The Biggest Complaints Women Have About Men - Matthew Hussey

[@ChrisWillx]

Hello you beauties. Really enjoyed getting a different insight on the mating market from someone on the front lines of female dating. Get a free list of my 100 favourite books - chriswillx.com/books/ Here’s the timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:13 What has Changed in What Women Want? 04:42 How the Dating Market has Evolved 11:24 What Men Misunderstand About Women 24:49 Most Common Traits of Attractiveness 27:19 Complaints that Matthew Receives From Female Clients 41:23 Challenges of the Modern Dating Market 52:32 Why is there a Gap in Sexlessness Between Men & Women? 1:01:38 What Women say They Experience in Online Dating 1:14:37 Is Matthew Worried About Decreasing Birthrates? 1:27:18 How to Build Deep Lasting Attraction 1:37:20 How Matthew Finds Happiness Amidst Success 1:50:46 What to do if You Feel Disconnected in Life 2:12:00 Where to Find Matthew

[@ricardodelacrvz1400]

I dont see the point of following a mens advice on dating when he himself doesn't seem like a guy who've been on a serious healthy relationship. He always has the basic excuses for his singledom. Women out there who need a genuine opinion on how to date a men and be a wife should first of all look for men who've been married, some of them who've been divorced and had kids because these are the only men who can give you the correct advice on a LTR and not in the fairytale this dude is constructing. Im not disregarding his opinion at all but if you want to clearly get useful advice go listen to older men. Thats why I like to listen to older and not politically correct dudes like Tom Leykis , Better bachelor and Coach Greg Adams. I know I know this guy is handsome and has a smooth voice but I can almost fell asleep listening to this dude. He has no experience and credentials.

[@jayshah9967]

Thank You

[@elise9537]

@Z Z so cute! hugs :)

[@elise9537]

@@ricardodelacrvz1400 well yes if you need to know how women think.. ask women?:)) I listen to different ppl because ppls life experience varies. I only dated guys so I talk to my guy friends to figure out how their brain works and what are their patterns. I dont want to manipulate anyone into anything, I just dont want to get into the wrong relationship or friendship.

[@liveonce2102]

Good podcast. Men and women shouldnt be put in boxes. Everyone is different and wants and needs are different. See people as individuals, not as a collective group. This us best podcast from a man talking on women and dating. He doesnt make women look like horrible creatures as many others these days seem to portray women as. X

[@2Ten1Ryu]

When my father died, (I was 12) his best friend came over to our house to give his condolences and when he entered the room he was sobbing uncontrollably and tears were streaming down his face. I guess, at that age, this was the first time I saw a grown man full on crying. You know what? This was a memory throughout my childhood that helped me mourn and cope with the loss, because in one of these darkest hours in my life I was somehow comforted in the fact that my father had such a good friend who was weeping openly because he had loved him so much. This was soothing my soul and still is. This friend is still alive. He doesn't know, but if I am ever to have a son, I am going to name him after this friend. EDIT: Since so many of you told me to tell the friend, but did miss the update down in the comments, I will also post it here: I did tell him. On the anniversary of my father's death, I called him. The story is not nearly as good of a story as the first one. He is an old man, in his seventies now, and while he was happy about the call, he admitted to having forgotten what day it was. If he was emotional at all, I couldn't tell through the phone. His wife was next to him, and we talked a little because he had put me on speaker. I told him that his name was a strong contestant for a boy's name when I have children (trying for babies at the moment.). He said he felt honored. I told them about being engaged and about my fiancé. I'm at my home village about twice a year since I moved away. I told them, whenever I pass by their house, I think of them, because they were around so much during my childhood and that I regretted not seeing them anymore since I grew up. They were all part of a volleyball sports club my parents went to. They used to celebrate New Year's Eve as a group, and my mother still took me until I was about 14. Then started to celebrate with my friends. I don't think I've ever had an actual adult conversation with them. Eventually, he told me, when I'm at home next time, I should not just pass by his house but give him an actual visit and bring my fiancé with me. I think I am going to do that. :)

[@keri2768]

Beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

[@3_Star_Belt]

Go and tell that to your fathers friend. It will mean the world to him.

[@johnboy6594]

Beautiful story. Let him know that. It would mean so much to you and him.

[@2Ten1Ryu]

@@3_Star_Belt I always wanted to, but I rarely get to see him now. You don't just bring up a heavy topic like this out of nowhere. But actually, the anniversary of my father's death is next week. I might just give his old friend a call and tell him. This might actually a great way to honor my father's memory this year. It's been 22 years since he passed.

[@RequisiteZero]

Amazing how you turned the death of your father into a story about you...

[@Ian_Andre]

Being born in the 80s, growing up in the 90s, dating in the 00s, and being married by the time the dating app phenomenon began was such a lucky break. Every generation has its challenges, but I don’t envy the young people of today.

[@MsQ275]

Amen

[@Captain_Insano_nomercy]

@Julián I'd argue it's actually the worst for someone from my age group, I was born in 93 so I was raised with all the traditional standards, dated and engaged with girls in my teens when social media wasn't a thing for us yet, had a few serious relationships but ultimately nothing worked out, and now I'm single and stuck in the worst era of dating possible without any of the skills to deal with modern women lol. I'm not crying tho, if anything I've been lucky to have a kick in the ass to reaffirm my faith in God and have him be my center, rather than hedonistic pleasure 🙏

[@KnowThyself619]

Haha speak for yourself. As a handsome and competent young man, the only problem i have in this modern dating world is the spiritual pain i feel from having too much sex with too many beautiful women who are all eligible to be a wife.

[@Ian_Andre]

@Julián that’s a fair point. Maybe I should’ve said “single people of today” instead of “young people”.

[@user-og6hl6lv7p]

Yeh rub it in more please.

[@abisheks2418]

Matthew has completely lost the plot and has no idea what he blabbing about in 32:06! Men date “down”. Men date women shorter than them. Men date women less affluent as them. Men date women less knowledgeable than them. On the contrary, women date “up” . This “babe you deserve better! Healthy in every shape!” is the rhetoric on the women’s side. The sense of entitlement is a woman’s baggage.

[@Fibonaccisghost]

Gosh that first 30 seconds of this video is so true. You see so many women on the apps say they want a strong leader and a guy that's comfortable with his masculinity. I have an ex who showed zero interest in getting to know who I was, she was only interested in me making her laugh and posting photos of us on social media being a "happy couple." Oh and paying for her dinner.

[@bobcharles7933]

In my almost 60 years I have always heard that women understand men better than men understand themselves. Pretty sure that does not include the last couple of generations. Women today have become shallow, narcissistic, clueless hedonists with no moral code but whatever gets them their next dopamine hit. Feminism got women the power they wanted... too bad it didn't inform them they will be held accountable for every use (and misuse) of that power.

[@indoorphine]

very interesting insight. thanks for posting

[@577jrock]

Yeah they want a strong man and a leader until they see your anger, or you do something 'controlling' or you show some of the other traits that also come with this personality type. Basically the want the traits of masculinity that *they* want, not the whole package of it. A masculine man is going to get angry sometimes. He is not going to have a space as detail-oriented and neat/clean as you would like. He's not going to be as well-groomed as a more feminine man. Women don't want to accept these things and so they fall the an illusion of a man instead of the real man. When the real man comes out, they flee.

[@dovekie3437]

Imagine going into this video seeking validation for things you already believe.

[@dances_with_incels]

​@@dovekie3437 Chris isn't very black pilled or red pilled. I doubt anyone on this channel is here for confirmation bias

[@oneofthelastmen5873]

A lot of women don't realise how unattractive it is if they are on their phone during a date!

[@eyeswideopenpod]

That's gross for anyone to do. If I was on a date and dude is on his phone the whole time, I'm not going out with him again.

[@billusher2265]

If they’re on their phone they don’t care, they expect the man to win them over.

[@SpeedyCorky]

i had a girl whip out a phone on a first date. 2nd time it happened i told her if it came out again i was gonna confiscate it (i was a teacher at the time, she knew that, so it was a 'little joke'). phone didnt come out again. dated her for 3 years, she wanted to get married, i wasnt ready and she was too masculine anyway. in hindsight, prolly wasted 3 years of my 20's, dating a girl that i should have eliminated on the first date due to the phone. its disprespectful, it is the woman attempting to show dominance that she has other options and better things to do... NEXT !

[@elise9537]

oh maybe shes doing it to throw you off.

[@pilot.wav_theory]

@eyeswideopenpod that's the difference I think most men would maybe perceive that red flag but ignore it anyways and continue to date her for 3 years like the other dude said because sometimes we think more with our small head than our big one. Speaking for myself when I was young it's hard to know yourself well enough to fight off that unconscious bias of attraction and make a rational decision. Also I think men feel like they have less options so they feel forced to settle with what they've got maybe. Who knows that's just how I perceive it

[@jukes1746]

Missed the mark saying guys are only looking at the top 1%. Most guys are perfectly ok with an average girl with a good head on their shoulders that would be willing to stick it out.

[@lambchop6278]

Except of course when they're addicted to porn. Which is a lot of them!

[@Nathan-ko4ih]

@@lambchop6278 ah but is it the cause or the effect?

