Caring For People with Mental Health Conditions | Can Ask Meh?

[@OGS.Official]

This November, we’re partnering with Temasek to bring you One of Us, a mental health art exhibition that aims to break down the walls of ignorance and stigma through art. Join us at Temasek Shophouse and Funan SG from 5-17 November to show your support. For more information, check out the event page here: bit.ly/OGSOneofUs

[@gljl609]

Sim Kah Lim work will be at which one? Thanks..

[@OGS.Official]

@@gljl609 hi, all 3 artists' works will be featured at Funan from 5-17 November, you can refer to this event page for more details :) facebook.com/events/557747851644516/

[@jessicamarcheline4012]

Thank you for bringing this up. It is very touching because I feel that a lot of people understand my struggles. I suffered from bipolar disorder and my husband is schizoaffective. My mother in law is also bipolar and very often relapse. She will trigger my husband who will in turn trigger me. A lot of times I wanted to walk away. Seeing how others also struggled help me realise I am not alone.

[@steffiwibisono1611]

even though, they have mental health issue, they're nice people though.

[@MiceAl487]

"It's like God has given you a pair of wings, but at the same time, you're shackled to the ground. You can't fly. It'a such a cruel, cruel irony."

[@RonLarhz]

Lmao. So god is sadistic or smthg lah. Smdh.

[@gp5675]

This hit me so hard. Well said.

[@adhiantos]

“It doesn’t matter whether you’re a billionaire or millionaire. If you lose your mind, you lose everything”. How true. Kudos OGS for this incredible episode.

[@jessicamarcheline4012]

True. I am a general practitioner doctor and I still have mental health issues.

[@adhiantos]

@@jessicamarcheline4012 Please do consider seeking treatment if you need it. Take care alright, you're definitely not alone. We're all here :)

[@iwaaaaaaaaaaaa]

Uuuu kudos! Who know Ao3?

[@srivaylan2631]

True. Money is not the wholesome of life. Singaporeans are chasing for 5c', without stopping to realise that a good health matters more.

[@isabelleseah7711]

Kah Lim: Harmony. No one: Kah Lim: MAJULAH SINGAPURA. Yesssss Kah Lim.

[@iSugarHeart]

Hes so adorable =DDD i dont know if he has mind of a child i didnt understand that.. but he looks very gentle and lovable =)

[@zhiwei50]

"When you've seen the best of someone, you just can't walk away." Beautiful.

[@isabelleseah7711]

"She bought me ice cream. I love ice cream." same Adrian, same.

[@steffiwibisono1611]

literaly everyone.

[@jamiekoh248]

16:25 ‘Humanity has too much mindlessness and too little mindfulness.’ Can’t agree more on this. Hit me in the feels.

[@l0gans]

This series is literally so wholesome and as a media channel, you deserve so much credit for telling the stories of these people. Also the hugest shoutout to everyone who have been in these videos (even the production crew!) you are all so brave and selfless - I'm truly in awe.

[@RonLarhz]

"wholesome" for media. Just some face case that isn't even showing the whole truth/what's actually going on.

[@tlanmawiakhiangte]

Truly truly.

[@Kenneth-mk1vh]

Mental health is unfortunately still under-looked in Singapore. Just watch - the amazing works of Kah Lim, the touching words spoken by Faith and the wise sharing by Daren - makes me wonder how different are we from them, since we are all special in our own ways?

[@crsytaltan]

humans are more similar than we think we are (:

[@RonLarhz]

Lmao. More like hypocrisy by faith n imh. bought into their shit initially. Just that nobody talk about it online. Most ppl just lanlan suck thumb, try to move on nia.

[@Gehslol]

"I think everybody can heal if they are given a more caring and loving environment." Yes yes. I agree. Patience, understanding, care and love via little and big actions. I teared at the last part.

