Two of my aunties took the revenge route. They both planned it such that the birth certificates of the children 'accidentally ' got lost. It took time but when the new birth certificates were remade, their husbands were no longer listed as parents. Armed with the new birth certificates, one left one morning to drop the children to school, and resurfaced 4 days later in Norway. The other left to take the kids to a birthday party and called 48 hours later from Holland. Both women had stayed for roughly a year quietly as their men openly cheated. Turns out they were making major moves to move abroad with the children permanently. In the end both my uncles never recovered and literally went mad to this day. The children are now all grown with their own children and even when they visit Kenya, they don't seek out their fathers
@lizzymemoh1532 жыл бұрын
WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA this is true hurtful revenge
@florencemawere23382 жыл бұрын
I would call it wisdom beyond. Because revenge is bitter and will never allow you to do positive decisions. That’s the best medicine and serves such egocentric man.
@emilymbogho59452 жыл бұрын
Will also call it wisdom
@justinemusoke23212 жыл бұрын
The best revenge ever.
@faithkerandi15872 жыл бұрын
Hi dotty. Can I side chat you?
@lewlejonganga6172 жыл бұрын
When you were created nothing you needed to survive was put on another person.
@itsmelizz62682 жыл бұрын
Absolutely
@beatricemuringi41202 жыл бұрын
Not a single statement made was/is a lie. When a woman if making noise it's coz the feelings are still burning inside. The moment she goes quiet, Son of Adam, she is DONE with you. It's not foolishness, it's wisdom at it's best
@everlyneojuro54592 жыл бұрын
Very correct
@graceg24642 жыл бұрын
Kabisa.not that she is foolish in keeping quiet.she is done completely
@mercyjerop1375 Жыл бұрын
Louder pliz
@annettemunyiotieno66722 жыл бұрын
Thanks Benja & Mwikali for great teaching. May I add that it is not just about a man cheating. It includes when he starts treating the wife as a non-entity. Disregarding her and treating her like she is a 3rd rate member of this union. She will fight it out in the beginning, throw tantrums, etc. Then she goes quiet and seems to agree with everything. Calm and collected. No arguments, no complaints, no dissenting opinions, says yes, to everything or simply has no comment - yet she is not moody or agitated. When this happens, be very afraid! You have lost her completely. To her, you are now just another human being - deserving courtesy but that is all. You have no place in her heart! Nothing special about you. Worse still, she might start seeing you as an irritation in her life. She might just one exit to save herself from the irritant.
@graceg24642 жыл бұрын
I agree with you
@mbabaziharriet97432 жыл бұрын
Very true
@jackytamooh19692 жыл бұрын
I am at this stage wee
@nellyamdany2942 жыл бұрын
Punguza volume ☺️
@lucynyambura10322 жыл бұрын
Am at this stage too
@Anyango312 жыл бұрын
I left 3 months ago and started over. We were together for 2years and what I can tell you ladies, it never gets better. Leave. He starts by hiding then he'll do them in your presence. And if you want to fight side chick's, oh you will fight everyone. It's worse when he's the type of man who badmouth you with them. I'm starting over, and healing. We're coparenting but I'll never take that level of disrespect ever again.
@wanjiruolive2 жыл бұрын
You just get tired and you deal with reality thats infront of you
@salomenduta66122 жыл бұрын
For the sake of your peace you go mute, don't ask, don't tell. You detatch emotionally first and then physically.
@stellbanne2 жыл бұрын
When I realized that I was married to a Narcissist, I knew that the horse that I was flogging, was a dead one.
@BABS8892 жыл бұрын
We are all not 100% perfect.
@stellbanne2 жыл бұрын
@@BABS889 that's what Narcissists say.
@phoebejoy23152 жыл бұрын
when you were created, none of what you need to survive was put in another person. everything that you need to endure this life, is in you. you just need to pull it out.
@marywangari10212 жыл бұрын
very powerful
@Simplyjulia7852 жыл бұрын
So true
@ItsWorkingTogetherForMyGood Жыл бұрын
Thissss!!!!
@paulinewangombe102 жыл бұрын
By the time l couldn't answer whether somebody walked out of the house naked or dressed in what, l was beyond done. I was just watching, praying and waiting for my deliverance. It came. I celebrate and enjoy it daily as God's gift to me. I would otherwise be dead and probably my children too. God is so good. All the best to those waiting for deliverance.
