Being Needy Vs. Knowing Your Worth

How know when you are being needy and approval seeking, versus knowing your worth & standing up for yourself.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer whose girlfriend becomes very flirtatious with other men when she drinks. He notices that she is active on her phone, but ignores his messages and leaves him hanging on read before eventually replying. This causes him to become fearful and worry about her and what she is doing when he is not around. He wants to know where the line is between being needy and knowing your worth and standing up for yourself.
“When it comes to dating and worrying about whether or not your significant other is being faithful and trustworthy when you are not around, the only thing you have control over is your own actions and how you are showing up. You can be the best boyfriend or husband, but if you are in a relationship with someone who does not value loyalty, communication, commitment and trust, they most likely will solicit, encourage and entertain attention from other men when things are not going well or their attraction has dropped. Good women will seek to make the relationship better and work harder to connect. Women who belong to the streets will seek attention and validation outside of the relationship when they are bored, unhappy or have lost interest instead of doing what’s required to make their relationship better. That is why you date before agreeing to a commitment. So you can know what the person is really like after they feel comfortable, have spent a lot of time with you and they let their guard down. It’s not your job to fix or save anyone, but to determine if they are a good quality romantic prospect who will honor their commitments to you.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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[@abundantras6287]

Things of value require sacrifice. If people are too hurt, too busy or too damn stupid to see that you’re a blessing they’ve been asking for, just fall back. Know your worth💎

[@lunababy662]

I need to do this

[@davidp2888]

In a previous relationship I was going through some serious mental/emotional health issues. I told my ex about it, she said she'd be there to support me "no matter what"...until she wasn't. Even though she was the one to start backing away, I was the one to put an actual end to the relationship and I walked away. It was then that I started to know my worth.

[@twinblade63]

this is basically exactly how mine ended a couple months ago. i loved her intensely, and she SAID she loved me the same way, but she wasn't giving me the respect i deserved so i ended it. she didn't even try to prevent me from leaving. i suspect she was already cheating on me. sucks for her - i have big plans for my future

[@LetsGo6009]

That was probably the start of your mental/emotional recovery as well. Take care

[@tuanang7889]

easier said than done right ? i learned the same thing with my past relationship. She turned 180 degree no scope to a complete different person after we broke up. Guess she's tired of acting already haha.

[@chandantaneja6388]

That all happens when we think so far and think of having a long feature with her. Thats when we sometimes overlove her overpersue her and things start to go sideways. I also lost my baby girl after 1yr relationship just because I overloved her. I never set my boundaries, even when she was rude, i made her love in return. Ik that's all my mistake, but I learnt now. it was very hard to move on but it is what it is in the present , i don't have her and that's the fact i have to accepted. Just have fun and move with the flow.

[@safesidetreatments8166]

That should be the title of the next book " She belongs in the Streets" 😂

[@SomeGamer1111]

I would buy just because of the title of that book

[@MenMovement]

Men will fight to buy the book just like on a black friday day 😄

[@MegaGiants89]

That would be a Great title for his next book.

[@MegaGiants89]

Is Corey Wayne coming out with a new book? Anyone know?

[@xaviermaxwell577]

😂

[@MoneyTalkwithChris]

Coach you are an inspiration!!! I lost my job due to the pandemic. Since then, I’ve started a KZbin channel on money… And it is growing! Thanks for all of your great content, and to everyone else… Never give up!!!

[@Tomsmus]

This topic is meant for me. My girl, "good relationship with Dad" he was a cheater, many gfs. Mom cheated as well. He owned a bar. My gf drank at a young age, cheated on all of her guys, even cheated with me, which is a no-no, but she is hot! After 6 months she couldn't help herself and lied to hang out with guys. She apologized and we went on our way. 5 months later she lied and went to her exes house. Caught her then too. Now we are done. They can be nice and sweet but don't ignore it when they show you exactly who they are. No matter how much they love bomb you.

[@MyEnemy]

It's tough when they're smoking hot, good job, man.

[@CoolWhip259]

The ageless Legend Coach Corey! You are the best!

[@LulaRoberts]

🧐 Well spoken, Mr. Corey Wayne, my eyes are wide open now.

[@AFR0007]

I really liked this because I was being needy and this brought me back to my center

[@Azav312]

My grandfather always colorfully said " you can't shine shit! " May Scrappy RIP

[@XXDeadEternity]

You are now entering the "Drama Free Zone"👌

[@Arthur-ib6iu]

I did this with my ex. And when she stopped asking me on dates and I asked her one last time if she would get dinner with me. And when she said no I walked away from her forever.

