@nurshazmeera]

AHHHHH teared watching this. I’m in a long term relationship myself and i can totally relate at the part where the love for him just keeps growing and growing. My bf still amazes me up till this day and we’ve been together since primary 5 HAHA. Can’t wait to get married to my bestie for life next year WOOHOO. Wishing Sew and Axel all the best and may the love between the two of you only get stronger 😙

[@jimw8615]

Wah P5. I am impressed.

[@spiderscurry5614]

woah

[@douknodawae7805]

I'm so happy for u ❤️❤️

[@celinekjx]

30 mins of sew simping over axel!!! haven't seen him on the channel but I already ship the both of them so much

[@Syuhada88]

Met my husband at school when we were 16,been through LDR for 5 years, now married for 8 years. Now we are both 33y old 😁😁

[@Belryllium]

happy for yalls!!

[@xueying2210]

This is the kind of relationship we all want 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Dirchew]

I hope Sew pick him up while wearing a Sunglass. Thanks for this ep!

[@austen98]

I know how you feel Sew. My heart goes out to you. My wife and my daugther are stuck in Malaysia for now due to bureaucratic nonsense and I can't get them back into Australia for now, which has past 18 months now. However, with the opening up of many countries around the world I hope that things will change soon.

[@damienlee927]

Great job Leah on the hosting and interview and kudos to Sew for being so upfront with her story

[@EmiriXynk]

i'm currently in a LDR myself for 5 years (vietnam - singapore) and the last time we met was 2 years ago (cause covid). Really thank Sew for sharing your piece on LDR, much needed in time like this and we are hopeful that we can meet each other again in 2022. Wish Sew and Axel all the best and thank you again for your story!!

[@greenteaoolongtea]

idk why but this is my favourite ep so far 🥺🥺

[@rubyc9059]

that intro was definitely inspired by Jessi!! love it

[@mizchiefmagik]

OH MY GOD SOME ONE NOTICED, i am very inspired by Jessi's showterview!!!!!!

[@maycheng9308]

Awwww so cute :') I can vouch that LDR is not easy. And what Sew said is true, it will be harder if one person has too much time and one person is living life as usual. I went through 3 LDR and learnt my lesson. I was a NEET for 2 years. Wasn't my proudest years but my current LDR boyfriend that I met online, is not a Singaporean. So we had talks about future about who going over etc. And during the whole journey, he stayed patient with me while I grow out of my NEET cocoon. We are together for more than 2 years now and still going strong. :') It's not a scam hahaha, he came to meet me in SG before.

[@afras9433]

what does NEET mean?

[@tigercoke]

@@afras9433 Not in Education, Employment, or Training

[@sheryll9120]

Thank you sew for sharing! Should do an episode with axel next year when he's back!! :)))

[@ivyheng8383]

I don’t really have much faith in love, but thank you for showing that true love does exist :’) your relationship is beautiful!

[@Jun-si4db]

i love how extroverted people always fall for the quiet ones (": im waiting for my silent partner!!!!!

[@moonsunismarried]

🤣Yea, I'm introverted and majority of my friends are extroverts. Idk why this happens but personally I feel more comfortable with an extroverted person.

[@hobihobi1563]

so cute ahhhh :(((( sew and axel are goals tbh

[@VeronicaGoh]

Been almost two years since I last saw my bf. The last time he was in Singapore was during CNY 2020 (and the first Covid-19 case started one/two days after he flew in). We are still together, but the borders closed on us when I thought I could fly over to Melbourne in May. It pains me actually to know belatedly that he actually planned a birthday party for me and had the plans to fly us to Japan and propose to me there... Covid sucks T.T.

[@chloe-zq8ex]

omg that’s so sad :( i wish all the best for ur future when u cab meet each other again and he can propose

[@coconutnick]

Hihi, i'm also in the same situation as you. I haven't seen my boyfriend in almost 2 years due to covid. We're in this together! You're not alone and i'm sure we will meet our partner soon.

[@VeronicaGoh]

@@coconutnick awww. Now thankful for the VTL, he’s flying in next month 😭 I hope you will be able to see your partner soon too! ❤️

[@ihearyou235]

Really would wish Axel would be in a Zula video with Sew one day!!! 🥰🥰🥰

[@egee1010]

Awww what a cute story. Definitely teared up 😭😭

[@nonez9539]

i loved this dynamic so much. it felt so genuine and sew and leah were holding hands sometimes which was so sweet especialy because it is a hard topic for sew to share about. thanks to both for this greg video and see thank you for being great vulnerable and sharing ❤️😢

[@Amaranthine.96]

What a wholesome video!! Thank you so much for this!

[@Luna-yb4pw]

I love this video! Thank you so much for sharing and producing this. Healthy and lovely relationship we need!

[@ntelchaaa5659]

i'm currently in a relationship too!! i'm 18 and i'm seeing so much parallelism with sew's relationship and it makes me feel safe hehehe

[@dlxm1994]

I’ve been with my now husband since we were 18 (28 now). One thing I’ve learnt is that people around you are going to constantly say things like “you’re young, it won’t last” “go experience the world” “you need to be by yourself before you can be with someone” “you’re too young to be in a serious relationship” Don’t listen to any of it!! Trust your gut and your relationship. All the best!!

[@ntelchaaa5659]

@@dlxm1994 that's really nice to hear!! have been told to "keep my options open" by others before but... no thank you! HAHAH i hope our love story would go as smoothly as yours

[@dlxm1994]

@@ntelchaaa5659 haha yes that was a classic line! I used to also get told off for posting couple pictures "why you post? You want everyone to know? What if your break up?" 😂 All the best x

[@ethanpang5162]

nice. last long.