@mishymosey10302 жыл бұрын
Is this a sign God? I have been leaving my partner for close to a year now. I no longer care if he is coming, going or gone. All I want in this life is peace of mind and a fat bank account. I have mastered the art of avoidance to the extent that I make sure he has everything he needs so that I limit interactions with him. He is a great and responsible father to his children but I am done with the disrespect and and all the lies. I requested him that we get valuers then lawyers to handle our properties and he gladly agreed. That will be my deciding factor. When we both know what each other is worth. One thing I will never deny him is the right to be in his children's lives. I will respect that to the end.
@christineimani91802 жыл бұрын
You are very materialistic sister. That fat bank account will not last forever
@martinamasumba28032 жыл бұрын
@@christineimani9180 I don't think so. Have u ever been hurt to an extent that you no longer value relationships? If she's done, what's remaining is to take care of her children and make money for her sunset days. That's any woman's thinking who has children n in such a situation.
@peshywill1william9452 жыл бұрын
This is so educative, mutual respect in a relationship is so vital. Self respect is even more critical. Let's love ourselves women🤗
@divinahisamoita82092 жыл бұрын
Hello Benjamin u are God sent there's no need to fight for a battle u can't win keep quiet & strategize.
@shantelbyonce13582 жыл бұрын
My baby dady told me, you love me very much, huezi enda anywhere.. It was like a joke but to me nikajua siku ni moja.... Saizi alibeg akachoka.. I better remain single or nikae kwa mwaarabu 10yrs for my kid to hav a good life.. Than living with such
@shantelbyonce13582 жыл бұрын
@ivy joseph av been here for 4 yrs now.. But tell me more abt Europe... I would like to come there
@beckyshii48052 жыл бұрын
@ivy joseph plz show direction the connection
@carolineorinda11202 жыл бұрын
Show too direction to Europe.i go with my daughter.
@winniemuriuki35942 жыл бұрын
That's what they think
@hisgracesuffient60462 жыл бұрын
YAP... Integrity and Character go hand in hand.
@rosebellewaihenya48882 жыл бұрын
I wound up my relationship and my husband didn’t realise that the marriage was over till he found all his belongings at his girlfriends house where I had sent them when I was ready to end it all. Don’t confront a cheating man many will beat you as way to shut you up, tell you a stupid lie or use your confrontation to cheat better.
@Jojo.kazumi2 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂
@stellbanne2 жыл бұрын
You sent his belongings to his girlfriend? 😂😂🤣, gal you nasty!!!
@lydiatanui46522 жыл бұрын
Take a cold beer on my bill
@YvonneKawiraTuko2 жыл бұрын
Oh my goodness girl you are a force! That man got a taste of his medicine.
@rosebellewaihenya48882 жыл бұрын
@@stellbanne that’s where he was paying rent, so it was the Christian thing to do. 😂😂😂
@milkaadhiambo33352 жыл бұрын
Thanks Benjamin for educating the men some of them have been sent to slaughter houses without knowing because they are immotionally insensitive. Lean to identify the non verbal communication Gone are the days when women used to shout at cheating men and their side chick.Women have learn that behave change is not easy . Being silent and calm will make you make informed decisions.Acting when angry has made many women make mistakes including ending up in prison because you injured a fellow women while the culprit continues with his cheating as you rot in jail
@cynthiangugi74942 жыл бұрын
Currently in such a situation. I talked to him about his cheating, he said it was complaining. His cheating, got me feeling numb. Now planning on going to work abroad and I'm definitely not planning on telling him. I can't wait to see him feel like shit, don't get me wrong for wanting this,he deserves everything that is coming for him.
@lucynjuguna96532 жыл бұрын
Good luck girl.i don't pitty cheaters
@wamuthamaki54322 жыл бұрын
I also don't sympathy with cheaters
@beckyshii48052 жыл бұрын
Please tell me on how I can also move to abroad the process I can afford but i don't have the connection
@dalliancem69712 жыл бұрын
@@beckyshii4805 hi dear you av passport
@beckyshii48052 жыл бұрын
@@dalliancem6971 yes I do
@rockpoint76532 жыл бұрын
thanks for this.naturally am an introvert, but when am tired am tired.i forgive and move on
@paulnyagah1812 жыл бұрын
Watching all ads fully just to appreciate the wisdom from BZ
@rossiela.2342 жыл бұрын
Words of wise Kenyans How I wish if young growing generation opens their ears to listen to words of wisdom and encouragement; the truth beyond love
@puritykathure49982 жыл бұрын
Reality served in black and white..I wish the young generation can listen...