[@tmwii8795]

Love or hate the manosphere, many of the creators have done more to save mens lives than they receive credit for. The fact is we’ve spent 60 years building women up and tearing men down. I’ll defy you to read ‘The war against Boys’ by feminist Christina Sommers. This put words to what I felt in school back in the late 70’s- early 80’s, and it’s gotten much worse. Long term solution, I don’t know. Short term, advising men to steer clear of relationship and develop themselves, which the manosphere pushes, WILL saves mens lives. Christ, even Jordan Peterson advises men to developed themselves, and how sad it took him to do it since many had no fathers to teach them. Boys certainly are not getting encouragement in schools. This ‘entitlement of guys’; look at the typical standards of 90% of men: not obese and nice. You’re projecting the top men over the ‘bottom’ 90%. Feminism is taught in school, the media, and even in companies now. Try looking further into the manosphere than just clips & shorts. Partial solution? Remove feminism from school, encourage boys, and women will find men ‘on their lever’ (a truly ignorant phrase). We’ve got at least two or three more lost generations coming past gen Z. Before you try labeling me as an Incel, I’ve been married for 19 years to a women 2 years younger, smart, successful, kind…..from the opposite side of the word from the US. My heart bleeds for the boys growing up in the atrocities of education, and the girls brainwashed by it. This conversation is a nice start, but still pussyfooting around real issues. Tell people what they need to hear, not what makes them feel good……even at the risk of being canceled. The world needs courage, not cowards.

[@andrewmackenzie325]

Hussey wouldn’t have a product to sell if he told the truth

[@okaySam]

I honestly believe that Hussey believes in what he preaches. Some of it is on point (and sure sounds nice). This whole topic is very nuanced, but overall I agree with the original comment. There is a general distain/mistrust for anything resembling traditional masculinity. Add to that the catch22 of "if men shut up, they're toxic/emotionally immature" vs "if they speak up, they're incel cry-babies". You're basically only allowed to say, what aligns with the w.oke/left/fe.minist agenda. I also agree, it'll take generations to repair the damage. The programming is too strong. The institutions completely subverted. The only upside: it's easier to be attractive if your halfway masculine. But still you have to deal with a mostly brainwashed society unless you're willing to move...

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

Prior to feminism, was centuries building up men

[@VertexCarver]

Very true. ( Completly anecdotal ) Looking back from the mid 90's I've experienced severe change on judgment on men. In the early 2000s when I was about 14 I recall vividly a push in school of the message that we live in a patriarchy where men are inherent predators(not the words they used but the way they put it made it clear). Now, as a young boy I was completely dumbstruck at the time, how my values of decency & morals counts for nothing. Now, I never brought that up to my parents for whatever reason. I think we really have poisoned ourselves by not being vigilant as we seem to have some type of resentment from injustices barely anyone alive have experienced. Edit: and distorted our history heavily. Not saying men are victims but I am disappointed how little regard we have for young boys. If anything, they really would do better with a mentor figure & I can only hope that I can do better when I get the chance. I'm sure this is something every generation says, now that I think about it... x]

[@juliomartinez6426]

@@andrewmackenzie325 Thank you, I noticed that too. He's hyper alert of saying the wrong thing. Look at how many pauses he has at the beginning of the interview. His viewer demographics that provide $$ are the same group being scrutinized in this topic, so he tries to dodge all of those hard discussion points and I can't take that seriously. I see through it.

[@AmeliaBodilia]

“Attention is not intention…………and intention doesn’t equal investment.”- Mathew Hussey

[@Nah-ah]

@@croissants1280 just bc someone gives you attention (men/women) doesn’t mean they intend to be with you long term.

[@Game5WB]

The advice seems to be catered to women, and supposedly profound, when it is virtually most self-evident. Basically, the non-PC translation is: "Guys will say anything to F you and give you any amount of attention", no shit sherlock.

[@JM-ri1em]

@@Nah-ah also intention isn’t enough, the road the hell is paved with good intentions. Actions. Behavior. Over time. That’s all that matters

[@wyp617]

But you can have good intentions and lack attention and still end up at zero…. So what’s the solve?

[@Bittzen]

And people tell me economics and a financial mindset isn't the right way to approach dating. It's the proper mindset, and I'm a value investor looking for marriage. If people don't invest in something, they don't bid it up, that means they don't value it. If they bid it up, why are they trading it? Is it a long term hold? Or is it a short term trade? Ask the investors what their intentions are after they express they'd like to invest (give commitment/attention) to get a rough idea. But they have biases and say things for their own self interest, so it's best to check their financials, investment history, are they an accredited investor or not (find out how they acted in former relationships, I would also say ask for a financial statement and credit report on 2nd or 3rd date after expressing marriage is the intent for both of you and bring your own). This is how you take a calculated risk to minimize liability. Is this a weird way to date? Don't care. This is optimally efficient. And fortunately I'm an Orthodox Jew, so this kind of practice is normal. This is probably why we also have the lowest divorce rates in the US and have happier marriages on average and raise kids better than most Americans on average.

[@bigyin]

I've been single now for the last 3 years after my divorce. And it's been a steep learning curve. The one thing I think I've realised more than anything else, is just to be honest from the start. You owed it to yourself to never play a role to entrap a person.

[@divineeye1254]

Yikes I would never want to be with you even as a friend

[@dh1474]

Stupid comment.. the guy is saying be honest. I'd want an honest friend. @@divineeye1254

[@FlatStella1]

That is obvious!!!How come you can live with the closest person, share your life, call someone wife/husband and do your own things?That is still living your own life!!!!Disgusting being in relationship.

[@alexjames6629]

@@divineeye1254what a grim thing to say

[@rhenriksen]

You owe it to yourself... AND to the other person! Become the actual person who would be attractive to other people, rather than playing pretend. It's harder, but much more rewarding (and congruent).

[@Zen56103]

One thing I didn't like about this conversation is that every time some difficult issue comes up, Matthew Hussey offers a soundbite aphorism to sidestep the problem without actually addressing it. He feels like a politician to me, able to talk past the issues without actually addressing it. At times, it's feel-good platitudes. Other times it's "both sides are guilty".

[@juliomartinez6426]

Because he's hyper alert of saying the wrong thing. Look at how many pauses he has at the beginning of the interview. His viewer demographics that provide $$ are the same group being scrutinized in this topic, so he tries to dodge all of those hard discussion points, and I can't take that seriously. I see through it.

[@Teal_Seal]

@@juliomartinez6426 Matthew’s a good guy. I think I responded to your same comment in another thread so I won’t repeat myself. I’ll just add that if he’s treading lightly, maybe it’s because current society doesn’t want to hear about personal responsibility or bettering oneself. Rather, victimhood and blame is “in”. If he’s pausing to find a diplomatic way to speak truth in a way that easily offended people (women) can hear, I’m fine with that. I say this as a woman. Also, have you seen any of his videos? If not, maybe watch a few. Don’t take my word for it, see for yourself and then decide. ✌️😊

[@BatesBarnes]

“Guys feel invisible, what would you say to them?” “Guys only want the top 1%. Get real boys.” That’s the issue. The 99% of women, I get to pass off, ignore and string along. Always has been.

[@-glitch-8195]

If you guys think Matthew Hussey "supports women" and is "catering to his demographic" then you can say that about male-focused dating gurus as well. If you've watched enough of his content you'd know he does call out women, but does so in a digestible way. A lot of men take the approach of scolding women rather than both being emotionally aware, and explaining things in a way where a person can take in what they're saying without attacking their character or resorting to extreme narratives. Women listen to him because he has mastered the art of "it's not about what you say, it's how you say it." Like in this comment, here you are accusing him of ill-intent without any bases. You didn't even explain why he's wrong. You went straight to slander. Interesting. I'd say Matthew Hussey's emotional intelligence is light years ahead of most men. I appreciate that he addresses issues that are on both sides. And it's very telling that you pointed that out. A lot of you men and even women want to be told you're always right and that you did nothing wrong. Or that you're not a danger to yourself, but you are.

[@lnaph]

He knows that everyone is hyper sensitive.. Men included...and when he asks people to consider what they are looking for... he hits the nail on the head. A lot of guys who call themselves nice guys if you follow reddit snapshots pf conversations also completely degrade women , seggualize them and feel entitled to their bo. Dies. They are single not for being nice, as that is the bare cultural expectation(and it is debatable how nice these people really are when they don't get what they want), but because the outcome they are seeking is often to take advantage of advantage of subjugate others or because they do not even work on themselves. He actually made a lot of good points on changing intention and putting in work and the hypocrisy of wanting the top 1 percent of women and being upset that there are so me women who also have unrealistic expectations (not all of us by the way). He barely touched on a lot of things, but it was a very interesting interview, and if you listen to his heart he seems to really wan to do right by those in his life.

[@l-train7876]

14:38 this is exactly what happened to me in my last relationship. Instead of recognizing that we weren’t compatible, I thought I was wildly deficient. The toll it took on my self esteem nearly killed me.

[@wyp617]

I’m curious as to why you leaned left (thinking that you were deficient) instead of leaning right (that they are deficient for you)? I’m asking this because I as a man too was in a situation like this and it’s interesting to see how the mind leans …

[@philipcallado5693]

Right there with you. I met a girl back in October and I thought there might be something there. But then after a couple of weeks of texting she just ghosted me, and I was depressed for like two months after that. I blamed myself for things not working out. I decided to just go “ho phase” and give up on anything beyond a friends with benefits type of deal, but then 3 months ago I met someone wonderful. She’s going through a tough time in her life so we’re just being friends, but there’s definitely something strong between us.

[@philipcallado5693]

@@wyp617 I went through the same thing a little while ago. I can’t answer for others but I can for myself: I put this woman on a pedestal. When things didn’t work out, I blamed myself because “it couldn’t be her because she’s so amazing” even though I’d only known her for like two weeks. 😂 I’m not saying it’s her fault either, but to just blame things not working out solely on me is wrong. It takes two to tango, or in this case to not. 😂

[@glogloe1797]

@@philipcallado5693Sounds like the new girl is emotionally unavailable. Best to be friends.

[@paulds65]

@@philipcallado5693 Read "The Rational Male". You were suffering from Oneitis.