[@kevinharris7189]

I also agree my parents caused this I was diagnosed at age 7 I'm 42. My whole life I never knew love I was 39 I met this one person that took my whole heart.while I was with her I started to b successful.i had a reason 💯 deseri Marie Monte.love was real but deseri has a nephew and he had issues I started pointing thhem out.out of no where she was gone and had everyone believing what Tina and Joe Harris have everyone believing about me saying I'm this way and that way and I'm not anything other then caring .Xmas. 2 years ago my (hate this word)mom.she said I had to leave I was making her dogs nurvous..they still say the same thing ABOUT me years later that I realise they don't even know me.deseri left took our daughter and left me alone .abandoned me I was homeless.no one cares I care.. hypocrite Christian want to have everyone else pray for them I miss my daughter I cry everyday I was hospitalized 3 times last year for attempts and no one cared and when I say something I'm always this way or did that and said this..judgment stegma makes me automatically guilty homeless and childless..I act on impulse I'm suffering with major depression I was blamed for a cut on her head 2 days later .went to court sat alone on left side she was on right side saying everything to hurt me make her look good and she sounded like my mom and said so many things about me that everyone coached her to say.that washorrible listening to her as I sat there alone tears were dropping off my cheeks..why

[@Susansboil]

Kah lim is so cute, he seems like such a cheery person

[@steffiwibisono1611]

i need

[@cz5240]

The guy in green shirt is so well-spoken and the artworks by his sister-in-law is so amazing

[@kupukupukupu434]

At last..i cried..when the husband say those appreciation to his wife.. how he value her.. and i want to be my husband's friend too

[@steffiwibisono1611]

i need a friend like you

[@medicmathan553]

True.... understand ur partners feelings....

[@medicmathan553]

@@steffiwibisono1611 I'm here for u my fren

[@jasonng6899]

Kah lim is right, we admire your sister (:

[@Bieberfanatic911]

I remember Kah Lim. He’s very well known for his art at IMH. My old volunteer counselor talked about his art being on the walls all around IMH. I looked at his artwork and felt so awed by how much of a genius he is. Portraying his delusions on a canvas. Hope he’s better now❤️

[@wingyean2518]

“I appreciate, not the big things that you do but the little things that you do” Awhhh 💜

[@KeiVC]

I am absolutely loving the conversations that are opening up about mental health. I personally struggle with depression and and an eating disorder, and I'm fully aware that my family supports and tries to understand my condition as much as they can. I see them going to great lengths to ensure my safety and happiness. It makes me wonder whether I am just becoming a burden or placing extra and unnecessary stress in their lives. But my mom tells me constantly not to think this way. We help each other. We all have our struggles. We are here for each other. We take care of each other no matter what. Mental health is an important yet invisible pillar of health. We should take care of it just like we take care of our physical health. Thank you for this wonderful video.

[@shirleycool166]

:( me too when you have ppl you love. You just dont want to trouble them with your problem.

[@jessicamarcheline4012]

So true. I am bipolar and there are many days that I cannot go to work because of my condition. This it is difficult to hold down a job and a lot of times I lashed out at my family and partner. I feel so sorry to my family and my partner for being such a burden.

[@laraprelac]

13:05 THAT MAN IS SO PRECIOUS OH MY GOSH HIS SMILE IS SO PRECIOUS AND OMG THE WAY HE JUST COMFORTS HER IN SUCH A SUBTLE WAY we need more people like him

[@wongbdjzjdnsjdb6945]

love this community so much. Yes, you can't snap out of it. mental illness is not a temporary state of mind, it disrupts you physiologically and psychologically. Judgment is not what patients need, all we need in this society is more care and love. To anyone struggling with mental illnesses, or basically any hardships, press on! You're doing great, I am very proud of you and remember that rainbows always come after storms!

[@vinylhedgehog5574]

My best friend has depression, ADHD, and a combination of Borderline Personality Disorder and Bipolar Disorder, as well as anorexia. It has been difficult and to be very honest, I have considered walking away, but I didn't. This video has been a great encouragement for me, and I'm glad that that this channel exists.

[@ZERO_0594]

I also suffer from a mental disorder but, that does not stop me I still put up a fight and contribute to my community through volunteering.

