Bereavement Leave is TERRIBLE

[@chrishardesty4799]

Bereavement leave is a complete dysfunctional mess!!! Caregiving for 2 years for wife with cancer and she abruptly passed away from Covid in February of 2024. Everything is so broken with bereavement in the United States! I am really quite shocked this has never been addressed by the federal government. We definitely need more COMPASSION in our hearts and minds. You are spot on with your points! Presentism is a great word.

[@mightymouse2098]

GRIEVING is so difficult. Some days Im ok other days I cry, get angry. After two years I am still missing my other half. I feel as though he took half of me with him. I realize that I am finding myself again after 42 years.

[@mygreenenvy]

Same here. I feel like I’m no longer a fully formed person. I need one of those PTSD drug treatments that make you forget only the bad memories !

[@amandakinneard1225]

I have two bereavement stories to share. My MIL died six weeks after I started a new job, I remember going to work after my 3 unpaid days off and functioning in a fog. Having a manager coming to me asking me why I'd made certain mistakes. Well TBH because this work seems pointless when a family member has just died. My other story, a colleague's husband died unexpectedly. The owners of the company were visibly upset hearing of his passing, at that point they had worked with this employee for close to ten years and had celebrations with her and her family. They instructed me (as I'm responsible for payroll) that she was to continue to receive her full salary with no time limit for her return to work. She was told not to worry about money or her position, that she would be paid until she was ready to return to work. They also helped her find counseling that was accepted through our benefit program to help her. That's the way I would want to be treated when a loved one dies, not questioned about errors when I'm trying to find my way back to myself.

[@FeelingsandCo]

These two stories are the perfect complement to one another. One is dead wrong (pun unintended but I'm keeping it) and one is SO COMPASSIONATE.

[@patmanbnl]

I only got 5 days for my wife. I'm still grieving after 5 years. Then during the week my boss asked me if I'd like to come in, thinking my mundane legal job would distract me from the grief.

[@pudik2008]

I’m so sorry for your devastating loss. That’s insane. You can’t even come to terms with her loss let alone work. The more support one gets after losing a loved one the better the grieving process will be. I lost my son 4 years ago and I have no support at all, everyone avoids the subject, I’m dying on the inside and ppl wonder why, I’m supposed to be “normal “ like he never existed! My sister died at 61 and I remember my brother in law sharing with me how all his married friends stopped inviting him or visiting him, he was so alone. So sorry 💔💔💔

[@aprilc.3697]

My husband had a hemorrhagic stroke and he went into a coma on July 3rd, 2024. I went to see him almost every day for two months at the hospital, and he was transferred to a rehabilitation facility for 4 weeks and then he was in hospice care for a week to die with dignity. I started grieving the loss of having him in my life on July 3. I lost him on October 2.

[@jordans1357]

I love your videos. I stumbled upon you after a devestating loss and you are providing me with hope and helping me to feel more balanced in my grief and despair. Thank you so much.

[@mygreenenvy]

I’ve heard you mention this briefly in a few other talks but thank you for talking about this in more detail. This is so unfair on so many levels. When Harris gets elected she needs to make you her labor secretary

[@robinw360]

Biden/Harris already had 4 years to get it done. lol

[@Todayidecidedtolive]

In Australia we get 1 bereavement day. I have lost my parents, son and 10month old granddaughter. 1 day definitely doesn't cover this horrid feeling.

[@FeelingsandCo]

This is SHATTERING my perception of Australia!!

[@notyouraverageharleyquinnstan]

My losses were 4 months apart (my bf of 12 years and my father) and of course, there were issues with the second bereavement leave😒my mom had to take the temporary disability the second time since she had just taken the bereavement leave.

[@FeelingsandCo]

"yeah, sorry, but unfortunately your dead loved ones should have spaced out their deaths a little more."

[@notyouraverageharleyquinnstan]

@@FeelingsandCo right?! You're so funny 😂

[@FeelingsandCo]

@@notyouraverageharleyquinnstan LAUGH OR CRY ARE MY ONLY MODES! Sometimes at the same time!

[@notyouraverageharleyquinnstan]

@@FeelingsandCo I hear ya!

[@firecracker3911]

Thanks ❤

[@359P7bEu3ykQt]

"when I still had a Dad...". I feel that all too well.

[@mandypittman1154]

This was awesome! I can't find the link to the study you referenced. Did I miss that?

[@FeelingsandCo]

no, I MISSED THAT! Updating the description right now!

[@lauralane1760]

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