Dr. Anita Phillips: Cutting Out Unhealthy Relationships | Better Together TV

[@lateishaclement]

“You don’t have to have bad intentions toward me to be bad for me.” (Dr. Anita Phillips). How powerful!

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

I know , isn’t that a powerful quote ?! I just quoted her on my Facebook page the minute I heard it .

[@empresserica]

Very much so !

[@michellemann6362]

Right.... what a powerful quote 🙏

[@brendaburrow3745]

This reminds me of the outcome of alcohol and drugs ruining lives without them even seeing it!

[@GodisGracious11]

🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙏🏻

[@safi.4537]

We need a Dr Anita for every CHURCH, to speak to us at least twice a yr, because the church spiritualize too many things especially in any Relationships and Finance.

[@keepitsimpleydb6151]

God taught me. Never say a fast - Yes. Take a moment to think about/pray about it. A fast yes - would turn into a regret (for me).

[@ambassadorforChrist7777]

"Anyone who treasures you for you, will still be around and they will adjust" @ Dr Anita Phillips 🗣📣I love❤ it!!

[@lovefelix1566]

Amen

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

You can’t get mad at people for overstepping boundaries if you never put any up in the first place . As the saying goes , we teach people how to treat us by what we tolerate .

[@Webbgurl2000]

Yes, you can. Some things are just unacceptable to do with out having to be told. It’s never too late to grow some boundaries.

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

@@Webbgurl2000 yes there are the obvious but sometimes things are more subtle .

[@ladennayoung2939]

People need to learn how to create boundaries and enforce them in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ of NAZARETH. The name above ALL names. AMEN. 💜💜💜

[@nobuhlenkosi1518]

"You dont have to have bad intentions toward me to be bad for me" - Dr Anita Philips !! This is key!

[@brendaburrow3745]

Amen

[@maryglorysalala6216]

A Godly women is far more precious than silver and gold God equips them with wisdom

[@AsiahAaliyah]

Abuse is never ok! Yes thank you for mentioning that Dr. Anita! This includes family as well! You shouldn’t be afraid to say no to family members. The only reason why that fear is there is because of control and manipulation which IS mental and emotional ABUSE. Please my fellow Christians let us not take these matters lightly. All that compulsive giving is contrary to the word of God. God does not want us to give out of compulsion but cheerfully as the word says! Do NOT let anyone manipulate the word of God or his principles against you! People tend to pick out verses to shame others without reading it in its context. The enemy think he slick but KNOW your word for yourself. And bind all condemnation that comes from the evil one!

[@kaishag.4547]

Yes! Thank you for this :)

[@MzCrayKray]

It was hard for me to say no to certain family members. I remember I wanted to say no to a sibling and just the thought of them getting angry or even breaking away from me made me sick with anxiety. It made me sweat. I tried it on day. And they hassled me and the questioned me. And they were mad at me. But I felt so free. I had so a great day. Such a peaceful day. I was able to do what I wanted to do with my own time and not have to worry about coming to the aid of anyone and canceling my own plans. It was so freeing and peace. The sun was really shining that day.

[@ladennayoung2939]

This includes family members as she stated. Some people only apply this to romantic relationships and friendships. We have to fast and pray in order to overcome this. This is a codependent mindset, and it need to be broken in Jesus name. Amen.

[@truepureblue]

Amen! 🙏🏽

[@Webbgurl2000]

Some time you may have to put some distance between you and others--even family.

[@Webbgurl2000]

Actually, there is no such thing as codependency on the DSM 5. It’s actually junk science.

[@idonnabella]

"God does not require you to stay in a relationship where you are being abused. If you can't say no or you have to say yes, this is restricting your free will." Thank you, Dr. Anita Phillips!