@wamaithamutua6482 жыл бұрын
Benjamin thank you for your school of thought
@Farmingisgood2 жыл бұрын
Story of my life .. I can totally relate
@vnyanch19442 жыл бұрын
Repeated cheat can break you totally.
@CynthiaNdaani17282 жыл бұрын
You're God sent Zulu. Thank you for the nuggets of wisdom.
@odionugbiyobo23162 жыл бұрын
How come cheating men get hurt when abandoned?
@emyachieng56792 жыл бұрын
It hurts so bad to lose in your own invented game.
@twoten25472 жыл бұрын
they were brought up broken so when they meet empathy in their wives they use that to grind for emotions from them and when they are left they remain empty inside because your emotions is like oxygen to them.
@willhector94782 жыл бұрын
Relationships are crooked, each to themselves
@dorcasgathoni5802 жыл бұрын
Me too planning my exit plan God help me.
@rachelmaina26802 жыл бұрын
Tuko wengi,sijanyamaza bure
@carolynnekioko55002 жыл бұрын
May God help every woman who is going through a difficult situation in marriage.
@twoten25472 жыл бұрын
Don't forget those kids in your exit plan, they need professional counseling in advance.
@lizzymemoh1532 жыл бұрын
Very true Benjamin my Man is cheating and i have seen all the evidence and also used mind games to get information out of him so am strategizing my life then walk away......i accepted his cheating and av started to live my life with positive vibes. He doesn't know i know. hehehehehe maybe he thinks i wont go but atashangaa Thank you for your wisdom i have never missed any of your you tube show. Keep up the good work.
@Farmingisgood2 жыл бұрын
Hugs mama I know how hard it can be but more grace to you darling . Was a victim but I overcame after moving out now am a happy woman
@siseymajala30112 жыл бұрын
Huggs huggs huggs dear My life too
@samanthasamazingworld58592 жыл бұрын
Mama send me your number...I need someone to talk to 😭😭😭
@karengeri82802 жыл бұрын
💞 Make your exit BIG! mama. Disorganize him for the rest of his life but make sure you are healed.
@mercyjerop13752 жыл бұрын
Me too my dear sister. Najua everything but waiting to leave anytime. He thinks am foolish. Even if he chats,call or come late I don't ask.najifanya mjinga but mjinga ni yeye.
@easybaby52962 жыл бұрын
Thumbs up for the wise Mr Zulu
@rundachannel36962 жыл бұрын
This is deep. Am already learning a lot. Thank you sir
@josphinekaibi80952 жыл бұрын
Spot on Sir,,,, reality of the matter
@juditholoo35352 жыл бұрын
I salute you Benjamin!!
@catemiss..2 жыл бұрын
New subbie...and my oh my...am hooked. 💕💕
@faithkerandi15872 жыл бұрын
Somebody give me those connections 😜 I wanna ruuuun
@blandinamyinga94892 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣😂😂till😭😭 because I understand this crealy** once someone is DONE it's means finito indeed.
@sisterslove16512 жыл бұрын
I had such type of a man ,,and he was never ready for a talk but torture me emotionally,he is the one who moved in because we had a child together,,when i was done i think i was mad on myself ,,i could do anything to irritate him,i could call my friends at night and make fun with them and even ask them if they can find for me a man and this was to scare him i just wanted him out,i remember me taking a photo with only my panty and bra and posted on my whatsapp status for only him to view at night and once he viewed i deleted it and i think it scared him but it also made me find out later that he was also cheating with a friend i rescued and stayed with in my house ....but finally he was out and i got peace until today i dont even remember if he ever existed in my life....this men can make you mad....i thank God he went and if he thinks of coming back my friend come if you want death for sure .....
