Boy math is making you wait 7 YEARS, just to marry another girl in 6 months

[@Morozova48]

Boy math is being disgusted by women aging but having a receding hairline at age 24

[@TheKrystee]

🤭🤭

[@t.78d]

😂☠

[@mywordsmythoughtsmytruth5503]

This!

[@dday3322]

⚰️⚰️⚰️⚰️😂

[@roxyglow9670]

lol😂

[@karllyfeng]

Men marrying a doctor, lawyer, or otherwise high powered woman and turning them into a stay at home wife is the modern version of hunting.

[@Disnotz]

No it's not. Youre acting like women have no agency. This feels like a cope to avoid responsibility. Most of the women who become house wife do because of mutual agreement oftentimes because childcare is expensive and many women prefer to be with kids. Not to mention many of these women quit their jobs because they marry a guy who makes more than them and know that can sustain their family and lifestyle. No woman who is a lawyer and doctor is quitting her job to be a housewife for her husband who is doing a part time job. That doesn't exist.

[@bfbmain]

Yesss!

[@thezu9250]

@@DisnotzUh sorry to break it to you but women in precisely that situation write in to advice columns all the time. These men wait until they are in a vulnerable place to pressure them. So dont act like no one does this. There is literally an episode on “I will teach you to be rich” where some dude wants his wife who makes waaay more than him to be a housewife. She’s literally post birth and hes upset she isnt cooking for him. Many women would rather pay for childcare than be stay at home mothers even if their salaries pay just enough! Its not some fantasy.

[@Disnotz]

@@thezu9250 no woman who is a lawyer or doctor is that vulnerable to the point that they get pressured into it. That's just avoiding responsibility. One episode on some show doesn't mean anything. Most women who make more than their husband's aren't quitting their job to be housewives. There's no Stat which shows that. Just some anecdotes which drives the whole narrative. Not to mention women who make more than their husbands are minority so it doesnt even make sense to call it a widespread thing. Most people date within their range and women who are high powered lawyer and doctors date men who also have a high position. Even your last statement is false. One of the reasons for women not joining the workforce is not being able to spend time with children and not being able to afford childcare. That literally shows in data. So yes you statement is literally fantasy which is only echoed by women on social media who probably aren't even married themselves or have children and are very privileged.

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

​@@Disnotzmore like cope6419. The fact you can't see another point of view or even consider that maybe you are not universally right for all cases, shows you just want to justify it.

[@kathiaserrano7740]

Girl math was supposed to be light hearted and a chance for the ladies to bond and poke fun at each other. Some disgruntled men took it personal and decided to hit below the belt. The ladies went for the jugular 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@mahogara]

Yeah. When they go low, we go high because there is nothing below those men's belts to grab to get a strong enough grip.

[@Vivi_9]

If you want to talk about taking it too far just look at "brennaberg" in this video, she is completely insufferable

[@shakathewanderer9198]

😂😂😂 yaaaasss bihh!!!

[@_DeadlyNightshade_]

The ladies are not wrong though.. the stuff mentioned are real issues that men do that make no sense aka boy math.

[@unicorn73212]

​@@mahogaraactually or you could just keep moving away from them when they take swings at you. It's funny because I fought a dude one time when they say they don't hit women they weren't joking some of them can't throw a punch to save their life.

[@360shadowmoon]

Also things that are boy math: -Never helping with chores/household duties but mansplaining them to women -Complaining about "gold-diggers" but then feeling threatened by a woman who has more career success than them Sub-bullet: Also confusing past women who had no choice but to marry for money, because they weren't legally allowed to have jobs or bank accounts of their own, as gold-diggers -Wanting to date a 20/10 when they never shower and inhale pizza every day for dinner while bingeing Netflix -Nitpicking every little purchase a girl makes while buying every video game, computer game, and tech gadget on the planet -Making racist/sexist and offensive jokes while maintaining "they're not racist"

[@frenchgirl5878]

Women are just as capable of being racist as men. I don’t understand the last one.

[@michaelsmith7201]

Wow that was embarassing that u went to the literal extremes to try to highlight your point, its why alot of trolly women on the internet cannot be taken seriously. You talking about a 1/10 guy wanting a super model, when theirs women who are 3/10 expecting 6 figure men to take them seriously, but this sisterhood mentality of "never settling" is exactly why 50% of women will by single by 2030. You dont want a man, and you take the prompt protection you are afforded by many systems setup to cater to you as just things to take advantage of, so men are now treating you like how women are acting. Lets get back to women dressing modestly in the west, lets get back to a baseline weight for most women, lets get back to a woman caring about love and relationships not who can give me money and sex. Lets go back to divorce being 15% and shunned, or even better 70% of women initiating divorce for financial reasons lets change the laws so women can do better as a whole. When women can start having those honest conversations without using victimhood then we can have the convo about men.

[@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066]

Saying "Modern women are just horrible! I want a traditional woman that'll do all of the domestic labor and child rearing....... And also work's full time, pays bills and of course I demand that she puts out, loooong before I ever think about putting a ring on it!"

[@constancep7632]

Boy math is spending excessive amounts of money on his hobbies and then blaming his wife for the household debt because "she spends too much on groceries".

[@lilymulligan8180]

Boy math: having a problem with me making significantly less money than him, but then also having a problem when I started busting my butt to make more. "I'm worried that you're saving up to leave me!" And your worries are spot on, my dude.

[@Greatlakes-z9s]

The girl who had her make up destroyed… that was physical, emotional, psychological and financial abuse. He was attempting to THREATEN and DOMINATE her. I truly hope she is ok! I hope she got away from that POS.

[@Kinag86]

Boy math is buying a car with a $700 per month car payment for 72 months, but complains when his wife buys a $500 Coach bag that will last FOREVER.

[@Coastpsych_fi99]

THISSS. It’s insane that women’s hobbies and interests are seen as frivolous wastes of money but a car is “useful” or multiple vehicles lol

[@Seen_not_heard]

Coach bags literally lasts forever (except the canvas ones, without the coating, they fray).