[@val_99]

Mental illness is still, sadly, a taboo topic in sg and i hope people dont blame the victims for their mental illness. No one wants to be labelled as a person with mental illness. It's something we cannot control so please stop victim blaming, saying that they "deserved it" and their "mentality is too weak" etc... I remember when i was first dignosed with depression. My parents, like typical asian parents, blamed me saying that "your sister have depression now you have depression? Why like that?" They talk as if i WANT this to happen to me. I do not want depression. You cant choose to accept or reject a mental illness if you have one. So i hope people are more open-minded about this because social support is very important in one's recovery❤ and to everyone who overcame their mental illness, you did a good job and to everyone still fighting, keep fighting and you will get there someday!! Dont give up❤

[@colorfullyme]

4:10 This is very important. Loving someone else does not mean abandoning yourself. No human being on this earth is easy to love. It is a choice and hard work. And a big part of that work is taking care of yourself and having boundaries.

[@Bieberfanatic911]

Bipolar patient here! It’s a tough fight. I wish I have family members who are as open and accepting as theirs. That’s okay. They probably don’t understand me. But I know how hard it is to go through everyday. There’s so many times I just wanted to give up. But I’m proud of myself for being so strong. Much love to all of you 💞

[@edwingoh4094]

"humanity has too much mindlessness and too little mindfulness." these people make good philosophers

[@morethanveggies]

Thank you for the video. I had depression since puberty because of multiple factors out of my control. I didn't know it was a disorder, I was conditioned by my family that it was something wrong with my attitude or personality. I only sought help from professional counsellors at age 26/27 after suicidal thoughts returned so strongly. I had to do it without my family's knowledge because of their mindset "if you have a problem you must only keep it in the family and tell us only." But I can't because their reactions made everything worse, eg "Be grateful, last time we didn't have so much nice food.", "Smile more", "Because you didn't do ___ enough"... How can I confide in them? My counsellors from SAMH and Fei Yue were a godsend, they started me on my recovery journey. Now I'm so much better, but I still couldn't tell my family what happened. I wish I could and I wish they will understand. I'm so happy for these people that they have such supportive family members, what I've gone through is mild compared to them.

[@sal293t5]

"To say I love you... doesn't justify, because to me, CARE, encompasses all those feelings". This resonates with me! I mean You can tell someone you love them and they'll hear it but when your actions show that you care for them.. they will feel it.

[@idellekhoo9459]

this makes me think different about the way my mom cares for me. I used to have depression on top of panic disorder and social anxiety, i cld never imagine how difficult it is for her, and this vid sheds a little light on her perspective of caring for me

[@sleepy_dobe]

15:55 the discrimination against people with mental health conditions when it comes to looking for jobs.......so so true. And really......only felt by mental health sufferers. I haven't had a real job for several years, my savings are gone, and I live alone. And I'm willing to bet, I'm not the only one in such a situation.

[@ProjectElf]

this was such a good episode. ppl think that those with mental conditions are weak. we are actually the strongest ppl out there, with the amount of emotional pain we go through everyday.

[@spoonerium5697]

BRUH the old lady is a sister to the painter Sim Kah Lim this is so gooooddddd

[@nasilemakletakicecream]

J. Kappa is he famous?

[@jackjack1258]

Dk if he is but his work looks really good!!

[@a-little-screwy7386]

So much thanks, to the people, that care for their loved ones in this video. And so much thanks, to the people, who care for me. Thanks to my mum, who does my laundry, because I can't leave my flat, to go to the basement und talks to me on the phone, when I'm having a panic attack and think I'm dying. Thanks to my boyfriend, who even showers me when I'm crying because I'm feeling dirty, but I can't find the strenght to shower. Thanks, to every human being, that helps someone in a very bad time. You make a different. A big one!

[@AaROnYAnRox]

a great topic !!!! full kudos to them and all caregivers out there big or small !!!!

[@qassem6001]

I love this channel. Especially this series. It is quite inspiring and really is an eye opener. The production is really nice. Deserve way more recognition!!! Love yall

[@Samantha-wp5gg]

Every single response is heartwarming. Thanks for this video.