[@nataliegrimes6943]

YES, this is a WORD for me!!! I especially love how she communicated no in a kind, longer sentence since I tend to be a "yes" person. ❤❤

[@BetterTogetherTV]

Yes! We are so happy to hear how this conversation provided helpful takeaways for you! 💜

[@brendaburrow3745]

Or not

[@brendaburrow3745]

Unsubscribing

[@MrsValSyharath]

Once again the better together family have given me a sense of hope, wisdom, and strength in knowing that we were not created to "Do Life Alone". As a DIY enthusiast regarding life and authentic community, I am grateful for Dr. Phillips as she encourages us to be okay with the way we tend to naturally show up. I see myself in many of the exceptions and there being various shades of Gray and degrees in which we operate depending on where we are coming from and moving to on this journey to inner healing. Self-acceptance and grace go a long way in the matters of the heart. Thank you for sprinkling your wisdom with a beautiful measure of both. Keep it coming BTTV family. May God bless you richly and give you peace. May He show up in ways that make you stand in awe at "The God who sees you" that you glimpse just how much He adores and treasures you, How He delights in you and rejoices over you with singing. You are the apple of His eye who has captured His heart for all eternity. May this soak into your soul today and always. He is joyful as He looks upon you. Just the way you are daughter of The King. In Jesus name, Amen

[@N-LeeSonSay]

Dr Anita is sooo good at what she does. This woman of God speaks truth and life into those of us who appreciate a healthy mind in Christ. Love her and this better together ministry.

[@beautifulbypass4098]

This was so timely!! I am reading the Book Boundaries and it is so eye opening and convicting. We live in a society where a lot of people are going through depression, anxiety, and turmoil because they do not know how or when to say NO. I am still learning myself how to say no.

[@mphomahlangu6138]

Thank you Dr Anita. I am a yes person, and lately I find myself depleted and depressed with nothing left in me to give. I needed this message❤

[@ibokoli8312]

Wow! Dr. Anita Philips speaks wisely. Amazing. Thank you and God bless you.

[@EasyPools-p4d]

Dr Anita.. God‘s timing is always perfect and I feel he led me to your ministry messages surrounding mental health and addictions, and toxic relationships, i’m currently doing a step study at my church for codependency 12 step recovery which I know is a long process, it would be nice to hear a message about men who were in relationship with vulnerable narcissistic women, narcissisticabuse. God bless you in Christ.

[@drewmiller8825]

I'm so grateful for Better Together TV, especially these episodes with Dr. Anita Phillips; God bless you all for being so intentional with teaching us to become better people, glory to God! 👑🙉 Thank you Jesus for Better Together TV, God bless you women for the immense impact to our lives and God bless you for reading this! 🤍

[@ladennayoung2939]

I am so glad that she brought up abuse. It is imperative that we listen to that. The enemy have been convincing people that they must stay in an abusive marriage because God hates divorce. God knows all things, and He don't want or intend for His children to be abused.

[@AW-jx4td]

@@onmycameraroll is there a scripture verse to back up divorcing for abuse and being married to a lazy, unaffectionate, degrading man?

[@ladennayoung2939]

​@user-st4xw4pb2q I mean you can't try to use scripture to justify your actions. Perhaps you need to go to God in prayer and ask Him to teach you how to be patient with your husband. And to help you really turn your marriage loose over to Him. And to help you to understand what being a wife and a help meet really is and what that really means from God's point of view and perspective. It's not our place to condemn our spouse and to constantly point out what we consider to be their failures, mistakes, and shortcomings. We MUST learn to extend compassion,mercy, grace, ,and forgiveness towards ourself, spouse, and learn how to not hold resentment towards God for the poor choices that WE choose to make. I pray your strength in the LORD. And I pray that YOU choose to lean to the understanding and will

[@ladennayoung2939]

Of the one and only ALMIGHTY GOD IN THE MIGHTY AND MATCHLESS NAME OF JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH. THE NAME ABOVE ALL NAMES. AMEN.

[@sinmiloluwaomole6077]

Elevate the value you place on your yes.