[@autumnmusic22]

​@cicin9313 it's mostly how it's a one time purchase of $500 rather than the monthly $700 on a new car. People can value different things but car collecting is a very expensive hobby. Not a necessity, but many think they'll get a huge return on their cars at some point. To each their own, no one should criticize or look down on any form of enjoyment anyone has. Useless or not

[@autumnmusic22]

@@test-jb6wc you okay?

[@TenaciousD_3]

I got my first leather Coach purse at 13. Im 43 now

[@jtdoe2024]

Boy Math: "Intentionally dating a woman from a significantly different culture, benefiting from the unique aspects of her culture, but then expecting her to conform strictly to your own cultural norms after marriage, as if this was something she should have foreseen. This expectation contradicts the freedom she had to embrace her own cultural identity before marriage. P.S. Thank you for the video. It was my first time viewing your channel and I thoroughly enjoyed the content.

[@user-lt7ff1tg9f]

Damn this was my parents. 😂 My dad benefitted a lot from marrying my mum and becoming a part of her family. My mum... not so much.

[@divinegirl5670]

Thanks for this

[@genevieveaniko6492]

This actually happened to me. All the reasons that he chose to date me... Became all the things he wanted to to erase about me in marriage... So I decided to do girl math and delete the marriage instead 😂😂.

[@13janvi]

This happened to me but it was religious

[@i_am_funny]

​@@13janvilet me guess , you dated a Muslim?

[@thinkpink6796]

Honestly I’m just really happy that these conversations are being held by women all over. Women are consciously waking up. As a collective I see a huge shift in women when it comes to romantic relationships with men. So many of us have been hurt, burned, and traumatized from most men we date/entertain. It’s a huge reason why I went from being boy crazy/pick me-ish all through my teens to getting my rude awakening in adulthood. Now at the age of 24, I am celibate and I do not seek out romantic relationships anymore. I see no benefits at all. I promised myself that I will NEVER place men above myself. I will never crave their attention and affection to my own detriment. Many are incapable of genuinely loving women. Many are incapable of being decent human beings to people, especially if they can’t gain something or f*ck them. I was exhausted but now that i have been single by choice, I have been completely at peace. I put all of that energy back into myself, friendships and family. I refuse to be another woman who wastes her life away chasing men, romance and being put through the ringer ! Sure it’s not all men, but is MOST of them and that’s the problem. I don’t have time to take a risk when 70% of men are not datable or marriageable. It’s sad because I still desire marriage but not if I don’t meet the right man . I’ll be happy single

[@Joe27478]

Exactly my thoughts

[@ballerina3483]

Good for you same here sis same 🎉❤

[@soupafleye]

i’m 24 and feel the same as well except i never had a boy crazy phase (too scared to date lol) and i’ve never really had a desire to marry so i think i’m good to go with accepting my reality of staying single or at least just having a lifelong partner if i find the right person

[@Vivi_9]

Men feel the exact same way about women. It's almost as if one gender isn't entirely to blame and instead of whining about it in our echo chambers we should work on ourselves and attract the right kind of person into our lives and take responsibility for our own shitty dating choices.

[@butterflymage5623]

It’s ironic how both sexes say the same thing about each other with little introspection about their own mistakes in picking people to get into relationships with.

[@thepragmatist]

I feel sorry for your friend. That's really heartbreaking when you're with someone for 8 years, they break off with you, and marry someone else shortly after that. Shows that it's all about him and his needs/desires.

[@ReallyAreAGemini]

In cases like this, I think it's better they didn't married. Imagine what a miserable life would be waiting for her with a divorce shortly after. Nah, she dodged a bullet. Forgive and forget, because a real loving marriage is still waiting for you with someone worth it!

[@thepragmatist]

You wouldn't want to be married to someone you had to beg or blackmail, but he should have told her earlier he wasn't interested in marrying her so she could find someone else. Also, women only have a certain amount of time to have kids so if she spent 8 years with this guy, those 8 years are gone and she has less time to find a quality person. Some people can't be alone so they'll string you along till they find someone else. I agree with you that she could have left sooner. I just wish people would be honest and not string others along.@@tilagica

[@ak-47intelligence75]

I feel sorry for the woman he married. Imagine what that is going to be like in the long run. Welp ! Better his wife than your friend dealing with his shiz 🙂

[@thepragmatist]

Agree. These people don't usually change.@@ak-47intelligence75

[@cm-yu6gu]

100%!!!!!

[@aspiring...]

Boy maths: wanting a traditional wife but then getting angry when she wants to wait (sometimes until marriage) to have s*x and has other traditional beliefs and standards.

[@xmanarx2614]

Or when he comes to you ( the traditional woman) after dating enough of “open minded “ ones lol

[@chrzig554]

Or when she expects the man to provide for her

[@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066]

By "traditional" they just mean, she does all the domestic labor, child rearing, work's full time, pays 50/50, does whatever he says, puts out on demand..... And does all that for years and years waaaaayyy before he ever decides to "put a ring on it"

[@mittag983]

​@@xmanarx2614And then cry how you don't have humor compared to them bc you take marriage seriously they want a Madonna and a Wh0re

[@ambersampson744]

DAMN 14:29 "The qualities that you need in life in order to keep yourself safe, are the same qualities that men tell you are unappealing," BARS!

[@constancep7632]

Boy math is making 75% of the household income and expecting his wife to pay 50% of the bills.

[@mahogara]

I wonder if I can call this boy math from my country - dating and sleeping with your own country women while working overseas, then going back to home country to marry a virgin and innocent young girl who is barely an adult because every women that have gone/are overseas to study and work have been ruined (by those same men). Not to mention how a lot of my country men talk smack about the fellow country women for not being virgins....when they are the one taking advantages of those girls (some with pretense of helping out the new comers in a foreign country, expecting segg as the repayments).

[@Lilzki]

Yes, saying women are “ruined”because they have had multiple partners while they themselves are sleeping with multiple women and “ruining” them. They want us to be virgins until marriage yet they want to sleep with lots of women. Besides the blatant sexist double standard, this makes no sense.

[@vector3d654]

I bet you are south Asian. Men suck here...

[@ayomidedareabel5525]

Yep definitely boy math. Asian and African men are very guilty of it

[@annakarina8417]

What country you live in?