[@gregc247]

I disagree with him saying guys are chasing the top 1% of women, avg and even below girls are extremly hard to deal with

[@Hoonter101]

Very true, they know instinctively they need yo be that way to mediate access

[@redgeallen8867]

This podcast is the opposite of the one with Vincent Harinam. With Vincent, it was a harsh injection of statistics and evolutionary biology without regard for the how that would land with the audience. I'm guessing that Chris Willimson's audience is something like 70/30 Male to female, maybe as high as 80/20 male to female. Men are curious and they want actionable plans to deal with reality so I'm guessing that was a popular episode. Matthew Hussey's audience is mostly women from what they described here. He's focusing more on empathizing with the feelings of the audience rather than any solid statistics or actionable plans. I'm not sure if I heard one solid fact or anything even remotely resembling a judgement from him the entire podcast. I'm not saying that as a criticism. He's an excellent listener and I can see how that would be valuable in many circumstances. But, this tells you directly what draws his audience-empathy and sentimentality, not cold-hard facts that can help you navigate the dating landscape. That being said, the tip about going on a first date where you don't have to look directly at one another is good. Sushi restaurants, walks, etc.

[@ChrisWillx]

A fair point. I think it's important to have a variety of perspectives on these topics. Matthew is on the front lines with women who are dating so figured he'd be a great insight here

[@Game5WB]

​@@ChrisWillx Matthew may have been "on the front lines with women" half a decade ago, but like many other dating gurus, they take a step backwards, after investing in the foundations of the business, excluding necessary public appearances (e.g., good with product creation and content, interviews, podcasts etc.). It is evident from this interview; he is a quite out of touch with modern dating but does have a particular dating philosophy and approach that caters to women, that led him to massive business success. His millions of women audiences, literally view him as the perfect man (hypergamy on steroids), and an example for what these women should look for in a man.

[@charlieweaver6322]

​@@Game5WBYeah, I can't help but think a lot of women go to his conferences because they fancy him. He's very good at communicating to women, but he uses a lot of superficial methods like NLP, and I've always got the impression he was offering women the 'cheat codes' to life, in the same way that PUAs did for men.

[@angief2805]

As a woman, Matthew is on point. We are exhausted about those approaches with stats, very disconnected with feelings and sensations (and I have a rational/maths background AHAHHAHA), just feel, be connected from heart

[@lambchop6278]

​@@charlieweaver6322I didn't get any of that. What on earth are you referring to?!!!

[@BirdFinder100]

The thing i always find funny and interesting about “dating coaches” is that, a significant amount of them are always single, or unmarried. Dating is not the end game. A long lasting relationship is. Good thing he’s in one. Solid interview.

[@lidkasplus]

good point, this guy has exactly whan many of us want, and you dont really take fitness advice from obese people

[@RFinkle2]

It’s true, but on the flip side, you also want someone who understands the modern dating game. There are always tradeoffs

[@sacric1de]

Soo true

[@thrilla72]

A person who has been a very long relationship will likely be poor at giving advice on getting people interest. Probably an expert in keeping a relationship though

[@rapidroadsode8789]

Only problem is depending on how long they’ve been married they are out of touch with the current dating market. The recent effects of social media , 4 th wage feminism and misandry in movies and tv have turned a vast majority of women into more of an adversary and competitor than someone who is trying to date . The average guy is having a harder time than ever . Also there is a certain amount of naivety or call it blind trust a man has to even get married today. The laws do not make it an attractive contract to enter into for a man .so someone who is married on a lot of levels isn’t the most relatable or reliable giver of advise

[@watermelonkang]

This just comes across as a two-hour advert for this guy's services. He has too much skin in the dating game to be able to speak honestly about it.

[@peiershen8221]

The problem is not average man not wanting a average woman. The problem is average woman not wanting the average man.

[@James_36]

notice how he never said that either

[@tricatame7427]

Why why why why still whining over equality here? Nothing is equal. Nothing. Nor will it ever be. Women will always look for the best and only settle for the average if they feel they absolutely must. Understand hypergamy and understand that men need women more than women need men. Nothing is equal and neither our need for one another. Just look at the entire animal kigdom. Most animal species assign a select few males to breed and across many species such as bees only a select few females get to breed. Not everyone is meant to couple up and breed. Not everyone is built for paid bonding either. You are making all your assumptions based on this delusional idealized version of reality that everyone should get their equal match. There is no such thing.

[@vklnew9824]

Never underestimate the entitlement of a woman who's mid.

[@ninagrace-lee8323]

Is the average man worth being with? Just bc it’s average doesn’t mean good. If I was a teacher, and my class average on an exam was a 60, I failed as a teacher. If the average score was a C+, with a decent spread of scores then it seems to be a bit more normal. I probably didn’t fail as a teacher, but improvements could be made Men today want to be graded on a curve. Average this, average that. If the AVERAGE is still bad or low quality then women won’t settle for average just to have a man. You’ve greatly overestimated your value if you believe the opposite Think about what the average guy is like, and then ask why a woman would or should even want that

[@tricatame7427]

Evolution does Not makes leaps and bounds replicating the "average". Things don't change for the better if we only ever follow the average. Women seeking the above average is exavtly what drives humanity and the gene pool to improve. Don't be a sore loser and don't you worry about the single women who never even once meet an above average male to mate with. We all Do know odda are against us (the average women) but also trust us when we say "its better to be alone and single than settle for less.

[@Ninitschga]

What Matt says about „making income so you don’t need money from another person“ is something I can attest to 100%! My father never went to university and my grandparents never thought he was good enough for my mom, because he was a carpenter and not a businessman. Luckily my mother didn’t care and married him anyway. He always had her back while she took over the family business and they were happily married until he died from cancer in 2019. „Being on the same level“ in terms of income says nothing about your compatibility as a couple. If anything it makes it more difficult to decide who‘s going to take a step back once kids enter the picture. Choose somebody who‘s got the same values & good communication skills, rather than looking for matching numbers on a paycheck! ❤

[@Deb_deCoder]

sounds good on a youtube comment.. but reality is different

[@Ninitschga]

@@Deb_deCoder I know this is only my anecdotal experience and I‘m sure my parents went through rough patches as well, even though they never let anyone see that side of their relationship. But the bottom line of my comment is to look for general compatibility - not a match in financial status.

[@Deb_deCoder]

@@Ninitschga you are prohibiting the very thing wymn look first in a man.. financial status.. i mean this is the main reason wymn are looking for men.. otherwise most of them don't care to be with a man

[@Ninitschga]

@@Deb_deCoder Maybe that is true for where you live and your culture but over here in Germany women are able to make their own income and look for a lifelong partner, companion, lover, best friend, confidant and a potential father for their kids, if they want any. Financial status is not a top priority in a lot of European countries. My husband for example has a chronic illness - so I know at some point I will have to take care of him and he won’t be able to work anymore and add to our income. But that’s not a reason I would ever leave him or considered not dating him back in the day. He is a wonderful friend, husband and father to our children and even if we had to live in a yurt or on a remote island - I would rather live there with him than with anyone else in a mansion. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Hope you find somebody that loves you for who you are and not the earthly things you posses.

[@Deb_deCoder]

may be you are an exception.. but what i said is the universal truth.. majority of the cases around the world.. and as far as i know very few from today's generation get mrrd in Germany and UK

[@AonBarri]

So everything is mens fault, according to Matt.

[@theperfectbeing]

Matthew seems like a good guy but he's straight up pandering to his female viewer base. He's ignoring mountains of evidence and millions of first hand anecdotes from men verifying exactly what is stated in the studies. He seems to intentionally dodge any question in which female accountability will be the solution. He talks about men failing to reach a certain level or how both might not be ready for the relationship but doesn't touch on the unreasonably high expectations of women, the manipulations/lying involved with modern hook up culture (from the female side of things) or how women will chase instincts 100% of the time over better judgement (feelings) and select men that are terrible for them but espouse evolutionary markers for making them attractive (confident, dangerous, tall, etc). You cannot fix something that is broken until you honestly address all the dysfunctional parts involved

[@AliMacAzz]

@the perfect bring All very good points. The disparities between much of mainstream discourse & the realities you mentioned are astounding.

[@evalebedinsky3830]

I think his perspective comes from his experience. He hosts relationship seminars, coaching, and books. Women are the major consumers of these things, Matthew sees mostly women who are spending money and investing in improving their relationship skills and love life. Men do this WAAYY less and would rather invest in making money and going to the gym. But not actually learning relationships SKILLS. Which take years of practice to master. If men won’t even spend some money to learn about it, no wonder Matthew sees men as the issue. And I think he’s right! Lol

[@thatnobodyguy1535]

"Men are only looking at the top percent of women." BS meter redlining with that one. Most guys would be happy with a cute & pleasant woman. A growing minority of guys would be happy getting ANY interest at all.

[@tristanbackup2536]

Yep. Your average woman who works at a checkout or volunteer at the local library. Exactly how our parents & grandparents got together! Ladies, you're making it rather difficult today!

[@thatnobodyguy1535]

@@kc6810 Pretty sure he meant a cute cashier or service worker would be great for most men. Make your money ladies! Guys generally don't care about financial status, but women sure do even if they're well off themselves.

[@paulbucklebuckle4921]

His clients are mostly whamen, he's just advertising to his target client group .

[@cydoniemiles1535]

What he says at 4:30 is idealistic. I do wish the world worked like that as it would be better for both men and women, but when he talks about women attaining a certain level of success and then being free to choose someone “they admire”, he’s broaching a problem. Women struggle to admire someone that’s achieved less than them. Admiration is looking upwards by its very nature. Women at the top have a minuscule pool to choose from unless they consciously decide to override their nature.

[@Captain_Insano_nomercy]

A lot of this too, to be fair, is that a capitalist system only really admires wealth and material success. In cultures that value honor and courage above all else you would find another avenue to admiration, but honor can't be sold or bought so there's no value for it in our society. Women (and men) are only going to be as good as you make them be for the most part

[@coomdoon]

@@baalzebub5000 Yeah women at that level have to be ok with being admired and not admiring

[@dahliaherrod4301]

@@coomdoon But do men admire women at that level as romantic partners? I've gotten the impression from the Manosphere that they don't. If this is the case, then who should women be dating? Or maybe women need to adjust their idea of what makes a man admirable other than status and income.