[@strongertogetherfitness193]

I dated someone who I cared about very much. Was with him for 4 years. He would say the same about me. However it wasn’t true. We would be at the gym and if I even looked another way. He would be like “ oh there u go checking out some dude. One time I looked over and there was only an oriental woman next to me. I’m like “ oh now I like woman. . Needless to say I finally walked away & never looked back. It broke my heart. I was faithful since day 1. Never had any interest in anyone else. I know what healthy relationships look like. My parents were married 60 yrs and adored each other right up until his death a few months ago. My ex was a very good looking man, but so insecure. There’s no fixing that. That comes from within. .. Btw Great content.

[@DaveG-kb2sr]

Insecurities can be fixed, or at least worked on. It does require hard work, humility, self awareness, and the desire to dig deep in order to address them.

[@dahnger]

Being in alpha mindset is a lifestyle, she got to know your boundaries from the start of the relationship and you shouldn't tolerate disrespect, she should know better if she wants to keep you around, you're the prize, always.

[@awanbiru921]

7years and still on with u bruhhh

[@Rubariton]

Holy shit. This is my girlfriend. Father died at a young age, things went sideways in our relationship. I fucked up and apologized like said in the book. She now hangs out with other friends and cancels dates instead of fixing the relationship. She does have integrity i believe, however not putting effort into the relation *picks up jaw from floor*

[@bigrich693]

GOLD!!! Thanks you as always to the big brother I never had!

[@lexie25a]

Majority of people don't come from a balanced family, it doesn't exist. What matters is the maturity of the person, the work they've done on themselves and how they treat other people. Someone could come from the best family, but could still treat people terribly.

[@astheticgirl4684]

So glad I found your channel Coach. I watch at least 2 of your videos everyday..even the old ones from years ago..They are really helping me with the situation I'm currently in. I thank you!!

[@BolaAdeyeyeOmisadeShow]

_Knowing your worth helps to build your self-esteem. Greats thoughts, thanks for sharing. I hope to get your book soon._

[@mae88b.16]

Leave that girl. She doesn’t respect you and will soon leave you for another man. If you let a person disrespect you, you can kiss your love life goodbye 👋!

[@leonschmidt4265]

Man you are great! Just broke up with my gf 5 days ago and your videos really helped me understand the reasons and understand women and relationships. Currently as well reading your book for the first of at least 15 times and have watched tons of videos of yours. You mean what you say! Hope the cup "Come on Man!" will remind me of the things you teach concerning self respect etc. :D have a great evening folks, life is beautiful!

[@iuliaig]

it's important to make a life of your own. many people simply don't have that. and that's where they're struggling. other things will come. doing things for your own self is harder than satisfying any relationship

[@elsquibbs]

💯

[@retrayal4642]

I’m starting to suspect that coach may be a vampire. Not only due to the fact that he seems to never age, but also considering the knowledge he has learned and shares with us, would take hundreds if not thousands of years to learn and master.

[@marcusappelberg369]

Maybe he is the real count Lestat

[@issacyasrom3421]

If you’ve been following Corey’s work weekly/daily since the pandemic, then you’ve noticed the underlying message in all his videos: it all comes down to the people you choose. If lemonade is what you in the process of making or a healthy successful life, then you can’t make lemonade with bad apples. Keep going bruddas!

[@jw1312]

You can’t make lemonade with good apples either

[@nongpaul3795]

You are the real coach

[@nickmyers3681]

This video perfectly answered my issues I’m currently dealing with in a girl but just not the same context. Thank you Corey!! Btw way you should say being left on read(red) rather than read(reed)

[@grey7757]

‘From the streets she came ,to the streets she belongs’ ~ Pastoral Corey Wayne (page 1 from 3% man 3rd edition)

[@gagadonim3354]

Oh GOD! I needed this video. This is what happened with me. Though I was in open relationship with a girl she invited different dude to talk between our date & that just pissed me off. I called out it on her we stopped talking. She belongs to the streets.

[@ralphmachado8201]

Coach you are the best!! I was just about to break the no contact and then happened to see your video...i was facing similar issues in my previous relationship and we broke up. Thanks a lot for your video! I am better on my own.

[@jordanlyda4353]

Stay strong dude me too👊

[@Xxxxxrrr6464]

Accepting someone is for the streets after I deluded myself has been one of the most difficult things in my life

[@thomasglover92]

I love how you're just using "she belongs to the streets" as a casual description of people now 😂 this is gold

[@GMacII]

Title should be “This is Why You Read the Book 10 - 15”. This video spoke to me and my situation. You can’t change these heauxs nor can you EXPECT them to. You go off what they SHOW you. #LessonLearned

[@MrLove-666]

"you can't polish a turd" 😂 that made me open my eyes..

[@XoXo475]

Nothing I hate more than my woman saying “maybe “ when I suggest coming over! Or she’ll say “‘I might be tired”. Wtf ??? 🤷🏻‍♂️ I just drop the subject.