[@mahogara]

@@annakarina8417 I'm from Myanmar but living overseas now. So I've met a lot of Burmese guys overseas who have "opinions" about Burmese girls living overseas.

[@willow6049]

I am so glad young women are realizing this about the culture of boys and men. I unfortunately thought I just had to put up with the nonsense. I am a outspoken feminist. My ex husband emotionally and psychologically abused me for years because of it. I ended up thinking I was the problem when in reality it was him all along.

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

I gotta ask, why you marry him? Not that I'm blaming you, just asking. I'm just glad you're out now and free from him.

[@willow6049]

@@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259 I married him because he did not show his true self until after were married and had children. Many abusive people do the same.

[@akemi2929]

​@@willow6049OMG What?! That's a thing?! Now I'm genuinely scared....

[@akemi2929]

​@@willow6049 I'm soooo glad you're out of it tho

[@unicorn73212]

​​​​@@willow6049for sure it's kind of hard to read there mind because they usually start out really kind and giving in the beginning you won't find out till the very end that they were just using you all along they will usually confront you about it casually even though you know they would cuss you out if they weren't getting paid. They also tend to look for minor mistakes you're making like spilling a coke on the floor and they blow it out of proportion and start aggressively cleaning up after you like you did it on purpose. Subconsciously they expect you to be perfect even though they will never openly admit it you have to lie to them and always make them think you're okay...and you don't need a ride. If there overly kind to you or overly mean to you ignore them either way they hate it when there not the center of attention. Never approach them for anything unless it's business related and somebody's paying you to approach them. This really pisses them off too because some of the rules they make for people start to back fire on them when you catch them standing around and being lazy.

[@carriesnaps3508]

[Some] Men really wake up everyday with the sole purpose of making their presence in women's lives be the most unpleasant experience ever. What started off as a something harmless for us girls to have fun with online, now became this trauma bonding experience bc a certain group of people is incapable of just letting us be. I remember seeing a video by Khadija Mbowe about "men's loneliness" and my conclusion is "I just can't be bothered to care." 🤷‍♀ I would still love to hear your thoughts on the topic. Thanks for another great video!

[@bfbmain]

🩷❤️

[@NeverYours-c5g]

I feel the same atp, sadly. Oh well 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@firstname3255]

You don’t care about men’s problems?

[@maze2253]

​@@InTheShadowsOfOnesAndZerosWomen who 'hate' men, do that because they have experienced harassment/assault from men, possibly more than once in their lifetime. Often from strangers, so you cannot play the 'should have picked better men' card here. This is a common enough experience. Men who 'hate' women, hate them simply for existing, and work actively to harm women. So no, it doesn’t exactly work both ways.

[@nalanimulcahy8451]

@@firstname3255 I care as much about mens problems as they care about womens. You do the maths.

[@sonalshah3762]

Trust me a man knows within days whether he see you as a marriage material or as a placeholder The reason men marry a woman is not because he loves her but because she was around the exact time when he was ready to marry. I know it hurts knowing this that they promised marriage but guess what words mean nothing! See if their words are matching with actions and outcomes! If it doesn't move on!

[@bfbmain]

💯

[@veen-a2092]

This is true when men get together they say this stuff as well.A lot of men will also make promises that they fully know they will not keep because "they have to stop the nagging".Men most of the time will say "Women are emotional" no both human beings are emotional emotions is what keeps us moving forward and evolve as a living being women are just more expressive with their emotions cause they know that if things take a negative turn they're the one with the short end of the stick.Boy math is also knowing full well that when men makes a mistake in the relationship or plans and rather than owning up to their mistakes they would rather go to their bros and said "Aah! Women am I right? They're just dumb they don't see the WHOLE picture you know!" and then think that they are forgiven for their mistakes. This is not to say that women don't have their own toxic trait but it is to make some men hold accountability for their shortcomings and failure to acknowledge it.

[@igorthegreat2700]

As a hetero right wing male. You are correct. A man knows if he will marry you within the first few weeks. And as for marriage, most men are not ready for Marriage until age 40. As a male who’s seen all my friends get married in their 20s. Each did it out of “he needed a mommy”. Or his parents kicked him out and they need a woman to survive together with. Almost all my friends who married in their 20s are divorced. Only the religious ones are still together. So! What about the 40 year old men’s you ask. Got bad news for you. They’re dating 20-27 year old women in a third world country “passport bro”. The older man is finally in a position to get married and acquired the wealth needed and mentally matured (men matured far far later in life than women). So when he returns back to the west with a skinny young 20 year old wife and pregnant. The outrage of 30 year old western feminist women who are struggling to find a good man (mature, financially secure, ready to marry) is justified. And there’s a lot of regret in her heart “why did no one tell me when I was 20 I needed to find a wealthy older man? All I did was date broke jocks with good bodies. Now I can’t even attract the nerds and dweebs I use to reject, they’re all off flying first class with some peasant blonde girl from Eastern Europe or Scandinavia, or with some Asian woman. Grrrrr 😡 “ and hence this “boy math” trend is trending. It’s women spewing their justified frustration. And as a hetero male. I do not have an answer for you. Because it’s very bleak. Even if you said tomorrow “ok fine! I’ll be a house wife, feminine, submissive, and drop my career to make babies”. Unfortunately you’re late 30s early 40s when you finally say this. The 40-60 year old men are looking overseas. your only options might be senior citizen on their 3rd or 4th marriage who doesn’t even want kids anymore hence why he’s paying attention to you as you near 40. It’s a cruel cruel world out there for western women because no one warned you. And channels like these, are teaching young women to follow the same path the first wave, second wave , and third wave feminists all did in the past to be childless and unmarried., not intentionally, because she still hasn’t reached the stages described above yet. But by then, when she’s ready to teach her mistakes, she’ll be in her 40s and her audience will not be 20-30 year old women anymore. And so the vicious cycle continues as the next 20 year old “we don’t need no man” feminist gets a KZbin channel. Again, I sympathize with western women. You guys don’t have a “red pill” community like men do. Men are learning from the mistakes prior generations did of making men effeminate betas (aka todays liberal friend zoned orbiter). I’ll give you an example of a liberal man who fell through the cracks because he never had guidance. KZbinr: Hunter Avallone. His wife left him to go sleep with black men because she didn’t fine him masculine enough and unable to satisfy her. He’s still in denial to this day, as he makes video after video about his depression as a progressive. Women need to create their own movement and stop relying on western men. But I don’t have an answer because women do not want oversea men since they are financially poorer. Traditional women’s attraction to men is their confidence and machismo; so those women get married off quickly. But feminist women? I don’t know what type of man they like. Feminists clearly don’t want the beta male, since they have 100s of them friend zoned. And feminists secretly want an alpha male, but they would be betraying their ideology and belief systems since those men tend to be right wingers and toxic masculinity. The other option is a wealthy man, but he’s too busy getting a trophy wife overseas and your not in his radar anymore. Some women try lesbian 🤷‍♂️. But they know they’re not. Maybe a robot male for older women? But those won’t be invented for another few decades. You guys are in a difficult situation that future historians will talk about.