[@ordeithx]

The weight people put on certain achievements over others is part of the issue.

[@bigz5262]

Men don’t like it either. A lot of men are intimidated and emasculated by a woman that’s more successful. I don’t remember the exact study but the cases of ED are much higher in relationships where the woman is the breadwinner

[@lifeskillsongs2510]

Does Matthew realize what kind of superficial values he is trumpeting here? Yeah, so women can make a lot of money. I have known women that make more money than me, but they're just corporate pawns, cogs in the big machine, adding no value to anyone but themselves. I make less money than many of them, but I love what I do and I add real joy to people's lives. Having excessive money has absolutely nothing to do with character, and is actually a detriment to women's desirability most often. It speaks to a pattern of superficial, shallow values in the social media age. No thank you.

[@577jrock]

100% brilliant comment mate and my thoughts exactly. It's all shallow BS and fickle. Materialism, liberalism have ruined our society. Particularly women -- they are all seeking this utopian materialist goal and have thoroughly neglected true beauty and true femininity.

[@AdamBechtol]

aye

[@djphoenix1074]

44:55 - 52:30 is a complete paradigm shift in thinking about yourself and what YOU bring to a relationship! I LOVE this! My ex's friends felt this way about me and tried convincing her to see the incredible qualities and values I brought to the relationship. She has always been stuck in her head on a particular body type for the man she finds attractive and struggles in her head. Even though I lost over 20lbs and am fit at 158lbs, and our sex life was amazing. But part of her always wondered "what if"? I know he said we may have to play "the long game", and I gave 150% for a year and a half, but I deserve to be appreciated and WANTED for who I am. I have no anger or animosity, but I have to walk on now.

[@manfredschmalbach9023]

You're pretty resilient and perseverant with changing and still waiting so long. Move on. There are other women that can have good s*x and bloody *_do_* appreciate You as You are. However, some of 'em simply are too much of an Insta-whore in their head to find back to real life for long enough strips to even recognize let alone appreciate what they really have (had).

[@sadoshi]

This guy gives me such BS vibes. Talking so much about feeling, having a "tall personality," so cringe. Hes definitely coached women, but is he really coaching men? That sounds like some bad advice 😕. Sure, maybe ones worth should not be associated with how attractive they are in the sexual market, but the reality is that men care about their worth in the eyes of women, not thier self worth.

[@Teal_Seal]

As a woman, I agreed with the “tall personality” part. Attractiveness is so much more than looks. Most of the men I’ve liked were not ones that immediately caught my eye. And they were definitely not simps. I think it applies to women too. I had a friend with a short pixie cut, flat chest, acne. But she had a personality that made those around her feel good. She filled whatever room she was in. Never lacked for dates.

[@AdamBechtol]

Ditto.

[@hryhthbrfthrh]

in times of redpill content being everywhere on the internet, this interview is like a breath of fresh air. These are the values that we should uphold ourselves to, rather than showing off lambos rented via cryptoscams and calling this success in life.

[@cybernd78]

He sadly is dodging his question. It seems like he tries to be as diplomatic as possible.

[@Sisterlisk]

Everything is so nuanced. A big brand like Hussey can't afford to lose clients due to a poorly worded sentiment.

[@eliciaeldridge3452]

As someone who is a stay at home mom currently I can honestly say that I have never felt more empowered and free. All though I Financially depend on my husband it works well for us as it can in a healthy relationship/marriage and of course depending on your Financial situation. I have grown and learned more as a person and in our case I will need to go back to work eventually so I am enjoying teaching and raising my baby and being able to give him the best version of me .

[@JonesyTheFirst69]

My mom has been a stay at home mom since I was 12, and all of my younger brothers life. We loved being able to have her around and spend time with her.

[@elsavelaz]

I’m all career but my mom was stay at home, and I’m an artificial intelligence specialist now (so software), but taught kindergarten for 9 years prior- and I applaud you. If I’d had kids, I’d done same as you

[@rhenriksen]

That's beautiful to hear! I'm so happy for you 😊

[@YasmineBibiano]

But never forget to have a side financial independence. You never know how mens mind works. One day he can suddenly wakes up and decides he doesn’t want to stay with you anymore.

[@Capitalist_Pig314]

Women today are pricing in perfection. I am divorced after 25 years of marriage. I have been for eight years. I’m 6 feet tall with a masters degree, not that overweight, and not bad looking. But I do build homes for a living, and I make a pretty good amount of money at it. And I think a lot of women are looking down their nose because of my trade. Again, if you have to be perfect to meet their qualifications and there’s going to be a lot of sad single ladies in the future. Unless, of course they all become lesbians. For myself, I think I’m going to look overseas.

[@henrytep8884]

There’s also going to be a lot of sad men in the future, the only caveat is men die earlier.

[@laa2871]

your trade isn't the issue - are you comfortable with varied conversation ... humour ... a little adventure ... or are you a raving political lunatic, a right fighter, a poor me type ... p.s. the 'capitalist pig' handle probably isn't working in your favour.

[@CemeterySunshine]

Overseas is a good option. The women in the west are just hyper emotional men who butcher their kids because they're inconvenient.

[@itsjustbusinessbrokie]

I think women will die earlier if they don’t have a provider… they used to live longer because the men were the support base.

[@henrytep8884]

@@itsjustbusinessbrokie ?? Where’s the evidence of this? And also I’m making a relative comparison of men to women life expectancy, and I would argue men will die even younger as more women choose to be single. There’s a stronger correlation to life expectancy between men’s longevity to a relationship than there is to women longevity to a relationship.

[@KaiserBP]

42:37 Bar set so low? Just have 6 pack bro, just make 6 figures bro, just wear lifts to be 6 ft bro, just have an amazing statusmaxed IG bro. Talk about being absolutely clueless. 5% of men are getting the majority of the matches. The rest can't even get a text let alone just "looking for sex". Privilege is invisible to Chads that have it😊. Dating coach my @$$

[@Hypnotically_Caucasian]

And even if you’re in the top 5%, you will still not receive commitment if you want it, unless if she has a receding hairline and three kids, then you’re better off alone, because ultimately she WILL still divorce.

[@CemeterySunshine]

​@@mrdouche9172Character isn't valued at all in this society.

[@QWERTY-du4hc]

I rescind my comment. Guy clearly doesn't know about dating today. Apparently he hasn't seen the list of "unacceptable dates" floating online.

[@JJ-vp3bd]

Can you elaborate

[@Jamaine678]

It’s hard to listen to his guest, it is a lot of hopefulness. I like to hear about reality.

[@AdamBechtol]

Aye

[@et2792]

His view of the world is from someone who is very attractive. It sounds very nice to listen to him speak, but it isn't true in the real world. I appreciate the rosy glasses, but reality is still reality.

[@AEH-df7ho]

Never ask a chad for dating advice

[@Senza_1]

As a man who has consumed copious amounts of red pill content from various "men's adivce", this has been the most genuine and insightful perspective on the stuff men deal with. Great stuff

[@fit_peezy]

Red pill can get toxic too sometimes

[@eKko0]

red pill should be taken with a huge pinch of salt

[@mirandamurarik]

Yay

[@blastermaster7261]

​@@eKko0like ANY information, duh.

[@nestorcolt]

I got intoxicated by the red pill and when it was too late I ruined my relationship. Lesson learned.

[@hitandruncommentor]

Men aren't afraid or intimidated by women that make more. Women that make more shove that success in men's faces and then begin to hen pick their partners. It's not fear, they're jackasses. Not all obviously, however the number of times a higher earning woman tells her partner to shut it she makes more astounds me.

[@577jrock]

Exactly. It's not intimidation it's just not attractive. Women who are 'girlbosses' simply aren't attractive. Men are attracted to feminine, submissive, pleasant women who will support them, not compete with them and try to dominate them or demand that they become more greedy and ruthless.

[@jorgefigueroa2231]

@@577jrock - Exactly. It's not the fact that she makes more. It's the masculine traits that accompany her success that turn off a lot of men.

[@RadiantHealthForAll]

Yeah he's way off there. I'm not intimidated by a woman making more than me. They're not attracted to me

[@elise9537]

theres men who do that too or force themselves on someone because they make more.. dont worry about the jerks. nice ppl dont even mention how much they make.

[@elise9537]

@@577jrock not all men like submissive childish women. I am the opposite of that in a nongirl boss way and men love the engagement really. Yes abusers are going to look for ppl to manipulate but regular middle class ppl need an equal who engaged in the world.

[@samuelxd7954]

Its funny... matthew hussey gets a free pass, but all the pick up artists that actually helped me get some perspective on dating and women had to rebrand or get cancelled. Matthew is only relevent is cause he caters to women only not really men... show's you what kind of world we live in at the moment.

[@jsgdk]

Probably true.

[@helloiamthechosenone]

I love that they are talking about separating your micro experiences from the macro. We get lost in comparing ourselves with everyone else. There is a lot of value in focusing 100% of your energy into building with one person. Forget the rest of the world for a day.

[@stevec3526]

How can two men who claim to be aware and insightful be so damned clueless? Matthew comes off as a very pleasant, urbane, and refined Derrick Jaxn. He clearly tells women what they want to hear and NOT what they NEED to learn, know, and live. His big mistake is listening to what women are telling him and NOT what they are actually doing. The two rarely match. Men don't find modern women intimidating. No, they just find them no longer feminine, entitled, loud and annoying.

[@bewilderedbrit8928]

Yes but his main customer base is women. Go figure.

[@filthyminges]

Love this spot on western women are worthless trash in my opinion

[@williamwallace410]

My thoughts exactly.