[@stefankrautz9048]

a friend tried to push me into a relationship (dont know the english expression). She wrote me once "i am interested in you, so write me more" (?) She didn't persure me she got angry over time.

[@stefankrautz9048]

edit: I didn have the chance for dates because she lives way to far away. I was pushed into this.

[@timtimtimmay4654]

The "line" is bold when you look at respect. No respect, no relationship. Just not worth it. Granted, if he is blowing her phone up...that's how you lose respect, too. Time to pump the air brakes and eject there, Goose.

[@Xxxxxrrr6464]

Very relatable

[@ElMuroBlues]

Thank you coach, you opened my eyes and made me a better and happier person. I have a story to send you but will be another time 💪

[@flo_ridaa7074]

Perfect timing and resonating topic thanks coach

[@petemc5070]

Some great points in there. Thank you.

[@dimakonax]

U have the most advertised 15 mins i ever seen ! Im on 5th commercial

[@johnnydelgoto]

I wonder if Corey knows a rapper originated the “ She belongs to the streets “

[@jeffstone4624]

She beloooooooongs to the STREETS!!!!!

[@MoreliaMan23]

Leaving you on "read" coach. (Past tense of read)😘

[@TheADRIANOVALENTINO]

Always "look in your blind spots".. Or as I say "Observe the hair line cracks". They are things men tend to ignor, brush aside and rationalise... However if you have respect for yourself... They will reveal themselves very quickly 1st few conversations or dates if you allow yourself to be open to the truth and reality.

[@NKUSoccer07]

Corey "you can't polish a turd" wayne 💩😎. Just started back into him.

[@Kyle-og4ng]

I think myth-busters proved that plausible haha!

[@danielkelly3209]

Solid wisdom as always coach👌

[@marcain123]

Around 3rd minute "she's going to fall back on her nature" haha!

[@lunababy662]

So many people in the world and alot are alike this is why i dont fit in. Thanks universe

[@stefankrautz9048]

thats what I got a few weeks. The woman was the needy type "you dont text me in a long time", "i have interest in you, come on text me"

[@cantthinkofadecentname7121]

Being left on read is a big no no for me. If she leaves me on read and replies a couple hours later thats okay But if it gets to about 12 noon the next day with no reply i delete her number. I'm not wasting my time on women who are rude or have low interest.

[@lunababy662]

Yea sounds like shes to busy n dont care enough for u

[@aronchas]

"she belongs to da streeeeetzz" 16:28 I lost it every time wayne says that 😂😂

[@AaronMusicEvans]

This is brilliant

[@darrenstango9376]

I tend to find women seek too much validation from social media when they post photos and have 100 or 1000s of likes from guys which i feel doesnt help with guys wagging there tongues constantly

[@gerardoh144]

"Women who belong to the streets " lmao I love you coach

[@kisamehoshigaki9116]

Great advice👍🏾

[@justinbarren5848]

Hey coach Corey, what about when you know her background is terrible and you know she was for the streets. For a fact.. but she is honest about it and says, “ Hey, I was “out here” living like that because I gave up.” Until you came along.... we both come from the street life and I did a 180 so I think I’m more wheeling to give the benefit of the doubt. My concern is this: She stopped everything to my knowledge. All the way down to getting a job. Never hides her phone.. nothing. But I just find it hard to believe that it’s that simple. Can people really flip a switch like that???

[@lousunny5682]

I think what you are saying is that context matters when you look at someone’s family of origin. I’m of the camp of, don’t punish the son for the fathers sins. You can judge someone like oh why don’t they have a good relationship with their parents? Yet, not know they choose to cut them off to protect themselves or distanced the relationship due to emotional abuse or the therapy they have done. That being said, even if you have a good relationship with your parents, sometimes the morals of the person is still trash. It’s better to look at relational history/patterns to predict. Family of origin can explain/predict, but it is not a definite outcome either.

[@khasper_theghost]

13:32 it’s not loving to be emotionally unavailable/neglectful due to work or whatever reason. Then say she belongs to the streets. Men really need to do better, we all would benefit greatly if our emotional needs were met, considered or even acknowledged. There’s a difference between needy and being emotionally neglected or abandoned.

[@josephvincent7912]

I have been in this situation before. I wish I would have discovered Corey back then.

[@MrVave89]

Morning coach!

[@hihaters2004]

Great title

[@kenjimccoo7410]

Coach should make a cup that says: "She's a street walker!" That would be dope!

[@bxcutie4life2007]

Wow. I'm a woman and this totally applies to my situation.

[@bxcutie4life2007]

@@gameshot586 how do I belong to the streets? I'm not the one that was cheating every time I get mad/bored. He was!!!!! I was faithful and put my life at risk being with this man. That's why I finally had to leave him.