[@mittag983]

​@@igorthegreat2700Dude it's never justified my father was a s€x tourist now called "passport bro" I'm his half filipino daughter and he left my mother for a vietnamese much younger woman he met when she was a minor. My mother abused me because she blamed me for him leaving her. Those s€x tourists take advantage of miserable women who only wanted them for their money and in the end these women out of third world countries end up alone with their child, replaced just like the women before her. Look up east asian/south east asian incels and you see a pattern of their father being a s€x tourist. I'm glad I'm a lesbian so I will never get used by men in this way but I grieve for my filipinas and how they are used like worthless cheap toys. These men don't treat us women of the east any better, you're just too much in your own rabbit hole. I'm sorry if this sounds rude, but you're not filipino, you're not any woman from a third world country or their child so I'm sure you know nothing about this.

[@catchmeintherye2102]

A contradiction in essence, since the said man, married this new woman 6 months after. 6 months is not “right time”. The lady in waiting for 8 years was simply the wrong woman for him. And since men are lying all the time and some lie a lot more and a lot better then others, they get to trick a woman into buying into this BS. I had a bf of 2 yrs and 7 months, who pulled the same BS on me when I was 24, but since we were at University ( getting our post grads) getting married was not ideal, i believed it. The moment he finished his post grads studies, we had the talk and I did not see a ring on that finger and I moved on. Thank you God for not making that relationship work! That man would have ruined my life. He was a baby, not a man and he married a mommy type superwoman ( i felt genuinely so sorry for her). He carried on to have a fantastic life and she is looking like death warmed up. I met my now husband 7 years later and not only is my hubs a fantastic person, but also rich and handsome. I thank God often for this gift of having this great life.

[@cosmiccatzen]

The fact that that man felt comfortable destroying his girlfriends makeup & so openly show his rage is a huge red flag for our society. This isn’t a great era for women, just decline to deal with any of this nonsense. Decline to participate!

[@thepragmatist]

I completely agree.

[@YmustTh3w0rldG0r0und]

Actually, it is a great time because we have the choice to decline that. Not like before when we were literally pushed into it, or had no say whatsoever in the matter.

[@thepragmatist]

That's a good point. She does have the choice to walk away.@@YmustTh3w0rldG0r0und

[@roaroa5291]

It actually is a good thing. It means his rage and destructive instincts must be kept in check and can only manifest in this way because he is afraid of repercussions. 70 years ago he would have just beaten her daily and nobody could save from it because nobody cared.

[@purplelove3666]

When was there a great era for women ?

[@missym877]

The title saying “boy math is making a woman wait 7 years just to marry another girl in 6 months,” is exactly why I don’t like mom influencers and women who think marriage and being a wife with kids is a flex. The truth is most women just luck into those things by being with the right guy, at the RIGHT place in HIS LIFE. If you happen to be dating a guy when he’s READY to get married, you’re gonna be the one. Nothing special about you, nothing wrong about the previous woman. You just got lucky not being the woman who wasted 7 years of her life.

[@dr.m6152]

True

[@NaiSays]

That’s a fact. Men marry who they are with when they are ready to get married. They don’t have the patience to wait for the right woman. Who ever he’s with at the time is the right woman imo.

[@Disnotz]

How is this boy math? The same is true for women too. It's as if most people get married when they feel they are ready.😂

[@thezu9250]

@@Disnotz Women arent the ones that propose so they typically the gender that gets their time wasted waiting for marriage. Society has progressed but thats one rule that barely anyone crosses.

[@annakarina8417]

​@@Disnotzno, most women get married when they got proposed. They just wait. So some get married at 18 some at 45.

[@thepragmatist]

I saw that video you referred to where the guy destroyed all his girlfriend's makeup. It was very disturbing. That was abuse disguised as a joke.

[@kathiaserrano7740]

One thing I don’t mess around with is people touching my things. His PS5 would’ve gone right over the balcony!

[@thepragmatist]

I don't know if you saw the video, but it was really disturbing. He was not right in the head. I would have left him immediately.@@kathiaserrano7740

[@elzaocean]

This video scared me SOOOO MUCH! In my mind I was like: it might be her head next time fr

[@9darshana]

​@@kathiaserrano7740Right, I would have played a game called find my PS5 and give him hints. He finds it broken in the yard by a tree with an X marked on it. 😂😂😂

[@kathiaserrano7740]

@@9darshana F around and find out! 😂😂😂

[@shreeyaraychoudhury3531]

The entire "Boy math" debate is turning into stating out the qualities of "Narcissistic Men". Also the scary thing is you can never make them change, just run away and save yourself. Enjoyed the video 💜

[@sumanthmurthy1642]

The whole “wanting a doctor for a bride and not wanting her to work” is prevalent across the desi community. Case in point: My best friend/mentor met a guy for marriage a few years ago in Canada and the dude says “After marriage I want you to go and take care of mom in New Delhi”. She asked why they want a qualified engineer for that and he says “Reputation”. I was like wtf! There’s a whole Instagram thread/reels “Brown math”. I call something called “Brown science” where you have a PhD in science or engineering and blindly believing every single message on social media about “samosa can cure cancer” or “turmeric can cure infertility”.

[@lavellelee5734]

Brown math?😂

[@casandra0]

Boy math: surprisingly little math involved

[@Holisticallycarol]

NEVER never never wait more than 2 yrs.. he knows you by now and guess what, YOU KNOW HIM !!!