[@shrimpmandu]

15:20 made me smile after the shittiest day

[@DeeIsntMyRealName]

I'm an occupational therapy student, and during my final year of diploma (2019) we were assigned to the psychiatric department. The opportunity to communicate and engage with clients in the psy ward may be one of the most unforgettable experience ever. We had to do a case study on a chosen patient, so we had the liberty to go through their folders and read through the history, plus sitting in meetings with psychiatrists giving explanation on new cases. It was definitely an eye opening experience, and I still remember the faces and names of some of the most memorable patients then. They were like our friends though being muchhh older than us haha the youngest we've had in the ward was a high schooler and reading through his folder made my heart cry for him cuz he had a dream but due to his condition he got warded, and he had to see other patients leave one by one as he stayed there. One morning, he even waved and yelled out me and my friend's name from the ward cuz he saw us walking into the hospital from the gate lol asking if we'll be going to the ward later 🤭

[@hanna3684]

You have a good heart. We need more professionals like you.

[@allabtshow]

Cindy's words he's my bro bought tears to my eyes. Yes they might be related to us in one way or another but that doesn't everyone wants to take up the responsibility. That's why these caregivers have my utmost respect!

[@jag4064]

Kindness. We need more of this in this society.

[@PriscillaConnection]

"she bought me ice cream, i love ice cream" - so pure :-)

[@Amandabulb]

My sister is in denial that she is diagnosed with schizophrenia, it was a hard time for the family. This video meant so much. So relatable and brought me to tears.

[@73JSM]

or your family could be in denial that she does not have chizo fernia. sai-kai-a-tree is a psyodo science. you really want to trust a psychiatrists? IF SO go to IMH Singapore... hell on earth.

[@MargaretWambui-yc3br]

Wait a damn minute, 13:43, Kah Lim's paintings are amazing. Wow🤩😍😍😍😍🤩🤩. I so love them.

[@lisanicole4014]

i also have rapid cycling bipolar 2 disorder. Its pretty interesting seeing it from an outside point of view. What he said about having wings and being shackled to the ground is almost like he was describing the hypomania and depression that can change your mood even over a matter of hours. Its very confusing having moodswings like that. Im really grateful that they decided to highlight this story. It means a lot to those, like me, suffering from this disorder.

[@tbhimdone550]

Thank you En Daren. I somehow feel like he’s the dad I never had. All of them are so brave for sharing their stories.

[@gawbansiang]

Thanks for doing this video. Mental health conditions are still so woefully misunderstood in Singapore, and the immense difficulty in overcoming one is completely underestimated. It's so important for everyone to hear these stories to allow our communities to embrace them with the necessary trust and support :')

[@eileenlow1065]

It is nice to know that there is at least one family member who has their back 🥺

[@fangbonekip4902]

My mom suffered from schizophrenia. My father and my 3 other siblings refused to care for her when she suffered relapses because they had no idea how to help her... the first step is to see a psychiatrist but so many people are scared to do that for the stigma of finally admitting they or their family members are mentally unwell. The 2nd step is to ensure medical advice is followed, whether it's hospitalization or CONSISTANT oral/ intravenous medication. The last step is the most important - repeat follow up visits with your psychiatrist. It's a lifelong illness. Finally, patients themselves are clever enough to know whether someone really cares for them. And they will want to get treatment if you really care. Compassion and patience are what moves them.

[@jessicamarcheline4012]

Sometimes it is difficult to care for people with because one have to be strong enough to make the difficult decision. I feel so touched watching this video. My partner suffered from schizoaffective, my mother in law and I are bipolar. Sometimes we will trigger each other. So yeah everyone must be on medication for us all to be fine.

[@choryipoon9830]

Thank you for doing this. Increasing the awareness, showing mindfulness (like Daren said) and letting others have a chance to understand.