[@bxcutie4life2007]

@@gameshot586 right, it's sad. But I'm definitely learning the lesson from this video. You can't change people. Accept them for who they are and move on. 😥

[@lifeshaman6148]

Even though you preach that you don’t need a wife and kids to listen to your advice but I feel like there is definitely some stuff that’s different when having a family for 10plus years

[@patricks357]

"You can't polish a turd"… many said it before, coach made it his own

[@laughtherapey]

After following what is in the book girls don't even show up on date cuz they expect the guy to call and stay in touch. 2. And if you don't text for a while and then set a date. They don't want to set a date.

[@NickRHT]

If you don't trust her..she don't belong w/ you . Nuff said.

[@EEJ4K]

I wonder if Coach Corey has ever seen the legendary video of Future and Young Thug saying "She Belongs to the Streets" where the phrase originated 😂

[@scoopbabymotivation]

Facts. Your ether her King or her Puppy sad but true.some people get it most guys don't.

[@kingcreole9815]

you can't turn a 0 into a housewife. Because "she belongs to the streets"!

[@JamieDrumz]

Preach! 🙌🏻

[@orlinkunchev3146]

"you can't polish a turd" hahahaha I'm dying 😂

[@arcrednine]

“You can’t polish a turd” LMAOOOO!! 😂

[@noe9231]

"You can't polish a turd"........listen up guys....🙂🙂🙂🙂

[@sigma9326]

Is her name Cristina?? 😆 She got me too bro! 😂 She belongs to the streets!!!

[@jasonh8212]

“Fresh & Fit Podcast” SHE BELONGS TO THE STREETS!

[@JimBowSlice]

For all those insecure guys out there the messenger apps show you as active if you didnt close out the app. If it shows read thats a little different. Dont always assume shes ignoring u

[@latinkeys1]

17:27...YOU CANT, LOLOLOL

[@calebkeegan3023]

Ex has no integrity I ignore now ...5 months since seen day 15 blocked again this time for good and ignore third party attempts to lure me back in nope.

[@Flordiaman1]

I hated the intro at first but now I miss it 😆

[@austinnguyen9107]

2:42 3:20 3:40 seeking attention from other guys 4:50 6:34 7:30? 8:40 11:10 12:20 14:00 14:28 15:04 15:55

[@coachpaulhagen1036]

Coach Corey Wayne is the absolute best

[@grey7757]

Corey, please make documentary on the G.O.A.T Tom Brady 🤘🏻😎

[@grey7757]

@@lexicon4u 🤣🤣🤣 I hope, this year, it's defence gets better

[@bigd3721]

i need that mug

[@connerwilliams9131]

“ you can’t polish...a turd.” Well said

[@EJKing-me5tk]

Shit you not, was reading 3 percent man and while going down the hyperlink rabbit hole in a part 2 "google corey wayne ....." and in his article he writes "most people walk around wearing mask. Not physical mask, but masks that mask the true nature of their personality..." and i damn near pissed myself laughing at how well and unwell that part of the article aged in government overreach lockdowns nowadays.

[@Caesar-nx9uv]

❤️❤️

[@abundantras6287]

Purse don’t chase

[@jayros4269]

Where's a good place to move if you're single in the states?

[@mickrobo6073]

Move away from America and come to the UK 🇬🇧

[@jayros4269]

@@mickrobo6073 Honestly I've considered it before. I'm just worried this covid lock down stuff is going to get out of control there.

[@gregoryvelikovsky5018]

First l look at the purse

[@lifeshaman6148]

Is there someone you look up to that has a wife and family?

[@martinmayfield1932]

He mentions in a lot of his videos that he has married friends he admires.

[@joesuarez1982]

I do have a question! I recall while reading your book where you flirted pretty hard with a female and slapped her on the butt! you knew that she had a boyfriend! And yet you really flirted with her pretty hard!! But yet you're saying that this girl that's flirting belongs to the street I'm confused?

[@jordansimpson9519]

👍

[@liveoutloudhd]

Low quality Women need high quantity attention...

[@MobilediscowirralCoUk]

Plus extra D

[@Lt34klfd]

Never fix a woman

[@ludovico117]

Jajajaja... "she belongs to the streets"... Nice

[@namename3139]

I dont have a good relationshi with my parens and whole family what do I do/? im a guy

[@Tomsmus]

Read his book. Over and over and watch videos.

[@namename3139]

@@Tomsmus I got both on audible, I hasvnrt yet. I been studying. I gues I got my answer now,

[@Tomsmus]

@@namename3139 definitely get to the not as soon as you can. It will help with all of your relationships. It will help you find your inner strength and confidence, help you quiet any negative voices you have in your head.

[@lifestrategies9576]

First

[@starstruckmayhem]

Algo

[@crob949]

I was trying to not listen to any more of your videos today because I’m super busy and the commercials on the video I just watched 10 minutes ago was crazy lol but you pop up again and I click on 😂