[@emelynemuhorakeye5021]

This show is like fresh water to my soul 🤗😘💕

[@bijbelvandaag7302]

This changed my life ! Thank you Thank you Jesus for this show ❤️❤️❤️❤️🤍❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@BetterTogetherTV]

Praise the Lord! We are so happy to hear of the work that He is doing in your life. God bless you 💜

[@lovefelix1566]

It was life changing for me too

[@sultrybiteschowdercc2292]

Place a HIGHER VALUE on yr YES because wn u say Yes t 1 thing u r saying no to smthing u probably wanted to do as well. #Lv the WISDOM & information in this entire clip!!

[@BetterTogetherTV]

We are so happy to hear that you enjoyed this clip! Thanks for watching! 💜

[@tiffmat9475]

She is Aaaamazing. She can be my therapist/counsellor any day!

[@WomensDay2023]

This was so encouraging. I noticed that the dynamic at work needed to change. I'm one that says "Yes" all the time. I was asked by a colleague if I would stay late on two days that she would be out of the office and I nervously said "No". I understand I don't have to explain but a part of me felt guilty. As you mentioned, I hope to grow to a place where I can offer a response in a loving and caring way that doesn't come off as aggressive or uncaring. I've realized I'm not there yet and still require growth in that area. This is a reminder that I'm on the right path. Thank you.

[@Jasmyne444]

Awesome! Learning boundaries can be hard but great job!! 🥳🥳🥳

[@tilisakay]

Now SHE spoke to my Spirit!! Love this message and channel! Purge & Prune season....❣🥰☝🏽🙌🏽🎁Thank you for sharing.. #Relationships

[@BetterTogetherTV]

We are so happy to hear how you are enjoying our conversations. Thank you for joining us! 💜

[@Godslight1970s]

Stately perfectly....everytime you say yes, there's a no. That's exactly what it boils down to. Thank you!

[@ctm2594]

Priscilla in this video looks sooo proud of Dr Anita.

[@alwayskisha5558]

Thank you Dr. Anita Philipps so needed this ♡︎♥︎! To God be the glory.

[@BetterTogetherTV]

Amen! We are so happy to hear that this blessed you! 💜

[@iyanttahowellmd]

‘...You don’t have to have bad intentions towards me to be bad for me.’ That statement right there is probably worth 10 sessions of therapy. Thank you Dr. Phillips!!🌟🌟

[@lovefelix1566]

So true.

[@RebekkaSarah]

Thank you so much Dr. Anita Phillips! I really needed to hear this!

[@AsiahAaliyah]

Dr. Anita Phillips broke this all the way downnnn. I really appreciated listening to this conversation. So often we overlook the actions of people paying attention to their words. Many times we don’t want to be labeled as not so nice if we stand up for ourselves. So many people are losing because we value false unity over our own self respect. Relationships can not stand on disrespect! Eventually they will be destined to break and fall. It’s all only a matter of time. I appreciate Dr. Anita really making this clear especially for abusers who unfortunately are also found in the church and Christian space. God wants to deliver abusers too but we must be careful to recognize that abuse is NOT an assignment from God. God never called us to be abused or terrorized. We must use discernment and be aware of the spiritual entities that manifest through these broken spirits. God bless you all and may the Lord continue to guide us into his all knowing truth! 🙏🏽

[@BetterTogetherTV]

Yes! We are so happy to hear how this conversation blessed and encouraged you 💜

[@Becca766]

Wow thanks for this 🙌 at the moment i am At that stage where am using my yes wisely and trust me when she said the ones that respect and value you will stay and the self entitled , opportunist people will distance from you . This I am seeing and very happy in life at the moment 🙏🙌 relief !!😀

[@nyochedewar318]

I love you ladies i love this show it's so encouraging in time of uncertainty and discouragement..am grateful for you all, this show on the whole ..the idea for this platform is divinely bless with a vision beyond daily difficult visions with all the chaos surrounding us all..stay bless and i thank you sooo much 💕😘😘

[@liveinspirewithlivemulumba]

Even God gave us « free will » (« have to or can’t » are not free will)! God does not require us to be or stay in a relationship where we are abused. @Dr.Anita Phillips 🙏🏽❤️

[@keishamcneil1865]

This is so look freeing. Lord I thank you for this wisdom. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 I most definitely must do a better job in this area. HELP ME/ US HOLY SPIRIT to operate in God's Wisdom in this area in JESUS name.