[@Disnotz]

This feels like advice which will actually end up making you wait for whole lifetime though being single

[@marisaking5982]

@@Disnotz​​⁠being single is 100000 times better than being with someone who doesn’t really want you. why can’t yall be alone… and happy??

[@Tessy29k]

You're right. Women treat men like babies. They're really not. They know exactly what they want. My guy engaged me in just under a year and had started dropping hints he was interested in marriage to me. Surprise surprise a couple of months later he introduced me to his mother and flew me down to his home country to meet the rest of his family. I was the only woman he has ever introduced to his mum. Men do everything they do ON PURPOSE. Stop waiting years for a man that doesn't want the same things you do AT THE SAME TIME.

[@clarabp2613]

Man have gave up entire kingdoms for marry a woman. If they want to marry they propose and marry

[@sophiethelk9557]

This is how to stay single lol. There's no right time frame for marriage. Honestly, the longer you are with someone the more effort it takes to maintain a healthy relationship. I've been in a relationship for 4 years and neither of us feel ready for the commitment yet and all of the legal jargon intimidates me as well. I've seen how messy and heartbreaking divorces can be and I don't want that to be me. There's more to the story and tbh it takes a long time to truly get to know someone and their intentions.. and people change over time :(

[@thepragmatist]

Thank you for this video. Dangling the carrot in front of someone has become very common. Both men and women can do this but I've noticed it a lot with men. They dangle the carrot in front of you to get what they want (eg. promising marriage so they can live with you, have s$x, and have you do the chores and help pay the household expenses). I want to make it clear that this is not all men, but please be aware when someone is dangling a carrot in front of you (in the form of promising you an engagement ring that never appears, or promising to transition from a situationship to a relationship which never happens). We need to be aware of this phenomena and what people's true intentions are.

[@bfbmain]

Absolutely this!

[@thepragmatist]

I love your channel!@@bfbmain

[@bfbmain]

Thank youuu! 🩷❤️

[@360shadowmoon]

Yepp - actions speak louder than words.

[@Maya-tw6qf]

ohh man what you said about the doctor thing. I have a PhD in engineering and I LOVE my job. (I'm from the US, living in Europe), and I had someone break up with me because I was making more than him. Now, looking for someone, I'm struggling to find someone who doesn't want me to give up my career for some years to take care of the kids------ ahhhhghghghgh I can't even imagine. My mom also has a PhD and worked when I was a kid (and still had time to take care of us after work)... it's doable! I'm just looking for a partner who would also look after the kids or share the responsibility with me + not be threatened by my career.

[@PoSHEmediaglobal]

Outstanding accomplishment. You will find that person, give it time

[@fromthesouthofafrica6815]

Good luck with that lol

[@Maya-tw6qf]

@@fromthesouthofafrica6815 😭😂 yeah no I've got relatively mid hope lol these guys too insecure

[@bfbmain]

Don't settle, and if/when things align you'll know! 🩷

[@nalanimulcahy8451]

A woman wouldn't ask you to give up your career to have and take care of kids if you aren't interested in doing that... It really really sucks that being gay isn't a choice. *sigh*

[@Joe27478]

I'm so glad these things are finally discussed. Let's shame the manchildren

[@360shadowmoon]

"The same qualities you need in life to keep yourself safe are the same qualities that men tell you are unappealing." Omg yikes at how true this is.

[@Therezumee92]

Friend of mine has been with her bf since age 19. We turned 30 this year. He's still not ready, guys. Sadly I'm waiting for that crying phone call when I will have to go help her move... Update : they're done. He was cheating for at least last 4 years.

[@yanie4674]

Boy math is thinking she wants you for your money but you can't feed your self regularly 😂

[@dancinginthepurplereign4126]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@acd1168]

It was really funny at first reading some boy math examples but then I’m like “wait I’ve experienced each of these.” You did a great job with this one! Personal example: Boy math is him not supportive of me wanting to go to med school but then him wanting to choose the school I go to, where I will do my residency and planning out what I will spend my attending salary on.” 🤔

[@bfbmain]

Yes, it was funny… until it wasn’t. And thanks so much! Wow sorry you had to go through that, he sounds like a huge 🚩

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

@acd1168 I am so sorry

[@brendamoon2660]

Just once id like to see a stereotype about women preceded with "not all women". We feel like we have to say "not all men" but if men want to talk crap about women they just talk crap about women

[@mittag983]

Fr they never say not all women themselves it's almost always female pick-me's and men no straight man ever stands up for women

[@Perry0823]

Who are these men who don't want their lady do work? It's 2023 and inflation is crazy. Please get a job and help pay the morgage. I don't need you at home doing the dishes. We can buy a dishwasher 😂. All these red pill dudes complaining about the modern woman because nobody ever taught them about modern appliances

[@thatgirlbrinna7927]

😂😂😂😂

[@petalchild]

So true lmaooo

[@AmandaVieiraMamaesouCult]

These men will die poor

[@ak-47intelligence75]

Also, I think that let the gap between men and women widen ! They claim they dont want to be married and think women are a burden much like children. So why engage with these predators who seek to use and abuse you ? There is nothing to gain. Absolutely none.

[@ayuanabradford3206]

Women want security…

[@nalanimulcahy8451]

@@ayuanabradford3206 Yes! Thats why we are avoiding men, our own lives on our own terms, so all we need to do is pay for our own home & pension and the rest is pure gravy.

[@blahbloop6310]

Boy math: being "picky" about how a woman looks/ what he finds attractive, while not being much to look at himself.

[@sundiva7642]

Hmmmmm i haven't finished this but most of this examples seems like this men dont like women or even their women and its actually really common. That woman in an eighth years relationship was being used as a placeholder, when he found someone better he dipped

[@dw6317]

Then they have the audacity to blame us for being in our 30’s and 40’s and still not married. This is the story of many women who wasted so much time (in their 20’s & 30’s) with a man who never had the intention to marry them. Women who are single by choice is because they don’t want to get played like this video, not because they’re choosing to be “free and carefree” forever. Guys aren’t giving us many choices to choose from. Don’t even get me started on the we want a childlike young woman over a grown woman thing.