[@yukilynx3526]

Last year, I was admitted into IMH quite a number of times. I stayed at the normal ward (Ward 22B for women) and the Sayang Ward which is more expensive, but nothing was working. My mental health was deteriorating every day and I started to think of suicide. My mom decided to try moving me to the Mood Disorders Unit there after receiving advice from my cousin's husband who works at IMH. There's where I met Faith, who works at MDU. Through the activities held there I really got better gradually, though I still got readmitted a number of times. I really like how Faith encouraged me during those trying times and I am eternally grateful to her and her coworker Jerlyn for helping me. Side note: The food there is really yucky though so I always looked forward to my mom dabao for me haha xD

[@dorkiecookie]

IMH food really sucks like 😭 luckily i ordered western lmao i was from 32B

[@sabbyrockstar]

I was from 22b too. I always ask them to upgrade my food to sayang wellness food ,😅 jealous of mdu!! They got a lot of things there

[@yukilynx3526]

@@dorkiecookie They really need to improve their food standards.

[@yukilynx3526]

@@sabbyrockstar I asked them to upgrade too but the food is still the same leh.

[@sandugashilyas883]

"the last thing anybody needs is judgement" so truly

[@Kikokiki_tt]

First of all, thank you for sharing your storys. As someone with mental health issues I am proud of you all. Hearing your words give me hope. Knowing I'm not alone in this world. It doesn't matter where we come from.

[@de.lusional]

Gosh this is so heartwarming and amazing,, keep up the good work OGS!! I was really excited for this video when I first saw the community post, I'm definitely not disappointed :D

[@saichhagavande4392]

I found this channel recently…and my god! This is my comfort place. The stories that y’all share are so heart touching. I hope you continue to do so❤️

[@Yolo942]

Wow these people are amazing , so much love in a cold world.

[@terencetan70]

Let's stop mental illness stigma in Sg! Respect to these survivors. :)

[@Animalgirl115]

What a beautiful episode!! So insightful and very touching to see the love these families have for one another.

[@tarashil9708]

brother in law is a caregiver to sis in law, wow i have to repeat that they're non-blood-related family

[@misson5971]

Thank you for such an authentic, amazing content! more awareness needs to be raised about mental health condition. KUDOS to all the caretakers out there. It's NEVER easy to care for a person, let alone someone with mental health condition. We appreciate YOU.

[@mamalunkk]

Thank you for bring out all these stories. Your videos always makes me cry. ❤️

[@crablrone]

I have read all the 'Can ask meh' series and there are awesome as usual. Please do more and thanks for your effort!

[@cgyn2474]

I hope i get the same thing when I finally "have" a caregiver. Having bipolar disorder and alone in this journey is freaking hard. Not that I'm not thankful specially to my parents who support me no matter what, but knowing that everyday they're getting older and my mood swing is getting worse, it makes me want to go away and not look back to them

[@alanho1555]

Try admitting into a hospital when your episode gets too intense.

[@bleedblack37]

more on mental illnesses please, maybe talking about mindfulness techniques too, and what the process is like for treatment in singapore

[@lazyjane1223]

People with mental health issues are all strong individuals and fighters. Society has to stop belittling them.

[@michellechua717]

I love this series i hope u continue this and discuss these topics that people are scared to talk about.

[@josephfong6018]

thank you for sharing your thoughts and challenges. God Bless You All

[@felsbeh5291]

they are all so eloquent i love this

[@rachelshuxin]

Ugh thank you for this. This is so good. I just found this channel and just subscribed! Much love. Mental health issues are very important! ❤️

[@antonnetteallam1204]

they are such gifted people they have every ordinary talents...hope i can have that painting and the book.

[@antonnetteallam1204]

*extra

[@Naomi-jm3rr]

honestly thank you OGS for doing this video because it has opened like a whole new world for everyone who don’t know much about mental illnesses and everything related to it

[@stargazeronesixseven]

🙏 Thank You So Much to the many who've shared their experiences of caring for family members that suffered with mental illness or physically challenged on KZbin that , we can comfort & suggest solutions to make each other life more tolerable & meaningful! 🕯🌷🌿🌍💜🕊

[@spinvalve]

This is a brilliant and beautiful work. Subscribed!

[@daria668]

wow! just wow. his paintings blew me away!