[@audeamus7388]

@@dlxm1994 that is so sweet!! Was he your first love?

[@esteewoo]

so cute!!! 😭❤️

[@user-yr6wk6us5t]

Great episode! Such honest sharing

[@embergem]

Leah is such a good host!

[@BluuKiss]

Aww, cute couple! Wish you both happiness!

[@nicholasyong7051]

Someone need to give a round of applause to the guy best friend as being the mvp of this relationship

[@triciahsn]

love sew’s story aha i cried though :”)

[@nonez9539]

i loved this!!!!!!!

[@ivantyc147]

All good girls are taken 😅Jia you sew ! Happy for you and your relationship , We love you 💜 still finding a girl like you peace out ☮️

[@joycleenljx]

Love this episode❤️

[@alyasarahLIVE]

yay sew and leah !!

[@eliTUNE]

Awwww it's so sweet :')

[@EssyJoy]

ME TOO LDR FOR 2.5 YEARS SG-US!

[@Izzynpc]

genuinely curious, how come Sew didn't notice Axel has accent before she came to US? like is it not obvious when they facetime eachother? or maybe Axel adapts when they facetime so because it was when f2f, Axel couldn't adapt (to Sew SGrean way)? 🤔 Edit: as usual, great video and lovely hosting by Leah! :)

[@atXP.]

The guy best friend very helpful

[@yunz4608]

Love this episode thanks for sharing

[@junminnie]

This is so sweet and o, wah, I thought every LDR couple sets a time to call sia! I used to get mad at my bf so many times because we don't set a time to call, but that was like at the beginning of our LDR, now I'm like chill cuz like you said, I focus on my work, on myself and stuff while he busy with his work. He's a health care worker, and he got assigned to another state (I'm from Penang, he was assigned to Sarawak) which is literally like across the sea about almost 10 months now. And the saddest thing is that Malaysia borders are finally open, and I immediately bought tickets to fly to Sarawak to meet him, we were so fucking excited but then I was scammed :') my tickets were burnt. And yes, I can easily just buy another ticket but like I just feel too hurt to buy another ticket so soon again, I'm like traumatized, like what if I got scammed again :') It's not cheap, it's almost 1k one way trip. But he said he will be coming back next year Feb so 🤞 and he will end his attachment in Sarawak at least 3 years later, so since he's been there for almost 1 year now, so 2 more years to go? 🤞🤞🤞

[@beanoyip06]

US VTL opened.. can fly there now..

[@mytwobaobeis190]

nice convo :)

[@jennifer.huanng]

Brb finding a boyfriend

[@lilypi2123]

I tear up watching the video ..the story so similar to mine but in different way , lastly she's so pure and funny without double face ..hope they will marry soon 💞

[@royalazalea664]

this is so cute....

[@ber245]

at 4:14 were u guys trying to say "one fateful day" than ""one faithful day"? AHHAHA but means sew and her guy best friend had a lot of faith that day i guess

[@ProjectElf]

I have a qn that i nv dared to ask...y does sew go by sew n not Charmaine??

[@duckiidooo]

I also last met my bf in 2019 and now he's in NS......... nth much to say but the communication is key ;)

[@harmlesschicken7018]

I'm waiting for my online boyfriend, he had planned to come meet me in 2020. We didn't even get to meet in person before covid happened. It's been two years :( he sent me flowers and a birthday present, we video call almost everyday. But it's still so difficult.

[@Qianggg]

What vocation did axel sign on as?

[@chinhhoang4010]

Not me hearing Sew's story and crying so much lollllllll

[@ezzy_le]

Jie Sew, I am in Phoenix, Arizona and don't worry I will watch out for him hehheheheh 😂😍

[@hongrannn6386]

omg the intro style is it referenced from jessi showterview,!

[@joeybrown2672]

not me thinking that LDR is light-dependent resistor🤣

[@jasminegabriellerose9963]

soo cute :D

[@IceCreamUnity]

Best wingman guy friend

[@imrouxuan]

I cried omg

[@kaihong2580]

Cute couple

[@linuh._]

sew get it i guess 😭

[@zoneinfinite]

Sew said they bto-ed together multiple times...but not married can still bto meh?

[@WendySJiahui]

Haha you can always try to apply first cos it’s not guaranteed. You only need to be married when you are collecting the key, which is probably another two to three years from your application

[@cistrre6673]

WHY POST THE SAME TIME AS THE MAIN CHANNEL AHH

[@letssgoletsgoo6865]

it's double the content :)

[@cistrre6673]

@@letssgoletsgoo6865 true... HAHAHAHA

[@glorytruthlove]

Sweeet max

[@SuperPhysicsgeek]

4:58

[@agentlazer314]

Uhh, is my maths failed or what. How can it be 10 years relationship when 2013 to now(2021) is only 8 years... Correct me, internet. Tyvm

[@ZULAsg]

Hey there, apologies that there was a typo in the video. Sew and Axel have been together since 2012 so they have been together for 9 years. Hence in the video, Leah mentioned that it was an almost 10-year relationship. Sorry for the mistake, but hope you still enjoyed the video! :)

[@jos1678]

U could get a degree in the US…

[@hilarykoh]

So cute wtf

[@tanjunwei-ms6kc]

I met Sonia on Evermatch & aft a long convo in WhatsApp , she fell in love 💘 with me

[@HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS]

😰

[@HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS]

😰😰

[@benjaminkhor9975]

The singapore accent game too strong, i can't. slightly off putting!

[@joyssi]

Sew story almost same as mine 🥲🥲 we never express our love,, naturally juz got together-