@christineonyanza18312 жыл бұрын
And our secret is out
@sata38672 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@lucynjuguna96532 жыл бұрын
Too bad🤣🤣🤣🤣
@shaniazoe58892 жыл бұрын
Chaiiii my God this is the situation I find myself but i have taken my time to go tru it very well i have drank from a bitter cup and now I'm coming out victorious I'm going to gather my broken pieces and my kids and move
@rachelmaina26802 жыл бұрын
Same here
@esthermuthoni77682 жыл бұрын
And there goes our secret ☹️☹️☹️...
@christineonyanza18312 жыл бұрын
Aki😒
@priscakariuki37592 жыл бұрын
🤗🤗🤗
@maggyngaruiya66492 жыл бұрын
😥😥😥😥
@Jojo.kazumi2 жыл бұрын
I know riiiight 😂😂😂😂😂😂but you know narcissists don't get it. Until you leave! Their eyes are usually closed as though they are in slumber! The day you step out is when they start to think!
@sue.74942 жыл бұрын
Kabisaaaaa...
@wisdomlife2 жыл бұрын
Zulu,, I love your set and the conversation too
@tabithakasina37112 жыл бұрын
Raw truth,
@pirimwangi46512 жыл бұрын
I can never be quiet never
@ednahbiwot30382 жыл бұрын
You will make the noise, rant, rave, vent, seek advice, go for counseling and do it all. Finally you realize things ain't changing. You accept and keep your peace. You disengage and focus on yourself and future. The quietness grows louder and the exit nears. Those with ears can hear
@muthuimar2 жыл бұрын
True do not subdue a human being
@hazelanglin59079 ай бұрын
If she's remaining quiet its because she is planning. At least that's what I'd be doing
@florenceojowa77062 жыл бұрын
Powerful
@letisiakarimi93462 жыл бұрын
True gospel!
@rachelmaina26802 жыл бұрын
Exactly mi🤭utashangaa bro
@janetmusau33562 жыл бұрын
Uiiiiii umeshout boss mbona mumetoboa Siri
@amrgmusic2 жыл бұрын
Nawapenda bure😀
@priscillamutave8922 жыл бұрын
Yaaah become a woman before you become a mother
@maggyngaruiya66492 жыл бұрын
Very true...
@linahdaniel9992 жыл бұрын
no
@raelchacha61102 жыл бұрын
Mr Zulu this has happpened to severally my husband goes out sleeps out comes with new clloths apologize go back again and again now that am 50 years ifeel i should leave him completly advice me please One day i may end up being HIV positive please advise me
@sue.74942 жыл бұрын
I feel you....
@ednahbiwot30382 жыл бұрын
@@sue.7494 The decision is yours. If you are ready for the consequences stay. Age is nothing but a number. You have 40 plus years ahead and if you want to live in such ,well and good. If not ,save yourself and run
@lucywanjiku22802 жыл бұрын
for them living with the cheating partners in silence, how do you handle the cheating and conjugal rights Aren't you afraid of STDS? Why not just walk out?
@ednahchirchir19242 жыл бұрын
You cannot walk out on impulse. Plan finances, place to stay and future stability to avoid coming back .
@sue.74942 жыл бұрын
Numbness is real.
@lucywanjiku22802 жыл бұрын
@@ednahchirchir1924 woooah! so you'd rather get infected with diseases from God knows where in the name of finding financial stability first
@ednahbiwot30382 жыл бұрын
@@lucywanjiku2280 It is your choice. You can decide to go unplanned and when out there you have no source of income, no place to stay and no stability. Those you think will support you will abandon you at such times. Many ladies end up coming back humbled and outwitted. Those who take time to plan leave FOREVER and find peace.
@rachelmaina26802 жыл бұрын
@@ednahbiwot3038 very true,
@dokextra2 жыл бұрын
Interesting
@akurejemimah7572 жыл бұрын
Words of wisdom to those who need better tomorrow. I'm bless here
@PraiseGod34732 жыл бұрын
U are such amaizing cricher
@gabyma89762 жыл бұрын
🙏
@wairimuwaihwa24752 жыл бұрын
Can try to speak slower,🤔
@charlesnjau7862 Жыл бұрын
Aaqaaaq
@rockpoint76532 жыл бұрын
thanks for this.naturally am an introvert, but when am tired am tired.i forgive and move on