[@GE0attack]

That's how keep customer retention and money flowing in

[@anastasiakallinic]

They are his clients, that's his job to see them as perfect, he doesn't date them 😊

[@peterwilliams6361]

Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser,i wasnt going to let my marriage of 18years crash

[@peterwilliams6361]

@DavidVelasquez9 well not the orthodox way but i was referred by a friend to a spiritual adviser and healer

[@peterwilliams6361]

@DavidVelasquez9 her name is *Victoria Lee Hess* ,and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as caster

[@peterwilliams6361]

you can look her name up online and you will find all you need.

[@Kwatson855]

Not true! If you were seduced by a manipulator who ends up abusing you then get away. Even the Catholic Church recognizes personality disorders lead to abuse and entrapment. Divorce is a way out of horrific conditions.

[@Medietos]

@@peterwilliams6361 : Does that mean you managed to save your marriage? I am so glad for you if yes. Can Victoria L H also help via Zoom? And does caster mean casting out dark spirits or generational trauma knots? Or does she CAST, make, put spells herself? Thanks if you answer.

[@jacobcates4872]

3:11 And at this point he invalidated his entire perspective. He couldn’t admit women aren’t attracted to lower socioeconomic status. He straight up can’t be sincere about that, why would anyone (any man) trust the rest of what he says?

[@devicemangler]

This guy doesn't understand the concept of invisibility. He thinks that if you're invisible you still have choices... He's been working with women for too long to understand true invisibility.

[@JJ-vp3bd]

Can you elaborate

[@stanislavkimov2779]

This guy behaves to please women. To make them hear what they want. He feels very fake. He is doing good business for himself, but there is nothing of value to listen here.

[@YellowMouse998]

Interesting take - what do you disagree with?

[@stanislavkimov2779]

@@YellowMouse998 let's start from the fact that I don't see this take as interesting. To me it's very obvious. He cares about business and himself. I felt he never said anything that an average woman would be annoyed with or disagree. While he said enough that would do it to men. One example, saying a ridiculous thing that most men want a top 1% woman and get mad when they don't get her. Not addressing the fact they can't get any date at all.

[@YellowMouse998]

@Stanislav Kimov well I start off with my reply with the fact that I do find it interesting because it's an argument that could be used on anyone creating content or selling a product. I.E If I go watch Fresh and Fit, I could discredit all their points because they are making money catering to their audience. He won't say anything to annoy women - but said enough to annoy men? You mean you. You got annoyed with him, as you're outside your echo chamber. You also took your example out of context (timestamp 31.50). He didn't say most men. He was talking about a community of men. Most men in the world are dating or in relationships. We also mentioned it's not just men. Both sexes are guilty of critizing each other standards whilst having high standards ourselves.

[@stanislavkimov2779]

@@YellowMouse998 man you're just gaslighting me at this point. Are you Matthews alternate account, lol?

[@YellowMouse998]

@Stanislav Kimov Enjoy your cope.

[@reymondo8582]

Regarding the bit about more and more women not wanting to have children starting at 1:14, the interviewer expresses grave concern. But I don't get why this is a problem at all. Also, he does not ask or focus on whether men want to have children, only women. Why? The planet has soooo many people and we all use material resources to live. Seems like a leveling off or even decreasing global population is a good thing for the natural world (which we humans are part of). Plus, populations in many places around the globe are still exploding. Someone please help me understand why this is a problem.

[@markmansell]

His profession is telling women what they want to hear

[@joasok3642]

Hey idi*t his profession is to get to know what women want so better listen to him.

[@AdamBechtol]

yuuupp

[@jasonolinger7585]

This guy, like most "dating coaches" these days hold back a lot of info to keep their viewership high.

[@bobbyz9052]

gotta pay those bills

[@dr.jenniferma3914]

He doesn't fall into the trap of pandering to either "gender" for ratings. He's understanding people on a deeper level.

[@James_36]

@Albert Kirilov he was very unfair to men, he literally said bothj genders have the same silly standards, this is factually incorrect and not real what so ever. So yes he is pandering to the females here

[@joasok3642]

He understands women so better listen to him and learn.

[@James_36]

@@joasok3642 no man understands women, this guy is just taking womens money

[@arzee91]

For a "number one" at anything, this guy sure talks a lot without saying much. Despite Chris trying to get some interesting things out of him with different kind of questions, his answers are almost always predictable and boring. Really concerned that people give him so much credit - probably the only podcast of Chris' that i regret watching for 50 minutes. Even started doing dishes while listening - THATS how bored I was.

[@noisserpxe5382]

Yeah he rambles and uses insinuations, not very concise or clear, really was tough to follow. Maybe that's why he appeals to females whereas men just want you to get to the point, not talk in circles and have us try to figure out what he's trying to say basically he talks like a girl.

[@cruelphilosophr]

This man just said a whole bunch of nothing in this video.

[@YellowMouse998]

Outside your echo chamber

[@AdamBechtol]

Imagine being his client paying him money for this bs lol. yikes

[@RaquelOne]

lol ignorance. He is speaking from a feminine perspective, feeling based. That’s why the brutes would never understand.

[@elmateo77]

Women say they want a kind, vulnerable, emotional man. If you believe that then go out and try it, see what happens. The red pill doesn't have to recruit, guys just come in on their own after they experience the dating market (assuming he doesn't eat a bullet after she leaves with all his money and his kids ending a 15 year marriage because she met some hot guy at a party and he gave her the tingles).

[@thebunker6350]

Lol 🎉

[@mpGreen03]

When it comes to having children - it is a whole seperate topic which should be discussed properly, wanting to have children in the first place is something that society ingrains into a lot of people from their childhood. Do those people even want children or do they think they want them? Do they understand the responsibility children are? Do women understand what harm having a child can do to their mental and physical health? So many parents should not have been parents, so many people come up talking about having parents who never wanted them in the first place. It's not simply about having a list of reasons not to have kids.

[@DoremonUCR]

No wonder this guy is a female dating coach. He’s very idealistic and while it sounds great on paper, it’s not applicable in the real world. It’s like, nothing isn’t ever like what you see in a textbook. The women he coaches will say all of this, but over time once they meet the guy and stop getting coaches, will revert to previous behavior. Ultimately blaming the men.

[@Krwler]

He’s always careful not to criticise his target audience but he talks freely about men

[@Obliv69]

@@mattcomchoc2957all of husseys work is very gynocentric

[@cr2lives]

I noticed this also.

[@AdamBechtol]

lol indeed.

[@swisscheese412]

Accountability and responsibility of modern women? Crickets 🦗🦗🦗🦗🦗🦗🦗🦗

[@JJ-vp3bd]

Has any other major KZbinr pointed this out like it's a deep flaw in his work

[@prw956]

I'm only 12 minutes in, but Matt seems stumped by every question Chris asked. They were all normal expected questions for this topic but he doesn't seems to have ready answers for them. He sure doesn't seem to get the idea that men aren't interested in the boss babes, are not impressed by their money and their degrees, and he doesn't seem to grasp the realities of hypergamy of those types of women,...like maybe he thinks he can talk the women out of their hypergamy. I'll watch a bit longer and see if he wakes up a bit.

[@meowmix1569]

This guy reminds me of a doctor pushing pharmaceuticals. Cant tell if he has tunnel vision from his profit base or doesnt care. Both can't be right on this. Diametrically opposite views from those on Fresh n Fit, Whatever, and similar podcasts. When you let the women talk there they do not say what this guy is saying (not that words equal actions)

[@EricJGonzalez]

Kudos to Chris for allowing the guest to take the conversation to an unexpected place and knowing when to be comfortable in silence and just listen... Great job!! 👏

[@rhenriksen]

Amen. I think it's a big part of why he's been so successful

[@TopJoo7]

@23:00, this guy said that he's a crier and quickly glossed over this fact without addressing it should be a huge red flag. He almost seemed to encourage it but not entirely. The truth is women will never respect men who cry easily and or are overly emotional, contrary to modern dating advice. He made some really good points in this interview, however, caveat emptor.

[@aikighost]

It seems to me that the biggest issue "high status" women have is that they want the men who aren't after them, they believe their success entitles them to a "top dog" but the top dogs aren't looking for what they offer, because they already have that in themselves and instead are seeking the opposite of what they are, IE: a softer nurturing feminine and submissive woman to be the homemaker of the relationship. I cant see this fact changing any time soon and since men control relationship status this group of women are going to be left on the shelf in many cases.

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

I can't see any woman with self-esteem interested in being submissive. It's a recipe for disaster. If she doesn't need to be, she won't

[@GearForTheYear]

And still, they refuse to lower their standards. They would literally rather be single and alone than date down. If that doesn't tell you something about the psyche of women then I don't know what will.

[@JJ-vp3bd]

Are the women not smart are they or are they misguided

[@michellesmith7363]

Because they are ok being alone and can support themselves.

[@justanghozzst8218]

"Okay" but not happy. Same thing as all these red pill commenters. They say they're satisfied being single for years until they aren't and they're much older.​@@michellesmith7363

[@jasoncooper4737]

Much respect to Matthew, but I can't be the only one snickering a little at the fact a man with the last name Hussey is the most popular dating coach for women...

[@eyeswideopenpod]

🤣

[@JaZmine147]

English is not my mother tongue. What does his surname mean in this context?

[@whatarewedoingouthere]

@@JaZmine147A hussy is a brazen or promiscuous woman.

