Best Advice for Soon-to-be Fathers | Jordan Peterson

[@edenelle3651]

Oh wow I love this! I have spent years saying to men, the best way to make sure that your child is OK is to look after their mother. JP confirms, eloquently, exactly this. As a result, a woman has the opportunity to deeply witness his maturity, his kindness and the love he feels for her.

[@andrewlilley3660]

Okay, but who looks after the father?

[@Charybdismoon]

​​​@@andrewlilley3660 I hope you understand the wife is mothering their child, she can't also mother them. The husband chooses to give his energy to his wife so she can give the most back to him and his offspring, in the form of caring for them. It isn't always about you/the husband, is it? The woman grew an entire human being and is it's entire life source, I can say from experience that it is incredibly tiring. Sometimes, you have to put your immediate wants aside to be there for the person you love in order for them to get back to feeling healthy enough to be their best self.

[@IlnurZhazha]

very very deep, LONG prepared words are coming from a man, that has 40+ years of experience as a father and clinical psychologist

[@andrewlilley3660]

They don't have very much basis in reality regarding the modern transient relationships that we witness today, and that's the problem

[@IlnurZhazha]

@@andrewlilley3660 yeah, but some people are so dedicated that they don't lie to themselves and find a really good partner

[@andrewlilley3660]

@@IlnurZhazha Yes, but that situation is subject to infinite variables, and most relationships would start from that basis. However, such is modern life that it only takes a slight nudge to throw people off their path, and the divorce rate alone is a testament to this, thanks.

[@IlnurZhazha]

@@andrewlilley3660 so what the solution?

[@andrewlilley3660]

@@IlnurZhazha I don't know, and I'm too old for it to be of any concern to me, thanks.

[@TheBaphomet-6]

I first son was born 3 hrs ago they have sent me home to let mum and baby rest i have to go back later to pick them up once all there checks are done im sat in the car park still i wanna be with my little dude hes so fucking cool

[@khaliphileluckyfortunedube2824]

just love listening to Peterson💯

[@martinalesicka8232]

Thank you so much for this video 🫶🏻 it helped me get ma thinking right ❤

[@jordanpetersonlessons]

God bless you!

[@Propane_Acccessories]

Western culture has destroyed the multigenerational home. It used to be normal for grandparents , aunts, uncles and siblings to be physically present. Now we live in a time where both parents need to work to make ends meet and they have to let the daycare do the parenting, because families don't live together anymore and the economy is terrible.

[@Zayden.Marxist]

capitalism is incompatible with extended family and community connections. There's even a loneliness epidemic going on now.

[@Propane_Acccessories]

@@Zayden.Marxist Well in the US we have a combo of capitalism and socialism that is killing us. Mainly it is the corporations receive the benefit of our taxes. They are also who congress is representing. Corporate socialism supported by our labor.

[@mariablume1967]

Do you really mean, that the last months of a pregnancy is "a hell of a thing" in a negative way or is it just playing with words? My pregnancy was absolutely wonderfull, especially from the seventh month, because then we could see the small feets pushing so soft and slowly against my stomach💕 Not all women leave their husband behind for 6 months after birth, but many unfortunately do and THAT is a big problem, because then, the fathers often get jaloux on the infant for exactly that reason!

[@thesingingaccountant1]

Yeah i like the idea of looking after the wife but its also quite old fashioned - like I dud that but also i was involved with baby from day 1, doing feeds, changing nappies, tgat stuff is fun and it gets you a real bond with your kid, not like the dads of ny generation who never showed emotion and came in to give you a clip round the ear lol. I made a musical guide to being a dad on my channel if anyone is interested

[@alanalycan3986]

REALLY WATCH HER, take care of her - something delinquent Father's couldn't fathom. We have Mother's snapping & harming their infants & SOME fathers who didn't care enough to CHECK on their babies & the Mother, even if your not together anymore !! I'm a single Mother of a little girl, her 'father' hasn't checked on her in 4yrs. She could be going through anything, he doesn't care. Hope he doesn't expect her to run into his arms once she's grown 🤷‍♀️

[@-Swamp_Donkey-]

Lemme guess.. he’s black

[@JayVilla194]

I did this but she told me to get out from behind the bushes and go back to my house.

[@yezothebear]

💙

[@sylvesterminhhoangdesouza6449]

Im 21 and I got a baby coming Im terrified

[@basedon1580]

I’m 23 and I’m in the same boat brother. But the fact you are terrified says a lot about you. You can do it.

[@CillaCreez]

Here’s the truth fellas…you both are somewhat young to become dads. I only say that because you should have lived up your 20’s. But it is what it is now. You are going to become fathers and do everything in your power to give the baby and its mother a great life. Find your hustle quickly and get your money. Angels and blessings start to show up in your lives when you bring a child in this world.

[@donjuanjones7090]

I’m 22 ina same boat. I’m not sure of yo situation, but you got dis mane. Be da father you neva had or become the father you cherish, it’s not gone be too hard.