[@chrzig554]

EXACTLY!! They will stay with women for 5+ years plus and then leave her in the dust

[@briannahammonds1807]

Boy math is talking to a girl for 5 months and then being confused when she asks to make it official

[@clarabp2613]

Boy math is do the bare minimun, be "nice", and expect a girlfriend when you only bring being "nice" to the table

[@elderwelder]

I'm a lesbian, and Ive been a victim to boy math at work many, many times. My latest boy math experience: Boy math is when you show hardcore porn to your female coworker at 9am because she's a lesbian and she should be cool with it right? Holy shit Update: I ended up quitting. The porn addictions are so bad that they would lose most of their team if I opened my mouth. They weren't going to fire more than half of their team because of me so I chose my battles and left. However, I found a way better job in a way better environment with less men. We don't really talk about the current access to pornography and the severe damage is causing. It's free crack in their hands 24/7 and we don't even bat an eye. Porn brain is real and it's very, very dangerous. I will porn shame you all day. That shit is gross and corny. You want to know the real reason for "men's loneliness"? It's the crippling porn addictions. It also gives men delusions of grandeur. They sure love to blame the supply for the demand.

[@bfbmain]

Omg! Horrific... 😡 Have you thought about reporting this?

[@chanelmapendo3761]

Is this not a form of sexual harassment??? Wtf

[@roaroa5291]

Fairly certain this is s.xual harassment and a dismissable offence. Prosecutable, too, if prosecutors did their jobs.

[@clarabp2613]

That's sounds like an interesting story to tell HR😉

[@charliebslilgurl1132]

Calling HR

[@vicakolozsvari6372]

I’ve just got a recent one I must tell.. the nice AC maintenance guy texted me a few times including more and more personal tone. In the last one he said don’t give up you have to date now as long as you’re young and pretty. I would date you if I could. But I can’t. (I’m a single mom to give context) I replied it’s nice to hear but I wouldn’t destroy a family since I know how hard to function not being in one. Then he answered: don’t misunderstand me I’m not trying to become a cheating husband I just wanted to encourage you. So he is a husband and father of a 9 month old baby girl.. I would kick a husband out soo fast if he was texting some random woman. At all😤

[@Viendork]

It's the "I would date you if I could" for me. Creepy and disloyal.

[@lee_rayyy58]

Boy math is a guy sending a "intelligent" photo staring blankly into a book and in exchange asking for a "sexy photo" as an "equivalent" thinking that if he looks into a book just because SHE likes books she will send a pic because he's soooo intellectual even though he shown NO signs of loving to read...he just knows the girl likes it 🙄

[@elzaocean]

I loooooooove how men are being called out worldwide culturewide!

[@KasunGamage]

What do you mean..?

[@DelRae]

Boy math is buying something expensive you didn’t even want and expecting you to be overwhelmingly gracious and happy about it while still holding it over your head like it was a loaned item

[@apthomas2008]

Boy math is your husband telling you to stop spending money (when the money you’re spending is for the kids) at target and Amazon, and then they go out to strip clubs when their friends are in town. Boy math.

[@sydnitheromantictaylor112]

I feel bad for the girl who gave her boyfriend 8 years. But she should've moved on after 2 years. All she did was prepare him to marry the next girl. My aunt dated someone 5 years and once they broke up, he married the very next girl within a year.

[@missalice557]

When I saw the title, I was like "who the hell has been talking about me?" 😂 Literally was with a guy for 7 years, lived together for years just to be unexpectedly dumped and literally a few months later already moved in with his new gf and I think even married within a year. When I tell you that was my ultimate Booboo the fool moment, I told myself "I hope you learned your lesson, you sucker".

[@catcat9582]

I have been victimized by all math

[@julialopes5054]

That’s why we should educate women to be smart and know themselves. Girls who fall for this kind are usually insecure and needy. Developing into a good, dignified and strong person, with morals and true compassion, plus being somewhat educated IS the goal, but it also prevents us from believing these “mathematicians” 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@korviscapetrova5269]

ince again women cannot make harmless timepass jokes for themselves without disgruntled men poking their heads in. Let the ladies have their fun

[@talkingtochapri]

Boy math is calling yourself alpha male instead of taking therapy 🤭💀

[@natashadickson4819]

Ladies, he's not MAKING you wait 7 years. You are (unwisely) choosing to stay. Men do what they want to do. If he hasn't married you, he doesn't want to. There's nothing wrong with you, he's just not your guy. Feminine energy. Level Up. Glow up. Move on.

[@annakarina8417]

Exactly

[@ayuanabradford3206]

You know what’s funny.. My ex made me wait 5 years as he was older than me. He than called our relationship off when i wanted to hang with my friend and i never cried i just said ok…I knew he was break up with me for a high school girl that was around his age. Guess what a few months after we broke up i met a guy that wanted a serious relationship and we hit it off and not 6 months to a year he wanted to marry me lol 😂but i said not yet because i thought it was to soon. 2 years later we got married. All in this time.. my ex called me back asking me “Am i ok?” thinking i wanted him back,but i told him I’m married and he never contacted me again. I guess his ex girl friend he got with quick after our break up wasn’t what he expected it to be. I told him if that girl waited so long for u or any guy she could have issues. He didn’t believe me lol..

[@shineydeathpony85]

Boy math is your boyfriend saying "not all guys" but needing to protect you from other men or saying "I'm not like that" while letting not holding his male friends accountable

[@Khoochi]

Once you’re in a relationship for so long it feels like you couldn’t exist without that person…

[@constancep7632]

Boy math is staying in the house your ex helped you pay mortgage for and not splitting assets after separation, calling it "not owing each other anything", so they basically had help paying their mortgage for years and the ex (who often has a lower income, still had to pay 50/50 and lost income to take care of children) has nothing to show for it.

[@NeverYours-c5g]

Never buying a house or other large investment w/ a man… no thank you! He will have to have his own or go find some other woman to use and leave financially ruined. 🙄

[@constancep7632]

@Mystika777 Good for you! My ex didn't want to share, but because we'd been married I was able to sue him for what he owed me, plus interest and damages.