[@bellaendale2765]

Is Wow a complete sentence..cuz.Dr Phillips dropped so many pearls of wisdom.. that I'm still processing..

[@iamwonderfullymade]

Love Dr. Anita! I’m a recovering people pleaser, and this really resonated with me.

[@KosilaT]

I was in a relationship for the past 28 years only to realize that was not the will of God. Thank you Dr Anitha and ladies. You all are so encouraging 🙏

[@gracefullyguidedinfaith417]

So did you get a divorce or are you trusting God to work it out?

[@gracefullyguidedinfaith417]

Sorry it said relationship i automatically assumed marriage. My apologies

[@e.wilson9613]

Wow.:)

[@nadiakoekemoer1056]

Thank you for this message it gave me mew perspective

[@dorinnasimiyu8113]

Thank you so much for this empowering message am literally a yes person and right now am so depressed regretting all the times I said yes because the world is against me and it's painful.😭

[@stacy-annsmith7863]

you are so wise doc

[@juliepowell3566]

Wow.....so powerful..... Dr Anita Phillips....Thank you for sharing.

[@joanfolds476]

This is a powerful teaching!

[@Simlicity09]

Thank you so much Dr Anita! This has really blessed me...I will watch this a few more times I’m sure.

[@kaunanakathingo6644]

Wow,i love the way she explained it.God bless.

[@eka-eteololade710]

An Angel directed me to this channel. Thank you Ladies❤❤❤

[@cheryl5667]

Wow 🙏🏻 Wild praise for this wisdom and love.

[@japatee]

THIS was for me. Thank you

[@Olivia-bh7vs]

6 minutes of straight facts!

[@robinwarner794]

This spoke so much life to me...praise God

[@lateishaclement]

This was SO good!

[@jadebombay]

I so needed this! What episode is this?

[@emelynemuhorakeye5021]

Dr. Anita 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👌🏾👌🏾

[@Ggsodapop]

I experienced that feeling of "i have to" from this group of people who were part of a church. By the time i realized these people were harmful to me I already experienced really terrible trauma. i am still trying to get free from that trauma and its been years now. I love God but I do not trust people like that in the church anymore.

[@nonythecreative]

I experienced this too. But not a feeling...it was told that I have to say yes. Manipulation in some churches is real

[@ambermccutchen8451]

I am glad so you guys talked about this topic I am learning to realize to adjust myself to not to feel guilty about saying no and maybe saying yes but in the bible it's say let your nay be nay and let to yea be yea sincerely yours Mrs Amber McCutchen

[@livinglifeinternational2671]

Thank you!

[@MarthaRivera3]

This is so freeing! Awesome. Thank you!❤❤❤

[@BetterTogetherTV]

We are so happy to hear how this helped you! Thanks for watching! 💜

[@goldlily871]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Very encouraging word! Thank you💛

[@nggriffin4670]

I am one of those yes people. I will do better with analyzing whether i should be saying no. Also great point, there’s a yes and a no to every response.

[@CoachingwithParis]

I needed this. Me and my mom's relationship is toxic. It has affected me physically and emotionally. Thank God, He is removing me in a month from her home.

[@ade-oluwaspov206]

Remember to distance yourself mentally and emotionally as well, because it's beyond physical. Otherwise, you will be physically separated but how you react to her may still be the same like you never left. When you heal and you set up healthy boundaries, you can cautiously reconnect emotionally with your mom from a place of strength. I hope this helps. Shalom 🤗

[@CoachingwithParis]

@@ade-oluwaspov206 thank you!