[@zacharywilliams3631]

As a new stepfather to a two year old I needed to hear that

[@FunnyPodcastClips-mz7br]

I’m 19 Male. I just found out my ex girlfriend got pregnant. She was my first proper girlfriend and we never expected to have children anytime soon. It’s been a month since we spoke and we left things on bad terms. It’s a sticky situation. She broke the news to me and I didn’t know how to react or what to say. Abortion isn’t an option because of her parents religious beliefs. We both agreed we’re not ready to raise a child but it’s forced upon us in a way. We both just finished school and work very basic jobs. Right now it doesn’t feel real at all, Im very stressed and don’t know how to feel and this video gives me hope and motivation to grind for this baby and look on the bright side !!!JORDAN PETERSON THANKS ALOT ❤🐐🐐 Edit: The comments on this video are amazing and give me alot of hope 🙏🏻🙏🏻 cheers guys

[@katytiscareno8922]

Go to your ex-girlfriend and make it work...for your sake, her sake, and especially your baby's sake. Your baby deserves both his/her parents together in a loving relationship. Leave the past in the past. Eighteen years is a LONG time for a child to deal with being shuffled back and forth from mom's house to dad's house and back again. You are young, but people got married and had babies young years ago quite a bit. It's very doable...if you want to be a grownup. It's time to man up and take responsibility and make the best of the circumstances. You have the ability to screw up three people's lives or create a new family and be a man who loves his family. Unless you walk away, your "ex-girlfriend" will ALWAYS be in your life now. Be a man. Do what's right. There are too many young men who are immature and won't take responsibility and be honorable and have integrity. They refuse to grow up and people around them pay the price. Best of luck! You can do right by your child IF YOU CHOOSE TO. The baby has to come before you. Your childhood is over; it's manhood you should be entering now.

[@jccuchvjvj]

That's why I won't ever have a family. I won't be ready

[@alals6794]

I was not ready either man....but it was now or never and never was not in the cards for me. haha

[@basedon1580]

You’ll never be ready. Whoever told you that you would be ready was lying….

[@DaddyLONGleg895]

No one is ready but having a child is a beautiful thing beating a father is scary but so amazing you get to create and watch grow

[@andrewlilley3660]

Jordan is describing a situation of fatherhood which is becoming obsolete. The state has become the father to the offspring of many women, and girls, and that's not a good thing! A woman has a biological mechanism by which she can access resources from the state by simply bringing forth a child, which is so easy for most women. The state will effectively become the father of that child and a roof and all the needs of mother and child will be met. Often the children have a variety of different fathers coming and going, I see examples of this daily, and the situation Jordan is describing is becoming increasingly rare.

[@alals6794]

That is a minority of cases....do no exaggerate.

[@andrewlilley3660]

@@alals6794 No, it's not a minority of cases, at all, are you dreaming or living in some alternative universe?

[@stevengoldstein114]

This is the fourth ad Jordan pushed on me on May 16 Jordan needs to address as part of a disciplinary probation order, a period of suspension may be imposed prior to the effective date of the probation. The Board's Disciplinary Guidelines provide details of the conditions under which a suspension may be made a part of the probation order. During suspension, licensees may not practice psychology or refer to themselves as psychologists. As indicated above in "Probation," suspensions are considered disciplinary actions associated with probation orders and, as such, are public information and provided to consumers upon request. Jordan is a Frasier Crane wannabe. He is an entertainer not a psychologist. Because he sells books and videos and lectures, THAT IS NOT THERAPY. He needs to address his bad conduct in courts in the case of Case 1 Sordi v. Sordi, 2009 CanLII 80104 (ON SC) he defamed a parent in court. In the case 2 R. v. Pearce, 2012 MBQB 22 (CanLII) he tried to free a murderer. Then in the case Peterson v. College of Psychologists of Ontario, 2023 ONSC 4685, he tried to avoid taking responsibility. He also tried to interfere in a family court case in Montana, the Kolstadt case, where there was a GAG order, he unprofessionally diagnosed a minor without interviews or assessments, and tried to defend unfit parents.

[@andrewlilley3660]

He missed out on the bit where the extended family steps in to save the day, parents often delegate the upbringing of their children to family members, and they have no realisation of the enormity of responsibility they impose on that person. Having children is the most selfish thing anyone can do.

[@IlnurZhazha]

It happens when parents are busy at work all the time. What you are describing is not so often. Parents can delegate their responsibilities to other family members, yeah, but it's not like a daily basis. I assume that you are not above 30 years old, so you will understand this: Due to the low demographic situation, pensions may be canceled in 30 years, as fewer and fewer people will be able to work. We need more people now

[@andrewlilley3660]

@@IlnurZhazha No, extended family look after children on a very regular basis, I took my sister's kids back and forth to school for many years. I also fed them until their mum arrived home, and she came home to a cooked meal, as well. I wasn't paid for this task, in fact, it actually cost me to do it, and not just financially. I am still making up the shortfall in my family's relationships, and I am twice the age you beleive I am, and then some, thanks.

[@andrewlilley3660]

@@IlnurZhazha If you mean the low demographic of working-age people, as opposed to the high elderly demographics, that is just a myth generated by the government. It allows them to delay the payment of the state pension and allows the continuous flow of illegal immigration that steadily destroys society.

[@andrewlilley3660]

@@IlnurZhazha We don't need more people, we need less.

[@IlnurZhazha]

@@andrewlilley3660 look demographic statistic and you will understand why we need more people. I am really sorry that you had the problem, which you described, in your family. But not everyone has your case

[@mattmacknight3000]

JP should never have been a parent.

[@basedon1580]

Why is that?