[@rkabcdefg]

13:53 this. My mom has a hobby of collecting plants but she doesn't know how to organize it, my dad was annoyed because of the mess so he made her shelves for her plants

[@MichellaneousMe]

Just like the feminine urge trend, girl dinner trend (or any other fun trends made by women) of course it gets taken over and out of context by angry people. We can’t have anything lol

[@wordswrittenbyme2109]

As always you leave with insight perspective examples. And so true. If we could all work together instead of going to own separate corners it would be so much better as a society.

[@sadafshahzad8520]

Just today, I was telling BurbNBougie here on KZbin about the doctor bahu trend and how it steals the financial security of women. Maybe you guys can collab sometime about it.

[@UrFaveMF]

It’s elitism and classism that makes a man want a doctor / engineer to be a stay at home mother.

[@Bri-nc8yp]

Boy math: telling me that he’s proud of me going back to School and focusing on my studies. Getting mad one day and saying I can’t use his car to get to that same school.

[@kaitlynlehman7414]

the key word in boy math is "boy": no decent man with a moral compass would do boy math becuase the math wouldn't math. Any "man" that does boy math in my meaningless opinion is highly suspect.

[@asamicat8323]

There are a lot of boys around

[@kaitlynlehman7414]

@@asamicat8323 unfortunately that's true especially on the internet

[@asamicat8323]

@@kaitlynlehman7414 yes

[@Schrodingers_Kat]

To be fair a prenup is not crazy even if the person is making peanuts. TODAY the person makes peanuts, the day they’ll get divorced, no one knows. So for one that “boy math” is on point. And it should be “girl math” too.

[@lolatiffhur]

Also on the other side of the coin. If a man proposes to you within a year, you’re lucky I guess but just think most probably a woman before you had to end up wasting years of her life on him. If I knew his gf before me didn’t get it despite being good person and waiting for years, I would decline him

[@nikookb210]

the hard and sad thing is that girl math was funny and made for women to have fun and it was not a man oriented joke or it doesn't even consider as something a man would go through but that is what they hated about it a joke not being centered around them or even considering them

[@lifeisall488]

Women be smart no matter what your situation is if you are single married or both! Be smart do you always be selfish think about yourself men are always full of surprises 😂

[@CovertCrow]

Boy math is my fiance complaining that i never clean his espresso machine after using it (i do) but when he uses it, doesnt add water, doesnt add beans ( he will literally hit the top of the machine before putting more beans in) and when i tell him to descale it because the sensor is going off, he ignores me completely. Thats boy math.

[@AngelCoyoteMusic]

Why is he still your fiancé?

[@AngelCoyoteMusic]

Starts with gaslighting over espresso machines, but will continue and expand from there if you let it.

[@Mona-em5ii]

Wonderful video!!! Would also be nice to see a video on women in workplace and how certain qualities/traits are inherently expected by both the society and the women ourselves. The quote from Taylor Swift about different vocabulary comes to mind

[@bfbmain]

Thanks for the suggestion, I'll keep it in mind! :)

[@MELLMAO]

We all know at least two or three women who spent 7+ years in a committed relationship with a man who refused to propose, but found another woman, married and had a child with her all within 6 months after a breakup bcs they got scared shitless by being broken up with

[@Tea_laBlue]

This is only my second video of yours that I’ve watched, and I’m subscribing. I appreciate your perspective 😊

[@suisenshirasaki8298]

I feel like we can't win in the patriarchy. Our value is intrinsically tied to our appearance. I came across this video by a Redpill type who who countered the charge that a spring/winter relationship where the girl is 24 or something is inherently based on manipulation and the uneven power dynamic saying 'no, they don't want you (someone older) because she's hotter than you. Your worth, your intangible qualities are dismissed by these men in one fell swoop. Cue Botox and the race against the clock. And you'll still not look young no matter how much money you throw at it. Unfortunately these cabals of toxic men are increasing. We've been subsumed by the patriarchy, one look at the cosmetics industry and the disparity between revenues from women Vs men is all the evidence you need.

[@nicolesherman8974]

Idk why Gab Union and Dwayne being in the thumbnail is making me chuckle 🤭.

[@bfbmain]

😅🤭

[@P03ticJustice]

He had a baby on her and makes her pay half even tho she hasn't has work in God knows how many years

[@Froggele]

The only thing I strongly disagree with is that a relationship that didn’t end in marriage is „wasted time“. It’s such a conservative and honestly kind of shallow view of relationships. Some women seem to be more interested in the wedding than the person that they are marrying (I‘m a woman too). There’s nothing wrong with wanting to get married and if that is important to you I understand that it can be disappointing to not get proposed to after years of a stable relationship. I agree that it is important to be honest with your partner on what your expectations and wishes are for a relationship. But to break it down to „If he doesn’t marry you, he wasted your time“ is so backwards to me. It also creates this hierarchy between married and unmarried women that isn’t healthy.

[@stoogie375]

*breaks his entire gaming system* dude sorry it hurts me to hurt you ...

[@annjay2581]

Studying medicine? Medicine??? Of all things for years only to get a husband? I would go feral 💀

[@dominicabollig1918]

Thank you for bringing up highly educated women who are expected to not work with their degree. That makes no sense at all! Those education spots are needed for the general population- do not become a Dr, take a seat that another student can take, then not use any of that education for the community. Thank you!!!!

[@heyrrose]

Boy math for my ex was when he planned a bunch of stuff for us wayyyyyy in advance (like planning vacations, asking me to be the plus one for a wedding over a year from then, buying tickets to events 7 months in advance) and acting like we were gonna be together “for the long haul” (his words), and then breaking up with me after 6 months bc he decided he “couldn’t handle a relationship” (also his words) ❤️

[@R-Phoenix]

Marrying a woman with a degree and not expecting her to work is ironic because you believe a woman is only needed for marriage and procreation but you also know money is important so you pay for her to have a degree to better her odds.

[@elinat2414]

My husband and i dated for 8 years before marriage. We were 18 when we met, so we were nowhere near financially or mentally stable enough to be married within 2 years of that. HOWEVER, even then, by the time we were 20, he was very clear that the goal was marriage and if anything, he was the one that really pushed for us to finally get married at 26. I just didnt want the hassle of organising a wedding tbh and kept procrastinating on it, i was so happy when the wedding was over. Im glad he encouraged me in the end, I love being married to him!