[@pilot.wav_theory]

@@JaZmine147 a hussey is a word for a promiscuous or "loose" woman, aka a woman who sleeps around with a lot of men

[@pilot.wav_theory]

@@JaZmine147 it's slang

[@melindacollins3483]

Many of us don’t like the apps or online dating anymore because all the scammers and catfishers have raided them and ruined it for many to not trust much anymore . So yes you’re right 😢 the world of dating now Is a mess

[@spenndoolie]

thank god we got 40 different angles of a conversation

[@othello.]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@jaredmello]

I hear you. Doesn’t add much value for me either. I find it distracting really. I just listen

[@bruswain9158]

Yeah I think Chris is pulling his hair out as Matt H has nothing but cliches whereas Chris is used to world renowned evolutionary psychologists

[@spenndoolie]

@@bruswain9158 100% i feel like this guy is a bit of a fraud, Chris is way more of an expert

[@makeadifference4all]

You're complaining about a professionally edited and produced podcast? 🤪

[@bigheadrhino]

I think the internet has made people waaay overthink dating. I think the 21 year old guy he mentioned who wants a wife and kids is the only sane person mentioned. Planning for a family is probably the best goal setting strategy you can possibly have because it puts everything in perspective and gives you direction. Career is and always was meant as a way to aupport family. Family is the primary goal, and the fact that this has gotten confused is real reason why dating is a mess.

[@user-lt1jd1ye3v]

Agreed.. and I am a single 27 year old girl and I still think everyone makes it too complicated.. it's just about finding someone you have a connection and could start a family with

[@DoubleOhSilver]

​@@user-lt1jd1ye3v the "start a family with" part is hard because so many men and women aren't prepared for commitment, marriage, or building a family. I'm also 27 and so few others my age know how to cook, clean, keep good hygiene, stay in shape, budget, or know how to raise and guide children in the right direction. Most of them are afraid of committing, eat out every day, have a messy home, and treat their children like pets and their pets like children. High school used to help people grown into functional adults, and so did their families. They literally prepared them for marriage and gave them advice on dating. We have none of that anymore, so we have many in their 20s acting childish.

[@Kurio71]

Male here, I was almost married at 20. Didn't get married till 30. Had a ball in my 20s. Should have focused more in work advancement since I am a man. Family creation will be your goal, life changes you. Many women are too focused of careers when they just have an average job. I understand dual incomes are necessary. It is complicated. My goal now is to retire my wife. It's not easy with both parents working and not ideal for the kids

[@bigheadrhino]

@@DoubleOhSilver there’s no way to actually know how to do these things until you have to. You find a partner you’re committed to and then you figure it out and do your best. Our parents generation didn’t know what the hell they were doing either for the most part either. My wife didn’t know how to cook until after we were married and then she just out of nowhere decided to start cooking and turns out she’s great at it. When you have family some things just become easier to do because you know what it’s for. Obviously it doesn’t work out for everyone but that goes without saying.

[@RequisiteZero]

@@user-lt1jd1ye3v Nobody wants to have children with a blown-out wine aunt.

[@agentnukaz1715]

Being single for a very long time kills motivation. I think guys are afraid to put their neck out to get girls, lack of confidence, social skills and with all the escapes and comforts like porn don't encourage change. Social media sets high bars and endless swiping on tinder are big factors as well.

[@thelucariamonarchs4889]

You dont have a clue about what you are talking about

[@ryanleedham7391]

Chris, literally every podcast you post is like a continuum of addressing the thoughts on the forefront of my mind, and always in the exact same order😂

[@thelucariamonarchs4889]

Cap

[@SamAmongTheStars]

A dating coach who’s never been married ok lol

[@eyeswideopenpod]

lol right?! That's like hiring a 400 lb trainer to help you lose weight.

[@ananastea]

he has a fiancee - and i still don’t get the point. he dated camilla cabello and many other hard-to-get women, maybe didn’t want to settle down or whatever - it’s not saying much about his “skills” as a dating coach. at least i dont see how it does.

[@WaykerLifeAndTechInsights]

This guys proofs he is a woman's coach. His level of womanise, sugar coding and talking from emotional perspective is specifically tailored for women. Perhaps he was somehow close to men perspective when he started but being around so many women all these years has definitely confused him.

[@ShivaShaktification]

Yeah he has a very feminine, long drawn out,way of speaking that is nauseating

[@sassycaterpillar6631]

I think the fear of not being found attractive is justified. For the majority of men, it comes from the reality of thats how they were treated. It doesnt happen the other way around where a girl walks up to a guy and he finds her creepy. That's why the advice for men is usually "get over that feeling because most women will treat you like that, but at least 10% may be into you if you have everything else going for you." I dont think it's as psychosomatic as you make it seem.

[@forcefedapocalypse]

Being attractive only gets you so far. Suppose you get the girl finally, what makes you think its easy keeping them around? I've lived with two women and thought I was getting married both times. Low and behold both of them had exit plans and were cheating on me. I hadn't a clue until it was already over. I won't even bother anymore, which is sad because I'm still in my prime. I just don't care to be used and or taken for granted yet another time. I'll save myself the misery.

[@James_36]

@@brianmeen2158 this is where society is so far gone its almost doomed, this is why Christianity promotes union of 2 people and loyalty to that union until death, it creates pair bonding, commitment and stability for Children, it is so much smarter than anything this modern world is conjuring up. Humans are destroyed by betrayal and cheating and non commitment when the other has committed, this is why the guy is broken above.

[@thatnobodyguy1535]

​@@forcefedapocalypse I feel for you dude. My only LTR ended with me ghosted & broken. Apparently, I was just a side-dick boyfriend while her FIANCE was in school out of state. Pretty sure their first child is biologically mine too. I've been alone almost a decade since.

[@yargum69]

Guy just sounds like he's filibustering and stating really obvious platitudes. Did not get anything out of this one.

[@RadiantHealthForAll]

I'm 7 minutes in noticed it a few minutes ago

[@theperfectbeing]

He's literally communicating in a female mode, it's the exact same communication methods you see between women when they talk about their problems to each other. Everything is said with the intention of emotional reinforcement and giving hope, not actual facts or solutions (or god forbid accountability.) He talks about situations from the women's perspective and what they tell him but intentionally does not voice the male side of that situation, despite it being quite obvious and well known.

[@Sisterlisk]

​@@theperfectbeing Lol I talk in a direct manner, and it's lost me two female friends. I'm too logical, not empathetic enough. I've gotten better at being nice, though I refuse to be walked all over.

[@juliawynm6335]

hmm.. Whatever a man sows, he will reap in return. The one who sows to please his flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; but the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.…

[@buldrux217]

Its real sad nowadays, by the times she mentality healthy and ready for a family she's in her 30s and chances of success go way down.

[@Hypnotically_Caucasian]

And then it’s off to the Cat Farm

[@Didi-fr5ic]

Aah red pill men in these comments , if you think k about woman is this way , you are a broken concious man, a woman needs safety and security to have children with a man which you men are slacking today , no leadership skills etc, not all men but the ones that commented here , you need healing as a man

[@tommyknocker111]

I really like his comments about "attention & intention." Just because someone is giving you their focus doesn't mean that intentions are of what you think because of that focus, people get that misconstrued all the time.

[@camkret4113]

I would love to see the body language experts review this interview. He clearly wants to say things about his female clients but cant because they are his income. Its quite hilarious to watch his struggle

[@georgeb8328]

Sorry but I don’t know any men who expect the cheerleader or a Victoria secret model.

[@crowhillian58]

Fantastic conversation guys! Being somewhat older and having been through the sleeping around phases and the serious relationship/marriage stuff too I can wholeheartedly tell any younger fellows watching to listen to Matthew because he speaks the truth, or at least as I know it through my own experiences. And Chris, a brilliant interviewer who lets his guests develop unexpected conversational tangents. ❤

[@Totaltwist]

My partner is 7 years older than me and I could really tell he wasn't looking for a bed buddy. It was made really obvious he was a guy ready to settle down and wanted to partner.

[@valentingartner3793]

@@phoenixmystery508honestly, this sounds crazy to me. As a guy, I always thought trying to date someone more than three years younger than me would make me a total creep; at least to the girls.

[@jps080576]

Speaks the truth of the top men clearly if you were able to whore, you're not the majority of us unwanted invisible men.

[@1twistedcpl6575]

@@Totaltwist i like your "name!" And I'm 10 yrs older than my wife of 15 years...22 together as a couple

[@1twistedcpl6575]

@@valentingartner3793 met my wife when she was 26. I was 36. Been together 22 yrs now, 15 married.

[@RealTalk-mq2ug]