[@kathyhendry788]

Love it thank you Laurie and Dr s

[@lorrainevaldez6593]

Amen! That’s right!

[@MARIASKITCHENPresents]

I like that your Yes is saying No to something else ..distributive

[@jaineebito2661]

Well said Dr., adding value to your NO or YES actually creates credibility and frees up valuable time for priority things in life....dont explain...its like starting a dialogue with the devil. Just stick to wat U say...those stay Will stay...those who won't....it is well let them go.

[@melissamelodies3729]

Amazing! Thank you

[@lovefelix1566]

This is so good! Wow!

[@lovefelix1566]

It's not intention, it's the outcome...

[@lovefelix1566]

The words I can't and I have to IS NEVER TRUE

[@lovefelix1566]

You don't have to have bad intentions to be bad for me... There is that distinction between healthy and unhealthy relationships...

[@lovefelix1566]

Watering the ground within you...

[@lovefelix1566]

Distributing your yes deliberately or intentionally instead of recklessly....

[@bcdmovement6856]

Yes free will 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@joygriffith3553]

Is there a link to the full episode?

[@bcdmovement6856]

Yes parental relationships

[@arlene9276]

Where can I see the full video?

[@morake452]

A beautiful word 🙌🏾

[@iamnateria]

Needed this one.

[@daughteroflight8624]

So good 💜🌼

[@Atlanta718]

Free will - Remove I can't and I have to Set Restrictions #Relationships or #Friendship Intentions doesn't equal Results/Consequences Say yes intentionally Elevate its value, set limits Say yes and no Be deliberate Dont be reckless Cut relationships Focus on you Build you The people around you will adjust or leave No is a whole sentence No explanation Be you

[@Liliana203]

SOOO GOOD!! YES!

[@two_faced31]

I honestly NEEDED this

[@reesej7279]

Excellent! 🙌❤

[@susiewelchman8658]

Great advice!

[@taylored8819]

This was an on time word!!!!!!!!

[@ladennayoung2939]

Amen. Thank you Lord Jesus!

[@diniethomas1611]

That's good Dr.!

[@shameekmanning1127]

Amen confirmation for me, powerful wow

[@Ariyanna3000larry]

I loved this!

[@ellisonhoward5220]

This was awesome.🙌🏾

[@diniethomas1611]

Whoo, you helping folk!!

[@alicelakwech3694]

I really needeed this

[@ladennayoung2939]

Priscilla. I like her.

[@corefitnessnc]

Powerful

[@sultrybiteschowdercc2292]

GOD does Not require to stay in an Unsafe & ABUSIVE situation⭐."U AREN'T REQUIRED TO STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP t see the "better" of THAt relationship. U WANT the Relationship but not the abuse.

[@simplykiva6567]

Say no baby. Amen.

[@jasminemercedes1609]

Amen !

[@Cheri94]

My husband of 28 years wants to go to Florida for 3 months now, during the pandemic, and basically told me to stay home if I wanted, when I told him we are going to have to be really strict, stay away from all of our friends down there at least until end of January, we have never been apart for Christmas or New Years, I’m so nervous and now hurt😔😔I don’t know what to do? Any words of advice would be helpful, been praying hard, no peace yet

[@arenee6418]

💛

[@anitacross1558]

I use to be a yes person now I have no problems saying no

[@lenicelacourdia]

What will me saying yes cost me? Value my yes and distribute it a little less wisely.

[@nicolestephanie6418]

1 Juan 1:9 confessa los pecados. Right why manipulate them when free is being freely from the reprimanding demands that make us pressed in our conversations when pointing out “ confronting situations” when valuing yourself. 1 John 1:9 confess the sins.

[@sales75]

If your ashamed of me I'll be of ashamed of you before the father

[@krissmith9952]

3✅31✅23🐘🐘🐘ProVerbs 31~