[@rosemarie5489]

A neighbour of mine started dating a man in her early 20s many years ago. They stayed together for almost 10 years and the dude was always saying her that he was waiting for some kind of promotion. He broke up with he 2 days before he got engaged to another woman. She ended up getting married to a very good guy as well, but she lost many years .

[@reannaphillips4383]

I was seeing a guy over the summer that was 16/17 years older than me. He could talk all day about how he didn't care about my age but as soon as it came to someone asking for my age (his family/neighbors), he told me to tell them I was 25 💀 Wasn't even sure why he was having me meet his family, since I told him I didn't plan on dating him from the start

[@rogue6344]

He introduced you to his family so he could show you off to them… you were his young pretty trophy!

[@thevioletgirl17]

As a south Asian woman, I totally get this

[@sophia-O]

I met my husband at 18 and he was 28. We've been together for 9 years and we've had an amazing marriage. He's never tried to take experiences away from me and has been my #1 supporter with my dreams/goals. Even went half on my college tuition with my mother.

[@thepragmatist]

Good for you. Good to hear about good men and relationships where there's an age gap that works out. All the best to you and your husband.

[@cosmiccatzen]

You married before your prefrontal cortex in your brain kicked in (25). Your dad should have helped your mom pay for college, your husband is not your dad. It sounds like maybe your home life as a kid impacted you. Was your dad around? There is an imbalance of power that you can’t see in your situation. I wish you could have gotten the freedom of your 20s before getting into something serious. At 29, you still won’t understand that last sentence I said, but you will by age 35. I can guarantee that you will at some point in your life miss the freedom you could have had while your brain was still developing between age 18-25. You deserve time to develop your individual identity before you take on the identity of wife. Your dad should have stepped up more.

[@Vivi_9]

​@@cosmiccatzenyou are completely unhinged leave homegirl alone

[@sophia-O]

@cosmiccatzen I have a man that helped support me and my dreams which is what every woman wants. I also had no issues with my parents growing up that would've impacted my relationships. My childhood was everything I could've asked for. I am 27 years old now and still do not regret it. When you say experiencing my freedom in my 20s, I've done everything I've wanted to do. I've traveled the world, have close female friendships and an amazing family. Experiencing my 20s doesn't mean experiencing different men. When you meet the right man what are you supposed to do? Let him go and say I have to live in my 20s? My husband has always empowered me to be who I am, never tried to take any freedom from me. I 100% have an individual identity but I also am married to the best man on earth. You'd rather have a man take you on expensive dinners than contribute to things that matter such as a college education? That's strange to me. Also, as a nurse practitioner, the prefrontal cortex is always functioning and does not simply "kick in" at the age of 25. It is the center for decision making and impulse control which is also different in each individual.

[@ayomidedareabel5525]

​@@cosmiccatzenI think you should free her. There are some age gap relationships that do work. Some people just manage to meet by chance. Although if all His exes were women significantly younger than him I would raise an eyebrow to that

[@wheathusk2499]

Girl ive been bingeing ur videos amazing titles, video collages and commentary!

[@danidiaz2377]

They say that women over 30 don’t have a chance but the truth is they waste womens 20s on bs so. It really doesn’t matter anyway

[@tabkaliO]

On the makeup tik tok, when he showed her makeup before he destroyed it, you can see it’s all neatly in a makeup cubby.

[@FairyRosee_]

Boy math is calling a girl a gold digger when he's literally unemployed.

[@dapu571]

loved the video, i just wanted to say that imo the instagram page pop-up its been put a little bit too often and defocuses from the topic.

[@005chouhan4]

Relationship is like. Either you hit the jackpot or you losses all money 😂..

[@olady88]

I'm a bankrupt 😂

[@charlee_hotel]

4:58 Okay, no commitment is cool. But homeboy over there better not be mad when the lady in question begins to spend more time with her _he's just a friend_ better looking new guy friend. Right?💁🏻‍♀️ 10:44 Loooooool!!! Not a single lie in that clip.

[@MsAntigonaki]

Boy math is saying “I don’t have any children but I have 3 daughters” WTF

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

Girl math is waiting 7 years if you really want to be married 🤦🏿‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️ I speak as the girl who was told I'm "the one" (I dont want to get married btw) within one year, after he kept his ex waiting 12 years (she married within a year after leaving him).

[@theehardpill]

Your standards have to supersede wanting to be connecting to someone if they don't meet them. That's why I exercise so level of Detachment with every man I meet because I need to be willing to walk away from any man who doesn't Meer my standards or isn't consistent so NAH I don't feel bad for her.

[@cm-pr2ys]

I have no idea what this boy math girl math stuff means.

[@JC-rp6sp]

3:50 bruh she is a talking red flag. What if bro literally can’t afford marriage? Not the wedding per se, but he doesn’t have the income, but he’s trying his best? Isn’t it in the interest of the other party to accommodate?

[@gabyfernandez3183]

you need to be careful after you get the ring as well. I was engaged and this man I was with turned my life upside down the minute he gave me the ring. If your relationship or engagement doesn’t improve your life, leave. I wasted 4 years of MY 20s doing wifey shit for someone who proposed but didn’t have the intention of getting married. In the long run, I’m so glad I never pushed that marriage, because deep down I was terrified. I truly regret the time wasted and how I destroyed my health for him. At the end of the relationship I had hormonal issues, crazy cortisol levels, depression and anxiety and needed therapy. I was being mentally, emotionally and economically abused. Please for your own good, never sacrifice yourself for any relationship!

[@antoniobrasse7157]

Regarding the title, ladies, generally, if he isn't seriously discussing marriage with you between years 2 and 3, stop wasting your time. We know way before 2 years if you're marriage material for us. That doesn't mean you're not a quality person or not overall marriage material, just not marriage material for that particular guy.

[@mariyamkhandwani]

Your tik tok video outfit and makeup jewelry looks bomb ❤

[@bfbmain]

Thank youuu ❤️🩷❤️

[@moe_ramz]

12 months is enough if you’re over 30. Under 30, take 2-3 years.