I'm dying dying dying of pain... good God, how I loved that asshole with all my soul... since February of this year (2023), we're now in July... crisis lines and prayer lines have been my lifelines... my soul is deeply profoundly raped. I am suffering tremendously. I cannot breathe through the pain. HOW COULD MY BEST FRIEND DO THIS TO ME? now I'm all alone and I am terrified and I cannot breathe. I'm in hell with no escape. horrific PTSD. horrific and severe. hell with no escape. I do not breathe. I'm in perpetual freeze mode. it's impossible to describe just how much I wish to die. I live in a state of perpetual trauma and panic and terror. the pain is killing me. I cannot, do not: breathe. constant survival mode. endless pain. DARKNESS ALL AROUND. disgusting cruel abusive PATHETIC man, I dodged a bullet, really. saved and protected. even knowing all that, still... he was my best friend and my addiction, my lifeline, I needed him desperately, wanted him badly. the longing and the grief debilitate and paralyze me. I am drowning in grief and terror and panic and darkness. sadness and grief and longing and aching and misery and nostalgia: flood me. my heart literally physically actually hurts. aches. he doesn't miss me? I'm that easy to replace? I'M THAT EASY TO BE THIS CRUEL TO? I don't deserve a goodbye nor an explanation? our connection and friendship wasn't real? I AM STUCK IN FREEZE (mostly, perpetually). my heart is so heavy. the grief; the ache; the longing. I miss him. I needed him. I miss our connection. HOW THE FUCK COULD HE ACTUALLY REALLY DO THIS TO ME? One day we're talking all day, every day, the next, we're complete strangers. I die inside. PANIC PANIC PANIC AND. SO. MUCH. GRIEF!! I truly die inside. The pain is unbearable. I am dizzy with grief. Truly unimaginable darkness. DEBILITATING PARALYZING PANIC... I wish to die. I have severe PTSD. the person whom I thought was my best friend, gave me this PTSD. he raped me. on a soul level. he viciously brutally violently maliciously raped my soul. ghosted me. discarded me like garbage. replaced me for another. (STUPID SICK MOTHER FUCKING ASSHOLE, HE IS!!) I feel the PTSD in my body. I am drowning in darkness. I'm in hell with no escape. I face every moment of every day: with utter dread and sheer terror. and so... as an act of my own free will... I release and detach all vibrations and frequencies that do not serve my highest good. I responsibly cut all cords from all people in my past, and declare and command their energy to no longer have access to the sacred parts of my being! I release and send back their energy to them with the purest intent. I call back my energy from their sacred space. I command this all, for my inner healing and for my inner peace. IN JESUS' PRECIOUS HOLY MIGHTY POWERFUL NAME, I DECLARE IT IS SO! I am embracing the light within my soul. I forgive therefore I am forgiven. I love therefore I receive love. And so it is. NOTES TO SELF: - work on yourself - heal yourself - purify, release, cleanse, attract, surrender - be independent; fall in love with you - radiate magical energy - develop a sense of mystery and safety and astonishment - visualize wishes fulfilled (COMMAND and FEEL) - live your life on purpose - Radical Honesty = EASY (when you're not afraid of losing something) Thank you Heavenly Father ❤Thank you Universe ❤ Thank you God❤Thank you Gurus❤Thank you Angels❤ Thank you Ancestors ❤Thank you Divine Spirit ❤Thank you Mother Earth ❤ I REMEMBER: A successful woman is one who can lay a firm foundation: with the bricks that others have thrown at her... - I AM feeling the love from the Universe. - I AM feeling a sense of purpose in my life. - I AM being shown and given a magical and miraculous way of living. - I AM connecting with my soul tribe, and (re)uniting with my twin-flame. (Forgiveness: to release what has never actually really occurred.)

[@com.gordon4280]

Change my mind: dating coaches are glorified motivational speakers who know how to hype something to others, but they don't have any hidden "guru" knowledge of women or men. Basically they are paid to encourage people, not because they have two brain cells to rub together. Matt demonstrates this in his terrible advice to men here such as telling men to show vulnerability as if this is something women are looking for. The vulnerable man Matt is describing is selected against by nature. Womens biology is screaming at them to run from that man just as men's biology is screaming at us to seek the attractive & fertile woman. It's just leftist ideology has created these strange taboos around our own biological instincts as human beings. Matt has talked to far too many women and taken them at their word rather than actually studying their behavior - the basic investigative principle of much of the manosphere. He also strawmans the average man as looking for a supermodel to play to his female followers watching this. A common feminist trope about men is that they only want supermodel women but in fact many men have literally no standards when it comes to dating. They will date fat chicks, smelly ones who don't shower, leftist lunatic ones, 1/10s in appearance and personality, men will ignore a lot of shit just to have some female to sleep with. Some points Matt made were valid and interesting, but he does a lot of pandering to feminists and thus gives some real garbage-tier advice to both sexes. He talks in a very wishy-washy way rather than giving us the brutal reality of what is happening on the ground. As he's a salesman for dating coaching aka a very biased source of information - he essentially sells modern dating for a living - he doesn't want to say how ruined dating is today and how many couples just give up or fail. How many marriages go belly up even when there was no clear reason for it. How many people die alone like never before in human history. Look at Stephen Crowder's situation. Today the realists about modern dating are yelled down as "MGTOW" "incel" or whatever other name to discredit the rational critique we are making of the present dating market which is failing millions of men and women. We hear the same dumb feminist card played over and over: "You hate women!" If we hated women, we would keep quiet while women essentially price themselves out of the market and end up alone in the millions. Traditional patriarchal society did not tyrannize women but rather created a structure to protect women from themselves and ensure their success in life. Feminism has been women's undoing, not patriarchy.

[@AdamBechtol]

I'm surprised more people can't see through this guy, as you say.

[@quendelf]

Both men and women need to realise most of what we see online is not real. The issue is our lack of authenticity… that’s it. Truly.

[@rbfarrell1]

When realize that women usually take more then they give. The single life and renting a garden tool starts to look very good. Most modern women are just a boss that cost you money.

[@gtbr8134]

This episode sounded like 2 women talking about women’s wants and needs in a relationship

[@1Mbof4billion]

as a woman I would say that i personally don't have sex when i could because it is just not good sex. Im less and less interested in having sex every time i have another bad experience, most men don't care about making sure they please the woman properly and they are only worried about getting to have their ejaculation. They know that most women need a lot more time and work to reach the same outcome as them and they still don't care enough to work at it. (Generalizing here) just my personal opinion, the sex is just not worth the time and effort

[@ArthurDeRoey]

Hard to listen to someone who is super financially invested in a certain viewpoint

[@U4ia28]

Depending on where you live, “Never again” most definitely is the right lesson with regards to not being fully vulnerable to/with your woman. For most women men at the very least have to package their emotional expression in a way that is palatable to said woman. Which more often than not involves said men holding back how he really wants and needs to express himself. Otherwise she will see that man as weak and lose attraction for him. Or if his expressions involve her in a negative light she will make it about how she feels about what he’s saying and/or use it against him. At this point women have to EARN our vulnerability. Women need to understand that a big part of men being able to trust them is connected to how they react and interact with us. So if they not only react to our vulnerability negatively, but exploit it that trust is now broken. Often irrevocably.

[@Captain_Insano_nomercy]

Very well said

[@MrVvulf]

Honestly, men are often better off going to other men if they're experiencing something which makes them feel unsure, inadequate, or vulnerable. A good male friend who knows the strong side of you won't be disturbed by your feelings of anxiety of inadequacy. Chances are they've felt similarly at some point. Also, male friends don't look to you for protection or sexual attraction, so you're not risking a relationship by sharing. Also, guys are much better at clarifying a problem and then helping decide on a course of action to resolve whatever you're going through. Women can get satisfaction just from sharing, but most men don't work that way. Men want to know how "fix" whatever is going on, and coming up with a plan is the support they need after assessing the situation.

[@carolallison9685]

There are plenty of nice conservative women out there. We don't act nutbags because we live in reality. We know men aren't women, we know we're in a recession, we know affirmative action is thinly veiled racism, we know feminism is literally destroying the nuclear family, we know title 9 is bs and college kangaroo courts are unconstitutional and violate the rights of american citizens to due process of the law. We also know that marriage really is a partnership where two people work together to accomplish shared life goals. Oh, and to top it all off, we won't cheat, we won't muder your baby while it's still in our wombs, and we will respect you if you are a respectable man. My husband and i have been married for a very long time, and our conservative values are the very reason we are so happy. You see son, liberal women are delusional because they are constantly striving for a utopia that will never come. Since society amd the government won't give them the utopia they seek, theyll use you to find it, and when you cant give it, they move on to the next guy to find it. Find a nice conservative woman who lives in reality.

[@Blanketbook]

Well, I could say the same works both ways; I’ve been told that if I cried in a more feminine way, then I would get heard/accepted. I think both genders have a lot of expectations that kinda don’t work. It’s a human problem - making it a gendered thing doesn’t really help the individual.

[@U4ia28]

@@Blanketbook Not at all the same. Men by and large are very accommodating towards womens emotional expression. Sometimes too accommodating, which is what often leads to us being manipulated with said emotions. But if that’s really how you feel about it then I hope you keep that same exact energy when the spotlight is specifically focused on us men and attempt to make that argument a “both sides” issue.

[@dearthofdoohickeys4703]

He’s a very charismatic guy, has a nice smile, generally makes you feel good, but it’s very telling how he ignores the more pressing questions. Anyone who says they’re “raw” but then side-steps the more uncomfortable realities of dating is an instant red flag. Even if he’s well-meaning, at the end of the day he’s a motivational speaker whose tells you what you want to hear.

[@ivanbukac4618]

That is why he works with women.

[@Milktube]

I would have respected him if he was honest about "I'm not particularly familiar with this area, but my experience would lead me to believe that __ is the case regarding it" etc. But instead when he confidently spewed out absolute 100% wrong falsehoods that ignore reality it completely demolished his credibility. Defying reality to cater to someone's feelings *IS* extremely profitable with women, but it's not going to fly with men. He's not a jackass like a lot of personalities we see these days, but that doesn't make his advice valuable or correct.

[@lambchop6278]

​@@MilktubeGosh you sound so bitter.

[@StuartFerguson55]

Wow, y'all really hate this guy huh?

[@foobar201]

There's the occasional bit of useful and though provoking content in there, but it's packaged in fluffy overly positive padding. We want it raw and cynical.

[@voidandnon-2530]

49:30 "but babe, I've got a 'tall personality'. I have 'tall values'" 😂😂😂 Give me a break.

[@AdamBechtol]

lol

[@buggus0034]

I will say if you have the wit and balls of someone who is taller than they are? They stand out. They feel taller than they are.

[@elizabethmccaul2223]

Relationships are difficult and requires a high level of maturity. Maturity is rare.

[@terrorists-are-among-us]

Visiting blockbuster was actually truly fun. Running around the store trying to figure out which movie wouldn't suck. Arguing about it. Possibly not winning. Possibly being pleasantly surprised. Or hating your friends for forcing you to watch trash. Holding it against them for the rest of their life.

[@JaZmine147]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@jennh2096]

​@cobrakaiISBACK you're missing the point. It was the activity itself, the act of going to the store, hoping they had the movie you wanted to see, or having nothing in mind and looking thru the shelves until something catches your eye. And you didn't want to choose wrong because you couldn't just stop a movie 20 mins in when you realize it sucked, and then pick another movie, you were stuck with your choices that you also had to pay for. It was a weekend treat to rent movies and stay up late watching them, it wasn't something you often did during the week. Sometimes you find more value in something that takes more effort, something you have to pay for, as opposed to just having 9 million movies handed to you on a silver platter that you can start/stop anytime you want, and so many options you end up spending 2 hours looking thru the never-ending menu instead of actually watching a movie.