[@hasrinhakita4881]

Care em , hold strong& start giving when they gone forever than u will regret tht money &time s cant buy,tht memories u got in return ... i did

[@vic0802]

Such a beautiful and meaningful documentary

[@a_lost_staysider]

11:24 people need to hear this

[@jenn8037]

I’m glad you talked about mental health .. good topic. Amazing video

[@xoxolisa2054]

Love this series so much ! Please continue this !!!!!❤️

[@Kerrviii]

The American ads disturb me after I see such genuine sincere people. Wow. BPD diagnosed. Still a human edit : it is commonly stemmed from childhood trauma so please consider that and understand that they are not lying, it’s their perception.

[@sleepyhealer]

This channel deserves more subscription.

[@nellyling1359]

Thank you for this video , hope the whole world can normalise mental issue topic and not taboo it .

[@sparkl3bear90]

having metal illness dosen't means that i am 神经病it's more to like my the way my brain programmed is differ from most people, this been told to be by a amazing guy, and i try to stay alive cause of this sentence, nice video it's like part of my feelings is recorded in it

[@Noah-zz6db]

I cried because I'm one of them

[@hellogavin8555]

Your content is too real!!!!!!!!!

[@xxy5757]

15:32 best sister in the world award???

[@nicholasleo9776]

Thank you for inspiring and powerful story

[@serene9239]

such conversations are so so important

[@kaitlynreynolds5192]

This is real love. Right here.

[@JamieTheSassenachLass]

Jesus..I was dry faced at the beginning of the video..not now. I too have bipolar disorder. It is isolating..you do feel alone, even when you’re not physically alone..I do feel like a burden, always. I have an angel, he is my husband.

[@ReallyOrNot]

Even they are with mental health. But the way they express their statement is clear and logic. At the same time, I can imagine the situation when they are being locked in second character.

[@stephanielim5588]

Well, what you see on tv is not real at all. Most behave pretty normal.

[@silverbells4732]

i hope society don look down on anybody....

[@yonglin7699]

i love this video! i think it was a very important topic to talk about and i really appreciated the honest sharings by the caregivers as well as the people with mental health conditions. thank you for this!

[@kimchander4567]

Kah Lim is so cute! Hehe

[@RandomDude-lb1sk]

I have dissociative identity disorder and I am a sociopath . I could not tell my family about my condition (only my psychiatrist knows) and I’m afraid one day they will find out about the truth

[@rhuyisia8163]

TQVM OGS for this enlightening post! The participants in this post are so inspiring! I feel so uplifted as I also love and live with one! I have a question, like what, how and why do people end up with mental problems? Did the stigma of poverty, their upbringing, family, societal or work stress got them into this predicament? Q2 Are they still on medications? Please help me with answers.🙏 TQ.🌹 Oh how I wish I live in SG!

[@cindysim9170]

yes, to your question, kah lim is still on medications and his monthly injection, as he is one that never rest, having the medication will help him to rest , sleep throughout the night thus his illness can be under control n he can think what is right and what is not right . is just like having diabetic n high blood, just need to continue the medications so for him is mind under control for disorder thinking. Also it does not effect his gifted talents, painting.

[@snowbyul]

Can you do a video on adopted children who haven't found their birth parents?

[@ieatnoodlestoomuch3251]

thanks for the series! next topic idea: people with autism?

[@vim92]

These videos are so important.

[@lucioletan528]

A distorted mind inflamed with fires of exuberance has once given me the happiest enriching moments of life far beyond one's imaginations. I used to reproach myself for owning a dull and dim but healthy brain for several decades. Of course, the higher you rise, the deeper you fall, the lower you sink; no doubt every perk comes with a price to pay and nothing is free. An aberration in mental health may excite more disdainful glares and stigmatised sneers than a little word of sympathy a patient ever hopes to hear. Simply for one truthful reason that you have no choice but made known your intemperate ills and cognitive faults to the mean world that never takes kindly to the maddest freak or genius. Do you think you can return after crossing the Rubicon river? Just face your audience and do your whatever best in your role to play on this stage of life. Regrets are only shadows flitting in your wild imaginations, never corporeal. I apologise deeply for my impudent reply to a peer support specialist at IMH.

[@Sammy117]

I watched this on your facebook. Excellent video and representation.

[@adrienne8378]

such a beautiful episode