[@pewterschmidt23lord99]

Yeah video stores were fun back in the day

[@Obliv69]

@@cobrakaiisback4709 most of those streaming services just offer low grade rubbish 'straight to streaming' shows/movies that wouldnt even be found in the 'weekly' rental shelf at a video store.

[@jonm57]

Sorry, but dating apps give women too many options. It’s unrealistic for life. Women agree it makes choosing and staying with someone too difficult.

[@benkovskaviktoriya4904]

Some women are not having sex, because they simply dont like having casual sex and they couldnt find their partner yet. Is that that difficult to understand ?

[@simontmn]

I always found Hussey useful for understanding what women want. They are his market and he understands them a lot better than most male oriented coaches.

[@beddythecorgi4269]

Unfortunately he makes a lot of positive assumptions about women like maturity, sanity and self reflection that might not be applicable to the general female population today. When 30%+ of women are on antidepressants you're only going to get so many sane well balanced women in the dating pool at once. Just like men the good ones and the ones in reasonable BMI range are going to be mostly already spoken for. Of the sane well balanced I can tell you right now most women don't know what they want. They are chasing a feeling that is fleeting for a lifetime of happiness goal. Most people can't honestly assess themselves. Average people should be happy with other average people. The problem today is no one knows they are average bc no one is honest with them.

[@alanadawn1755]

This was golden and is officially added as one of my fave MW podcasts. I love how he mentioned people applying macro perceptions of the other gender vs. getting to know individuals. It would be nice to see a cease to the constant finger pointing at the other gender’s flaws and differences. We are just different. I feel previous generations understood that, but this generation can’t seem to figure it out. I’ve noticed getting offline and in the real world has given me a more positive view of men in general. There are many good men and women who have matching values. We just have to find each other! 😅

[@The_Growth_Experience]

I love your comment but at the same time. If we have to accept that we’re different, we also have to accept that things are the way they are because of those differences therefore this is the way things will always be.

[@aikighost]

Its not that they "cant figure it out" they are propagandised from birth that both genders are the same or at least SHOULD be the same, yet when the tires hit the road we aren't actually treated the same by each other or society at large. Funny that 😂

[@alanadawn1755]

@@The_Growth_Experience Agreed, but we can all be nicer about it! 😂 it’s getting straight up hostile at this point! 😓

[@oremfrien]

@@alanadawn1755 I would actually argue that we have more intragender variation than intergender variation, meaning that there are many men that I (as a man) have less in common with than many women. Yes, if you try to essentialize men and women into distinct paradigms, you will find generalizable differences, but there are many people of the opposite gender that, if you engage them in conversation, will be more palatable to you and your sensibilities than many of your same-gender counterparts.

[@filthyminges]

Tell your sisters that. They aren't listening

[@KimmieAllen-m9q]

This man hits the heart of struggle, vulnerability, depression, pain, spiritual awakening that brought me to my knees. I have been listening for years to his authentic words. Such a beautiful man. Thank you!

[@Cookiesbychris]

I’m with you, to my knees 🙌🏽 Such a beautiful man. What a journey!

[@GrymeJr]

More and more I see these conversations I realize, the hooker and only fan girls will be very lucrative in the coming years

[@manifest2203]

Never knew Mathew struggled with chronic health issues. Here’s wishing him all the health and happiness in the world ❤ Hope he continues to shine his light for many years to come. That last part of the interview was so thoughtful and moving. Mathew is light years ahead of most men in emotional intelligence. That is why he is so successful in his field of work.

[@Deb_deCoder]

he carefully protects wymn's ego.. that's why wymn think he understands them 😂 and take help from him to find rich partners by paying.. nice business

[@manifest2203]

@@Deb_deCoder nothing is more fragile than men’s ego. But ego has nothing to with his business. He talks with so much emotional depth, which is why women listen to him. And no he doesn’t help women to get high value men. He educates women on what kind of relationships they should be in. One of his biggest advice is to never invest in any relationship where the other person doesn’t invest as much. He teaches women that the biggest resource available is time and not to waste time on bad relationships. So naturally for those women, they will be more happy with being single rather than being in a relationship. It is not only about finding a husband. In so many cases, once women cut out the dead weight, they are more happier. That is why he is popular with women. He covers different aspects of relationships.

[@whitebroccoli694]

⁠@@manifest2203women happier single? I don’t think I’ve met these women. Don’t mean to offend but women need family and they can’t have it without a husband that can provide it (ie kids). More true the older they get.

[@aurinkobay7118]

@@whitebroccoli694 can I disagree with you? I am chronically single woman lol. every time I am in a relationship, I get bored within a relationship right around 2--3 months in. Literally, my brain goes into work mode "If i were single, i would be doing (list of things)" then an incredible desire to be free (almost one foot in and one out) but more about relationships being a burden plus constantly being asked "where are you?" "where haveyou been" and etc. If I read the symptoms of men why they are afraid of commitment, 9 out of 10 fit me like a glove which I cannot say about the symptoms why a woman is afraid of commitment.

[@manifest2203]

@@whitebroccoli694 how are women more unhappy when they are single? The only women who are crying online are older women (I would say 35-45) who have never had children but wanted to. Childfree by choice women are happy. Most women do have one or two children. These women would have been married, or had a long term bf or been single for a long time. Some women then continue in the marriage if they find their marriage reasonably ok. If the 50% divorce rate statistic is to be believed, half of these women would have been married and divorced by then. Among these women, most women dont want to get into relationships. These are the women who truly understand men and what marriage is. And they want no more part of it. According to one PEW research, 62% of all women are single and not "looking for a relationship". What use is it for them to have a man in their life? If they have no man, they will have no one to nag them endlessly for s3x, his food, his laundry, to tidy up the space he dirties and so much more. Men are dependents and as they become older they become even more dependent. Most older men require more caregiving because he will have more health issues, wont take his tablets on time, wont even schedule his doctors appointments or checkups and so much more. Being a nurse maid for an older man is more work for the woman and finally it ends only with end of life care. Why would any older woman take a new man in his decline when he wasnt the one who was with her in her younger years? Men outmber women in homelessness stats, old people homes and even in young men still living with their mother. If a man was decent, he will be cared for by his wife. More older women are taken care of by their children and grandchildren. Older women arent crying for men at all. They are happier single. They move on to their children and give caregiving to their grandchildren. Men on average are more likley to d*ie "deaths of despair" than women. And there are so many childfree by choice women and that number of women is only increasing. Most advanced nations in Europe have a high number of child free by choice women. Education and healthcare is free there. Standard of living is higher and raising children should be easier but even then the birth rates have been low for decades. Even in the East (China, Japan, Korea) it is low. In these countries (and also US) birth rates are below population replacement levels. Modern men are literally so boring. All they are interested in is some addiction or the other. They dont do any self care, arent interested in education as much, dont have any readership, dont fight for any causes, dont do anything for animals or do nothing. All they do is whine about women or j*erk off to p*orn whilst whining about women, or play video games or whatever. Good thing AI is here. Let them vegetate more.

[@TarpeianRock]

Apparently Matt has never heard of women’s hypergamy…preferring to use the somewhat wishy-washy “playing at this level”. I’m sure he’s totally aware of hypergamy but for some reason stays away from this confrontational sociological fact.

[@billusher2265]

32:30 this just isn’t true, okcupid data finds on average men rate most women as attractive. They aren’t just chasing the top 1%.

[@jorgefigueroa2231]

Men are quite loose when it comes to who they will go on dates with. I wonder with Matt understands this. We aren't all chasing the top 1% of females.

[@sherriflemming3218]

Well said Matthew. The internet has created a skewed expectations, immediate gratification and a microwave society. The power of perceived choice. Chemistry attraction and romance do not create relationship success. Compatibility and character is crucial. Substance and depth There are two types of daters. Window shoppers and those who seek totality where looks are the least important thing.

[@thelucariamonarchs4889]

Thats all women, men still want an average looking girl while they want professional baseball players

[@julievanzile2482]

I guess I am ignorant to all of this. I follow my heart. I just want someone faithful, loyal, and honest. This has been hard to find. Status doesn't even matter one bit to me. I am probably the weirdo.

[@Roger-of5ij]

My friend, check out a book by Roman Lewis How to find a traditional wife, it works. You're welcome, brother.

[@elvinrichard5882]

The problem is the major focus is on dating advice, not marriage advice.

[@dr.jenniferma3914]

Excellent point.

[@npkrn6764]

Well...look at the title. It's about dating so... duh. There are a million other people talking about marriage if that's your interest.

[@JJ-vp3bd]

How come matthew never talks marriage advise if he us currently married

[@davidnguyen6541]

Marriage is completely a different topic… not a problem of this video. Go talk to a marriage counselor with your parent to work on issues and not lean on a KZbin video

[@wingsoffreedom3589]

Dating is a cesspit

[@brent4073]

As a guy, its sad that spending the littlest amount of money and having sex as soon as you can is what works the best, in my experience otherwise you get friendzoned..

[@wingsoffreedom3589]

@@brent4073 pretty much

[@terrorists-are-among-us]

If people closed their social media accounts they'd stop seeking an upgrade.

[@jorgefigueroa2231]

Basically yeah. Social Media is the cause of all of this mess and it ruined a generation of potential marriages.

[@terrorists-are-among-us]

@@jorgefigueroa2231 when social networking was first established it was fantastic. People made meaningful posts, real friends and some even got married. Couldn't wait to get back to my computer anytime I was away. Then Facebook and Twitter turned it into one click Narcissism plus KZbin and Podcasting gave people a platform to never have a private conversation ever again. Everything is about pandering to an audience or becoming a virus.

[@Danybella]

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